June 22, 2025 • 35 mins
Josh and Amanda tackle the surprising accumulation of everyday objects and explore how we unconsciously become "those people" with habits and collections we never intended to have.
Talking Points
0:45 - The Coffee Mug Revelation
5:25 - Becoming "Those People"
10:55 - Listener Questions
11:42 - Hobbies vs. Obsessions
21:52 - Fessholes Confessions
27:25 - What's in a Name?
29:15 - Recommendations & Closing Thoughts
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Amanda (00:31):
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Josh (00:33):
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Josh (00:45):
So today, first thing I want to do is I want to ask you
a question how many coffee mugsdo you think that we own?
Amanda (00:51):
35.
Did you count them?
Josh (00:53):
I did.
I went today and I counted them.
Amanda (00:55):
Okay, I'm glad that you've used your time wisely.
How many do we have?
Josh (00:59):
51 that I could find.
That's after we've like paredthem down, like we gave away
boxes of them, and how many wegive away in that box double.
You think that we had 100 mugs.
Do you know how many?
Amanda (01:11):
we actually use probably I use two.
Josh (01:14):
I use, I use two.
We could actually open a coffeeshop for this neighborhood and
be set there.
Amanda (01:20):
I think there's like sentimental value attached to
some of them.
Some of them I like the waythat they feel in my hand.
Josh (01:25):
You only have two hands.
Amanda (01:27):
Okay, I like the way different ones feel in my hands.
Josh (01:31):
Okay, well argued.
Amanda (01:32):
I love a diner mug, right Like.
You know what I mean.
Like the diner mug.
They're heavy and they've gotthat kind of that little curve
in the middle.
You know what I mean.
Like if you went and sat atlike Waffle House counter you'd
get this kind of mug.
I have a Jimmy Buffett one.
I have a Life is Good one.
I have one from a fruit standthat you like, cherry, something
in Charleston or outside ofCharleston that you and I
stopped at like on one of ourfirst vacations and those I love
(01:56):
.
And then I have like because Iwas a teacher, I have mugs with,
like our kids' pictures on themthat people have made me.
I can't give away the mugs withour kids' pictures on them.
Josh (02:04):
So I did go through and I tried to identify the different
categories of mug and timeperiod.
So you have the before Wilson,you have the gift accumulation.
Everyone loves it, especiallyyou as a teacher.
You get all these frickingthings.
Oh, let's give her a coffee mugor whatever.
We have the souvenir trap.
You mentioned that.
(02:26):
Oh, this is great.
It's going to remind us of ourtrip.
It won't, and it only costs 12dollars right yeah there's the
kid years, so everything in thatis like plastic yes and like a
sippy cup.
So I noticed a couple of thoseand in that we have a little, a
little crossing of the venndiagram where we have a kid year
and a souvenir trap which is alittle plastic harry potter
(02:47):
sippy that is not a coffee mugthat was what we got butterbeer
in.
Amanda (02:51):
Then you put it in the wrong place because it goes in
the glasses cabinet notinteresting, then we have like
the, the work infiltration Ilike how the not interesting is
when you've done something wrongwhen you're like yelling at me
about accumulating mugs.
That's interesting, but when I,when I said to you, you put it
in the wrong cabinet, that'ssuddenly not for public
consumption and I'm boring theaudience with how you got this
wrong, go ahead.
(03:11):
What did Tom say?
I'm a little bit more sassythese days.
Yes, you are Chicken, tom.
Josh (03:15):
Chicken Tom, a listener and a friend of the podcast,
commented that Amanda seems tobe a little bit more spicy Spicy
.
Amanda (03:22):
Yes, bring it, tom, I'll be spicy.
Josh (03:26):
Tom, by the way of the In-Law and the Out-Law podcast,
another familiar Wilson's joint,so check that out if you want
to hear him and his countryson-in-law.
Anyway, moving on, we've gotthe kids year.
I said that the workplace mugsyou know like so swag and like
the inevitable.
Oh, we don't know what to dofor our employees for Christmas.
(03:47):
Let's get them a coffee mugbecause they want to be reminded
of the work that they have totrudge to right after drinking
that cup of coffee.
So, and like you do a lot oftraveling for your company too,
so you have a lot more access topossible swag.
Amanda (04:02):
Yeah.
Josh (04:02):
So there's that, and then, of course course, there's the
sentimental keepers.
My dad owned this, this has gota picture of my kid that's also
on all of my social media, allof the things um.
So, through all of thesedifferent archaeological faces
that we found ourself.
Now we have freaking 51 coffeemugs all right?
Amanda (04:22):
well, let's go down and purge some more.
Do you want to?
I will.
Are you willing to do that?
I will yeah.
Josh (04:26):
Here's the thing I need.
I have right now.
I have next to me, I have alovely mug that is hand-thrown
by a local artist, so love thatalready, because for me, like I
just want something that'sunique and individual, I
personally would be happy withlike four mugs.
Okay, let's do it, becauselet's be realistic too.
The reality is that we live ina place where we don't do dishes
(04:50):
every day.
Yeah Right, so stuff's going tosit in there, and sometimes I
will occasionally take eight or10 mugs to work and forget them
and then have to bring them back.
So I'd be happy to pick out myfour mugs.
Amanda (05:10):
In fact, it'd be fun if we went downstairs and kind of
did like a little draft where wegot to pick our mugs, okay, and
then we will put the winningeight mugs on social media.
Oh man, these are the ones.
You guys cannot wait suchcompelling content, good content
.
Josh (05:16):
But this does kind of lead me into the idea of like
different points, where we wakeup and we notice something
that's just kind of been thereand we're like how did I?
Amanda (05:26):
become this person.
Josh (05:27):
You all of a sudden noticed it.
Yeah like, apparently I'm a lotmore comfortable these days
buying pants that have elasticwaistbands.
Amanda (05:34):
Oh.
Josh (05:34):
God yes.
Amanda (05:35):
You're those people.
Josh (05:36):
Yeah, but I don't remember when that happened.
All of a sudden I woke up and Ihad like four pants that don't
need a belt and I'm like ohreally, when did we become the
people that are in bed by 8o'clock at night?
Yeah, and then are getting up at4, something in the morning, I
feel like I can trace that oneto the pandemic, where my sleep,
which hasn't been great I'vetalked about this endlessly on
(05:57):
this podcast, but I think I cannarrow it down to the pandemic
just screwed up all of my sleeppatterns now.
And just the resulting stress.
Amanda (06:06):
I also want to point out that we've become the people in
which I purchase furniture.
Josh (06:12):
Oh shit.
Amanda (06:13):
For the bedroom, for all the podcasting supplies, and
you gave me nothing short of a30-minute lecture.
So it's like a storage cabinet,like a thing from Ikea, and
it's got four boxes in it rightand under the window so it keeps
the dog from see.
The dog has scratched the paintoff our windowsill because he
gets up there and yells at theneighborhood.
So it's lovely, I love it.
(06:35):
And josh gave me a very longlecture about how it is not to
become a surface in which wecollect things.
I mean, over and over againthis man told me we are.
It is not going to become that,okay.
Okay, whose clothes have beenon this?
Josh (06:51):
oh, sunday, I've put all of my fucking clothes on this
cat on the top of this cabinet,all of them.
I took clothes out of thecloset, out of the the thing,
and I put all of my clothes ontop of a full week, people that
his clothes have been on thisand and hangers on top of the
clothes well, how am I gonna getrid of the clothes then?
If I don't have hangers, Igotta putting them in the
closets right here.
Amanda (07:12):
We've become those people too yes yes, we need to.
Marie condo the hell out ofyour clothes on this thing.
Does this to these socks thatwith hot dogs on them, bring you
joy okay, we're not doing thisright.
Yes, but you don't think thatthe listeners want to hear all
of this.
I don't.
Josh (07:27):
I think everything in life requires moderation.
I am all for going through mycloset and getting rid of all of
the clothes that apparently usebelts now, because that's not a
thing that I do, and then thesemugs, and also freaking all of
the forks that we don't needlike mismatched forks and spoons
.
I don't know how that happened.
Amanda (07:47):
I like mismatched things .
Josh (07:48):
Okay, very good, but we don't need all of them.
We can have like two things andhave them not match, and then
we're done.
Amanda (07:54):
We do need all of them.
We had a dinner party lastnight.
We barely had enough forks foreverybody.
Josh (07:59):
Okay, but you know what?
We had way too many of whatPlates bowls.
Amanda (08:04):
We ran out of plates on the counter.
I had to go get more out of thecloset or the pantry or the
cabinet, whatever Right In thecabinet, though again we can
stock a restaurant.
Josh (08:15):
I need maybe four plates and a bowl.
