Strong Men Strong Marriages
Helping high achieving Christian men have more intimate marriages. Start with episodes 1-4 for an introduction. Traditional marriage counseling, couples therapy, couples counseling and even Christian marriage counseling will tell you that a good marriage is based on compromise. Validating feelings. Sacrifice. I tried that for years. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work. That’s why most couples who go through marriage counseling are the same or worse off after. BUT, in my studies in neuroscience at BYU, MD training at UCLA, psychiatry residency, marriage coach training, and most importantly in my own marriage, I finally found what DOES work. Building strength. Spiritual, mental, emotional and sexual strength, while anchored in following Christian marriage principles. Strength is attractive. And, it feels great. It builds trust. Add to this the skills of communication and intimacy, and you get a marriage full of phenomenal mental, emotional and physical intimacy. And, you set the example for generations to follow. I applied this to my own marriage, I felt better than ever and had more connection and passion than I thought possible. I started teaching this to other men and couples and they were able to create mental, emotional and sexual intimacy faster than they thought possible. This even works for affair recovery and emotional affairs. Now it’s your turn. Become a strong, attractive man. Create a strong, passionate marriage.
Episodes
If you’re trying to save your marriage, you are probably praying for help.
And that is a good and proper thing to do.
AND, it’s also necessary to do MORE than pray to save it.
It’s like praying to become a doctor.
You can pray for it…
But unless you go to medical school…
It won’t happen.
The same is true here.
Definitely pray for your marriage.
AND do the things that make you a man who can CR...
Probably the most effective prayer to save your marriage is this.
Pray to feel God’s love for you at a DEEP level every day.
As you FEEL that love from Him…
It will FILL you…
Make you less needy, more compassionate, and more loving…
And therefore more attractive.
As a bonus, pray to see and love your wife as God does too.
This video and this book have been helpful for me to feel God’s love for me.
If you’ve been on the fence about joining Strong Men Strong Marriages…
It’s time to get off the fence and apply.
I’ll hear from you soon.
Dr. Mike
If your wife is talking about separation or divorce…
Or you need to save your marriage from being roommates for the next 30 years…
There are 3 simple steps that will take you from feeling disconnected and stuck in your marriage…
To having the fun, passion and intimacy again.
Learn what they are in today’s episode.
Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast.
Watch on YouTube here.
Dr. Mike
OK. You have 3 days until Mother’s Day.
What are your plans?
Reply on LinkedIn and let me know!
Watch on YouTube here.
Dr. Mike
P.S. Reply to this post with the results of your challenge!
P.P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to ...
Mother’s Day is this Sunday…
And it’s a great chance to show your love and appreciation for your wife.
Most moms feel like they’re not doing a great job, or at least could be doing better.
This is your chance to show your wife just how much you and your kids appreciate her.
Show love and take leadership.
That’s what’s ATTRACTIVE to your wife.
Get some ideas on today’s episode.
Watch on YouTube here.
From now on, each Thursday you’ll get a challenge to apply the material from Tuesday’s podcast.
For this week the challenge is:
Make and keep a promise.
It can be big or small (though I recommend small), and it can be to yourself or someone else.
Follow through on that promise…
And reply to this email to let me know how it went.
What was the promise?
Did you feel a boost in your self-confidence?
Self-worth is your inherent value. You have it just because you exist. God loves you and is pleased with you just because you exit.
Self-esteem is the overall thoughts and feelings you have about yourself.
Both of these are more about THINKING and FEELING.
Self-confidence, on the other hand, is about DOING.
You build self-confidence by…
*Making and keeping promises
*Building skills
Learn more on today’...
Last week we talked about increasing your self-worth.
Your self-worth is your inherent value, which doesn’t ever change and is great and infinite as a son of God.
Your self-esteem is your relationship with yourself.
In other words, your thoughts and feelings about yourself.
Most high achieving guys have the mindset of “I can do better.”
