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Master the art of emotional healing and transformation by tuning in to our latest podcast episode! We'll take you on an insightful journey into understanding the full spectrum of emotions, from joy to frustration, and show you how these emotions shape your life. Discover practical techniques to help you embrace and process your emotions, leading to genuine happiness and well-being. We'll demystify the concept of "energy in motion" and share actionable steps to integrate emotional healing into your daily life, enhancing your emotional resilience and overall satisfaction.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
This is episode 82, talking about what is emotional
healing and how can you add itto your daily life, with your
host, eric, who is here todaysolo and going to tell you one
fun fact about Anita, and thatis she is totally afraid of wet
floors.
(00:21):
What's going on?
Everybody, eric, here, happy tobe back with another great
Friday Shorts talking aboutsomething I'm very passionate
about and I think will be veryhelpful for your daily life of
understanding, which isemotional healing.
What do I need to do to heal myemotions?
(00:43):
Why do I even need to heal myemotions?
What does that even mean, eric?
What are we talking about?
Don't worry, I'm going toclarify all of these things in
today's short episode.
So sit back, relax and enjoythe conversation of listening to
my wonderful voice today inthis conversation.
(01:08):
All right, so we're diving intoemotional healing.
Well, let's look at these twowords before we even start.
We're looking at emotions.
Okay, emotions can be a varietyof things.
It can be something like happy,sad, angry or even depressed or
frustrated.
It can be something that isvery small, like feeling a
(01:31):
little excited about the nextpackage coming from Shopee or
Amazon, depending on where youlive, or something really big,
like disappointment because youdidn't achieve the goal that you
worked so hard for.
All of this stuff is related toemotions, and that's why, on
(01:51):
Taiwanica, we love talking aboutemotions, because there's a
huge variety of them and theyinfluence our life every single
day, and the more you becomeaware of them, the better your
life will be.
Now that's where we get intohealing, and healing is simply
just becoming aware of whatthese emotions are and how to
(02:13):
feel them according to theirneeds, because each emotion has
their own result, and thatresult can happen based on your
choice or based on somethingthat you're just not aware of or
another word for that isignorance and if that happens,
then sometimes the way you wantthings to happen don't end up
(02:36):
the way that you expected.
So maybe when you're mad andyou're trying to explain
something to somebody whilebeing mad, you actually make the
situation worse than better,and that's not always how it
could be.
You can actually be mad,express yourself and still get
(02:57):
the thing that you want.
I'm pretty sure you have hadthis kind of experience, and
sometimes it's effective, andI'm telling you is that if you
know what emotional healing is,this can be the result every
time, if you really know how touse it, okay.
So what we're going to look atnow is how.
(03:19):
What is emotional healing in aday-to-day basis, and I'm going
to also teach you a couple oftechniques so that you can apply
it in your life.
You know, test it out, see whatyou think.
So emotional healing comes fromsimply understanding the power
(03:40):
of an emotion.
So let's actually just look atthe word emotion one more time,
but this time we're going tobreak it apart.
Okay, I'm going to separate theE from emotion, okay.
So if we look at it with E andmotion, we can look at the
letter E and change it intoanother word.
(04:00):
I like to change it into theword energy.
Okay.
So in this situation, we haveenergy and then the word motion,
in other words, energy inmotion.
That's what an emotion is ifyou really think about it.
It's our energy moving, andwe're moving through a filter.
(04:23):
A way that I like to look at itis whenever we have a certain
feeling going on happy, sad,angry, depressed, excited, it
doesn't matter.
Any of these emotions is fine,but what happens is is,
basically, you become a person alittle bit different than you
are naturally, and so one of myfavorite examples of this is
(04:49):
you're putting on thesedifferent type of glasses when
you're going into this emotion.
So let's say that you arefeeling a little bit angry, okay
, and that specific momentyou're starting to put on
glasses, everything around youthrough this angry vision, right
(05:27):
, everything that you look atjust makes you angrier and
angrier.
You know even adorable things,like maybe the smile on your
kid's face, or a cute little cat, or maybe a butterfly flying by
for some reason, 10 secondsbefore you were, were angry.
They were wonderful things tolook at, but now that you have
these red glasses on, you'rejust so mad you can't see the
(05:51):
beautiful cuteness of thesethings.
So that's what I'm talkingabout when it comes to emotion,
like energy in motion.
