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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Stop Drinking Podcast, where we help
you make stopping drinking asimple, logical and easy
decision.
We help you with tips, toolsand strategies to start living
your best life when alcohol-free.
If you want to learn more aboutstop drinking coaching, then
head over to wwwsoberclearcom.
(00:21):
So the very first reason why Ifailed to stop drinking alcohol
more times than I can count wasthis idea that I'll just have
one drink.
See, I failed to stop drinkingalcohol more times than I can
count.
I am not exaggerating.
I have got no idea how manytimes I've failed, but it has
been over a hundred for surebecause there were so many days
where I'd wake up and justpromise myself that's it, no
(00:43):
more, I'm never drinking again,that I've just lost count.
I do not know how many timesthat I've done that.
If we've not met yet, my nameis Leon Sylvester.
It's great to meet you.
I am the founder ofSoberClearcom, which is a
coaching company that helpsbusiness owners and
professionals get control oftheir drinking in as little as
24 hours.
Now, I know that sounds hard tobelieve, so if you click the
link down below, there's a freevideo training that you can
(01:03):
access.
It will explain the method.
It will explain the scientificrationale behind it.
It talks about a scientificreport that my company's
commissioned that's written byan academic psychologist.
You can also find that onGoogle Scholar.
We get a 96% success rate.
But if you want information onthat, go to SoberClear rehab
(01:27):
click the link down below.
But I just want you to knowthat I've been in your shoes.
I struggled for close to 10years and I've not drank now for
pretty much seven years.
I can't even remember when Istopped drinking, if it was June
, july, august.
I've got my date in some oldphone that's like put away.
I can't even remember because Idon't care.
I don't look at the days, I'mnot counting the days.
All I did was about seven yearsago is I made a decision and I
(01:50):
stuck with the decision.
However, during the 10 yearsthat I did drink, this idea of
having just one drink came up somany times.
A friend gives me a text Leonwant to go out for a beer.
I think, yeah, sure, a beersounds great and that is truly
what I thought I was going to do.
I'll go and drink a beer.
I think if I did that 100 times, maybe 95 times, I would have
(02:11):
continued drinking, maybe fivetimes out of 100, I would stop
at one beer, but justifying thisthing of having just one drink,
that was my go-to.
It was really rare that I'dplanned to go on a big binge.
It would just happen, and itwould all start with this idea
of having just a drink.
It caused many relapses.
You know, if I'd stoppeddrinking for a few weeks, a few
months, a few days, whateverthis idea of having just one
(02:32):
drink would bring me back.
But also when I wasn't sobothered about stopping drinking
and I was just drinking, thisidea of having just a drink
would then lead to more and itwould snowball.
And I really wasn't that guythat planned his entire life
around alcohol.
I know I've worked with peoplethat are like that.
I know, for people that mightbe a bit older than me, that's
what they do is.
They do plan their life aroundalcohol.
I didn't.
I always planned to have justone drink.
(02:53):
Anyway, let me get into thesecond reason.
The second reason why I failedto stop drinking more times than
I can count is that I used totell myself that this time, this
time of all times, is going tobe different.
This time something will change.
So what would happen is maybe,you know, I would have got three
months of not drinking, youknow, life would be going well
again.
And then this amazing ideawould just be given to me.
(03:16):
It would just come out of theblue oh, leon, maybe this time
is going to be different.
Maybe this time, of all theother times, the hundred other
times that you've drank andeffed your life up, maybe this
time will be different.
I'm mocking myself here, right?
I'm not trying to belittle youif you've gone through this as
well.
That's not my intention.
It was just this.
If I look back, like what was Ithinking?
This time is going to bedifferent.
The drug's not changed.
(03:36):
My perception's not changed.
It's still the same highly,highly addictive drug that most
of the adult population areaddicted to.
That kills 95,000 Americanseach year.
Millions of people die from itglobally.
The drug's not changed, butthis time is going to be
different.
