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- How to Be Responsive During Play
- Exhibitionism for the Shy: Show Off, Dress Up and Talk Hot! by Carol Queen
- Sex Talk: Uncensored Exercises for Exploring What Really Turns You On by Lauren Dockett
- The Dirty Slang Dictionary
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SPEAKER_00 (00:00):
Hello, everyone, and welcome to this month's podcast
from Submissive Guide.
I'm your host, Luna KM.
Today, we're talking dirty.
Let's get past moans, groans,and sighs to practice our
naughty vocabulary and turn onour partners.
But first, I want to share someexciting news with you.
(00:20):
I have released a brand neweducational guide on anal play.
It's called Exploring AnalPleasures, A Submissive's Guide
to Anal Play and Training.
And it's available now on Amazonas a paperback and Kindle, as
well as at other digital bookmarketplaces to download.
If you've ever wondered aboutanal play, how to start anal
(00:42):
training with butt plugs, orwhat the best lubes and toys to
try out are, I'll show you.
Go to subguide.com to learnmore.
That's S-U-B-G-U-I dot D-E slashanalplay and get your copy
today.
When it comes to sex, we allknow that open communication is
(01:06):
the key to unlocking deeperconnections and sizzling
pleasure.
In that realm, one powerful toolcan take things to a whole new
level.
Dirty talk.
But let's be real.
For many of us, Diving into theworld of dirty talk can feel
like navigating a minefield ofuncertainty, awkwardness, and
societal taboos.
(01:29):
Let's explore the ups and downsof discovering the magic of
dirty talk and, mostimportantly, provide practical
tips to bring hot or trashy sextalk into your bedroom.
So prepare to break free frominhibitions as we embark on an
irresistible adventure wheredesires are voiced, boundaries
are pushed, and pleasure reachesnew heights.
(01:50):
Let's dive in.
It may not be surprising, but Iwasn't always great at dirty
talk.
I consider myself quite prolificnow, and it works for Nightmare
and Me on many levels.
Talking dirty enhances our playand sex quite regularly.
My first experience withanything sex was through porn.
(02:11):
The girls of porn taught me howsex might be for me.
And so when it came time to havesex for the first time, I tried
to copy them.
Well, at least the dirty talkanyway.
But it was cumbersome,uncomfortable, and odd feeling.
Worse yet, I felt embarrassed bythe simplest terms of anatomy
like pussy and dick, breasts andass.
(02:34):
So because of that discomfort, Iquickly ignored my partner's
lust at hearing me try to talkdirty and resorted to moans,
groans, and sighs.
These utterances seemed so muchsafer and more comfortable.
Later in my sexual journey, Ifound a fantastic book that gave
me the tools to try dirty talkagain.
(02:56):
Exhibitionism for the Shy, ShowOff, Dress Up, and Talk Hot by
Carole Queen is a fantasticforay into exhibitionism.
No matter how shy you are or arenot, this book has something to
help you express yourselfsexually.
The Talking Dirty chaptershelped me realize that I could
be more audible in bed and itwould enhance our sex play.
(03:19):
I tested a few of herrecommendations, and while one
or two fell flat with nightmare,the others did what I wanted
them to.
It wasn't long before I wantedto use dirty words again.
You too can learn how to talkdirty, get over your
embarrassment, and make it anexciting addition to your
relationship.
(03:40):
Section 1.
The Importance of Communicationin Sex Picture this.
You're with your partner, readyto get it on.
But without propercommunication, you might as well
be talking different languages.
Being able to talk about whatyou crave and need during sex
can turn your experience frommeh to mind-blowing.
(04:00):
So why does communicationmatter?
Well, think of it as a secretdecoder ring to unlock pleasure.
By openly sharing your desires,boundaries, and fantasies, you
give your partner the insidescoop on what makes you tick in
the best way possible.
For example, maybe you want yourpartner to whisper naughty words
(04:21):
in your ear, or perhaps you'dlove to hear them describe their
fantasies or even direct theaction.
It's all about finding thosemagical words that turn you on
and using them to guide yourpartner toward maximum
satisfaction.
But it's not just about speakingup.
It's also about turning up theheat with your words.
Imagine the seductive power of awhispered confession, like
(04:43):
telling your partner how muchyou crave their touch.
or describing in vivid detailwhat you want them to do to you.
And let's not forget the playfulside of Dirty Talk, where you
can explore fantasies, roleplayscenarios, or even share some
saucy compliments.
