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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Stop Drinking Podcast, where we help
you make stopping drinking asimple, logical and easy
decision.
We help you with tips, toolsand strategies to start living
your best life when alcohol-free.
If you want to learn more aboutstop drinking coaching, then
head over to wwwsoberclearcom.
(00:21):
Why do we drink alcohol?
As a species, it really doesmake no sense.
Alcohol kills 9 to 5,000Americans every year maybe even
more than that now and globallyit kills millions.
Millions of people die fromthis drug.
Imagine for a second.
We found out that those verysame statistics happened if we
(00:41):
ate apples.
Do you think the populationwould continue to eat apples?
Of course not.
Nobody would ever touch anapple, ever again, and apples
would become history.
We'd put them in a box andthey'd be in museums, and that
would be it Apples, human raceno longer linked, goodbye.
But at the same time, alcoholdoes that very same thing.
(01:01):
Yet millions of people wake upevery day and choose to put that
stuff in their body.
So today I'm going to explainwhy.
I'm going to bring some orderto the chaos that's going on in
the world, because it's madness.
It makes no sense.
So let's get into the veryfirst reason.
The very first reason startedbefore you were even born, and
it all comes down to society'sparadigm.
(01:23):
When you're born, you are borninto a world that sees alcohol a
very specific way.
We do not see alcohol as thismurderous substance that
destroys families, destroyslives, puts people in a coffin,
knocks years off your lifeexpectancy, is the cause of
murder.
Listen, we don't see it thisway.
We see it as a bit of fun, away to celebrate becoming an
(01:44):
adult, something to have at your21st or your 18th birthday.
With other drugs, we do seethem as destructive, as
dangerous, as something to stayaway from.
But alcohol gets this rite ofpassage and when we're born we
don't get to choose thisparadigm.
It's kind of like this globalagreement that everybody has
with alcohol.
When you're growing up as achild, even as a baby, you're
(02:05):
exposed to this worldviewthrough advertisements, through
media, through movies that wewatch growing up, and we are
born into a world that hasconditioned us to see alcohol as
something that adds value inour life.
We don't see it as the same aswe see crack or heroin or
cocaine.
We see it as something thatmakes our life better.
(02:25):
So this is the first reason whywe drink, and it all comes down
to the way we've beenconditioned to see the drug.
The second reason why we drinkis that when we start drinking
alcohol, what usually happens Ican remember it like yesterday.
I remember drinking alcoholwith a bunch of my friends
around me.
In fact, it was one friend thefirst time I drank, but then, as
I got older, it was morefriends.
But what happened isimmediately I received
(02:47):
validation and listen.
As a young man growing up inthe world, that's kind of one of
the most important things youcan have.
Yeah, sure, growing up youlearn, you know all this stuff,
don't care what people thinkabout you, but when you're in
your teenage years, I think it'sthe only thing that matters.
It's validation from your peers, and with alcohol this is huge.
In college, in universities,friendship groups, alcohol is
(03:10):
there and when you drink thestuff, everybody socially
validates you.
But if you was a teenager andthen all of a sudden started
popping painkillers or someother drug that you know is just
a no-go for these teens, they'dkick you out of the social
group.
But with alcohol we receivevalidation.
The third reason why we drinkis because we don't actually
realize we're addicted to a druguntil it's too late.
(03:31):
So what I mean by this is thatwe tell ourselves I can stop
whenever I want, it's not likeI'm an alcoholic, it's not like
I've got a drinking problem, andwe tell ourselves this lie,
that we're in control.
I don't know if you've readpopular stop drinking books,
alan Carr's book.
A bunch of other people usethis example.
I'm pretty sure it originatedfrom Alan Carr's book, but he
talks about the Venus fly trapand in the book he says that
(03:52):
it's something that a fly landson.
The fly will get a taste ofthis nectar and it's beautiful,
and it will eat it and eat itand eat it, and eat it and eat
it.