Amanda (08:18):
Right, but you understand, that's one of you.
Six people eat in this house ona regular basis when the boys
come over, and then we addedwhat like eight people last
night.
So you now are thinking aboutyourself living in a space by
yourself, and if that is whereyou and your four forks want to
go, that's fine, but the rest ofus have to have eating utensils
(08:43):
.
Josh (08:43):
Well, this is not the direction.
I intended to go with all this.
I will say that I think that wehave way too many China plates.
Amanda (08:50):
Those are fine.
Josh (08:50):
We've got a set of plates that are plastic and they don't
look bad, they don't look cheap,they're nice plates.
Amanda (08:55):
They're from Pier 1.
Josh (08:57):
They weren't cheap, right, and so those are the ones that
we pull out and use, and wenever use these other plates and
I don't think Untrue.
Amanda (09:03):
The last time we had a small dinner party I used those
plates.
Josh (09:06):
I just-.
Amanda (09:07):
They are from Crate and Barrel and they're Italian
earthenware and I'm not gettingrid of them.
I've had them longer than I'vehad you.
Oh so they came with me intothis marriage and they will go
with me if you're gonna fight meon these blades.
Josh (09:21):
Okay Well, but see, there's kind of the point that I
brought up the whole Marie.
Amanda (09:26):
They bring me joy, jackass, I'm keeping my point.
The.
Josh (09:30):
Marie Kondo thing, because I had gone and I've got we have
books, like all over this house.
We have books.
I love books and so I'm lookingat the book cabinet right
across the room there and I hademptied that cabinet of books
and put them in boxes andgetting rid and I missed having
those books and so for me, evenif I'll never read them like
(09:51):
having books on a shelf.
I guess it's like decor, right.
Amanda (09:54):
It's a comfort thing.
Academia aesthetic.
Josh (09:57):
Yeah, so that.
So we can be like veryselective, but there are
definitely things that we couldget rid of, and that's all I'm
saying.
Amanda (10:09):
If I were to tie this segment up into a neat little
bow, like we planned this, whichwe didn't no one told me I was
gonna have to defend my plateswhen I woke up this morning.
But it's like identify thethings that bring you joy and
keep those things, but then theother stuff, get rid of that
mess you're also supposed tothank it for what it's brought
into your life and let it knowit's time for it to be let go
thank you, fork, for the joythat you've brought into my life
(10:29):
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Josh (10:50):
Amanda, I've been holding on to some of these questions so
we can answer them all in agroup here.
So here are some questions fromour listeners.
Are you ready?
Yes, dear josh and amanda, Ihave a question for you.
What do I do when a loved onemarries someone?
Horrible.
Amanda (11:07):
God, that's really tricky.
That's really tricky.
Listen, you gotta support yourloved one.
And here's the really trickypart, because when they start
talking trash about this personto you, you cannot agree and be
like, yeah, they're horrible,because, guess what, they're
gonna stay together and thenyou're gonna be the person who
said they were horrible.
So you just got to listen andjust like I'm here to support,
(11:29):
but I don't.
I mean, if they're complainingabout him, if they're not
complaining, I don't know whatto do.
Josh (11:34):
Maybe we should call this segment.
Ask Amanda, because I canalready tell that I'm not going
to give any useful advice.
Okay, here's one.
Dear Josh and Amanda, what'sthe difference between a hobby
and an obsession?
I'm here to tell you right nowthat for men, there is no
difference.
Amanda (11:48):
Really.
Josh (11:49):
Yeah, so for men, they get a hobby.
That means there's somethingthat they obsess over until
they're not interested in itanymore.
Amanda (11:56):
Are you speaking in generalities for your gender?
Josh (11:59):
Okay, what are we doing right now?
Amanda (12:00):
I'm asking no.
I'm asking yes, I am, I am, Iam.
What's your sample size?
Bring it Huh.
What's your sample size?
No, we're not doing this, allright.
Josh (12:10):
Sample size of one, no of two, because Chicken Tom, the
Afflements and Chicken Tom like,it seems to me that he gets,
he's a very and he pursues ituntil he does it and I know that
I do that with like art andmusic and all this and that.
So I would say there is nodifference and actually these
days if you're gonna pursuesomething outside of work that
(12:32):
is not your family orrelationships, it had better be
an obsession, because ain't noone got time for just like
little hobbies.
Amanda (12:40):
I think that what you're speaking about is not so much
obsession but hyper fixation.
Josh (12:46):
Isn't that obsession?
Amanda (12:47):
Yeah, but it's.
Hyper fixation, though is morea manifestation of
neurodivergent, which anxiety isabsolutely one of those things
we tend to in this house.
Because we are all high anxietypeople, we tend to hyper fixate
.
I notice it more in the kids.
(13:07):
They'll get super intosomething, but it is a means of
kind of focusing on somethingthat you can have control over.
I was a little bit curious so Ilooked up.
So hyperfixation depends oncontext.
So they're similar, like anintense focus on something, but
they have distinct differencesbetween hyperfixation and
(13:29):
obsession.
So hyperfixation is commonlyassociated with neurodivergent
conditions such as ADHD, anxiety, autism, typically tied to
special interests or tasks.
It's usually temporary and canshift when the person's interest
wanes or external factorschange.
The person might feel deeplyengrossed, often losing track of
time.
But the focus is notnecessarily distressing.
(13:50):
It comes with excitement ordeep engagement, even if it can
lead to exhaustion.
It can be productive, like deepdiving in a hobby, but may
cause neglect of otherresponsibilities or needs, right
?
So that's hyper fixating onsomething.
The eight-year-old gets hyperfixated on one game and then
(14:11):
just exhausts himself onlearning all the characters,
learning all the lore, or getsthat way about space, like hyper
fixates on something.
But a session is linked oftento like OCD, where it's
typically paired with intrusivethoughts.
So when I'm seeing this, it canbe long lasting and persistent.
It feels intrusive andinvoluntary, like you've got a
strong compulsion over it.
It's accompanied by distress,discomfort or fear, and so I'm
(14:35):
asking, like If I'm really intoa hobby, this is telling me the
research that I've done is thatcan be passion or it can be
hyper fixation Passion if it'slong term, hyper fixation if
it's short lived.
But obsession is something thatcauses you to, it impacts the
rest of your of your life and itbrings negative things, not
(14:57):
necessarily positive things.
So, that's the differencebetween a hobby and an obsession
.
Josh (15:02):
Wow things.
Amanda (15:06):
So that's the difference between a hobby and an
obsession.
Wow, look, don't come at mewith like research-based
questions and think that I'm notgoing to go into it, because
this is what I do for an actualliving.
Josh (15:12):
Okay.
Amanda (15:13):
Are you regretting asking this question?
Listener.
Josh (15:16):
No, they are.
Yeah, okay, here's the nextquestion.
Let's see how research-basedyou can get.
Dear Josh and Amanda, who wouldyou say is the new Tiger King?
Amanda (15:24):
Oh God, I remember when they tried to do the thing with
like the circus guy or the likemagician or something.
They tried to do another TigerKing series, but it was based on
like the King of the Carnivalor something.
I didn't watch it though.
Josh (15:41):
No.
So let's think about though,like Tiger King, right.
So big personality, big ego,reality show vibes happening
legal trouble.
Amanda (15:54):
I see where we're going Saying really inane, stupid
things Saying dumb things kindof like being a cult leader with
merchandise.
Josh (16:02):
Absolute egomaniac, messy and magnetic yeah so who do you
think, dear listeners, we willelect, as you know season two of
the tiger king, the americannightmare.
Yes, whereas joe exotic is in acage, we have the new guy
trying to stay out of a cage so.
Amanda (16:20):
So there you go, there's you go.
There's my answer to thatquestion.
Therefore, let me run thecountry.
Last question here.
Josh (16:27):
What is the point, Josh and Amanda, in saying you're
welcome?
It seems kind of unnecessary.
Amanda (16:34):
I don't know.
I mean, I could look into theetymology of it if you want me
to.
Please don't my God.
But I mean, it's just, it's apolite thing to say.
I don't know.
I have a work colleague thatabsolutely refuses to say bless
you when someone sneezes.
Right you didn't do anything.
You sneeze Like there's noreason for me to bless you.
It's not like you accomplishedsomething.
You're not dying Like.
(16:54):
There's no reason for you to beblessed.
Josh (16:55):
Right, like, just refuses to say it.
You might be dying after thepandemic.
Amanda (16:59):
I know on principle, but you're welcome is just, it's
just a thing of politeness, Idon't know, just do it to be
kind.