This is a mask for “I’m not doing or being enough.”
This leads to a feel...
I used to believe that I had to work to be worthy.
That my self-worth was determined by what I accomplished.
And, I still fall into that trap sometimes.
But it is a trap. Because no matter how much you accomplish…
You can always accomplish more.
Instead of this trap, try the 3 simple steps in today’s episode.
*See yourself as a beloved son of God
*Get around people who love you
*See yourself as a baby
Le...
For most of my life, I’ve felt like I need to achieve to be valuable.
I haven’t really felt like I could ever rest. I was either “growing or dying.”
The last few weeks have shown me that this isn’t really what God intends or wants for me… or for you.
Instead, we can find rest in knowing we are Sons Of The King. That we are loved, accepted and forgiven through Christ. We can stop trying to fight the battles that have alr...
Today we get to meet Emmanual and Bekah Guarino, founders of Team Vulnerable.
You’ll hear their story of how Emmanuel:
-Struggled with pornography for YEARS
-Eventually shared his struggle with Bekah
-Found a way to work as a team to help Emmanuel overcome pornography… to the point that he doesn’t really feel tempted at all to view it
Watch on YouTube here.
There are a lot of dif...
Last week we learned about the problematic attachment styles in marriage.
Today we’ll learn what we need to do to earn the secure attachment that we want in marriage.
Secure attachment looks like:
-A good balance between “me” and “we”
-Feeling confident that your needs will be met
-Expressing your thoughts and feelings and listening to your wife’s
-Asking for what you need and responding to your wife’s
S...
You may have heard of the different attachment styles.
Avoidant. Anxious/Ambivalent. Disorganized. And secure.
Many high achieving men were brought up in avoidant, anxious/ambivalent or even disorganized homes.
They learned the lesson that they need to figure things out on their own… and they did.
That helped them be very successful in business and work.
But, it causes significant issues in marriage.
Learn ...
Every marriage has conflict.
In some marriages it’s very emotional and volatile, with screaming matches.
In others, it’s buried under the surface with one or both spouses silently resenting the other.
In others, one spouse wants to talk things out, while the other wants to avoid the conversation.
Whatever your pattern is, there’s a reason for it.
And it has to do with how your brain is wired.
Learn how to st...
Recently I got my testosterone checked. I found that my total testosterone was normal, but my free testosterone was low.
This got me started on a path to try to figure out how to increase both free and total testosterone NATURALLY.
Because testosterone replacement therapy SHUTS DOWN your body’s natural production.
Jason has a long history of helping men increase their testosterone and energy levels through natural means...
When your wife takes off her wedding ring…
It can signal a BIG alarm.
Most men will either try to ignore this (while silently fearing what it might mean)…
Become passive aggressive to “pay her back” for not wearing her ring…
Or confront her in an angry way.
Fortunately, there’s a better response that can lead to MORE intimacy and connection.
Learn what it is…
In today’s episode.
Watch on YouTube here...
There are scientifically proven ways to let our emotions flow in healthy ways.
Those are:
-Breathe
-Name
-Feel
-Deal
Learn more about these… with a specific example… in today’s episode.
Watch on YouTube here.
Dr. Mike
P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for ...
I used to be afraid of emotions. And really, I still am a little.
From what I saw, when people got overly angry, they broke things or hurt people.
If they got overly sad, they got depressed or even suicidal.
If they got anxious, they froze and didn’t accomplish anything.
I certainly didn’t want to do this, and so I took the approach of trying to “turn down the volume” on my emotions.
Unfortunately, this has kept...
Here are 3 questions to ask if your wife is talking about a subject you’re not that interested in:
-How did you feel about that?
-What did you think about that?
-Why do you like that/why is that important to you?
Try to understand her thoughts and feelings, as that’s what real mental and emotional intimacy is.
Try them out today!
Watch on YouTube here.
Dr. Mike
P.S. If you’re a high achiev...
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