I mean, it was a lie, right, andI probably knew in my heart
that it was an excuse, it wasn'ta reason to drink.
I don't know, I can't remember.
(03:57):
Maybe at the time I did believeit and that would just give me
that little push over the edgeto actually drink again.
But oh my gosh, that littlepush over the edge to actually
drink again.
But oh my gosh, I'm under noillusion these days.
If I drink again, it ain'tgoing to be different.
It's history repeats.
So I am so glad that I got overthat hurdle, because I've not
drank for seven years and guesswhat?
There ain't no going back now.
It ain't going to be differentif I drink again.
But the good thing about now isthat I feel more like I have a
(04:19):
choice.
I don't feel like I'm resistingor fighting the urge to not
drink anymore, because I'vereframed how I view alcohol,
which is what I help people doin my coaching company with this
YouTube channel.
It feels like a choice.
I don't resist, I don't fight.
There's no willpower, there areno cravings, I just don't want
to drink, which has completelyevaporated this idea that this
(04:40):
time is going to be different.
Anyway, number three, the thirdreason.
This one is huge, this one isgoing to be relevant to
everybody, but the sixth one,please stay.
Stick around to the very end ofthe video, because the sixth
one, that's one that most peopleare going to miss.
But the third thing that wouldbring me back to drinking was
this feeling of missing out.
What I mean by this is thisalways wouldn't be acute.
(05:00):
There was one time that Irelapsed at a New Year's Eve
party and that was when I feltan acute feeling of missing out.
So what I mean is that I was ata social event.
It was a New Year's Eve party.
I was in some private membersclub in London.
I'm not from London, I'm notfrom the city.
I was like 20 something at thetime.
I was not a member of this clubor anything like that, but I
went to this party because myfriend was a member.
He was doing much better inlife than I was and I felt like
(05:22):
what the heck am I doing here?
Right, I was just like someyoung university student that
was doing a personal trainingbusiness.
And I'm from a small town in thenorth of England.
I'm from a place called KirkhamVery small town, maybe it has,
I think it's like the populationmight be 7,000,.
Right, I'm from a pretty smallplace.
A lot of people ask, ask wheream I from?
Where is this accent from?
Well, I'm a Northerner, fromLancashire.
Anyway, back to the point.
(05:46):
I'm with this friend in London.
I go to this private membersclub.
It's a New Year's Eve party.
Everybody's dressed soextravagantly, everyone's having
a good time.
Of course they're having a goodtime.
It's New Year.
You're in the middle of London,in the middle of a city.
It was a blast, but I wasn'tdrinking.
But what?
I would look at everybodyhaving this good time.
I'd look around me.
You know, this table here, thattable here, this person stood
(06:06):
up dancing and what did they allhave in their hand?
They didn't have a bottle ofwater.
They all had alcohol in theirhand Champagne.
You see that table all laughingand joking.
There'd be a bottle ofchampagne in the middle and then
glasses all around and I gotthis acute feeling that I was
missing out on something.
So, even though I hadn't drankfor six, seven, eight months,
however long it had been, lifewas going well.
I got this huge feeling ofmissing out.
Boom, I'll just have one drink.
This time's going to bedifferent, but it came from this
(06:26):
feeling of missing out and ifyou can relate to that, I want
you to realize something thatyou are not missing out on
anything.
In hindsight, I was having agood time without it and they
were having a good time becauseit was New Year's and they're
with all their friends.
Who's not going to have a goodtime?
The alcohol added nothing to it.
But this FOMO, right?
This fear of missing out it'snot always acute, right?
It's not always like thesemassive moments of like.
(06:49):
I'm surrounded by alcohol.
Oh my gosh, why aren't Idrinking?
It doesn't usually go that way.
More often than not it canhappen while you're watching a
movie.
Right, you're sat there, yousee your favorite character pour
a drink.
There.
You see your favorite characterpour a drink and you're like I
stopped drinking, why can't I dothat?
Maybe you just see anadvertisement.
