May 3, 2024 • 29 mins
OUR FINAL EPISODE!
As the sun sets on one chapter of our podcast, we welcome the dawn of another with open arms and reflective hearts. Today's episode is a tapestry of farewells and fresh starts, a celebration of Jace's and Kristelle's journey together and the anticipation of what lies ahead. We're raising a toast to the memories and milestones that have shaped our narrative, and as we turn the page, we invite you to join us in asking "how will I know I lived a good and successful life?"
It's an intimate look at the emotional fibers that bind us and the imprints we hope to leave behind. Jace and Kristelle don't shy away from the weighty topics of mortality and the echoes we wish to resonate through time; instead, we face them head-on with a blend of humor and sincerity that feels like a chat among friends.
We shed light on the nuanced textures of relationships and the power of shared experiences. As we close this session, we extend an invitation to you, our listeners, to ponder the narrative of your own life's journey. Join us as we share these personal reflections and welcome your participation in the ongoing conversation of Stories, Success & Stuff.
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Hosted by Kristelle Siarza Moon & Jace Downey
Executive Producer: Kristelle Siarza Moon
Producer: Jace Downey
Video/Editing: Justin Otsuka
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It's the end of an era.
I always, I'm always like thewomen from Sex and the City you
leave the party when it's stillpopping.
You never want to be the closeddown crew.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Oh, I'm like the throw the party type of, do I?
One of those is that.
Is there a reference in therefor that?
No, unfortunately I wasn't afan of the show.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
No, so this will be the last episode.
It will be.
Congratulations on your success, thank you.
Jace is going to be leavingSierza, and we wish her nothing
but the best.
And not only do we wish hernothing but the best, we're
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incredibly supportive of thisnew role that you're going to be
taking.
I'm not going anywhere, never.
Uh, I'm not going anywhere, umI'm not going anywhere um
justin's not going anywhere?
um, at least I hope not umjustin will be doing a whole
monologue in the post credits,by the way.
Uh, so he can finally get that,that video time that scream
(01:02):
time he's always wanted yeah, um, you know there's there's a
couple different factors that wethought about story success and
stuff.
Um, the original show wasdesigned with crystal siarza,
moon and friends.
At the time it was crystalsiarza and friends so much has
happened yeah, so much hashappened um.
This has been a reallyemotional way to kind of
(01:24):
preserve my memoirs, I guess.
It sounds so weird and to shareJace's talents on multiple
different ways.
It's kind of like Netflix,though.
They always like to change uptheir content and they always
like to provide viewers withdifferent angles and different
stories and different actors anddifferent scenes.
So we are taking a step back,but I just didn't feel I
(01:48):
personally didn't feel thatstory, success and stuff could
continue without you, andespecially on your new journey.
I wanted you to completelyfocus on your new journey, and
CR also focuses on just pivotingthe content in a different way.
So I wanted to give you yourthoughts on our last episode and
I'll close it out from here,but any thoughts on today's
(02:11):
episode.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
I love this episode.
It's actually one of myfavorite episodes that we did.
It certainly got me thinking.
I hope it'll get you allthinking as well, and that this
will be a question you answerfor yourselves, as we did for
ours.
And as I look at my time here mytime with you and and the team
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I am, I feel confident that Ithat I led a good life here and
that it was it was.
It came in at the perfect timefor me in my life, and this
podcast has been such a blastand what a weird and unique
experience to get to do apodcast with the CEO of your
company and learn so much aboutyou on a personal level, from
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your vulnerability and yourtransparency, which you've been
so dedicated to, that so manypeople in your position would be
terrified to do.
So I really commend you foryour willingness to do that, to
speak on things that otheragency owners, other CEOs, just
never would.
I know that the audience hasappreciated it as well, and this
is one of my favorite episodesthat we've done, so I hope you
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guys enjoy it For sure.
And just a personal thank you toyou for letting me do this, to
Justin for always making itabsolutely incredible and a
total blast and, of course, tothe viewers and the listeners
who have allowed us to to comebe our wacky, wonderful selves
here every week.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
Absolutely, and Jace has brought a level to the show
that has been not onlyauthentically herself, um, but
you've brought, as many peoplehave told me, she's the voice of
reason that I didn't realize Ineeded, um.
So, just with the way that yourapproach, with the, the
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sassiness, the excitement, thefailures, the successes, um, I
will miss that very much.
The show will very much evolve,though.
Some really exciting news onCR's front Just because the
(04:18):
episode won't be filming any newepisodes, we definitely intend
to keep it up, especially sincethere's such good content that's
out there because of it and youcan never not say the phrase oh
, there was an episode for that.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
That's right, we have an episode for that we have an
episode for that.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
That episode will still be on air, which is great,
but this will kind of evolveinto just a one-on-one
conversation with other guestsin telling their stories as well
.
So really I would say it'sStories, success and Stuff, part
2.
And so that will be releasedlater this summer with the help
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of Justin and, obviously, therest of the team in the
community at heart.
But thank you all.
So so so much for your supportof Stories, success and Stuff.
Don't forget to subscribe toany of our previous episodes or
listen to any of our previousepisodes or listen to any of our
previous episodes on yourfavorite podcast channel.
They will still continue to beup.
It's also on YouTube andSierrascom.
So thanks very much.
Speaker 3 (05:17):
Hi story, success and stuff.
Viewers and listeners, I'mJustin, your videographer,
editor and audio technician.
According to Jace, a lot ofpeople, a lot of people have
said they'd like to see me oncamera and not just hear my
occasional piece of dialogue inthe background.
So here I am on our finalepisode.
(05:38):
Before we get to the show,there's something that's been on
my mind for a long time nowMonths Keeps me up at night
Something I've always wanted tosay, and now I have the platform
to say it.
This is my chance.
A few months ago, crystalquoted Thanos saying, when he
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was talking to a young Gamoraquoted Thanos saying, when he
was talking to a young Gamora,that he sacrificed everything
and it cost him everything.
She said that this line wasfrom the movie Avengers Endgame.
That's incorrect.
It was actually AvengersInfinity War.
So I'm sorry that she lied toyou all and I hope you enjoy our
(06:24):
final episode of this show.
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (06:30):
I wish 80s and 90s music.
Nope, I wish 90s and 2000ship-hop music would have a
resurgence.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
It never left.
What are you talking about?
Speaker 1 (06:41):
resurgence, oh are you kidding me?
Have you heard rap music?
Now?
It's like trash, yeah, no like.
And I and I say this becauseyou said something keep it right
, keep it tight.
Yeah, and technically I saidtoy toy.
Yeah, yeah, like that was thatwas the 90s in my head, going
like the name of the song wasmiss.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Booty, that was a song, so in today's episode on
Stories of Success and Stuff.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
we're going to talk about life.
