This is why you'll never quit alcohol (i'm sorry)

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:01):
Welcome to the Stop Drinking Podcast, where we help
you make stopping drinking asimple, logical and easy
decision.
We help you with tips, toolsand strategies to start living
your best life when alcohol-free.
If you want to learn more aboutstop drinking coaching, then
head over to wwwsoberclearcom.

(00:22):
Listen.
The reason why you can't stopdrinking alcohol isn't what you
think.
It's not that you don't haveenough willpower.
It's not that you're going toget a craving and then drink.
It's nothing like that.
See, all of these things arejust symptoms.
The root cause of why you can'tstop drinking alcohol goes so
much deeper and, after notdrinking myself for over six
years and working with over 400clients, I have seen a pattern.

(00:44):
I have seen this happen timeand time again, and right now,
whether you've already stoppeddrinking alcohol or you're
thinking of stopping drinking,it doesn't really matter.
I'm going to give you asolution in this video that will
change your life forever.
So what happens when somebodystops drinking?
Well, people stop drinkingbecause of pain.
That's what spurs people intoaction.
If alcohol doesn't causesomebody pain, it's very rare

(01:06):
that they actually stop drinking.
But for most people, they drinkand drink more and more and
more, and then eventuallyalcohol causes pain.
They feel bad, they might haveput weight on, they might have
had a really bad hangover.
Something bad happens and itspurs them into action.
I'm sure you can agree withthat.
So then what happens next?
Well, they might stop.
They might stop for two weeks,they might stop for two months,
and good things then starthappening.

(01:28):
Most people that stop drinking.
They feel way better.
They feel more energy, theyfeel more clarity, they feel
like they're getting fitter.
Relationships start improving,self-confidence starts improving
.
Things just start moving in theright direction again.
But then something happens.
There's a roadblock.
People get to a place whenthey're not drinking, when
things are pretty good.
I've done this so many times.
I've stopped for two weeks, fortwo months, and life's going

(01:50):
well.
And then one day, out ofnowhere, this idea comes into my
head.
This thought just goes boop andit goes.
Leon, life's going well now.
You're doing great, you're fit,you're healthy.
Just, things are going in theright direction.
So, leon, why don't you have adrink?
See, most of us think that we'regoing to start drinking again
because we're in a bad place.
Right?
Maybe, I don't know.
Something bad happens in ourlife and we want to escape those

(02:11):
bad emotions with the drink andthat's what leads us back to
drinking.
But from my experience that wasnever the case.
I'd start drinking againbecause things were going so
well See, those first two weeks,three weeks, four weeks that
we're stopping.
It can be quite easy, becausethe thing is is that we've got a
reference point of the painthat we were in and as soon as
we remove alcohol right, becausealcohol is a toxic poison

(02:31):
that's just literally damagingevery cell it comes into contact
with of course we're going tofeel better.
But because that period of painand stopping were so close to
each other, we have a very clearpoint of contrast.
We remember how bad it was andwe just know how much better we
feel compared to before.
But then something switches.
It's almost like we forget.
We forget the pain and then allwe think about were the good

(02:51):
times.
And then we rationalize it toourselves.
We think, yeah, it's going tobe different this time.
We could just have one or twotonight and that's it.
And we know how it goes right.
I've gone through this cycle somany times.
I forget the pain, life goesgood again, I drink, and then
this cycle repeats.
That was my life.
It was a roller coaster for 10years.
So how did I fix it?
How did I stop this cycle?

(03:16):
Well, the answer is so simple.
It's right in front of youreyes.
The thing is is pain is notenough.
Just using pain can get usgoing I'm not denying that.
But the pain alcohol causeswill one day subside.
We will get to a place in two,four, five weeks, however long
it is where we've totallyforgotten about it and things
have just leveled off andnormalized.
We're just feeling good.
So there's two things that youneed to do.
The first is never forget.
I'm not saying you should focuson the past and think about all

(03:38):
the bad things that havehappened, but just you can't
forget this pain.
A good thing you can do is justjournal, right.
Just write down why you want todo this and then later on in
your journey you can reflect onthose reasons.
For example, if you stopdrinking because your wife
doesn't like it and your wife'supset with you, and then a month
down the road, she's happyagain, that's when we can get
this great idea to drink again,and because your wife's fine and

(03:59):
everything's going well, youthink why not?
But then if you look back atyour list and you remember oh
wait, like it was just a monthago and she was on the verge of
leaving me.
It can just snap you out of it,but the problem is is the pain
is not enough.
See, the real solution to all ofthis is having a conversation
with yourself and getting realand really asking yourself are
you going to achieve the lifethat you want with alcohol in it

(04:20):
?
I know without a shadow of adoubt.
There is no way I will live thelife of my dreams when I drink.
I won't have the business Iwant.
I won't have the health that Iwant.
Nothing will happen if Icontinue drinking.
So now, rather than me runningaway from the pain that alcohol
caused now, there's almost afuture pain of my decision to
drink in the present moment.
If I drink, I'll never reachwhat I want tomorrow.
That's why having a vision foryour life, knowing what

(04:42):
direction you want things to goin, is so important.
It can't just be about stoppingdrinking because you got a
hangover one day or you're justsick and tired of it.
It doesn't work.
It works for a short period oftime, but that voice in your
head will always bring you back.
So if I were you, I'd transportmyself 10 years into the future
and I'd create a vision of howlife is, and I'd create an ideal
vision of how life could be in10 years.

(05:04):
What does your family life looklike?
What does your health look like, your business, your home?
And then I'd get real withmyself and ask myself if I drink
alcohol, am I seriously goingto get there?
If you're anything like me, theanswer is no and that's okay.
I'm okay with that because Idon't want to drink anyway,
because I know it gives me.
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