January 15, 2025 • 40 mins
In today’s episode, Emma discusses how this time of year might be challenging for people, what contributes to the winter blues and SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder), and 3 powerful ways to beat the winter blues, experiencing depression and feeling droopy. She shares how it’s completely understandable to feel down this time of year, and what to do when not feeling well and feeling a complete lack of direction and motivation.
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Emma Viglucci (00:00):
Hello and welcome to another episode.
I am so excited to be here withyou today.
Happy new year.
And today I'm flying solo.
I wanted to launch this yearwith a nice shift perspective to
hook you up for the new year,for 2025, the start of a new
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quarter century.
So I've been talking about that.
I'm so excited for that chunkof time.
I don't know if I'm the onlyone who thinks about time in
that way.
I haven't seen too much of thatbut I'm super excited to think
about like, wow, the nextquarter century, the next 25
years of my life, what mightthat look like?
And so I want today's episodeto touch on that a little bit.
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But before we dive into any ofthat, I want to address
something that might behappening for you.
This time of year is usuallyvery challenging for people.
We experience the winter blues,and so today I want to explore
why we have that experience fivereasons why we experience the
winter blues and then I want tohelp you, hopefully, get over
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that and get ahead of it.
If you haven't, if you're notexperiencing that for yourself,
but you have a tendency to, wewant to get ahead of that.
So I'm going to give you a tonof resources, ideas, suggestions
, tactics, habits, all kinds ofgoodies to help you beat the
winter blues or get ahead of thewinter blues, so that you could
cruise for the rest of themonth and set yourself up to
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have an amazing new year andlaunch a new quarter century the
right way.
So, without further ado, let medive in.
So I'm going to mention fivereasons why we usually
experience the winter blues.
So number one is thepost-holiday blues.
Now, what does that mean?
I'm sure you could decipherthat it's pretty
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self-explanatory from just thephrase.
But just to explain that alittle bit more, we, during the
past few months, for the pastcouple of months, we have been
going, going, going to wrap upthe year 2024, to end the year
strong, to achieve our goals, tomeet our deadlines, to wrap up
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work, whatever in terms ofachieving things.
But then also our time got moresquished with fitting in the
holidays into the end of yearcrunch, whatever that experience
is for you in terms of work orwhatever, or business or
whatever you have.
And the holidays, as we know,we take time off.
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We have to do all of thepreparations, all the
anticipation, all the merriment,all the parties, all the things
, all the entertaining, all thehosting, all the things that
come along with the holidays,and our time gets really
constricted.
We have more demands, morethings to do and less time to do
them in for work and businessif we're taking time off.
So it's like a really toughtime.
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And then we're going at thisreally high speed for a few
weeks, like more than two months, leading up to Thanksgiving,
and then you know all of theholidays in the end of the year
and then comes the new year andeverything ends.
And that's tricky because goingat that level of entertainment,
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excitement, go time beingfilled with things and just all
the excitement and all the funand all the activity to then and
time off to then go into theregular routine and it's not so
exciting potentially that's abit of a shock to our system,
right.
And then that's tricky in andof itself.
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So that's like number one.
So that excitement and thatgoing back to a regular routine,
that it might not be asexciting or as stimulating,
right.
So we're a stimulation-drivensociety here.
So that's tricky, like rightoff the bat, we're a little off.
So that's reason number one.
Then we have the cold if youlive in the Northern Hemisphere.
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The darker days, the shorterdays, no sunlight this is when
people usually experienceseasonal affective disorder, and
just the winter blues are athing.
Some people do experience theseasonal depression.
They're just not feeling sogood, the mood goes down.
The shorter days, the lack ofsunlight, all that stuff affects
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our chemistry, our brain andour sleep, our circadian rhythm,
all of the things, and weliterally don't feel well.
We're not well.
It's not just like I'm crankybecause I'm going back to work
and my routine is boring.
We are literally not feelingwell, right?
Just our body's not.
Our brain is not functioningoptimally, our body's not
functioning optimally, ourmental health is not okay.
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So that's a lot right there toadd.
So that's the only reason too,and we already have a ton.
So the lack of sunshine, thecold we don't get the outdoor,
the fresh air, the sunshine, theconnection to nature, all of
those things, unless we like tohang out outside in the cold.
But most of us don't like that,and I raised my hand,
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especially me.
So I understand this condition,right, it could take a toll if
we don't do something about it,if we're not proactive about it,
which I'm going to talk aboutand share all kinds of goodies
on how to come back to all thesethings in part two of this
presentation.
So that it's a lot.
So that was number two.
Then we go into reason numberthree, the financial strain.
Now some people are really goodat being minimalist, not
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spending a lot, sticking to abudget, but most people are not
and they really enjoy theholidays.
They really love to treat theirloved ones themselves.
They really enjoy the holidays.
They really love to treat theirloved ones themselves, take
advantage of all the offers, allthe sales, all the things.
And that adds up the additionalexpenses of the holidays on
potentially already a strainedbudget, if that's the case for
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you, or a strained financialsituation, and even if it isn't,
but you still spent a lot.
That doesn't feel so good,sometimes in January, right.
So it's all fun and games whenyou're doing it, but then
afterwards you're like, oh, whatdid I do?
That was so much excess.
And also something else thatadds to the financial thing,
even if you didn't go crazy withthe gifting or the celebrating.
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Sometimes you put things inplace for the new year, right.
So those are additionalexpenses, like joining a gym or
whatever subscriptions ormemberships you might buy, or
getting coach or whatever thingsyou might do that adds to that
financial burden.
Or maybe you kick off whateverprojects and things that carry a
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financial tag to them.
So that's number three.
Like you're adding all thisfinancial stress.
So even if you have money, youmight still be feeling this just
because you spent a lot morethan usual.
Then reason number four and thisone and the reason five are the
ones that I love because theyare the ones that we could.
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Well, I was going to say thatyou could really do something
about, but you could dosomething about the other ones
too, and I'm going to actuallyshow you what.
But these are the ones that, tome, feel fun.
The things that you want to putin place for this next two are
the fun things that you could beproactive about and have fun
with, and so let me just sharewhat they are.
So at first it might not soundfun, right, but just wait until
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I tell you the solutions andthey are fun.
But so number four isunfulfilled New Year's
resolutions.
Now you might be saying I don'teven have resolutions, I don't
do that.
That's silly, like that's soold school, we don't do that.
But you might have some kind ofan idea of things that you want
to start in the new year, someintentions, some new habits.
And then come around this timeof the month and you didn't
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really stick with thoseintentions or with those ideas,
with those air quotes, goals ifyou want to call them goals or
things that you just wanted totry, new practices, new habits.
You might have gotten strong forthe first few days coming off
of that, like I was sayingbefore that momentum from the
holidays, you're like woohoo andyou put all these things in
place and you might be doingreally well for a few days, and
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then the regular routine takesits hold and you're back to your
usual and you're not feeling sohot about that, because now it
feels hopeless.
