July 10, 2025 • 19 mins
Perception, perspective and positivity - is it possible to, literally, reframe everything you experience for your greater good and self? Here's your 'opportunity' to find out!
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Speaker 1 (00:04):
dude, it's not that funny man.
I don't know why I'm laughingso much.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
I'm sorry if it's love that you need, you can't
take it from me, because I'm theone who's giving it up, and I
(00:35):
know it's been hard, but you'vebeen in this far Now I'm the one
who's giving it up.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Welcome back to the straight love podcast.
I am your host.
The boast most roast dp alwayswith me in forever, jimmy jay
man, that's a great hat too.
Man, oh, thank you.
Yeah, jimmy's.
Uh, it's got a collection ofbaseball hats that would, I
don't't know, make any17-year-old in the world jealous
.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
I've got a lot.
Yeah, eh, yeah, I do have a lot.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
Only one head, though , so I don't know why?
Speaker 3 (01:11):
Yeah, yeah, okay, you never know.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
No, I mean, if you're ever friends with a Hydra,
that'll definitely come in handy.
There you go.
If you haven't done so already,do the things and the stuff.
Head on over to straightlove onInstagram.
S-e-r the number eight dot love.
I've been super active overthere recently.
I haven't felt super inspiredto share, but you can always
reach out to us on there.
We love hearing from the peoplethat listen to the pod.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
Jim?
What did you want to talk about?
The thing that I wanted to talkabout was um the idea of uh
feeling privileged to haveproblems and the alliteration
(02:03):
isn't.
There are lots of problems thatwe encounter in life or that
come to us in life, that arestick with me here on this one
that are afforded to us becauseof what we have in life.
(02:24):
So, for example, if yourvehicle needs repairs, that
means you're fortunate enough tohave a vehicle.
Sure, yeah, have a challenge toafford the repairs, or, for
(02:48):
example, certainly, but I wasjust kind of thinking about this
it's a few weeks ago alreadyand haven't really thought about
it much since, but I kind offound it an interesting concept
or a way to kind of reframesomething and to say, well, it's
a privilege to have theseproblems that I have when you're
(03:10):
navigating them.
And I guess it's a philosophyor an idea that maybe can work
for me, because I don't reallyhave any what I would call real
problems, like true problems inin comparison to other people,
kind of yeah, for sure right.
Like I'm not, you know, I I livea very, very good life that you
(03:34):
deserve, thank you.
Um.
So then I kind of thought Iwonder if, when anything, when
things come up and theyinevitably do that instead of
having that typical, usualresponse of why is this
happening, I can't believe thisis happening.
Now, I got to deal with this.
If there's a way for me torewire my brain to think it's a
(04:02):
privilege to have this problem,to think it's a privilege to
have this problem.
Speaker 1 (04:05):
Well, so what is the default is immediate frustration
.
Yeah, what was me?
Yeah, how could this happen?
Speaker 3 (04:13):
I got to deal with this now.
This is going to inconvenienceme, this might cost me money, so
on and so forth, so on and soforth.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
Instead of what?
Speaker 3 (04:24):
Instead of thinking that again, because the life
that I have is the way that itis, then these problems, they
aren't actually really problems.
They're just things that comeup, that you need to navigate,
(04:46):
that you need to handle yeah andif you didn't have a particular
station in life, you wouldn'thave these problems, you
wouldn't be afforded the abilityto have these problems.
Like going back to that exampleof oh I have vehicle trouble,
you have a vehicle, that'sthat's amazing.
(05:06):
So that would be your default,then, right, huh, okay and then
so then does it, does thatreframing and that rewiring
change, then does it change justas a whole the things that you
encounter in life, and theyagain are no longer the, the
(05:29):
instinct is no longer to respondto them as being problems,
quote, unquote, and thosetypical emotions that go with
problems quote, unquote.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
So now your problems are opportunities.
Yeah, opportunities for growth.