And then it looks down andthinks well, that's never going
to happen to me, I can fly awayat any time that I want.
And then the more it eats, theheavier it gets.
And then it gets so heavy thatit can no longer fly away and
(04:13):
then, boom, falls to its death.
And the whole point that AlanCarr made is that when did the
fly lose control?
When it had already fallen tohis death, or when it looked
down at the other people thathad died and it continued eating
it?
We lose control much earlierthan we think the problem is
that we don't realise this untilit's too late.
So, whilst we feel like we canstop whenever we want, the
(04:34):
problem is that we don't stop inthose moments, so we keep doing
it.
I've got friends that I grew upwith that smoked weed, and they
told me the same thing.
I didn't feel like I could juststop smoking weed.
When I was a teenager.
I actually felt like it washard, but my friends around me
all said I can stop whenever Iwant.
Some of those people stillsmoke the stuff 16 years later
or however long.
20 years later or however long20 years later or however long
it was I can't remember the agesbut they still smoke it.
(04:56):
And they smoked it their entirelife because they kept telling
themselves I can stop whenever Iwant.
You think they can stop now,maybe, but maybe now they don't
feel that way.
So instead of stopping whenthey told themselves that, they
just continued doing it.
And it's the same with everydrug and every addiction.
The fourth reason why we drinkalcohol is due to the
dehydrating properties ofalcohol itself, so unlike water,
(05:18):
that when you drink it, youdon't want to drink more.
When you drink an alcoholicbeverage is that it actually
makes you thirstier, which iswhy we can drink 10 pints of
beer, but you can't drink 10pints of water.
The same way you can drink 10pints of beer.
The problem is you drinkalcohol, which dehydrates you,
which makes you want to drinkmore, but drinking feels natural
.
We drink water every day.
So when we drink a drink and itdehydrates us and we want to
(05:41):
drink more, it's not the same aslike injecting something into
our veins.
It feels okay, I'm just havinga drink, I'm thirsty.
What's the problem?
But a lot of people don'tnotice this.
But alcohol as a drug willdehydrate you and that will
cause you to want to drink more.
This is why I have a bigproblem with the term alcoholic.
How can something thatdehydrates you and its literal
design is made for you to drinkmore be anything to do with you
(06:03):
as a person?
I don't think it's got anythingto do with you as a person, but
it's part of the reason why wedrink.
Which leads me to the fifththing, and again, if you've read
any popular stop drinking book,this isn't going to be news to
you.
But when you drink alcohol, italso lowers your inhibitions.
So if you tell yourself I'monly going to have three drinks
tonight.
You drink the three drinks.
You're now dehydrated.
What also happens is yourinhibitions get lowered and the
(06:24):
actual term for this is calledalcohol myopia.
So alcohol myopia is when youcan't think past the present
moment.
This is why people do thingslike drink, driving, they have
unprotected sex, they, you know,do all this weird stuff.
They might take drugs becausethey don't think about the
consequences of tomorrow.
It's all about the moment.
How can I feel good immediately?
It's why we eat junk food whenwe drink.
(06:44):
But when you combine thedehydrating properties of
alcohol with this alcohol myopiaand lowered inhibitions, you
put those two together, ofcourse you're going to drink.
We have a recipe for disaster.
So the sixth reason is that Ikind of said this earlier, but I
need to make it a point on itsown because it's so important.
But the sixth dark reason whywe drink is because it feels
natural.
Like I said, we drink every day.
(07:06):
We drink water every day, wedrink coffee, tea, whatever.
So when we drink alcohol, itfeels normal.
It feels natural.
It feels just like anotherthing that we do, I'm sure if
all of a sudden alcohol was nolonger available as a beverage,
but it's something you had toinject into your veins or you
had to snort, I am pretty surethat consumption would drop
dramatically.
But the fact that it feelsnatural and it's a normal thing
(07:29):
and you can be with somebodythat's not consuming the drug,
that's also having a drink, itjust feels normal, it feels okay
.
