October 29, 2025 • 13 mins
What if the wounds you never named are quietly steering your life? We step into a raw, honest conversation about how pain becomes chronic when it’s hidden, how silence can stunt emotional growth, and how grace gives us the courage to finally move. Together with Intercessor J’eanine Nichole, we trace the line from attraction to flame to burn, then show how to stop postponing what you were born to do by facing hard truths with strength and compassion.
We unpack why certain communities and generations learned to “sweep it under the rug,” and the real cost of that strategy when adulthood arrives with new battles. From childhood trauma and betrayal to abandonment and abuse, we show how naming the wound is the first mercy. You’ll hear practical ways to process and release: anchoring in prayer, journaling to spot patterns, seeking counseling or pastoral care, and building boundaries that protect your future without denying your past. We revisit the power of forgiveness, clarifying that it’s not about the offender; it’s about freeing the forgiver so purpose can breathe again.
If you’re ready to cancel the debt, reclaim emotional ground, and align with who God says you are, this conversation is your nudge. Expect clear language, spiritual depth, and actionable steps you can start today. Subscribe, share with someone who needs hope, and leave a review to tell us the one step you’ll take this week toward healing and purpose.
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SPEAKER_01 (00:03):
Wounds that stall us?
How do we stop postponing whatwe were born to do when we have
wounds that stall us, obstaclesthat slow our steps?
And so my question to you todayis what is it that blocks your
(00:24):
step?
What is it that is hindering youor preventing you from moving
forward?
Uh, we understand that SweetFire the Podcast tag is how to
survive the flame when whatattracts you burns.
My question to you is, what drewyou in?
What attracted you?
And what is it costing you?
(00:46):
Is it childhood wounds thatnever healed?
Uh, is your condition nowchronic?
Because it's been uh a part ofyour life, a part of your uh the
direction that your life hasgone, the plan that you've even
created for your own life.
It's because your condition ischronic, wounds that stall us.
(01:10):
And again, how do we excuse me,how do we stop postponing what
we were born to do because ofthe wounds that we experience in
our life?
My name is Dr.
Lydia Michelle Young.
I'm here with my co-hostintercessor Janine Nicole.
I appreciate you being here.
(01:31):
Um, this is middle of the week,Wednesday, midweek refreshing
fire, and we are thankful andexcited about the word uh that
God is sending, that God isbringing, that God is
presenting, that God isbirthing, that is bringing
healing to the lives of hispeople, those of you who are
listening and tuning in.
(01:52):
Intercessor, why don't you greetthe people with a big God bless
you?
SPEAKER_00 (01:56):
God bless you, people of God.
God bless you.
Uh, I love the the posingquestions, if you will, you
know, those posing questionsthat cause people to to look
within, right?
To ask themselves.
Not to ask anybody else, but toask themselves, right?
(02:20):
Those those posing questionsthat will make some
uncomfortable.
Because when we ask thosequestions, right, it makes us
uncomfortable because we'rehaving to to you know to to
search back, we're having tolook within, we're having to
visit some very uncomfortable uhthoughts, some very
(02:41):
uncomfortable emotions, youknow.
So I just I love thosequestions.
And unfortunately, those arequestions that they're not
asked, you know, when we go intochurch, right?
Those those are those questionsare not the kind of questions
that we hear asked from thepulpit.
You know, it's it's it's thosekinds of questions that when one
(03:03):
asks oneself, those types ofquestions begin that healing
process.
So again, I I love the way thatum the Lord used you to open up
this uh episode for thisevening.
And it's good, and again, Godbless you, everyone.
SPEAKER_01 (03:18):
Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful wounds,
intercessor, wounds.
I mean, they have written manyof our futures.
Many of us have allowed thewounds, yes, the hurt, the pain,
uh, the scrapes, the burns, thebruises, the cuts to shape our
future, to right our future, todirect us, to control us.
(03:42):
How do we step away from that?
How do we uh how do we find away forward so that we can do
what it is, my goodness, we wereborn to do.