Speaker 3 (05:43):
I was, yeah, like I wasn't.
I wasn't even going to be thatsort of optimistic or or
whatever the right word is.
Optimistic is good.
Sure, I was just going to belike it's a challenge.
You know, can I rise to thechallenge, which is also good,
man?
Yeah, it is.
Opportunity is even betterbecause you know, opportunity
(06:06):
always speaks to somethingfortuitous, for sure.
Yeah, so I I think that's aneven better way to look at it,
why I really like challenge?
Speaker 1 (06:09):
because, let's say, you rise to that challenge and
then you overcome it.
Yeah, well then what happens?
You're growing right, learningright.
You know you're probably, ifyou encounter that problem,
slash challenge again.
Well, guess what?
You're going to be betterequipped to deal with it yes,
exactly right.
Speaker 3 (06:25):
Like you're the the um, you become more trained that
you change your instinctualresponse totally.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
Man I think, yeah, I like that.
That actually makes me thinkabout my daughter a little bit.
Not that she necessarily hasproblems, but she certainly has
challenges.
She's learning right now ofcertain things, you know.
She's learning how to run upthe stairs, she's learning how
to um, you know, open doors andthat kind of thing by herself.
(06:56):
And she gets frustrated.
And my immediate um desire isto remove these obstacles, oh,
obstacles, to solve theseproblems for her, to make life
easier for her.
So she doesn't have to have, soshe doesn't have to have.
(07:18):
You know that, that feeling ofum, you know what was me?
I don't like this, I don't wantto do this, this is going to be
bad, like all those.
So, but then how is she goingto grow, man, you know, if these
challenges aren't there, ifthese opportunities aren't there
for her to get stronger, getsmarter, figure out how to live
a little better?
(07:47):
And contrast is very importantas well, like if everything is
just easy.
Speaker 3 (07:49):
There's no contrast.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
And then if you have nocontrast, then you have no
discernment, I guess, in termsof your directionality and
positionality of your own life,or your own emotions, or how you
feel, or oh wow.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
Do you think that that's why there's these you
know, kids out there kids,teenagers, people who grow up in
these affluent environmentswhere they don't have any
problems really to deal withoutside of?
Well, certainly, you know.
Like you know, we talk aboutourselves not having the kind of
problems that somebody who'sless fortunate than us right,
(08:29):
yeah and then when I think ofpeople on the upper side of that
echelon, whose problems areprobably even less significant
than ours because money doesn'tapply to them and they probably
have servants and whatever elselike right.
Speaker 3 (08:43):
I think what it can contribute to is a lack of
meaning.
How?
So well, solving I'll use theword that I'm trying not to use,
but solving problems createsmeaning, but how?
(09:04):
Because you want to resolvewhatever it is that needs
resolution.
You want to resolve whatever itis that's not in alignment with
where you want to be and youwant to get past that or through
that or overcome that, to sortof get to that next level, like
resolution is a big thing.
(09:24):
Resolution is peace, isconfidence, is comfort, is is
those types of things right.
So if you this, everyone needsto create their own meaning.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
Of course, 100, yeah, and part of that is solving
problems how does that um kindof relate to or mirror adversity
then?
Speaker 3 (09:51):
how does it relate to or mirror adversity?
Speaker 1 (09:54):
like when it comes to its adversity in someone's life
, and overcoming that I meanlike again, we're talking about
something that's hard, but doingthat, figuring that out,
overcoming that again, isproviding you with meaning,
confidence, everything thatwe're kind of talking about here
, yeah, so I, I can.
Speaker 3 (10:14):
I can compute that as sort of two things right now,
two branches off of this trunkof adversity, that being the
adversity that you haven'tchosen, which I don't actually
believe is true, and theadversity that you have chosen,
(10:36):
chosen, chose.
You have chose in, chosen,chose, uh, because so you can.
There's strength in both ofthem because you can, you can.