We're going to talk about lifeand having a successful life and
if it feels like you have tohave a pimp ride with a pimp
mansion and some gold chains,you do you boo.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
Is that appropriation of pimp culture at this point?
No, not necessarily.
You could pimp your ride.
Is that appropriation of pimpculture at this point?
No, not necessarily.
No, you could pimp your ride.
Is that still allowed?
Speaker 1 (07:26):
Yeah, I think so.
Okay, yeah, that's calledcustomization.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Oh, okay.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
Still allowed.
Oh, you didn't know this aboutcar culture, homie.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
I was like I have stickers on mine, Does that
count?
Yeah, yeah, I have like natureoutdoors.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
Oh, I've ripped out like my radio deck and rewired
it and, yeah, like created aheart attack with my husband.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
It's great yeah, oh, okay, it's customization.
Speaking of heart attacks, yeah, so how?
Do you know if you've lived agood life?
It's the question we ask all ofour guests at the end of their
interview.
Uh-huh, when you are about todie, we phrase it differently,
but let's, we all know that'swhat we're asking yeah, we're
not catastrophizing here no,when you're on your, your
deathbed, if you're in your lastmoments, how will you know
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you've lived a good life?
What elements are essential foryou for that?
How will you know it's.
The time has come, it's our timeto answer the question yeah, I
think it's time to answer thequestion.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
I I uh the unfortunate thing about being a
catastrophizer struggling withconstantly thinking like am I
gonna die, am I not gonna die?
Speaker 2 (08:26):
what is it?
You absolutely are.
Yeah, I mean, we are.
When are you gonna die?
Speaker 1 (08:30):
spoiler alert yeah, yeah so we're all dying I and I
I always used to say to myselflike I have to make sure that
whatever I do is great and I'mgonna live with that high
expectation because I might begone tomorrow.
Right, that's a catastrophizingtype of way of thinking, sure.
Even my anxiety is just thinkingabout it like oh my God, I'm
catastrophizing again SomethingI'm working on.
So I would say that I alwaysthink about, when I die, what's
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going to.
It's kind of like what dopeople say about you when you're
not in the room?
What are people going to saywhen you're at the funeral?
or like whenever they'rethinking about you, like two or
three or four or five yearsafter you've gone.
Yeah, like I think about familymembers that have just passed
on and I just think about thegreat memories, as long as you
can reflect on good memories, asyou live with certain people
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and and how how you've.
Nobody cares about how muchmoney you made, nobody cares
about what you have done forthem in a, what you bought for
them, etc what items you knowthey don't care about.
They'll care about the will andthen, after that's done, they'll
forget about it.
(09:37):
Right, or they'll be upset orpainful or in pain about what
the will is, but they'll usuallyforget about all the bullshit
of the will.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
I'm thinking of mine right now.
I'll be like will you forgiveme, I had nothing to leave you.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
Will you love me, because I do love you, will Like
right, I'm just kidding, so youknow.
I think you know thinking aboutthat phrase like what does the
end look like?
Or how do you really want themto be your friends or your
family?
Speaker 2 (10:03):
like that's not cool, right I feel like we're like
you're like a married woman withthe child and you own a
business and stuff, and like weare at very different stages of
life, even though we're almostthe same age.
Yeah, I've never thought aboutany of that stuff.
Don't, don't.
Like, don't panic, like, please, don't in a panic way, but and
my sister is an attorney, yeah,and she gets on us all the time
that we need to have some of ourpaperwork.
(10:26):
Not so much me, because I don'thave kids, I don't own a lot.
I'm like who wants Luna Raeshe's a real pain in the ass.
Like who's wanting a 1972refurbished travel trailer.
That's my like singlepossession.
Speaker 1 (10:49):
It's not a person that I'm giving away in my will,
don't worry uh but, but shedoes get on but I've never
thought like oh, people aregonna be upset that like,
because I'm I, I don't like, Idon't, I'm like, oh, we're
straight.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
No, I don't want to stress out about it.
It just never occurred to me tothink about it families.
Speaker 1 (10:55):
well, I experienced this a lot, yeah, especially
with my in-laws, right like, andI have nothing but great things
to say about them.
But at the end of the day, theconversation about wills,
estates, what's left behind,yeah, and then you have my
family.
That's like memories andquality time together and
laughter and stories and jokes.
That's what when you know youlived a good life is, when you
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have an encyclopedia of reallygood and bad memories of people,
you know.
I always said there was a time,you know time, you know where.
I said like, oh, I want toleave a really strong legacy
like I really want our companyto have a strong legacy that it
might be justin's kids ordonyale's kids or marissa's kids
or your kids, if you I know yousaid you don't have kids, but
(11:37):
like I don't know, but like Iwanted other people to be like,
they'll always remember cr's andno matter the iteration of the
company I realized like no itdoesn't really matter now.
Like this revelation happened,like very recently for me, like,
who gives a shit about how manystories there are with your
name on it?
Who gives a shit about how muchyou paid somebody, somebody,
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they'll.
They're going to remember youfor how they felt, of how you
made them feel, or how youinspired them, or how you mentor
them, or how you made them, um,have an advance in life or
disadvantage in life, whateverthat might be.
You, just you remember thepeople, right, and so that's why
I always said I I like recentlywent through this where I said
you know, chris will lay off thefact that you need to build an
empire right yes, you want tobuild an empire because you want
to be ambitious, you want to befocused.
(12:24):
I want I finally got thatmotivation back you don't be
that local yeah, like buildingthe empire is a good empire, but
I don't want to be rememberedby the empire.
I want to be remembered by thepeople that that worked beside
me, that loved me and the peoplethat I love.
Speaker 2 (12:38):
So do you know, I've noticed that as a running theme
when we ask this question and Iget to have a little bit more of
a chat around it sometimes inmy pre-interviews that I do with
folks and the common theme isindeed people and relationships,
which we have touched on indifferent capacities here as
well, and the same is true whenpeople are on their deathbeds
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and they're like, oh, they'relooking, looking back at life.
It does come down to therelationships and the people
component of it.
I love the, an encyclopedia ofmemories like.
I love that so much that, justlike the other day so I run a
morning meditation group andwe've been doing it like for
like four years now, startedduring the pandemic.
Um, this is online and one ofour members is an elder, very
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much up there in age, and he hashad this ongoing project where
he's writing down the familyhistory.
He's been doing this for twoyears like and he talks about it
and he has mentioned many, manytimes that he is the last, like
the oldest member of the familystill alive.
He's the last one of thegenerations until you know his
kids and the kids kids andwhatnot and whatnot I hear about
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all the time, but all of asudden, two days ago, it occurs
to me that, being the youngestof my siblings, it is possible
that they'll die before me andit'll just be me and I'll be in
a world without my sisters.
Nope, nope, don't.
I don't know why.
