If you’re suspicious that your wife may be involved with another man…

Or if she’s been unfaithful in the past…

The temptation to spy on her can be VERY high.

There are pros and cons to spying, and we’ll cover them in today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here. 

Dr. Mike

P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional  intimac...

If your wife turns away from your hugs and kisses…

But doesn’t have an issue giving hugs to friends, family and your kids…

It can be VERY frustrating.

But, there’s a reason for it.

You are probably trying to TAKE a hug from her…

Instead of GIVING a hug.

Learn more in today’s episode.

Dr. Mike

P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible se...

It used to bum me out that my wife would hug and kiss my kids…

But not me.

They were getting more affection than I was!

And my wife would tell me that she just “wasn’t very touchy…”

Which I saw with my own eyes just wasn’t true.

Learn why this is happening…

And what to do about it…

In today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here. 

Dr. Mike

P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful ...

If you’re at the beach and a wave is coming, you have 3 options.

Option 1 - Run away. If you choose this, you will get smashed.

This is like trying to avoid emotions.

Option 2 - Stand there. If you choose this, you will get smashed. 

This is like freezing in your emotions or trying to ignore them (or push them away with things like food, pornography, etc.)

Option 3 - Jump into the wave.

While counterintuitiv...

No matter what, your marriage WILL have ups and downs.

You’ll have moments of great connection… then disconnection.

Your wife will be happy… then unhappy.

How do you handle these ups and downs now?

Many men try to fix the downs and make them go away as fast as possible.

But, this often just makes the downs last longer and creates more damage.

Learn what to do instead…

To enjoy the good times and make the...

Step 1 - Seen. Notice your own emotions. Name them. Feel them.

Step 2 - Safe. Remind yourself that you’re OK and in a safe place

Step 3 - Soothe. Deal with your emotions appropriately. Think in terms of body, mind, heart and spirit.

Body - exercise, stretching, yoga, etc

Mind - Music, books, scriptures

Heart - Connection with others

Spirit - Prayer, meditation, books

Following these 3 steps, you WILL create more securi...

This is, I believe, one of my most important episodes so far.

We all have the desire to feel seen, safe and soothed in our emotions.

Unfortunately, many of us did not get that… or did not get it consistently… from our parents or caregivers.

I used to ignore this idea a lot, thinking our upbringing didn’t really matter.

But, as I’ve done some of this work on my own, I’ve seen that our childhood has a MASSIVE impact o...

Today I have the privilege of talking with Monica Tanner, host of the Secrets Of Happily Ever After Podcast.

We discuss insights on how to “woo your wife.”

What are the things you can do today (and tonight) to make your wife feel “those feelings” again.

This episode includes some extra special tips and phrases on how to do just that.

Watch on YouTube here.

You can find Monica at monicatanner.com 

http://moni...

Do you feel like your marriage is stagnant?

Are you walking on eggshells, avoiding asking for what you want, because you’re afraid your wife might not like it or agree?

Are you good teammates in parenting and household management, but lack sexual, mental and emotional intimacy?

Then there’s a good chance there’s not enough conflict in your marriage.

Just like your body needs stress to become stronger…

Your marri...

I’ve had some important insights lately that I have not been the father that I want to be, and feedback from my oldest son that I’m not the type of father he would want to be around once he leaves the house.

While hard to hear, it was very important to me and now I’m making changes that will help me be that father.

Today I talk with Don Manning from Crazy Cool Family, who has made it his mission to help us

“Experien...

When your wife says “I need space…”

It’s frightening and often confusing.

But, understanding WHY she needs space… 

And what she needs space FROM…

Can help you become the man that she wants to come CLOSER to…

Instead of GET AWAY from.

Learn WHY she’s asking for space…

And what to do to make her become ATTRACTED to you again…

In today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here. 

https://youtu.be/s-4Nve4P...

When you feel yourself going on that “low road” and acting in ways you won’t be proud of…

Stop and take a breath.

Remind yourself that you’re OK.

Start acting how you want to act if you can.

If you can’t remove yourself from the situation until you can.

Mentally rehearse this so you’re ready to go in the moment.

Dr. Mike

P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is read...

This week was a powerful week for me. 

My son told me directly that he didn’t really feel comfortable talking to me because he was worried I would respond with anger.

This was a turning point for me. This moment combined with reading Parenting From The Inside Out by Daniel Siegel https://amzn.to/3KAr8CP helped me see that I was repeating some old patterns from my childhood that I wasn’t aware of.

Learn how to find some ...

You would think your wife would respect how hard you try to make her happy.

That approach MIGHT make her LIKE you…

But it WILL NOT lead to her RESPECTING you…

Or being ATTRACTED to you.

Learn how to earn her respect in today’s episode.

It’s probably not what you think.

Watch on YouTube here. 

https://youtu.be/6pSGR01K4pY

Dr. Mike

P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christia...

I talk to a lot of men who are great leaders at work.

Business owners. Professionals. Military leaders and sports professionals.

They are great leaders at church. Men’s group leaders, youth group leaders, even leaders of marriage ministries.

BUT, they DO NOT feel like leaders with their wife.

They walk on eggshells trying to make her happy.

Their wives say they want them to lead more…

But when they try, they...

There are 3 simple steps to become the man your wife passionately desires.

Step 1 - Identify and eliminate your negative, unattractive patterns of thinking, feeling and acting.

If you don’t do this, you’ll continue to push your wife away.

And if you don’t get a guide to help you, you won’t be able to identify them. Or at least not all of them and not at a deep level.

Step 2 - Replace them with positive, attractive p...

You’re trying to do the right things.

You’re trying to make your wife happy.

Cooking, cleaning, doing the 5 love languages.

But, your wife isn’t turned on by any of it.

She doesn’t even appreciate it, while people outside the marriage seem to.

The question now is…

Do you want to continue to try to create intimacy on your own?

Or do you want to follow The Hero’s Journey to become the man your wife passion...

There are 3 simple steps to become the man your wife passionately desires.

Step 1 - Identify and eliminate your negative, unattractive patterns of thinking, feeling and acting.

If you don’t do this, you’ll continue to push your wife away.

And if you don’t get a guide to help you, you won’t be able to identify them. Or at least not all of them and not at a deep level.

Step 2 - Replace them with positive, attractive p...

Is it possible to be “too nice” to your wife?

YES!

If you’re not willing to disagree with your wife…

Express yourself…

Speak up when you feel things aren’t fair…

Then you are living in the “happy wife, happy life” mindset.

Which creates a sort of happy wife who “loves you but is not in love with you…”

A roommate, unbalanced, and walking on eggshells feeling in the marriage…

And an emotionally and sex...