Whatever changes you wanted tomake, you're off the path
already and you're beatingyourself up potentially over
that, and so you might feeldiscouraged.
You're not making progress oryou already gave up on those
things and that doesn't feel sogood.
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And then number five is lack ofmotivation.
So with everything that we justtalked about, it's very hard to
feel motivated, to feelinspired, to feel the oomph to
stick to whatever we want to door to even start the things that
we want to start or to justeven have the energy to do the
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regular life right, because allthese things could take a toll,
and so we're not feel so good,we're like, meh right, we're
barely moving around or we'rejust drudging through our days.
We're barely making it, and sowhat I want to do now is offer
you a few things I want to coverit into three different kind of
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areas on how to tackle all ofthat.
So, again, you could eitherbeat the winter blues, if you're
already experiencing them, orget ahead of them and be
preventative if you usually getthem, or, just in case, this is
a year that you happen to getthem, so you don't get them
right.
So you could get ahead of this.
And let me throw another thingin there, and that is that you
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might be doing amazing, and thenwhat I'm gonna offer is gonna
help you do even better.
All right, so as I go, I'm alsogoing to share all the
resources that I have in myrepertoire of content in all of
the places, so that you couldaccess additional support for
yourself.
Some of it is free, some of itis paid, very minimal.
I'm going to show you how toget access very, very accessible
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things so that you could haveyour own back and minimize the
stress and get ahead of thisthing.
Okay, so number one is managingthe feelings and your state.
Now there's a bunch of thingsthat we could do here.
Number one let me just say thatif you're really struggling and
you're really feeling thatseasonal affective disorder or
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depression, or you're reallyfeeling down and blue or you
have a tendency to struggle withyour mood, please get
professional assistance so youcould go to therapy anywhere you
want.
Of course we are here for you.
If that serves you, you couldcontact us through the contact
page on our website,metrorelationshipcom.
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We also have a Get Started tabthere.
We have some other things thatyou could check out on our
website.
If you need a deeper level ofsupport, we're here for you.
Please don't struggle on yourown.
It doesn't make sense.
All right Now, if you're not atthe side of the spectrum and
you just want more support, ofcourse you could always get
professional support, no matterwhere you are on the spectrum,
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right, we could always help youhave your back.
But if you're really struggling, please definitely get support.
So, regardless of where you'reon the spectrum, all the things
that I'm going to offer you willserve you.
So, number one, we want to makesure that we are nurturing
ourselves, that we're doingself-regulation.
Our mood is going to be reallyout of whack because of the
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seasonal experience andeverything else that I mentioned
less dopamine, less excitement,less all of the things,
different routine, everythingand so we want to make sure that
we self-regulate, weself-soothe.
So, whatever that means for you, there is a ton of different
resources and techniques that wecould apply here.
A few off the top of my headthat will.
For you, there is a ton ofdifferent resources and
techniques that we could applyhere.
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A few off the top of my headthat will support you is doing
things that give you joyjournaling, meditation, deep
breathing, eft, emotionalfreedom technique like the
tapping where you just tap right.
This regulates your nervoussystem.
You can find all theseresources online, also on our
website.
Check out the blog metrorelationshipcom forward slash
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blog.
I have a lot of articles thereon different things to support
you.
You could even journaling deepbreathing, mindfulness practices
, gratitude practice, things ofthat nature.
Reducing screen that willcontinue to mess with you.
Okay, being kind to yourself,having compassion with yourself,
for yourself, focus on thingsthat you can control.
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You can't control the weather.
You can't control whether it'ssnowing, how cold it is, but you
can control how cute you look.
Wear that cute scarf, wear warmclothing right, carry your mug
with a nice hot coffee, get yourStarbucks, whatever.
Like all the things that youfeel like you're nourishing
yourself and you have your ownback and you're taking care of
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yourself.
These are very basic things,but we lose sight of these
things when we're not feelingwell, right, so just take some
notes and start putting thesethings back in place for
yourself, so you have your ownback and you take care of
yourself, your future self will.
Now, those are just very, verybasic.
Then we go into your beliefs,your thoughts.
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Right.
What are you telling yourself?
Are you beating yourself up interms of I'm a dummy, I can't
stick to my intentions, myresolutions, whatever.
I have no goals.
I don't know what the heck I'mdoing.
This ear's kicking my butt,it's too cold, I hate this, I'm
too depressed, I'm not motivated, I don't know what to do.
Whatever things you're tellingyourself and those are just some
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basic ones.
You could go even darker iscatching that for yourself,
giving yourself a little peptalk, telling yourself it's okay
that you are figuring it out.
You have your own back, you'regoing to get yourself support if
you need it and you're going toput the things in place that
will have your back and nourishyou.
I'm going to say a few more ina second, and I know that when
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we are not feeling well, that'seven hard to do this.
Basic things, I get it Right.
And so some of the things thatyou might be experiencing is
like feeling discouraged,feeling guilt, feeling fear of
being judged.
You're not asking for help orgoing for help because there's
stigma around that.
Like what's wrong with me?
Why can't I do this?
Like I should just tough it outRight?
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Like that kind of stuff.
There's an inertia to gettingstarted, to getting moving, to
putting the things in place.
I get it.
I understand it's hard to breakthat cycle of like just getting
going and putting the things inplace.
You feel paralyzed like thewhole new year ahead of time and
I'm throwing in there a quarterof a century.
That's even worse.
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Like well, what the heck right?
Like oh my gosh, I don't knowwhat the heck I'm doing tomorrow
, nevermind 25 years from now,how I want my 25 years to look
like.
I get it.
Okay, those things are to beinspirational.
Just take it first.
I view of things are not toyou're not supposed to plan the
next 25 years, but just kind oflike thinking ahead, and I'm
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going to say more about that ina second.
It's supposed to be inspiring,not overwhelming and scary, and
so I get that those feelingsthat I experienced there, and to
even do the things that youcare of yourself might feel like
too much and that you can't.
So I'm going to show you whatto do about that in a second.
I just want to give you somemore things to do first and then
I'm going to tell you how to goabout doing it.
Some things that might help islike going back to whatever
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habits and interests you mighthave, your friend group, making
sure that you have someconnections there that you're
putting in place, that yournetworks, your people, your
family, your friends, like you,have something on a recurring
basis.
So you build that connectionneed that gets the whole nervous
system and the whole thingthat's out of whack, realigned
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and settled down right.
So that's another way toself-soothe and co-regulate,
setting boundaries.
If you feel like anything thatfeels like too much, figure out
how to do a smaller dose of itor putting on pause or
addressing it so that you don'tfeel overwhelmed.
And then, of course, the food,the movement, the sleep, the
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hydration.
Again very basic, but, andagain they go out the window
usually.
So get the nourishing food, geta little bit of movement, find
a consistent sleep schedule.
