Stepping In to True Fulfillment: Honoring Your Needs and Desires with Ryan Spence

In this insightful episode, Kara connects with life coach and business consultant Ryan Spence to explore the journey of finding true fulfillment in all areas of life. Ryan shares his personal quest for deeper meaning and satisfaction, from navigating a challenging childhood to achieving external success, and ultimately discovering the importance of honoring his inner self. This conversation delves into the complexities of self-love, the power of setting boundaries, and the courage it takes to align with your authentic desires. Join Kara and Ryan as they discuss how to shift from seeking validation outside of yourself to cultivating a deep sense of inner peace and fulfillment.

Highlights:

• Ryan's definition of fulfillment: a sense of inner peace without needing external validation.

• The influence of Ryan's childhood experiences, including his parents' divorce and his mother's mental health challenges, on his quest for fulfillment.

• How Ryan's early drive to avoid settling and achieve success fueled his personal growth journey.

• The role of spiritual awakening in Ryan's shift towards inner fulfillment.

• Ryan and Kara touch on anxious attachment, codependency and patterns from childhood showing up in his external seeking of fulfillment through dating

• Reframing the concept of "selfishness" as a positive act of self-care and boundary setting.

• The challenge of balancing thoughtfulness towards others with prioritizing one's own well-being.

• Beautiful conversation contrasting experience from the perspective of masculine/feminine people pleasing tendencies

• The complexities of navigating cultural conversations around gender and equality while staying true to one's authentic self.

• I need to Do dating differently, I always focused on making the  other person happy because I thought that’s what a good relationship looked like (not honoring me…. Learning self love and self worth allowed me to make a shift)

• The significance of digesting and processing emotions from past experiences for personal healing and growth.

• The distinction between identifying emotions intellectually and experiencing them physically.

• Ryan's insights on navigating anger and sadness, and the connection between anger, boundaries, and passion.

Quotes:

• "If we have true fulfillment...we're pretty grounded and rock solid in our own reality."

• "Are we being thoughtful because we feel like we need to...or are we being thoughtful because we...want to, and we're resourced enough...to do that?"

• "Anger is feedback that our boundary is being crossed."

• "We really have to have this fulfillment from the inside of ourselves as opposed to trying to get it with how much money we get or how many clients we have or whatever title we have."

Connect with Ryan:

• Website: https://www.ryanspencecoaching.com/

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ryanspencecoaching

Ryan is a life coach and business consultant. He helps you go from feeling stuck and unmotivated to finding true fulfillment and satisfaction in your life, career or business. He accomplishes this through: helping you get clear on the vision of what you REALLY want, co-creating bite sized steps to get there and feeling supported along the journey!

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