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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Stop Drinking Podcast, where we help
you make stopping drinking asimple, logical and easy
decision.
We help you with tips, toolsand strategies to start living
your best life when alcohol-free.
If you want to learn more aboutstop drinking coaching, then
head over to wwwsoberclearcom.
(00:21):
When it comes to stoppingdrinking alcohol, there are red
flags that you must not ignore,and I'm not here to point my
finger and say that you're a badperson or do anything weird.
I've been in your shoes.
I drank alcohol for the bestpart of 10 years and I haven't
touched a drop for the pastseven years, but these five red
flags are things that you cannotignore, please.
(00:42):
So just watch this entire video.
It could be the thing thatsaves your life.
And just so you know, I'm nothere to knock you down in any
way.
I have experienced all of thesethings in my own life when I
drank.
I've been in your shoes.
So the first flag and this wasthe cycle I spent the best part
of 10 years in See, the firstflag goes like this Maybe one
day you wake up and somethingbad has happened as a result of
(01:05):
your drinking.
I don't know, maybe it could bea really bad hangover.
Maybe you said something to thewrong person.
Maybe your wife's had enough ofyou, maybe your husband's had
enough of you.
Maybe you're looking in themirror.
You're thinking, where did allthis come from?
Like what's happening.
Maybe you just feel terrible,maybe it's worse, maybe it's a
major health scare and what endsup happening is we get these
(01:26):
negatives that start showing upin our life.
This happens to every drinker,by the way.
Just some people don't make therelation to alcohol and these
things.
But then you do something.
You tell yourself all right,you know what, I'm not going to
drink.
This is just ridiculous.
I'm drinking far too much.
I'm going to stop.
Or maybe you say I'm going tocut down.
Right, that's another big one.
I'm going to reduce my drinking, I'm going to slow things down,
and maybe you actually get abit of success with this.
(01:47):
Right, you do stop, you do cutdown.
I have done this myself so manytimes.
I've stopped drinking with justpure willpower for six, seven,
eight, nine months.
But then this little thoughtcomes back in out of nowhere and
, before you know it, I'mgetting this idea of having just
one drink, and then one turnsinto two, two turns into three,
and then, within a few weeks I'mback drinking things exactly
(02:08):
like they were before.
Sometimes I'm even drinkingmore than I did before.
But I've just done this so manytimes and if you're doing this
and if you're on this rollercoaster, it's a sign.
It's a sign that you need to dosomething different.
Now we'll unpack the other foursigns in a second, but if you
do want to do somethingdifferent, if you click the link
in the description, I've got afree video training that shows
you how I used a new method tocontrol alcohol in under 24
(02:32):
hours, and I did it without AA,without giving up my social life
.
I don't even get cravings, andthis has all been verified in
this scientific report.
My company recentlycommissioned an academic
psychologist to go and basicallycomb through our method.
Go and look at all thescientific literature.
This is a guy with publishedaddiction research, formerly
affiliated with the Universityof Oxford, and in the free video
training I actually show youhow our method works, because it
(02:54):
hasn't just worked for me, it'sworked for hundreds of others.
So if you want to learn how Iand thousands of other people
have used this totally newmethod to stop drinking alcohol
that has got scientificvalidation and is in alignment
with all the latest addictionresearch.
Just go ahead and click thelink down below.
You'll also get access to thereport and a bunch of other
things.
It'll blow you away.
But it isn't going to be aboutcalling you an alcoholic or
anything like that.
(03:14):
But let's get into that secondred flag.
So another major red flag isthe drinking is increasing,
right.
So let's say we're at a pointright now where it's slowly been
going up in time and maybe upuntil now it's not been that bad
, maybe it's kind of been okay.
You've been managing, You'vebeen that term that I hate the
functioning alcoholic.
(03:34):
A lot of people call themselvesthis functioning alcoholic and
they say to themselves businessis okay, the career is okay.
My wife, my husband, yeah,they're not so happy, but I'm
functioning, the career's okay.
You know, my wife, my husband,yeah, they're not so happy, but
you know I'm functioning.
But the second red flag is whenshifts start happening in your
health, and this can happen bothphysically and mentally.
So for me, what happened isphysically, I put on weight
(03:55):
right, I started lookingterrible, I started feeling
truly lethargic.
Physically, I had some healthscares.
You know, I went out on anempty stomach one night.
