69. The Pressure to Be Everything and the Freedom of Letting Go: A Conversation with Dr. Tolulope Olabintan

Hey Doc—

Let’s talk about what it really costs to perform strength.

Dr. Tolulope Olabintan is a family medicine physician, a private practice owner, and a woman of deep faith. She’s also someone who—like so many of us—was raised to be “the strong one.” The Proverbs 31 woman. The helper. The one who keeps going, no matter what.

Because “strong women” don’t sit still.
They endure. Power through. Serve.

But what happens when that identity clashes with your actual humanity?

In this conversation, Dr. Tolu shares her story of postpartum hypertension, pregnancy complications, hospital escapes (yes, literal), and learning to stop performing the role of the unshakable woman.

We talk about:

• How she envisioned herself as a virtuous woman in motherhood — and how that image evolved
• The cost of silence when systems take advantage of your sacrifice
• How postpartum hypertension, fatigue, and guilt finally led her to rewire everything
• What it means to teach others how to love and support you

Dr. Tolu’s story is full of grace, growth, and hard-won clarity.
And you’re going to feel every bit of it.

Dr. Tolulope Olabintan, MD, FAAFP, DipABLM is a Board-Certified Family Physician, Board certified with American Board of Lifestyle Medicine, and a Fellow of the American Academy of Family Physicians. She also completed a Women’s Health Fellowship and is a certified HIV specialist by the American Academy of HIV Medicine. She is fondly called by her patients as "Dr. O."

Dr. O is also the owner and CEO of Livingspring Family Medical Center, a primary care center located in Mansfield, Texas. She has over 13 years of medical experience. She helps patients live long and well as she believes the quantity of life is just as important as the quality of life. She places emphasis on lifestyle changes that help patients thrive throughout life. Furthermore, Dr. O is a life-enthusiast, a Christian, wife, and mom who enjoys good cuisine and can’t get enough of the colors teal and orange.

For more information about Dr. O, you can visit her website and connect with her on

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