We've been off for a littlewhile and therefore maybe
staying up later, getting uplater, we're a little out of
whack.
So just getting back into arhythm of good sleep, those
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basic things like nourishment,sleep, hydration and movement, a
little exercise, sleep,hydration and movement, a little
exercise.
Those will help you with yourchemistry, right, with your
brain chemistry, all yourneurotransmitters, like all the
things that make you feel good,so that we start getting ahead
of what the funky chemistry isdoing.
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And then you might want to addthings like vitamin D, melatonin
and light therapy.
There are also things likegrounding mats that you kind of
get the nature dose in the fakeway.
You put your feet on that andit mimics the feel of being in
nature.
I believe the way it works isthat it gives you the opposite
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charge.
We have a tendency to be loaded, I think, in a negative charge
and when you go on the mats, itgives you the opposite charge.
We have a tendency to be loaded, I think, in a negative charge
and when you go on the mats itgives you the positive charge.
So it helps you.
Your magnetics in your body, thethings that might make you feel
off, get realigned.
That was not very good science,guys, sorry, but you can look
it up for yourself and see whatthat, the research behind that,
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how it works, and something elseto check out.
So the light therapy might be avery good source of, like you
get the fake sunlight in thegrounding mat, you get the fake
nature.
So those two things, the fakegrass, so those two things might
be really helpful to help thebody, kind of like realign and
recharge and re-nourish itself.
Okay, let's see, did I give youall the ones that I wanted to
give you?
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Meditation, of course it's inthere, okay.
So I gave you a bunch of ideason how to manage your feelings
and manage yourself so you getahead of the seasonal affective
disorder, any depression, anyblues, any winter blues or
anything that's making your bodyfeel off and out of whack and
then you don't feel well.
Okay, physically, mentally,emotionally, all the things.
Now I also mentioned that.
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I get that it might be hard todo these things, like you're
giving me more things to do, Ican't even do the base, like
even just going, getting up andgoing to work or taking care of
the kids or whatever.
And so the tip and the trickand the hack for that is
everything in measured, in ameasured manner.
You're not going to overhaulyour whole life If not, if
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you're not feeling well, be very, very gentle.
This is the key.
Okay, so out of everything thatI mentioned, you might want to
rewind this, go back and make alist and then say, okay, and, by
the way, there's three groupsof things there.
One is like kind of like themore mental, emotional, and the
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other one's more physical andthe other one's more social and
fun.
Right, so you could sort themby those three categories.
I should have probably spokethem that way, share them with
you that way, but just if you goback to the list, you'll see
and then look at that and feelinto which one resonates the
most, Like what would feelreally yummy to me, like what
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would nourish me.
Do I need to do the physicalthing?
So I need to, like eat healthyfood, take my supplements, all
those, those vitamin D,melatonin, light therapy, the
grounding thing, like that kindof stuff, the sleep.
Or do I need to do more of theemotional things, like the
mindfulness, the meditation, thejournaling, the EFT.
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Or do I need to do more of likethe fun and just kind of like
get me going, motivate me,things like the hobbies, the
hanging out with people, beingin groups and connecting with
others, right?
So those are the three groups.
So just kind of make the list,see what group talks to you the
most.
Where you feel that you need it,you may need all of it and,
again, don't overdo it.
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Don't try to do all of thethings that I said.
Pick what feels the easiest.
That will give you the mostbang for your buck, if you may,
for your investment, for youreffort.
And just sprinkle a couple ofthings.
You start recharging,realigning, nourishing, and you
could start getting your systemback on gear, back to restarted,
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reset, realigned.
So this part one, with all thisstuff that I just mentioned,
will resource you so you couldtackle the next two that I'm
going to give you.
So, with that, sprinkle somethings in, be very gentle, go
easy and start resourcing.
Get the machine going again, ifyou may realign, resource,
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reset, renew, recharge, all theres, and that will get you back
on track, back to yourself, backon the right path Again.
If you're struggling, if youcan't do this and even if you're
not feeling like so so at theother side of the spectrum,
where, like, you're really,really depressed, but even all
of this sounds like oh gosh, Ican't even like, I just don't
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have it in me, even that levelof not feeling so hot, please
get support.
Okay, there's no need tostruggle and we want to be
preventative.
We don't want that to get worsefor yourself.
Okay, so let me offer someresources, all the resources
that I have on all of my placesthat could help you additionally
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with this, if you need.
If you're like right now I'mkind of consuming information
like how do I take care ofmyself?
I don't know what to do, andyou're kind of like in that
place and you need resources andyou need to kind of get
inspired and to get moving.
I'm going to give you a fewother things that you could use
for that or to actually gothrough very specifically to
have your back and put things inplace to have your back.
Okay, so these are theresources.
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Go to my website,metrorelationshipcom forward
slash resources and go toDecember and January and you're
going to get the planning theend of year and new year
planning process.
That's a December one and theother one for January is values.
Those two things will give youinspiration, motivation and help
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you do what I'm going to saynext.
Okay, so just hang in there.
If you're like, oh, I can't domore things, just take your
notes.
Right, they will become handywhen you need them.
So those are free.
You just subscribe and you geta nice downloadable.
It's very easy, very fun to useand you get like an email with
all the instructions.
It's fun and easy andmotivating and inspiring.
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And just, I got you Okay, soget those.
If you feel like I had no ideahow to nourish myself the things
that you said are fine, emma,but like, eh, they're so basic I
don't know what to do Thencheck out the self-love practice
podcast episode that I did lastJanuary.
That's episode eight in thepodcast.
So go to the websitemetrorelationshipcom forward
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slash podcast and go back.
Scroll back to find episodeeight.
Slash podcast and go back.
Scroll back to find episodeeight that one goes into like in
depth about all the ways thatyou could implement a self-love
practice.
So if you're doing okay and youwant to take it to the next
level, that one's for you, thenwe have.
If you're like in the middle ofthe way somewhere, we have a
video on YouTube that werecently put up in Connection
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Talk playlist and it talks about10 things to kind of shift your
mindset.
If you're kind of feeling stuckand you're grinding a little bit
and you're like not here, notthere, and you just can't have
your own back, and you're likeflundering around a little bit
but you're not totally depressed, you're not totally motivated,
you're like eh, then that onemight be really helpful because
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I just give you a bunch ofdifferent ways of looking at
things that will help you kindof reset, okay, and in some
practicals on what things toimplement to have your back so
you could get back on track andget moving.
Then I'm going to sharesomething else that's paid in a
second and, again, veryaccessible, okay, very
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reasonable.
So I'll tell you in a secondwhat that one is.
But so let me go back to thesolutions.
We did one already which islike the self-management in the
feelings, managing your feelings.
Now I'm going to give younumber two Now.
This one is address yourfinancial goals.
Okay, if the finances arestressing you out, then do
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something about them.
Okay and I'm not trying to be ajerk, so just bear with me here
.
Now, that's very hard to dowhat I just said.