Now, the trick here is a lot ofpeople, when they are in this
emotion, they want to get out ofit as quickly as possible.
(06:13):
And I call it a trick becauseit's not something that you can
easily just get yourself out of.
It's a trick because youbelieve you can.
You believe you can justimmediately just push that
emotion out of you and moveforward in a happy state.
This is what we call pushinghappiness or false happiness.
(06:37):
Trying to always stay positiveis another way to look at it,
but in reality is that if yourenergy is not in a happy state
or in a peaceful state, thenit's impossible for you to move
forward in a happy state.
(06:58):
So what is keeping you fromthat is simply the emotion that
you're currently in.
Okay.
So if you are saying to yourself, oh, I am feeling angry right
now, or I'm feeling sad rightnow, okay, well, the purpose of
an emotion if we look at theword again, emotion, energy,
(07:20):
emotion well, it's to feel, it'sto feel this emotion.
And so, if we can feel theemotion completely this is the
most important word is to feelthe emotion completely, give it
the time that it requires to beexpressed, to feel holy, this
(07:45):
intense sensation of anger, butyou give it the respect that it
deserves.
You're not putting it down,you're not saying, oh, I don't
want to be angry, I don't wantto be angry, oh, I'm feeling
angry again.
No, we're trying to keep it inthis perspective that it's just
(08:07):
a moment of anger.
And if you are focusing on itin a safe place where it's not
being targeted towards others,then you're actually capable of
feeling this emotion completely.
(08:27):
And by doing that, you're doneand you're going back to your
natural state of being peacefuland happy.
So the idea of emotional healingis simply just healing what is
unnatural, and anything that isnot peaceful or happy or another
(08:53):
word for that could be blissfulis an unnatural emotion.
Many people would disagree withme here saying well, eric,
being sad is natural and beingmad is natural, and being
disappointed and feeling angeror envy and jealousy are natural
(09:18):
, or fearful even and they couldargue that and they can find
lots of proof of that and Icould say you know, that is
definitely what we see in life,and people all around us are
expressing and feeling theseemotions and I could say to them
(09:39):
yes, uh, this is definitely acommon sensation that we go
through.
We go through all of thesenegative emotions.
But the question here is not itbeing a natural point or not.
The thing is saying, yes, we dofeel these things, we feel
(10:00):
negative emotions.
But the question that we'rereally trying to focus on is is
this our natural state or not?
Is this the state that we arealways born to be in?
Right, the?
The key thing in life that youask anybody is what do you want
to be?
If you ask them not about yourprofession.
(10:23):
Like I'm not asking you, do you?
What kind of job do you want tohave?
I want to be a teacher.
No, no, no.
I'm asking you, if you couldchoose the feeling that you want
to be all the time, whatfeeling would that be?
I would say everyone who is intheir right mind would say happy
(10:46):
100%.
They would say I want to behappy.
Right, happiness is the goal inlife for everyone.
So if that's the case, then weare all in search for happiness,
and so that means that's ournatural state of being.
We want to be happy.
(11:08):
If we are happy, we aresuccessful.
If we are happy, then we arejoyful, we are peaceful, we are
everything that we want to haveand do.
Okay.
So if we understand that beinghappy is our natural state and
also understand that anythingoutside of being happy is not
(11:32):
our natural state, then we knowthat working out these emotions,
feeling any sort of negativeemotion, then we are capable of
returning to our natural state.
It's possible you probably havefelt that yourself if you've
(11:52):
ever gone exercising, forexample, or gone running and you
did a strenuous exercise beforeyou did that exercise, whether
it was any emotion anger, fear,depression, sadness, confusion,
anything and then, immediatelyafter doing that exercise, you
(12:15):
feel relaxed, you feel peaceful,you feel at ease, happy, and
any of these emotions start tocome to you.
That's because you have helpedyour body release that negative
emotion through exercise.
That's why exercise is a verypopular and great way of having
(12:35):
a healthy body and mind.
Now, what we're trying to dohere is to express not
necessarily you need to goexercise every time you feel a
negative emotion.
Although that can be helpful,it's not necessarily practical
for you to.
You know, we're in the middleof your job, you're feeling
(12:56):
angry all of a sudden and you'relike, okay, I'm going to put on
my running shoes and go run ablock or two.
It doesn't really work out thatway.