That's that's another posingquestion.
How do we survive that flame?
My God, that cut.
(04:03):
We were attracted, right?
We got cut, we got burned, uhsome of us have been abandoned,
some of us have been abused,some of us have been raped, some
of us have been molested, someof us have been stabbed in the
back, some of us we didn't growup with our parents, we were in
foster homes, foster care,childhood trauma.
(04:25):
How it affects many's livestoday.
Why?
Because it's still with you.
You haven't healed, you haven'tgotten over it.
Uh you haven't had you haven'tfound a way forward.
You understand you gottaunderstand this.
Your next step matters.
Your next step.
We talked about the divinewindow of grace.
(04:46):
Grace to move forward.
And so here's a little nudge foryou: a nudge, a boost.
Grace, the divine window ofgrace is open, my God, and you
can heal today, um, and you canmove forward.
You can move forward.
Come on, intercessor, jump in.
SPEAKER_00 (05:06):
Yeah, um, and then when you throw, you know, uh uh
generation, right?
Generations into that because uhuh you and I, you know, um close
to the same generation and ourupbringing, you know, our
upbringing a lot of times, youknow, those within our
(05:28):
generation, and then, you know,let's just be honest, uh people
of color, right?
People of color coming up inhouseholds, it's really not
popular to revisit some painfulexperiences.
It's really not popular torevisit, you know, uh those
unfortunate circumstances thathave affected so many.
(05:52):
It's not popular, you know, tovisit those painful uh moments
in life.
But what is popular to sweep itunder the rug, you know, and
then unfortunately, so many,they they get older in age, but
they're not really developing,they're not maturing, you know,
(06:15):
they're they're they're stuntedin their emotional growth, so
much so to where when theyencounter another life
circumstance, you know, anotherbattle, another war, right?
Another uncomfortableexperience, they they they go
into that experience really notknowing how to deal with it.
Because they were never taughthow to face, you know, those
(06:37):
painful moments in life and howto overcome.
They were taught just theopposite, how to sweep it under
the rug, how to step over theexperience instead of getting
down and dirty with theexperience and facing those
uncomfortable emotions.
You know, so it's unfortunate,but generation, right?
(06:58):
Ethnicity, nationality,nationality, excuse me, those
can play a part in determiningwhether or not one is going to
deal and face it so they cancome up or if they're gonna
fold.
SPEAKER_01 (07:15):
I appreciate you uh sharing that.
Um, it is so uh important takingthat step forward, moving
forward, uh, to connect with whoGod says you are.
Connect with the real you, theinner you, the core you, the
heart of who you are, the heartof who God created you to be.
(07:38):
Make that connection so you canprocess and release.
Process and release.
When we closed out last week, wewe talked about forgiveness,
forgiving those who hurt you,forgiving those who uh do you
wrong, call you names.
Uh forgive, forgive yourself,forgive those who have done you
(07:59):
wrong, forgive yourself for whatyou have done wrong to yourself.
So, you know, let go, processand release.
Come on, jump in as we get readyto close.
SPEAKER_00 (08:15):
Process and release, yeah, absolutely.
Um process and release.
It it one of the mantras, someof you have heard uh me say this
in times uh in times past, uh,previous episodes, and uh those
of you who tune into the FlamingSword Prayer Ministry, the
(08:36):
mantra, right?
It takes strength to heal.
It takes strength to heal.
Healing is painful, but it isworth the process.
It's worth the process.
And and we opened up, we beganthis uh episode with asking, you
know, how do we how do we cope?
(08:58):
How how do we uh uh deal withyou know the unfortunate
circumstances in life that youknow have burned us, have
wounded us?
How do we how do we face that?
How do we deal with this so itdoesn't stunt our growth, so it
doesn't stop us from developingemotionally, uh spiritually?
(09:18):
You know, how how is it that wedo that?
You know, we have to we we haveto look at it head on.
Those things to have that deeplywounded us, you know, in order
to heal and to grow past that,we have to revisit.
We have to revisit.