I drank I don't know how manydrinks like 10, 15 drinks
totally blacked out Anothermajor health scare blackouts.
And then I woke up the nextmorning having thrown up blood
on a computer and destroyed thiscomputer.
(04:16):
Right For me, I mean, listen,this is what I'm talking about
and it might not be that bad foryou, right?
You might not have had thatmajor health scare.
Do you need to wait for it toget that bad cirrhosis of the
liver?
Do you need to wait till then?
I don't think so.
But you might be noticingsmaller signs Energy, right.
Sleep, suffering.
But then also you might benoticing changes in your mental
(04:38):
health.
You just might not be feelingthe same.
You might be feeling moreanxious, right?
What about that anxiety?
That was a big thing for meWhenever I drank the day after.
Oh, the anxiety would kill me.
I'd be crippled by it.
Maybe you're just feeling downand slightly depressed.
But if these things are startingto happen, it's just another
sign and it's okay.
I've been there.
But don't ignore it, don't justbrush it off like it's a
(05:00):
natural part of life.
If you're drinking alcohol,it's probably to blame, not
definitely, right?
I can't say that for sure.
This is not medical advice, butthere's a pretty good chance
that alcohol is to blame for alot of these health problems.
For me it was obvious.
There was no question about it.
Now number three.
So again, this was massive inmy own life.
So I really just want toempathize with you.
(05:22):
I really don't want this videoto come across as condescending
in any way.
I really just want to kind ofalmost be like your friend and
have a conversation with youthat most people around you
probably aren't willing to havewith you.
That's the whole point of thisvideo.
But if you're in a place rightnow where you are drinking but
the people in your life who areimportant to you are starting to
notice, then it's a sign right.
(05:42):
If your family are gettingupset your kids, maybe it's your
spouse, maybe it's your friendsIf the people you love are
really showing concern and therelationships are almost
starting to strain in a way,then this is a red flag.
Now the thing is is I don'tknow where you're at exactly
right now.
I've worked with people in mycoaching program Sober Clear.
(06:03):
I've worked with people wherethe relationship with their
partner was on the rocks andthey managed to turn it around.
But I've also worked withpeople who, certain
relationships have gone so farbeyond repair because of
drinking alcohol that there wasnothing they could do.
And the only thing you can dofor yourself is, if
relationships are straining is,whatever you do, don't go
apologizing.
Don't go, you know, begging forforgiveness.
(06:24):
Don't tell them you're going tochange and fix everything.
The only thing you can do islead through action, because, if
you're anything like me, I havemade a promise to stop drinking
alcohol to my friends andfamily countless times and they
don't want to hear it.
They want to see the change.
So if your relationships arestraining, stop talking to them
about it and do something aboutit.
I don't know what you need todo.
I don't know what the exactroute for you is, but do
(06:47):
something.
Get rid of alcohol, change theway that you view it, remove it
from your life and show themthat you've changed.
See, if you ever go toAlcoholics Anonymous, they'll
always talk about makingamendments to people.
You've got to do this massiveinventory and then go and like,
write letters to people, paypeople money back.
You've got to go and do all ofthis stuff.
But what I think is much betteris you just stop drinking.
That's all they want to see andthen, rather than going and
(07:10):
apologizing and doing that stuffI'm not saying there's anything
wrong with that, but what theywant to see is the relationships
that are straining, is theywant to see you become the
person that you are supposed tobe, not the one that's drinking,
not the one that's doingwhatever they're doing right now
.
They want to see you become theleader, become the role model.
That's what they want.
So the fourth red flag and thefourth thing I wanted to unpack
is that I don't know whereyou're at in life right now.
(07:32):
You could be successful, youcould have money, you could have
a career Maybe not, but youcould be in a place right now
You're doing okay, like I saidthat, functioning alcoholic.
By the way, I don't buy intothis term alcoholic at all.
I've got a million other videoswhere I talk about this, but
people use this term a lot.
That's why I'm going like this.
But if you are drinking and ifyou really get honest with
(07:55):
yourself and just analyze thesituation and look at your life,
if you know deep down thatyou're not living up to your
true potential, it is a flag andfor me, this was the biggest
flag of all.
I've told this story many times, but my biggest fear is getting
to my deathbed and it's beingthere and being alone.
It's reflecting on my life andthinking I wasted it.
(08:16):
Like what a waste of a life.
All that potential is gone.