What the real choice is is areyou going to choose to overcome
them or are you going to chooseto consume them or allow them to
consume?
you okay, okay um, and it is achoice, yeah, so by the ones
(10:59):
that you don't choose.
For example, using the sameexample, is no one chooses their
vehicle to have issues thatwould seem weird, right, um?
But you can choose to let itdrag you down or you can choose
to let it impact, whatever thecase might be, you know, maybe
you add plans to I don't know.
Whatever the case might be, youknow, maybe you had plans to I
don't know.
Whatever the case might be, itdoesn't matter Go on a road trip
(11:22):
or something and now you can't,or whatever the case, I don't
know.
But you can choose to let itbring you down or you can choose
.
You can choose to rise to thechallenge or you can choose to
let it bring you down, butultimately it is creating
(11:50):
meaning because you want toresolve it, you want to solve it
, and then there's the adversitythat you choose.
So, for example, like a goalthat you choose.
So, for example, like a goal, Iwant to be able to do this.
Many pull-ups, yeah, yeah.
Are you going to continue topush yourself towards that goal
through that adversity?
Um or not?
(12:10):
Right, and in both instances, Ithink it creates meaning, like
you have in one instance.
Sure, like I said, maybe it'snot necessarily a function of
meaning you would have chosenfor yourself, and the other one
being that it's a personal goal.
Well, you've chosen thismeaning, right?
Speaker 1 (12:26):
Right.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
Which I think all leads back to our evolution and
the expansion of who we are andwhat our universe is.
Huh, who we are and what ouruniverse is, huh.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
Privileged to have problems.
Man, I like that.
I, yeah, I mean you know whatagain it's?
It's just such a healthy way ofbeing able to go through life.
It really is.
And I mean, if you can look atthose as opportunities, if you
can look at those as challengesand you can figure out your way
(12:59):
to how to navigate those kindsof things, yeah, man, you're
going to come out on the otherside like just a better person.
You're going to navigate lifein a better way.
Speaker 3 (13:09):
Yes, and that's really what it's about right.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
Like it's, it's it's.
Speaker 3 (13:13):
This is one of these major tenants about this
existence the ability tonavigate it in the best possible
state that you can.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
You know fuck man, it really is.
Speaker 3 (13:27):
Hey, like going back to the whole, you know buzzword,
bingo, vibration and frequencyand all those things.
It's um, it's super fascinating, do?
Speaker 1 (13:37):
you think it matters?
If you're navigating thesekinds of things by yourself,
with people getting support,whatever like, does that even
matter?
Speaker 3 (13:46):
Well, it's a great question actually.
Um, yeah, I think it's allimportant.
I think I think it's veryimportant that a person is able
to realize what situationrequires what ingredients.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
Huh, I like ingredients man.
That's good, yeah, yeah, yeah,yeah.
Speaker 3 (14:07):
Because, for sure, sometimes there are instances
where you have to say I can't dothis myself, Right, and
sometimes there are instanceswhere you know you can do it
yourself, and then sometimesthere are instances where you
know you should do it yourself.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
And to be able to even have the wherewithal to
know when to do what issomething in itself, man.
A lot of people ask for helpwhen they don't need to, right,
and a lot of people never askfor help.
Speaker 3 (14:42):
Right, no matter what , and there's a I'm sure there's
a lot of sort of uhpsychological aspects that go
into that.
I am completely unqualified tocomment on, but it's, you know,
it's also a case of we sort of,you know, we find connection
with when we need help.
Sometimes it's healthyconnection.
(15:02):
Sometimes it's like, oh, wejust want attention, we want
someone to feel sorry for us.
Yeah, um, you know, other timesit's, you know, solving
something yourself, um, can be avery healthy thing, can you
know?
It can build your own strengthand resilience and find a level
(15:23):
of yourself that you may nothave known existed.
It could also be unhealthy ifyou're sort of putting yourself
through undue stress and duressjust for the sake of being able
to say I did it myself.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
I didn't need anybody .
