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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Welcome to the Stop Drinking Podcast, where we help
you make stopping drinking asimple, logical and easy
decision.
We help you with tips, toolsand strategies to start living
your best life when alcohol-free.
If you want to learn more aboutstop drinking coaching, then
head over to wwwsoberclearcom.
(00:22):
Over the past five years, I'veguided nearly 500 clients
through early sobriety, throughthe first 90 days, and here's
what I've discovered.
There are nine clear anddistinct phases that they all go
through.
The problem is is 99% of thepopulation go through the exact
nine phases, but they try toapply the same strategy to each
one of them.
That's, sadly, why most peoplefail.
(00:43):
But after doing this almost 500times, I've seen patterns.
So today we're going to breakdown these nine distinct phases
so you can get through earlysobriety.
You'll learn why what happenson day three can actually
sabotage you on day 30, andyou'll understand why just
quitting is probably the worstadvice you'll ever hear.
Over the next few minutes, I'llbe explaining what you should do
in each of these phases,including the pre-quitting phase
(01:06):
, which pretty much everybodyseems to miss.
Let's start at the pre-quittingphase.
Let's start at the pre-quittingphase.
So what do most people do whenthey're trying to stop drinking.
They just stop, they just do it.
They just say right, that's it,I've had enough of alcohol, I'm
going to stop.
I've done this, you might havedone this, I've done it hundreds
of times and it never worksbecause we never change our
(01:27):
perception of alcohol.
We live in a world that isdominated by alcohol and we live
in a world where it's normal todrink and ultimately, alcohol
is built on this foundation andunderstanding that it somehow
enhances our life.
So this technique just neverworks.
So I want to give you adifferent way to do things.
Before you decide right, I'mstopping, I'm doing it.
The most important thing is toreframe the way that you view
(01:49):
alcohol.
What you want to do is educateyourself.
You want to study alcohol,study addiction, study the way
that it's marketed and reallyjust start seeing this for what
it is.
We live in a world of almostmass insanity.
See, alcohol doesn't enhanceanybody's life.
It's a drug.
It destroys pretty much everysingle cell it comes into
contact with.
It's a carcinogen.
So the best thing you can do isprepare yourself by studying.
(02:11):
I've got 700 YouTube videos onthis channel talking about this
exact topic, showing you adifferent perception, a
different perspective.
I have that free video trainingthat you can watch in the
description.
That will show you how to do it.
Other things that you can do inthis phase is find a coach.
Find somebody who's got themindset that you want.
For some people, that's me.
For others, you might find itin somebody else.
That's okay.
Other ideas here are to find asystem, find a program.
(02:33):
Some people find it inAlcoholics Anonymous.
That wasn't for me.
My mom found success in thatprogram, but you could find some
kind of system right Ratherthan just doing it on your own.
Find a process.
And the other thing you can doin this pre-quitting phase is
find a community.
Find a group of people who areworking on a similar goal that
you want.
That's why I built a communityinto my stop drinking program,
because it's so important beingaround like-minded people who
(02:54):
can encourage you, who cansupport you, who can give you
advice in different scenarios ofyour life.
Like I said, my mum found thatin AA.
That wasn't for me, but justmake sure to spend some time
preparing, educating yourself.
Maybe finding a coach, findinga system, finding a community
these things make all thedifference.
So let's get into the nextphase, the decision Now.
This is why the pre-quittingphase is so important, because
(03:17):
what a lot of people do is theynever actually decide to stop
drinking.
What they do is they just sayI'm going to try.
I'm just going to try for 90days, let's see how it goes, and
people almost set themselves upto fail.
They're giving themselves likean escape.
Now I'm not trying todiscourage those people.
If that's you right now, maybethat's what you need to do.
Maybe you need to have this aspart of your journey and part of
your process.
(03:37):
But from my experience, justtrying, just giving it a go at a
0% success rate, long-term itcan work.
It worked for me for sometimesa few months, sometimes a few
weeks, but something wouldalways lead me back to drinking,
because I always held alcoholon a pedestal.
I never fixed my worldview.
That's why every single time, Ijust fell flat on my face,
because I never changed myperception.
(03:58):
What also happened when Ididn't just make a true decision
to stop drinking is I wouldcount the days and I would think
the longer I'd gone withoutdrinking, the more of a
non-drinker that I am.
