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The thirteenth Amendment to the United StatesConstitution abolished slavery and involuntary servitude exempt as
a punishment for a crime. Everwondered how we ended up with the largest
prison population of any country. Haveyou noticed that those whose jobs it is
to protect and serve seem to bedemanding more and more blind obedient. You
didn't think it just happened by chance, did you. It's time to call
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attention to the fact our government asthe most prolific slave owner on the planet.
This is surviving the system. Thankyou for joining me today on surviving
the system. This is Dance Dave, and boy, it's been a minute.
It feels like forever. There hasbeen so much that has just gone
down in the last couple of weeks. But it's only been a couple of
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weeks since since I've been here withyou, so you know, there's just
a lot rattling around in my head. But what I really want to talk
about today is revisiting the education system. And I talked a little bit about
that previously when I brought on myguest Cameron Cope, the creator and founder
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of Techno Tutor, and talked alittle bit about it. Just huh.
Peripherally with some guests who have comeon and talking about their struggles with getting
an education, especially when you're talkingabout being inside the system and trying to
get that education. But you know, I this year in particular, I've
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really noticed a lot of parallels betweenthe school system and the legal the prisons
system. You know, you hearall the time, the people behind the
scenes, the quote unquote fay.They can't come up with anything new.
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They run the same scripts. Sowhen you when you learn how they operate,
and when you learn how to recognizesome of those signals and just some
of the I guess, just thepolicies and procedures and just the way that
they run things, they just duplicatedeverywhere. So I'm going to talk a
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little bit about that and my gutfeeling on why we're experiencing so much trouble
right now with the education system withtheir kids. You know, there seems
to be a lot of kids,first of all, just exiting the system.
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Their parents are choosing to homeschool themnow that they realize it's it's not
that bad. There's just a lotof kids that fight, they fight again,
they fight against the system constantly,the education system, and it's like
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the system can't figure out what whatto do with them and how to get
them to comply, how to getthem to conform, so it just tries
to beat them into submission mentally,emotionally, in some cases physically. So
we'll talk a little bit about that, just my view of it, kind
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of what I'm experiencing. You probablywill relate with this, you know,
if this is something that you ifthis is something that you're seeing as well,
or maybe if you're experiencing something alongthe same lines. Don't forget you
can you can't call in. Thelines are open one eight hundred and five
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started, always want to make surethat we start with this moment of gratitude.
And I'm gonna I've debated, likeI've gone back and forth because I
try not to be cheesy too much, but man, I've just got to
really say that this gratitude has beenbrought even more to my attention this last
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week. So I went and sawClerks three in the theaters the other day,
and I grew up on Clerks.I saw the original. I have
been a Kevin Smith fan since ninetyfour, I mean decades, decades,
thirty years coming up on here.I've seen everything he's done. I've seen
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the stand up specials, I've seenall the movies. I mean, I
love the guy, and Clerks tome is just an iconic, iconic.
I can quote the movie from beginningto end, just absolutely, from beginning
to end. Clerks two was abit of a letdown for me, and
that's just me personally. You know. I may go back and Rewy again
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and see if my viewpoint has changednow. But Clerks three is it's something
else, man, It's I shortof masterpiece. I don't have words to
describe exactly what it does, andyou can tell that it is Kevin Smith's
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attempt at trying to get across topeople how grateful he is to have the
second chance that he does, becauseif you don't, if you don't know
who this gentleman is, if youknow nothing about his story, he's a
very famous filmmaker, made an indiefilm back in ninety four for like twenty
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five thousand dollars that hit huge,and the man has just been a force
to be reckoned with since then.But he's never lost roots with who He
is very down to earth and hada heart attack a few years ago called
The Widowmaker is what they call itbecause it tends to make widows. You
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don't realize that you're having the heartattack. That's that's why it's so deadly.
And yeah, he almost died.Didn't realize how close he was to
death until he went into the hospital, and it completely changed his entire paradigm
of life. And this movie communicatesthat in such a way that it's it's
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inescapable, it's inescapable. So thisis this is my short film review for
Clerks three, and this is alsomy stamp of approval. I if you
haven't watched any of the other Clerksmovies, you have to see them first
before you go see three. Ifyou've seen him before and you've been debating,
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or if you didn't even know itwas out, go see it.
Go see it. It'll change yourlife. And with that said, I
just want to say that I amso happy and grateful to be here with
you, allowing me to live outmy purpose to remind you of who you
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really are. So if you've ifyou've never listened before, or even if
you have and maybe just don't remember, I'll cover it anyway. I have
a daughter, I've got a fewkids, but my oldest is a senior
in high school right now, andyou know, I've talked about this on
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the show before. She's she's hadsome struggles the last couple of years,
which nothing we couldn't handle. Imean, it was challenging, it was
difficult. It wasn't a walk inthe park when I know other people have
much more difficult situations. And she'sback on track and she's said to graduate
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early and things are looking good.She has an idea of what she wants
to do with her life, whichis phenomenal because shoot, I didn't know
I had some ideas, but Ididn't. I didn't have that deep down
dry of telling me this you have, this is what you're supposed to do.
You have to do this, andshe had that that aha moment.
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But what I've what I've really noticedis the kids that she's in school with.
I hear about them getting in troublea lot, and to me,
it's like stupid stuff. And Idon't mean this in any way as a
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as a knock against the kids.To me, it's like I'm looking at
the school system going, really,why are you clamping down so hard on
these kids? I mean, areyou are you trying to push them away.
I know. I remember one timemy son, this is many years
ago. I think he was inon the third fourth grade something like that,
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got in trouble. We got anemail from the teacher, and of
course they have to address these situationsand they have to take them seriously,
but at the same time, it'slike, man, this just common sense
just gone out the window. Myson was outside arguing with his friends,
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play arguing as guys do, andthey were just joking around and talking about
I don't even remember the specifics,but you know, stuff like, oh,
kick your ass, No, I'llkick your ass, and my son
goes, I'll rip your nipple off, and the teacher overheard it, and
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that's that's what he got in troublefor. That's that's legitimately what he got
in trouble for, because the teacherhad to address that as my son literally
threatening to physically rip off this otherkids nipple. And needless to say,
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my son didn't get in trouble forme about that. I laughed. I
laughed hysterically, and I just lookedat him and I was like, just
just know your audience, man,Like, I know you didn't mean anything
by it, but there's a timeand place for that stuff, and you
know, school around the teachers isprobably not it. And he's like,
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yeah, I know, but youknow, why did I have to do
that? Why did I have toall of a sudden now coach him to
be a different person than who hereally is. Why did I have to
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essentially tell him to stifle that partof himself. Now, granted he's young,
he's immature. We all make mistakesgrowing up. It's it's how we
learn. Failure is feedback, butthere's a there's a way that you can
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help to teach that feedback to youngpeople. And I know this now in
life looking back, and I domy best. You know, it's really
it's really about guiding them to understandwhat's the lesson to learn here? What
can you take from this? Evenin the times where they mess up.
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There's no good to yell and screamat him and make him feel two is
tall. You know, all you'redoing is being a bully at that point.
And I'm not saying that I don'tlose my temper from time to time
with my kids, because I do. I'm human. It happens, but
I learned from it, and Itry to do better the next time.