So we need to find practicalways of feeling our emotions and
fortunately, there are manyways to feel emotions without
needing to do exercise.
Okay, emotions without needingto do exercise.
(13:20):
I'm not saying that you shouldstop doing your exercise as a
way to relieve your emotions, ofcourse, if that is one of your
ways of doing that, that's great.
What I am offering right now isa way for you to feel your
emotions at any time, and so, ifyou're feeling really intense
about something, or even not, orif you're feeling a little bit
(13:41):
of a negative emotion, forexample anxiety or worry, or
even doubt, then this method I'mabout to teach you will help
you on that journey of goingback to your natural state
quickly.
So the technique I'm going tobe teaching you is what we call
(14:04):
a body scan.
The body scan is very simple.
What we're doing is that we'reusing our mind to ask our body a
question.
Now, I know it might feel alittle weird for a lot of people
hearing this about asking themind to ask the body a question,
(14:25):
but in reality, there are twodifferent little voices in your
head that are connected to thesetwo different parts.
Okay, and so if you ask each ofthem this question, you'll get
a different response.
Our brain is kind of like ourconductor.
It's our engine to help us seethings and move forward and
(14:51):
judge things from anintellectual point of view.
You know this is right, this iswrong.
The body is more understandingof what is good, what is bad for
the body itself, and so body'sway of communicating is
different from how the mindcommunicates.
(15:12):
The mind communicates with usin words and images.
Okay, so maybe you seesomething in your mind from a
memory of the past, or you heara voice in your head from
somebody in the past talking toyou Okay, this is how the mind
communicates.
But the body communicates withemotions.
(15:33):
Okay, when we feel somethingthat's coming from the body,
okay, so that's how the bodywill tell you if something is
going right or wrong.
And so if you're able tounderstand that the body
communicates with emotions, thenyou're able to also do this
process that I'm about to teachyou.
(15:54):
Okay, but we need the mind andthe body to cooperate with each
other here.
This is a practice ofmindfulness.
So, mind-body communication,we're bringing balance to these
two, and if we can do that,simply by using our mind to ask
the body a question, it'll bevery easy for us to move forward
(16:15):
.
So here is the question thatwe're going to ask.
So the mind is going to say tothe body hey, body, on a scale
from one to 10, how do you feelright now?
Oh, so at this moment, you'regoing to just listen to the body
, simply say oh, I feel like athree.
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Okay, you feel like a three.
And keep in mind, anythingcloser to one, like 12344, are
going to be lower level emotions, okay.
So we're looking at things thatare heavy.
Some negative emotions aredefinitely going to be in this
area.
On the other hand, if we're atfive or six, we're looking at
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some more neutral emotions,something like you might not
even feel anything at all, orthese emotions are a little bit
more complicated to understandbecause they're so subtle,
they're not very strong, andthen, on the other hand, 7 up, 7
, 8, 9, 10, are usually going tobe lighter, more positive
(17:23):
emotions that we are having inthe body at that moment.
Okay, so let's go back to ourexample.
I have a three, okay, after Iasked myself the number.
Okay, it gives me some clarity.
Okay, I'm not feeling positive,I'm feeling more negative at
this moment.
Okay, nothing to judge, youknow, I'm just feeling that.
(17:44):
So, okay, there's a negativeemotion.
Okay, question where am Ifeeling it?
The mind's asking the body hey,body, where is this three?
The body starts scanning.
We're looking around the bodyand I'm saying, okay, I feel it
in my lower stomach and I feelit in my back.
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Okay, cool.
So now we know where it is andwe know how much of a negative
feeling I'm feeling.
It's a three, okay, so it'sokay, it's a low number.
It's low.
Now I want to want, I want toknow what the feeling is.
Okay, so I'll ask okay, what isthe emotion I'm feeling right
(18:30):
now?
Okay, the things that come upin my head are hatred and
frustration.
Okay, now notice here thatafter I do this question, I'm
not going to do.
The most natural thing that youmight be thinking right now,
(18:50):
that is to ask why.
Okay, we're not looking for whyin this situation, because why
is a mind question?
Keep very close here why is amind question?
It's not a body question,because mind is very good at
solving how questions and whyquestions.
(19:14):
Okay, but with body, we'refocusing on emotions.
Okay, we're not trying to solvesomething here, we're just
trying to feel.
So don't ask why.