The possibilities are endless,and by embracing this level of
communication, you create a safeand exciting space for both
(05:06):
partners to express theirdesires, build trust, and take
your pleasure to dizzying newheights.
Section 2 The Challenges ofDirty Talk We all know that the
idea of dirty talk can betempting, but when it comes to
putting it into practice, it canbe a challenging addition.
As I just shared, one of thesignificant hurdles to talking
(05:30):
dirty is the fear of feelingawkward or embarrassed.
Talking explicitly about desiresand using specific words related
to sex and anatomy can initiallymake you feel like a stumbling
teenager trying to find theirfooting.
It's essential to remember thateveryone goes through this
phase, and it takes time andpractice to find your authentic
voice in dirty talk.
(05:51):
Another challenge stems from theinfluence of unrealistic
expectations set by mainstreampornography.
Many of us have been exposed toexaggerated performances and
scripted dialogue in adultfilms, which can create a
distorted perception of whatreal sex and dirty talk should
be like.
When attempting to replicatethose dialogues, it often feels
unnatural or disconnected fromour desires and experiences.
(06:15):
It's crucial to realize thatdirty talk is not about mimicry
or imitation, but rather aboutfinding your unique style of
expression that aligns with yourdesires and comfort level.
Moreover, societal taboos andstigmas surrounding explicit
language and sexual expressioncan be an obstacle.
We've been conditioned tobelieve that certain words or
(06:35):
phrases are vulgar orinappropriate, leading to shame
or guilt when trying to voiceour desires.
Breaking free from thesesocietal constraints and
embracing the freedom to expressourselves sexually can be
difficult.
It requires challenging andre-evaluating these preconceived
notions, recognizing thatconsensual communication about
(06:55):
desires is a healthy andessential part of sexual
relationships.
No matter the challenges tobuilding your skill at Dirty
Talk, accepting it as a naturaland erotic form of communication
will open the doors to the manybenefits those naughty whispers
bring to your playtime.
Section 3.
The Benefits of Dirty Talk Nowthat we've tackled the
(07:18):
challenges, let's talk about thebenefits that Dirty Talk brings
to the table.
Dirty Talk has an incredibleability to ignite desire and
intensify arousal.
If you love to hear naughtywhispers in your ear, you
probably already know how muchof a turn-on that is.
When you and your partner engagein explicit neurotic
conversation, it creates apotent cocktail of anticipation,
(07:41):
excitement, and connection.
Sharing your deepest thoughtsand cravings strengthens your
emotional bond with yourpartner.
Effective open communication isthe backbone of a DS
relationship, and while it maynot seem like dirty talk is part
of that openness, it can take itto the next level.
When you can talk about yourfantasies, desires, and how the
(08:01):
intimacy you share makes youfeel, it provides your partner
with a roadmap to heightenedpleasures for both of you.
This open dialogue can lead to agreater understanding of each
other's needs and a morefulfilling sexual experience.
One of the areas wherecommunication and dirty talk
meet is during sex and play,where the moans, groans,
whimpers, and other words youuse can create a positive
(08:25):
feedback loop.
This loop provides energy to thescene and turns you both on.
To learn more about creating afeedback loop during play, read
our article, How to BeResponsive During Play on
Submissive Guide.
There is a link to the articlein our show notes.
As you embrace the freedom tovocalize your desires, you can
tap into your authentic sexualself, boosting your confidence
(08:49):
and self-esteem.
Finding your voice for dirtytalk can unleash your inner
seductress or seducer,Heightening Your Pleasure and
Igniting a Sense of Empowermentwhispering sensual confessions,
(09:21):
or indulging in explicit roleplay, the possibilities are
endless, making each encounteran exciting adventure.
Section four, overcomingbarriers, six tips to practice
dirty talk.
Here are six tips to help you upyour naughty talk game.
Number one, become more vocal.
(09:46):
The first step that will helpyou get more comfortable talking
during sex would be to juststart making more noise.
Don't worry, we aren't jumpingstraight to explicit phrases
yet.
We're starting with moans,groans, sighs, and gasps first.
These natural sounds arepowerful in conveying your
enjoyment.
(10:06):
Once you can get used to hearingyourself enjoy sex and listening
to your partner enjoy sex, itcan open up your confidence for
using words.
Number two, practice duringmasturbation.
No matter how private yourmoments are during masturbation,
whatever the fantasy, you canvocalize to yourself.