If you didn't do one, okay, soplease resource yourself.
So then, like your brain isfunctioning better, you're
resourcing yourself, your ideasstart coming up, you have the
motivation, you have the energy,your brain is thinking again
right, and then you could dothis one.
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Now, with this, it doesn't haveto be a crazy goal planning
session around finances, but youcould come up with a little bit
of a plan in terms of managingthat stress.
Like, what is the thing?
Did you get yourself into a lotof debt?
Whatever the thing might be foryou, then what is the plan?
What are you cutting out?
What are you adding in?
How are you saving?
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What are you streamlining?
How are you shuffling moneyaround?
Or what is the plan to knockout this credit card debt, or
whatever your thing is?
I'm not a financial advisor, sothat's just some quick ideas,
but that's another suggestionyou could check out.
You could consult with afinancial advisor.
There are plenty of freeresources online for this,
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plenty of apps for this, if youneed the support, or just design
a quick little plan and put itin place and bam, all right.
So that's number two and numberthree.
This is the fun one.
Earlier, I said that recentnumber four and recent number
five of the things that get youthat might be contributing to
not feeling well were myfavorites, and let me just name
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them again so it makes sensewhat I'm saying.
Number four was unfulfilled NewYear's resolutions or
intentions and number five waslack of motivation.
So this one now the solutionI'm going to give you now is
going to address those, and thisis where I usually have a lot
of fun, and in my book, this isthe fun one, and what this one
has to do is with having avision.
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Now, having a vision sounds sobig, but think about what the
issue was right Unfulfilled NewYear's resolutions or intentions
and lack of motivation, asidefrom all the reasons that we
talked about, like why, likeyour body and your head and your
brain and your feelings, andeverything might be out of whack
.
Aside from that, usually whatgets in the way is not having a
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clear vision, things that we'regoing for in a way of getting
there or getting them, andthat's why we tend to get
discombobulated, overwhelmed,lost, whatever, because we don't
have a good strategy, we don'tknow how to get the things that
we want.
Okay, and so everything that Igave you so far is to address
the thing so that you're aresource, so that doesn't get in
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the way.
We get the financial things outof the way and then you could
dive in into this thing, andthat is to have an idea of where
you're going.
It doesn't have to be a majorplanning session per se, but at
least like what is the thingthat I would like to experience?
Meaning?
What flavor do I want my lifeto have?
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What do I want this quartercentury to be like?
Or my life Like what do I wantmy life to be like?
Do I want this quarter centuryto be like?
Or my life Like what do I wantmy life to be like?
To feel like, to experience, tohave accomplished, for it to be
about?
What do I want my humanexperience to be?
So these are kind of likeesoteric, kind of big questions.
These are good things to wonderabout, because they give us
meaning, they give us purpose,they give us guidance,
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guidelines, direction.
They give us the roadmap, ifyou may like, we know where
we're going.
That's very important.
Our brain doesn't like questionmarks, it doesn't like the
unknown.
If we're given instructions,then it goes to work for us,
okay.
So we're shooting for that.
We really want that and again,it doesn't have to be a crazy
thing.
It could just be like oh, thisway as opposed to this way, so
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create some kind of that, andI'm going to give you resources
for this in a second.
Okay, so what is what?
What kind of life do I want tohave?
And then more measurable things, like the things that I want to
accomplish, experience feel bebecome, have, get whatever
measurable, right so, getting araise, increasing revenue,
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hanging out with friends,nurturing a relationship,
getting fit some kind offinancial goal, whatever the
thing is.
But I just mentioned a coupleof things.
You can make it more concrete.
You can make it more concrete,right so?
Connect more deeply with mypartner by having a couple times
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, this many times a week day andnight, every week, every two
weeks, once a month this levelof intimacy, this kind of fun,
this type of collaboration, thistype of fun, this kind of
activities quarterly staycations, vacations twice a year,
whatever, right?
So ways of connecting, feelingtogether, working together,
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creating your shared lifetogether, having shared goals,
hobbies, interests, activities,experiences, so just that.
If I'm feeling blue justthinking about that,
automatically I'm feeling muchbetter, right?
Because that's the fun, that'sthe connection, that's the yummy
, that's the meat, that's thecontent of our life.
And relationships are superimportant.
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If you look it up I have it inmy stuff too, but I can't, off
the top of my head, guide into aspecific blog post but you can
look it up MetroRelationshipcom,forward slash blog and do a
quick search for meaning andresearch and you would get
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research from experts that showhow relationships are so
important that they you mightalready know this and you could
do your own research outside ofmy blog, of course, but how they
help with health, with vitality, with longevity, with happiness
, like just all the things thatwe usually shoot for in life.
Our relationship supports thator doesn't, right?
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So that's why we have to makesure that our relationship is
healthy.
But people that don't haverelationships or have bad
relationships have the oppositeeffect, right, they struggle and
their health, longevity andwell-being and happiness and
everything else goes down thedrain.
We want to make sure ourrelationship is healthy.
We want to get ourselves ingood shape, our relationship in
good shape and then, of course,the things that we want to do in
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This is what we do.
We help couples create asuccessful and radiant
relationship.
Now I said I was going to shareall the ways to have your own
back here.
So the quickest and easiestaccess aside from all the free
stuff that I already mentionedand all of the resources on my
website and all of our socialsis our membership.
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So it's like about an hour and15 minutes or so of me walking
you through the whole process sothat you don't have to reinvent
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So you could just the wholeplanning process from top to
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We design it and put the thingsin place to help you start
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Hello and welcome to another episode.
I am so excited to be here withyou today.
Happy new year.
And today I'm flying solo.
I wanted to launch this yearwith a nice shift perspective to
hook you up for the new year,for 2025, the start of a new
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quarter century.
So I've been talking about that.
I'm so excited for that chunkof time.
I don't know if I'm the onlyone who thinks about time in
that way.
I haven't seen too much of thatbut I'm super excited to think
about like, wow, the nextquarter century, the next 25
years of my life, what mightthat look like?
And so I want today's episodeto touch on that a little bit.
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But before we dive into any ofthat, I want to address
something that might behappening for you.
This time of year is usuallyvery challenging for people.
We experience the winter blues,and so today I want to explore
why we have that experience fivereasons why we experience the
winter blues and then I want tohelp you, hopefully, get over
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that and get ahead of it.
If you haven't, if you're notexperiencing that for yourself,
but you have a tendency to, wewant to get ahead of that.
So I'm going to give you a tonof resources, ideas, suggestions
, tactics, habits, all kinds ofgoodies to help you beat the
winter blues or get ahead of thewinter blues, so that you could
cruise for the rest of themonth and set yourself up to
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have an amazing new year andlaunch a new quarter century the
right way.
So, without further ado, let medive in.
So I'm going to mention fivereasons why we usually
experience the winter blues.
So number one is thepost-holiday blues.
Now, what does that mean?