But the problem is is thelonger I went, the more I wanted
to drink.
Oh, it's been 30 days, it'sbeen ages now.
When am I going to get a drinkagain?
These were the conversationsthat would come up in my head
Then, finally, it might be twomonths and I'd Now.
(04:30):
I know it's hard if you haven'tchanged your worldview yet, but
that's why the pre-quittingphase is so important.
That's why I have an educationpart of my program, because
getting into that frame of mindwhere you see alcohol for what
it is and then just deciding tostop drinking changed my life.
I haven't looked back for sixand a half years.
I've had no desire to drink.
It fixed it.
That was the thing that fixedthe problem for me, and I've
never looked back.
(04:50):
So let's get into the nextphase, day zero to three.
Now don't get me wrong.
There are a small minority ofpeople who may need to go
through some kind of medicaldetox, and I'm not here to
downplay that.
But for most of the populationthey not here to downplay that,
but for most of the populationthey are fine.
If you think you need a detox,don't be watching a YouTube
video.
You need to be working with amedical professional.
I'm not trying to fearmonger,I'm just being real here.
(05:14):
But for most people, all it'sgoing to be are some very mild
withdrawal symptoms.
Those first few days you mightfeel tired, you might feel a bit
flu-like, you might just feel abit drained, and you're just
going to have to go through that.
But I want you to frame it likethis those first few days are
the smallest price that you needto pay to get your life back.
It's the best exchange ofdiscomfort that you will ever
make.
So just bear it in mind thatit's to come, but it's going to
(05:35):
be okay.
The other thing that can happenin the first few days is you
just might struggle to fallasleep at night.
So just expect maybe you'regoing to be sleep deprived.
Expect that maybe you're goingto get some sugar cravings.
Right, you might want to havesome ice cream, some sweets, and
the best advice I've got foryou is just be kind to yourself.
If you need to book a couple ofdays off work and just lie in
bed all day, it doesn't matter.
Just get through it.
Everybody's got to get throughit.
(05:56):
But on the other side of thisis total freedom.
It's so worth it.
So let's get into thetransition phase.
Days three to seven so here iswhen your body is really
starting to adjust to this newnormal Now.
For a lot of people things aregoing to start feeling a lot
better now, but for some peoplethings still don't feel quite
right Around.
This time mental fog will startto improve, but it won't be
(06:17):
back to like pre-drinking levelsfor a while.
But you will just start to feela little bit more clear.
But during days three to sevenwe need to understand that it's
not some overnight success,miracle cure and then boom,
things are great.
Day three to seven can be alittle bit tough but, like I
said, just get through thisfirst week, because so many
great things are to come.
During this part you might needto deal with a few social
(06:37):
situations.
Right, you might need to go outto a restaurant, you might need
to meet a friend in a placewhere alcohol is served and for
some people during that firstweek, three to seven days in
this period, they might need tosay no to social things.
Me personally, I went.
I didn't care because I knewthat I'd made a true decision to
stop.
So I'm not avoiding alcoholanymore.
That's my recommendation, butthat's not going to resonate
with everybody.
But just expect to make someimprovements, but still not to
(07:00):
be at 100%.
So just take it easy.
So let's get into day 7 to 14.
Usually, for most people aroundday 7 to 14 is where you'll
really start to have noticeableimprovements in your sleep.
A lot of people at this pointgo well.
I had the best night's sleepI've had in years.
I forgot what it was like tosleep so well.
By this point you'll have gotthrough your first alcohol-free
(07:22):
weekend.
For some of you that means thatyou've gone out socializing.
For others it just means thatyou've got through the weekend
at home and it's been okay.
By this point as well, you'llhave started to build reference
experiences.
You might have had thoughts ofdrinking and then just not drank
and been okay with it, andthese build upon themselves A
lot of people.
At this point they start to feelthe physical benefits.
The bloating has gone down, theenergy started to slowly
(07:42):
increase.
And don't get me wrong, youstill might not be at 100% at
this point.
You still might feel a littlebit cloudy, but most of the
population now will really havestarted to feel like things are
just going in the rightdirection.
And one of the best things atthis point is the pain from
stopping drinking will havesubsided.
So let's get into days 14 to 28,which is what I actually call
(08:03):
the danger zone.
So for somebody that didn'tmake a true decision to stop,
this is a very tough place to be.