Well, there's pride in thatthing, right?
Speaker 3 (15:38):
Yeah, there's pride.
Yeah, which is not a good thing.
It definitely cannot be, can beunhealthy.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
Hey, man, there's a reason.
It's one of the seven deadlysins, right?
Speaker 3 (15:45):
so yeah, there's just uh like everything always in
life, there's just uh not onesort of blueprint to everything
so why do you think it is thatthat default for the vast
majority of people is what wasme?
Speaker 1 (16:04):
This sucks, this is going to be hard, this is going
to make my life worse, Like why?
Why is that almost theunavoidable, um, way of kind of
of, of, of automatically feelingabout something?
Speaker 3 (16:17):
limited resources the perception of limited resources
is what it is.
Speaker 1 (16:22):
Yeah, okay, but it's quick, it's almost like
immediate.
It's just kind of like okay,this is yeah.
Speaker 3 (16:28):
So this is going to take something from me right,
rather than provide me withsomething right there, it is
okay, yeah, okay.
That's what I would always say.
Not always, that's what I wouldsay.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
Do you want to do the St Malo triathlon next year?
How's that for taking theconversation?
Speaker 3 (16:50):
in a different direction.
I will get back to you.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
No, we I mean we're talking a little bit about
adversity, challenges, problems,growing, you know, doing things
that are different.
Speaker 2 (17:01):
Have you ever done a triathlon?
Have you?
Speaker 1 (17:02):
ever had any?
I've not, have you thought.
Has anything about it beenalluring to you?
Let's just put it that way.
Speaker 3 (17:11):
I'm not too sure.
Speaker 1 (17:12):
Okay, do you think you could do one, maybe yeah.
Speaker 3 (17:16):
Sure, I can do anything I put my mind to damn
right, brother, there you go.
Speaker 1 (17:21):
How's your swimming?
I can swim, yeah, okay.
You're good at it, yeah, allright.
Hey, man, okay, I did run acouple of years ago.
So, um, I was actually verymuch thinking about, um,
starting some sort of a group atsome point to train for
something like that next year.
Now, it wouldn't be anytimesoon, but I think I want to do
(17:42):
it again and I thought, wow,would it ever be something cool
to do if we could start somesort of like small community
around it and be like hey, let'sgrow together.
We're towards a goal.
It's going to be hard, yeah,it's going to.
It's something we're not to beconsistent about, yeah, and I
mean it's something that wecould do individually.
Or we could potentially do ittogether, yeah, or just me and
you can do it.
Man, sure and inspire the worldyeah, one podcast at a time.
Speaker 3 (18:06):
One triathlon at a time.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
Speaking of inspiring people, though, although I
don't know how inspiringnecessarily, we want this to be,
but we have gotten started onthe oh yeah, what are gotten
started on the um?
What are we calling it?
The reflection, yes, themidlife reflection, something
like that Reflection, something,yeah, yeah, okay, well, I again
we're just kind of throwingaround ideas, but the first
(18:31):
draft of your free um, I mean,it doesn't have to necessarily
be something that you do midlife, but it's.
It's kind of an opportunity foryou to pause, think about what
you've done and what you stillwant to do, and doing it at a
point where it's it's it's nottoo late, right, because, as far
as we all know, we have a lotof years left, potentially.
Yeah, well, that's what I planon living at least.
(18:52):
Good, all right, brother.
Awesome, edit the entire firstpart of this podcast out, right.
Awesome, edit the entire firstpart of this podcast out Right
on.
And we'll stick with privilegeproblems.
There you go, all right, man.
Thanks very much for theconversation, jim.
I love you a lot.
Thank you, man.
Speaker 2 (19:07):
We love you all.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
Thank you, bye-bye.
Speaker 2 (19:26):
Bye-bye, thank you.
And I fight the world to saveme.