I'm sure you could decipherthat it's pretty
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self-explanatory from just thephrase.
But just to explain that alittle bit more, we, during the
past few months, for the pastcouple of months, we have been
going, going, going to wrap upthe year 2024, to end the year
strong, to achieve our goals, tomeet our deadlines, to wrap up
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work, whatever in terms ofachieving things.
But then also our time got moresquished with fitting in the
holidays into the end of yearcrunch, whatever that experience
is for you in terms of work orwhatever, or business or
whatever you have.
And the holidays, as we know,we take time off.
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We have to do all of thepreparations, all the
anticipation, all the merriment,all the parties, all the things
, all the entertaining, all thehosting, all the things that
come along with the holidays,and our time gets really
constricted.
We have more demands, morethings to do and less time to do
them in for work and businessif we're taking time off.
So it's like a really toughtime.
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And then we're going at thisreally high speed for a few
weeks, like more than two months, leading up to Thanksgiving,
and then you know all of theholidays in the end of the year
and then comes the new year andeverything ends.
And that's tricky because goingat that level of entertainment,
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excitement, go time beingfilled with things and just all
the excitement and all the funand all the activity to then and
time off to then go into theregular routine and it's not so
exciting potentially that's abit of a shock to our system,
right.
And then that's tricky in andof itself.
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So that's like number one.
So that excitement and thatgoing back to a regular routine,
that it might not be asexciting or as stimulating,
right.
So we're a stimulation-drivensociety here.
So that's tricky, like rightoff the bat, we're a little off.
So that's reason number one.
Then we have the cold if youlive in the Northern Hemisphere.
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The darker days, the shorterdays, no sunlight this is when
people usually experienceseasonal affective disorder, and
just the winter blues are athing.
Some people do experience theseasonal depression.
They're just not feeling sogood, the mood goes down.
The shorter days, the lack ofsunlight, all that stuff affects
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our chemistry, our brain andour sleep, our circadian rhythm,
all of the things, and weliterally don't feel well.
We're not well.
It's not just like I'm crankybecause I'm going back to work
and my routine is boring.
We are literally not feelingwell, right?
Just our body's not.
Our brain is not functioningoptimally, our body's not
functioning optimally, ourmental health is not okay.
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So that's a lot right there toadd.
So that's the only reason too,and we already have a ton.
So the lack of sunshine, thecold we don't get the outdoor,
the fresh air, the sunshine, theconnection to nature, all of
those things, unless we like tohang out outside in the cold.
But most of us don't like that,and I raised my hand,
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especially me.
So I understand this condition,right, it could take a toll if
we don't do something about it,if we're not proactive about it,
which I'm going to talk aboutand share all kinds of goodies
on how to come back to all thesethings in part two of this
presentation.
So that it's a lot.
So that was number two.
Then we go into reason numberthree, the financial strain.
Now some people are really goodat being minimalist, not
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spending a lot, sticking to abudget, but most people are not
and they really enjoy theholidays.
They really love to treat theirloved ones themselves.
They really enjoy the holidays.
They really love to treat theirloved ones themselves, take
advantage of all the offers, allthe sales, all the things.
And that adds up the additionalexpenses of the holidays on
potentially already a strainedbudget, if that's the case for
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you, or a strained financialsituation, and even if it isn't,
but you still spent a lot.
That doesn't feel so good,sometimes in January, right.
So it's all fun and games whenyou're doing it, but then
afterwards you're like, oh, whatdid I do?
That was so much excess.
And also something else thatadds to the financial thing,
even if you didn't go crazy withthe gifting or the celebrating.
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Sometimes you put things inplace for the new year, right.
So those are additionalexpenses, like joining a gym or
whatever subscriptions ormemberships you might buy, or
getting coach or whatever thingsyou might do that adds to that
financial burden.
Or maybe you kick off whateverprojects and things that carry a
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financial tag to them.
So that's number three.
Like you're adding all thisfinancial stress.
So even if you have money, youmight still be feeling this just
because you spent a lot morethan usual.
Then reason number four and thisone and the reason five are the
ones that I love because theyare the ones that we could.
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Well, I was going to say thatyou could really do something
about, but you could dosomething about the other ones
too, and I'm going to actuallyshow you what.
But these are the ones that, tome, feel fun.
The things that you want to putin place for this next two are
the fun things that you could beproactive about and have fun
with, and so let me just sharewhat they are.
So at first it might not soundfun, right, but just wait until
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I tell you the solutions andthey are fun.
But so number four isunfulfilled New Year's
resolutions.
Now you might be saying I don'teven have resolutions, I don't
do that.
That's silly, like that's soold school, we don't do that.
But you might have some kind ofan idea of things that you want
to start in the new year, someintentions, some new habits.
And then come around this timeof the month and you didn't
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really stick with thoseintentions or with those ideas,
with those air quotes, goals ifyou want to call them goals or
things that you just wanted totry, new practices, new habits.
You might have gotten strong forthe first few days coming off
of that, like I was sayingbefore that momentum from the
holidays, you're like woohoo andyou put all these things in
place and you might be doingreally well for a few days, and
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then the regular routine takesits hold and you're back to your
usual and you're not feeling sohot about that, because now it
feels hopeless.
Whatever changes you wanted tomake, you're off the path
already and you're beatingyourself up potentially over
that, and so you might feeldiscouraged.
You're not making progress oryou already gave up on those
things and that doesn't feel sogood.
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And then number five is lack ofmotivation.
So with everything that we justtalked about, it's very hard to
feel motivated, to feelinspired, to feel the oomph to
stick to whatever we want to door to even start the things that
we want to start or to justeven have the energy to do the
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regular life right, because allthese things could take a toll,
and so we're not feel so good,we're like, meh right, we're
barely moving around or we'rejust drudging through our days.
We're barely making it, and sowhat I want to do now is offer
you a few things I want to coverit into three different kind of
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areas on how to tackle all ofthat.
So, again, you could eitherbeat the winter blues, if you're
already experiencing them, orget ahead of them and be
preventative if you usually getthem, or, just in case, this is
a year that you happen to getthem, so you don't get them
right.
So you could get ahead of this.
And let me throw another thingin there, and that is that you
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might be doing amazing, and thenwhat I'm gonna offer is gonna
help you do even better.
All right, so as I go, I'm alsogoing to share all the
resources that I have in myrepertoire of content in all of
the places, so that you couldaccess additional support for
yourself.
Some of it is free, some of itis paid, very minimal.
I'm going to show you how toget access very, very accessible
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things so that you could haveyour own back and minimize the
stress and get ahead of thisthing.
Okay, so number one is managingthe feelings and your state.
Now there's a bunch of thingsthat we could do here.
Number one let me just say thatif you're really struggling and
you're really feeling thatseasonal affective disorder or
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depression, or you're reallyfeeling down and blue or you
have a tendency to struggle withyour mood, please get
professional assistance so youcould go to therapy anywhere you
want.