That's never occurred to me.
And all of a sudden, I'm like Iwant to be without my sisters.
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And we don't always get along.
We're very different people.
But I started crying on cameraNot just here, but I'm an easy
crier these days and I texted mysisters.
I'm like'm an easy crier thesedays and I texted my sisters.
I'm like, guys, I just realizedyou're gonna die and that like
it's.
You know, it's possible thatlike I'll be the last one and
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like there's something sosignificant about the people
that go through our lives withus, that witness our lives, and
the lives that we get to witnessLike that's.
I have found one of my greatesthonors in getting to be super
close with people, have reallygood friends.
The more open I've become, themore willing people have become.
To be open with me and to trulyget to witness a life is one of
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the biggest honors of all timeand like our siblings do that.
They're there from thebeginning.
They know all the weirdnessfrom childhood and and even
though if you talk to my sisters, you would think we all came
from different homes anddifferent like upbringings,
because we just received theworld so differently.
But the fact that they we'vewe've shifted um like where my
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family respects me, yeah, andthey rely on me and they respect
me and like they actuallythey're like oh, let's, let's
call jace for this, she can helpor she'll listen.
Um and going from like the messyeah that I created in my life?
yeah, just selfishness and likeall of the self-righteous,
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judgmentalness and everything,like the fact that people really
know me.
They actually know me, I'm nothiding anymore, yeah, and that I
really know them, and thatthere's love and respect and
admiration there and that my thepeople close to me love and
accept me and they see me fullylike to me.
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If I died today, you could beassured I did lead a good life,
I'd be fine.
Speaker 1 (16:13):
I started to think that, and thank you for sharing
that is as deep as that is,thank you.
I started to say that aboutmyself too, that if I was gone
tomorrow, I fucking crushed it.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
So long as you didn't get crushed, just because
that'd be a real messy death.
I always think about who's gotto clean that up.
Yeah, when I watch actionmovies and stuff and there's
just fucking violence and bodies, I'm like y'all know,
somebody's got to roll throughand be the cleanup crew for this
shit.
Speaker 1 (16:46):
You know what's really unfortunate.
I am that person that's like Iknow exactly who needs to be
called, I know where that'sgoing to look like it's a matter
, et cetera, like the peoplethat have to do that.
I mentioned this before that I'mrewiring my brain a lot
recently to stop thinking of themost horrific disaster in every
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situation.
Yeah, and so it's just thisabnormal way of thinking that
has really started to like wreckmy life and wreck my
relationships.
And but there was a time whereI said, if I died tomorrow, I
know I lived a good life and Istill stand by that right, I
live every day like it's my last.
But then I started to feel likeif I died tomorrow, my husband
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would be fine, my kid would befine, would I remarry, if
something?
If Spencer was gone, I wouldneed to spend every single
minute with Jonathan as much aspossible, because what if he was
gone?
I would need to spend everysingle minute with Jonathan as
much as possible, because whatif he was gone?
Speaker 3 (17:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (17:45):
Right, we've had misfortunes and unfortunate
situations of kids passing awayat 18, 19, right In my, in my
outer ring of family members,and my my mom going through her
health care, my dad goingthrough you know of you know
going through her health care,my dad going through you know
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getting older, et cetera.
I've really taken this long andI guess, like I know, that the
theme of today's episode is howdo you know that you lived a
good life?
But I also I want people toknow what I've started to go
through recently, which is stopthinking about death in a way
where you're starting to planfor it because you forget what's
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in front of you and you reallystart to rip apart the
relationships that you havebecause you're so used to it
being catastrophically ruined.
And I said that because, like Iwould be fearful, like Jonathan
, driving would be reallydifficult for me to swallow.
Speaker 2 (18:41):
The fact that we let teenagers drive is terrifying to
me as an adult.
On the road, yeah it is.
Speaker 1 (18:47):
But the kid needs to drive like there's no doubt
about it.
Right, he wants his own life,he wants to become an adult, he
wants to start learning how tohow to be independent, and he
absolutely should.
It's part of it and and so,anyways, like I really started
to direct my relationships whereit was really depressing that
everything, and even mytherapist, was asking like when
did this start to get bad?
Speaker 3 (19:01):
and I thought Anyways like.
Speaker 1 (19:01):
I really started to direct my relationships where it
was really depressing andeverything.
And even my therapist wasasking, like when did this start
to get bad?
And I thought it was thewedding, because I was like I
have a great thing and I reallylived like I checked off
everything I wanted to do.
I accomplished a lot of thethings.
I'm married now.
I have a successful, you knowrelationship Good, bad and ugly
of it all and I'm like, okay,I'm good, right, yeah, and I
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didn't know where to go fromhere.
And and then all of a sudden Iwas like, well, if we die
tomorrow, I lived a good life.
And then that was subject mattera and b and c and d and e and I
, I, I was really miserable yeah, I was really, really miserable
, ripping that whole whole thingapart, in fact, when we were
doing one of the interviews witha guest and I asked that
question how do you know youlived a good life?
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I almost wanted to ask thatquestion, because I was too
depressed to ask the question tobegin with.
So you know it is what it isright Like.
We look at the people that wehave in front of us and
sometimes you and I wrote thison my Facebook page.
I said when times are tough,you love harder you.
You hug harder, you love harder, you strive harder.
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And that's what I realized is abetter approach rather than
panicking about whether or notmy husband was going to be alive
tomorrow yeah, well, we talkedabout the, the flip side of
success, that that isn't sharedabout.
Speaker 2 (20:20):
So if you guys missed that, it's in our grieving
success episode and you know,when you've checked everything
off, then it's like what thefuck am I doing now?
And that's such a such anexcellent point that like
there's.
Then it's like cool bucket listcomplete, I can die.
Now it's all extra and that'ssomething like this is gonna
sound kind of weird, but but in10 years, like a couple months
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from now, I'll be celebrating my10-year anniversary of not
committing suicide and not goingthrough with my plan to end my
life and a really weird benefitto come out of that.
Like I already thought I'd bedead by now.
So I've gotten 10, like bonusyears.
Yeah.
So it's like every I don't feardeath ever and I do think about
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and like I come from a weirdfamily.
So we talk about, um, like myrunning joke.
We were like you knoweverybody's talking about like
what they want to be done withtheir remains and cremated or
whatever, and I was like I'dlike to be stuffed, yeah, and
just have like a, a full adultsized version of me that you
guys transfer to your houses fordifferent holidays and stuff.
Yeah, um, I don't actually wantthat, I don't think, but it'd
be fun.
We're pranksters, like we allhave weird pranks to have
happening at our funerals andwhatnot.
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Um, we're just a sick family,but so we do talk about it and I
have no, no qualms with deathyeah and that's such a a gift
that past me gave current mewhere I can think about those
things.
