January 2, 2023 • 11 mins
Starting out 2023 its important to think about the #cruible you have been through and consider how those experiencescan forge you into something new.
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Unknown (00:05):
Welcome friends, both old and new. Welcome strive seek
fame podcast, I'm your hostchance with home to lifestyle
advice from a fellow traveler onthe road to better life, brought
to you by a longtime educator,writer, parent, and outdoor
enthusiast, who may just maylike a good draft, because our
(00:28):
future is set through not justour choices, but our willingness
to explore and find a betterway. Welcome to 2023. as I
record this, it is January 2, Iam running a little bit behind
this week, and I am trying outnew gear, my family got me a
(00:48):
very nice new microphone swingarm that finally will hold my
mic where it needs to be. Andthe headphones I'm using. So
hopefully that takes care ofsome of the buzzing that
sometimes sneak through andrecordings. I'm excited to try
it. So as I've been trying toput 2022 to bed and get ready
(01:12):
for 2023. Or as I like to thinkof it, the latest in a series of
years where people are going tosay to us, this one's going to
be better, so much better.
Because isn't that all of ourgoals, people are going to talk
about their goals andaspirations about what's going
right or at least better than ithas been of late. But a lot of
(01:34):
the time, we're going to ignorewhat put us in those situations.
And I don't mean this in anegative way at all. I'm not
pointing the finger and sayingthis is happening to you,
because you deserve it. More ofthis is the crucible you've been
(01:55):
through in the past year, youare new and better because of
it. Now like most things inlife, it's tempting to claim
that's easy. And let's behonest, it's not. But
nonetheless, let's get started.
The origin of the word crucialcomes from metallurgy, literally
(02:19):
a ceramic or metal container tomelt metal. It makes sense that
over time, we've taken thisliteral change of state and use
it to represent changes in life,where we feel the heat as we go
through trials. And there arealways trials. And that is a
(02:39):
good thing. After all, to quotean axiom that is popular in my
peer group, iron sharpens iron.
So it's like a speck across2022. And with it the several
years prior. And think about thefact that if we are wise, rather
than dwelling on the challengesthat we have, we take them and
(03:01):
forge them into the experiencesthat make up the middle of our
life. Life isn't one size fitsall, any more than say any one
alloy is good for 14 Everything.
After all, wild gold isbeautiful and wonderfully
conductive. You don't want tobuild an airplane, out of
(03:23):
something that flexible andheavy. Any more than your
significant other would like aring made out of lead. Well, at
least my significant other wouldprefer not to have that. And
before I tried to carry thisadult analogy even further down
the road and make it make evenless sense. I'll throw this out.
(03:44):
The past year, each of us havefaced some sort of challenge.
For some of us, it may be in theworst years of our life. For
others, the struggle may havebeen simply avoiding
complacency. For me, there werea variety. And out of the ones I
can share, or dare share, Ishould say, I'll start with
(04:07):
this. I'm still learning despitemy willingness to give others
grace. I'm not great at handingit out to myself when I need it.
Like most of us, I tend to be myown worst enemy. I've noticed a
slow improvement. And yet whenthings are at their hardest, I'm
at the hardest on myself. Sothis year, I'm going to try a
(04:30):
few reflective techniques tohelp me get through that without
continuing to repeat what hasbeen a constant problem from the
almost Well, let's be honesthere. Friends, almost as of
Thursday, completely on 50 yearsof my life. And if you've
(04:52):
listened to the podcast at allover the last year you know
there's been me dealing withsome grief issues and And a big
challenge that came out ofgrief. Were my trips home, once
to process and figure out theloss of dad, and once for the
holidays, learning from thosetrips, that it's going to be
(05:14):
different. And intellectuallyyou knew that, but experiencing
it, and that that's okay. Firstgetting used to the pain, and
then learning not to feel guiltwhen it doesn't hurt as bad as
it once did. And there's stillmoments that hits me, but it's
getting better. Another changeor challenge that I think many
(05:35):
of us dealt with was life wassupposed to be normal. And while
that was certainly dropped backto us at warp speed, we're not
the same people we were when wefirst got on board the ship,
pent up stress and trauma. Andthe alterations and expectations
(05:56):
have just punched us in themouth. We were eager to jump
back in what we could handlebefore. And we didn't take the
time to process whether wethought we should. We're now
learning to deal with unresolvedstress and trauma, alongside
exhaustion so you have theTriple Threat going. We're
(06:19):
tired, and quote from BlazingSaddles, a movie that could
never be made today. So damntired, and you're doing good if
you have your nose six inchesabove the water. We've been
building the plane while it'sflying for so long. We don't
know what it might be like tohave it worked on on solid
(06:41):
ground. That's helping me to bebetter prepared walking into
this year, I've been looking atthe things I've given up that I
need to work my way back intobecause nothing happens
instantaneously. Everything fromfinally recognize how I turned
my creative endeavors into anadditional set of stressors.