All the pain that alcoholcaused will have mostly gone by
now.
For example, if a wife's onsomebody's case, they're not
going to be on your case anymore.
If you've not drank for acouple of weeks, if you are
feeling a really bad hangoverand you just kind of accumulated
(08:23):
drinking over a good amount ofmonths and you were just feeling
like ugh with it all, by aroundtwo weeks that feeling will
have gone.
And because people start to feelreally good at this point,
those of us that are uncommittedcan start to justify drinking
again.
That's why the pre-quittingphase is so important.
Making a decision is soimportant and remembering why
you did this is so important.
So if you are thinking ofdrinking in this phase, the best
advice I've got for you is toplay it out.
(08:44):
Where is it going to end up?
Think about if you make adecision to drink.
Where are you going to be infive years if you don't stop?
Because the likelihood is isyou won't stop.
Alcohol is a chain reactionthat never ends until you stop
it, and the fact that you'realready two to maybe four weeks
in because we're talking aboutdays 14 to 28 here means that
you've got so much good momentum.
You've got through the crappypart before, so you really want
(09:06):
to remember your why at thispoint.
Why are you doing this?
You really need to stayvigilant here, despite feeling
good.
Now, a big thing that happenedfor me during days 14 to 28 is
my confidence returned.
I knew I had it beat becauseI'd made a decision, I'd got
through the first couple ofweeks and then it was like this
light switch of like it'sseriously done and in my journey
, what I did is within a coupleof weeks I started my own
(09:26):
business.
Basically, my life had crumbledapart because of drinking and I
ended up working in arestaurant.
I had no money left.
It was just a disaster Not thatthere's anything wrong with
working in a restaurant.
But before I had a bunch ofmomentum with business and I was
going in the right direction.
I drank and then I wentbackwards.
I went back to what I did as astudent and around this mark,
something switched and I waslike I felt like I could do
anything.
So I immediately started apersonal training business and
(09:48):
it immediately went well becausemy confidence had come back.
I started to believe in myselfagain.
So now let's get into months oneto months two.
This is all about buildingmomentum.
By this point you'll reallystart to actually see some
visible benefits.
The bloating will have gonedown.
Your skin will start to getsome noticeable improvements.
If you have a red face, thatwill have started to decrease.
You'll start to see financialbenefits.
(10:10):
At this point, right, there'sall that money that we were
spending on alcohol that's nowgoing in our pocket.
For people that are doinganything to do with sales, or
self-employed, or you've gotyour own business you may see
big increases in your ability toproduce.
You might be getting moreclients, getting more sales,
making more money.
People at work might benoticing, thinking damn, how
have you got so productive?
You never used to be like this.
And then, further down the line, this is when promotions start.
(10:33):
Relationships will get better atthis point.
This was big for me because inthe past I made a promise to
other people that I'd stopdrinking alcohol and then I'd
break that promise, and thatstrains relationships hard If
you don't keep your word to thepeople you love.
They get sick of it quickly.
So you will find relationshipsare starting to get better.
I've got clients where theirkids want to spend more time
with them again.
It's really, really beautiful,and this all happens around
(10:54):
months one to two.
But the main thing here is theexplosion in your confidence.
You might find that you've madesome new friends.
You might have got a new hobbyright.
You might be exercising again.
Maybe you've got some localcommunity gym.
You're making new friends thataren't revolved around drinking.
That can happen around thispoint as well.
But again, the big thing for mehere was the explosion in
self-esteem and self-confidence.
(11:15):
I knew I had a beat at thispoint and I was building
momentum in all areas of my life.
Again I was back in the gym.
I was eating right.
My business was finallystarting to move in the right
direction.
I'd quit my job in therestaurant and I was starting to
think bigger.
I thought wait a minute, I'mback.
I get goosebumps talking aboutit.
I've beaten it, I'm back, I cando anything again and that is
(11:37):
the best feeling ever.
So my best recommendation I'vegot for you in this period is
just go hard.
Don't be going to the past andfeeling sorry for yourself and
thinking about oh, the alcoholback then, or wasn't that a good
time?
No, don't worry about any ofthat stuff.
Think about what's next.
You will start to see that youare capable of so much if you
continue on this path.
So let's get into months two tothree.
(11:59):
So around this point a lot ofpeople start to realize how
little alcohol actually helpedthem.
By this point they will seeresults.