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But why why is that a toppriority with all of the issues that we
have in our education system, allof the issues that we have all the
way from declining public school enrollment asI talked about earlier, with people essentially
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fleeing the public school system to dosomething different, charter schools, private schools,
most of its homeschooling. Homeschooling applicationsare through the roof, absolutely through
the roof. They do not havethe capacity to handle all of the homeschool
applications just in my state here inNebraska, but I know throughout the country
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dropout rates in certain parts of thecountries and in certain demographics are I mean,
just obscene. If you haven't everheard of something called the school to
prison pipeline, I recommend that youstart to do some research on this.
So the school to prison pipeline isbasically it's basically a theory that states that
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there's a pipeline that starts in schooland ends in prison, and that these
people are being pushed towards prison.They're not being steered away away from it
through the public school system. They'reactually being prepared for it. So they're
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going to school to learn how togo to prison, and just some of
the statistics are just through the roof. Through the roof there, it's broken
into demographics, and this is primarilysomething that is prevalent with the black population,
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the African American population. Forty percentof students expelled from schools each year
are black. Seventy percent of studentsthat are involved in the quote unquote in
school arrests are black or Latino.Sixty eight percent of all males in state
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and federal prison do not have ahigh school diploma. And then if you
look at even things like the fostercare system, fifty percent of children in
the foster care system are black orLatino. Of the foster care youth entering
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the juvenile justice system have been placedon some type of related behavioral cases.
Twenty five percent of these people leavingfoster care when they age out will be
incarcerated within just a few years afterturning eighteen. Fifty percent of young people
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leaving foster care aging out of thefoster care system will be unemployed within just
a few years of turning eighteen.Seventy percent of the inmates in California or
California State prison system, our formerfoster care youth. So this is a
school to prison pipeline. This isan introduction to the school to prison pipeline.
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This is a very deep subject,so there's a lot more demographics to
go into it. This is justsomething to kind of wet your whistle,
just to get you an idea ofhow much data is out there to back
up these things, to be ableto say, what the hell is wrong
with our public school system? Whyis it that it seems like the public
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school system seems to be preparing peopleto go to prison? And then I
noticed, like I said, thisyear, with my daughter and the kids
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that she is around, and they'regood kids, Like I have no issues
with the kids themselves at all.They would they would be your traditional I
mean, I guess what you wouldcall troubled youth. The rebels. They
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just don't they don't like authority figures. And I got to thinking about it,
and the more that I thought aboutit, I really thought, you
know, maybe they're right. Whatif and just follow me on this hypothesis.
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I just want you, I wantyou to follow along with me here
and let's just imagine a world.Let's just imagine a world where the kids
that we would consider to be troubledor problem children constantly in trouble at school,
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getting the police called, getting suspended, getting police taken away, maybe
being held back a grade. Whatif they're not the problem? What if
what if they are already as sucha young age, what if they are
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already so advanced spiritually, intuitively,call it whatever you want, that they
just know something's wrong. They justhaven't been taught healthy coping mechanisms or proactive
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communication styles to be able to sayhe's something about this is wrong. Want
you to want you to think backto elementary school, to start, even
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at kindergarten. I remember being inkindergarten and it was pretty simple stuff,
you know, really, it wasjust about getting you used to being in
school. I mean, shoot,we even did nap time. I would
I would love to have a naptime again throughout the day, throughout the
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day, you know. And sidenote, I was just reading earlier today
about productivity in other countries like Japan, and they actually employers are considered honorable
for offering their employees the opportunity tonap throughout the day. I don't know
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why we seem to have lost thathere in this country. But man,
nap naptime. I will go outon a limb and state that I think
naptime would probably solve a lot ofa lot of issues that we have in
this country. Just right off thebat. But even in kindergarten, you
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had maybe that one kid who justgot under the teachers get wouldn't listen too
much to handle, bouncing off thewalls, just being an overactive kid with
a ton of energy. Now yourteacher being someone who has gone through this
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school system from beginning to end andhas bought into the school system to the
point that they're saying, yes,I want to teach other children this experience
as well. This person. Theydon't know what to do with this kid.
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You know, they might send themto the principle, or they may
give them detention, or they mightmake him. I remember having to write
sentences. I remember having to writea hundred sentences. There was something.
It was always something stupid, youknow, if I got caught like talking
in class, had to write ahundred times I will not talk in class.
Well, I really learned my lessonthere. And then it escalates a
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little bit, and then the teachertalks to the parents and we're going to
assume. We're going to assume thatthis child has average parents, Okay,
and I know everything is subjective,everything is relative. So average parents,
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we're just going to say, youknow, middle class, maybe middle upper
class, working nine to five jobs, decent neighborhood, not upscale, not
not to low end. You know, maybe their parents are you know,
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maybe their parents aren't feeling good,and maybe they're on some pills for cholesterol
or maybe some heart medicine, oryou know, maybe something for depression,
which is pretty typical of America atthis point. And so your teacher talks
to the parents and says, youknow, I'm really just having a lot
of trouble with Johnny here. Hewon't listen, I can't get him to
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sit still. Something's wrong with him. Maybe you should have him checked out.
I think he has attention deficit disorder. And so these parents, being
good parents, want to make surethat there's nothing wrong with their kid,
so they take him to get checkedout. They go to the doctor,
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and you know what, sure enough, Oh, absolutely ADHD is super common.
Here's some pills. Give him toyour kid, and he'll calm down.
Now, in the average case,Johnny goes back to school, the
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pills start to kick in, andJohnny calms down physically, physically, he
kind of just goes into a shell, because, let's be real, that's
what those pills do. They theydon't regulate anything. They turn these kids
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into a zombie. Being active.Why aren't we Why aren't we directing that
energy? And if this kid's active, you know what, maybe he should
be doing something with his hands,Maybe he should be doing something that's gonna
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wear him out, wear out thatenergy. Not here's sit down at this
table. Here's a crayon, here'sa piece of paper. Color inside the
lines. Johnny doesn't want to colorinside the lines. Johnny wants to do
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something, but that's not what theschool system wants him to do. Johnny
needs to learn how to sit downand listen when he's told to do something.
Now, what if let's let's justtake another what if. What if
you've got another person in class.We'll call her Sally. Sally doesn't have
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the problems that Johnny does. Shegets good grades, she follows the rules,
she makes her parents proud, herteacher's love her. And then you
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get up a few grades and allof a sudden, she seems to have
lost interest in school, and maybeher grades start to slack a little bit,
maybe she goes from an A studentto a B and C student,
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starts to withdraw a little bit whenshe's at home. And I'm not talking
puberty, you know, that's prettytypical. I'm just talking. You can
tell something's off. And when herparents talk to her about it, it's
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again, we're going to talk averagetypical parents here. And they talk to
her about it, they want tohelp. Hey, what's wrong? Why
are you doing well in school?You know you need to finish school to
get an education so that you cansucceed in this world. You have to
get a job. You've got togo to college so you can get a
job. Don't You don't want tomess things up this early in life.
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You're still so young. But somethinginside of Sally says bullshit. Something inside
of her says, this isn't thisisn't right. Something about this just doesn't
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feel right. I'm not feeling fulfilled. I'm bored. I don't like this.
This is stupid. But all herparents tell her is you have to
do get in school. No,you have to what are you talking about?
