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What if we told you that embracing your deepest pain could be the key to profound healing? Join me, Eric, as I open up about my personal journey through the heart-wrenching loss of my mother to cancer. In the first part of this episode, we unravel the true nature of grief, exploring how it emerges from the end of significant relationships or connections. By sharing metaphors and relatable examples, such as the feeling of emptiness after losing a cherished object or even the experience of getting wisdom teeth removed, we aim to provide a vivid and relatable picture of the void and pain grief brings. Learn why we experience grief and discover practical advice on how to navigate its challenging waves.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is episode 89, talking about grief.
What is it and how does itaffect you?
Welcome back to TaiwanicaPodcast everybody.
This is Eric, your host herefor a very important episode
that I'm very excited to sharewith you.
Even though it is a darkeremotion that we experience, it's
(00:26):
something that we all need tounderstand clearly, because I
believe, no matter who you areor where you're from, grief will
be something that you willexperience as part of your life
here on planet earth.
So understanding what itactually is and how to go
(00:47):
through it is something veryimportant.
And now, for those who don'tknow me very well, I've
experienced grief quite a fewtimes in my life.
Just about a year ago, I lostone of the most important people
in my life, my mother, to avery horrible series of cancer.
(01:09):
She died from stage four breastcancer and the fight was long
and painful.
So I'm going to be talking alittle bit about that as my own
personal experience, along withother smaller experiences of
grief, along with what are someremedies to grief and what
(01:31):
actually grief is, because a lotof people know what the word is
but don't really understand whyit happens to them or how it
happens to them.
And then, finally, my ownpersonal advice on what to do
when experiencing it.
So we're going to start smalland work our way up in this
(01:53):
episode, because it's a very bigtopic, so definitely strap in
for understanding what thisemotion really means, because
the goal of this episode is toreally leave you with everything
that you need to know aboutgrief for now on.
So we're going to start withthe word grief.
(02:16):
What is it?
Grief is the experience ofsadness and mourning about
someone that has passed, and itdoesn't have to just be a person
.
It could be also a an importantthing in your life, whether
it's a pet, a plant, it could beanything really that you have a
(02:39):
loving connection to.
That's the key here is thatthere was love attached to this
relationship, and now that loveis no longer capable of being
expressed, for whatever reasonokay, whether it's the passing
or the leaving or whatever itmay be, and so we're going to
(02:59):
talk about that now.
How does, how does all of thisgrief even occur?
Grief usually is something weexperience when we have the
awareness that this experienceor this person is no longer
capable of continuing.
So the death of somebody, ormaybe the moving from one place
(03:26):
to another, or the ending of avery important relationship.
These are all similar to grief,so the person doesn't
necessarily need to die for thisto happen.
For example, having a seriousheartbreak because of a
(03:48):
relationship ending is also anexperience of grief.
For the reason why we have griefis simple Our heart believes
that the relationship or theconnection that we had to this
specific thing or person is justnot possible of continuing.
(04:09):
And the heart wants it tocontinue, but recognizes that
it's no longer possible.
So, in the way that makes theheart feel empty, and that
emptiness is what you're feelingas grief.
So, to give this a very clearexample, grief is very similar
(04:34):
to a hole in the ground and Ilike to just take you on a
little image journey.
And let's say, you and I werewalking in a very, very clear
day, but the ground is black,okay, and the ground has nothing
(04:55):
but just black sand, and you're, we're just walking on black
sand together, and then, all ofa sudden, we notice that there
is a giant hole in the ground.
Okay, there's no black sandthere, it's just empty in this
place where there should beblack sand.
Okay, that black sand is whatwe're standing on, is what we
(05:20):
consider as love.
And then the hole is where theblack sand used to be, but no
longer is, and that is grief.
Okay, so love is trying to fillmore black sand into this hole,
but the hole has no bottom toit.
It's there's no way to refillthis hole that used to have
(05:43):
black sand there, and that'swhat the heart is basically
trying to do is trying to fillup this hole with black sand,
but it's just impossible becauseit has no bottom.
And this sensation ofconstantly trying to feel love
in a place that used to be thereis what caused us to hate the
(06:06):
feeling of grief.
It makes us feel lacking.
It feels like unworthiness oflove, because for some reason,
we don't feel as whole orcomplete as we used to.
But in reality, what's actuallyhappening is just we've lost
somebody or something, and toacknowledge that and accept that
(06:30):
for what it is is painful,because we now have this new
part of us that wasn't therebefore.
It's very similar to when you goto the dentist.