Of course we are here for you.
If that serves you, you couldcontact us through the contact
page on our website,metrorelationshipcom.
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We also have a Get Started tabthere.
We have some other things thatyou could check out on our
website.
If you need a deeper level ofsupport, we're here for you.
Please don't struggle on yourown.
It doesn't make sense.
All right Now, if you're not atthe side of the spectrum and
you just want more support, ofcourse you could always get
professional support, no matterwhere you are on the spectrum,
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right, we could always help youhave your back.
But if you're really struggling, please definitely get support.
So, regardless of where you'reon the spectrum, all the things
that I'm going to offer you willserve you.
So, number one, we want to makesure that we are nurturing
ourselves, that we're doingself-regulation.
Our mood is going to be reallyout of whack because of the
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seasonal experience andeverything else that I mentioned
less dopamine, less excitement,less all of the things,
different routine, everythingand so we want to make sure that
we self-regulate, weself-soothe.
So, whatever that means for you, there is a ton of different
resources and techniques that wecould apply here.
A few off the top of my headthat will.
For you, there is a ton ofdifferent resources and
techniques that we could applyhere.
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A few off the top of my headthat will support you is doing
things that give you joyjournaling, meditation, deep
breathing, eft, emotionalfreedom technique like the
tapping where you just tap right.
This regulates your nervoussystem.
You can find all theseresources online, also on our
website.
Check out the blog metrorelationshipcom forward slash
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blog.
I have a lot of articles thereon different things to support
you.
You could even journaling deepbreathing, mindfulness practices
, gratitude practice, things ofthat nature.
Reducing screen that willcontinue to mess with you.
Okay, being kind to yourself,having compassion with yourself,
for yourself, focus on thingsthat you can control.
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You can't control the weather.
You can't control whether it'ssnowing, how cold it is, but you
can control how cute you look.
Wear that cute scarf, wear warmclothing right, carry your mug
with a nice hot coffee, get yourStarbucks, whatever.
Like all the things that youfeel like you're nourishing
yourself and you have your ownback and you're taking care of
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yourself.
These are very basic things,but we lose sight of these
things when we're not feelingwell, right, so just take some
notes and start putting thesethings back in place for
yourself, so you have your ownback and you take care of
yourself, your future self will.
Now, those are just very, verybasic.
Then we go into your beliefs,your thoughts.
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Right.
What are you telling yourself?
Are you beating yourself up interms of I'm a dummy, I can't
stick to my intentions, myresolutions, whatever.
I have no goals.
I don't know what the heck I'mdoing.
This ear's kicking my butt,it's too cold, I hate this, I'm
too depressed, I'm not motivated, I don't know what to do.
Whatever things you're tellingyourself and those are just some
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basic ones.
You could go even darker iscatching that for yourself,
giving yourself a little peptalk, telling yourself it's okay
that you are figuring it out.
You have your own back, you'regoing to get yourself support if
you need it and you're going toput the things in place that
will have your back and nourishyou.
I'm going to say a few more ina second, and I know that when
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we are not feeling well, that'seven hard to do this.
Basic things, I get it Right.
And so some of the things thatyou might be experiencing is
like feeling discouraged,feeling guilt, feeling fear of
being judged.
You're not asking for help orgoing for help because there's
stigma around that.
Like what's wrong with me?
Why can't I do this?
Like I should just tough it outRight?
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Like that kind of stuff.
There's an inertia to gettingstarted, to getting moving, to
putting the things in place.
I get it.
I understand it's hard to breakthat cycle of like just getting
going and putting the things inplace.
You feel paralyzed like thewhole new year ahead of time and
I'm throwing in there a quarterof a century.
That's even worse.
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Like well, what the heck right?
Like oh my gosh, I don't knowwhat the heck I'm doing tomorrow
, nevermind 25 years from now,how I want my 25 years to look
like.
I get it.
Okay, those things are to beinspirational.
Just take it first.
I view of things are not toyou're not supposed to plan the
next 25 years, but just kind oflike thinking ahead, and I'm
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going to say more about that ina second.
It's supposed to be inspiring,not overwhelming and scary, and
so I get that those feelingsthat I experienced there, and to
even do the things that youcare of yourself might feel like
too much and that you can't.
So I'm going to show you whatto do about that in a second.
I just want to give you somemore things to do first and then
I'm going to tell you how to goabout doing it.
Some things that might help islike going back to whatever
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habits and interests you mighthave, your friend group, making
sure that you have someconnections there that you're
putting in place, that yournetworks, your people, your
family, your friends, like you,have something on a recurring
basis.
So you build that connectionneed that gets the whole nervous
system and the whole thingthat's out of whack, realigned
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and settled down right.
So that's another way toself-soothe and co-regulate,
setting boundaries.
If you feel like anything thatfeels like too much, figure out
how to do a smaller dose of itor putting on pause or
addressing it so that you don'tfeel overwhelmed.
And then, of course, the food,the movement, the sleep, the
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hydration.
Again very basic, but, andagain they go out the window
usually.
So get the nourishing food, geta little bit of movement, find
a consistent sleep schedule.
We've been off for a littlewhile and therefore maybe
staying up later, getting uplater, we're a little out of
whack.
So just getting back into arhythm of good sleep, those
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basic things like nourishment,sleep, hydration and movement, a
little exercise, sleep,hydration and movement, a little
exercise.
Those will help you with yourchemistry, right, with your
brain chemistry, all yourneurotransmitters, like all the
things that make you feel good,so that we start getting ahead
of what the funky chemistry isdoing.
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And then you might want to addthings like vitamin D, melatonin
and light therapy.
There are also things likegrounding mats that you kind of
get the nature dose in the fakeway.
You put your feet on that andit mimics the feel of being in
nature.
I believe the way it works isthat it gives you the opposite
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charge.
We have a tendency to be loaded, I think, in a negative charge
and when you go on the mats, itgives you the opposite charge.
We have a tendency to be loaded, I think, in a negative charge
and when you go on the mats itgives you the positive charge.
So it helps you.
Your magnetics in your body, thethings that might make you feel
off, get realigned.
That was not very good science,guys, sorry, but you can look
it up for yourself and see whatthat, the research behind that,
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how it works, and something elseto check out.
So the light therapy might be avery good source of, like you
get the fake sunlight in thegrounding mat, you get the fake
nature.
So those two things, the fakegrass, so those two things might
be really helpful to help thebody, kind of like realign and
recharge and re-nourish itself.
Okay, let's see, did I give youall the ones that I wanted to
give you?
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Meditation, of course it's inthere, okay.
So I gave you a bunch of ideason how to manage your feelings
and manage yourself so you getahead of the seasonal affective
disorder, any depression, anyblues, any winter blues or
anything that's making your bodyfeel off and out of whack and
then you don't feel well.
Okay, physically, mentally,emotionally, all the things.
Now I also mentioned that.