And some of you talked aboutlegacy.
I had this notion for a goodlong while that if I didn't make
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huge, like monumental impact inthe world, why did I even come
here?
Like then, what would the pointhave been?
And for me it was like it waslike that black and white
thinking.
It's got to be like really bigto matter.
And I've really that's been ashift I've made within the last
couple of years when I reallystarted looking and listening
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especially working with peoplein, you know, addiction recovery
and self-mastery and thingslike that and watching the
shifts that have happened.
Uh, just being friends withpeople for a long time and the
impact that they share with meI've had, I realized like I've
done my job, I've.
Yeah, it's like I don't, Idon't.
It doesn't have to be millionsof people, it could.
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If I was done, if that was it,I only impacted the people I've
impacted.
On this day, that would havebeen enough because it's
exponential, right.
Then they're impacting people,or one person I've worked with
for a long time.
His wife has been.
She's always like when there'sa change, she'll be like "'Jace,
jace had something to do withthis".
And I've gotten to meet her andshe's super cool.
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And then that impacts me.
We never know what impact we'rehaving on the world.
And I've come to say for myselfI don't care very much if it's
big.
And that was a hard thing.
Then I was like then what's mypurpose?
And I kind of went through thesame thing you did where you're
like I've checked all the boxes,now what?
And I'm like, if I'm not hereto monumentally shift the ways
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of mankind, then what am I herefor?
And it came down to like fun.
Yeah, to enjoy, like when inRome, right.
So if I'm going to be in thehuman body and out here on earth
and in the world and whatnot,then I want to do as the humans
do.
I want to eat everything, Iwant to dance to every song, I
want to have the heartache, Iwant to do all of the possible
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things, I want to have all ofthe experiences and live as many
types of life as possible whenI'm here, as many types of life
as possible when I'm here.
Speaker 1 (23:43):
It's funny how you mentioned that you feel like you
and I are in different placesin the world.
I haven't even thought of 10%of what you thought of at all.
I you know stories, success andstuff was.
Is was created upon thisfeeling of Crystal.
(24:04):
What you asked me, crystal,what do you want to do with this
podcast?
And I said I want to tell mystories, right?
And you said well, what's yourpurpose in life?
And I said to create jobs andhelp people.
Speaker 2 (24:16):
I think technically you said create people and help
jobs.
Speaker 1 (24:20):
I'd create people and help jobs Sure damn did.
Sure damn did.
But to even think asphilosophically and as you
always think, of yourself in ahigher being, which I think is
so impressive, so impressiveabout you?
I don't.
I don't think about myself inthat fashion, and I think it's
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because I have really focused onmaking sure that I'm the task
taker and the task completer.
I might not do it in time, I'llget it done, it's going to
happen.
Speaker 2 (24:54):
All right, y'all Give it a little slack, it's going
to happen.
Speaker 1 (24:56):
And you know I'm the task taker, I'm the mission
setter.
Somebody said about me once aslong as I know that Crystal has
her hands on the project, youknow what's going to happen.
It's been incredible to hearthat in previous years, and I
know that when I'm gone, likepeople are going to say that too
.
Speaker 2 (25:15):
That's cool, she got shit done.
Speaker 1 (25:17):
Yeah, but sometimes not on time.
But I got them done and I thinkI have just lived a life of
driving, not pulling over andwatching the sunsets as often as
I'd like to.
Yeah, and I don't know.
I don't know what life will bein front of me.
Me, I just know that with everyquestion that we answer to a
(25:40):
guest and as great as it is,sometimes the happy, the
unhappiest endings are not, umare not what I anticipated, and
I'm okay with that right I'mokay with just like.
Speaker 2 (25:52):
Hey, I'm here acceptance is a big part of
happiness.
Actually, ed is a master, yeah,at that of just accepting
things as they are.
I'm being surprised in liveaction right now that I have a
voice in my head that's sayingyou aren't done yet.
It's actually saying you ain'tdone yet, girl, because my voice
inside is very sassy.
(26:13):
I just hear it you ain't doneyet.
If it was like, boom, this isyour last day to live, jace, I'm
going to backtrack what I saidon my backpedal, I do have.
I would have a single regret,and you'd mention it like you
have your husband, you have yourfamily, you're in this
(26:35):
successful, beautifulrelationship which and you guys
have gone through so much ofyour growth together and things
like that and you guys have gonethrough so much of your growth
together and things like that Iwill feel sad if I have not had
like an epic love story or evenjust been chosen and loved, and
that I had someone to love andlike, go through life within a
unique way.
Like I literally woke up thismorning, I kid you not and I was
(26:56):
like, oh my God, so many peoplelove me, I'm so supported, so
many people want me to have goodthings in life and to be happy
and healthy.
I have so many people that havemy back, which is incredible,
and I literally woke up in allthis gratitude.
It sounds so cheesy.
And then I sang and the birdshelped me get ready.
No, but like they did and likeyeah.
I put my robe on and everythingIndiana was like what is
(27:20):
happening?
I want to kill all of thesethings.
Uh, this took a turn.
But no, I am.
I am so loved and and I am.
My friend reminds me alwaysbecause, like, being chosen is a
big healing component for me,coming from abandonment stuff
and my core wounding andwhatever like um.
So he always reminds me likethese people have chosen you in
(27:41):
their life, jace, like yourfriends and and everything that
give you their time, because heknows time is my love language.
Um, he's like they chose youand yet of a long track record,
in a romantic sense, of notbeing chosen.
And I, I've got time, don'tworry, I don't need a pep talk
or anything, but like real talk.
(28:02):
If I died today I would be sadthat I didn't have like a
beloved.
Speaker 1 (28:10):
Oh, I know that person won't come.
It's one of those things andthis will be the last thing that
we have to say on today'spodcast.
But like I didn't know that,the day that I walked into that
bar, or no, into that littlehouse on monroe and all of a
sudden, like my dude walked inwith a big ass pimple on his
(28:30):
nose, I didn't know that I wouldfind the one.
Yeah, you'll never, know, you'llnever, you'll never, never know
.
It's just one.
It's like back to the episodethat we talked about a second
ago about the weather.
You know the weather ispredictable, but it's not, and
when you least expect it, thefirst one will come.
(28:51):
I think so valuable lesson inthe question of if your life was
to end tomorrow, how do youknow if you lived a good life?
So I'm I want to throw it.
Add it to the comments.
Speaker 2 (29:02):
Yeah, add it to the comments.
How will know if you lived agood life?
So I'm I want to throw it.
Add it to the comments.
Yeah, add it to the comments.
We'd love to hear it.
How will you know you lived agood life?
Speaker 1 (29:06):
Great, I would greatly appreciate comments,
messages, emails, skywriting,skywriting.
That's what I was thinking of,pigeon Sunday.