Josh (17:07):
Well, here's the thing, though that did get me thinking,
like even the term you'rewelcome, like it is accepted now
as the way to communicate aftersomeone says thank you which,
by the way, I think that whensomeone says thank you, that's
the end of the transaction,right, but you are welcome,
literally means that that we arehappy to see you here in this
(17:27):
place, or you're welcome, likewe are inviting you into the
space but think about that incontext of oh, thank you very
much for buying that thing forme.
Amanda (17:35):
Oh, I'm happy you're here no, I'm, I'm, I'm happy
that you were in a space where Igave you something that makes
you happy that's too much mentalgymnastics.
That's why we say you'rewelcome.
Josh (17:46):
Well, my brain doesn't like that.
What are some alternatives to?
You're welcome Because they areout there Like my pleasure,
right.
Amanda (17:53):
Oh God, but that's only for people who work at
Chick-fil-A, and I can alwaystell when someone in the service
industry has worked atChick-fil-A previously.
When I say thank you and theysay my pleasure, I'm like, oh,
you worked at Chick-fil-A.
Well, you realize thatChick-fil-A didn't invent that,
and like plenty of people out inthe world, Mandated though they
have to say it.
Josh (18:12):
Here's my problem with my pleasure it's just creepy Again
if it's like oh, you know,thanks for holding that door for
me.
Oh, it gave me such pleasure todo that for you it's because
you think in a sexual way.
No, I don't think in a sexualway, it just it just sounds like
creepy my pleasure, like don'tbring pleasure into this.
It's not appropriate.
Leave that alone.
How about?
like no problem I say no problem, or I said no worries to me no
(18:37):
problem, and I've said it before, but I always kind of bump on
it after the fact it's a lie,because you did have to expend
effort like that, or it's true,and what you're saying to them
is like okay, well, you might bethankful for that, but it meant
nothing to me no, that's god.
Amanda (18:53):
You're being so literal, it's not.
That's not what it means.
It means like not that it meantnothing to me, because that
would be.
You know, I didn't even thinkabout it no problem me?
No problem means like it didn'tcause me any like expenditure
to do this for you, but does itmean that you weren't happy to
do it for them?
Josh (19:11):
don't you ever look at a phrase that we take for granted?
And you stop and you thinkabout it and you think, well,
how did that ever become to meanwhat it means now?
yeah like, for example, pardonme, right to.
That seems like a little bitpushy and presumptive, like I'm
going to make you pardon me.
And can your answer be well, no, I don't think that I will.
(19:31):
Or like when you give someonesomething and you say enjoy,
well, why are you imposing thaton me now?
Now I feel the stress and thepressure of like now I have to
enjoy this thing.
Can I not just, like, patiently, endure it?
Can I not just tolerate it?
Do I have to enjoy it?
Why are you doing this to me?
Amanda (19:51):
Why are you doing this to me?
Maybe they're just suggestingthat you could enjoy it.
Maybe they're not telling youhave to enjoy it.
Also, what you're doing rightnow hyper fixation.
You are hyper, fixating on themeanings of these things.
Josh (20:04):
What if?
Hyper fixating on the meaningsof?
Amanda (20:05):
these things.
What if someone says to you oh,you know, help yourself.
Yeah, so then you help yourself?
Josh (20:07):
right, because what are they saying, though?
Like because I'm sure as shitnot helping you, unless, of
course, it's no problem, then itwon't be anything for me to
help you.
Amanda (20:13):
I don't want to make assumptions about what it is
that you want and or need, sohelp yourself to it these are
you are coming from such adeficit-based mindset and I am
coming from a positive mindset,a strength-based mindset.
That's basically the languageversion of saying the glass is
either half full or half empty.
Josh (20:32):
I'm just in favor of clear communication.
Especially, think about beingsomeone who's learning English
for the first time and they comeacross all these phrases where,
again, on the face of them,they make no sense.
The thing about communicationis is that you look for context
and understanding, so that youcan be a little lazy about it,
you know yeah, I meancolloquialism is something that
we have to be intentional toteach english learners.
Amanda (20:55):
That is a thing yes but you know, as somebody who grew
up around spanish-speakingcommunities, that there are a
lot of phrases in sp Spanishthat I don't get the straight
English translation to.
Josh (21:04):
So it's not just an English thing?
Oh no, it's not.
It's not, but I can only speaktowards the English things.
Amanda (21:08):
Yeah, but did I tell you how I was in Mexico once and I
thought that I was saying excuseme, which would be pardon me
right?
Josh (21:16):
Pardon me.
Amanda (21:16):
Pardon me and anyway.
I was walking through the cityin Mexico yelling escuche me
because I had listened to me,confused with pardon me.
And I was yelling at all of thepeople on the streets in this
Mexican city to listen to me.
So, like when I bump intopeople, I'd say like excuse me,
excuse me, excuse me is what Ithought I was saying Instead.
Josh (21:33):
I'm going listen to me, listen to me, listen to me.
Amanda (21:36):
Anyway.
Josh (21:38):
Oh good, oh good story.
I like that.
Yeah, my pleasure.
If you have a question or astatement or an anecdote or any
of the things that you want tosend to us, familiarwilsons at
gmailcom.
And now it's time for FessHoles.
(21:58):
Fess Holes is an account that Ifollow social media and it's
basically anonymous confessionsand I get a kick out of reading
them, but also the comments too.
So you ready for this?
Amanda (22:07):
Yes.
Josh (22:08):
Here's one.
In the mid-'90s, when mymarriage collapsed, I ended up
living with my dad andstepmother.
Whilst in the bath, I grabbedthe flannel that was there and
used it to wash my face.
It dawned on me, after she toldme not to use it, that it was
her fanny flannel.
Oh no, still haunts me at age65.
Oh God, oh.
Amanda (22:31):
God, I have a very similar story.
Josh (22:36):
By way of definition, flannel is like a washcloth and
fanny, in the UK, is the frontversion of the female anatomy.
So go ahead.
What is your story?
That you used someone's fannyflannel?
Amanda (22:43):
So in the 90s again, I did not use anybody's fanny
flannel.
I was dating this guy and hisparents.
They were still doing all ofthe construction in South
Florida for Hurricane Andrewright.
Josh (22:55):
Yep.
Amanda (22:55):
So his dad was an engineer, so his parents had
moved down to the homestead areaand he was living with his
older brother, and so there werea lot of things boxed up and
his mom had brought him a boxfor somebody from work and said
so-and-so's computer needsfixing, can you fix it?
So he started to pull thecomputer out of the box, instead
pulled out a black lace thongthat had a whistle hanging where
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the fanny part would be, and heput it in his mouth and blew it
.
It and I watched her eyes getgiant because turns out it was
his mom's.
She pulled me aside later andtold me that it was hers.
Why she needed to tell me Ididn't know.
So I had to break it to himthat the whistle that dangled
between his mother's legs hadbeen in his mouth why would
(23:37):
there be a whistle there?
Josh (23:38):
I don't know you're not having to call someone home to
dinner when they're right there,or like like for a time out.
Amanda (23:42):
I don't know.
You're not having to callsomeone home to dinner when
they're right there or like fora time out.
I don't know.
Josh (23:46):
This commenter said about that.
My mother-in-law used a sheetof toilet paper as a fanny mop.
Amanda (23:50):
After being fanny mop, I mean, isn't toilet paper?
Just isn't that what you'resupposed to do to wipe yourself?
Josh (23:57):
That's not the end of it.
Amanda (23:59):
Okay, go ahead.
Josh (24:00):
Being Scottish, she dried them on the side of the bath for
reuse later.
Amanda (24:04):
No, that can't smell good.
Josh (24:07):
Reminiscing.
After she died, mysister-in-law realized she'd be
using them to blow her nose.
Amanda (24:10):
Why are we having to reuse the toilet paper?
Josh (24:13):
I'm not getting into that here.
I don't want to be canceled bya bunch of mine.
Used my mother's fanny flannelto clean her teeth.
Amanda (24:23):
Her teeth.
Josh (24:24):
Yes.
Amanda (24:24):
Why are we flanneling our teeth?
Josh (24:25):
Well, you know just like.
You know, just like.
Amanda (24:28):
Polishing them.
Yeah, yeah.
Josh (24:30):
On a similar note, this warning sign in one of my most
popular bathroom art prints saysthis there's no guarantee that
that's not my ass towel.
Amanda (24:38):
Okay, well, thank you for letting us all know.
Josh (24:42):
Doctor says this is a new confession here.
Doctor says I need to do moreexercise, but I'm terrified of
having a heart attack in themiddle of nowhere and not being
found until I'm dead.
So I walk the corridors of mylocal large hospital knowing
that I'd be treated in secondsif I collapse.
Amanda (24:56):
That's smart People think that I work there.
That's smart, though Iappreciate that.