All of us for all those who arelistening that are at least
adults you've had probably atooth or one, or two or three
(06:54):
teeth that have been removed.
Like have you ever had wisdomteeth.
I know not everybody has wisdomteeth, but a lot of people do
so.
To all of you who have wisdomteeth in the back of your mouth,
you've definitely have had thesituation where you had they had
those removed, otherwise theywould cause more problems inside
(07:15):
of your mouth later on withyour other teeth.
So the dentist says we got toget these out.
And you don't think anything ofit.
You're just like, okay, yeah,there, I don't need these teeth,
so let's get them out of there.
So after the surgery, what doyou notice?
You have holes in the back ofyour mouth that used to have
(07:35):
something that you you didn'tthink that you wanted.
But when you feel the emptinessthere, you kind of feel a
little sad.
Oh, that tooth is no longerthere, it's no longer a part of
me and I'm left with nothing.
It's kind of the same way withour heart.
When we have this emptinessinside of us, we believe you
know, oh man, this is kind ofsad.
(07:58):
I wish I had this to be filledagain with what was there before
.
So when we're experiencing thesadness, a lot of people think
that it's an emotion that weshould block or ignore.
So as a result of that.
A lot of people will go and dothings to numb us the feeling or
(08:23):
to ignore the feeling.
Some of those things could bedrinking alcohol or going to
parties to distract themselves,or you know, just doing things
that don't require any time tospend focusing on that emotion,
(08:44):
and so these kind of things willonly stop you for a temporary
amount of time from feeling it,but sooner or later, the grief
will come back again, andgrief's job is for you to
recognize it.
If you have listened to theepisodes we've made here before,
(09:07):
we talk a lot about this in thelast episode, with stress, so I
definitely recommend you checkout that episode too, to
understand more aboutacknowledging emotions.
Today, though, with grief, thesimple thing is is that when we
feel that emptiness inside of usand we give it its attention
(09:28):
when it's asking for it, whathappens is, at first, it's
pretty painful and it can bereally intense.
So having a moment to yourselfto experience it is really
important, but the mostimportant thing to realize is
the more times you experiencegrief about that one particular
(09:50):
person or thing, the shorterthat grief will become as time
goes on.
Why is this?
Because you're allowing thegrief be felt, you're also
allowing it to heal.
You're also allowing it to heal, but if you do not accept the
feeling of grief when it comes,that means you're making the
(10:19):
healing process time longer andlonger.
So it's very similar to like abroken arm.
If you don't allow the brokenarm to be put into a cast or,
you know, a little hard shell tomake it so that it is safe from
outside environment and damage,then it's very easy for that
arm to either break again or bedamaged more or, even worse, it
(10:44):
won't actually heal completely.
So usually if you have a brokenarm, you go to the hospital.
They give you something to takecare of it and then you listen
to what the doctor says Takecare of it, don't let it touch
things, make sure it doesn'tmove too much and, yeah, just be
careful with it.
So let this be me as your heartdoctor for a second.
(11:10):
I'm not an actual doctor, okay,but just saying as for the
healing of your grief,understand that what we're
saying grief can be healed ifyou allow it to be felt.
So an easy way to do that is togive yourself some time to feel
(11:36):
it, whenever that is.
You can welcome grief to yourlife.
Just so you know, you don'thave to wait for it to pop up,
you don't have to be somewhereoutside and all of a sudden,
boom, there's grief.
Okay, everybody, hold on.
I gotta go into the bathroomfor the next 20 minutes to feel
my grief.
Just see you guys later.
(11:56):
No, you don't have to do that.
It's not like diarrhea, okay.
Uh, grief is an emotion, and soif you have grief and you
recognize that you have griefinside you, and if you take the
time when you feel it's rightwhether it's at home, safe and
sound, or in a very specialplace, maybe where you go see
(12:19):
your therapist or wherever itmay be and you just allow
yourself at that moment to feelthe grief, then it will come.
So how do you ignite the griefright?
Like, how do you invite thisgrief to start?
Well, it's very simple really.
(12:40):
If you think of a memoryrelated to the grief, whether
it's a passing, of somebody orsomething, and you think of the
happiest moments that createdlove, then that would be the way
for grief to begin.
And I'm about to share with yousomething that, when I learned
(13:02):
about this from my mentor, itreally opened my eyes about what
grief is.
Remember the black sand exampleI talked about earlier, the
black sand is love.
And then when there are holesthat the black sand is trying to
fill, that's grief.
(13:22):
But notice that you're tryingto fill these holes with black
sand and if the black sand islove, that means you're trying
to fill these holes with love.