Speaker 2 (29:18):
Oh, yeah, yeah, chili and mushrooms.
Speaker 1 (29:21):
Thanks again for joining us on Story Success and
Stuff.
This is Jace.
I'm Crystal.
Don't forget to subscribe to uson your favorite podcast
channel, watch us on YouTube andfollow us at sierzacom.
Thanks again, we'll see yousoon.
It's the end of an era.
I always, I'm always like thewomen from Sex and the City you
leave the party when it's stillpopping.
You never want to be the closeddown crew.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Oh, I'm like the throw the party type of, do I?
One of those is that.
Is there a reference in therefor that?
No, unfortunately I wasn't afan of the show.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
No, so this will be the last episode.
It will be.
Congratulations on your success, thank you.
Jace is going to be leavingSierza, and we wish her nothing
but the best.
And not only do we wish hernothing but the best, we're
(00:40):
incredibly supportive of thisnew role that you're going to be
taking.
I'm not going anywhere, never.
Uh, I'm not going anywhere, umI'm not going anywhere um
justin's not going anywhere?
um, at least I hope not umjustin will be doing a whole
monologue in the post credits,by the way.
Uh, so he can finally get that,that video time that scream
(01:02):
time he's always wanted yeah, um, you know there's there's a
couple different factors that wethought about story success and
stuff.
Um, the original show wasdesigned with crystal siarza,
moon and friends.
At the time it was crystalsiarza and friends so much has
happened yeah, so much hashappened um.
This has been a reallyemotional way to kind of
(01:24):
preserve my memoirs, I guess.
It sounds so weird and to shareJace's talents on multiple
different ways.
It's kind of like Netflix,though.
They always like to change uptheir content and they always
like to provide viewers withdifferent angles and different
stories and different actors anddifferent scenes.
So we are taking a step back,but I just didn't feel I
(01:48):
personally didn't feel thatstory, success and stuff could
continue without you, andespecially on your new journey.
I wanted you to completelyfocus on your new journey, and
CR also focuses on just pivotingthe content in a different way.
So I wanted to give you yourthoughts on our last episode and
I'll close it out from here,but any thoughts on today's
(02:11):
episode.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
I love this episode.
It's actually one of myfavorite episodes that we did.
It certainly got me thinking.
I hope it'll get you allthinking as well, and that this
will be a question you answerfor yourselves, as we did for
ours.
And as I look at my time here mytime with you and and the team
(02:34):
I am, I feel confident that Ithat I led a good life here and
that it was it was.
It came in at the perfect timefor me in my life, and this
podcast has been such a blastand what a weird and unique
experience to get to do apodcast with the CEO of your
company and learn so much aboutyou on a personal level, from
(02:56):
your vulnerability and yourtransparency, which you've been
so dedicated to, that so manypeople in your position would be
terrified to do.
So I really commend you foryour willingness to do that, to
speak on things that otheragency owners, other CEOs, just
never would.
I know that the audience hasappreciated it as well, and this
is one of my favorite episodesthat we've done, so I hope you
(03:19):
guys enjoy it For sure.
And just a personal thank you toyou for letting me do this, to
Justin for always making itabsolutely incredible and a
total blast and, of course, tothe viewers and the listeners
who have allowed us to to comebe our wacky, wonderful selves
here every week.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
Absolutely, and Jace has brought a level to the show
that has been not onlyauthentically herself, um, but
you've brought, as many peoplehave told me, she's the voice of
reason that I didn't realize Ineeded, um.
So, just with the way that yourapproach, with the, the
(03:57):
sassiness, the excitement, thefailures, the successes, um, I
will miss that very much.
The show will very much evolve,though.
Some really exciting news onCR's front Just because the
(04:18):
episode won't be filming any newepisodes, we definitely intend
to keep it up, especially sincethere's such good content that's
out there because of it and youcan never not say the phrase oh
, there was an episode for that.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
That's right, we have an episode for that we have an
episode for that.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
That episode will still be on air, which is great,
but this will kind of evolveinto just a one-on-one
conversation with other guestsin telling their stories as well
.
So really I would say it'sStories, success and Stuff, part
2.
And so that will be releasedlater this summer with the help
(04:51):
of Justin and, obviously, therest of the team in the
community at heart.
But thank you all.
So so so much for your supportof Stories, success and Stuff.
Don't forget to subscribe toany of our previous episodes or
listen to any of our previousepisodes or listen to any of our
previous episodes on yourfavorite podcast channel.
They will still continue to beup.
It's also on YouTube andSierrascom.
So thanks very much.
Speaker 3 (05:17):
Hi story, success and stuff.
Viewers and listeners, I'mJustin, your videographer,
editor and audio technician.
According to Jace, a lot ofpeople, a lot of people have
said they'd like to see me oncamera and not just hear my
occasional piece of dialogue inthe background.
So here I am on our finalepisode.
(05:38):
Before we get to the show,there's something that's been on
my mind for a long time nowMonths Keeps me up at night
Something I've always wanted tosay, and now I have the platform
to say it.
This is my chance.
A few months ago, crystalquoted Thanos saying, when he
(06:02):
was talking to a young Gamoraquoted Thanos saying, when he
was talking to a young Gamora,that he sacrificed everything
and it cost him everything.
She said that this line wasfrom the movie Avengers Endgame.
That's incorrect.
It was actually AvengersInfinity War.
So I'm sorry that she lied toyou all and I hope you enjoy our
(06:24):
final episode of this show.
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (06:30):
I wish 80s and 90s music.
Nope, I wish 90s and 2000ship-hop music would have a
resurgence.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
It never left.
What are you talking about?
Speaker 1 (06:41):
resurgence, oh are you kidding me?
Have you heard rap music?
Now?
It's like trash, yeah, no like.
And I and I say this becauseyou said something keep it right
, keep it tight.
Yeah, and technically I saidtoy toy.
Yeah, yeah, like that was thatwas the 90s in my head, going
like the name of the song wasmiss.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Booty, that was a song, so in today's episode on
Stories of Success and Stuff.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
we're going to talk about life.
We're going to talk about lifeand having a successful life and
if it feels like you have tohave a pimp ride with a pimp
mansion and some gold chains,you do you boo.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
Is that appropriation of pimp culture at this point?
No, not necessarily.
You could pimp your ride.
Is that appropriation of pimpculture at this point?
No, not necessarily.
No, you could pimp your ride.
Is that still allowed?
Speaker 1 (07:26):
Yeah, I think so.
Okay, yeah, that's calledcustomization.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Oh, okay.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
Still allowed.
Oh, you didn't know this aboutcar culture, homie.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
I was like I have stickers on mine, Does that
count?
Yeah, yeah, I have like natureoutdoors.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
Oh, I've ripped out like my radio deck and rewired
it and, yeah, like created aheart attack with my husband.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
It's great yeah, oh, okay, it's customization.