We we gotta face, you know, thereality that those circumstances
(09:43):
they made us feel some type ofway.
They devastated us, they hurtus.
You know, we have to own it,right?
Accountability in healing, inhealing, there's there's
accountability, there'sself-accountability, there's
self-accountability, takingaccountability for self,
acknowledging that that woundedus, that hurt us.
(10:04):
That's how the healing processbegins.
SPEAKER_01 (10:10):
Yeah, identifying that emotion, emotion, emotion,
those things that move us,emotion, feelings that move us.
My goodness, and so um, I heardthis a little earlier.
Uh, that many who are woundedare still dealing with the
(10:30):
wounds that stall us, thewounds, um you have uh uh
thoughts or feelings that thatperson that did you wrong is
indebted to you, it's indebtedto you because of how they did
you.
But I heard this cancel thedebt.
Cancel the debt that you'reholding against that person,
(10:54):
process and release.
You have anything else to sharebefore we close?
SPEAKER_00 (11:01):
Yeah, absolutely.
Uh uh can again when we re whenwe revisit, excuse me, the
episode from uh uh last week.
Um, you know, how we ended itwith forgiving those who have
done you wrong, right?
It was brought out last week,and this is very important for
people to to really come tounderstand, you know.
(11:24):
Uh this I I hear this, so I'mgonna say this uh quickly,
right?
There's forgiveness, right?
There's a spirit of forgiveness,right?
You know, and forgiveness, thespirit of forgiveness.
We as a people have to, youknow, uh ask God to give us the
spirit of forgiveness.
(11:44):
What is the spirit offorgiveness?
The spirit of forgiveness is forus to be able to forgive others.
You know, the spirit offorgiveness is for us, right?
To be able to forgive others.
And again, what we brought outlast week, forgiving others is
it has nothing at all to do withthe other person, people of God.
(12:06):
It has forgiving somebody hasnothing at all to do with that
other person.
The spirit of forgiveness is forus, it's for us.
Again, it goes back to thataccountability.
When we forgive those who havewronged us, you know, God smiles
upon us, right?
It takes strength to evenforgive somebody.
(12:28):
So forgiving another is helpingus.
It's helping us to developspiritually, it's helping us to
develop emotionally, and it'sstrengthening us, it's helping
to build us up, to build up thecharacter, right, that God has
installed in us to even become.
So forgiving others is abouthelping us, helping us to heal,
(12:50):
helping us to develop, andhelping us to grow up.
SPEAKER_01 (12:54):
I love that.
And so here it is.
Father, forgive us as we forgivethose who trespass against us.
Peace be to you, peace be toyour house, and peace be to all
you have.
Wounds that stall us?
How do we stop postponing whatwe were born to do when we have
wounds that stall us, obstaclesthat slow our steps?
And so my question to you todayis what is it that blocks your
(00:24):
step?
What is it that is hindering youor preventing you from moving
forward?
Uh, we understand that SweetFire the Podcast tag is how to
survive the flame when whatattracts you burns.
My question to you is, what drewyou in?
What attracted you?
And what is it costing you?
(00:46):
Is it childhood wounds thatnever healed?
Uh, is your condition nowchronic?
Because it's been uh a part ofyour life, a part of your uh the
direction that your life hasgone, the plan that you've even
created for your own life.
It's because your condition ischronic, wounds that stall us.
(01:10):
And again, how do we excuse me,how do we stop postponing what
we were born to do because ofthe wounds that we experience in
our life?
My name is Dr.
Lydia Michelle Young.
I'm here with my co-hostintercessor Janine Nicole.
I appreciate you being here.
(01:31):
Um, this is middle of the week,Wednesday, midweek refreshing
fire, and we are thankful andexcited about the word uh that
God is sending, that God isbringing, that God is
presenting, that God isbirthing, that is bringing
healing to the lives of hispeople, those of you who are
listening and tuning in.
(01:52):
Intercessor, why don't you greetthe people with a big God bless
you?
SPEAKER_00 (01:56):
God bless you, people of God.