So, in other words, if youwould say love is a positive
(13:43):
emotion, what is the opposite ofyou could say the opposite of
love is grief, right?
So this opposite is not sayingthat good or bad.
We're not saying grief is bad.
We're saying the positive sideis love and the negative side is
(14:05):
grief.
It's kind of like the yin andyang or the yin and yang of love
.
So noticing that grief is equalto love.
When you feel grief, technicallyyou were actually feeling love
to the thing that you felt loveto before.
(14:26):
So to give a very personalexample here, talking about my
mother, when I think about mymother nowadays, sometimes a
song will start playing, or apicture pops up or a message
pops up that has her voice in it.
(14:47):
I'll feel a little bitemotional, I'll feel grief about
that experience and because Irecognize it, knowing, oh,
that's grief right there, what Ido is simply feel it for what
it is, because I understand thatwhile I'm feeling this grief,
(15:08):
I'm actually feeling love for mymother, and because I'm feeling
love for my mother in thismoment, there's no other emotion
that I would want to feel,because love is the most empower
, most powerful and mostconnected emotion that I have to
her.
So if I'm feeling grief to her,that means I'm feeling love to
(15:30):
her.
So, yeah, of course I'm goingto want to feel this grief.
So if you can understand thattoo, that means anytime that you
want to feel a deep connectionto the people or the things that
have passed and you notice itas grief, it's okay.
(15:51):
Now, right, because you knowthat you're just feeling love in
a different way.
So taking the time to just sitdown with yourself usually alone
, is best for 10 to 20 minutesand just allowing yourself in
whatever way works for you,whether it's writing a journal
or just sitting there andthinking about it or meditating,
(16:13):
whatever it is that helps youremember those emotions and that
grief.
It's okay because you'reallowing yourself to feel these
new parts of you, these holesthat are inside of you, and
that's all right.
That experience, because that'spart of being alive, and that's
all right, that experiencebecause that's part of being
(16:34):
alive is that we go through lifeand we experience life.
But life has two sides birth,where we see babies and we see
the beginning of everything, andalso death, where we see the
(16:54):
end of things.
And so when we see thebeginning, we see joy, we see
this freedom of something newand exciting, but at the end we
see death, and that is thesadness of something ending, but
also the beauty that life islimited.
Our life has a timeline,everyone has it and just
(17:18):
recognizing that we are notinvincible and we're not going
to live forever, and acceptingevery moment that we have with
the people that are with us now,gives us this sense of beauty
that we are, no matter what,going to have the same
experience as the people whohave already passed.
So why not enjoy every singlemoment that we have now, because
(17:42):
sooner or later it will come toan end, but that's not a bad
thing, it's just part of life,right?
So understanding that we'removing through this process and
experience of just enjoying allthese new things, whether it is
the beginning of something orthe end of something too.
(18:05):
So hopefully that gives yousome perspective about grief.
Grief is beautiful and itdoesn't have to be something you
have to avoid.
It's something that you canexperience, and if you have
someone in your life that'sexperiencing grief and they
don't know how to tackle it,share it with them this episode
(18:27):
or what you learned from it,because this is something that
is universal.
But also realize, if you doknow someone that's experiencing
grief and they don't know howto do or when to do it, give
them some insight about what isneeded to be done, because if
(18:47):
they don't do it, then they'rejust avoiding something that is
very beautiful in life.
So just realize that wheneversomeone is experiencing grief
whether it's you or somebodyelse that it's okay to have that
space to do it, okay.
(19:09):
So I really hope that you foundtoday's episode insightful and
meaningful to you, whoever youare, and know that I love you
and everyone around you alsoloves you for who you are.
And if you are experiencinggrief in this, know that it's
(19:30):
okay to be there and experienceit, because it's just part of
this beautiful thing that we'reexperiencing.
That one day we will not, andthat's alright.
So going through this doesn'thave to be something you have to
do alone, you know.
Share it with someone reallyspecial with you, and they'll
(19:55):
surely understand that it's okay.
So much love to all of you outthere.
If you enjoyed today's episode,please definitely like it and
share it with whomever.
And, yeah, we hope to see youin the next episode, which is
going to be a little surprise,so definitely tune in to episode
(20:17):
90 of Tai Oanaka podcast.
We'll see you next time.
This is episode 89, talking about grief.
What is it and how does itaffect you?
Welcome back to TaiwanicaPodcast everybody.
This is Eric, your host herefor a very important episode
that I'm very excited to sharewith you.