(10:27):
Start with whispers and thenon-words that were just
suggested.
Get comfortable hearing yourvoice while you pleasure
yourself.
After a while, start usingone-word phrases.
Yes, God, fuck, oh, and evenyour partner's name.
As before, whisper them firstand then get a little bolder,
and before long, you'll be ableto scream these words.
(10:49):
This practice helps you becomemore attuned to your voice and
builds confidence.
Number three, write out andmemorize hot phrases.
This step can be a game changer,especially for those struggling
to find the right words in theheat of the moment.
Take some dedicated time towrite out your hot phrases.
(11:11):
Start with the ones thatimmediately come to mind and
feel natural.
Don't worry about perfection atthis stage.
It's all about getting yourthoughts on paper.
You can draw inspiration fromerotic literature, steamy
movies, or even conversationswith your partner about their
deepest desires.
Let your imagination run wildand jot down any phrases that
(11:32):
get your heart racing.
Once you have your hot phrases,it's time to commit them to
memory.
Read them aloud daily,preferably before bed or during
moments of self-pleasure.
By repeatedly speaking thephrases, you'll become more
familiar with them and they'llflow more naturally when using
them during sex.
Gradually, you'll internalizethese phrases, making them
(11:55):
easily accessible in the heat ofpassion.
Number four, explore sexualslang.
Understanding and embracingsexual slang can add a playful
dimension to your dirty talkrepertoire.
Recognize that there arenumerous ways to describe sexual
acts and body parts, and eachperson may have their
preferences.
(12:15):
Engage in conversations, readerotic literature or online
resources, and watch adultcontent if you're comfortable to
expose yourself to varioussexual slang.
This will help you discover newterms that resonate with you and
align with your comfort level.
Take note of the ones that catchyour attention and make you feel
empowered or excited.
(12:36):
While slang and terminology canbe exciting, remember that
authenticity is vital.
Don't force yourself to usewords or phrases that don't
resonate with you or feelunnatural.
Instead, personalize the slangyou've discovered to align with
your unique desires andexperiences.
Adapt the terms to suit yourstyle and the dynamics of your
(12:58):
relationship.
The dirty slang dictionary is anexcellent place to start.
If you need even more, by thebook Sex Talk, Uncensored
Exercises for Exploring WhatReally Turns You On by Lauren
Dockett.
Both of these links will be inthe show notes for you.
Number five, break down yourmental barriers.
(13:20):
Dirty talk can feel taboo orintimidating for some, but
breaking through these barriersopens up a world of pleasure and
connection.
Identifying that block will helpyou free yourself from the
feeling of taboo and open yourmind sexually to the joys that
talking dirty can bring to thebedroom.
Reflect on any underlyingbeliefs, cultural influences, or
(13:42):
past experiences that haveshaped your perception of
vocalizing during sex.
Society often imposes taboos andstigmas around discussing
explicit desires or usingcertain words in a sexual
context.
It's crucial to challenge thesetaboos and reclaim your sexual
autonomy.
You can overcome these barriersby recognizing and challenging
(14:05):
the societal taboos, buildingyour confidence gradually, and
creating a safe andnon-judgmental space with your
partner to explore dirty talk.
Number six, describe.
One technique to become morevocal is describing the
sensations you're experiencing.
Start by saying simple phraseslike, that feels good, I'm so
(14:29):
turned on, or I love it when youtouch me there.
As you grow more comfortable, bemore specific and vivid in your
descriptions.
Share how you feel inside.
Describe the tingling sensationsor express how wet or hard you
are.
This descriptive approachenhances your pleasures and
gives your partner a glimpseinto your erotic experience,
(14:50):
creating a deeper connectionbetween you.
Then you can begin to describewhat your partner is doing to
you.
Like, yes, kiss me, lick mypussy, suck my dick, or fuck me
hard.
I hope these few tips will openyour mind and eventually your
mouth to some of the hottest sexyou can have when you just
verbalize.
(15:12):
Remember, becoming more vocalduring sex is a journey that
requires practice andself-acceptance.
By starting with moans, groans,and sighs, you gradually build
your confidence in expressingpleasure, laying the foundation
for future explorations intodirty talk.
So embrace your curiosity, findyour favorites, communicate with
(15:32):
your partner, and let the powerof language take your sexual
experiences to thrilling newheights.
Thank you for listening to ourpodcast.
We hope you learned how to begintalking dirty with your partner.