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You have to go to school there'sno other options. You have to
go to school. You have togo to school because you have to go
to college. You have to goto college because you have to get a
job. How do you expect tolive? How do you expect to survive?
And being a kid, you youlisten to your parents, and maybe
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Sally goes, Okay, yeah,I don't want to ruin my life,
and maybe she refocuses herself and sherededicates herself and things go good again.
And then then puberty hits, andthen high school hits, and these kids
start to experience that that just thatbeginning taste of independence, just that beginning
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taste of a little less structure thanyou had previously. And man, they
go they go nuts. They loveI remember it like I loved it.
Holy crap. And I got mywhen I got my first car, I
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was never at home after that,be like bye, I'm out, we'll
see if bye, where are yougoing? I don't know what's going out?
See you later. I'll be homelater. And that was gone.
That was it. Yeah, Iwasn't a problem child, so my parents
didn't have to worry about me.I was out. I don't know,
it was over at Mark's house.I was over at Joe's house to the
we go to the lake, we'dgo to the mall. We'd just do
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typical stuff. We just go outand have fun. Yeah, but Sally
just was never able to shake thatfeeling that something's wrong, something's off,
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something about this whole thing is bullshit, And she starts to rebel at school.
She doesn't know what else to do. She just knows that she's been
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told to do this thing all herlife, and something inside of her says,
this is the wrong thing to do, so she does the exact opposite.
She goes to school and they saydo your homework. Instead of saying
okay, she says, no,why didn't you do your homework? I
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didn't want to do my homework.And then her parents come and talk to
her and they say, what areyou doing? I thought I thought things
were better. It's been so longsince you've had these problems. You have
to do good in school because youhave to go to college. You have
to go to college because you haveto get a job. You have to
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have a job to be able tosupport yourself in this world. What do
you do? You're ruining your future. We don't want you to ruin your
future? Is that what you want? And now, Sally, being a
little bit older, a little bitmore mentally developed, she's not anywhere near
close to being out of adolescent,so her brain isn't fully formed, but
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she has enough to be able tosay, yeah, that's not true,
that's bs. But she doesn't havethe skills, the critical thinking skills,
the speaking skills, the debate skillsto be able to say, no,
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I disagree with you, and hereis why I disagree with you. Here
are my main points, and hereare my counterpoints to the points that you
just made to me. She's nottaught any of that, because let's go
all the way back to kindergarten.What she has taught is follow all the
rules. Do what you're told.If your teacher tells you to do something,
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do it. If your parents tellyou to do something, do it.
You're not taught to say do youagree or do you disagree with this?
Oh? You disagree? Okay,great? Why do you disagree with
that? What is it? Hereare some ways that you can communicate that
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to me. They're not validated forthat. They're made to feel that there's
something wrong, and at some pointyou can only take that abuse for so
long before you start to fight back, and Sally had enough. Sally says,
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you know what, that's fine,and I don't want to go to
college anyway. Weren't you Dad justcomplaining about how you still have to pay
your student loans and how much moreyou have on them. You're going to
be paying them for the rest ofyour life. Isn't that what you said?
Why would you want me to dothat? Mom? Didn't you just
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tell me how much you hate yourjob? Were you just saying that the
other night when you're sitting around howmuch you hate your boss and you hate
your job. Why the hell wouldI want to do that? Why would
I want to go to college tobe in debt for the rest of my
life working at a job that Ihate. That's what you want me to
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do. But see, she's nottaught the other options, so the only
thing that she knows to do isthe exact opposite. So she just starts
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saying, screw this, I'm notdoing anything. You know I've been lately.
I have been revisiting rage against theMachine. I remember the I remember
the first time. I can rememberwhere I was, I can remember where
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I was sitting what I was doingwhen I listened to their first album for
the first time, because I've neverheard anything like that in my life up
to that point. And man,I remember listening to that album and just
being like, yeah, yes,exactly, F you, I won't do
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what you tell me. Cool,man, I just I want to start
I want to start singing that rightnow. But that's what Sally's thinking.
He's just thinking, if you who, I won't do what you tell me.
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And these are just two examples.The point here being as a whole,
we have a generation of children whocan sense, and this is my
speculation, it can sense that something'soff because their parents are products of the
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system and they're miserable. Depression isat all time highs in adults. Alcoholism
is rampant. Drug use is everywhere. We all self medicate all the time,
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and they're sneaky with how they doit too, because it doesn't have
to be something as blatant as analcohol or drug abuse system. TV movies,
do you come home from work andjust say, oh, man,
I just I don't want to doanything. I just want to I'm just
gonna sit down and I'm gonna watchmy show and I'm gonna fall asleep.
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It's such a hard day. I'vedone that, you know what, In
all honesty, every now and thenI still do that. I don't want
to anymore because I've got other thingsthat I've got to do. I've got
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too much to do. But that'sjust it. There's there's a whole world,
there's a whole life out there,but we're so afraid of it.
All we're trying to do is numbthe pain. We're trying to deal with
the bs that we just had togo through from our nine to five whatever
it may be that you do,and we come home and we medicate.
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Numb the pain. Numb it withTV, numb it with porn, numb
it with video games. I knowI'm touching man. I am talking to
myself when I say that I'm aI'm a big gamer. I'm a dude.
At that hour, that hour thatyou're sitting there in front of the
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video game could be an hour thatyou took to work on yourself to figure
out why am I so unhappy?Figure out what the root cause of that
is, release that empower yourself moveforward. We don't. It's so much
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easier to just numb it. Andour kids see this. There is data
everywhere talking about how unhealthy alcohol isfor you, talking about the struggles with
porn and sex addictions, talking aboutillegal drugs. These kids know all of
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this, they see it, andyet they see their parents, us,
you and me doing these same thingsthat they now know to be unhealthy and
destructive. And then we turn aroundand tell them, hey, this is
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how you need to live your life. You need to go to school.
He got to go to school becauseyou got to go to college. Got
to go to college because you gotto get a job. Got to get
a job because you got to paythe bills. Gosh, just how life
is. And they look at thisperson telling them this life plan and they
say, I don't I don't wantyour life. And on a deeper level,
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this is where my speculation comes in. But I'm willing to bet.
I'm willing to bet that there's studiesout there that I could probably if I
really dig into this, really diginto this, I can make some correlations.
So going back, I've talked aboutthis before, going back a few
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shows, science now is able toprove that the human body has three brains.
You've got your headbrain you've got yourheart brain and you've got your gut
brain, and your gut brain scientificallyis shown to be more active than your
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brain and your head brain. Soessentially what science is showing us, and
this is very very very layman's terms, I'm giving you the cliff notes.
Please understand that. Look it up, do some research on it. It's
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a fascinating topic, but it's whatit's proving. Science has proven that that
gut feeling or that intuition, thatfeeling in your gut, I just know
it in my gut. That's legit. It is absolutely one accurate. Your
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gut is telling you something. Yourgut is saying whoa, whoa whoa hold
up, and our kids are experiencingthese gut feelings. Now, if you
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understand how the universe works, youunderstand that the spirit world, the creator,
your spirit guides, you can callit whatever you would like to call
it. Your higher self communicates withyou, and it doesn't communicate through your
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head, and it doesn't communicate withyou through your heart. It's communicating with
you through your gut. When youget that gut feeling, if you've ever
had that, just that gut feelingwhere you meet somebody and you're like,
ah, I don't and something aboutme just it's just off. Something feels
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off with that guy. I don'tknow, man, it's just this feeling
in my stomach when I'm around them. Yeah, that's that's that's somebody again.