Speaking of heart attacks, yeah, so how?
Do you know if you've lived agood life?
It's the question we ask all ofour guests at the end of their
interview.
Uh-huh, when you are about todie, we phrase it differently,
but let's, we all know that'swhat we're asking yeah, we're
not catastrophizing here no,when you're on your, your
deathbed, if you're in your lastmoments, how will you know
(08:08):
you've lived a good life?
What elements are essential foryou for that?
How will you know it's.
The time has come, it's our timeto answer the question yeah, I
think it's time to answer thequestion.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
I I uh the unfortunate thing about being a
catastrophizer struggling withconstantly thinking like am I
gonna die, am I not gonna die?
Speaker 2 (08:26):
what is it?
You absolutely are.
Yeah, I mean, we are.
When are you gonna die?
Speaker 1 (08:30):
spoiler alert yeah, yeah so we're all dying I and I
I always used to say to myselflike I have to make sure that
whatever I do is great and I'mgonna live with that high
expectation because I might begone tomorrow.
Right, that's a catastrophizingtype of way of thinking, sure.
Even my anxiety is just thinkingabout it like oh my God, I'm
catastrophizing again SomethingI'm working on.
So I would say that I alwaysthink about, when I die, what's
(08:56):
going to.
It's kind of like what dopeople say about you when you're
not in the room?
What are people going to saywhen you're at the funeral?
or like whenever they'rethinking about you, like two or
three or four or five yearsafter you've gone.
Yeah, like I think about familymembers that have just passed
on and I just think about thegreat memories, as long as you
can reflect on good memories, asyou live with certain people
(09:17):
and and how how you've.
Nobody cares about how muchmoney you made, nobody cares
about what you have done forthem in a, what you bought for
them, etc what items you knowthey don't care about.
They'll care about the will andthen, after that's done, they'll
forget about it.
(09:37):
Right, or they'll be upset orpainful or in pain about what
the will is, but they'll usuallyforget about all the bullshit
of the will.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
I'm thinking of mine right now.
I'll be like will you forgiveme, I had nothing to leave you.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
Will you love me, because I do love you, will Like
right, I'm just kidding, so youknow.
I think you know thinking aboutthat phrase like what does the
end look like?
Or how do you really want themto be your friends or your
family?
Speaker 2 (10:03):
like that's not cool, right I feel like we're like
you're like a married woman withthe child and you own a
business and stuff, and like weare at very different stages of
life, even though we're almostthe same age.
Yeah, I've never thought aboutany of that stuff.
Don't, don't.
Like, don't panic, like, please, don't in a panic way, but and
my sister is an attorney, yeah,and she gets on us all the time
that we need to have some of ourpaperwork.
(10:26):
Not so much me, because I don'thave kids, I don't own a lot.
I'm like who wants Luna Raeshe's a real pain in the ass.
Like who's wanting a 1972refurbished travel trailer.
That's my like singlepossession.
Speaker 1 (10:49):
It's not a person that I'm giving away in my will,
don't worry uh but, but shedoes get on but I've never
thought like oh, people aregonna be upset that like,
because I'm I, I don't like, Idon't, I'm like, oh, we're
straight.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
No, I don't want to stress out about it.
It just never occurred to me tothink about it families.
Speaker 1 (10:55):
well, I experienced this a lot, yeah, especially
with my in-laws, right like, andI have nothing but great things
to say about them.
But at the end of the day, theconversation about wills,
estates, what's left behind,yeah, and then you have my
family.
That's like memories andquality time together and
laughter and stories and jokes.
That's what when you know youlived a good life is, when you
(11:16):
have an encyclopedia of reallygood and bad memories of people,
you know.
I always said there was a time,you know time, you know where.
I said like, oh, I want toleave a really strong legacy
like I really want our companyto have a strong legacy that it
might be justin's kids ordonyale's kids or marissa's kids
or your kids, if you I know yousaid you don't have kids, but
(11:37):
like I don't know, but like Iwanted other people to be like,
they'll always remember cr's andno matter the iteration of the
company I realized like no itdoesn't really matter now.
Like this revelation happened,like very recently for me, like,
who gives a shit about how manystories there are with your
name on it?
Who gives a shit about how muchyou paid somebody, somebody,
(12:04):
they'll.
They're going to remember youfor how they felt, of how you
made them feel, or how youinspired them, or how you mentor
them, or how you made them, um,have an advance in life or
disadvantage in life, whateverthat might be.
You, just you remember thepeople, right, and so that's why
I always said I I like recentlywent through this where I said
you know, chris will lay off thefact that you need to build an
empire right yes, you want tobuild an empire because you want
to be ambitious, you want to befocused.
(12:24):
I want I finally got thatmotivation back you don't be
that local yeah, like buildingthe empire is a good empire, but
I don't want to be rememberedby the empire.
I want to be remembered by thepeople that that worked beside
me, that loved me and the peoplethat I love.
Speaker 2 (12:38):
So do you know, I've noticed that as a running theme
when we ask this question and Iget to have a little bit more of
a chat around it sometimes inmy pre-interviews that I do with
folks and the common theme isindeed people and relationships,
which we have touched on indifferent capacities here as
well, and the same is true whenpeople are on their deathbeds
(13:01):
and they're like, oh, they'relooking, looking back at life.
It does come down to therelationships and the people
component of it.
I love the, an encyclopedia ofmemories like.
I love that so much that, justlike the other day so I run a
morning meditation group andwe've been doing it like for
like four years now, startedduring the pandemic.
Um, this is online and one ofour members is an elder, very
(13:25):
much up there in age, and he hashad this ongoing project where
he's writing down the familyhistory.
He's been doing this for twoyears like and he talks about it
and he has mentioned many, manytimes that he is the last, like
the oldest member of the familystill alive.
He's the last one of thegenerations until you know his
kids and the kids kids andwhatnot and whatnot I hear about
(13:48):
all the time, but all of asudden, two days ago, it occurs
to me that, being the youngestof my siblings, it is possible
that they'll die before me andit'll just be me and I'll be in
a world without my sisters.
Nope, nope, don't.
I don't know why.
That's never occurred to me.
And all of a sudden, I'm like Iwant to be without my sisters.
(14:12):
And we don't always get along.
We're very different people.
But I started crying on cameraNot just here, but I'm an easy
crier these days and I texted mysisters.
I'm like'm an easy crier thesedays and I texted my sisters.
I'm like, guys, I just realizedyou're gonna die and that like
it's.
You know, it's possible thatlike I'll be the last one and
(14:33):
like there's something sosignificant about the people
that go through our lives withus, that witness our lives, and
the lives that we get to witnessLike that's.
I have found one of my greatesthonors in getting to be super
close with people, have reallygood friends.
