The Sad Reality of “Alcoholics” and Recovery…

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Stop Drinking Podcast, where we help
you make stopping drinking asimple, logical and easy
decision.
We help you with tips, toolsand strategies to start living
your best life when alcohol-free.
If you want to learn more aboutstop drinking coaching, then
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So let's talk about recovery,alcoholism and sobriety.
I've not drank for seven years,but I actually only spent 90
days in recovery.
Now that might soundcontradictory, but I'm going to
give you a totally differentworldview today.
I'm going to show you analternative method to looking at
this idea of recovering, andI'm going to get hate for this

(00:42):
video.
A lot of people are going todisagree with it People that go
to AA, 12-step people.
They're not going to like thisvideo, but I don't care.
All I'm doing on this channelis showing what's worked for me
for the past seven years, what'sworked for the tens of
thousands of people who havehelped on this channel, who have
messaged me, emailed me, leftcomments, and the hundreds of
private clients who have helpedstop drinking.
All I'm doing is sharing what'sworked for me and them.

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This isn't for everybody.
If you go to 12 Steps, you'reprobably not going to like this
video.
In fact, my mum's been to AAfor over 20 years and if I sent
her this video, she's going todisagree, and that's okay.
Different strokes for differentfolks.
My way's not perfect foreverybody, the same way that AA
is not perfect for everybody.
But I want to give you atotally different way to view
this topic of recovering.
So I struggled with alcohol foraround about 10 years and there

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was a period of my life where Iwent to Alcoholics Anonymous and
I'm not going to lie I stoppeddrinking.
For those 90 days that Iattended, I didn't drink and I
did the step work.
I did the 12 steps.
I said that I was powerlessover alcohol.
I gave myself up to a higherpower.
I've got no problem with doingthat.
If I think it'll help, I'll doanything.
When I was drinking alcohol, Iwas desperate.
So if there's people that aredoing something that's working,

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I'll give it a go.
But I stopped going to meetingsbecause I hated this idea that
I had this disease with no knowncure.
This is what I got toldAlcoholism, being an alcoholic,
is a disease with no known cureand the only solution to this
was to have to go to thesemeetings for the best of my life
.
I'm a logical person.
I like science.
I also believe in God and,believe it or not, those two
things can exist at the sametime.
So when I saw the only solutionto stopping drinking was to beg
God to help me and do thismoral inventory and then go to

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these meetings forever, I justcouldn't buy into it.
So I don't drink.
But I believed I was recoveringand I was in recovery.
And now I don't believe this atall.
In fact, I don't believe inthis idea of being a recovering
alcoholic and I'm going to breakit down.
So what's the problem here?
Why do people say that they arein recovery?
What do we recover fromDiseases?
A few years ago I was in KohSamui in Thailand, beautiful,

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beautiful island, and we werestaying in a villa that was in a
rural part, beautiful villa.
We had some friends with us andwe went to a CrossFit gym.
Now this CrossFit gym was inthe jungle right.
It was right next to this thick, dense forest and luckily for
me is I trained with no top onand I must have had 15 mosquito
bites on my back.
I got home and I didn't feelgreat and I remember texting my

(02:58):
friend I think those mosquitobites got me and he said yeah,
shut up, nothing wrong with you.
Turns out, this friend of minewasn't right.
I got dengue fever and this is apretty nasty illness.
Like it can kill you.
If it develops into severedengue, there's a pretty high
chance that you die.
It may be five or 10%, but Igot this dengue fever.
Luckily it wasn't severe and Irecovered.
What I am no longer doing isrecovering from dengue fever.

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I have recovered, my body isrepaired and it is finished.
I don't think that I am arecovering dengue feveraholic
for the rest of my life.
No, I recovered from thisdisease and that was it.
Now, when we meet people andthey say that I'm in recovery,
we know what they're talkingabout.
We know that they're recoveringfrom some alcohol addiction or
drug addiction.
But how many times have you metsomebody that has gone through

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this recovery approach to thentell you that they are recovered
?
So what does this mean?
You're recovering for the restof your life.
You never fully recover.
In fact, you die withoutrecovering.
And this is the thing is, ifyou're in recovery, you're
buying into this disease modelof addiction.
It's a disease, it's a problemwith you and there's no known
cure.
And if that works for you andyou believe this and you go to

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12 steps and you don't drink,then just turn off this video.
I promise you it's not for you.
But if that just makes no senseto you, if you feel like that's
just insanity, then that's howI felt.
And the real problem is, theonly solution to being in
recovery is to continue going tomeetings and it's fine.
I'm not saying that that's abad thing.
If it's working for people,it's working for them.
Who am I to judge?