(07:02):
That is slowly ground myproduction down to nothing. This
is true in podcasting. This istrue in writing, I allowed those
creative releases, which for thelongest time have been my truly
release and stress reliever tostart beating me up because it
(07:24):
wasn't going the way I wanted itto. Or because I didn't feel
like create as quickly as Ineeded to. And that's still
something I'm struggling with.
But I'm sitting in front of amic today. Pretty damn happy to
be here to the fact in myattempts to be the person that
(07:45):
is completely put together. Ilet the stressors continue to
build in cost me stress reliefto the point where I gave up
working out or even going outfor a walk. So I gave up
everything healthy when it cameto dealing with stress. I'm
hoping that in 2023, I can takewhat's crucial brought me and
(08:08):
reforge myself into a slightlybetter version of me. I'm not
looking to make wholesalechanges. But I want to get
better. So as I work on this, Iposted the question both on the
stripe seek find faith Facebookgroup and to Twitter. And I
thought I'd share a couple ofthe answers I got. Kathy wrote,
(08:29):
learning to hold back mythoughts, my opinions, let life
play out. Sometimes the naturalconsequences and let life unfold
on its own is all the lesson aperson needs. love
unconditionally. And I learned Ican survive despite how low life
can go. Letting life play out isdamn hard. And I wish I was
(08:53):
better at it. The world coulduse a whole lot more of
unconditional love. Well set.
Phil pulled from what herelearned in the past year that
he tried to give people achance. And in this case, he
should have listened to his gutwhich He had done all his life.
Great message. Because some ofthe times I've been hit hardest
(09:13):
the mouth as those I have failedto trust my intuition. Thank you
for sharing. Alicia is facing achallenge I wouldn't have wanted
to handle at this point in mylife with style. relearning to
be a student feeling pretty goodso far. Good luck, Alicia with
grad school. I know you'rerocked first semester. Looking
(09:36):
forward to seeing you rock thenext one. And finally, Ian has
been learning from multiplemajor upheavals in his life.
Sweet Jesus, the biggest waslearning how to be still in
quiet periods of downtime,something I haven't had in
years. Let me tell you folks, Ihave learned to waste time with
the best of them. Sometimes withintentionality, it's Sometimes
(10:00):
by spinning with stressbut I haven't learned the skill
of being at peace with doing it.
So in please share what youlearn as you go through this
journey. Hey, please getinvolved in this conversation.