Or, like, just go to thegrocery store and walk up and
down, so somebody there's got tobe an aed defibrillator thing
there yeah, no, the hospital isa pretty great, it's really
smart.
Josh (25:11):
But like it says, people think that I work there, so I
guess this person does it everyday.
Go get yourself a stethoscopeand go get yourself a clipboard
and just have fun with it.
Someone in the comment says Igave my two-year-old daughter a
bite of Snickers whilst waitingin A&E to confirm whether or not
she had a peanut allergy.
Amanda (25:28):
Oh God, that is dangerous.
Josh (25:30):
Yeah Well, you're right there though.
Amanda (25:32):
But as parents of a child with severe nut allergies,
that's dangerous.
Josh (25:38):
And then the last comment that's really no way to live.
Amanda (25:44):
I support it.
You're getting the exercise andyou're keeping yourself safe.
Josh (25:47):
Last one here that I picked out was this Our chopping
board has seen better days, soI bought a like for like,
replacement, same style, color,etc.
My wife is cross because Ididn't discuss it with her first
.
Am I missing something here?
Amanda (26:02):
Is there some sort of sentimental value to this
cutting board for her, like hergrandfather made it before he
passed away?
Josh (26:09):
Maybe I don't know.
Amanda (26:10):
I mean other than a sentimental thing, or you don't
have the money to spend.
I don't know why she's cross.
Josh (26:16):
Some of the comments here.
She had planned on an upgradeto a better, stronger, faster
chopping board and you ruinedthat.
Am I missing something here?
They answered yes, becauseyou're still discussing it with
the internet instead of yourwife.
Someone else said she was likehang on, it's been 15 years.
Maybe chopping board technologyhas advanced since then.
Someone else says you've made adecision way above your pay
(26:36):
grade.
Now you have to let her have afree choice in your next car.
Maybe she thought the old onewas seasoned like a cast iron
frying pan Gross.
Amanda (26:46):
Yeah, no, we don't want to season wood Like that's not
so good.
Josh (26:49):
And then the last person says she's cheating on you with
the old cutting board.
It's the only explanation.
Maybe it was her fanny flannelcutting board oh yesterday,
(27:15):
winthrop was telling me aboutthese friends that he has at
camp and I've already resignedmyself to the fact that names
that people are coming up withfor kids today are different
than what I expect.
Right, yes, so he was describinghis friends Finn, briar and
Lennon.
And again, I'm not judgingthose names, but I do have a
(27:36):
question how do we think thatLennon's parents spelled
Lennon's name?
Amanda (27:40):
Do we think it's L Like John?
Josh (27:42):
L-E-N-N-O-N.
Amanda (27:43):
Yeah, no.
Josh (27:46):
Because it could be.
Amanda (27:47):
It could, but that's dumb.
Josh (27:48):
It would tell us a lot about the parents and whether we
want our kid to go on a playdate over there or not?
Amanda (27:53):
Did Winthrop know no?
Josh (27:55):
no, and I'm not going to ask him because then whatever.
But I think it's important thatif Lennon's parents ever say,
would you like to have a playdate, we need to find out how
it's spelled, because eitherthey're going over on the play
date and they are, you know,doing tie dye and doing
interpretive dance to the songImagine, or they're going over
(28:15):
on a play date and they aredividing all the food equally
amongst all the children andthen plotting a revolution.
Yeah, and I just want to knowwhat to expect.
Amanda (28:22):
What to expect, Right?
Well, I mean parents text thesedays, so I'll be able to tell
immediately and we can say yesor no.
Well, I'm not even saying thatwe say no to anything.
We just know what our child'sgonna be exposed to.
Josh (28:33):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, just so we can be prepared.
Well, how?
Amanda (28:35):
do you think that the people take the fact that we've
named our child Winthrop?
When we text and say Winthrop'scoming for a play date, are
they expecting like somearistocrat, like snooty person?
Josh (28:46):
What's happening here?
Amanda (28:47):
I know that's not really his name.
Josh (28:51):
Something really strange has happened.
Either I jumped into like analternate timeline or you've
forgotten what our child's realname is?
Amanda (28:58):
I don't know.
I'm confused because the doghas just jumped straight up in
my lap and is just standing onme.
He has now declared that it istime to end the podcast.
Josh (29:07):
All right.
Well, let's very quickly moveinto.
No one likes to be told what todo.
Now is the time in the podcastwhere we tell you what to do,
Amanda.
What should we do?
Amanda (29:16):
If you are looking for some heartwarming content
creation, you can head over toInstagram or what's that other
one, tiktok and follow IsabelKlee, who's the content creator,
but her account is Simon Sitzand she is a pretty well known
dog foster in the Brooklyn, newYork City area and she has just
(29:38):
become incredibly viral withthis really just broken dog,
tiki, that she fostered andafter 44 days he found a really
good home.
Now those foster parents arecontinuing his journey, so it's
just really heartwarming.
But she has a new dog.
His name is Cheesecake and hewas left tied to a fence to
(29:59):
starve to death.
It's really tragic, but she hashim and now we're following
Cheesecake's journey.
So, as all the comments say,season two is here y'all, so
head on over and watch.
She is amazing and she has amagical touch with these animals
, and a lot of people got soattached to tiki that they were
really upset with her for notadopting him and and and
(30:21):
fostering him out.
I mean fostering and thenadopting him out, and he had
over 500 applications.
They were very specific aboutwho he went to, but her point
was I can continue to save lotsof dogs if we just continue to
foster.
And now people are coming backto the comments and saying I'm
sorry, I was wrong, and so it'snice to see people admitting in
(30:44):
a comment which they don'ttypically do that they were
misinformed and so head on overand check out Simon Sitz.
Josh (30:52):
I guess my recommendation was don't be that person who
comments without knowing thefull story.
Amanda (30:56):
Yeah.
Josh (30:57):
I was reading a thing on the local subreddit, our town
subreddit, and someone hadwritten a really thoughtful post
and it went on for a while butI thought it was good.
And it went on for a while, butI thought it was good and it
was heartfelt and it was.
It was interesting for thosewho would find it interesting.
Why do people feel the need toexpress that they don't like
(31:19):
something or that they thoughtthe dumbest comment that I read
was oh, this is too long, I'mnot going to read it.
Well, don't freaking read it.
Why do I have to know?
Talk about having maincharacter energy, right?
Why do you feel the need to popinto this very thoughtful
thread and if somehow you're notable to sustain the attention
span to read the whole damnthing, you need to comment on it
?
Amanda (31:38):
No.
Josh (31:39):
Just walk away.
That's like going into thelibrary and writing on the inner
page of every book.
I don't like this book Too long, didn't read.
Amanda (31:50):
No one invited you to read it like that is your own
free will.
The other thing that I can'tstand is don't be the person who
comments on something.
If you don't read the articlethat's attached or you know,
because people are, will drop inand make comments based on the
headline.
And then there's other commentslike clearly you didn't
actually engage with thiscontent not at all.
So just please don don't.
Just when in doubt, don't, justdon't.
Josh (32:12):
I think that that's not even genetically possible
anymore, but it's certainly ouradvice.
All right, amanda, that's allthere is and there is no more.
And I just got a text, as we'rereporting, from a number that I
do not recognize, that says whydidn't you tell me I left Miami
(32:33):
?
Amanda (32:34):
What?
Who left Miami and didn't knowit and then also text you with
an unknown number.
Josh (32:43):
I am not texting them back .
Amanda (32:45):
Is it a Miami area?
Josh (32:46):
code it is not.
It is not.
Amanda (32:48):
Because they are no longer in Miami.
No, they're not.
Josh (32:51):
They are no longer in Miami.
No, they're not, they are nolonger in Miami.
So anyway, what do you think ofthat whole mess?
Amanda (32:56):
I think you should comment back.
Too long didn't read.
Very good, Very good.
Josh (33:00):
All right.
So we are now at the time wherewe need to thank the people we
need to thank.
So this episode of SuperFamiliar with the Wilson is
brought to you by the cupboardof eternal clatter Antonio for
the chip in the good china.
Josh Scar for stirring the potagain.
Daniel J Buckets for themismatched lids initiative.
Chicken Tom for theunauthorized use of the
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immersion blender.
Monique from Germany for theceramic mug diplomacy treaty.
Joey, joey.
Leo for the whispered rumorsabout the teacups, for Fine Gay.
Jeff for the saucer swirl ofsophistication.
Mark and Rachel for theselective memory of who broke
the French press.
And Daniel and Gavin for thelies we tell ourselves about the
non-stick pants your brain isan interesting place to be yes,
(33:47):
yes.
well, there you go.
What can I say about that?
My brain is a mismatchedcupboard of coffee mugs.
So until next week, folks, justgo through life.