You walk past alcohol in theaisle in the store and you see
the alcohol and you're like Idon't drink, but I want to.
You ain't missing out onanything when you stop drinking
(07:10):
alcohol.
You have got nothing to missout on.
It is a poison, it is ethanoland it does nothing for you at
all.
And I'm not over-exaggeratingwhen I say this, I'm not saying
it like alcohol does give you 5%and is 95% bad.
No, it gives you nothing.
It's a poison, it is ethanol.
There is no advantage todrinking that drug.
But that feeling was so strongbecause I had never fixed the
(07:34):
way I viewed alcohol.
I still saw it as a good thing.
So I always felt like I wasmissing out.
That is a fixable problem.
If you can change the way youview alcohol, that feeling goes
away.
Anyway, number four, the fourthreason.
So this one came up, but nottoo many times.
But another thing that wouldcause me to fail was some sort
of emotional pain, maybe grief,maybe anger, maybe loneliness.
(07:58):
But one of the problems I hadwas that I wasn't sure how to
deal with negative emotionswithout turning to alcohol.
Now I say that alcohol has gotno benefits to it.
There is no question about it.
But if I was feeling lonely andI went to a bar and had a drink
and spoke to the waiter orwhatever, or the server or the
bartender, then it wouldalleviate some loneliness, but
(08:18):
not necessarily because I wasdrinking alcohol, but more
because I was going out.
If I was sat in a room on myown and just opened up a can of
beer and drank it, that's notgoing to alleviate loneliness.
But what it would have done isgiven me a moment of relief.
But that doesn't fix theemotion right.
That's not fixing anyloneliness that I would have
felt in that moment.
What was happening is this mightbe a little bit deep for this
(08:39):
video.
If you've read any stopdrinking books, this will make
sense to you, but that feelingof ah was actually the relieval
of withdrawal, and drinkingalcohol is a way to escape.
It gives you these moments ofrelief that last for a few
minutes, but isn't it crazy thatwe would exchange a few minutes
of relief to put us in an earlygrave, to drink a known
carcinogen, to drink the biggestsource of pain in our life, or
(09:01):
at least that's what I was doing, because it was the biggest
source of pain in my life?
We're doing something that wedon't want our children to do.
We don't want the people aroundus to do this.
Yet there we are doing it, andit just makes no sense.
It's a highly addictive drugthat does nothing for you.
It doesn't fix any problems.
If you're feeling negative, ifyou're feeling some emotional
pain, drinking alcohol is notgoing to fix that.
Now, I'll often talk on thisthing about how stopping
(09:24):
drinking in therapy there can bea link, but for most people
there's not really a link.
There's no need to see atherapist, there's no need to go
to the past, but in thisinstance, I see the value.
What I think is better, though,is that you fix your
relationship with alcohol.
First, you change the way thatyou view the drug and then, if
you've got things that you needto go and deal with and sit with
a therapist and get it outthere, you do it after you've
(09:44):
stopped drinking.
I don't see the link betweenthe two, but, anyway, maybe a
lot of people disagree with meon that.
Whatever, I'm just sharing whatworked for me, what's worked
for the people I've helped.
Let's get into number five.
The fifth reason was it was likethis feeling of just like.
Do you know what?
I don't give a, but I'd getthis feeling of just like.
(10:05):
I just don't care anymore.
What's the point?
And the reason why I would feelthis way is because I would
always struggle to not drink.
It would always be this fightand this battle right.
So when I felt that way,eventually it would be like the
willpower would just run out.
I'd be gritting through it,fighting this urge to not drink
alcohol, and eventually I'd justbe like do you know what?
I'm just throwing in the towel.
I'm giving up on giving up, I'mdrinking.
Who cares?
(10:25):
But that was always because Iwas taking the wrong approach to
not drink.
I was mostly using willpower,tried AA, tried the religious
approach, but most of the timewhen I'd stop drinking alcohol
is I would just resist it.
I would fight the urge.
That's what we all do.
We're strong people.