I fight all the men in me and Ifight, and I fight, and I fight
the world to save me.
(19:46):
I fight all the men in me.
dude, it's not that funny man.
I don't know why I'm laughingso much.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
I'm sorry if it's love that you need, you can't
take it from me, because I'm theone who's giving it up, and I
(00:35):
know it's been hard, but you'vebeen in this far Now I'm the one
who's giving it up.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Welcome back to the straight love podcast.
I am your host.
The boast most roast dp alwayswith me in forever, jimmy jay
man, that's a great hat too.
Man, oh, thank you.
Yeah, jimmy's.
Uh, it's got a collection ofbaseball hats that would, I
don't't know, make any17-year-old in the world jealous
.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
I've got a lot.
Yeah, eh, yeah, I do have a lot.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
Only one head, though , so I don't know why?
Speaker 3 (01:11):
Yeah, yeah, okay, you never know.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
No, I mean, if you're ever friends with a Hydra,
that'll definitely come in handy.
There you go.
If you haven't done so already,do the things and the stuff.
Head on over to straightlove onInstagram.
S-e-r the number eight dot love.
I've been super active overthere recently.
I haven't felt super inspiredto share, but you can always
reach out to us on there.
We love hearing from the peoplethat listen to the pod.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
Jim?
What did you want to talk about?
The thing that I wanted to talkabout was um the idea of uh
feeling privileged to haveproblems and the alliteration
(02:03):
isn't.
There are lots of problems thatwe encounter in life or that
come to us in life, that arestick with me here on this one
that are afforded to us becauseof what we have in life.
(02:24):
So, for example, if yourvehicle needs repairs, that
means you're fortunate enough tohave a vehicle.
Sure, yeah, have a challenge toafford the repairs, or, for
(02:48):
example, certainly, but I wasjust kind of thinking about this
it's a few weeks ago alreadyand haven't really thought about
it much since, but I kind offound it an interesting concept
or a way to kind of reframesomething and to say, well, it's
a privilege to have theseproblems that I have when you're
(03:10):
navigating them.
And I guess it's a philosophyor an idea that maybe can work
for me, because I don't reallyhave any what I would call real
problems, like true problems inin comparison to other people,
kind of yeah, for sure right.
Like I'm not, you know, I I livea very, very good life that you
(03:34):
deserve, thank you.
Um.
So then I kind of thought Iwonder if, when anything, when
things come up and theyinevitably do that instead of
having that typical, usualresponse of why is this
happening, I can't believe thisis happening.
Now, I got to deal with this.
If there's a way for me torewire my brain to think it's a
(04:02):
privilege to have this problem,to think it's a privilege to
have this problem.
Speaker 1 (04:05):
Well, so what is the default is immediate frustration
.
Yeah, what was me?
Yeah, how could this happen?
Speaker 3 (04:13):
I got to deal with this now.
This is going to inconvenienceme, this might cost me money, so
on and so forth, so on and soforth.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
Instead of what?
Speaker 3 (04:24):
Instead of thinking that again, because the life
that I have is the way that itis, then these problems, they
aren't actually really problems.
They're just things that comeup, that you need to navigate,
(04:46):
that you need to handle yeah andif you didn't have a particular
station in life, you wouldn'thave these problems, you
wouldn't be afforded the abilityto have these problems.
Like going back to that exampleof oh I have vehicle trouble,
you have a vehicle, that'sthat's amazing.
(05:06):
So that would be your default,then, right, huh, okay and then
so then does it, does thatreframing and that rewiring
change, then does it change justas a whole the things that you
encounter in life, and theyagain are no longer the, the
(05:29):
instinct is no longer to respondto them as being problems,
quote, unquote, and thosetypical emotions that go with
problems quote, unquote.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
So now your problems are opportunities.
Yeah, opportunities for growth.
Speaker 3 (05:43):
I was, yeah, like I wasn't.
