Boredom and Loneliness: How to process emotional cravings. Nothing has gone wrong! These are the two biggest emotions people try to solve with alcohol. Why? We think they are wrong and bad. You make them mean something is wrong with you. Emotions are not problems to be solved, they are experiences to have. What are you making it mean about you and how is that compounding your judgement? What if is was day dreaming and alone time? S...

Why does alcohol seem so important to you, even when it doesn’t add any real value or meaning to your life?

The experiences you are having are happening with or without alcohol, so what’s the deal?

From the day we are born, we experience trauma. We are set to become "socialized", told we need to be different than how we would naturally act. Some of this to protect our lives, some of it to preserve the power over model.  Alcoh...

When you are examining your relationship to alcohol, it's important to stay open to what works for you, what resonates with you deeply. As my guest today, Tricia Lewis, of Recovery Happy Hour explains, as you grow from alcohol, the way you show up to your life and recovery will too. Don't get stuck in a box.  Tricia shares with us her story of perfectionism and having to detox from alcohol when she could no longer get away ...

In today's episode you hear me interview by Lyn and Erika Hicks of The Magical Holistic Healing Arts Podcast. We explore the natural discovery process of Womanhood and how to embrace our feminine essence as pleasure, purpose and privilege.  The story of how I came to "answer the calling of the Goddess."  From that point, alcohol was no longer a desirable option.  The invitation of getting rid of alcohol isn't replac...

Decisions, decisions. The better we get at making decisions, the better our lives become. We will always have a brain that wants to default to the negative until you practice observation. Ever thought in your brain, even if you BELIVE it with all your heart, creates a vibration, an emotion. When you tell yourself, I don't have the time, money, energy, even if you believe it, what EMOTION does it generate? One of fear and lack. ...

How many times have you googled, "Am I am alcoholic"? or some version of that?  As we start seeing the illusions of the old models of power over and limiting beliefs, fade into the back ground, the invitation in the aquarian age, is to stop asking permission. You decide how much is too much. Dismantling alcohol mean stepping into your power and standing in your truth. To stop needing the right thing to say to someone when t...

For this final episode of the year, I talk about the process of commitment. The traditional New Years Resolution, comes with no parameters other than to "resolve" to change, usually the action. Something we think we should do to be better or healthier. We can not be successful in having a new , healthier relationship to alcohol by simply NOT DRINKING. To resolve to something is to learn a new way, to commit to a new process...

Founder of My Sober Girl Friends, Naomi Veak, shares her beautiful journey of self discover and the joys of sobriety on the other side of a long term addiction with Pot and Alcohol. She speaks to finding the path that works for you and questioning, why do we have the need to alter the beauty of this life. It takes a simple shift of slowing down and being with what is. Approaching life from a new and different pace, to find the natu...

Your story around alcohol is just that, conditioned beliefs that create a judgment about what's possible. You don't need to replace them with Sober Living Is Better. You can simply allow the resistance to change and ask, can I simply let this go? Can I make space for what I KNOW deep down to be true? Then the process of shifting alcohol is allowing the resistance to feel, to change to be with how you naturally show up. One ...

The way you got into your relationship with alcohol, isn't the same way you get out. If you want to live a more joyful deprivation free life that is.  When we live attached to our labels and stories of the past, we cling to the outer world to fill a void inside to create a sense of inner wholeness.  In endless pursuit of finding wholeness that can only be experienced here and NOW,  makes the desire for alcohol greater.  You use...

The first step to changing your relationship to alcohol and making it easier to say no to a drink, is to understand why you say yes in the first place. Your thoughts are what make or break any habit. You must know what your "belief story" around alcohol is, to know what you want it to become.  We don't walk around thinking all of our thoughts and beliefs are BS, but the truth is, they are our interpretation of the world...

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If you have a love/hate relationship with alcohol you may feel like you have 2 options: 1) Resign to a life of drinking, anxiety and sluggishness.
2) Quit drinking and live in shame, boredom and...

This week we talk about the felt sense of remembrance.  Different from the yearning of nostalgia, remembrance is the homecoming that reminds us of who we are truly outside of story. Alcohol covers this sentiment up from us. Remembrance is a subtle knowing of deep peace and being that only exists when we observe the mind from the place of unconditional love, rather than attach to thoughts based on fear.

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Chasing the BUZZ of Nostalgia is one of the BIGGEST obstacle to accept and understand when you explore your reationship to alcohol or stop drinking.  This concept is what keeps so many people in deprivation AFTER they stop drinking. It's like they are living under a spell of what alcohol NEVER WAS, but they can't snap out of it, why? Because they didn't have me as their coach! LOL. Seriously.  The nostalgia of alcohol  ...

10. BEEN THERE, DONE THAT. ALCOHOL ISN’T GOING ANYWHERE, It will never be more amazing than it was the last time you drink. The alcohol doesn’t create the experience, YOU DO! Alcohol doesn’t evolve into something more sophisticated or more enlightened. You’ve done it all at this point.

9. BOOST YOUR IMMUNITY

8. KEEP YOUR INHIBITIONS IN CHECK

7. BE THE EMOTIONALLY STABLE ONE FOR OTHERS WHO MAY NEED SUPPORT

6. LEAD BY EXAMPLE (take the h...

Today we talk about Alcohol as a rite of passage into adulthood. Alcohol as a rite of passage is completely void of the tools necessary to step into the future as independent  & connected to our feminine power of emotional intelligence and embodied intuition.

We need to embrace and embody these aspects to become sovereign Women, claiming personal responsibility and moving through limitations with excitement to meet the challenge...

Today we pose the question: What do you really want your relationship with alcohol to look like and why? It's good to start with a question to start to understand the process of what you want. I review the 5 shifts to  getting alcohol out of your way that I teach my clients.
 I also give you the recipe to my favorite holiday elixir also.

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