I mean, there's this famousquote by Les Brown.
He says that the richest placein the world is the graveyard.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
The wealthest place on the planet is not in the four
east, where there's oil in theground.
It's not in South Africa, wherethere are diamond mines.
It's that the wealth is placedon the planet is the cemetery.
There you find potential neverrealized.
There you find dreams neverpursued.
There you find people allowthemselves to be imprisoned by
fear and living a small life.
Maybe that's why one womanasked in a moment of anguish
(08:45):
what if you live your whole lifeonly to discover it was wrong?
Maybe that's why Henry DavidThoreau said oh God, to reach
the point of death only torealize that you've never lived,
only to realize that you'venever scraped the surface of
your potential.
Let us say together live fulldie empty.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
But if you feel like you're not living up to your
potential, here's a question toask yourself If you got bad news
tomorrow and you had six monthsleft to live, would you be
happy with the progress thatyou've made?
Maybe you would be, I don'tknow.
I can't answer that for you,but I know that when I was
drinking alcohol, if I got askedthat question, it would have
sent shivers down my spine andit still does to this day
(09:28):
because there's still so much Iwant to do.
But when I was drinking alcohol, there was no way I'd ever live
up to my potential.
Now the fifth and final flagand this is totally okay if you
feel this way, but the fifth andfinal flag is that the thought
of stopping drinking fills youwith fear.
You're afraid of how you'regoing to deal with your
relationships.
You're afraid of how you'regoing to deal with stress, how
you're going to deal withcertain situations.
(09:49):
If you're feeling that way,that is totally normal.
And if you're not sure what todo, all I'd urge you to do again
is click the link in thedescription.
You've got to learn about howI've used this new method and
how I've shown it to thousandsof people already Go and check
out the scientific report,because this is all about
reframing the way that you viewalcohol.
It's about providing you with asystem.
There's nothing for sale on thevideo, so just go and click the
(10:10):
link down below.
You've got to watch that video.
Next let's get this problemsolved.
I'll speak with you soon.
Thanks for checking out theStop Drinking Podcast by Sober
Clear.
If you want to learn more abouthow we work with people to help
them stop drinking effortlessly, then make sure to visit
wwwsoberclearcom.
Welcome to the Stop Drinking Podcast, where we help
you make stopping drinking asimple, logical and easy
decision.
We help you with tips, toolsand strategies to start living
your best life when alcohol-free.
If you want to learn more aboutstop drinking coaching, then
head over to wwwsoberclearcom.
(00:21):
When it comes to stoppingdrinking alcohol, there are red
flags that you must not ignore,and I'm not here to point my
finger and say that you're a badperson or do anything weird.
I've been in your shoes.
I drank alcohol for the bestpart of 10 years and I haven't
touched a drop for the pastseven years, but these five red
flags are things that you cannotignore, please.
(00:42):
So just watch this entire video.
It could be the thing thatsaves your life.
And just so you know, I'm nothere to knock you down in any
way.
I have experienced all of thesethings in my own life when I
drank.
I've been in your shoes.
So the first flag and this wasthe cycle I spent the best part
of 10 years in See, the firstflag goes like this Maybe one
day you wake up and somethingbad has happened as a result of
(01:05):
your drinking.
I don't know, maybe it could bea really bad hangover.
Maybe you said something to thewrong person.
Maybe your wife's had enough ofyou, maybe your husband's had
enough of you.
Maybe you're looking in themirror.
You're thinking, where did allthis come from?
Like what's happening.
Maybe you just feel terrible,maybe it's worse, maybe it's a
major health scare and what endsup happening is we get these
(01:26):
negatives that start showing upin our life.
This happens to every drinker,by the way.
Just some people don't make therelation to alcohol and these
things.
But then you do something.
You tell yourself all right,you know what, I'm not going to
drink.
This is just ridiculous.
I'm drinking far too much.
I'm going to stop.
Or maybe you say I'm going tocut down.
Right, that's another big one.
I'm going to reduce my drinking, I'm going to slow things down,
and maybe you actually get abit of success with this.
(01:47):
Right, you do stop, you do cutdown.
I have done this myself so manytimes.
I've stopped drinking with justpure willpower for six, seven,
eight, nine months.
But then this little thoughtcomes back in out of nowhere and
, before you know it, I'mgetting this idea of having just
one drink, and then one turnsinto two, two turns into three,
and then, within a few weeks I'mback drinking things exactly
(02:08):
like they were before.