The more open I've become, themore willing people have become.
To be open with me and to trulyget to witness a life is one of
(14:57):
the biggest honors of all timeand like our siblings do that.
They're there from thebeginning.
They know all the weirdnessfrom childhood and and even
though if you talk to my sisters, you would think we all came
from different homes anddifferent like upbringings,
because we just received theworld so differently.
But the fact that they we'vewe've shifted um like where my
(15:27):
family respects me, yeah, andthey rely on me and they respect
me and like they actuallythey're like oh, let's, let's
call jace for this, she can helpor she'll listen.
Um and going from like the messyeah that I created in my life?
yeah, just selfishness and likeall of the self-righteous,
(15:47):
judgmentalness and everything,like the fact that people really
know me.
They actually know me, I'm nothiding anymore, yeah, and that I
really know them, and thatthere's love and respect and
admiration there and that my thepeople close to me love and
accept me and they see me fullylike to me.
(16:08):
If I died today, you could beassured I did lead a good life,
I'd be fine.
Speaker 1 (16:13):
I started to think that, and thank you for sharing
that is as deep as that is,thank you.
I started to say that aboutmyself too, that if I was gone
tomorrow, I fucking crushed it.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
So long as you didn't get crushed, just because
that'd be a real messy death.
I always think about who's gotto clean that up.
Yeah, when I watch actionmovies and stuff and there's
just fucking violence and bodies, I'm like y'all know,
somebody's got to roll throughand be the cleanup crew for this
shit.
Speaker 1 (16:46):
You know what's really unfortunate.
I am that person that's like Iknow exactly who needs to be
called, I know where that'sgoing to look like it's a matter
, et cetera, like the peoplethat have to do that.
I mentioned this before that I'mrewiring my brain a lot
recently to stop thinking of themost horrific disaster in every
(17:09):
situation.
Yeah, and so it's just thisabnormal way of thinking that
has really started to like wreckmy life and wreck my
relationships.
And but there was a time whereI said, if I died tomorrow, I
know I lived a good life and Istill stand by that right, I
live every day like it's my last.
But then I started to feel likeif I died tomorrow, my husband
(17:34):
would be fine, my kid would befine, would I remarry, if
something?
If Spencer was gone, I wouldneed to spend every single
minute with Jonathan as much aspossible, because what if he was
gone?
I would need to spend everysingle minute with Jonathan as
much as possible, because whatif he was gone?
Speaker 3 (17:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (17:45):
Right, we've had misfortunes and unfortunate
situations of kids passing awayat 18, 19, right In my, in my
outer ring of family members,and my my mom going through her
health care, my dad goingthrough you know of you know
going through her health care,my dad going through you know
(18:05):
getting older, et cetera.
I've really taken this long andI guess, like I know, that the
theme of today's episode is howdo you know that you lived a
good life?
But I also I want people toknow what I've started to go
through recently, which is stopthinking about death in a way
where you're starting to planfor it because you forget what's
(18:26):
in front of you and you reallystart to rip apart the
relationships that you havebecause you're so used to it
being catastrophically ruined.
And I said that because, like Iwould be fearful, like Jonathan
, driving would be reallydifficult for me to swallow.
Speaker 2 (18:41):
The fact that we let teenagers drive is terrifying to
me as an adult.
On the road, yeah it is.
Speaker 1 (18:47):
But the kid needs to drive like there's no doubt
about it.
Right, he wants his own life,he wants to become an adult, he
wants to start learning how tohow to be independent, and he
absolutely should.
It's part of it and and so,anyways, like I really started
to direct my relationships whereit was really depressing that
everything, and even mytherapist, was asking like when
did this start to get bad?
Speaker 3 (19:01):
and I thought Anyways like.
Speaker 1 (19:01):
I really started to direct my relationships where it
was really depressing andeverything.
And even my therapist wasasking, like when did this start
to get bad?
And I thought it was thewedding, because I was like I
have a great thing and I reallylived like I checked off
everything I wanted to do.
I accomplished a lot of thethings.
I'm married now.
I have a successful, you knowrelationship Good, bad and ugly
of it all and I'm like, okay,I'm good, right, yeah, and I
(19:24):
didn't know where to go fromhere.
And and then all of a sudden Iwas like, well, if we die
tomorrow, I lived a good life.
And then that was subject mattera and b and c and d and e and I
, I, I was really miserable yeah, I was really, really miserable
, ripping that whole whole thingapart, in fact, when we were
doing one of the interviews witha guest and I asked that
question how do you know youlived a good life?
(19:45):
I almost wanted to ask thatquestion, because I was too
depressed to ask the question tobegin with.
So you know it is what it isright Like.
We look at the people that wehave in front of us and
sometimes you and I wrote thison my Facebook page.
I said when times are tough,you love harder you.
You hug harder, you love harder, you strive harder.
(20:07):
And that's what I realized is abetter approach rather than
panicking about whether or notmy husband was going to be alive
tomorrow yeah, well, we talkedabout the, the flip side of
success, that that isn't sharedabout.
Speaker 2 (20:20):
So if you guys missed that, it's in our grieving
success episode and you know,when you've checked everything
off, then it's like what thefuck am I doing now?
And that's such a such anexcellent point that like
there's.
Then it's like cool bucket listcomplete, I can die.
Now it's all extra and that'ssomething like this is gonna
sound kind of weird, but but in10 years, like a couple months
(20:42):
from now, I'll be celebrating my10-year anniversary of not
committing suicide and not goingthrough with my plan to end my
life and a really weird benefitto come out of that.
Like I already thought I'd bedead by now.
So I've gotten 10, like bonusyears.
Yeah.
So it's like every I don't feardeath ever and I do think about
(21:07):
and like I come from a weirdfamily.
So we talk about, um, like myrunning joke.
We were like you knoweverybody's talking about like
what they want to be done withtheir remains and cremated or
whatever, and I was like I'dlike to be stuffed, yeah, and
just have like a, a full adultsized version of me that you
guys transfer to your houses fordifferent holidays and stuff.
Yeah, um, I don't actually wantthat, I don't think, but it'd
be fun.
We're pranksters, like we allhave weird pranks to have
happening at our funerals andwhatnot.
(21:28):
Um, we're just a sick family,but so we do talk about it and I
have no, no qualms with deathyeah and that's such a a gift
that past me gave current mewhere I can think about those
things.
And some of you talked aboutlegacy.
I had this notion for a goodlong while that if I didn't make
(21:50):
huge, like monumental impact inthe world, why did I even come
here?
Like then, what would the pointhave been?
And for me it was like it waslike that black and white
thinking.
It's got to be like really bigto matter.
And I've really that's been ashift I've made within the last
couple of years when I reallystarted looking and listening
(22:10):
especially working with peoplein, you know, addiction recovery
and self-mastery and thingslike that and watching the
shifts that have happened.