Now don't get me wrong.
If you just stop drinking andwatch Netflix all day and change
nothing you're not reading,you're not studying, you're not
pushing, you're not working hardSure, nothing's going to change
.
But if you stop drinkingbecause you wanted a better life
for yourself, now things aregoing in that direction.
(12:21):
So you really start to realizehow much alcohol was holding you
back.
What started happening for me atthis point and this is not from
a place of judgment, but otherdrinkers started to be a bit of
a mystery.
I used to look at them andthink don't you understand how
good life is without alcohol?
Why would you want to drink?
Now?
That's because I've reframedthe way I view alcohol.
Don't get me wrong the 10 yearsthat I struggled to stop
drinking alcohol.
For I used to look at drinkerswith a bit of envy.
(12:42):
I used to think, oh, look atthem having a drink.
But I don't feel that wayanymore.
So don't get me wrong, that'llbe different for different
people, but a lot of people atthis point, if they other people
, they want to fix their friendsright, encourage them and tell
them and whatever.
(13:02):
So just one quick word ofadvice the best thing you can do
for other people is meet themwhere they're at.
Most people aren't botheredabout stopping drinking.
It's sad, but that's the worldwe live in.
So, rather than lecturingpeople and telling them, just go
ahead and set the example, showthem.
Don't tell them, because you'llfind that over the months ahead
people will start coming to you.
What are you doing?
You look different.
(13:23):
You're looking stronger, you'relooking fitter.
Are you training?
What's going on?
Your skin looks different.
You're looking more ripped andchiseled in the face, and that
is when you can start theconversation.
But the big thing here isconfidence just keeps increasing
For me.
Around this point I startedthinking about okay, if I can
stop drinking, I've got thismassive win under my belt and
then I can actually start a newbusiness.
(13:44):
It goes well.
I'm focused, I'm doing what Ineed to do.
What else can I do Now?
For me, that turned into movingto Thailand, starting an online
business, startingSoberClearcom, working with
people helping them stopdrinking.
But you just keep stacking thewins and things just keep
getting better.
Thanks for checking out theStop Drinking Podcast by Sober
Clear.
If you want to learn more abouthow we work with people to help
(14:05):
them stop drinking effortlessly, then make sure to visit
wwwsoberclearcom.
Welcome to the Stop Drinking Podcast, where we help
you make stopping drinking asimple, logical and easy
decision.
We help you with tips, toolsand strategies to start living
your best life when alcohol-free.
If you want to learn more aboutstop drinking coaching, then
head over to wwwsoberclearcom.
(00:22):
Over the past five years, I'veguided nearly 500 clients
through early sobriety, throughthe first 90 days, and here's
what I've discovered.
There are nine clear anddistinct phases that they all go
through.
The problem is is 99% of thepopulation go through the exact
nine phases, but they try toapply the same strategy to each
one of them.
That's, sadly, why most peoplefail.
(00:43):
But after doing this almost 500times, I've seen patterns.
So today we're going to breakdown these nine distinct phases
so you can get through earlysobriety.
You'll learn why what happenson day three can actually
sabotage you on day 30, andyou'll understand why just
quitting is probably the worstadvice you'll ever hear.
Over the next few minutes, I'llbe explaining what you should do
in each of these phases,including the pre-quitting phase
(01:06):
, which pretty much everybodyseems to miss.
Let's start at the pre-quittingphase.
Let's start at the pre-quittingphase.
So what do most people do whenthey're trying to stop drinking.
They just stop, they just do it.
They just say right, that's it,I've had enough of alcohol, I'm
going to stop.
I've done this, you might havedone this, I've done it hundreds
of times and it never worksbecause we never change our
(01:27):
perception of alcohol.
We live in a world that isdominated by alcohol and we live
in a world where it's normal todrink and ultimately, alcohol
is built on this foundation andunderstanding that it somehow
enhances our life.
So this technique just neverworks.
So I want to give you adifferent way to do things.
Before you decide right, I'mstopping, I'm doing it.
The most important thing is toreframe the way that you view
(01:49):
alcohol.
What you want to do is educateyourself.
You want to study alcohol,study addiction, study the way
that it's marketed and reallyjust start seeing this for what
it is.
We live in a world of almostmass insanity.
See, alcohol doesn't enhanceanybody's life.
It's a drug.