Okay, the body will tell you areason why, maybe when you're
feeling the emotion, but don'task it, because the purpose here
is not to solve, it's to feel.
(19:37):
Okay, we're trying to just feelthe emotion, okay.
So here we go, when you knowwhat the emotion is, we know
it's hatred, for this example ishatred, uh and feeling anger or
frustration, and we know thatit's in the lower stomach, in
the back, and we know it's athree.
(19:59):
Now, simply feel it for 20seconds.
Okay, here we go.
You were feeling it for 20seconds 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11,
12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19,20.
(20:23):
And that's it.
I felt it and now you know alot of people like to work with
affirmations.
These are phrases that you cansay that and reinforce
positivity, and you know, youhave this moment that you can
add positivity to your bodyafter going through the process
(20:47):
of feeling negative emotions,and a lot of people like to do
this because it's kind of aswitch from negative to positive
, and this is scientificallyproven to be very helpful in
terms of going back to yournatural state of happiness.
So a way that I like tointroduce that is just simply
(21:08):
saying thank you, thank you forletting me feel this feeling.
You know, just saying that toyourself, inside your mind or
outside, out loud, both are fineand you can reinforce it by
saying things like I'm grateful,or I love you, or I appreciate
you, anything like this, andthen the emotion starts to get
(21:36):
lighter.
Now you have a choice here ofjust completing the task after
that and calling it good, ortuning it again and seeing what
your number is now.
So I'm going to do that.
Hey, body on a scale from one toten, how do I feel?
Oh, I feel like an eight.
Wow, look at that.
I'm in the more of the positiveside of the emotions,
automatically, and the reasonfor that is simple.
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I went through the process ofwhat an emotion needs to feel.
Now that I've felt the emotion,I'm back into a natural state
of happiness and peacefulness,and this is something that you
can easily add to your life byadding something like a reminder
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to do this.
This is my suggestion to anybodywho is out there struggling
with understanding how to feeltheir emotions, and if you're
interested in learning more wayson how to release your emotions
or even be more effective withit, you can learn more through
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communicating with a life coach.
Anita and I, eric, are lifecoaches, and you can find our
services available atericandanitacom, and you can
learn more about how to add thisto your life and much more more
techniques on how to reallyattract the things that you want
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in your life, because if youstart having more positive
emotions, things that you reallywant in your life will also
become more available to you,because you're able to look
through the world with happyglasses rather than angry
glasses.
So I hope you found today'sepisode helpful, resourceful,
(23:24):
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This is episode 82, talking about what is emotional
healing and how can you add itto your daily life, with your
host, eric, who is here todaysolo and going to tell you one
fun fact about Anita, and thatis she is totally afraid of wet
floors.
(00:21):
What's going on?
Everybody, eric, here, happy tobe back with another great
Friday Shorts talking aboutsomething I'm very passionate
about and I think will be veryhelpful for your daily life of
understanding, which isemotional healing.
What do I need to do to heal myemotions?
(00:43):
Why do I even need to heal myemotions?
What does that even mean, eric?
What are we talking about?
Don't worry, I'm going toclarify all of these things in
today's short episode.
So sit back, relax and enjoythe conversation of listening to
my wonderful voice today inthis conversation.
(01:08):
All right, so we're diving intoemotional healing.
Well, let's look at these twowords before we even start.
We're looking at emotions.
Okay, emotions can be a varietyof things.
It can be something like happy,sad, angry or even depressed or
frustrated.
It can be something that isvery small, like feeling a
(01:31):
little excited about the nextpackage coming from Shopee or
Amazon, depending on where youlive, or something really big,
like disappointment because youdidn't achieve the goal that you
worked so hard for.
All of this stuff is related toemotions, and that's why, on
(01:51):
Taiwanica, we love talking aboutemotions, because there's a
huge variety of them and theyinfluence our life every single
day, and the more you becomeaware of them, the better your
life will be.
Now that's where we get intohealing, and healing is simply
just becoming aware of whatthese emotions are and how to
(02:13):
feel them according to theirneeds, because each emotion has
their own result, and thatresult can happen based on your
choice or based on somethingthat you're just not aware of or
another word for that isignorance and if that happens,
then sometimes the way you wantthings to happen don't end up
(02:36):
the way that you expected.
So maybe when you're mad andyou're trying to explain
something to somebody whilebeing mad, you actually make the
situation worse than better,and that's not always how it
could be.