Don't try to be the maincharacter it's not necessary and
just try to be nice to everyonearound you so that they're like
, oh, being around that persondidn't suck.
Amanda (34:08):
And be kind.
Josh (34:10):
Bye.
Amanda (34:10):
Bye, thank you.
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Josh (00:45):
So today, first thing I want to do is I want to ask you
a question how many coffee mugsdo you think that we own?
Amanda (00:51):
35.
Did you count them?
Josh (00:53):
I did.
I went today and I counted them.
Amanda (00:55):
Okay, I'm glad that you've used your time wisely.
How many do we have?
Josh (00:59):
51 that I could find.
That's after we've like paredthem down, like we gave away
boxes of them, and how many wegive away in that box double.
You think that we had 100 mugs.
Do you know how many?
Amanda (01:11):
we actually use probably I use two.
Josh (01:14):
I use, I use two.
We could actually open a coffeeshop for this neighborhood and
be set there.
Amanda (01:20):
I think there's like sentimental value attached to
some of them.
Some of them I like the waythat they feel in my hand.
Josh (01:25):
You only have two hands.
Amanda (01:27):
Okay, I like the way different ones feel in my hands.
Josh (01:31):
Okay, well argued.
Amanda (01:32):
I love a diner mug, right Like.
You know what I mean.
Like the diner mug.
They're heavy and they've gotthat kind of that little curve
in the middle.
You know what I mean.
Like if you went and sat atlike Waffle House counter you'd
get this kind of mug.
I have a Jimmy Buffett one.
I have a Life is Good one.
I have one from a fruit standthat you like, cherry, something
in Charleston or outside ofCharleston that you and I
stopped at like on one of ourfirst vacations and those I love
(01:56):
.
And then I have like because Iwas a teacher, I have mugs with,
like our kids' pictures on themthat people have made me.
I can't give away the mugs withour kids' pictures on them.
Josh (02:04):
So I did go through and I tried to identify the different
categories of mug and timeperiod.
So you have the before Wilson,you have the gift accumulation.
Everyone loves it, especiallyyou as a teacher.
You get all these frickingthings.
Oh, let's give her a coffee mugor whatever.
We have the souvenir trap.
You mentioned that.
(02:26):
Oh, this is great.
It's going to remind us of ourtrip.
It won't, and it only costs 12dollars right yeah there's the
kid years, so everything in thatis like plastic yes and like a
sippy cup.
So I noticed a couple of thoseand in that we have a little, a
little crossing of the venndiagram where we have a kid year
and a souvenir trap which is alittle plastic harry potter
(02:47):
sippy that is not a coffee mugthat was what we got butterbeer
in.
Amanda (02:51):
Then you put it in the wrong place because it goes in
the glasses cabinet notinteresting, then we have like
the, the work infiltration Ilike how the not interesting is
when you've done something wrongwhen you're like yelling at me
about accumulating mugs.
That's interesting, but when I,when I said to you, you put it
in the wrong cabinet, that'ssuddenly not for public
consumption and I'm boring theaudience with how you got this
wrong, go ahead.
(03:11):
What did Tom say?
I'm a little bit more sassythese days.
Yes, you are Chicken, tom.
Josh (03:15):
Chicken Tom, a listener and a friend of the podcast,
commented that Amanda seems tobe a little bit more spicy Spicy
.
Amanda (03:22):
Yes, bring it, tom, I'll be spicy.
Josh (03:26):
Tom, by the way of the In-Law and the Out-Law podcast,
another familiar Wilson's joint,so check that out if you want
to hear him and his countryson-in-law.
Anyway, moving on, we've gotthe kids year.
I said that the workplace mugsyou know like so swag and like
the inevitable.
Oh, we don't know what to dofor our employees for Christmas.
(03:47):
Let's get them a coffee mugbecause they want to be reminded
of the work that they have totrudge to right after drinking
that cup of coffee.
So, and like you do a lot oftraveling for your company too,
so you have a lot more access topossible swag.
Amanda (04:02):
Yeah.
Josh (04:02):
So there's that, and then, of course course, there's the
sentimental keepers.
My dad owned this, this has gota picture of my kid that's also
on all of my social media, allof the things um.
So, through all of thesedifferent archaeological faces
that we found ourself.
Now we have freaking 51 coffeemugs all right?
Amanda (04:22):
well, let's go down and purge some more.
Do you want to?
I will.
Are you willing to do that?
I will yeah.
Josh (04:26):
Here's the thing I need.
I have right now.
I have next to me, I have alovely mug that is hand-thrown
by a local artist, so love thatalready, because for me, like I
just want something that'sunique and individual, I
personally would be happy withlike four mugs.
Okay, let's do it, becauselet's be realistic too.
The reality is that we live ina place where we don't do dishes
(04:50):
every day.
Yeah Right, so stuff's going tosit in there, and sometimes I
will occasionally take eight or10 mugs to work and forget them
and then have to bring them back.
So I'd be happy to pick out myfour mugs.
Amanda (05:10):
In fact, it'd be fun if we went downstairs and kind of
did like a little draft where wegot to pick our mugs, okay, and
then we will put the winningeight mugs on social media.
Oh man, these are the ones.
You guys cannot wait suchcompelling content, good content
.
Josh (05:16):
But this does kind of lead me into the idea of like
different points, where we wakeup and we notice something
that's just kind of been thereand we're like how did I?
Amanda (05:26):
become this person.
Josh (05:27):
You all of a sudden noticed it.
Yeah like, apparently I'm a lotmore comfortable these days
buying pants that have elasticwaistbands.
Amanda (05:34):
Oh.
Josh (05:34):
God yes.
Amanda (05:35):
You're those people.
Josh (05:36):
Yeah, but I don't remember when that happened.
All of a sudden I woke up and Ihad like four pants that don't
need a belt and I'm like ohreally, when did we become the
people that are in bed by 8o'clock at night?
Yeah, and then are getting up at4, something in the morning, I
feel like I can trace that oneto the pandemic, where my sleep,
which hasn't been great I'vetalked about this endlessly on
(05:57):
this podcast, but I think I cannarrow it down to the pandemic
just screwed up all of my sleeppatterns now.
And just the resulting stress.
Amanda (06:06):
I also want to point out that we've become the people in
which I purchase furniture.
Josh (06:12):
Oh shit.
Amanda (06:13):
For the bedroom, for all the podcasting supplies, and
you gave me nothing short of a30-minute lecture.
So it's like a storage cabinet,like a thing from Ikea, and
it's got four boxes in it rightand under the window so it keeps
the dog from see.
The dog has scratched the paintoff our windowsill because he
gets up there and yells at theneighborhood.
So it's lovely, I love it.
(06:35):
And josh gave me a very longlecture about how it is not to
become a surface in which wecollect things.
I mean, over and over againthis man told me we are.
It is not going to become that,okay.
Okay, whose clothes have beenon this?
Josh (06:51):
oh, sunday, I've put all of my fucking clothes on this
cat on the top of this cabinet,all of them.
I took clothes out of thecloset, out of the the thing,
and I put all of my clothes ontop of a full week, people that
his clothes have been on thisand and hangers on top of the
clothes well, how am I gonna getrid of the clothes then?
If I don't have hangers, Igotta putting them in the
closets right here.
Amanda (07:12):
We've become those people too yes yes, we need to.
Marie condo the hell out ofyour clothes on this thing.
Does this to these socks thatwith hot dogs on them, bring you
joy okay, we're not doing thisright.
Yes, but you don't think thatthe listeners want to hear all
of this.
I don't.
Josh (07:27):
I think everything in life requires moderation.
I am all for going through mycloset and getting rid of all of
the clothes that apparently usebelts now, because that's not a
thing that I do, and then thesemugs, and also freaking all of
the forks that we don't needlike mismatched forks and spoons
.
I don't know how that happened.
Amanda (07:47):
I like mismatched things .
Josh (07:48):
Okay, very good, but we don't need all of them.
We can have like two things andhave them not match, and then
we're done.
Amanda (07:54):
We do need all of them.
We had a dinner party lastnight.
We barely had enough forks foreverybody.
Josh (07:59):
Okay, but you know what?
We had way too many of whatPlates bowls.
Amanda (08:04):
We ran out of plates on the counter.
I had to go get more out of thecloset or the pantry or the
cabinet, whatever Right In thecabinet, though again we can
stock a restaurant.
Josh (08:15):
I need maybe four plates and a bowl.
Amanda (08:18):
Right, but you understand, that's one of you.
Six people eat in this house ona regular basis when the boys
come over, and then we addedwhat like eight people last
night.
So you now are thinking aboutyourself living in a space by
yourself, and if that is whereyou and your four forks want to
go, that's fine, but the rest ofus have to have eating utensils
(08:43):
.
