A boost to fight the Monday Blues with Myfanwy Galloway

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I need ten or fifteen skirts from Calvin Klein. Sometimes
I would buy book instead of dinner. I just felt
to send me more. This is Taylor Talk with your
host Sammy Rose.

Speaker 2 (00:10):
This time of the year, we all go about getting
stuck into achieving whatever our news resolutions are, or whatever
goals we might have set for ourselves for year ahead.
Our guest today is someone I think you guys will
admire as much as I do, and she's going to
help us out with all things mindset and body confidence.

(00:30):
Welcome to the podcast, Me Galloway.

Speaker 1 (00:34):
Thank you so much saving for the glowing review and
for having me. I'm super excited to be on here.

Speaker 2 (00:38):
I'm super excited to have you. So introduce yourself. MEF
like elevator pitch me.

Speaker 1 (00:44):
Who are you so awesome? The most exciting thing about
me I have two little dogs, cold Sickies and Wigle.
But outside of that, I wrote a full time role
of the retail training manager. I'm a personal trainer and
fitness coach, and I have my own life and performance
coaching business where I help ambitious individuals build the self
discipline they need to achieve their goals and live an

(01:06):
empowered and fulfilling life. I'm also the host of the
Actually You Can podcast and author of the books by
the same name.

Speaker 2 (01:13):
And for anyone that is listening, the podcast is excellent,
so I definitely recommend giving it a listen. Guys, So
to anyone from the outside, I definitely have looked at
your profile on Instagram and I look at everything that
you do, and it looks like you've got your life
pretty well sorted, particularly when it comes to body confidence.
As you said, personal training, coaching, and exercise. Has it

(01:37):
always been that way for you?

Speaker 1 (01:38):
Miss Well? Firstly, thank you so much for saying that.
I mean, I'm a human, so there's definitely still periods
of time where I don't feel like I've got my
life sorted. So I'm glad to hear that's one of
yours takeaways.

Speaker 2 (01:49):
You're welcome.

Speaker 1 (01:50):
But I have a unique perspective on body confidence, and
I like to look at it from two angles. So firstly,
I like to look at body confidence through the lens
of competency. That is, how good someone, sorry, how confident
someone is in our body's abilities. So if you're confident
at something, you're likely pretty good at it. It could
be something you spent a lot of time working on

(02:11):
or it's a strength of yours. So through that lens,
I mean I've been sporty as long as I can remember,
growing up, often represented school at various sports, and I've
gone on to compete at state, national, and international levels
for a variety of different sports. I have an athletic build.
People describe me as naturally athletic, and for as long
as I can remember, I've also enjoyed the physical and

(02:32):
mental challenges of sport. So in that lens, yes, I
would say I'm really confident in my body's ability to
learn and complete any physical activity. So that's like one
way of looking at The second way I like to
look at it is through how you feel about the
way you look, and so if I look at it
through that lens, no, that's definitely something I haven't always

(02:54):
had a positive connection to. So as I mentioned, physically,
I'm an athletic build, I'm a walking fly, I've foot two,
i have thick black eyebrows. Essentially everything that is the
complete opposite of what the media and society portrayed as
desirable growing up in the nineties. I'm sure you can
RaSE an.

Speaker 2 (03:09):
Act totally, totally relate.

Speaker 1 (03:12):
Gosh, yeah, so it was really hard for me to
feel good about the way my body looks. Growing up
in like primary school, I became acutely aware of how
different I looked from what society's idea of beautiful was
like through the Dolly magazines, Cosmo magazines, and so I
started trying. I started trying to change my body to
better align with what was in fashion at the time.

(03:32):
I remember when I figured out that diet and exercise
could alter how you looked physically. So I was like, great,
physical activity is a strength. I can use this as
a tool to alter sort of my physical appearance. So yes,
I've always been confident in my body's abilities to do
any physical activity. But no, I haven't always been confident
in how I feel about the way that I look.

(03:52):
Because of you, I've chosen to compare myself to in
the past.

Speaker 2 (03:56):
Yeah, totally. I think lots of women can relate to that,
for sure, and I'm sure as well. So you mentioned
then that you obviously take pride in what your body
can do. You're an amazing athlete. You work hard at it.
When you are having an off day, like we all
have them, I had one this week where you look

(04:16):
in the mirror and you're just like, nothing is working
for me today. I don't like how this looks. Oh
you see a photo of yourself, like a random tagged
photo of your on Facebook, and you're like, immediately untag
yourself because you're like, oh the angle. Whether it's like
for me it's I'm sure lots of other ladies think
this as well. It's my arms or always my insecure spot,
Like so many things can pop up in our heads

(04:37):
and they just work away at our confidence. When you
have had those days, what do you do to like
get yourself out of that slump?

Speaker 1 (04:46):
I think my husband's the one who's guilty for posting
those photos or like, seriously, baby looks terrible and he's.

Speaker 2 (04:51):
Like, you look so good, a sweet.

Speaker 1 (04:56):
So it's probably worth noting that how you feel about
body image. So body image is a thought, and your
thoughts and your feeling can be influenced by your actions.
And so for example, if you think you're going to
mess up a presentation at work, or you look silly
in the gym, or you think you or you know
you're worry about how you look, you're not going to
feel no confident or feel good about your body image.