You can actually be mad,express yourself and still get
(02:57):
the thing that you want.
I'm pretty sure you have hadthis kind of experience, and
sometimes it's effective, andI'm telling you is that if you
know what emotional healing is,this can be the result every
time, if you really know how touse it, okay.
So what we're going to look atnow is how.
(03:19):
What is emotional healing in aday-to-day basis, and I'm going
to also teach you a couple oftechniques so that you can apply
it in your life.
You know, test it out, see whatyou think.
So emotional healing comes fromsimply understanding the power
(03:40):
of an emotion.
So let's actually just look atthe word emotion one more time,
but this time we're going tobreak it apart.
Okay, I'm going to separate theE from emotion, okay.
So if we look at it with E andmotion, we can look at the
letter E and change it intoanother word.
(04:00):
I like to change it into theword energy.
Okay.
So in this situation, we haveenergy and then the word motion,
in other words, energy inmotion.
That's what an emotion is ifyou really think about it.
It's our energy moving, andwe're moving through a filter.
(04:23):
A way that I like to look at itis whenever we have a certain
feeling going on happy, sad,angry, depressed, excited, it
doesn't matter.
Any of these emotions is fine,but what happens is is,
basically, you become a person alittle bit different than you
are naturally, and so one of myfavorite examples of this is
(04:49):
you're putting on thesedifferent type of glasses when
you're going into this emotion.
So let's say that you arefeeling a little bit angry, okay
, and that specific momentyou're starting to put on
glasses, everything around youthrough this angry vision, right
(05:27):
, everything that you look atjust makes you angrier and
angrier.
You know even adorable things,like maybe the smile on your
kid's face, or a cute little cat, or maybe a butterfly flying by
for some reason, 10 secondsbefore you were, were angry.
They were wonderful things tolook at, but now that you have
these red glasses on, you'rejust so mad you can't see the
(05:51):
beautiful cuteness of thesethings.
So that's what I'm talkingabout when it comes to emotion,
like energy in motion.
Now, the trick here is a lot ofpeople, when they are in this
emotion, they want to get out ofit as quickly as possible.
(06:13):
And I call it a trick becauseit's not something that you can
easily just get yourself out of.
It's a trick because youbelieve you can.
You believe you can justimmediately just push that
emotion out of you and moveforward in a happy state.
This is what we call pushinghappiness or false happiness.
(06:37):
Trying to always stay positiveis another way to look at it,
but in reality is that if yourenergy is not in a happy state
or in a peaceful state, thenit's impossible for you to move
forward in a happy state.
(06:58):
So what is keeping you fromthat is simply the emotion that
you're currently in.
Okay.
So if you are saying to yourself, oh, I am feeling angry right
now, or I'm feeling sad rightnow, okay, well, the purpose of
an emotion if we look at theword again, emotion, energy,
(07:20):
emotion well, it's to feel, it'sto feel this emotion.
And so, if we can feel theemotion completely this is the
most important word is to feelthe emotion completely, give it
the time that it requires to beexpressed, to feel holy, this
(07:45):
intense sensation of anger, butyou give it the respect that it
deserves.
You're not putting it down,you're not saying, oh, I don't
want to be angry, I don't wantto be angry, oh, I'm feeling
angry again.
No, we're trying to keep it inthis perspective that it's just
(08:07):
a moment of anger.
And if you are focusing on itin a safe place where it's not
being targeted towards others,then you're actually capable of
feeling this emotion completely.
(08:27):
And by doing that, you're doneand you're going back to your
natural state of being peacefuland happy.
So the idea of emotional healingis simply just healing what is
unnatural, and anything that isnot peaceful or happy or another
(08:53):
word for that could be blissfulis an unnatural emotion.
Many people would disagree withme here saying well, eric,
being sad is natural and beingmad is natural, and being
disappointed and feeling angeror envy and jealousy are natural
(09:18):
, or fearful even and they couldargue that and they can find
lots of proof of that and Icould say you know, that is
definitely what we see in life,and people all around us are
expressing and feeling theseemotions and I could say to them
(09:39):
yes, uh, this is definitely acommon sensation that we go
through.
We go through all of thesenegative emotions.
But the question here is not itbeing a natural point or not.
The thing is saying, yes, we dofeel these things, we feel
(10:00):
negative emotions.