You're a strong man, you're astrong lady.
You've built a good life,you've got a career, a family.
You've done a lot of things inyour life that have taken
(10:45):
willpower, maybe a degree, maybewhen you were younger, maybe
you were playing sport.
So surely I can apply the samelogic to my drinking problem.
Right, I'll just fight it, butI promise you one day the
willpower will run out, andthat's when we get this idea of
like oh do you know what?
Who cares?
The sixth reason why I failed tostop drinking alcohol more
times than I can count was notbecause life was going bad.
(11:06):
When I stopped drinking alcohol, life would start going in the
direction that I wanted it to goin.
Things would start improvingand the drinking wouldn't
necessarily come from a place ofpain.
More often than not, it wouldcome from a place of celebration
, of success, of ha, things aregoing well again, and that's the
one that we've got to look outfor, especially if you're doing
what I recommend on this channel, which is changing how you view
(11:28):
alcohol and then going towardsa better quality of life.
Because if you're doing that,if you are going towards a
better quality of life, thenyou'll get to a place where
things are going well.
You'll look at yourself in themirror, you know you'll have
lost some weight, your bankbalance will be looking much
more healthy, your relationshipswill be going better.
And listen, you just got to becareful of this because you've
got to remember this crucialfact Alcohol doesn't change.
(11:51):
It is the same drug that it wasbefore.
Nothing has changed about it.
It's got the same addictiveproperties.
And the most important thing torealise is that you will gain
nothing if you drink it Nothing.
If life is in a good place,then go and take your family out
for a meal.
Whatever you do, don't try andcelebrate with alcohol, because
if life is going well and you'venot been drinking alcohol,
guess what's to blame?
You not drinking, so don'tscrew it up.
(12:13):
Sorry to sound condescending,but I just want to look out for
you.
Thanks for checking out theStop Drinking Podcast by Sober
Clear.
If you want to learn more abouthow we work with people to help
them stop drinking effortlessly, then make sure to visit
wwwsoberclearcom.
Welcome to the Stop Drinking Podcast, where we help
you make stopping drinking asimple, logical and easy
decision.
We help you with tips, toolsand strategies to start living
your best life when alcohol-free.
If you want to learn more aboutstop drinking coaching, then
head over to wwwsoberclearcom.
(00:21):
So the very first reason why Ifailed to stop drinking alcohol
more times than I can count wasthis idea that I'll just have
one drink.
See, I failed to stop drinkingalcohol more times than I can
count.
I am not exaggerating.
I have got no idea how manytimes I've failed, but it has
been over a hundred for surebecause there were so many days
where I'd wake up and justpromise myself that's it, no
(00:43):
more, I'm never drinking again,that I've just lost count.
I do not know how many timesthat I've done that.
If we've not met yet, my nameis Leon Sylvester.
It's great to meet you.
I am the founder ofSoberClearcom, which is a
coaching company that helpsbusiness owners and
professionals get control oftheir drinking in as little as
24 hours.
Now, I know that sounds hard tobelieve, so if you click the
link down below, there's a freevideo training that you can
(01:03):
access.
It will explain the method.
It will explain the scientificrationale behind it.
It talks about a scientificreport that my company's
commissioned that's written byan academic psychologist.
You can also find that onGoogle Scholar.
We get a 96% success rate.
But if you want information onthat, go to SoberClear rehab
(01:27):
click the link down below.
But I just want you to knowthat I've been in your shoes.
I struggled for close to 10years and I've not drank now for
pretty much seven years.
I can't even remember when Istopped drinking, if it was June
, july, august.
I've got my date in some oldphone that's like put away.
I can't even remember because Idon't care.
I don't look at the days, I'mnot counting the days.
All I did was about seven yearsago is I made a decision and I
(01:50):
stuck with the decision.
However, during the 10 yearsthat I did drink, this idea of
having just one drink came up somany times.
A friend gives me a text Leonwant to go out for a beer.
I think, yeah, sure, a beersounds great and that is truly
what I thought I was going to do.