It destroys pretty much everysingle cell it comes into
contact with.
It's a carcinogen.
So the best thing you can do isprepare yourself by studying.
(02:11):
I've got 700 YouTube videos onthis channel talking about this
exact topic, showing you adifferent perception, a
different perspective.
I have that free video trainingthat you can watch in the
description.
That will show you how to do it.
Other things that you can do inthis phase is find a coach.
Find somebody who's got themindset that you want.
For some people, that's me.
For others, you might find itin somebody else.
That's okay.
Other ideas here are to find asystem, find a program.
(02:33):
Some people find it inAlcoholics Anonymous.
That wasn't for me.
My mom found success in thatprogram, but you could find some
kind of system right Ratherthan just doing it on your own.
Find a process.
And the other thing you can doin this pre-quitting phase is
find a community.
Find a group of people who areworking on a similar goal that
you want.
That's why I built a communityinto my stop drinking program,
because it's so important beingaround like-minded people who
(02:54):
can encourage you, who cansupport you, who can give you
advice in different scenarios ofyour life.
Like I said, my mum found thatin AA.
That wasn't for me, but justmake sure to spend some time
preparing, educating yourself.
Maybe finding a coach, findinga system, finding a community
these things make all thedifference.
So let's get into the nextphase, the decision Now.
This is why the pre-quittingphase is so important, because
(03:17):
what a lot of people do is theynever actually decide to stop
drinking.
What they do is they just sayI'm going to try.
I'm just going to try for 90days, let's see how it goes, and
people almost set themselves upto fail.
They're giving themselves likean escape.
Now I'm not trying todiscourage those people.
If that's you right now, maybethat's what you need to do.
Maybe you need to have this aspart of your journey and part of
your process.
(03:37):
But from my experience, justtrying, just giving it a go at a
0% success rate, long-term itcan work.
It worked for me for sometimesa few months, sometimes a few
weeks, but something wouldalways lead me back to drinking,
because I always held alcoholon a pedestal.
I never fixed my worldview.
That's why every single time, Ijust fell flat on my face,
because I never changed myperception.
(03:58):
What also happened when Ididn't just make a true decision
to stop drinking is I wouldcount the days and I would think
the longer I'd gone withoutdrinking, the more of a
non-drinker that I am.
But the problem is is thelonger I went, the more I wanted
to drink.
Oh, it's been 30 days, it'sbeen ages now.
When am I going to get a drinkagain?
These were the conversationsthat would come up in my head
Then, finally, it might be twomonths and I'd Now.
(04:30):
I know it's hard if you haven'tchanged your worldview yet, but
that's why the pre-quittingphase is so important.
That's why I have an educationpart of my program, because
getting into that frame of mindwhere you see alcohol for what
it is and then just deciding tostop drinking changed my life.
I haven't looked back for sixand a half years.
I've had no desire to drink.
It fixed it.
That was the thing that fixedthe problem for me, and I've
never looked back.
(04:50):
So let's get into the nextphase, day zero to three.
Now don't get me wrong.
There are a small minority ofpeople who may need to go
through some kind of medicaldetox, and I'm not here to
downplay that.
But for most of the populationthey not here to downplay that,
but for most of the populationthey are fine.
If you think you need a detox,don't be watching a YouTube
video.
You need to be working with amedical professional.
I'm not trying to fearmonger,I'm just being real here.
(05:14):
But for most people, all it'sgoing to be are some very mild
withdrawal symptoms.
Those first few days you mightfeel tired, you might feel a bit
flu-like, you might just feel abit drained, and you're just
going to have to go through that.
But I want you to frame it likethis those first few days are
the smallest price that you needto pay to get your life back.
It's the best exchange ofdiscomfort that you will ever
make.
So just bear it in mind thatit's to come, but it's going to
(05:35):
be okay.
The other thing that can happenin the first few days is you
just might struggle to fallasleep at night.
So just expect maybe you'regoing to be sleep deprived.
Expect that maybe you're goingto get some sugar cravings.
Right, you might want to havesome ice cream, some sweets, and
the best advice I've got foryou is just be kind to yourself.
If you need to book a couple ofdays off work and just lie in
bed all day, it doesn't matter.
Just get through it.
Everybody's got to get throughit.
(05:56):
But on the other side of thisis total freedom.
It's so worth it.
So let's get into thetransition phase.