Sometimes I'm even drinkingmore than I did before.
But I've just done this so manytimes and if you're doing this
and if you're on this rollercoaster, it's a sign.
It's a sign that you need to dosomething different.
Now we'll unpack the other foursigns in a second, but if you
do want to do somethingdifferent, if you click the link
in the description, I've got afree video training that shows
you how I used a new method tocontrol alcohol in under 24
(02:32):
hours, and I did it without AA,without giving up my social life
.
I don't even get cravings, andthis has all been verified in
this scientific report.
My company recentlycommissioned an academic
psychologist to go and basicallycomb through our method.
Go and look at all thescientific literature.
This is a guy with publishedaddiction research, formerly
affiliated with the Universityof Oxford, and in the free video
training I actually show youhow our method works, because it
(02:54):
hasn't just worked for me, it'sworked for hundreds of others.
So if you want to learn how Iand thousands of other people
have used this totally newmethod to stop drinking alcohol
that has got scientificvalidation and is in alignment
with all the latest addictionresearch.
Just go ahead and click thelink down below.
You'll also get access to thereport and a bunch of other
things.
It'll blow you away.
But it isn't going to be aboutcalling you an alcoholic or
anything like that.
(03:14):
But let's get into that secondred flag.
So another major red flag isthe drinking is increasing,
right.
So let's say we're at a pointright now where it's slowly been
going up in time and maybe upuntil now it's not been that bad
, maybe it's kind of been okay.
You've been managing, You'vebeen that term that I hate the
functioning alcoholic.
(03:34):
A lot of people call themselvesthis functioning alcoholic and
they say to themselves businessis okay, the career is okay.
My wife, my husband, yeah,they're not so happy, but I'm
functioning, the career's okay.
You know, my wife, my husband,yeah, they're not so happy, but
you know I'm functioning.
But the second red flag is whenshifts start happening in your
health, and this can happen bothphysically and mentally.
So for me, what happened isphysically, I put on weight
(03:55):
right, I started lookingterrible, I started feeling
truly lethargic.
Physically, I had some healthscares.
You know, I went out on anempty stomach one night.
I drank I don't know how manydrinks like 10, 15 drinks
totally blacked out Anothermajor health scare blackouts.
And then I woke up the nextmorning having thrown up blood
on a computer and destroyed thiscomputer.
(04:16):
Right For me, I mean, listen,this is what I'm talking about
and it might not be that bad foryou, right?
You might not have had thatmajor health scare.
Do you need to wait for it toget that bad cirrhosis of the
liver?
Do you need to wait till then?
I don't think so.
But you might be noticingsmaller signs Energy, right.
Sleep, suffering.
But then also you might benoticing changes in your mental
(04:38):
health.
You just might not be feelingthe same.
You might be feeling moreanxious, right?
What about that anxiety?
That was a big thing for meWhenever I drank the day after.
Oh, the anxiety would kill me.
I'd be crippled by it.
Maybe you're just feeling downand slightly depressed.
But if these things are startingto happen, it's just another
sign and it's okay.
I've been there.
But don't ignore it, don't justbrush it off like it's a
(05:00):
natural part of life.
If you're drinking alcohol,it's probably to blame, not
definitely, right?
I can't say that for sure.
This is not medical advice, butthere's a pretty good chance
that alcohol is to blame for alot of these health problems.
For me it was obvious.
There was no question about it.
Now number three.
So again, this was massive inmy own life.
So I really just want toempathize with you.
(05:22):
I really don't want this videoto come across as condescending
in any way.
I really just want to kind ofalmost be like your friend and
have a conversation with youthat most people around you
probably aren't willing to havewith you.
That's the whole point of thisvideo.
But if you're in a place rightnow where you are drinking but
the people in your life who areimportant to you are starting to
notice, then it's a sign right.
(05:42):
If your family are gettingupset your kids, maybe it's your
spouse, maybe it's your friendsIf the people you love are
really showing concern and therelationships are almost
starting to strain in a way,then this is a red flag.
Now the thing is is I don'tknow where you're at exactly
right now.
I've worked with people in mycoaching program Sober Clear.
(06:03):
I've worked with people wherethe relationship with their
partner was on the rocks andthey managed to turn it around.
But I've also worked withpeople who, certain
relationships have gone so farbeyond repair because of
drinking alcohol that there wasnothing they could do.