I'll go and drink a beer.
I think if I did that 100 times, maybe 95 times, I would have
(02:11):
continued drinking, maybe fivetimes out of 100, I would stop
at one beer, but justifying thisthing of having just one drink,
that was my go-to.
It was really rare that I'dplanned to go on a big binge.
It would just happen, and itwould all start with this idea
of having just a drink.
It caused many relapses.
You know, if I'd stoppeddrinking for a few weeks, a few
months, a few days, whateverthis idea of having just one
(02:32):
drink would bring me back.
But also when I wasn't sobothered about stopping drinking
and I was just drinking, thisidea of having just a drink
would then lead to more and itwould snowball.
And I really wasn't that guythat planned his entire life
around alcohol.
I know I've worked with peoplethat are like that.
I know, for people that mightbe a bit older than me, that's
what they do is.
They do plan their life aroundalcohol.
I didn't.
I always planned to have justone drink.
(02:53):
Anyway, let me get into thesecond reason.
The second reason why I failedto stop drinking more times than
I can count is that I used totell myself that this time, this
time of all times, is going tobe different.
This time something will change.
So what would happen is maybe,you know, I would have got three
months of not drinking, youknow, life would be going well
again.
And then this amazing ideawould just be given to me.
(03:16):
It would just come out of theblue oh, leon, maybe this time
is going to be different.
Maybe this time, of all theother times, the hundred other
times that you've drank andeffed your life up, maybe this
time will be different.
I'm mocking myself here, right?
I'm not trying to belittle youif you've gone through this as
well.
That's not my intention.
It was just this.
If I look back, like what was Ithinking?
This time is going to bedifferent.
The drug's not changed.
(03:36):
My perception's not changed.
It's still the same highly,highly addictive drug that most
of the adult population areaddicted to.
That kills 95,000 Americanseach year.
Millions of people die from itglobally.
The drug's not changed, butthis time is going to be
different.
I mean, it was a lie, right, andI probably knew in my heart
that it was an excuse, it wasn'ta reason to drink.
I don't know, I can't remember.
(03:57):
Maybe at the time I did believeit and that would just give me
that little push over the edgeto actually drink again.
But oh my gosh, that littlepush over the edge to actually
drink again.
But oh my gosh, I'm under noillusion these days.
If I drink again, it ain'tgoing to be different.
It's history repeats.
So I am so glad that I got overthat hurdle, because I've not
drank for seven years and guesswhat?
There ain't no going back now.
It ain't going to be differentif I drink again.
But the good thing about now isthat I feel more like I have a
(04:19):
choice.
I don't feel like I'm resistingor fighting the urge to not
drink anymore, because I'vereframed how I view alcohol,
which is what I help people doin my coaching company with this
YouTube channel.
It feels like a choice.
I don't resist, I don't fight.
There's no willpower, there areno cravings, I just don't want
to drink, which has completelyevaporated this idea that this
(04:40):
time is going to be different.
Anyway, number three, the thirdreason.
This one is huge, this one isgoing to be relevant to
everybody, but the sixth one,please stay.
Stick around to the very end ofthe video, because the sixth
one, that's one that most peopleare going to miss.
But the third thing that wouldbring me back to drinking was
this feeling of missing out.
What I mean by this is thisalways wouldn't be acute.
(05:00):
There was one time that Irelapsed at a New Year's Eve
party and that was when I feltan acute feeling of missing out.
So what I mean is that I was ata social event.
It was a New Year's Eve party.
I was in some private membersclub in London.
I'm not from London, I'm notfrom the city.
I was like 20 something at thetime.
I was not a member of this clubor anything like that, but I
went to this party because myfriend was a member.
He was doing much better inlife than I was and I felt like
(05:22):
what the heck am I doing here?
Right, I was just like someyoung university student that
was doing a personal trainingbusiness.
And I'm from a small town in thenorth of England.
I'm from a place called KirkhamVery small town, maybe it has,
I think it's like the populationmight be 7,000,.