Even though it is a darkeremotion that we experience, it's
(00:26):
something that we all need tounderstand clearly, because I
believe, no matter who you areor where you're from, grief will
be something that you willexperience as part of your life
here on planet earth.
So understanding what itactually is and how to go
(00:47):
through it is something veryimportant.
And now, for those who don'tknow me very well, I've
experienced grief quite a fewtimes in my life.
Just about a year ago, I lostone of the most important people
in my life, my mother, to avery horrible series of cancer.
(01:09):
She died from stage four breastcancer and the fight was long
and painful.
So I'm going to be talking alittle bit about that as my own
personal experience, along withother smaller experiences of
grief, along with what are someremedies to grief and what
(01:31):
actually grief is, because a lotof people know what the word is
but don't really understand whyit happens to them or how it
happens to them.
And then, finally, my ownpersonal advice on what to do
when experiencing it.
So we're going to start smalland work our way up in this
(01:53):
episode, because it's a very bigtopic, so definitely strap in
for understanding what thisemotion really means, because
the goal of this episode is toreally leave you with everything
that you need to know aboutgrief for now on.
So we're going to start withthe word grief.
(02:16):
What is it?
Grief is the experience ofsadness and mourning about
someone that has passed, and itdoesn't have to just be a person
.
It could be also a an importantthing in your life, whether
it's a pet, a plant, it could beanything really that you have a
(02:39):
loving connection to.
That's the key here is thatthere was love attached to this
relationship, and now that loveis no longer capable of being
expressed, for whatever reasonokay, whether it's the passing
or the leaving or whatever itmay be, and so we're going to
(02:59):
talk about that now.
How does, how does all of thisgrief even occur?
Grief usually is something weexperience when we have the
awareness that this experienceor this person is no longer
capable of continuing.
So the death of somebody, ormaybe the moving from one place
(03:26):
to another, or the ending of avery important relationship.
These are all similar to grief,so the person doesn't
necessarily need to die for thisto happen.
For example, having a seriousheartbreak because of a
(03:48):
relationship ending is also anexperience of grief.
For the reason why we have griefis simple Our heart believes
that the relationship or theconnection that we had to this
specific thing or person is justnot possible of continuing.
(04:09):
And the heart wants it tocontinue, but recognizes that
it's no longer possible.
So, in the way that makes theheart feel empty, and that
emptiness is what you're feelingas grief.
So, to give this a very clearexample, grief is very similar
(04:34):
to a hole in the ground and Ilike to just take you on a
little image journey.
And let's say, you and I werewalking in a very, very clear
day, but the ground is black,okay, and the ground has nothing
(04:55):
but just black sand, and you're, we're just walking on black
sand together, and then, all ofa sudden, we notice that there
is a giant hole in the ground.
Okay, there's no black sandthere, it's just empty in this
place where there should beblack sand.
Okay, that black sand is whatwe're standing on, is what we
(05:20):
consider as love.
And then the hole is where theblack sand used to be, but no
longer is, and that is grief.
Okay, so love is trying to fillmore black sand into this hole,
but the hole has no bottom toit.
It's there's no way to refillthis hole that used to have
(05:43):
black sand there, and that'swhat the heart is basically
trying to do is trying to fillup this hole with black sand,
but it's just impossible becauseit has no bottom.
And this sensation ofconstantly trying to feel love
in a place that used to be thereis what caused us to hate the
(06:06):
feeling of grief.
It makes us feel lacking.
It feels like unworthiness oflove, because for some reason,
we don't feel as whole orcomplete as we used to.
But in reality, what's actuallyhappening is just we've lost
somebody or something, and toacknowledge that and accept that
(06:30):
for what it is is painful,because we now have this new
part of us that wasn't therebefore.
It's very similar to when you goto the dentist.
All of us for all those who arelistening that are at least
adults you've had probably atooth or one, or two or three
(06:54):
teeth that have been removed.
Like have you ever had wisdomteeth.
I know not everybody has wisdomteeth, but a lot of people do
so.
To all of you who have wisdomteeth in the back of your mouth,
you've definitely have had thesituation where you had they had
those removed, otherwise theywould cause more problems inside
(07:15):
of your mouth later on withyour other teeth.
So the dentist says we got toget these out.
And you don't think anything ofit.
You're just like, okay, yeah,there, I don't need these teeth,
so let's get them out of there.
So after the surgery, what doyou notice?
You have holes in the back ofyour mouth that used to have
(07:35):
something that you you didn'tthink that you wanted.
But when you feel the emptinessthere, you kind of feel a
little sad.
Oh, that tooth is no longerthere, it's no longer a part of
me and I'm left with nothing.