But the question that we'rereally trying to focus on is is
this our natural state or not?
Is this the state that we arealways born to be in?
Right, the?
The key thing in life that youask anybody is what do you want
to be?
If you ask them not about yourprofession.
(10:23):
Like I'm not asking you, do you?
What kind of job do you want tohave?
I want to be a teacher.
No, no, no.
I'm asking you, if you couldchoose the feeling that you want
to be all the time, whatfeeling would that be?
I would say everyone who is intheir right mind would say happy
(10:46):
100%.
They would say I want to behappy.
Right, happiness is the goal inlife for everyone.
So if that's the case, then weare all in search for happiness,
and so that means that's ournatural state of being.
We want to be happy.
(11:08):
If we are happy, we aresuccessful.
If we are happy, then we arejoyful, we are peaceful, we are
everything that we want to haveand do.
Okay.
So if we understand that beinghappy is our natural state and
also understand that anythingoutside of being happy is not
(11:32):
our natural state, then we knowthat working out these emotions,
feeling any sort of negativeemotion, then we are capable of
returning to our natural state.
It's possible you probably havefelt that yourself if you've
(11:52):
ever gone exercising, forexample, or gone running and you
did a strenuous exercise beforeyou did that exercise, whether
it was any emotion anger, fear,depression, sadness, confusion,
anything and then, immediatelyafter doing that exercise, you
(12:15):
feel relaxed, you feel peaceful,you feel at ease, happy, and
any of these emotions start tocome to you.
That's because you have helpedyour body release that negative
emotion through exercise.
That's why exercise is a verypopular and great way of having
(12:35):
a healthy body and mind.
Now, what we're trying to dohere is to express not
necessarily you need to goexercise every time you feel a
negative emotion.
Although that can be helpful,it's not necessarily practical
for you to.
You know, we're in the middleof your job, you're feeling
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angry all of a sudden and you'relike, okay, I'm going to put on
my running shoes and go run ablock or two.
It doesn't really work out thatway.
So we need to find practicalways of feeling our emotions and
fortunately, there are manyways to feel emotions without
needing to do exercise.
Okay, emotions without needingto do exercise.
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I'm not saying that you shouldstop doing your exercise as a
way to relieve your emotions, ofcourse, if that is one of your
ways of doing that, that's great.
What I am offering right now isa way for you to feel your
emotions at any time, and so, ifyou're feeling really intense
about something, or even not, orif you're feeling a little bit
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of a negative emotion, forexample anxiety or worry, or
even doubt, then this method I'mabout to teach you will help
you on that journey of goingback to your natural state
quickly.
So the technique I'm going tobe teaching you is what we call
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a body scan.
The body scan is very simple.
What we're doing is that we'reusing our mind to ask our body a
question.
Now, I know it might feel alittle weird for a lot of people
hearing this about asking themind to ask the body a question,
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but in reality, there are twodifferent little voices in your
head that are connected to thesetwo different parts.
Okay, and so if you ask each ofthem this question, you'll get
a different response.
Our brain is kind of like ourconductor.
It's our engine to help us seethings and move forward and
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judge things from anintellectual point of view.
You know this is right, this iswrong.
The body is more understandingof what is good, what is bad for
the body itself, and so body'sway of communicating is
different from how the mindcommunicates.
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The mind communicates with usin words and images.
Okay, so maybe you seesomething in your mind from a
memory of the past, or you heara voice in your head from
somebody in the past talking toyou Okay, this is how the mind
communicates.
But the body communicates withemotions.
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Okay, when we feel somethingthat's coming from the body,
okay, so that's how the bodywill tell you if something is
going right or wrong.
And so if you're able tounderstand that the body
communicates with emotions, thenyou're able to also do this
process that I'm about to teachyou.
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Okay, but we need the mind andthe body to cooperate with each
other here.
This is a practice ofmindfulness.
So, mind-body communication,we're bringing balance to these
two, and if we can do that,simply by using our mind to ask
the body a question, it'll bevery easy for us to move forward
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.
So here is the question thatwe're going to ask.
So the mind is going to say tothe body hey, body, on a scale
from one to 10, how do you feelright now?
Oh, so at this moment, you'regoing to just listen to the body
, simply say oh, I feel like athree.
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Okay, you feel like a three.