You can call it whatever you wouldlike, Spirit, guides, higher
self, God, somebody telling youyou need to get away from that guy.
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Or have you ever experienced something alittle bit more profound, something a
little bit more profound where you justget that immediate feeling in your gut,
like your gut tenses up and says, don't do that at and it's almost
palpable, like you can almost feelit. You can almost hear that voice
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in your head go whoa stop andyou stop whatever you're doing and you go
ooh, I gotta I gotta stopdoing that. You know. Examples and
these are very very simple examples,but you know, the example being if
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you're walking down the street and justyou get this gut feeling that says,
hey, don't don't go right,just just go straight, and you start
to go right and just man,your gut tenses up and you're like,
ah, now you know what I'mgonna go this way, and you go
straight. Thirty seconds later, caraccident over to your right. If you
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would have turned right, I couldhave been used. That is divine intervention.
That is your higher self saying,hey, hold up, don't go
that way. Danger will Robinson,I need you to go this way for
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just a minute. Please. Okay, we're good, perfect, We're back
on track. All right, We'regood. So our kids are getting these
messages sent to them on a constantbasis, a daily basis. If you
will saying you're going the wrong way. What are you doing? This is
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not what life is supposed to be. You have a purpose, you are
meant for more than this color outsidethe lines. For God's sake, Johnny,
get up and go outside, man, go do something thing you are
meant to work with your hands,Go do it. Sally, you are
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not meant to go to college.That is not your path, That is
not your path to fulfillment. Youneed to go this way. They're hiding
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these messages. And then we,in all of our wisdom, because we're
older and we know better because wedid it, we say, what's wrong
with you? There must be somethingwrong with my kid. Why are you
doing this? Because you see humanbeings are pack animals. We still have
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heard instinct. We understand that there'ssafety in numbers, and so our instinct
is to do what everybody else isdoing, because that's what's safe, that's
what's comfortable. Everybody else went toschool, everybody else went to college,
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everybody else has jobs. That's whatwe're supposed to do. And then all
of a sudden, our kids startto shake that up, and we go,
no, no, no, no, what are you doing. You
have to stay with the herd,You have to stay their safety in numbers.
You can't leave the pack. Andso we wind up with children who
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have no healthy coping skills, nohealthy communication skills. They don't know,
they don't know that they're getting thesemessages from the universe or from their higher
self telling them stop doing what you'redoing and go a different direction. And
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they're sure as hell not getting anyhelp from their parents, or from their
teachers, or from their church,or from God forbid, the media and
all the movies. Nobody's helping themto understand these messages that are coming to
them. So what are they goingto do? The simplest and easiest thing
is to just do the opposite.Of whatever you're told to do. And
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as you get older, the moreyou do that, the more that you
just rebel and do the opposite ofwhat you're told. It becomes a habit.
Remember the ages of birth to thirteenare those formative years. And man,
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if you've got a kid who istwelve thirteen years old and they're already
rebelling and they're your problem child,and maybe they're getting maybe they're getting on
the verge of being expelled from schoolbecause they just the school does not know
what to do with it. They'reconstantly in trouble. You know what I
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say to you, Your kid istrying to tell you something. That kid
is getting a message from a higherpower and he doesn't know how to interpret
it. You need to help himfigure it out. But we don't because
we don't know how. I wasalmost forty before I figured out how to
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start interpreting this stuff for myself,and I'm expecting a twelve and thirteen year
old kid to do it. It'sridiculous. What are we doing? And
then we take these same kids andafter they graduate, that's it. Out
the door you go, good luck. Don't let the door hit you.
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And what happens. These kids areused to rebelling because they know something's wrong.
They know the system's broken. Theyjust can't verbalize it. They can't
they can't communicate it to us becausethey were never taught how. So they
go out into the world and theyjust wreak havoc because all they know how
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to do is the opposite of whatthey're told to do. Go get a
job. No, I'm not gonnado that, And then you wind up
with a pipeline of students who endup rebelling and a system who knows no
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other way to deal with it thanpunishment, And into the pipeline they go,
into the jails, into the prisons. There you go. We are
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punishing our children for being more awarethat there's a problem than we are.
And the system, my opinion,they know this. They know the system
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is broken. They know the potentialthat you have and that I have.
They know that their their authority hangsby a thread, and that read is
praying because all it takes is forus one day to say no, I'm
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not I'm not gonna do that anymore. You know what, f you,
I'm not gonna do what you tellme. I won't do what you tell
me, and that's it. Theirauthority is done. They have no more
power over us, and they don'twant us to figure that out. So
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when our children are figuring that outearlier than we are than we ever did,
got to start punishing them earlier.You gotta start dropping that hammer down
because if everybody else starts to figureout that, hey, if they just
stop listening to us, we're doneand we don't have any more power here
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and the system is going to collapse. So you know what, No,
no, you take those kids andyou make them conform. You do it
one way or the other. Andyou know what, school system, if
you're not going to do it,that's fine. If you can't, you've
got eighteen years. If you can'tfigure it out, I'll take it from
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there. And then the prison systemjumps in because that's all they know how
to do. I'm going to tellyou to do something. No, I'm
not gonna do it, Okay,punishment boom. You are taught that from
kindergarten and it never stops for therest of your life. So here's what
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I say. These kids, thetroubled kids, the ones that are about
to be expelled or maybe they wereexpelled constantly in suspension. The bad kids
quote unquote, No, they getit. They just don't know what they
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get and we need to help themfigure it out. And the only way
that we can help them to figureit out is for us to figure ourselves
out first. I wouldn't I wouldn'thave even considered never, because I was
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the guy that went and did mynine to five that I hated and came
home and sat in front of theTV and sat in front of my video
games and numbed myself because I hatedmy life. I hated what I I
was doing. Now I'm not thatguy. I don't want to hate what
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I do. Know what I wantto show my kids. Hey, it's
okay if you don't want to goto college. You know what, some
of the most successful people in thisworld never went to college. Some of
them didn't even graduate high school.She don't tell anybody. It's not a
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big secret. Everybody knows it,but she don't tell anyone. That is
what I am going to teach mykids. So when my daughter comes to
me and talks about how she hatesschool, I'm gonna go I get it.
I understand. Why why do youhate school. What is it that
you hate about it? Help figureit out. And the only way that
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you can help them figure it outis when you figure it out too.
Lead by example, your children willfollow you. I hope this helps.
I hope you found value in theshow today. Don't forget to check the
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for being here with me tonight,and remember, as always, keep your
head up, don't let them getyou. It may be easy to look
at all the corruption and manipulation andthe system and feel hopeless. Here at
Surviving a System, we hold tothe belief that greatness is born in the
midst of extraordinary struggles. You werecreated with a purpose, with infinite potential,
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and many have lost sight of thatback We're here to remind you of
who you are. The best revenge, the success
The thirteenth Amendment to the United StatesConstitution abolished slavery and involuntary servitude exempt as
a punishment for a crime. Everwondered how we ended up with the largest
prison population of any country. Haveyou noticed that those whose jobs it is
to protect and serve seem to bedemanding more and more blind obedient. You
didn't think it just happened by chance, did you. It's time to call
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This is surviving the system. Thankyou for joining me today on surviving
the system. This is Dance Dave, and boy, it's been a minute.