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I get that it might be hard todo these things, like you're
giving me more things to do, Ican't even do the base, like
even just going, getting up andgoing to work or taking care of
the kids or whatever.
And so the tip and the trickand the hack for that is
everything in measured, in ameasured manner.
You're not going to overhaulyour whole life If not, if
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you're not feeling well, be very, very gentle.
This is the key.
Okay, so out of everything thatI mentioned, you might want to
rewind this, go back and make alist and then say, okay, and, by
the way, there's three groupsof things there.
One is like kind of like themore mental, emotional, and the
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other one's more physical andthe other one's more social and
fun.
Right, so you could sort themby those three categories.
I should have probably spokethem that way, share them with
you that way, but just if you goback to the list, you'll see
and then look at that and feelinto which one resonates the
most, Like what would feelreally yummy to me, like what
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would nourish me.
Do I need to do the physicalthing?
So I need to, like eat healthyfood, take my supplements, all
those, those vitamin D,melatonin, light therapy, the
grounding thing, like that kindof stuff, the sleep.
Or do I need to do more of theemotional things, like the
mindfulness, the meditation, thejournaling, the EFT.
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Or do I need to do more of likethe fun and just kind of like
get me going, motivate me,things like the hobbies, the
hanging out with people, beingin groups and connecting with
others, right?
So those are the three groups.
So just kind of make the list,see what group talks to you the
most.
Where you feel that you need it,you may need all of it and,
again, don't overdo it.
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Don't try to do all of thethings that I said.
Pick what feels the easiest.
That will give you the mostbang for your buck, if you may,
for your investment, for youreffort.
And just sprinkle a couple ofthings.
You start recharging,realigning, nourishing, and you
could start getting your systemback on gear, back to restarted,
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reset, realigned.
So this part one, with all thisstuff that I just mentioned,
will resource you so you couldtackle the next two that I'm
going to give you.
So, with that, sprinkle somethings in, be very gentle, go
easy and start resourcing.
Get the machine going again, ifyou may realign, resource,
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reset, renew, recharge, all theres, and that will get you back
on track, back to yourself, backon the right path Again.
If you're struggling, if youcan't do this and even if you're
not feeling like so so at theother side of the spectrum,
where, like, you're really,really depressed, but even all
of this sounds like oh gosh, Ican't even like, I just don't
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have it in me, even that levelof not feeling so hot, please
get support.
Okay, there's no need tostruggle and we want to be
preventative.
We don't want that to get worsefor yourself.
Okay, so let me offer someresources, all the resources
that I have on all of my placesthat could help you additionally
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with this, if you need.
If you're like right now I'mkind of consuming information
like how do I take care ofmyself?
I don't know what to do, andyou're kind of like in that
place and you need resources andyou need to kind of get
inspired and to get moving.
I'm going to give you a fewother things that you could use
for that or to actually gothrough very specifically to
have your back and put things inplace to have your back.
Okay, so these are theresources.
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Go to my website,metrorelationshipcom forward
slash resources and go toDecember and January and you're
going to get the planning theend of year and new year
planning process.
That's a December one and theother one for January is values.
Those two things will give youinspiration, motivation and help
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you do what I'm going to saynext.
Okay, so just hang in there.
If you're like, oh, I can't domore things, just take your
notes.
Right, they will become handywhen you need them.
So those are free.
You just subscribe and you geta nice downloadable.
It's very easy, very fun to useand you get like an email with
all the instructions.
It's fun and easy andmotivating and inspiring.
(22:28):
And just, I got you Okay, soget those.
If you feel like I had no ideahow to nourish myself the things
that you said are fine, emma,but like, eh, they're so basic I
don't know what to do Thencheck out the self-love practice
podcast episode that I did lastJanuary.
That's episode eight in thepodcast.
So go to the websitemetrorelationshipcom forward
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slash podcast and go back.
Scroll back to find episodeeight.
Slash podcast and go back.
Scroll back to find episodeeight that one goes into like in
depth about all the ways thatyou could implement a self-love
practice.
So if you're doing okay and youwant to take it to the next
level, that one's for you, thenwe have.
If you're like in the middle ofthe way somewhere, we have a
video on YouTube that werecently put up in Connection
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Talk playlist and it talks about10 things to kind of shift your
mindset.
If you're kind of feeling stuckand you're grinding a little bit
and you're like not here, notthere, and you just can't have
your own back, and you're likeflundering around a little bit
but you're not totally depressed, you're not totally motivated,
you're like eh, then that onemight be really helpful because
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I just give you a bunch ofdifferent ways of looking at
things that will help you kindof reset, okay, and in some
practicals on what things toimplement to have your back so
you could get back on track andget moving.
Then I'm going to sharesomething else that's paid in a
second and, again, veryaccessible, okay, very
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reasonable.
So I'll tell you in a secondwhat that one is.
But so let me go back to thesolutions.
We did one already which islike the self-management in the
feelings, managing your feelings.
Now I'm going to give younumber two Now.
This one is address yourfinancial goals.
Okay, if the finances arestressing you out, then do
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something about them.
Okay and I'm not trying to be ajerk, so just bear with me here
.
Now, that's very hard to dowhat I just said.
If you didn't do one, okay, soplease resource yourself.
So then, like your brain isfunctioning better, you're
resourcing yourself, your ideasstart coming up, you have the
motivation, you have the energy,your brain is thinking again
right, and then you could dothis one.
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Now, with this, it doesn't haveto be a crazy goal planning
session around finances, but youcould come up with a little bit
of a plan in terms of managingthat stress.
Like, what is the thing?
Did you get yourself into a lotof debt?
Whatever the thing might be foryou, then what is the plan?
What are you cutting out?
What are you adding in?
How are you saving?
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What are you streamlining?
How are you shuffling moneyaround?
Or what is the plan to knockout this credit card debt, or
whatever your thing is?
I'm not a financial advisor, sothat's just some quick ideas,
but that's another suggestionyou could check out.
You could consult with afinancial advisor.
There are plenty of freeresources online for this,
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plenty of apps for this, if youneed the support, or just design
a quick little plan and put itin place and bam, all right.
So that's number two and numberthree.
This is the fun one.
Earlier, I said that recentnumber four and recent number
five of the things that get youthat might be contributing to
not feeling well were myfavorites, and let me just name
(25:46):
them again so it makes sensewhat I'm saying.
Number four was unfulfilled NewYear's resolutions or
intentions and number five waslack of motivation.
So this one now the solutionI'm going to give you now is
going to address those, and thisis where I usually have a lot
of fun, and in my book, this isthe fun one, and what this one
has to do is with having avision.
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Now, having a vision sounds sobig, but think about what the
issue was right Unfulfilled NewYear's resolutions or intentions
and lack of motivation, asidefrom all the reasons that we
talked about, like why, likeyour body and your head and your
brain and your feelings, andeverything might be out of whack
.