Right, I'm from a pretty smallplace.
A lot of people ask, ask wheream I from?
Where is this accent from?
Well, I'm a Northerner, fromLancashire.
Anyway, back to the point.
(05:46):
I'm with this friend in London.
I go to this private membersclub.
It's a New Year's Eve party.
Everybody's dressed soextravagantly, everyone's having
a good time.
Of course they're having a goodtime.
It's New Year.
You're in the middle of London,in the middle of a city.
It was a blast, but I wasn'tdrinking.
But what?
I would look at everybodyhaving this good time.
I'd look around me.
You know, this table here, thattable here, this person stood
(06:06):
up dancing and what did they allhave in their hand?
They didn't have a bottle ofwater.
They all had alcohol in theirhand Champagne.
You see that table all laughingand joking.
There'd be a bottle ofchampagne in the middle and then
glasses all around and I gotthis acute feeling that I was
missing out on something.
So, even though I hadn't drankfor six, seven, eight months,
however long it had been, lifewas going well.
I got this huge feeling ofmissing out.
Boom, I'll just have one drink.
This time's going to bedifferent, but it came from this
(06:26):
feeling of missing out and ifyou can relate to that, I want
you to realize something thatyou are not missing out on
anything.
In hindsight, I was having agood time without it and they
were having a good time becauseit was New Year's and they're
with all their friends.
Who's not going to have a goodtime?
The alcohol added nothing to it.
But this FOMO, right?
This fear of missing out it'snot always acute, right?
It's not always like thesemassive moments of like.
(06:49):
I'm surrounded by alcohol.
Oh my gosh, why aren't Idrinking?
It doesn't usually go that way.
More often than not it canhappen while you're watching a
movie.
Right, you're sat there, yousee your favorite character pour
a drink.
There.
You see your favorite characterpour a drink and you're like I
stopped drinking, why can't I dothat?
Maybe you just see anadvertisement.
You walk past alcohol in theaisle in the store and you see
the alcohol and you're like Idon't drink, but I want to.
You ain't missing out onanything when you stop drinking
(07:10):
alcohol.
You have got nothing to missout on.
It is a poison, it is ethanoland it does nothing for you at
all.
And I'm not over-exaggeratingwhen I say this, I'm not saying
it like alcohol does give you 5%and is 95% bad.
No, it gives you nothing.
It's a poison, it is ethanol.
There is no advantage todrinking that drug.
But that feeling was so strongbecause I had never fixed the
(07:34):
way I viewed alcohol.
I still saw it as a good thing.
So I always felt like I wasmissing out.
That is a fixable problem.
If you can change the way youview alcohol, that feeling goes
away.
Anyway, number four, the fourthreason.
So this one came up, but nottoo many times.
But another thing that wouldcause me to fail was some sort
of emotional pain, maybe grief,maybe anger, maybe loneliness.
(07:58):
But one of the problems I hadwas that I wasn't sure how to
deal with negative emotionswithout turning to alcohol.
Now I say that alcohol has gotno benefits to it.
There is no question about it.
But if I was feeling lonely andI went to a bar and had a drink
and spoke to the waiter orwhatever, or the server or the
bartender, then it wouldalleviate some loneliness, but
(08:18):
not necessarily because I wasdrinking alcohol, but more
because I was going out.
If I was sat in a room on myown and just opened up a can of
beer and drank it, that's notgoing to alleviate loneliness.
But what it would have done isgiven me a moment of relief.
But that doesn't fix theemotion right.
That's not fixing anyloneliness that I would have
felt in that moment.
What was happening is this mightbe a little bit deep for this
(08:39):
video.
If you've read any stopdrinking books, this will make
sense to you, but that feelingof ah was actually the relieval
of withdrawal, and drinkingalcohol is a way to escape.