Josh (08:43):
Well, this is not the direction.
I intended to go with all this.
I will say that I think that wehave way too many China plates.
Amanda (08:50):
Those are fine.
Josh (08:50):
We've got a set of plates that are plastic and they don't
look bad, they don't look cheap,they're nice plates.
Amanda (08:55):
They're from Pier 1.
Josh (08:57):
They weren't cheap, right, and so those are the ones that
we pull out and use, and wenever use these other plates and
I don't think Untrue.
Amanda (09:03):
The last time we had a small dinner party I used those
plates.
Josh (09:06):
I just-.
Amanda (09:07):
They are from Crate and Barrel and they're Italian
earthenware and I'm not gettingrid of them.
I've had them longer than I'vehad you.
Oh so they came with me intothis marriage and they will go
with me if you're gonna fight meon these blades.
Josh (09:21):
Okay Well, but see, there's kind of the point that I
brought up the whole Marie.
Amanda (09:26):
They bring me joy, jackass, I'm keeping my point.
The.
Josh (09:30):
Marie Kondo thing, because I had gone and I've got we have
books, like all over this house.
We have books.
I love books and so I'm lookingat the book cabinet right
across the room there and I hademptied that cabinet of books
and put them in boxes andgetting rid and I missed having
those books and so for me, evenif I'll never read them like
(09:51):
having books on a shelf.
I guess it's like decor, right.
Amanda (09:54):
It's a comfort thing.
Academia aesthetic.
Josh (09:57):
Yeah, so that.
So we can be like veryselective, but there are
definitely things that we couldget rid of, and that's all I'm
saying.
Amanda (10:09):
If I were to tie this segment up into a neat little
bow, like we planned this, whichwe didn't no one told me I was
gonna have to defend my plateswhen I woke up this morning.
But it's like identify thethings that bring you joy and
keep those things, but then theother stuff, get rid of that
mess you're also supposed tothank it for what it's brought
into your life and let it knowit's time for it to be let go
thank you, fork, for the joythat you've brought into my life
(10:29):
email our email address isfamiliarwilsons at gmailcom.
Josh (10:50):
Amanda, I've been holding on to some of these questions so
we can answer them all in agroup here.
So here are some questions fromour listeners.
Are you ready?
Yes, dear josh and amanda, Ihave a question for you.
What do I do when a loved onemarries someone?
Horrible.
Amanda (11:07):
God, that's really tricky.
That's really tricky.
Listen, you gotta support yourloved one.
And here's the really trickypart, because when they start
talking trash about this personto you, you cannot agree and be
like, yeah, they're horrible,because, guess what, they're
gonna stay together and thenyou're gonna be the person who
said they were horrible.
So you just got to listen andjust like I'm here to support,
(11:29):
but I don't.
I mean, if they're complainingabout him, if they're not
complaining, I don't know whatto do.
Josh (11:34):
Maybe we should call this segment.
Ask Amanda, because I canalready tell that I'm not going
to give any useful advice.
Okay, here's one.
Dear Josh and Amanda, what'sthe difference between a hobby
and an obsession?
I'm here to tell you right nowthat for men, there is no
difference.
Amanda (11:48):
Really.
Josh (11:49):
Yeah, so for men, they get a hobby.
That means there's somethingthat they obsess over until
they're not interested in itanymore.
Amanda (11:56):
Are you speaking in generalities for your gender?
Josh (11:59):
Okay, what are we doing right now?
Amanda (12:00):
I'm asking no.
I'm asking yes, I am, I am, Iam.
What's your sample size?
Bring it Huh.
What's your sample size?
No, we're not doing this, allright.
Josh (12:10):
Sample size of one, no of two, because Chicken Tom, the
Afflements and Chicken Tom like,it seems to me that he gets,
he's a very and he pursues ituntil he does it and I know that
I do that with like art andmusic and all this and that.
So I would say there is nodifference and actually these
days if you're gonna pursuesomething outside of work that
(12:32):
is not your family orrelationships, it had better be
an obsession, because ain't noone got time for just like
little hobbies.
Amanda (12:40):
I think that what you're speaking about is not so much
obsession but hyper fixation.
Josh (12:46):
Isn't that obsession?
Amanda (12:47):
Yeah, but it's.
Hyper fixation, though is morea manifestation of
neurodivergent, which anxiety isabsolutely one of those things
we tend to in this house.
Because we are all high anxietypeople, we tend to hyper fixate
.
I notice it more in the kids.
(13:07):
They'll get super intosomething, but it is a means of
kind of focusing on somethingthat you can have control over.
I was a little bit curious so Ilooked up.
So hyperfixation depends oncontext.
So they're similar, like anintense focus on something, but
they have distinct differencesbetween hyperfixation and
(13:29):
obsession.
So hyperfixation is commonlyassociated with neurodivergent
conditions such as ADHD, anxiety, autism, typically tied to
special interests or tasks.
It's usually temporary and canshift when the person's interest
wanes or external factorschange.
The person might feel deeplyengrossed, often losing track of
time.
But the focus is notnecessarily distressing.
(13:50):
It comes with excitement ordeep engagement, even if it can
lead to exhaustion.
It can be productive, like deepdiving in a hobby, but may
cause neglect of otherresponsibilities or needs, right
?
So that's hyper fixating onsomething.
The eight-year-old gets hyperfixated on one game and then
(14:11):
just exhausts himself onlearning all the characters,
learning all the lore, or getsthat way about space, like hyper
fixates on something.
But a session is linked oftento like OCD, where it's
typically paired with intrusivethoughts.
So when I'm seeing this, it canbe long lasting and persistent.
It feels intrusive andinvoluntary, like you've got a
strong compulsion over it.
It's accompanied by distress,discomfort or fear, and so I'm
(14:35):
asking, like If I'm really intoa hobby, this is telling me the
research that I've done is thatcan be passion or it can be
hyper fixation Passion if it'slong term, hyper fixation if
it's short lived.
But obsession is something thatcauses you to, it impacts the
rest of your of your life and itbrings negative things, not
(14:57):
necessarily positive things.
So, that's the differencebetween a hobby and an obsession
.
Josh (15:02):
Wow things.
Amanda (15:06):
So that's the difference between a hobby and an
obsession.
Wow, look, don't come at mewith like research-based
questions and think that I'm notgoing to go into it, because
this is what I do for an actualliving.
Josh (15:12):
Okay.
Amanda (15:13):
Are you regretting asking this question?
Listener.
Josh (15:16):
No, they are.
Yeah, okay, here's the nextquestion.
Let's see how research-basedyou can get.
Dear Josh and Amanda, who wouldyou say is the new Tiger King?
Amanda (15:24):
Oh God, I remember when they tried to do the thing with
like the circus guy or the likemagician or something.
They tried to do another TigerKing series, but it was based on
like the King of the Carnivalor something.
I didn't watch it though.
Josh (15:41):
No.
So let's think about though,like Tiger King, right.
So big personality, big ego,reality show vibes happening
legal trouble.
Amanda (15:54):
I see where we're going Saying really inane, stupid
things Saying dumb things kindof like being a cult leader with
merchandise.
Josh (16:02):
Absolute egomaniac, messy and magnetic yeah so who do you
think, dear listeners, we willelect, as you know season two of
the tiger king, the americannightmare.
Yes, whereas joe exotic is in acage, we have the new guy
trying to stay out of a cage so.
Amanda (16:20):
So there you go, there's you go.
There's my answer to thatquestion.
Therefore, let me run thecountry.
Last question here.
Josh (16:27):
What is the point, Josh and Amanda, in saying you're
welcome?
It seems kind of unnecessary.
Amanda (16:34):
I don't know.
I mean, I could look into theetymology of it if you want me
to.
Please don't my God.
But I mean, it's just, it's apolite thing to say.
I don't know.
I have a work colleague thatabsolutely refuses to say bless
you when someone sneezes.
Right you didn't do anything.
You sneeze Like there's noreason for me to bless you.
It's not like you accomplishedsomething.
You're not dying Like.
(16:54):
There's no reason for you to beblessed.
Josh (16:55):
Right, like, just refuses to say it.
You might be dying after thepandemic.
Amanda (16:59):
I know on principle, but you're welcome is just, it's
just a thing of politeness, Idon't know, just do it to be
kind.
Josh (17:07):
Well, here's the thing, though that did get me thinking,
like even the term you'rewelcome, like it is accepted now
as the way to communicate aftersomeone says thank you which,
by the way, I think that whensomeone says thank you, that's
the end of the transaction,right, but you are welcome,
literally means that that we arehappy to see you here in this
(17:27):
place, or you're welcome, likewe are inviting you into the
space but think about that incontext of oh, thank you very
much for buying that thing forme.