And the only thing you can dofor yourself is, if
relationships are straining is,whatever you do, don't go
apologizing.
Don't go, you know, begging forforgiveness.
(06:24):
Don't tell them you're going tochange and fix everything.
The only thing you can do islead through action, because, if
you're anything like me, I havemade a promise to stop drinking
alcohol to my friends andfamily countless times and they
don't want to hear it.
They want to see the change.
So if your relationships arestraining, stop talking to them
about it and do something aboutit.
I don't know what you need todo.
I don't know what the exactroute for you is, but do
(06:47):
something.
Get rid of alcohol, change theway that you view it, remove it
from your life and show themthat you've changed.
See, if you ever go toAlcoholics Anonymous, they'll
always talk about makingamendments to people.
You've got to do this massiveinventory and then go and like,
write letters to people, paypeople money back.
You've got to go and do all ofthis stuff.
But what I think is much betteris you just stop drinking.
That's all they want to see andthen, rather than going and
(07:10):
apologizing and doing that stuffI'm not saying there's anything
wrong with that, but what theywant to see is the relationships
that are straining, is theywant to see you become the
person that you are supposed tobe, not the one that's drinking,
not the one that's doingwhatever they're doing right now
.
They want to see you become theleader, become the role model.
That's what they want.
So the fourth red flag and thefourth thing I wanted to unpack
is that I don't know whereyou're at in life right now.
(07:32):
You could be successful, youcould have money, you could have
a career Maybe not, but youcould be in a place right now
You're doing okay, like I saidthat, functioning alcoholic.
By the way, I don't buy intothis term alcoholic at all.
I've got a million other videoswhere I talk about this, but
people use this term a lot.
That's why I'm going like this.
But if you are drinking and ifyou really get honest with
(07:55):
yourself and just analyze thesituation and look at your life,
if you know deep down thatyou're not living up to your
true potential, it is a flag andfor me, this was the biggest
flag of all.
I've told this story many times, but my biggest fear is getting
to my deathbed and it's beingthere and being alone.
It's reflecting on my life andthinking I wasted it.
(08:16):
Like what a waste of a life.
All that potential is gone.
I mean, there's this famousquote by Les Brown.
He says that the richest placein the world is the graveyard.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
The wealthest place on the planet is not in the four
east, where there's oil in theground.
It's not in South Africa, wherethere are diamond mines.
It's that the wealth is placedon the planet is the cemetery.
There you find potential neverrealized.
There you find dreams neverpursued.
There you find people allowthemselves to be imprisoned by
fear and living a small life.
Maybe that's why one womanasked in a moment of anguish
(08:45):
what if you live your whole lifeonly to discover it was wrong?
Maybe that's why Henry DavidThoreau said oh God, to reach
the point of death only torealize that you've never lived,
only to realize that you'venever scraped the surface of
your potential.
Let us say together live fulldie empty.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
But if you feel like you're not living up to your
potential, here's a question toask yourself If you got bad news
tomorrow and you had six monthsleft to live, would you be
happy with the progress thatyou've made?
Maybe you would be, I don'tknow.
I can't answer that for you,but I know that when I was
drinking alcohol, if I got askedthat question, it would have
sent shivers down my spine andit still does to this day
(09:28):
because there's still so much Iwant to do.
But when I was drinking alcohol, there was no way I'd ever live
up to my potential.
Now the fifth and final flagand this is totally okay if you
feel this way, but the fifth andfinal flag is that the thought
of stopping drinking fills youwith fear.
You're afraid of how you'regoing to deal with your
relationships.
You're afraid of how you'regoing to deal with stress, how
you're going to deal withcertain situations.
(09:49):
If you're feeling that way,that is totally normal.
And if you're not sure what todo, all I'd urge you to do again
is click the link in thedescription.
You've got to learn about howI've used this new method and
how I've shown it to thousandsof people already Go and check
out the scientific report,because this is all about
reframing the way that you viewalcohol.
It's about providing you with asystem.
There's nothing for sale on thevideo, so just go and click the
(10:10):
link down below.
You've got to watch that video.
Next let's get this problemsolved.
I'll speak with you soon.
Thanks for checking out theStop Drinking Podcast by Sober
Clear.
If you want to learn more abouthow we work with people to help
them stop drinking effortlessly, then make sure to visit
wwwsoberclearcom.
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