The seventh dark reason why youdrink alcohol and this one might
sting, but one of the darkestreasons why people drink alcohol
is that we lie to ourselves.
We tell ourselves that it's allokay, it's all going to be fine
, but we know in our heart thatwhat we're doing is wrong.
It is impossible to drink thisdrug without lying to yourself.
(07:51):
There are no benefits toconsuming poison, right?
Let's just get that clear.
I know I've said it a thousandtimes on this channel, but I'm
going to keep saying it, butwe're doing something that has
no benefit to it.
But all of this stuff is builton a foundation, which is the
eighth reason why you drinkalcohol.
The eighth reason why we drinkalcohol and this is exactly what
I help people fix in mycoaching program we're afraid of
(08:12):
how we're going to deal withstress, how we're going to deal
with any kind of emotion.
So, instead of addressing theproblem and addressing whatever
it is in our life that we're nothappy with or that's stressing
us out, is we just escape?
We just pour another drink anddeal with it later.
And I want to remind you of onething Life without alcohol isn't
just better.
I can put my hand on my heartand say that the best thing I
ever did as a drinker was tostop drinking.
(08:34):
There was no other decisionthat I could have made in my
life that would have got me ahigher return on an investment.
What I mean is I could havedecided to go to a different
university right, I could havedecided.
I don't know a million things,but I want to tell you something
important the highest leveragedecision that I could have made
when I drank alcohol was to stopdrinking, and as somebody that
spent 10 years battling withdrinking, stopping and starting
(08:54):
all of the time, when I finallyput the nail in the coffin seven
years ago and stopped drinkingalcohol permanently, my life
looks totally different, and thereason why I'm telling you this
is because you've got nothingto be afraid of.
Thanks for checking out theStop Drinking Podcast by Sober
Clear If you want to learn moreabout how we work with people to
help them stop drinkingeffortlessly, then make sure to
visit wwwsoberclearcom.
Welcome to the Stop Drinking Podcast, where we help
you make stopping drinking asimple, logical and easy
decision.
We help you with tips, toolsand strategies to start living
your best life when alcohol-free.
If you want to learn more aboutstop drinking coaching, then
head over to wwwsoberclearcom.
(00:21):
Why do we drink alcohol?
As a species, it really doesmake no sense.
Alcohol kills 9 to 5,000Americans every year maybe even
more than that now and globallyit kills millions.
Millions of people die fromthis drug.
Imagine for a second.
We found out that those verysame statistics happened if we
(00:41):
ate apples.
Do you think the populationwould continue to eat apples?
Of course not.
Nobody would ever touch anapple, ever again, and apples
would become history.
We'd put them in a box andthey'd be in museums, and that
would be it Apples, human raceno longer linked, goodbye.
But at the same time, alcoholdoes that very same thing.
(01:01):
Yet millions of people wake upevery day and choose to put that
stuff in their body.
So today I'm going to explainwhy.
I'm going to bring some orderto the chaos that's going on in
the world, because it's madness.
It makes no sense.
So let's get into the veryfirst reason.
The very first reason startedbefore you were even born, and
it all comes down to society'sparadigm.
(01:23):
When you're born, you are borninto a world that sees alcohol a
very specific way.
We do not see alcohol as thismurderous substance that
destroys families, destroyslives, puts people in a coffin,
knocks years off your lifeexpectancy, is the cause of
murder.
Listen, we don't see it thisway.
We see it as a bit of fun, away to celebrate becoming an
(01:44):
adult, something to have at your21st or your 18th birthday.
With other drugs, we do seethem as destructive, as
dangerous, as something to stayaway from.
But alcohol gets this rite ofpassage and when we're born we
don't get to choose thisparadigm.
It's kind of like this globalagreement that everybody has
with alcohol.