Aside from that, usually whatgets in the way is not having a
(26:31):
clear vision, things that we'regoing for in a way of getting
there or getting them, andthat's why we tend to get
discombobulated, overwhelmed,lost, whatever, because we don't
have a good strategy, we don'tknow how to get the things that
we want.
Okay, and so everything that Igave you so far is to address
the thing so that you're aresource, so that doesn't get in
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the way.
We get the financial things outof the way and then you could
dive in into this thing, andthat is to have an idea of where
you're going.
It doesn't have to be a majorplanning session per se, but at
least like what is the thingthat I would like to experience?
Meaning?
What flavor do I want my lifeto have?
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What do I want this quartercentury to be like?
Or my life Like what do I wantmy life to be like?
Do I want this quarter centuryto be like?
Or my life Like what do I wantmy life to be like?
To feel like, to experience, tohave accomplished, for it to be
about?
What do I want my humanexperience to be?
So these are kind of likeesoteric, kind of big questions.
These are good things to wonderabout, because they give us
meaning, they give us purpose,they give us guidance,
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guidelines, direction.
They give us the roadmap, ifyou may like, we know where
we're going.
That's very important.
Our brain doesn't like questionmarks, it doesn't like the
unknown.
If we're given instructions,then it goes to work for us,
okay.
So we're shooting for that.
We really want that and again,it doesn't have to be a crazy
thing.
It could just be like oh, thisway as opposed to this way, so
(27:58):
create some kind of that, andI'm going to give you resources
for this in a second.
Okay, so what is what?
What kind of life do I want tohave?
And then more measurable things, like the things that I want to
accomplish, experience feel bebecome, have, get whatever
measurable, right so, getting araise, increasing revenue,
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hanging out with friends,nurturing a relationship,
getting fit some kind offinancial goal, whatever the
thing is.
But I just mentioned a coupleof things.
You can make it more concrete.
You can make it more concrete,right so?
Connect more deeply with mypartner by having a couple times
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, this many times a week day andnight, every week, every two
weeks, once a month this levelof intimacy, this kind of fun,
this type of collaboration, thistype of fun, this kind of
activities quarterly staycations, vacations twice a year,
whatever, right?
So ways of connecting, feelingtogether, working together,
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creating your shared lifetogether, having shared goals,
hobbies, interests, activities,experiences, so just that.
If I'm feeling blue justthinking about that,
automatically I'm feeling muchbetter, right?
Because that's the fun, that'sthe connection, that's the yummy
, that's the meat, that's thecontent of our life.
And relationships are superimportant.
(29:27):
If you look it up I have it inmy stuff too, but I can't, off
the top of my head, guide into aspecific blog post but you can
look it up MetroRelationshipcom,forward slash blog and do a
quick search for meaning andresearch and you would get
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research from experts that showhow relationships are so
important that they you mightalready know this and you could
do your own research outside ofmy blog, of course, but how they
help with health, with vitality, with longevity, with happiness
, like just all the things thatwe usually shoot for in life.
Our relationship supports thator doesn't, right?
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So that's why we have to makesure that our relationship is
healthy.
But people that don't haverelationships or have bad
relationships have the oppositeeffect, right, they struggle and
their health, longevity andwell-being and happiness and
everything else goes down thedrain.
We want to make sure ourrelationship is healthy.
We want to get ourselves ingood shape, our relationship in
good shape and then, of course,the things that we want to do in
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life, and so we have all of theresources for you for this.
This is what we do.
We help couples create asuccessful and radiant
relationship.
Now I said I was going to shareall the ways to have your own
back here.
So the quickest and easiestaccess aside from all the free
stuff that I already mentionedand all of the resources on my
website and all of our socialsis our membership.
(30:54):
We have a membership that's $29a month and you get all kinds
of content to support you withall of these things.
So, for example, in December wedid a whole planning process.
So it's like about an hour and15 minutes or so of me walking
you through the whole process sothat you don't have to reinvent
the wheel right.
So you could just the wholeplanning process from top to
(31:18):
bottom, from the celebrationsand the acknowledgement to like
implementation.
So the whole thing is laid outfor you in that, just that one
piece of content is worth a lotmore than the $29.
But with the $29 a month, youget access to all of the other
content that we have.
That covers a whole gamut ofwellness for yourself and
relationship health.
(31:40):
And then we have the January.
The other one was anintegration experience where I
just mentioned that we did thewhole planning process For
January.
We're doing activatingprotocols.
We've just launched that newfeature.
We're going to be doing thosemonthly and the one for January
walks you through identifyingyour highest potential in all
areas of your life and designingyour ideal life and make it.
(32:04):
Designing it and gettingstarted to make it happen and to
put it in place.
That will help you, like I walkyou through, I hold your hand
and we make it happen and wedesign and implement and create
the whole thing.
We design it and put the thingsin place to help you start
(32:24):
living it.
And so just those two things,bam.
If you want to come on only forone month to get access and
benefit to that and then canceland you're good, fabulous, you
could do that.
You could say one month, threemonths, whatever.
As long as you want to, youcould use as much of the content
as possible.
We also have a live feature.
So on a monthly basis, we'redoing a get together in our
(32:47):
online community, so you get tohang out with me and ask me
questions and I show you all thethings to do, how to implement
all the things that we'retalking about for the month.
We have monthly themes, so youhave that live feature.
You have the option of addingsupport sessions privately if
you want, and you have all ofthe content.
We have deep dives, workshops,masterclasses, integration
experiences, activationprotocols all kinds of things to
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inspire you, motivate you,guide you.
All the tools, all the thingsthat you need to take care of
yourself and take care of yourrelationship, increase success
in your life and create the lifethat you love.
Okay, so $29 a month not tooshabby.
So go right ahead.
You can sign up for that andyou can cancel whenever you want
if you feel that you got enough.
So that's the paid version.
Of course, you could alwayswork with us privately and feel
free to check out our websitefor that if that's what
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resonates and calls to you atthis time.
But that's it.
I hooked you up with all kindsof things for today to get you
out of the funk, and you haveall kinds of resources free and
that paid membership if you wantto take it to the next level,
and I'm here for you.
I am on a mission to help yousucceed at yourself, at your
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relationship and at your life,and I look forward to hearing
from you.
Let me know how you're doing.
Connect with us in all of theplaces.
You could email us through ourwebsite or connect with us on
social.
You could leave a message onthis.
If you're watching this onYouTube, you could also leave us
a comment.
Let me know how you're doing.
What are you working on?
What resonated for you the mostand how are you feeling?
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I what resonated for you themost and how are you feeling?
I would love to hear how you'refeeling and how can I best
support you.
You have any suggestions orideas for additional podcasts or
any other piece of content.
Let us know what you want, whatyou need, and we're here to
serve.
Thank you so much for watching,for listening, for being here
with me, sharing time.
Happy New Year.
I'm wishing you the best and Ilook forward to seeing you at
the next one.
Bye.
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