We would love to hear whatyou've learned from this
podcast.
Mention at subguide on Twitterand Instagram or on FetLife
(15:53):
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That's S-U-B-G-U-I dot D-E slashsociety.
Hello, everyone, and welcome to this month's podcast
from Submissive Guide.
I'm your host, Luna KM.
Today, we're talking dirty.
Let's get past moans, groans,and sighs to practice our
naughty vocabulary and turn onour partners.
But first, I want to share someexciting news with you.
(00:20):
I have released a brand neweducational guide on anal play.
It's called Exploring AnalPleasures, A Submissive's Guide
to Anal Play and Training.
And it's available now on Amazonas a paperback and Kindle, as
well as at other digital bookmarketplaces to download.
If you've ever wondered aboutanal play, how to start anal
(00:42):
training with butt plugs, orwhat the best lubes and toys to
try out are, I'll show you.
Go to subguide.com to learnmore.
That's S-U-B-G-U-I dot D-E slashanalplay and get your copy
today.
When it comes to sex, we allknow that open communication is
(01:06):
the key to unlocking deeperconnections and sizzling
pleasure.
In that realm, one powerful toolcan take things to a whole new
level.
Dirty talk.
But let's be real.
For many of us, Diving into theworld of dirty talk can feel
like navigating a minefield ofuncertainty, awkwardness, and
societal taboos.
(01:29):
Let's explore the ups and downsof discovering the magic of
dirty talk and, mostimportantly, provide practical
tips to bring hot or trashy sextalk into your bedroom.
So prepare to break free frominhibitions as we embark on an
irresistible adventure wheredesires are voiced, boundaries
are pushed, and pleasure reachesnew heights.
(01:50):
Let's dive in.
It may not be surprising, but Iwasn't always great at dirty
talk.
I consider myself quite prolificnow, and it works for Nightmare
and Me on many levels.
Talking dirty enhances our playand sex quite regularly.
My first experience withanything sex was through porn.
(02:11):
The girls of porn taught me howsex might be for me.
And so when it came time to havesex for the first time, I tried
to copy them.
Well, at least the dirty talkanyway.
But it was cumbersome,uncomfortable, and odd feeling.
Worse yet, I felt embarrassed bythe simplest terms of anatomy
like pussy and dick, breasts andass.
(02:34):
So because of that discomfort, Iquickly ignored my partner's
lust at hearing me try to talkdirty and resorted to moans,
groans, and sighs.
These utterances seemed so muchsafer and more comfortable.
Later in my sexual journey, Ifound a fantastic book that gave
me the tools to try dirty talkagain.
(02:56):
Exhibitionism for the Shy, ShowOff, Dress Up, and Talk Hot by
Carole Queen is a fantasticforay into exhibitionism.
No matter how shy you are or arenot, this book has something to
help you express yourselfsexually.
The Talking Dirty chaptershelped me realize that I could
be more audible in bed and itwould enhance our sex play.
(03:19):
I tested a few of herrecommendations, and while one
or two fell flat with nightmare,the others did what I wanted
them to.
It wasn't long before I wantedto use dirty words again.
You too can learn how to talkdirty, get over your
embarrassment, and make it anexciting addition to your
relationship.
(03:40):
Section 1.
The Importance of Communicationin Sex Picture this.
You're with your partner, readyto get it on.
But without propercommunication, you might as well
be talking different languages.
Being able to talk about whatyou crave and need during sex
can turn your experience frommeh to mind-blowing.
(04:00):
So why does communicationmatter?
Well, think of it as a secretdecoder ring to unlock pleasure.
By openly sharing your desires,boundaries, and fantasies, you
give your partner the insidescoop on what makes you tick in
the best way possible.
For example, maybe you want yourpartner to whisper naughty words
(04:21):
in your ear, or perhaps you'dlove to hear them describe their
fantasies or even direct theaction.
It's all about finding thosemagical words that turn you on
and using them to guide yourpartner toward maximum
satisfaction.
But it's not just about speakingup.
It's also about turning up theheat with your words.
Imagine the seductive power of awhispered confession, like
(04:43):
telling your partner how muchyou crave their touch.
or describing in vivid detailwhat you want them to do to you.
And let's not forget the playfulside of Dirty Talk, where you
can explore fantasies, roleplayscenarios, or even share some
saucy compliments.