When you're growing up as achild, even as a baby, you're
(02:05):
exposed to this worldviewthrough advertisements, through
media, through movies that wewatch growing up, and we are
born into a world that hasconditioned us to see alcohol as
something that adds value inour life.
We don't see it as the same aswe see crack or heroin or
cocaine.
We see it as something thatmakes our life better.
(02:25):
So this is the first reason whywe drink, and it all comes down
to the way we've beenconditioned to see the drug.
The second reason why we drinkis that when we start drinking
alcohol, what usually happens Ican remember it like yesterday.
I remember drinking alcoholwith a bunch of my friends
around me.
In fact, it was one friend thefirst time I drank, but then, as
I got older, it was morefriends.
But what happened isimmediately I received
(02:47):
validation and listen.
As a young man growing up inthe world, that's kind of one of
the most important things youcan have.
Yeah, sure, growing up youlearn, you know all this stuff,
don't care what people thinkabout you, but when you're in
your teenage years, I think it'sthe only thing that matters.
It's validation from your peers, and with alcohol this is huge.
In college, in universities,friendship groups, alcohol is
(03:10):
there and when you drink thestuff, everybody socially
validates you.
But if you was a teenager andthen all of a sudden started
popping painkillers or someother drug that you know is just
a no-go for these teens, they'dkick you out of the social
group.
But with alcohol we receivevalidation.
The third reason why we drinkis because we don't actually
realize we're addicted to a druguntil it's too late.
(03:31):
So what I mean by this is thatwe tell ourselves I can stop
whenever I want, it's not likeI'm an alcoholic, it's not like
I've got a drinking problem, andwe tell ourselves this lie,
that we're in control.
I don't know if you've readpopular stop drinking books,
alan Carr's book.
A bunch of other people usethis example.
I'm pretty sure it originatedfrom Alan Carr's book, but he
talks about the Venus fly trapand in the book he says that
(03:52):
it's something that a fly landson.
The fly will get a taste ofthis nectar and it's beautiful,
and it will eat it and eat itand eat it, and eat it and eat
it.
And then it looks down andthinks well, that's never going
to happen to me, I can fly awayat any time that I want.
And then the more it eats, theheavier it gets.
And then it gets so heavy thatit can no longer fly away and
(04:13):
then, boom, falls to its death.
And the whole point that AlanCarr made is that when did the
fly lose control?
When it had already fallen tohis death, or when it looked
down at the other people thathad died and it continued eating
it?
We lose control much earlierthan we think the problem is
that we don't realise this untilit's too late.
So, whilst we feel like we canstop whenever we want, the
(04:34):
problem is that we don't stop inthose moments, so we keep doing
it.
I've got friends that I grew upwith that smoked weed, and they
told me the same thing.
I didn't feel like I could juststop smoking weed.
When I was a teenager.
I actually felt like it washard, but my friends around me
all said I can stop whenever Iwant.
Some of those people stillsmoke the stuff 16 years later
or however long.
20 years later or however long20 years later or however long
it was I can't remember the agesbut they still smoke it.
(04:56):
And they smoked it their entirelife because they kept telling
themselves I can stop whenever Iwant.
You think they can stop now,maybe, but maybe now they don't
feel that way.
So instead of stopping whenthey told themselves that, they
just continued doing it.
And it's the same with everydrug and every addiction.
The fourth reason why we drinkalcohol is due to the
dehydrating properties ofalcohol itself, so unlike water,
(05:18):
that when you drink it, youdon't want to drink more.
When you drink an alcoholicbeverage is that it actually
makes you thirstier, which iswhy we can drink 10 pints of
beer, but you can't drink 10pints of water.
The same way you can drink 10pints of beer.
The problem is you drinkalcohol, which dehydrates you,
which makes you want to drinkmore, but drinking feels natural
.
We drink water every day.
So when we drink a drink and itdehydrates us and we want to
(05:41):
drink more, it's not the same aslike injecting something into
our veins.
It feels okay, I'm just havinga drink, I'm thirsty.
