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June 3, 2025 50 mins

In this episode of SuperPsyched, Dr. Adam Dorsay interviews Dr. James Cordova, a distinguished professor of psychology and author of 'The Mindful Path to Intimacy'. They discuss the true meaning and importance of intimacy beyond just eroticism, exploring how intimacy is rooted in vulnerability met with warmth. They delve into how couples can navigate this delicate aspect of relationships through mindful practices, communication, and emotional vulnerability. Dr. Cordova also touches on the 'porcupine's dilemma' and how intimacy can be built and maintained through mutual understanding and compassion. Listen in for insightful tips on fostering deeper connections and keeping the fire alive in long-term relationships.

00:00 Welcome to SuperPsyched

00:28 Understanding Intimacy

00:51 Introducing Dr. James Cordova

00:45 Defining Intimacy

04:47 Intimacy vs. Eroticism

06:59 The Role of Vulnerability

16:16 The Porcupine's Dilemma

20:29 Relationship Health Checkups

23:40 Questions for Couples

24:49 John Gottman's Contributions

25:09 The Golden Ratio in Relationships

25:47 The Golden and Gray Balls Metaphor

28:20 The Porcupine's Dilemma

31:43 The Importance of Gratitude

34:12 Navigating Intimacy and Vulnerability

38:51 Improving Your Sex Life

44:31 The Practice of Savoring

46:42 Final Thoughts and Resources

Helpful Links:"

The Mindful Path to Intimacy: Cultivating a Deeper Connection with Your Partner” Book

Dr. James Cordova Facebook

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