It feels like forever. There hasbeen so much that has just gone
down in the last couple of weeks. But it's only been a couple of
(00:44):
weeks since since I've been here withyou, so you know, there's just
a lot rattling around in my head. But what I really want to talk
about today is revisiting the education system. And I talked a little bit about
that previously when I brought on myguest Cameron Cope, the creator and founder
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of Techno Tutor, and talked alittle bit about it. Just huh.
Peripherally with some guests who have comeon and talking about their struggles with getting
an education, especially when you're talkingabout being inside the system and trying to
get that education. But you know, I this year in particular, I've
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really noticed a lot of parallels betweenthe school system and the legal the prisons
system. You know, you hearall the time, the people behind the
scenes, the quote unquote fay.They can't come up with anything new.
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They run the same scripts. Sowhen you when you learn how they operate,
and when you learn how to recognizesome of those signals and just some
of the I guess, just thepolicies and procedures and just the way that
they run things, they just duplicatedeverywhere. So I'm going to talk a
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little bit about that and my gutfeeling on why we're experiencing so much trouble
right now with the education system withtheir kids. You know, there seems
to be a lot of kids,first of all, just exiting the system.
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Their parents are choosing to homeschool themnow that they realize it's it's not
that bad. There's just a lotof kids that fight, they fight again,
they fight against the system constantly,the education system, and it's like
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the system can't figure out what whatto do with them and how to get
them to comply, how to getthem to conform, so it just tries
to beat them into submission mentally,emotionally, in some cases physically. So
we'll talk a little bit about that, just my view of it, kind
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of what I'm experiencing. You probablywill relate with this, you know,
if this is something that you ifthis is something that you're seeing as well,
or maybe if you're experiencing something alongthe same lines. Don't forget you
can you can't call in. Thelines are open one eight hundred and five
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Drop me a line, let meknow what you think. If you have
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able to jump in and shoot mea message and chat with me if if
something catches your attention. So pleasefeel free too. And as we get
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started, always want to make surethat we start with this moment of gratitude.
And I'm gonna I've debated, likeI've gone back and forth because I
try not to be cheesy too much, but man, I've just got to
really say that this gratitude has beenbrought even more to my attention this last
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week. So I went and sawClerks three in the theaters the other day,
and I grew up on Clerks.I saw the original. I have
been a Kevin Smith fan since ninetyfour, I mean decades, decades,
thirty years coming up on here.I've seen everything he's done. I've seen
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the stand up specials, I've seenall the movies. I mean, I
love the guy, and Clerks tome is just an iconic, iconic.
I can quote the movie from beginningto end, just absolutely, from beginning
to end. Clerks two was abit of a letdown for me, and
that's just me personally. You know. I may go back and Rewy again
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and see if my viewpoint has changednow. But Clerks three is it's something
else, man, It's I shortof masterpiece. I don't have words to
describe exactly what it does, andyou can tell that it is Kevin Smith's
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attempt at trying to get across topeople how grateful he is to have the
second chance that he does, becauseif you don't, if you don't know
who this gentleman is, if youknow nothing about his story, he's a
very famous filmmaker, made an indiefilm back in ninety four for like twenty
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five thousand dollars that hit huge,and the man has just been a force
to be reckoned with since then.But he's never lost roots with who He
is very down to earth and hada heart attack a few years ago called
The Widowmaker is what they call itbecause it tends to make widows. You
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don't realize that you're having the heartattack. That's that's why it's so deadly.
And yeah, he almost died.Didn't realize how close he was to
death until he went into the hospital, and it completely changed his entire paradigm
of life. And this movie communicatesthat in such a way that it's it's
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inescapable, it's inescapable. So thisis this is my short film review for
Clerks three, and this is alsomy stamp of approval. I if you
haven't watched any of the other Clerksmovies, you have to see them first
before you go see three. Ifyou've seen him before and you've been debating,
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or if you didn't even know itwas out, go see it.
Go see it. It'll change yourlife. And with that said, I
just want to say that I amso happy and grateful to be here with
you, allowing me to live outmy purpose to remind you of who you
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really are. So if you've ifyou've never listened before, or even if
you have and maybe just don't remember, I'll cover it anyway. I have
a daughter, I've got a fewkids, but my oldest is a senior
in high school right now, andyou know, I've talked about this on
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the show before. She's she's hadsome struggles the last couple of years,
which nothing we couldn't handle. Imean, it was challenging, it was
difficult. It wasn't a walk inthe park when I know other people have
much more difficult situations. And she'sback on track and she's said to graduate
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early and things are looking good.She has an idea of what she wants
to do with her life, whichis phenomenal because shoot, I didn't know
I had some ideas, but Ididn't. I didn't have that deep down
dry of telling me this you have, this is what you're supposed to do.
You have to do this, andshe had that that aha moment.
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But what I've what I've really noticedis the kids that she's in school with.
I hear about them getting in troublea lot, and to me,
it's like stupid stuff. And Idon't mean this in any way as a
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as a knock against the kids.To me, it's like I'm looking at
the school system going, really,why are you clamping down so hard on
these kids? I mean, areyou are you trying to push them away.
I know. I remember one timemy son, this is many years
ago. I think he was inon the third fourth grade something like that,
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got in trouble. We got anemail from the teacher, and of
course they have to address these situationsand they have to take them seriously,
but at the same time, it'slike, man, this just common sense
just gone out the window. Myson was outside arguing with his friends,
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play arguing as guys do, andthey were just joking around and talking about
I don't even remember the specifics,but you know, stuff like, oh,
kick your ass, No, I'llkick your ass, and my son
goes, I'll rip your nipple off, and the teacher overheard it, and
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that's that's what he got in troublefor. That's that's legitimately what he got
in trouble for, because the teacherhad to address that as my son literally
threatening to physically rip off this otherkids nipple. And needless to say,
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my son didn't get in trouble forme about that. I laughed. I
laughed hysterically, and I just lookedat him and I was like, just
just know your audience, man,Like, I know you didn't mean anything
by it, but there's a timeand place for that stuff, and you
know, school around the teachers isprobably not it. And he's like,
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yeah, I know, but youknow, why did I have to do
that? Why did I have toall of a sudden now coach him to
be a different person than who hereally is. Why did I have to
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essentially tell him to stifle that partof himself. Now, granted he's young,
he's immature. We all make mistakesgrowing up. It's it's how we
learn. Failure is feedback, butthere's a there's a way that you can
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help to teach that feedback to youngpeople. And I know this now in
life looking back, and I domy best. You know, it's really
it's really about guiding them to understandwhat's the lesson to learn here? What
can you take from this? Evenin the times where they mess up.
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There's no good to yell and screamat him and make him feel two is
tall. You know, all you'redoing is being a bully at that point.
And I'm not saying that I don'tlose my temper from time to time
with my kids, because I do. I'm human. It happens, but
I learned from it, and Itry to do better the next time.