It gives you these moments ofrelief that last for a few
minutes, but isn't it crazy thatwe would exchange a few minutes
of relief to put us in an earlygrave, to drink a known
carcinogen, to drink the biggestsource of pain in our life, or
(09:01):
at least that's what I was doing, because it was the biggest
source of pain in my life?
We're doing something that wedon't want our children to do.
We don't want the people aroundus to do this.
Yet there we are doing it, andit just makes no sense.
It's a highly addictive drugthat does nothing for you.
It doesn't fix any problems.
If you're feeling negative, ifyou're feeling some emotional
pain, drinking alcohol is notgoing to fix that.
Now, I'll often talk on thisthing about how stopping
(09:24):
drinking in therapy there can bea link, but for most people
there's not really a link.
There's no need to see atherapist, there's no need to go
to the past, but in thisinstance, I see the value.
What I think is better, though,is that you fix your
relationship with alcohol.
First, you change the way thatyou view the drug and then, if
you've got things that you needto go and deal with and sit with
a therapist and get it outthere, you do it after you've
(09:44):
stopped drinking.
I don't see the link betweenthe two, but, anyway, maybe a
lot of people disagree with meon that.
Whatever, I'm just sharing whatworked for me, what's worked
for the people I've helped.
Let's get into number five.
The fifth reason was it was likethis feeling of just like.
Do you know what?
I don't give a, but I'd getthis feeling of just like.
(10:05):
I just don't care anymore.
What's the point?
And the reason why I would feelthis way is because I would
always struggle to not drink.
It would always be this fightand this battle right.
So when I felt that way,eventually it would be like the
willpower would just run out.
I'd be gritting through it,fighting this urge to not drink
alcohol, and eventually I'd justbe like do you know what?
I'm just throwing in the towel.
I'm giving up on giving up, I'mdrinking.
Who cares?
(10:25):
But that was always because Iwas taking the wrong approach to
not drink.
I was mostly using willpower,tried AA, tried the religious
approach, but most of the timewhen I'd stop drinking alcohol
is I would just resist it.
I would fight the urge.
That's what we all do.
We're strong people.
You're a strong man, you're astrong lady.
You've built a good life,you've got a career, a family.
You've done a lot of things inyour life that have taken
(10:45):
willpower, maybe a degree, maybewhen you were younger, maybe
you were playing sport.
So surely I can apply the samelogic to my drinking problem.
Right, I'll just fight it, butI promise you one day the
willpower will run out, andthat's when we get this idea of
like oh do you know what?
Who cares?
The sixth reason why I failed tostop drinking alcohol more
times than I can count was notbecause life was going bad.
(11:06):
When I stopped drinking alcohol, life would start going in the
direction that I wanted it to goin.
Things would start improvingand the drinking wouldn't
necessarily come from a place ofpain.
More often than not, it wouldcome from a place of celebration
, of success, of ha, things aregoing well again, and that's the
one that we've got to look outfor, especially if you're doing
what I recommend on this channel, which is changing how you view
(11:28):
alcohol and then going towardsa better quality of life.
Because if you're doing that,if you are going towards a
better quality of life, thenyou'll get to a place where
things are going well.
You'll look at yourself in themirror, you know you'll have
lost some weight, your bankbalance will be looking much
more healthy, your relationshipswill be going better.
And listen, you just got to becareful of this because you've
got to remember this crucialfact Alcohol doesn't change.
(11:51):
It is the same drug that it wasbefore.
Nothing has changed about it.
It's got the same addictiveproperties.
And the most important thing torealise is that you will gain
nothing if you drink it Nothing.
If life is in a good place,then go and take your family out
for a meal.
Whatever you do, don't try andcelebrate with alcohol, because
if life is going well and you'venot been drinking alcohol,
guess what's to blame?
You not drinking, so don'tscrew it up.
(12:13):
Sorry to sound condescending,but I just want to look out for
you.
Thanks for checking out theStop Drinking Podcast by Sober
Clear.
If you want to learn more abouthow we work with people to help
them stop drinking effortlessly, then make sure to visit
wwwsoberclearcom.
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