I wasn't even going to be thatsort of optimistic or or
whatever the right word is.
Optimistic is good.
Sure, I was just going to belike it's a challenge.
You know, can I rise to thechallenge, which is also good,
man?
Yeah, it is.
Opportunity is even betterbecause you know, opportunity
(06:06):
always speaks to somethingfortuitous, for sure.
Yeah, so I I think that's aneven better way to look at it,
why I really like challenge?
Speaker 1 (06:09):
because, let's say, you rise to that challenge and
then you overcome it.
Yeah, well then what happens?
You're growing right, learningright.
You know you're probably, ifyou encounter that problem,
slash challenge again.
Well, guess what?
You're going to be betterequipped to deal with it yes,
exactly right.
Speaker 3 (06:25):
Like you're the the um, you become more trained that
you change your instinctualresponse totally.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
Man I think, yeah, I like that.
That actually makes me thinkabout my daughter a little bit.
Not that she necessarily hasproblems, but she certainly has
challenges.
She's learning right now ofcertain things, you know.
She's learning how to run upthe stairs, she's learning how
to um, you know, open doors andthat kind of thing by herself.
(06:56):
And she gets frustrated.
And my immediate um desire isto remove these obstacles, oh,
obstacles, to solve theseproblems for her, to make life
easier for her.
So she doesn't have to have, soshe doesn't have to have.
(07:18):
You know that, that feeling ofum, you know what was me?
I don't like this, I don't wantto do this, this is going to be
bad, like all those.
So, but then how is she goingto grow, man, you know, if these
challenges aren't there, ifthese opportunities aren't there
for her to get stronger, getsmarter, figure out how to live
a little better?
(07:47):
And contrast is very importantas well, like if everything is
just easy.
Speaker 3 (07:49):
There's no contrast.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
And then if you have nocontrast, then you have no
discernment, I guess, in termsof your directionality and
positionality of your own life,or your own emotions, or how you
feel, or oh wow.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
Do you think that that's why there's these you
know, kids out there kids,teenagers, people who grow up in
these affluent environmentswhere they don't have any
problems really to deal withoutside of?
Well, certainly, you know.
Like you know, we talk aboutourselves not having the kind of
problems that somebody who'sless fortunate than us right,
(08:29):
yeah and then when I think ofpeople on the upper side of that
echelon, whose problems areprobably even less significant
than ours because money doesn'tapply to them and they probably
have servants and whatever elselike right.
Speaker 3 (08:43):
I think what it can contribute to is a lack of
meaning.
How?
So well, solving I'll use theword that I'm trying not to use,
but solving problems createsmeaning, but how?
(09:04):
Because you want to resolvewhatever it is that needs
resolution.
You want to resolve whatever itis that's not in alignment with
where you want to be and youwant to get past that or through
that or overcome that, to sortof get to that next level, like
resolution is a big thing.
(09:24):
Resolution is peace, isconfidence, is comfort, is is
those types of things right.
So if you this, everyone needsto create their own meaning.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
Of course, 100, yeah, and part of that is solving
problems how does that um kindof relate to or mirror adversity
then?
Speaker 3 (09:51):
how does it relate to or mirror adversity?
Speaker 1 (09:54):
like when it comes to its adversity in someone's life
, and overcoming that I meanlike again, we're talking about
something that's hard, but doingthat, figuring that out,
overcoming that again, isproviding you with meaning,
confidence, everything thatwe're kind of talking about here
, yeah, so I, I can.
Speaker 3 (10:14):
I can compute that as sort of two things right now,
two branches off of this trunkof adversity, that being the
adversity that you haven'tchosen, which I don't actually
believe is true, and theadversity that you have chosen,
(10:36):
chosen, chose.
You have chose in, chosen,chose, uh, because so you can.
There's strength in both ofthem because you can, you can.
What the real choice is is areyou going to choose to overcome
them or are you going to chooseto consume them or allow them to
consume?
you okay, okay um, and it is achoice, yeah, so by the ones
(10:59):
that you don't choose.