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But why why is that a toppriority with all of the issues that we
have in our education system, allof the issues that we have all the
way from declining public school enrollment asI talked about earlier, with people essentially
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fleeing the public school system to dosomething different, charter schools, private schools,
most of its homeschooling. Homeschooling applicationsare through the roof, absolutely through
the roof. They do not havethe capacity to handle all of the homeschool
applications just in my state here inNebraska, but I know throughout the country
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dropout rates in certain parts of thecountries and in certain demographics are I mean,
just obscene. If you haven't everheard of something called the school to
prison pipeline, I recommend that youstart to do some research on this.
So the school to prison pipeline isbasically it's basically a theory that states that
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there's a pipeline that starts in schooland ends in prison, and that these
people are being pushed towards prison.They're not being steered away away from it
through the public school system. They'reactually being prepared for it. So they're
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going to school to learn how togo to prison, and just some of
the statistics are just through the roof. Through the roof there, it's broken
into demographics, and this is primarilysomething that is prevalent with the black population,
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the African American population. Forty percentof students expelled from schools each year
are black. Seventy percent of studentsthat are involved in the quote unquote in
school arrests are black or Latino.Sixty eight percent of all males in state
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and federal prison do not have ahigh school diploma. And then if you
look at even things like the fostercare system, fifty percent of children in
the foster care system are black orLatino. Of the foster care youth entering
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the juvenile justice system have been placedon some type of related behavioral cases.
Twenty five percent of these people leavingfoster care when they age out will be
incarcerated within just a few years afterturning eighteen. Fifty percent of young people
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leaving foster care aging out of thefoster care system will be unemployed within just
a few years of turning eighteen.Seventy percent of the inmates in California or
California State prison system, our formerfoster care youth. So this is a
school to prison pipeline. This isan introduction to the school to prison pipeline.
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This is a very deep subject,so there's a lot more demographics to
go into it. This is justsomething to kind of wet your whistle,
just to get you an idea ofhow much data is out there to back
up these things, to be ableto say, what the hell is wrong
with our public school system? Whyis it that it seems like the public
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school system seems to be preparing peopleto go to prison? And then I
noticed, like I said, thisyear, with my daughter and the kids
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that she is around, and they'regood kids, Like I have no issues
with the kids themselves at all.They would they would be your traditional I
mean, I guess what you wouldcall troubled youth. The rebels. They
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just don't they don't like authority figures. And I got to thinking about it,
and the more that I thought aboutit, I really thought, you
know, maybe they're right. Whatif and just follow me on this hypothesis.
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I just want you, I wantyou to follow along with me here
and let's just imagine a world.Let's just imagine a world where the kids
that we would consider to be troubledor problem children constantly in trouble at school,
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getting the police called, getting suspended, getting police taken away, maybe
being held back a grade. Whatif they're not the problem? What if
what if they are already as sucha young age, what if they are
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already so advanced spiritually, intuitively,call it whatever you want, that they
just know something's wrong. They justhaven't been taught healthy coping mechanisms or proactive
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communication styles to be able to sayhe's something about this is wrong. Want
you to want you to think backto elementary school, to start, even
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at kindergarten. I remember being inkindergarten and it was pretty simple stuff,
you know, really, it wasjust about getting you used to being in
school. I mean, shoot,we even did nap time. I would
I would love to have a naptime again throughout the day, throughout the
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day, you know. And sidenote, I was just reading earlier today
about productivity in other countries like Japan, and they actually employers are considered honorable
for offering their employees the opportunity tonap throughout the day. I don't know
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why we seem to have lost thathere in this country. But man,
nap naptime. I will go outon a limb and state that I think
naptime would probably solve a lot ofa lot of issues that we have in
this country. Just right off thebat. But even in kindergarten, you
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had maybe that one kid who justgot under the teachers get wouldn't listen too
much to handle, bouncing off thewalls, just being an overactive kid with
a ton of energy. Now yourteacher being someone who has gone through this
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school system from beginning to end andhas bought into the school system to the
point that they're saying, yes,I want to teach other children this experience
as well. This person. Theydon't know what to do with this kid.
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You know, they might send themto the principle, or they may
give them detention, or they mightmake him. I remember having to write
sentences. I remember having to writea hundred sentences. There was something.
It was always something stupid, youknow, if I got caught like talking
in class, had to write ahundred times I will not talk in class.
Well, I really learned my lessonthere. And then it escalates a
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little bit, and then the teachertalks to the parents and we're going to
assume. We're going to assume thatthis child has average parents, Okay,
and I know everything is subjective,everything is relative. So average parents,
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we're just going to say, youknow, middle class, maybe middle upper
class, working nine to five jobs, decent neighborhood, not upscale, not
not to low end. You know, maybe their parents are you know,
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maybe their parents aren't feeling good,and maybe they're on some pills for cholesterol
or maybe some heart medicine, oryou know, maybe something for depression,
which is pretty typical of America atthis point. And so your teacher talks
to the parents and says, youknow, I'm really just having a lot
of trouble with Johnny here. Hewon't listen, I can't get him to
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sit still. Something's wrong with him. Maybe you should have him checked out.
I think he has attention deficit disorder. And so these parents, being
good parents, want to make surethat there's nothing wrong with their kid,
so they take him to get checkedout. They go to the doctor,
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and you know what, sure enough, Oh, absolutely ADHD is super common.
Here's some pills. Give him toyour kid, and he'll calm down.
Now, in the average case,Johnny goes back to school, the
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pills start to kick in, andJohnny calms down physically, physically, he
kind of just goes into a shell, because, let's be real, that's
what those pills do. They theydon't regulate anything. They turn these kids
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into a zombie. Being active.Why aren't we Why aren't we directing that
energy? And if this kid's active, you know what, maybe he should
be doing something with his hands,Maybe he should be doing something that's gonna
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wear him out, wear out thatenergy. Not here's sit down at this
table. Here's a crayon, here'sa piece of paper. Color inside the
lines. Johnny doesn't want to colorinside the lines. Johnny wants to do
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something, but that's not what theschool system wants him to do. Johnny
needs to learn how to sit downand listen when he's told to do something.
Now, what if let's let's justtake another what if. What if
you've got another person in class.We'll call her Sally. Sally doesn't have
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the problems that Johnny does. Shegets good grades, she follows the rules,
she makes her parents proud, herteacher's love her. And then you
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get up a few grades and allof a sudden, she seems to have
lost interest in school, and maybeher grades start to slack a little bit,
maybe she goes from an A studentto a B and C student,
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starts to withdraw a little bit whenshe's at home. And I'm not talking
puberty, you know, that's prettytypical. I'm just talking. You can
tell something's off. And when herparents talk to her about it, it's
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again, we're going to talk averagetypical parents here. And they talk to
her about it, they want tohelp. Hey, what's wrong? Why
are you doing well in school?You know you need to finish school to
get an education so that you cansucceed in this world. You have to
get a job. You've got togo to college so you can get a
job. Don't You don't want tomess things up this early in life.
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You're still so young. But somethinginside of Sally says bullshit. Something inside
of her says, this isn't thisisn't right. Something about this just doesn't
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feel right. I'm not feeling fulfilled. I'm bored. I don't like this.
This is stupid. But all herparents tell her is you have to
do get in school. No,you have to what are you talking about?