The possibilities are endless,and by embracing this level of
communication, you create a safeand exciting space for both
(05:06):
partners to express theirdesires, build trust, and take
your pleasure to dizzying newheights.
Section 2 The Challenges ofDirty Talk We all know that the
idea of dirty talk can betempting, but when it comes to
putting it into practice, it canbe a challenging addition.
As I just shared, one of thesignificant hurdles to talking
(05:30):
dirty is the fear of feelingawkward or embarrassed.
Talking explicitly about desiresand using specific words related
to sex and anatomy can initiallymake you feel like a stumbling
teenager trying to find theirfooting.
It's essential to remember thateveryone goes through this
phase, and it takes time andpractice to find your authentic
voice in dirty talk.
(05:51):
Another challenge stems from theinfluence of unrealistic
expectations set by mainstreampornography.
Many of us have been exposed toexaggerated performances and
scripted dialogue in adultfilms, which can create a
distorted perception of whatreal sex and dirty talk should
be like.
When attempting to replicatethose dialogues, it often feels
unnatural or disconnected fromour desires and experiences.
(06:15):
It's crucial to realize thatdirty talk is not about mimicry
or imitation, but rather aboutfinding your unique style of
expression that aligns with yourdesires and comfort level.
Moreover, societal taboos andstigmas surrounding explicit
language and sexual expressioncan be an obstacle.
We've been conditioned tobelieve that certain words or
(06:35):
phrases are vulgar orinappropriate, leading to shame
or guilt when trying to voiceour desires.
Breaking free from thesesocietal constraints and
embracing the freedom to expressourselves sexually can be
difficult.
It requires challenging andre-evaluating these preconceived
notions, recognizing thatconsensual communication about
(06:55):
desires is a healthy andessential part of sexual
relationships.
No matter the challenges tobuilding your skill at Dirty
Talk, accepting it as a naturaland erotic form of communication
will open the doors to the manybenefits those naughty whispers
bring to your playtime.
Section 3.
The Benefits of Dirty Talk Nowthat we've tackled the
(07:18):
challenges, let's talk about thebenefits that Dirty Talk brings
to the table.
Dirty Talk has an incredibleability to ignite desire and
intensify arousal.
If you love to hear naughtywhispers in your ear, you
probably already know how muchof a turn-on that is.
When you and your partner engagein explicit neurotic
conversation, it creates apotent cocktail of anticipation,
(07:41):
excitement, and connection.
Sharing your deepest thoughtsand cravings strengthens your
emotional bond with yourpartner.
Effective open communication isthe backbone of a DS
relationship, and while it maynot seem like dirty talk is part
of that openness, it can take itto the next level.
When you can talk about yourfantasies, desires, and how the
(08:01):
intimacy you share makes youfeel, it provides your partner
with a roadmap to heightenedpleasures for both of you.
This open dialogue can lead to agreater understanding of each
other's needs and a morefulfilling sexual experience.
One of the areas wherecommunication and dirty talk
meet is during sex and play,where the moans, groans,
whimpers, and other words youuse can create a positive
(08:25):
feedback loop.
This loop provides energy to thescene and turns you both on.
To learn more about creating afeedback loop during play, read
our article, How to BeResponsive During Play on
Submissive Guide.
There is a link to the articlein our show notes.
As you embrace the freedom tovocalize your desires, you can
tap into your authentic sexualself, boosting your confidence
(08:49):
and self-esteem.
Finding your voice for dirtytalk can unleash your inner
seductress or seducer,Heightening Your Pleasure and
Igniting a Sense of Empowermentwhispering sensual confessions,
(09:21):
or indulging in explicit roleplay, the possibilities are
endless, making each encounteran exciting adventure.
Section four, overcomingbarriers, six tips to practice
dirty talk.
Here are six tips to help you upyour naughty talk game.
Number one, become more vocal.
(09:46):
The first step that will helpyou get more comfortable talking
during sex would be to juststart making more noise.
Don't worry, we aren't jumpingstraight to explicit phrases
yet.
We're starting with moans,groans, sighs, and gasps first.
These natural sounds arepowerful in conveying your
enjoyment.
(10:06):
Once you can get used to hearingyourself enjoy sex and listening
to your partner enjoy sex, itcan open up your confidence for
using words.
Number two, practice duringmasturbation.
No matter how private yourmoments are during masturbation,
whatever the fantasy, you canvocalize to yourself.
(10:27):
Start with whispers and thenon-words that were just
suggested.