More questions to come both onTwitter and on the strife seek
find page on Facebook helped melearn helped me get better. Give
(10:24):
me ideas. It's greatlyappreciated. Well, my friends,
that's it for this week'sedition of strife seek fine, I
believe it's episode 123 Hard tobelieve. If you'd like to help
support, strive seek fi pleaseshare the podcast with friends
or leave a review on yourfavorite podcasting app. It
(10:45):
helps drive other people to theshow, consequently making the
show a little more discoverableonline. Like I said, greatly
appreciate if you'd rather helpfinancially. I have a buy me a
coffee link is in the show notes100% of everything or it goes
towards purchasing materialsthat will keep the podcast right
(11:07):
now, eventually I'd like to geta podcast or pro but that's down
the road. Again, thanks forlistening. Until next time,
friends. Keep seeking your ownbrilliant future
Welcome friends, both old and new. Welcome strive seek
fame podcast, I'm your hostchance with home to lifestyle
advice from a fellow traveler onthe road to better life, brought
to you by a longtime educator,writer, parent, and outdoor
enthusiast, who may just maylike a good draft, because our
(00:28):
future is set through not justour choices, but our willingness
to explore and find a betterway. Welcome to 2023. as I
record this, it is January 2, Iam running a little bit behind
this week, and I am trying outnew gear, my family got me a
(00:48):
very nice new microphone swingarm that finally will hold my
mic where it needs to be. Andthe headphones I'm using. So
hopefully that takes care ofsome of the buzzing that
sometimes sneak through andrecordings. I'm excited to try
it. So as I've been trying toput 2022 to bed and get ready
(01:12):
for 2023. Or as I like to thinkof it, the latest in a series of
years where people are going tosay to us, this one's going to
be better, so much better.
Because isn't that all of ourgoals, people are going to talk
about their goals andaspirations about what's going
right or at least better than ithas been of late. But a lot of
(01:34):
the time, we're going to ignorewhat put us in those situations.
And I don't mean this in anegative way at all. I'm not
pointing the finger and sayingthis is happening to you,
because you deserve it. More ofthis is the crucible you've been
(01:55):
through in the past year, youare new and better because of
it. Now like most things inlife, it's tempting to claim
that's easy. And let's behonest, it's not. But
nonetheless, let's get started.
The origin of the word crucialcomes from metallurgy, literally
(02:19):
a ceramic or metal container tomelt metal. It makes sense that
over time, we've taken thisliteral change of state and use
it to represent changes in life,where we feel the heat as we go
through trials. And there arealways trials. And that is a
(02:39):
good thing. After all, to quotean axiom that is popular in my
peer group, iron sharpens iron.
So it's like a speck across2022. And with it the several
years prior. And think about thefact that if we are wise, rather
than dwelling on the challengesthat we have, we take them and
(03:01):
forge them into the experiencesthat make up the middle of our
life. Life isn't one size fitsall, any more than say any one
alloy is good for 14 Everything.
After all, wild gold isbeautiful and wonderfully
conductive. You don't want tobuild an airplane, out of
(03:23):
something that flexible andheavy. Any more than your
significant other would like aring made out of lead. Well, at
least my significant other wouldprefer not to have that. And
before I tried to carry thisadult analogy even further down
the road and make it make evenless sense. I'll throw this out.
(03:44):
The past year, each of us havefaced some sort of challenge.
For some of us, it may be in theworst years of our life. For
others, the struggle may havebeen simply avoiding
complacency. For me, there werea variety. And out of the ones I
can share, or dare share, Ishould say, I'll start with
(04:07):
this. I'm still learning despitemy willingness to give others
grace. I'm not great at handingit out to myself when I need it.
Like most of us, I tend to be myown worst enemy. I've noticed a
slow improvement. And yet whenthings are at their hardest, I'm
at the hardest on myself. Sothis year, I'm going to try a
(04:30):
few reflective techniques tohelp me get through that without
continuing to repeat what hasbeen a constant problem from the
almost Well, let's be honesthere. Friends, almost as of
Thursday, completely on 50 yearsof my life. And if you've
(04:52):
listened to the podcast at allover the last year you know
there's been me dealing withsome grief issues and And a big
challenge that came out ofgrief. Were my trips home, once
to process and figure out theloss of dad, and once for the
holidays, learning from thosetrips, that it's going to be
(05:14):
different. And intellectuallyyou knew that, but experiencing
it, and that that's okay. Firstgetting used to the pain, and
then learning not to feel guiltwhen it doesn't hurt as bad as
it once did. And there's stillmoments that hits me, but it's
getting better. Another changeor challenge that I think many
(05:35):
of us dealt with was life wassupposed to be normal. And while
that was certainly dropped backto us at warp speed, we're not
the same people we were when wefirst got on board the ship,
pent up stress and trauma. Andthe alterations and expectations
(05:56):
have just punched us in themouth. We were eager to jump
back in what we could handlebefore. And we didn't take the
time to process whether wethought we should. We're now
learning to deal with unresolvedstress and trauma, alongside
exhaustion so you have theTriple Threat going. We're
(06:19):
tired, and quote from BlazingSaddles, a movie that could
never be made today. So damntired, and you're doing good if
you have your nose six inchesabove the water. We've been
building the plane while it'sflying for so long. We don't
know what it might be like tohave it worked on on solid
(06:41):
ground. That's helping me to bebetter prepared walking into
this year, I've been looking atthe things I've given up that I
need to work my way back intobecause nothing happens
instantaneously. Everything fromfinally recognize how I turned
my creative endeavors into anadditional set of stressors.