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You have to go to school there'sno other options. You have to
go to school. You have togo to school because you have to go
to college. You have to goto college because you have to get a
job. How do you expect tolive? How do you expect to survive?
And being a kid, you youlisten to your parents, and maybe
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Sally goes, Okay, yeah,I don't want to ruin my life,
and maybe she refocuses herself and sherededicates herself and things go good again.
And then then puberty hits, andthen high school hits, and these kids
start to experience that that just thatbeginning taste of independence, just that beginning
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taste of a little less structure thanyou had previously. And man, they
go they go nuts. They loveI remember it like I loved it.
Holy crap. And I got mywhen I got my first car, I
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was never at home after that,be like bye, I'm out, we'll
see if bye, where are yougoing? I don't know what's going out?
See you later. I'll be homelater. And that was gone.
That was it. Yeah, Iwasn't a problem child, so my parents
didn't have to worry about me.I was out. I don't know,
it was over at Mark's house.I was over at Joe's house to the
we go to the lake, we'dgo to the mall. We'd just do
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typical stuff. We just go outand have fun. Yeah, but Sally
just was never able to shake thatfeeling that something's wrong, something's off,
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something about this whole thing is bullshit, And she starts to rebel at school.
She doesn't know what else to do. She just knows that she's been
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told to do this thing all herlife, and something inside of her says,
this is the wrong thing to do, so she does the exact opposite.
She goes to school and they saydo your homework. Instead of saying
okay, she says, no,why didn't you do your homework? I
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didn't want to do my homework.And then her parents come and talk to
her and they say, what areyou doing? I thought I thought things
were better. It's been so longsince you've had these problems. You have
to do good in school because youhave to go to college. You have
to go to college because you haveto get a job. You have to
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have a job to be able tosupport yourself in this world. What do
you do? You're ruining your future. We don't want you to ruin your
future? Is that what you want? And now, Sally, being a
little bit older, a little bitmore mentally developed, she's not anywhere near
close to being out of adolescent,so her brain isn't fully formed, but
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she has enough to be able tosay, yeah, that's not true,
that's bs. But she doesn't havethe skills, the critical thinking skills,
the speaking skills, the debate skillsto be able to say, no,
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I disagree with you, and hereis why I disagree with you. Here
are my main points, and hereare my counterpoints to the points that you
just made to me. She's nottaught any of that, because let's go
all the way back to kindergarten.What she has taught is follow all the
rules. Do what you're told.If your teacher tells you to do something,
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do it. If your parents tellyou to do something, do it.
You're not taught to say do youagree or do you disagree with this?
Oh? You disagree? Okay,great? Why do you disagree with
that? What is it? Hereare some ways that you can communicate that
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to me. They're not validated forthat. They're made to feel that there's
something wrong, and at some pointyou can only take that abuse for so
long before you start to fight back, and Sally had enough. Sally says,
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you know what, that's fine,and I don't want to go to
college anyway. Weren't you Dad justcomplaining about how you still have to pay
your student loans and how much moreyou have on them. You're going to
be paying them for the rest ofyour life. Isn't that what you said?
Why would you want me to dothat? Mom? Didn't you just
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tell me how much you hate yourjob? Were you just saying that the
other night when you're sitting around howmuch you hate your boss and you hate
your job. Why the hell wouldI want to do that? Why would
I want to go to college tobe in debt for the rest of my
life working at a job that Ihate. That's what you want me to
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do. But see, she's nottaught the other options, so the only
thing that she knows to do isthe exact opposite. So she just starts
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saying, screw this, I'm notdoing anything. You know I've been lately.
I have been revisiting rage against theMachine. I remember the I remember
the first time. I can rememberwhere I was, I can remember where
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I was sitting what I was doingwhen I listened to their first album for
the first time, because I've neverheard anything like that in my life up
to that point. And man,I remember listening to that album and just
being like, yeah, yes,exactly, F you, I won't do
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what you tell me. Cool,man, I just I want to start
I want to start singing that rightnow. But that's what Sally's thinking.
He's just thinking, if you who, I won't do what you tell me.
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And these are just two examples.The point here being as a whole,
we have a generation of children whocan sense, and this is my
speculation, it can sense that something'soff because their parents are products of the
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system and they're miserable. Depression isat all time highs in adults. Alcoholism
is rampant. Drug use is everywhere. We all self medicate all the time,
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and they're sneaky with how they doit too, because it doesn't have
to be something as blatant as analcohol or drug abuse system. TV movies,
do you come home from work andjust say, oh, man,
I just I don't want to doanything. I just want to I'm just
gonna sit down and I'm gonna watchmy show and I'm gonna fall asleep.
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It's such a hard day. I'vedone that, you know what, In
all honesty, every now and thenI still do that. I don't want
to anymore because I've got other thingsthat I've got to do. I've got
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too much to do. But that'sjust it. There's there's a whole world,
there's a whole life out there,but we're so afraid of it.
All we're trying to do is numbthe pain. We're trying to deal with
the bs that we just had togo through from our nine to five whatever
it may be that you do,and we come home and we medicate.
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Numb the pain. Numb it withTV, numb it with porn, numb
it with video games. I knowI'm touching man. I am talking to
myself when I say that I'm aI'm a big gamer. I'm a dude.
At that hour, that hour thatyou're sitting there in front of the
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video game could be an hour thatyou took to work on yourself to figure
out why am I so unhappy?Figure out what the root cause of that
is, release that empower yourself moveforward. We don't. It's so much
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easier to just numb it. Andour kids see this. There is data
everywhere talking about how unhealthy alcohol isfor you, talking about the struggles with
porn and sex addictions, talking aboutillegal drugs. These kids know all of
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this, they see it, andyet they see their parents, us,
you and me doing these same thingsthat they now know to be unhealthy and
destructive. And then we turn aroundand tell them, hey, this is
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how you need to live your life. You need to go to school.
He got to go to school becauseyou got to go to college. Got
to go to college because you gotto get a job. Got to get
a job because you got to paythe bills. Gosh, just how life
is. And they look at thisperson telling them this life plan and they
say, I don't I don't wantyour life. And on a deeper level,
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this is where my speculation comes in. But I'm willing to bet.
I'm willing to bet that there's studiesout there that I could probably if I
really dig into this, really diginto this, I can make some correlations.
So going back, I've talked aboutthis before, going back a few
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shows, science now is able toprove that the human body has three brains.
You've got your headbrain you've got yourheart brain and you've got your gut
brain, and your gut brain scientificallyis shown to be more active than your
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brain and your head brain. Soessentially what science is showing us, and
this is very very very layman's terms, I'm giving you the cliff notes.
Please understand that. Look it up, do some research on it. It's
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a fascinating topic, but it's whatit's proving. Science has proven that that
gut feeling or that intuition, thatfeeling in your gut, I just know
it in my gut. That's legit. It is absolutely one accurate. Your
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gut is telling you something. Yourgut is saying whoa, whoa whoa hold
up, and our kids are experiencingthese gut feelings. Now, if you
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understand how the universe works, youunderstand that the spirit world, the creator,
your spirit guides, you can callit whatever you would like to call
it. Your higher self communicates withyou, and it doesn't communicate through your
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head, and it doesn't communicate withyou through your heart. It's communicating with
you through your gut. When youget that gut feeling, if you've ever
had that, just that gut feelingwhere you meet somebody and you're like,
ah, I don't and something aboutme just it's just off. Something feels
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off with that guy. I don'tknow, man, it's just this feeling
in my stomach when I'm around them. Yeah, that's that's that's somebody again.
