As a Parent, You Are The Toy

In this week’s episode I talk about how creating a safe space for our children is critical for them to be able to decompress and be themselves. Often times, our kids are holding it together and when they get in our orbit, they just need to release and relax. Be aware of your frustrations with their behavior and recognize when they just need to blow off some steam.

For the lesson, I realized that as parents, we are the toy. And, we are the toy because we make our children feel safe because we are familiar and comforting. So, the next time our kids ‘will you play with me’, they are really saying ‘I feel safe with you and right now I need that feeling of safety’. 

Also, what is our relationship to our ‘releases’? I often have an unbalanced relationship with my decompression as I run to food or other outlets to ‘dive in’ and escape the reality of my day. By doing that, am I also not helping create a positive space for my wife and daughter to be able to decompress?

The advice I would give my daughter when she is older is for her to understand the relationship she has with her releases. There is nothing wrong with using exercise, cooking, watching a movie, etc. to unwind after a long day or week, but understanding how you use those things can help inform how you are growing as a person.

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For the Just the Tip, I talk about why I always buy pesto instead of making it. It all boils down to outsourcing the stuff you don’t want to do.

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