Days three to seven so here iswhen your body is really
starting to adjust to this newnormal Now.
For a lot of people things aregoing to start feeling a lot
better now, but for some peoplethings still don't feel quite
right Around.
This time mental fog will startto improve, but it won't be
(06:17):
back to like pre-drinking levelsfor a while.
But you will just start to feela little bit more clear.
But during days three to sevenwe need to understand that it's
not some overnight success,miracle cure and then boom,
things are great.
Day three to seven can be alittle bit tough but, like I
said, just get through thisfirst week, because so many
great things are to come.
During this part you might needto deal with a few social
(06:37):
situations.
Right, you might need to go outto a restaurant, you might need
to meet a friend in a placewhere alcohol is served and for
some people during that firstweek, three to seven days in
this period, they might need tosay no to social things.
Me personally, I went.
I didn't care because I knewthat I'd made a true decision to
stop.
So I'm not avoiding alcoholanymore.
That's my recommendation, butthat's not going to resonate
with everybody.
But just expect to make someimprovements, but still not to
(07:00):
be at 100%.
So just take it easy.
So let's get into day 7 to 14.
Usually, for most people aroundday 7 to 14 is where you'll
really start to have noticeableimprovements in your sleep.
A lot of people at this pointgo well.
I had the best night's sleepI've had in years.
I forgot what it was like tosleep so well.
By this point you'll have gotthrough your first alcohol-free
(07:22):
weekend.
For some of you that means thatyou've gone out socializing.
For others it just means thatyou've got through the weekend
at home and it's been okay.
By this point as well, you'llhave started to build reference
experiences.
You might have had thoughts ofdrinking and then just not drank
and been okay with it, andthese build upon themselves A
lot of people.
At this point they start to feelthe physical benefits.
The bloating has gone down, theenergy started to slowly
(07:42):
increase.
And don't get me wrong, youstill might not be at 100% at
this point.
You still might feel a littlebit cloudy, but most of the
population now will really havestarted to feel like things are
just going in the rightdirection.
And one of the best things atthis point is the pain from
stopping drinking will havesubsided.
So let's get into days 14 to 28,which is what I actually call
(08:03):
the danger zone.
So for somebody that didn'tmake a true decision to stop,
this is a very tough place to be.
All the pain that alcoholcaused will have mostly gone by
now.
For example, if a wife's onsomebody's case, they're not
going to be on your case anymore.
If you've not drank for acouple of weeks, if you are
feeling a really bad hangoverand you just kind of accumulated
(08:23):
drinking over a good amount ofmonths and you were just feeling
like ugh with it all, by aroundtwo weeks that feeling will
have gone.
And because people start to feelreally good at this point,
those of us that are uncommittedcan start to justify drinking
again.
That's why the pre-quittingphase is so important.
Making a decision is soimportant and remembering why
you did this is so important.
So if you are thinking ofdrinking in this phase, the best
advice I've got for you is toplay it out.
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Where is it going to end up?
Think about if you make adecision to drink.
Where are you going to be infive years if you don't stop?
Because the likelihood is isyou won't stop.
Alcohol is a chain reactionthat never ends until you stop
it, and the fact that you'realready two to maybe four weeks
in because we're talking aboutdays 14 to 28 here means that
you've got so much good momentum.
You've got through the crappypart before, so you really want
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to remember your why at thispoint.
Why are you doing this?
You really need to stayvigilant here, despite feeling
good.
Now, a big thing that happenedfor me during days 14 to 28 is
my confidence returned.
I knew I had it beat becauseI'd made a decision, I'd got
through the first couple ofweeks and then it was like this
light switch of like it'sseriously done and in my journey
, what I did is within a coupleof weeks I started my own
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business.
Basically, my life had crumbledapart because of drinking and I
ended up working in arestaurant.
I had no money left.
It was just a disaster Not thatthere's anything wrong with
working in a restaurant.
But before I had a bunch ofmomentum with business and I was
going in the right direction.
I drank and then I wentbackwards.
I went back to what I did as astudent and around this mark,
something switched and I waslike I felt like I could do
anything.
So I immediately started apersonal training business and
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it immediately went well becausemy confidence had come back.
I started to believe in myselfagain.
So now let's get into months oneto months two.
This is all about buildingmomentum.
By this point you'll reallystart to actually see some
visible benefits.