What's the problem?
But a lot of people don'tnotice this.
But alcohol as a drug willdehydrate you and that will
cause you to want to drink more.
This is why I have a bigproblem with the term alcoholic.
How can something thatdehydrates you and its literal
design is made for you to drinkmore be anything to do with you
(06:03):
as a person?
I don't think it's got anythingto do with you as a person, but
it's part of the reason why wedrink.
Which leads me to the fifththing, and again, if you've read
any popular stop drinking book,this isn't going to be news to
you.
But when you drink alcohol, italso lowers your inhibitions.
So if you tell yourself I'monly going to have three drinks
tonight.
You drink the three drinks.
You're now dehydrated.
What also happens is yourinhibitions get lowered and the
(06:24):
actual term for this is calledalcohol myopia.
So alcohol myopia is when youcan't think past the present
moment.
This is why people do thingslike drink, driving, they have
unprotected sex, they, you know,do all this weird stuff.
They might take drugs becausethey don't think about the
consequences of tomorrow.
It's all about the moment.
How can I feel good immediately?
It's why we eat junk food whenwe drink.
(06:44):
But when you combine thedehydrating properties of
alcohol with this alcohol myopiaand lowered inhibitions, you
put those two together, ofcourse you're going to drink.
We have a recipe for disaster.
So the sixth reason is that Ikind of said this earlier, but I
need to make it a point on itsown because it's so important.
But the sixth dark reason whywe drink is because it feels
natural.
Like I said, we drink every day.
(07:06):
We drink water every day, wedrink coffee, tea, whatever.
So when we drink alcohol, itfeels normal.
It feels natural.
It feels just like anotherthing that we do, I'm sure if
all of a sudden alcohol was nolonger available as a beverage,
but it's something you had toinject into your veins or you
had to snort, I am pretty surethat consumption would drop
dramatically.
But the fact that it feelsnatural and it's a normal thing
(07:29):
and you can be with somebodythat's not consuming the drug,
that's also having a drink, itjust feels normal, it feels okay
.
The seventh dark reason why youdrink alcohol and this one might
sting, but one of the darkestreasons why people drink alcohol
is that we lie to ourselves.
We tell ourselves that it's allokay, it's all going to be fine
, but we know in our heart thatwhat we're doing is wrong.
It is impossible to drink thisdrug without lying to yourself.
(07:51):
There are no benefits toconsuming poison, right?
Let's just get that clear.
I know I've said it a thousandtimes on this channel, but I'm
going to keep saying it, butwe're doing something that has
no benefit to it.
But all of this stuff is builton a foundation, which is the
eighth reason why you drinkalcohol.
The eighth reason why we drinkalcohol and this is exactly what
I help people fix in mycoaching program we're afraid of
(08:12):
how we're going to deal withstress, how we're going to deal
with any kind of emotion.
So, instead of addressing theproblem and addressing whatever
it is in our life that we're nothappy with or that's stressing
us out, is we just escape?
We just pour another drink anddeal with it later.
And I want to remind you of onething Life without alcohol isn't
just better.
I can put my hand on my heartand say that the best thing I
ever did as a drinker was tostop drinking.
(08:34):
There was no other decisionthat I could have made in my
life that would have got me ahigher return on an investment.
What I mean is I could havedecided to go to a different
university right, I could havedecided.
I don't know a million things,but I want to tell you something
important the highest leveragedecision that I could have made
when I drank alcohol was to stopdrinking, and as somebody that
spent 10 years battling withdrinking, stopping and starting
(08:54):
all of the time, when I finallyput the nail in the coffin seven
years ago and stopped drinkingalcohol permanently, my life
looks totally different, and thereason why I'm telling you this
is because you've got nothingto be afraid of.
Thanks for checking out theStop Drinking Podcast by Sober
Clear If you want to learn moreabout how we work with people to
help them stop drinkingeffortlessly, then make sure to
visit wwwsoberclearcom.
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