For example, using the sameexample, is no one chooses their
vehicle to have issues thatwould seem weird, right, um?
But you can choose to let itdrag you down or you can choose
to let it impact, whatever thecase might be, you know, maybe
you add plans to I don't know.
Whatever the case might be, youknow, maybe you had plans to I
don't know.
Whatever the case might be, itdoesn't matter Go on a road trip
(11:22):
or something and now you can't,or whatever the case, I don't
know.
But you can choose to let itbring you down or you can choose
.
You can choose to rise to thechallenge or you can choose to
let it bring you down, butultimately it is creating
(11:50):
meaning because you want toresolve it, you want to solve it
, and then there's the adversitythat you choose.
So, for example, like a goalthat you choose.
So, for example, like a goal, Iwant to be able to do this.
Many pull-ups, yeah, yeah.
Are you going to continue topush yourself towards that goal
through that adversity?
Um or not?
(12:10):
Right, and in both instances, Ithink it creates meaning, like
you have in one instance.
Sure, like I said, maybe it'snot necessarily a function of
meaning you would have chosenfor yourself, and the other one
being that it's a personal goal.
Well, you've chosen thismeaning, right?
Speaker 1 (12:26):
Right.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
Which I think all leads back to our evolution and
the expansion of who we are andwhat our universe is.
Huh, who we are and what ouruniverse is, huh.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
Privileged to have problems.
Man, I like that.
I, yeah, I mean you know whatagain it's?
It's just such a healthy way ofbeing able to go through life.
It really is.
And I mean, if you can look atthose as opportunities, if you
can look at those as challengesand you can figure out your way
(12:59):
to how to navigate those kindsof things, yeah, man, you're
going to come out on the otherside like just a better person.
You're going to navigate lifein a better way.
Speaker 3 (13:09):
Yes, and that's really what it's about right.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
Like it's, it's it's.
Speaker 3 (13:13):
This is one of these major tenants about this
existence the ability tonavigate it in the best possible
state that you can.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
You know fuck man, it really is.
Speaker 3 (13:27):
Hey, like going back to the whole, you know buzzword,
bingo, vibration and frequencyand all those things.
It's um, it's super fascinating, do?
Speaker 1 (13:37):
you think it matters?
If you're navigating thesekinds of things by yourself,
with people getting support,whatever like, does that even
matter?
Speaker 3 (13:46):
Well, it's a great question actually.
Um, yeah, I think it's allimportant.
I think I think it's veryimportant that a person is able
to realize what situationrequires what ingredients.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
Huh, I like ingredients man.
That's good, yeah, yeah, yeah,yeah.
Speaker 3 (14:07):
Because, for sure, sometimes there are instances
where you have to say I can't dothis myself, Right, and
sometimes there are instanceswhere you know you can do it
yourself, and then sometimesthere are instances where you
know you should do it yourself.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
And to be able to even have the wherewithal to
know when to do what issomething in itself, man.
A lot of people ask for helpwhen they don't need to, right,
and a lot of people never askfor help.
Speaker 3 (14:42):
Right, no matter what , and there's a I'm sure there's
a lot of sort of uhpsychological aspects that go
into that.
I am completely unqualified tocomment on, but it's, you know,
it's also a case of we sort of,you know, we find connection
with when we need help.
Sometimes it's healthyconnection.
(15:02):
Sometimes it's like, oh, wejust want attention, we want
someone to feel sorry for us.
Yeah, um, you know, other timesit's, you know, solving
something yourself, um, can be avery healthy thing, can you
know?
It can build your own strengthand resilience and find a level
(15:23):
of yourself that you may nothave known existed.
It could also be unhealthy ifyou're sort of putting yourself
through undue stress and duressjust for the sake of being able
to say I did it myself.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
I didn't need anybody .
Well, there's pride in thatthing, right?