Get comfortable hearing yourvoice while you pleasure
yourself.
After a while, start usingone-word phrases.
Yes, God, fuck, oh, and evenyour partner's name.
As before, whisper them firstand then get a little bolder,
and before long, you'll be ableto scream these words.
(10:49):
This practice helps you becomemore attuned to your voice and
builds confidence.
Number three, write out andmemorize hot phrases.
This step can be a game changer,especially for those struggling
to find the right words in theheat of the moment.
Take some dedicated time towrite out your hot phrases.
(11:11):
Start with the ones thatimmediately come to mind and
feel natural.
Don't worry about perfection atthis stage.
It's all about getting yourthoughts on paper.
You can draw inspiration fromerotic literature, steamy
movies, or even conversationswith your partner about their
deepest desires.
Let your imagination run wildand jot down any phrases that
(11:32):
get your heart racing.
Once you have your hot phrases,it's time to commit them to
memory.
Read them aloud daily,preferably before bed or during
moments of self-pleasure.
By repeatedly speaking thephrases, you'll become more
familiar with them and they'llflow more naturally when using
them during sex.
Gradually, you'll internalizethese phrases, making them
(11:55):
easily accessible in the heat ofpassion.
Number four, explore sexualslang.
Understanding and embracingsexual slang can add a playful
dimension to your dirty talkrepertoire.
Recognize that there arenumerous ways to describe sexual
acts and body parts, and eachperson may have their
preferences.
(12:15):
Engage in conversations, readerotic literature or online
resources, and watch adultcontent if you're comfortable to
expose yourself to varioussexual slang.
This will help you discover newterms that resonate with you and
align with your comfort level.
Take note of the ones that catchyour attention and make you feel
empowered or excited.
(12:36):
While slang and terminology canbe exciting, remember that
authenticity is vital.
Don't force yourself to usewords or phrases that don't
resonate with you or feelunnatural.
Instead, personalize the slangyou've discovered to align with
your unique desires andexperiences.
Adapt the terms to suit yourstyle and the dynamics of your
(12:58):
relationship.
The dirty slang dictionary is anexcellent place to start.
If you need even more, by thebook Sex Talk, Uncensored
Exercises for Exploring WhatReally Turns You On by Lauren
Dockett.
Both of these links will be inthe show notes for you.
Number five, break down yourmental barriers.
(13:20):
Dirty talk can feel taboo orintimidating for some, but
breaking through these barriersopens up a world of pleasure and
connection.
Identifying that block will helpyou free yourself from the
feeling of taboo and open yourmind sexually to the joys that
talking dirty can bring to thebedroom.
Reflect on any underlyingbeliefs, cultural influences, or
(13:42):
past experiences that haveshaped your perception of
vocalizing during sex.
Society often imposes taboos andstigmas around discussing
explicit desires or usingcertain words in a sexual
context.
It's crucial to challenge thesetaboos and reclaim your sexual
autonomy.
You can overcome these barriersby recognizing and challenging
(14:05):
the societal taboos, buildingyour confidence gradually, and
creating a safe andnon-judgmental space with your
partner to explore dirty talk.
Number six, describe.
One technique to become morevocal is describing the
sensations you're experiencing.
Start by saying simple phraseslike, that feels good, I'm so
(14:29):
turned on, or I love it when youtouch me there.
As you grow more comfortable, bemore specific and vivid in your
descriptions.
Share how you feel inside.
Describe the tingling sensationsor express how wet or hard you
are.
This descriptive approachenhances your pleasures and
gives your partner a glimpseinto your erotic experience,
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creating a deeper connectionbetween you.
Then you can begin to describewhat your partner is doing to
you.
Like, yes, kiss me, lick mypussy, suck my dick, or fuck me
hard.
I hope these few tips will openyour mind and eventually your
mouth to some of the hottest sexyou can have when you just
verbalize.
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Remember, becoming more vocalduring sex is a journey that
requires practice andself-acceptance.
By starting with moans, groans,and sighs, you gradually build
your confidence in expressingpleasure, laying the foundation
for future explorations intodirty talk.
So embrace your curiosity, findyour favorites, communicate with
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your partner, and let the powerof language take your sexual
experiences to thrilling newheights.
Thank you for listening to ourpodcast.
We hope you learned how to begintalking dirty with your partner.
We would love to hear whatyou've learned from this
podcast.
Mention at subguide on Twitterand Instagram or on FetLife
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