The bloating will have gonedown.
Your skin will start to getsome noticeable improvements.
If you have a red face, thatwill have started to decrease.
You'll start to see financialbenefits.
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At this point, right, there'sall that money that we were
spending on alcohol that's nowgoing in our pocket.
For people that are doinganything to do with sales, or
self-employed, or you've gotyour own business you may see
big increases in your ability toproduce.
You might be getting moreclients, getting more sales,
making more money.
People at work might benoticing, thinking damn, how
have you got so productive?
You never used to be like this.
And then, further down the line, this is when promotions start.
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Relationships will get better atthis point.
This was big for me because inthe past I made a promise to
other people that I'd stopdrinking alcohol and then I'd
break that promise, and thatstrains relationships hard If
you don't keep your word to thepeople you love.
They get sick of it quickly.
So you will find relationshipsare starting to get better.
I've got clients where theirkids want to spend more time
with them again.
It's really, really beautiful,and this all happens around
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months one to two.
But the main thing here is theexplosion in your confidence.
You might find that you've madesome new friends.
You might have got a new hobbyright.
You might be exercising again.
Maybe you've got some localcommunity gym.
You're making new friends thataren't revolved around drinking.
That can happen around thispoint as well.
But again, the big thing for mehere was the explosion in
self-esteem and self-confidence.
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I knew I had a beat at thispoint and I was building
momentum in all areas of my life.
Again I was back in the gym.
I was eating right.
My business was finallystarting to move in the right
direction.
I'd quit my job in therestaurant and I was starting to
think bigger.
I thought wait a minute, I'mback.
I get goosebumps talking aboutit.
I've beaten it, I'm back, I cando anything again and that is
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the best feeling ever.
So my best recommendation I'vegot for you in this period is
just go hard.
Don't be going to the past andfeeling sorry for yourself and
thinking about oh, the alcoholback then, or wasn't that a good
time?
No, don't worry about any ofthat stuff.
Think about what's next.
You will start to see that youare capable of so much if you
continue on this path.
So let's get into months two tothree.
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So around this point a lot ofpeople start to realize how
little alcohol actually helpedthem.
By this point they will seeresults.
Now don't get me wrong.
If you just stop drinking andwatch Netflix all day and change
nothing you're not reading,you're not studying, you're not
pushing, you're not working hardSure, nothing's going to change
.
But if you stop drinkingbecause you wanted a better life
for yourself, now things aregoing in that direction.
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So you really start to realizehow much alcohol was holding you
back.
What started happening for me atthis point and this is not from
a place of judgment, but otherdrinkers started to be a bit of
a mystery.
I used to look at them andthink don't you understand how
good life is without alcohol?
Why would you want to drink?
Now?
That's because I've reframedthe way I view alcohol.
Don't get me wrong the 10 yearsthat I struggled to stop
drinking alcohol.
For I used to look at drinkerswith a bit of envy.
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I used to think, oh, look atthem having a drink.
But I don't feel that wayanymore.
So don't get me wrong, that'llbe different for different
people, but a lot of people atthis point, if they other people
, they want to fix their friendsright, encourage them and tell
them and whatever.
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So just one quick word ofadvice the best thing you can do
for other people is meet themwhere they're at.
Most people aren't botheredabout stopping drinking.
It's sad, but that's the worldwe live in.
So, rather than lecturingpeople and telling them, just go
ahead and set the example, showthem.
Don't tell them, because you'llfind that over the months ahead
people will start coming to you.
What are you doing?
You look different.
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You're looking stronger, you'relooking fitter.
Are you training?
What's going on?
Your skin looks different.
You're looking more ripped andchiseled in the face, and that
is when you can start theconversation.
But the big thing here isconfidence just keeps increasing
For me.
Around this point I startedthinking about okay, if I can
stop drinking, I've got thismassive win under my belt and
then I can actually start a newbusiness.
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It goes well.
I'm focused, I'm doing what Ineed to do.
What else can I do Now?
For me, that turned into movingto Thailand, starting an online
business, startingSoberClearcom, working with
people helping them stopdrinking.
But you just keep stacking thewins and things just keep
getting better.
Thanks for checking out theStop Drinking Podcast by Sober
Clear.
If you want to learn more abouthow we work with people to help
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them stop drinking effortlessly, then make sure to visit
wwwsoberclearcom.
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