God bless you.
Uh, I love the the posingquestions, if you will, you
know, those posing questionsthat cause people to to look
within, right?
To ask themselves.
Not to ask anybody else, but toask themselves, right?
(02:20):
Those those posing questionsthat will make some
uncomfortable.
Because when we ask thosequestions, right, it makes us
uncomfortable because we'rehaving to to you know to to
search back, we're having tolook within, we're having to
visit some very uncomfortable uhthoughts, some very
(02:41):
uncomfortable emotions, youknow.
So I just I love thosequestions.
And unfortunately, those arequestions that they're not
asked, you know, when we go intochurch, right?
Those those are those questionsare not the kind of questions
that we hear asked from thepulpit.
You know, it's it's it's thosekinds of questions that when one
(03:03):
asks oneself, those types ofquestions begin that healing
process.
So again, I I love the way thatum the Lord used you to open up
this uh episode for thisevening.
And it's good, and again, Godbless you, everyone.
SPEAKER_01 (03:18):
Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful wounds,
intercessor, wounds.
I mean, they have written manyof our futures.
Many of us have allowed thewounds, yes, the hurt, the pain,
uh, the scrapes, the burns, thebruises, the cuts to shape our
future, to right our future, todirect us, to control us.
(03:42):
How do we step away from that?
How do we uh how do we find away forward so that we can do
what it is, my goodness, we wereborn to do.
That's that's another posingquestion.
How do we survive that flame?
My God, that cut.
(04:03):
We were attracted, right?
We got cut, we got burned, uhsome of us have been abandoned,
some of us have been abused,some of us have been raped, some
of us have been molested, someof us have been stabbed in the
back, some of us we didn't growup with our parents, we were in
foster homes, foster care,childhood trauma.
(04:25):
How it affects many's livestoday.
Why?
Because it's still with you.
You haven't healed, you haven'tgotten over it.
Uh you haven't had you haven'tfound a way forward.
You understand you gottaunderstand this.
Your next step matters.
Your next step.
We talked about the divinewindow of grace.
(04:46):
Grace to move forward.
And so here's a little nudge foryou: a nudge, a boost.
Grace, the divine window ofgrace is open, my God, and you
can heal today, um, and you canmove forward.
You can move forward.
Come on, intercessor, jump in.
SPEAKER_00 (05:06):
Yeah, um, and then when you throw, you know, uh uh
generation, right?
Generations into that because uhuh you and I, you know, um close
to the same generation and ourupbringing, you know, our
upbringing a lot of times, youknow, those within our
(05:28):
generation, and then, you know,let's just be honest, uh people
of color, right?
People of color coming up inhouseholds, it's really not
popular to revisit some painfulexperiences.
It's really not popular torevisit, you know, uh those
unfortunate circumstances thathave affected so many.
(05:52):
It's not popular, you know, tovisit those painful uh moments
in life.
But what is popular to sweep itunder the rug, you know, and
then unfortunately, so many,they they get older in age, but
they're not really developing,they're not maturing, you know,
(06:15):
they're they're they're stuntedin their emotional growth, so
much so to where when theyencounter another life
circumstance, you know, anotherbattle, another war, right?
Another uncomfortableexperience, they they they go
into that experience really notknowing how to deal with it.
Because they were never taughthow to face, you know, those
(06:37):
painful moments in life and howto overcome.
They were taught just theopposite, how to sweep it under
the rug, how to step over theexperience instead of getting
down and dirty with theexperience and facing those
uncomfortable emotions.
You know, so it's unfortunate,but generation, right?
(06:58):
Ethnicity, nationality,nationality, excuse me, those
can play a part in determiningwhether or not one is going to
deal and face it so they cancome up or if they're gonna
fold.
SPEAKER_01 (07:15):
I appreciate you uh sharing that.
Um, it is so uh important takingthat step forward, moving
forward, uh, to connect with whoGod says you are.
Connect with the real you, theinner you, the core you, the
heart of who you are, the heartof who God created you to be.