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So for me, I have a different number of different
tools in my toolbox that I can lean on whenever
I'm having moments as you just described, So whether I
want to influence my feelings or my sor if I
want to influence my thinking or my actions. So if
I'm feeling a little bit self conscious, I like to
ask myself what do I need to think, learn, or

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do to feel more confident? So feel more successful or
stronger in whatever it is that I'm doing. So do
I need to focus on what I can do one
of my strengths and what value I'm bringing to this
situation rather than worrying about everything that I can't do
yet or they don't yet have. And then so you
can also change the way that to your thinking by

(06:01):
listening to podcasts. You know, I could listen to an
episode of your podcast and learn how to take better
pics of myself on Instagram or maybe send that one
to my husband. So you can also do influencing the
way you move and stuff as well. So do I
need to go to a gym and do a really
challenging workout and push through that and go, yes, I

(06:21):
can actually do this I'm confident. I'm confident in my
body's abilities. So there are a couple of different ways
that I helped to change my state I look to go.
Do I need to take action to feel differently or
do I just need to simply choose different thoughts in
this moment? Yeah?

Speaker 2 (06:38):
No, you mentioned that obviously. Podcasts and you've got your
own podcasts, the Actually You Can podcasts, which all of
our listeners should give a little listen to. What is
some of the best advice or sayings from all these
people that you've interviewed on this podcast when it comes
to mindset and positivity.

Speaker 1 (06:54):
Oh, I mean, I'm so grateful to have the opportunity
to connect with so many inspiring people such as yourself
on the podcast.

Speaker 2 (07:01):
Jeez.

Speaker 1 (07:01):
Thanks And so some of the standout episodes to me,
probably with one of them is with Cambrier born Chris
Bond So before he was an international wheelchair rugby star,
he was a nineteen year old battling and acute form
of leukemia. He survives that lost his left hand, right
fingers and legs below the knee to a bacterial infection,

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and now he's one of the best three point five
wheelchair rugby players in the world. So his life was
essentially turned upside down at the age of nineteen, and
he thought the life he won streamed for himself was
lost forever as a result. But he decided to challenge
his thought and has gone on to achieve such incredible
things both in his professional and personal life. And so
he's truly an example of what it means to challenge

(07:42):
what you think is possible for yourself and and what
could be possible as a result.

Speaker 2 (07:47):
Yeah, gosh, that's amazing. What a story, Jesus Leise and
talking about this time of the year, still early on
in the year and people have goals resolutions. Have you
got any advice for anyone who's set goals for the
year ahead.

Speaker 1 (08:01):
I love chatting about all things a goal setting, So
I do have a couple of pieces of advice. So
number one would be make sure that you are deeply
connected to the why that you're wanting to do it.
So a lot of people have a weight loss goal.
A common number of people throughout there is the old
five kilos, and just having a goal to lose five
kilos won't motivate you enough to actually lose the weight

(08:23):
you need to be so connected to the reason why
you want to achieve the goal. Think about what will
happen when you achieve it, and also think about what
will happen if you don't achieve it. Stack up so
many reasons in both of these areas, and that will
help to create a deeper sense of connection to your
why for achieving your goal. So that's number one and
then number two. So just as setting goals and having

(08:44):
reasons why you want to achieve them is super important,
but that won't actually mean that you take to actually
never know to achieve it. Right, A lot of reasons
why people won't achieve their goal is because they haven't
developed the skill of self discipline. And so self discipline
is someone's ability to put off short term pleasure or
endure short term inconvenience or discomfort in the pursuit of

(09:07):
that longer term gain. And so that's why I'm so
passionate about helping people to build their self discipline, because
self discipline is what's required to do the task that
will help you achieve your goal, or to develop the
positive behaviors that you need to be able to create
the long term habits and achieve those results.

Speaker 2 (09:25):
So Mef. Obviously you think having goals is a good thing.

Speaker 1 (09:29):
Oh my god.

Speaker 2 (09:29):
Yes.

Speaker 1 (09:30):
Every human needs to feel like they are growing and
have a sense of purpose in their life if they
want to live a life that fulfilling.

Speaker 2 (09:36):
Yeah, well, Mef, I always love chatting to you. I
could talk to you for hours about you know, your
philosophy and your great outlook on life, and just also
your dogs their gorgeous as well. And their Instagram account
Pickle and Wiggles. Is that what it is on insta?

Speaker 1 (09:51):
Yeah, definitely go check them out.

Speaker 2 (09:53):
So cute, so cute. Now, where can our listeners if
they want to stalk you like I do on a
regular basis, where can they find your the socials and
your podcast? Give me all the details.

Speaker 1 (10:04):
So the best place to find me is on Instagram
at miss Galloway and links to various other places that
I hang out is also on that platform, and my
podcast is actually you Ken, which is available on all
major podcasts are listening platforms.

Speaker 2 (10:18):
If it's always a pleasure, Thank.

Speaker 1 (10:19):
You so much, thank you, thank you for having me on.
I love what you're doing with this show and it's
such a pleasure You're part of