(07:02):
That is slowly ground myproduction down to nothing. This
is true in podcasting. This istrue in writing, I allowed those
creative releases, which for thelongest time have been my truly
release and stress reliever tostart beating me up because it
(07:24):
wasn't going the way I wanted itto. Or because I didn't feel
like create as quickly as Ineeded to. And that's still
something I'm struggling with.
But I'm sitting in front of amic today. Pretty damn happy to
be here to the fact in myattempts to be the person that
(07:45):
is completely put together. Ilet the stressors continue to
build in cost me stress reliefto the point where I gave up
working out or even going outfor a walk. So I gave up
everything healthy when it cameto dealing with stress. I'm
hoping that in 2023, I can takewhat's crucial brought me and
(08:08):
reforge myself into a slightlybetter version of me. I'm not
looking to make wholesalechanges. But I want to get
better. So as I work on this, Iposted the question both on the
stripe seek find faith Facebookgroup and to Twitter. And I
thought I'd share a couple ofthe answers I got. Kathy wrote,
(08:29):
learning to hold back mythoughts, my opinions, let life
play out. Sometimes the naturalconsequences and let life unfold
on its own is all the lesson aperson needs. love
unconditionally. And I learned Ican survive despite how low life
can go. Letting life play out isdamn hard. And I wish I was
(08:53):
better at it. The world coulduse a whole lot more of
unconditional love. Well set.
Phil pulled from what herelearned in the past year that
he tried to give people achance. And in this case, he
should have listened to his gutwhich He had done all his life.
Great message. Because some ofthe times I've been hit hardest
(09:13):
the mouth as those I have failedto trust my intuition. Thank you
for sharing. Alicia is facing achallenge I wouldn't have wanted
to handle at this point in mylife with style. relearning to
be a student feeling pretty goodso far. Good luck, Alicia with
grad school. I know you'rerocked first semester. Looking
(09:36):
forward to seeing you rock thenext one. And finally, Ian has
been learning from multiplemajor upheavals in his life.
Sweet Jesus, the biggest waslearning how to be still in
quiet periods of downtime,something I haven't had in
years. Let me tell you folks, Ihave learned to waste time with
the best of them. Sometimes withintentionality, it's Sometimes
(10:00):
by spinning with stressbut I haven't learned the skill
of being at peace with doing it.
So in please share what youlearn as you go through this
journey. Hey, please getinvolved in this conversation.
More questions to come both onTwitter and on the strife seek
find page on Facebook helped melearn helped me get better. Give
(10:24):
me ideas. It's greatlyappreciated. Well, my friends,
that's it for this week'sedition of strife seek fine, I
believe it's episode 123 Hard tobelieve. If you'd like to help
support, strive seek fi pleaseshare the podcast with friends
or leave a review on yourfavorite podcasting app. It
(10:45):
helps drive other people to theshow, consequently making the
show a little more discoverableonline. Like I said, greatly
appreciate if you'd rather helpfinancially. I have a buy me a
coffee link is in the show notes100% of everything or it goes
towards purchasing materialsthat will keep the podcast right
(11:07):
now, eventually I'd like to geta podcast or pro but that's down
the road. Again, thanks forlistening. Until next time,
friends. Keep seeking your ownbrilliant future
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