Amanda (17:35):
Oh, I'm happy you're here no, I'm, I'm, I'm happy
that you were in a space where Igave you something that makes
you happy that's too much mentalgymnastics.
That's why we say you'rewelcome.
Josh (17:46):
Well, my brain doesn't like that.
What are some alternatives to?
You're welcome Because they areout there Like my pleasure,
right.
Amanda (17:53):
Oh God, but that's only for people who work at
Chick-fil-A, and I can alwaystell when someone in the service
industry has worked atChick-fil-A previously.
When I say thank you and theysay my pleasure, I'm like, oh,
you worked at Chick-fil-A.
Well, you realize thatChick-fil-A didn't invent that,
and like plenty of people out inthe world, Mandated though they
have to say it.
Josh (18:12):
Here's my problem with my pleasure it's just creepy Again
if it's like oh, you know,thanks for holding that door for
me.
Oh, it gave me such pleasure todo that for you it's because
you think in a sexual way.
No, I don't think in a sexualway, it just it just sounds like
creepy my pleasure, like don'tbring pleasure into this.
It's not appropriate.
Leave that alone.
How about?
like no problem I say no problem, or I said no worries to me no
(18:37):
problem, and I've said it before, but I always kind of bump on
it after the fact it's a lie,because you did have to expend
effort like that, or it's true,and what you're saying to them
is like okay, well, you might bethankful for that, but it meant
nothing to me no, that's god.
Amanda (18:53):
You're being so literal, it's not.
That's not what it means.
It means like not that it meantnothing to me, because that
would be.
You know, I didn't even thinkabout it no problem me?
No problem means like it didn'tcause me any like expenditure
to do this for you, but does itmean that you weren't happy to
do it for them?
Josh (19:11):
don't you ever look at a phrase that we take for granted?
And you stop and you thinkabout it and you think, well,
how did that ever become to meanwhat it means now?
yeah like, for example, pardonme, right to.
That seems like a little bitpushy and presumptive, like I'm
going to make you pardon me.
And can your answer be well, no, I don't think that I will.
(19:31):
Or like when you give someonesomething and you say enjoy,
well, why are you imposing thaton me now?
Now I feel the stress and thepressure of like now I have to
enjoy this thing.
Can I not just, like, patiently, endure it?
Can I not just tolerate it?
Do I have to enjoy it?
Why are you doing this to me?
Amanda (19:51):
Why are you doing this to me?
Maybe they're just suggestingthat you could enjoy it.
Maybe they're not telling youhave to enjoy it.
Also, what you're doing rightnow hyper fixation.
You are hyper, fixating on themeanings of these things.
Josh (20:04):
What if?
Hyper fixating on the meaningsof?
Amanda (20:05):
these things.
What if someone says to you oh,you know, help yourself.
Yeah, so then you help yourself?
Josh (20:07):
right, because what are they saying, though?
Like because I'm sure as shitnot helping you, unless, of
course, it's no problem, then itwon't be anything for me to
help you.
Amanda (20:13):
I don't want to make assumptions about what it is
that you want and or need, sohelp yourself to it these are
you are coming from such adeficit-based mindset and I am
coming from a positive mindset,a strength-based mindset.
That's basically the languageversion of saying the glass is
either half full or half empty.
Josh (20:32):
I'm just in favor of clear communication.
Especially, think about beingsomeone who's learning English
for the first time and they comeacross all these phrases where,
again, on the face of them,they make no sense.
The thing about communicationis is that you look for context
and understanding, so that youcan be a little lazy about it,
you know yeah, I meancolloquialism is something that
we have to be intentional toteach english learners.
Amanda (20:55):
That is a thing yes but you know, as somebody who grew
up around spanish-speakingcommunities, that there are a
lot of phrases in sp Spanishthat I don't get the straight
English translation to.
Josh (21:04):
So it's not just an English thing?
Oh no, it's not.
It's not, but I can only speaktowards the English things.
Amanda (21:08):
Yeah, but did I tell you how I was in Mexico once and I
thought that I was saying excuseme, which would be pardon me
right?
Josh (21:16):
Pardon me.
Amanda (21:16):
Pardon me and anyway.
I was walking through the cityin Mexico yelling escuche me
because I had listened to me,confused with pardon me.
And I was yelling at all of thepeople on the streets in this
Mexican city to listen to me.
So, like when I bump intopeople, I'd say like excuse me,
excuse me, excuse me is what Ithought I was saying Instead.
Josh (21:33):
I'm going listen to me, listen to me, listen to me.
Amanda (21:36):
Anyway.
Josh (21:38):
Oh good, oh good story.
I like that.
Yeah, my pleasure.
If you have a question or astatement or an anecdote or any
of the things that you want tosend to us, familiarwilsons at
gmailcom.
And now it's time for FessHoles.
(21:58):
Fess Holes is an account that Ifollow social media and it's
basically anonymous confessionsand I get a kick out of reading
them, but also the comments too.
So you ready for this?
Amanda (22:07):
Yes.
Josh (22:08):
Here's one.
In the mid-'90s, when mymarriage collapsed, I ended up
living with my dad andstepmother.
Whilst in the bath, I grabbedthe flannel that was there and
used it to wash my face.
It dawned on me, after she toldme not to use it, that it was
her fanny flannel.
Oh no, still haunts me at age65.
Oh God, oh.
Amanda (22:31):
God, I have a very similar story.
Josh (22:36):
By way of definition, flannel is like a washcloth and
fanny, in the UK, is the frontversion of the female anatomy.
So go ahead.
What is your story?
That you used someone's fannyflannel?
Amanda (22:43):
So in the 90s again, I did not use anybody's fanny
flannel.
I was dating this guy and hisparents.
They were still doing all ofthe construction in South
Florida for Hurricane Andrewright.
Josh (22:55):
Yep.
Amanda (22:55):
So his dad was an engineer, so his parents had
moved down to the homestead areaand he was living with his
older brother, and so there werea lot of things boxed up and
his mom had brought him a boxfor somebody from work and said
so-and-so's computer needsfixing, can you fix it?
So he started to pull thecomputer out of the box, instead
pulled out a black lace thongthat had a whistle hanging where
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the fanny part would be, and heput it in his mouth and blew it
.
It and I watched her eyes getgiant because turns out it was
his mom's.
She pulled me aside later andtold me that it was hers.
Why she needed to tell me Ididn't know.
So I had to break it to himthat the whistle that dangled
between his mother's legs hadbeen in his mouth why would
(23:37):
there be a whistle there?
Josh (23:38):
I don't know you're not having to call someone home to
dinner when they're right there,or like like for a time out.
Amanda (23:42):
I don't know.
You're not having to callsomeone home to dinner when
they're right there or like fora time out.
I don't know.
Josh (23:46):
This commenter said about that.
My mother-in-law used a sheetof toilet paper as a fanny mop.
Amanda (23:50):
After being fanny mop, I mean, isn't toilet paper?
Just isn't that what you'resupposed to do to wipe yourself?
Josh (23:57):
That's not the end of it.
Amanda (23:59):
Okay, go ahead.
Josh (24:00):
Being Scottish, she dried them on the side of the bath for
reuse later.
Amanda (24:04):
No, that can't smell good.
Josh (24:07):
Reminiscing.
After she died, mysister-in-law realized she'd be
using them to blow her nose.
Amanda (24:10):
Why are we having to reuse the toilet paper?
Josh (24:13):
I'm not getting into that here.
I don't want to be canceled bya bunch of mine.
Used my mother's fanny flannelto clean her teeth.
Amanda (24:23):
Her teeth.
Josh (24:24):
Yes.
Amanda (24:24):
Why are we flanneling our teeth?
Josh (24:25):
Well, you know just like.
You know, just like.
Amanda (24:28):
Polishing them.
Yeah, yeah.
Josh (24:30):
On a similar note, this warning sign in one of my most
popular bathroom art prints saysthis there's no guarantee that
that's not my ass towel.
Amanda (24:38):
Okay, well, thank you for letting us all know.
Josh (24:42):
Doctor says this is a new confession here.
Doctor says I need to do moreexercise, but I'm terrified of
having a heart attack in themiddle of nowhere and not being
found until I'm dead.
So I walk the corridors of mylocal large hospital knowing
that I'd be treated in secondsif I collapse.
Amanda (24:56):
That's smart People think that I work there.
That's smart, though Iappreciate that.
Or, like, just go to thegrocery store and walk up and
down, so somebody there's got tobe an aed defibrillator thing
there yeah, no, the hospital isa pretty great, it's really
smart.
Josh (25:11):
But like it says, people think that I work there, so I
guess this person does it everyday.
Go get yourself a stethoscopeand go get yourself a clipboard
and just have fun with it.