Uh, just being friends withpeople for a long time and the
impact that they share with meI've had, I realized like I've
done my job, I've.
Yeah, it's like I don't, Idon't.
It doesn't have to be millionsof people, it could.
(22:31):
If I was done, if that was it,I only impacted the people I've
impacted.
On this day, that would havebeen enough because it's
exponential, right.
Then they're impacting people,or one person I've worked with
for a long time.
His wife has been.
She's always like when there'sa change, she'll be like "'Jace,
jace had something to do withthis".
And I've gotten to meet her andshe's super cool.
(22:51):
And then that impacts me.
We never know what impact we'rehaving on the world.
And I've come to say for myselfI don't care very much if it's
big.
And that was a hard thing.
Then I was like then what's mypurpose?
And I kind of went through thesame thing you did where you're
like I've checked all the boxes,now what?
And I'm like, if I'm not hereto monumentally shift the ways
(23:13):
of mankind, then what am I herefor?
And it came down to like fun.
Yeah, to enjoy, like when inRome, right.
So if I'm going to be in thehuman body and out here on earth
and in the world and whatnot,then I want to do as the humans
do.
I want to eat everything, Iwant to dance to every song, I
want to have the heartache, Iwant to do all of the possible
(23:34):
things, I want to have all ofthe experiences and live as many
types of life as possible whenI'm here, as many types of life
as possible when I'm here.
Speaker 1 (23:43):
It's funny how you mentioned that you feel like you
and I are in different placesin the world.
I haven't even thought of 10%of what you thought of at all.
I you know stories, success andstuff was.
Is was created upon thisfeeling of Crystal.
(24:04):
What you asked me, crystal,what do you want to do with this
podcast?
And I said I want to tell mystories, right?
And you said well, what's yourpurpose in life?
And I said to create jobs andhelp people.
Speaker 2 (24:16):
I think technically you said create people and help
jobs.
Speaker 1 (24:20):
I'd create people and help jobs Sure damn did.
Sure damn did.
But to even think asphilosophically and as you
always think, of yourself in ahigher being, which I think is
so impressive, so impressiveabout you?
I don't.
I don't think about myself inthat fashion, and I think it's
(24:41):
because I have really focused onmaking sure that I'm the task
taker and the task completer.
I might not do it in time, I'llget it done, it's going to
happen.
Speaker 2 (24:54):
All right, y'all Give it a little slack, it's going
to happen.
Speaker 1 (24:56):
And you know I'm the task taker, I'm the mission
setter.
Somebody said about me once aslong as I know that Crystal has
her hands on the project, youknow what's going to happen.
It's been incredible to hearthat in previous years, and I
know that when I'm gone, likepeople are going to say that too
.
Speaker 2 (25:15):
That's cool, she got shit done.
Speaker 1 (25:17):
Yeah, but sometimes not on time.
But I got them done and I thinkI have just lived a life of
driving, not pulling over andwatching the sunsets as often as
I'd like to.
Yeah, and I don't know.
I don't know what life will bein front of me.
Me, I just know that with everyquestion that we answer to a
(25:40):
guest and as great as it is,sometimes the happy, the
unhappiest endings are not, umare not what I anticipated, and
I'm okay with that right I'mokay with just like.
Speaker 2 (25:52):
Hey, I'm here acceptance is a big part of
happiness.
Actually, ed is a master, yeah,at that of just accepting
things as they are.
I'm being surprised in liveaction right now that I have a
voice in my head that's sayingyou aren't done yet.
It's actually saying you ain'tdone yet, girl, because my voice
inside is very sassy.
(26:13):
I just hear it you ain't doneyet.
If it was like, boom, this isyour last day to live, jace, I'm
going to backtrack what I saidon my backpedal, I do have.
I would have a single regret,and you'd mention it like you
have your husband, you have yourfamily, you're in this
(26:35):
successful, beautifulrelationship which and you guys
have gone through so much ofyour growth together and things
like that and you guys have gonethrough so much of your growth
together and things like that Iwill feel sad if I have not had
like an epic love story or evenjust been chosen and loved, and
that I had someone to love andlike, go through life within a
unique way.
Like I literally woke up thismorning, I kid you not and I was
(26:56):
like, oh my God, so many peoplelove me, I'm so supported, so
many people want me to have goodthings in life and to be happy
and healthy.
I have so many people that havemy back, which is incredible,
and I literally woke up in allthis gratitude.
It sounds so cheesy.
And then I sang and the birdshelped me get ready.
No, but like they did and likeyeah.
I put my robe on and everythingIndiana was like what is
(27:20):
happening?
I want to kill all of thesethings.
Uh, this took a turn.
But no, I am.
I am so loved and and I am.
My friend reminds me alwaysbecause, like, being chosen is a
big healing component for me,coming from abandonment stuff
and my core wounding andwhatever like um.
So he always reminds me likethese people have chosen you in
(27:41):
their life, jace, like yourfriends and and everything that
give you their time, because heknows time is my love language.
Um, he's like they chose youand yet of a long track record,
in a romantic sense, of notbeing chosen.
And I, I've got time, don'tworry, I don't need a pep talk
or anything, but like real talk.
(28:02):
If I died today I would be sadthat I didn't have like a
beloved.
Speaker 1 (28:10):
Oh, I know that person won't come.
It's one of those things andthis will be the last thing that
we have to say on today'spodcast.
But like I didn't know that,the day that I walked into that
bar, or no, into that littlehouse on monroe and all of a
sudden, like my dude walked inwith a big ass pimple on his
(28:30):
nose, I didn't know that I wouldfind the one.
Yeah, you'll never, know, you'llnever, you'll never, never know
.
It's just one.
It's like back to the episodethat we talked about a second
ago about the weather.
You know the weather ispredictable, but it's not, and
when you least expect it, thefirst one will come.
(28:51):
I think so valuable lesson inthe question of if your life was
to end tomorrow, how do youknow if you lived a good life?
So I'm I want to throw it.
Add it to the comments.
Speaker 2 (29:02):
Yeah, add it to the comments.
How will know if you lived agood life?
So I'm I want to throw it.
Add it to the comments.
Yeah, add it to the comments.
We'd love to hear it.
How will you know you lived agood life?
Speaker 1 (29:06):
Great, I would greatly appreciate comments,
messages, emails, skywriting,skywriting.
That's what I was thinking of,pigeon Sunday.
Speaker 2 (29:18):
Oh, yeah, yeah, chili and mushrooms.
Speaker 1 (29:21):
Thanks again for joining us on Story Success and
Stuff.
This is Jace.
I'm Crystal.
Don't forget to subscribe to uson your favorite podcast
channel, watch us on YouTube andfollow us at sierzacom.
Thanks again, we'll see yousoon.
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