Speaker 3 (15:38):
Yeah, there's pride.
Yeah, which is not a good thing.
It definitely cannot be, can beunhealthy.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
Hey, man, there's a reason.
It's one of the seven deadlysins, right?
Speaker 3 (15:45):
so yeah, there's just uh like everything always in
life, there's just uh not onesort of blueprint to everything
so why do you think it is thatthat default for the vast
majority of people is what wasme?
Speaker 1 (16:04):
This sucks, this is going to be hard, this is going
to make my life worse, Like why?
Why is that almost theunavoidable, um, way of kind of
of, of, of automatically feelingabout something?
Speaker 3 (16:17):
limited resources the perception of limited resources
is what it is.
Speaker 1 (16:22):
Yeah, okay, but it's quick, it's almost like
immediate.
It's just kind of like okay,this is yeah.
Speaker 3 (16:28):
So this is going to take something from me right,
rather than provide me withsomething right there, it is
okay, yeah, okay.
That's what I would always say.
Not always, that's what I wouldsay.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
Do you want to do the St Malo triathlon next year?
How's that for taking theconversation?
Speaker 3 (16:50):
in a different direction.
I will get back to you.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
No, we I mean we're talking a little bit about
adversity, challenges, problems,growing, you know, doing things
that are different.
Speaker 2 (17:01):
Have you ever done a triathlon?
Have you?
Speaker 1 (17:02):
ever had any?
I've not, have you thought.
Has anything about it beenalluring to you?
Let's just put it that way.
Speaker 3 (17:11):
I'm not too sure.
Speaker 1 (17:12):
Okay, do you think you could do one, maybe yeah.
Speaker 3 (17:16):
Sure, I can do anything I put my mind to damn
right, brother, there you go.
Speaker 1 (17:21):
How's your swimming?
I can swim, yeah, okay.
You're good at it, yeah, allright.
Hey, man, okay, I did run acouple of years ago.
So, um, I was actually verymuch thinking about, um,
starting some sort of a group atsome point to train for
something like that next year.
Now, it wouldn't be anytimesoon, but I think I want to do
(17:42):
it again and I thought, wow,would it ever be something cool
to do if we could start somesort of like small community
around it and be like hey, let'sgrow together.
We're towards a goal.
It's going to be hard, yeah,it's going to.
It's something we're not to beconsistent about, yeah, and I
mean it's something that wecould do individually.
Or we could potentially do ittogether, yeah, or just me and
you can do it.
Man, sure and inspire the worldyeah, one podcast at a time.
Speaker 3 (18:06):
One triathlon at a time.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
Speaking of inspiring people, though, although I
don't know how inspiringnecessarily, we want this to be,
but we have gotten started onthe oh yeah, what are gotten
started on the um?
What are we calling it?
The reflection, yes, themidlife reflection, something
like that Reflection, something,yeah, yeah, okay, well, I again
we're just kind of throwingaround ideas, but the first
(18:31):
draft of your free um, I mean,it doesn't have to necessarily
be something that you do midlife, but it's.
It's kind of an opportunity foryou to pause, think about what
you've done and what you stillwant to do, and doing it at a
point where it's it's it's nottoo late, right, because, as far
as we all know, we have a lotof years left, potentially.
Yeah, well, that's what I planon living at least.
(18:52):
Good, all right, brother.
Awesome, edit the entire firstpart of this podcast out, right.
Awesome, edit the entire firstpart of this podcast out Right
on.
And we'll stick with privilegeproblems.
There you go, all right, man.
Thanks very much for theconversation, jim.
I love you a lot.
Thank you, man.
Speaker 2 (19:07):
We love you all.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
Thank you, bye-bye.
Speaker 2 (19:26):
Bye-bye, thank you.
And I fight the world to saveme.
I fight all the men in me and Ifight, and I fight, and I fight
the world to save me.
(19:46):
I fight all the men in me.
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