Someone in the comment says Igave my two-year-old daughter a
bite of Snickers whilst waitingin A&E to confirm whether or not
she had a peanut allergy.
Amanda (25:28):
Oh God, that is dangerous.
Josh (25:30):
Yeah Well, you're right there though.
Amanda (25:32):
But as parents of a child with severe nut allergies,
that's dangerous.
Josh (25:38):
And then the last comment that's really no way to live.
Amanda (25:44):
I support it.
You're getting the exercise andyou're keeping yourself safe.
Josh (25:47):
Last one here that I picked out was this Our chopping
board has seen better days, soI bought a like for like,
replacement, same style, color,etc.
My wife is cross because Ididn't discuss it with her first
.
Am I missing something here?
Amanda (26:02):
Is there some sort of sentimental value to this
cutting board for her, like hergrandfather made it before he
passed away?
Josh (26:09):
Maybe I don't know.
Amanda (26:10):
I mean other than a sentimental thing, or you don't
have the money to spend.
I don't know why she's cross.
Josh (26:16):
Some of the comments here.
She had planned on an upgradeto a better, stronger, faster
chopping board and you ruinedthat.
Am I missing something here?
They answered yes, becauseyou're still discussing it with
the internet instead of yourwife.
Someone else said she was likehang on, it's been 15 years.
Maybe chopping board technologyhas advanced since then.
Someone else says you've made adecision way above your pay
(26:36):
grade.
Now you have to let her have afree choice in your next car.
Maybe she thought the old onewas seasoned like a cast iron
frying pan Gross.
Amanda (26:46):
Yeah, no, we don't want to season wood Like that's not
so good.
Josh (26:49):
And then the last person says she's cheating on you with
the old cutting board.
It's the only explanation.
Maybe it was her fanny flannelcutting board oh yesterday,
(27:15):
winthrop was telling me aboutthese friends that he has at
camp and I've already resignedmyself to the fact that names
that people are coming up withfor kids today are different
than what I expect.
Right, yes, so he was describinghis friends Finn, briar and
Lennon.
And again, I'm not judgingthose names, but I do have a
(27:36):
question how do we think thatLennon's parents spelled
Lennon's name?
Amanda (27:40):
Do we think it's L Like John?
Josh (27:42):
L-E-N-N-O-N.
Amanda (27:43):
Yeah, no.
Josh (27:46):
Because it could be.
Amanda (27:47):
It could, but that's dumb.
Josh (27:48):
It would tell us a lot about the parents and whether we
want our kid to go on a playdate over there or not?
Amanda (27:53):
Did Winthrop know no?
Josh (27:55):
no, and I'm not going to ask him because then whatever.
But I think it's important thatif Lennon's parents ever say,
would you like to have a playdate, we need to find out how
it's spelled, because eitherthey're going over on the play
date and they are, you know,doing tie dye and doing
interpretive dance to the songImagine, or they're going over
(28:15):
on a play date and they aredividing all the food equally
amongst all the children andthen plotting a revolution.
Yeah, and I just want to knowwhat to expect.
Amanda (28:22):
What to expect, Right?
Well, I mean parents text thesedays, so I'll be able to tell
immediately and we can say yesor no.
Well, I'm not even saying thatwe say no to anything.
We just know what our child'sgonna be exposed to.
Josh (28:33):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, just so we can be prepared.
Well, how?
Amanda (28:35):
do you think that the people take the fact that we've
named our child Winthrop?
When we text and say Winthrop'scoming for a play date, are
they expecting like somearistocrat, like snooty person?
Josh (28:46):
What's happening here?
Amanda (28:47):
I know that's not really his name.
Josh (28:51):
Something really strange has happened.
Either I jumped into like analternate timeline or you've
forgotten what our child's realname is?
Amanda (28:58):
I don't know.
I'm confused because the doghas just jumped straight up in
my lap and is just standing onme.
He has now declared that it istime to end the podcast.
Josh (29:07):
All right.
Well, let's very quickly moveinto.
No one likes to be told what todo.
Now is the time in the podcastwhere we tell you what to do,
Amanda.
What should we do?
Amanda (29:16):
If you are looking for some heartwarming content
creation, you can head over toInstagram or what's that other
one, tiktok and follow IsabelKlee, who's the content creator,
but her account is Simon Sitzand she is a pretty well known
dog foster in the Brooklyn, newYork City area and she has just
(29:38):
become incredibly viral withthis really just broken dog,
tiki, that she fostered andafter 44 days he found a really
good home.
Now those foster parents arecontinuing his journey, so it's
just really heartwarming.
But she has a new dog.
His name is Cheesecake and hewas left tied to a fence to
(29:59):
starve to death.
It's really tragic, but she hashim and now we're following
Cheesecake's journey.
So, as all the comments say,season two is here y'all, so
head on over and watch.
She is amazing and she has amagical touch with these animals
, and a lot of people got soattached to tiki that they were
really upset with her for notadopting him and and and
(30:21):
fostering him out.
I mean fostering and thenadopting him out, and he had
over 500 applications.
They were very specific aboutwho he went to, but her point
was I can continue to save lotsof dogs if we just continue to
foster.
And now people are coming backto the comments and saying I'm
sorry, I was wrong, and so it'snice to see people admitting in
(30:44):
a comment which they don'ttypically do that they were
misinformed and so head on overand check out Simon Sitz.
Josh (30:52):
I guess my recommendation was don't be that person who
comments without knowing thefull story.
Amanda (30:56):
Yeah.
Josh (30:57):
I was reading a thing on the local subreddit, our town
subreddit, and someone hadwritten a really thoughtful post
and it went on for a while butI thought it was good.
And it went on for a while, butI thought it was good and it
was heartfelt and it was.
It was interesting for thosewho would find it interesting.
Why do people feel the need toexpress that they don't like
(31:19):
something or that they thoughtthe dumbest comment that I read
was oh, this is too long, I'mnot going to read it.
Well, don't freaking read it.
Why do I have to know?
Talk about having maincharacter energy, right?
Why do you feel the need to popinto this very thoughtful
thread and if somehow you're notable to sustain the attention
span to read the whole damnthing, you need to comment on it
?
Amanda (31:38):
No.
Josh (31:39):
Just walk away.
That's like going into thelibrary and writing on the inner
page of every book.
I don't like this book Too long, didn't read.
Amanda (31:50):
No one invited you to read it like that is your own
free will.
The other thing that I can'tstand is don't be the person who
comments on something.
If you don't read the articlethat's attached or you know,
because people are, will drop inand make comments based on the
headline.
And then there's other commentslike clearly you didn't
actually engage with thiscontent not at all.
So just please don don't.
Just when in doubt, don't, justdon't.
Josh (32:12):
I think that that's not even genetically possible
anymore, but it's certainly ouradvice.
All right, amanda, that's allthere is and there is no more.
And I just got a text, as we'rereporting, from a number that I
do not recognize, that says whydidn't you tell me I left Miami
(32:33):
?
Amanda (32:34):
What?
Who left Miami and didn't knowit and then also text you with
an unknown number.
Josh (32:43):
I am not texting them back .
Amanda (32:45):
Is it a Miami area?
Josh (32:46):
code it is not.
It is not.
Amanda (32:48):
Because they are no longer in Miami.
No, they're not.
Josh (32:51):
They are no longer in Miami.
No, they're not, they are nolonger in Miami.
So anyway, what do you think ofthat whole mess?
Amanda (32:56):
I think you should comment back.
Too long didn't read.
Very good, Very good.
Josh (33:00):
All right.
So we are now at the time wherewe need to thank the people we
need to thank.
So this episode of SuperFamiliar with the Wilson is
brought to you by the cupboardof eternal clatter Antonio for
the chip in the good china.
Josh Scar for stirring the potagain.
Daniel J Buckets for themismatched lids initiative.
Chicken Tom for theunauthorized use of the
(33:21):
immersion blender.
Monique from Germany for theceramic mug diplomacy treaty.
Joey, joey.
Leo for the whispered rumorsabout the teacups, for Fine Gay.
Jeff for the saucer swirl ofsophistication.
Mark and Rachel for theselective memory of who broke
the French press.
And Daniel and Gavin for thelies we tell ourselves about the
non-stick pants your brain isan interesting place to be yes,
(33:47):
yes.
well, there you go.
What can I say about that?
My brain is a mismatchedcupboard of coffee mugs.
So until next week, folks, justgo through life.
Don't try to be the maincharacter it's not necessary and
just try to be nice to everyonearound you so that they're like
, oh, being around that persondidn't suck.
Amanda (34:08):
And be kind.
Josh (34:10):
Bye.
Amanda (34:10):
Bye, thank you.
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