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But, as somebody who has spokenwith probably 3,000 people who
have got a drinking problem andwhose message has been viewed
now by over 21 million people,in fact, even more.
If I include Instagram, there'sprobably another 10 million
people that have viewed my stuffthere.
If you ask me, this idea ofrecovering for the rest of your
life is probably time for it togo.
In 2025 and beyond, people arewaking up.
See, when you believe that youare the problem, not alcohol,

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you can never truly be fixed,whereas what I recommend doing,
what I did, what I help peopledo is we separate the two.
They're not interlinked.
You got addicted.
If you drink alcohol, you aredrinking something that
dehydrates you, that lowers yourinhibitions and you've been
conditioned to see it a veryspecific way.
That's got nothing to do withyou as a person If you drink one
of the most addictive drugsknown to mankind.

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It has got nothing to do withthe way that you're designed.
It's the way alcohol isdesigned.
So this idea that you're inrecovery for the rest of your
life I don't want to discouragepeople if they're finding
success with that approach, butthere has to be a better way and
in fact there is a better way.
See, technically you arerecovering in some fashion when
you do stop drinking.
But the term recovery, it's toomuch of a blanket statement

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that we just throw out.
What your body is doing ishealing.
There's no doubt about this.
I can see where the phrase camefrom recovery.
Your organs do recover.
Your brain does recover.
Your dopamine levels do recover.
But hear what I'm saying herethey recover.
Your organs don't stay inrecovery for the rest of your
life.
Well, technically they may doin some very small fashion.
But if you're able to decide tostop drinking and you've built

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a paradigm where you see alcoholfor what it is, with no benefit
whatsoever, the problem'ssolved.
I say this to people If youmake a true decision to stop
drinking alcohol, benefitwhatsoever, the problem's solved
.
I say this to people If youmake a true decision to stop
drinking alcohol, it makes nodifference if you're on day zero
or day 10,000.
It doesn't matter.
And the people who I work with,when they make that decision,
when they've built that paradigmwhere they see alcohol for what
it is, I explain to them that,wow, you're on day 14, but it

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makes no difference.
We're the same, we've just madethe same decision and that's it
.
We're moving on with our life.
Think about cigarettes, right?
People that stop smokingcigarettes.
I used to smoke cigarettes.
They stop smoking cigarettes.
They don't think of themselvesas a recovering smoker for the
rest of their life.
They don't go and say, oh, I'min recovery from my cigarette
addiction.
It never happens.
They make a decision to stopconsuming a drug and move on.

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But alcohol is in its own camp.
Think about people that have anaddiction to internet
pornography.
Are they walking around, going,oh, I'm recovering from my porn
addiction?
No, they move past it.
And the big problem with thisrecovery idea is that it's past
focused.
It's all focused on the past.
And sure, your body needs toheal, which will happen in the
present moment.
But then, instead of recovering, what we need to do instead is

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rebuild.
Imagine that.
Imagine, rather than somebodysay, yeah, I'm in recovery, no,
I'm rebuilding my life.
I'm future focused, I'mfocusing on what's in front of
me.
Yeah, sure, what happenedhappened.
It's in the past.
Now I'm moving on.
I've made a decision.
It's out of my life.
It's 10 times more powerful.
Listen, at the end of the day,my mum is in recovery.
She has not drank for over 20years.
The way I'm talking is veryblack and white because I'm

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trying to share what worked forme and worked for the people who
I've helped.
But I do believe, over the next10 to 20 years, that this
paradigm will slowly startchanging and what I hope will
happen is it evolves fromrecovery to rebuilding.
Because when you startrebuilding your life, you're not
sitting in a circle talkingabout how much you used to drink
and trying to recover forever.
No, you're present for yourfamily, you're getting back to

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the gym, you're working on yourfitness, your career, your
business, you're making moremoney, you're more spiritual.
All good things happen.
When we rebuild, when we'rerecovering for the rest of our
life, then we're never reallyfocused on what's next.
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