(07:38):
Make that connection so you canprocess and release.
Process and release.
When we closed out last week, wewe talked about forgiveness,
forgiving those who hurt you,forgiving those who uh do you
wrong, call you names.
Uh forgive, forgive yourself,forgive those who have done you
(07:59):
wrong, forgive yourself for whatyou have done wrong to yourself.
So, you know, let go, processand release.
Come on, jump in as we get readyto close.
SPEAKER_00 (08:15):
Process and release, yeah, absolutely.
Um process and release.
It it one of the mantras, someof you have heard uh me say this
in times uh in times past, uh,previous episodes, and uh those
of you who tune into the FlamingSword Prayer Ministry, the
(08:36):
mantra, right?
It takes strength to heal.
It takes strength to heal.
Healing is painful, but it isworth the process.
It's worth the process.
And and we opened up, we beganthis uh episode with asking, you
know, how do we how do we cope?
(08:58):
How how do we uh uh deal withyou know the unfortunate
circumstances in life that youknow have burned us, have
wounded us?
How do we how do we face that?
How do we deal with this so itdoesn't stunt our growth, so it
doesn't stop us from developingemotionally, uh spiritually?
(09:18):
You know, how how is it that wedo that?
You know, we have to we we haveto look at it head on.
Those things to have that deeplywounded us, you know, in order
to heal and to grow past that,we have to revisit.
We have to revisit.
We we gotta face, you know, thereality that those circumstances
(09:43):
they made us feel some type ofway.
They devastated us, they hurtus.
You know, we have to own it,right?
Accountability in healing, inhealing, there's there's
accountability, there'sself-accountability, there's
self-accountability, takingaccountability for self,
acknowledging that that woundedus, that hurt us.
(10:04):
That's how the healing processbegins.
SPEAKER_01 (10:10):
Yeah, identifying that emotion, emotion, emotion,
those things that move us,emotion, feelings that move us.
My goodness, and so um, I heardthis a little earlier.
Uh, that many who are woundedare still dealing with the
(10:30):
wounds that stall us, thewounds, um you have uh uh
thoughts or feelings that thatperson that did you wrong is
indebted to you, it's indebtedto you because of how they did
you.
But I heard this cancel thedebt.
Cancel the debt that you'reholding against that person,
(10:54):
process and release.
You have anything else to sharebefore we close?
SPEAKER_00 (11:01):
Yeah, absolutely.
Uh uh can again when we re whenwe revisit, excuse me, the
episode from uh uh last week.
Um, you know, how we ended itwith forgiving those who have
done you wrong, right?
It was brought out last week,and this is very important for
people to to really come tounderstand, you know.
(11:24):
Uh this I I hear this, so I'mgonna say this uh quickly,
right?
There's forgiveness, right?
There's a spirit of forgiveness,right?
You know, and forgiveness, thespirit of forgiveness.
We as a people have to, youknow, uh ask God to give us the
spirit of forgiveness.
(11:44):
What is the spirit offorgiveness?
The spirit of forgiveness is forus to be able to forgive others.
You know, the spirit offorgiveness is for us, right?
To be able to forgive others.
And again, what we brought outlast week, forgiving others is
it has nothing at all to do withthe other person, people of God.
(12:06):
It has forgiving somebody hasnothing at all to do with that
other person.
The spirit of forgiveness is forus, it's for us.
Again, it goes back to thataccountability.
When we forgive those who havewronged us, you know, God smiles
upon us, right?
It takes strength to evenforgive somebody.
(12:28):
So forgiving another is helpingus.
It's helping us to developspiritually, it's helping us to
develop emotionally, and it'sstrengthening us, it's helping
to build us up, to build up thecharacter, right, that God has
installed in us to even become.
So forgiving others is abouthelping us, helping us to heal,
(12:50):
helping us to develop, andhelping us to grow up.
SPEAKER_01 (12:54):
I love that.
And so here it is.
Father, forgive us as we forgivethose who trespass against us.
Peace be to you, peace be toyour house, and peace be to all
you have.
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