You can call it whatever you wouldlike, Spirit, guides, higher
self, God, somebody telling youyou need to get away from that guy.
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Or have you ever experienced something alittle bit more profound, something a
little bit more profound where you justget that immediate feeling in your gut,
like your gut tenses up and says, don't do that at and it's almost
palpable, like you can almost feelit. You can almost hear that voice
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in your head go whoa stop andyou stop whatever you're doing and you go
ooh, I gotta I gotta stopdoing that. You know. Examples and
these are very very simple examples,but you know, the example being if
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you're walking down the street and justyou get this gut feeling that says,
hey, don't don't go right,just just go straight, and you start
to go right and just man,your gut tenses up and you're like,
ah, now you know what I'mgonna go this way, and you go
straight. Thirty seconds later, caraccident over to your right. If you
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would have turned right, I couldhave been used. That is divine intervention.
That is your higher self saying,hey, hold up, don't go
that way. Danger will Robinson,I need you to go this way for
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just a minute. Please. Okay, we're good, perfect, We're back
on track. All right, We'regood. So our kids are getting these
messages sent to them on a constantbasis, a daily basis. If you
will saying you're going the wrong way. What are you doing? This is
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not what life is supposed to be. You have a purpose, you are
meant for more than this color outsidethe lines. For God's sake, Johnny,
get up and go outside, man, go do something thing you are
meant to work with your hands,Go do it. Sally, you are
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not meant to go to college.That is not your path, That is
not your path to fulfillment. Youneed to go this way. They're hiding
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these messages. And then we,in all of our wisdom, because we're
older and we know better because wedid it, we say, what's wrong
with you? There must be somethingwrong with my kid. Why are you
doing this? Because you see humanbeings are pack animals. We still have
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heard instinct. We understand that there'ssafety in numbers, and so our instinct
is to do what everybody else isdoing, because that's what's safe, that's
what's comfortable. Everybody else went toschool, everybody else went to college,
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everybody else has jobs. That's whatwe're supposed to do. And then all
of a sudden, our kids startto shake that up, and we go,
no, no, no, no, what are you doing. You
have to stay with the herd,You have to stay their safety in numbers.
You can't leave the pack. Andso we wind up with children who
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have no healthy coping skills, nohealthy communication skills. They don't know,
they don't know that they're getting thesemessages from the universe or from their higher
self telling them stop doing what you'redoing and go a different direction. And
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they're sure as hell not getting anyhelp from their parents, or from their
teachers, or from their church,or from God forbid, the media and
all the movies. Nobody's helping themto understand these messages that are coming to
them. So what are they goingto do? The simplest and easiest thing
is to just do the opposite.Of whatever you're told to do. And
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as you get older, the moreyou do that, the more that you
just rebel and do the opposite ofwhat you're told. It becomes a habit.
Remember the ages of birth to thirteenare those formative years. And man,
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if you've got a kid who istwelve thirteen years old and they're already
rebelling and they're your problem child,and maybe they're getting maybe they're getting on
the verge of being expelled from schoolbecause they just the school does not know
what to do with it. They'reconstantly in trouble. You know what I
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say to you, Your kid istrying to tell you something. That kid
is getting a message from a higherpower and he doesn't know how to interpret
it. You need to help himfigure it out. But we don't because
we don't know how. I wasalmost forty before I figured out how to
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start interpreting this stuff for myself,and I'm expecting a twelve and thirteen year
old kid to do it. It'sridiculous. What are we doing? And
then we take these same kids andafter they graduate, that's it. Out
the door you go, good luck. Don't let the door hit you.
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And what happens. These kids areused to rebelling because they know something's wrong.
They know the system's broken. Theyjust can't verbalize it. They can't
they can't communicate it to us becausethey were never taught how. So they
go out into the world and theyjust wreak havoc because all they know how
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to do is the opposite of whatthey're told to do. Go get a
job. No, I'm not gonnado that, And then you wind up
with a pipeline of students who endup rebelling and a system who knows no
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other way to deal with it thanpunishment, And into the pipeline they go,
into the jails, into the prisons. There you go. We are
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punishing our children for being more awarethat there's a problem than we are.
And the system, my opinion,they know this. They know the system
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is broken. They know the potentialthat you have and that I have.
They know that their their authority hangsby a thread, and that read is
praying because all it takes is forus one day to say no, I'm
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not I'm not gonna do that anymore. You know what, f you,
I'm not gonna do what you tellme. I won't do what you tell
me, and that's it. Theirauthority is done. They have no more
power over us, and they don'twant us to figure that out. So
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when our children are figuring that outearlier than we are than we ever did,
got to start punishing them earlier.You gotta start dropping that hammer down
because if everybody else starts to figureout that, hey, if they just
stop listening to us, we're doneand we don't have any more power here
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and the system is going to collapse. So you know what, No,
no, you take those kids andyou make them conform. You do it
one way or the other. Andyou know what, school system, if
you're not going to do it,that's fine. If you can't, you've
got eighteen years. If you can'tfigure it out, I'll take it from
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there. And then the prison systemjumps in because that's all they know how
to do. I'm going to tellyou to do something. No, I'm
not gonna do it, Okay,punishment boom. You are taught that from
kindergarten and it never stops for therest of your life. So here's what
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I say. These kids, thetroubled kids, the ones that are about
to be expelled or maybe they wereexpelled constantly in suspension. The bad kids
quote unquote, No, they getit. They just don't know what they
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get and we need to help themfigure it out. And the only way
that we can help them to figureit out is for us to figure ourselves
out first. I wouldn't I wouldn'thave even considered never, because I was
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the guy that went and did mynine to five that I hated and came
home and sat in front of theTV and sat in front of my video
games and numbed myself because I hatedmy life. I hated what I I
was doing. Now I'm not thatguy. I don't want to hate what
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I do. Know what I wantto show my kids. Hey, it's
okay if you don't want to goto college. You know what, some
of the most successful people in thisworld never went to college. Some of
them didn't even graduate high school.She don't tell anybody. It's not a
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big secret. Everybody knows it,but she don't tell anyone. That is
what I am going to teach mykids. So when my daughter comes to
me and talks about how she hatesschool, I'm gonna go I get it.
I understand. Why why do youhate school. What is it that
you hate about it? Help figureit out. And the only way that
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you can help them figure it outis when you figure it out too.
Lead by example, your children willfollow you. I hope this helps.
I hope you found value in theshow today. Don't forget to check the
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website Surviving the System dot org,Facebook dot com, slash Surviving a System,
and Twitter at sts to podcast.Drop me a message, let me
know what you think, let meknow if maybe you're having trouble with your
kids as well. You know,maybe it's not just me. Thank you
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for being here with me tonight,and remember, as always, keep your
head up, don't let them getyou. It may be easy to look
at all the corruption and manipulation andthe system and feel hopeless. Here at
Surviving a System, we hold tothe belief that greatness is born in the
midst of extraordinary struggles. You werecreated with a purpose, with infinite potential,
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and many have lost sight of thatback We're here to remind you of
who you are. The best revenge, the success
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