And keep in mind, anythingcloser to one, like 12344, are
going to be lower level emotions, okay.
So we're looking at things thatare heavy.
Some negative emotions aredefinitely going to be in this
area.
On the other hand, if we're atfive or six, we're looking at
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some more neutral emotions,something like you might not
even feel anything at all, orthese emotions are a little bit
more complicated to understandbecause they're so subtle,
they're not very strong, andthen, on the other hand, 7 up, 7
, 8, 9, 10, are usually going tobe lighter, more positive
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emotions that we are having inthe body at that moment.
Okay, so let's go back to ourexample.
I have a three, okay, after Iasked myself the number.
Okay, it gives me some clarity.
Okay, I'm not feeling positive,I'm feeling more negative at
this moment.
Okay, nothing to judge, youknow, I'm just feeling that.
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So, okay, there's a negativeemotion.
Okay, question where am Ifeeling it?
The mind's asking the body hey,body, where is this three?
The body starts scanning.
We're looking around the bodyand I'm saying, okay, I feel it
in my lower stomach and I feelit in my back.
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Okay, cool.
So now we know where it is andwe know how much of a negative
feeling I'm feeling.
It's a three, okay, so it'sokay, it's a low number.
It's low.
Now I want to want, I want toknow what the feeling is.
Okay, so I'll ask okay, what isthe emotion I'm feeling right
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now?
Okay, the things that come upin my head are hatred and
frustration.
Okay, now notice here thatafter I do this question, I'm
not going to do.
The most natural thing that youmight be thinking right now,
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that is to ask why.
Okay, we're not looking for whyin this situation, because why
is a mind question?
Keep very close here why is amind question?
It's not a body question,because mind is very good at
solving how questions and whyquestions.
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Okay, but with body, we'refocusing on emotions.
Okay, we're not trying to solvesomething here, we're just
trying to feel.
So don't ask why.
Okay, the body will tell you areason why, maybe when you're
feeling the emotion, but don'task it, because the purpose here
is not to solve, it's to feel.
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Okay, we're trying to just feelthe emotion, okay.
So here we go, when you knowwhat the emotion is, we know
it's hatred, for this example ishatred, uh and feeling anger or
frustration, and we know thatit's in the lower stomach, in
the back, and we know it's athree.
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Now, simply feel it for 20seconds.
Okay, here we go.
You were feeling it for 20seconds 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11,
12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19,20.
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And that's it.
I felt it and now you know alot of people like to work with
affirmations.
These are phrases that you cansay that and reinforce
positivity, and you know, youhave this moment that you can
add positivity to your bodyafter going through the process
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of feeling negative emotions,and a lot of people like to do
this because it's kind of aswitch from negative to positive
, and this is scientificallyproven to be very helpful in
terms of going back to yournatural state of happiness.
So a way that I like tointroduce that is just simply
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saying thank you, thank you forletting me feel this feeling.
You know, just saying that toyourself, inside your mind or
outside, out loud, both are fineand you can reinforce it by
saying things like I'm grateful,or I love you, or I appreciate
you, anything like this, andthen the emotion starts to get
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lighter.
Now you have a choice here ofjust completing the task after
that and calling it good, ortuning it again and seeing what
your number is now.
So I'm going to do that.
Hey, body on a scale from one toten, how do I feel?
Oh, I feel like an eight.
Wow, look at that.
I'm in the more of the positiveside of the emotions,
automatically, and the reasonfor that is simple.
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I went through the process ofwhat an emotion needs to feel.
Now that I've felt the emotion,I'm back into a natural state
of happiness and peacefulness,and this is something that you
can easily add to your life byadding something like a reminder
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to do this.
This is my suggestion to anybodywho is out there struggling
with understanding how to feeltheir emotions, and if you're
interested in learning more wayson how to release your emotions
or even be more effective withit, you can learn more through
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communicating with a life coach.
Anita and I, eric, are lifecoaches, and you can find our
services available atericandanitacom, and you can
learn more about how to add thisto your life and much more more
techniques on how to reallyattract the things that you want
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in your life, because if youstart having more positive
emotions, things that you reallywant in your life will also
become more available to you,because you're able to look
through the world with happyglasses rather than angry
glasses.
So I hope you found today'sepisode helpful, resourceful,
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enjoyable.
If you did, definitely leave areview wherever you're listening
, share it with a friend who youmight think will be in need and
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