It's kind of the same way withour heart.
When we have this emptinessinside of us, we believe you
know, oh man, this is kind ofsad.
(07:58):
I wish I had this to be filledagain with what was there before
.
So when we're experiencing thesadness, a lot of people think
that it's an emotion that weshould block or ignore.
So as a result of that.
A lot of people will go and dothings to numb us the feeling or
(08:23):
to ignore the feeling.
Some of those things could bedrinking alcohol or going to
parties to distract themselves,or you know, just doing things
that don't require any time tospend focusing on that emotion,
(08:44):
and so these kind of things willonly stop you for a temporary
amount of time from feeling it,but sooner or later, the grief
will come back again, andgrief's job is for you to
recognize it.
If you have listened to theepisodes we've made here before,
(09:07):
we talk a lot about this in thelast episode, with stress, so I
definitely recommend you checkout that episode too, to
understand more aboutacknowledging emotions.
Today, though, with grief, thesimple thing is is that when we
feel that emptiness inside of usand we give it its attention
(09:28):
when it's asking for it, whathappens is, at first, it's
pretty painful and it can bereally intense.
So having a moment to yourselfto experience it is really
important, but the mostimportant thing to realize is
the more times you experiencegrief about that one particular
(09:50):
person or thing, the shorterthat grief will become as time
goes on.
Why is this?
Because you're allowing thegrief be felt, you're also
allowing it to heal.
You're also allowing it to heal, but if you do not accept the
feeling of grief when it comes,that means you're making the
(10:19):
healing process time longer andlonger.
So it's very similar to like abroken arm.
If you don't allow the brokenarm to be put into a cast or,
you know, a little hard shell tomake it so that it is safe from
outside environment and damage,then it's very easy for that
arm to either break again or bedamaged more or, even worse, it
(10:44):
won't actually heal completely.
So usually if you have a brokenarm, you go to the hospital.
They give you something to takecare of it and then you listen
to what the doctor says Takecare of it, don't let it touch
things, make sure it doesn'tmove too much and, yeah, just be
careful with it.
So let this be me as your heartdoctor for a second.
(11:10):
I'm not an actual doctor, okay,but just saying as for the
healing of your grief,understand that what we're
saying grief can be healed ifyou allow it to be felt.
So an easy way to do that is togive yourself some time to feel
(11:36):
it, whenever that is.
You can welcome grief to yourlife.
Just so you know, you don'thave to wait for it to pop up,
you don't have to be somewhereoutside and all of a sudden,
boom, there's grief.
Okay, everybody, hold on.
I gotta go into the bathroomfor the next 20 minutes to feel
my grief.
Just see you guys later.
(11:56):
No, you don't have to do that.
It's not like diarrhea, okay.
Uh, grief is an emotion, and soif you have grief and you
recognize that you have griefinside you, and if you take the
time when you feel it's rightwhether it's at home, safe and
sound, or in a very specialplace, maybe where you go see
(12:19):
your therapist or wherever itmay be and you just allow
yourself at that moment to feelthe grief, then it will come.
So how do you ignite the griefright?
Like, how do you invite thisgrief to start?
Well, it's very simple really.
(12:40):
If you think of a memoryrelated to the grief, whether
it's a passing, of somebody orsomething, and you think of the
happiest moments that createdlove, then that would be the way
for grief to begin.
And I'm about to share with yousomething that, when I learned
(13:02):
about this from my mentor, itreally opened my eyes about what
grief is.
Remember the black sand exampleI talked about earlier, the
black sand is love.
And then when there are holesthat the black sand is trying to
fill, that's grief.
(13:22):
But notice that you're tryingto fill these holes with black
sand and if the black sand islove, that means you're trying
to fill these holes with love.
So, in other words, if youwould say love is a positive
(13:43):
emotion, what is the opposite ofyou could say the opposite of
love is grief, right?
So this opposite is not sayingthat good or bad.
We're not saying grief is bad.
We're saying the positive sideis love and the negative side is
(14:05):
grief.
It's kind of like the yin andyang or the yin and yang of love
.
So noticing that grief is equalto love.
When you feel grief, technicallyyou were actually feeling love
to the thing that you felt loveto before.
(14:26):
So to give a very personalexample here, talking about my
mother, when I think about mymother nowadays, sometimes a
song will start playing, or apicture pops up or a message
pops up that has her voice in it.
(14:47):
I'll feel a little bitemotional, I'll feel grief about
that experience and because Irecognize it, knowing, oh,
that's grief right there, what Ido is simply feel it for what
it is, because I understand thatwhile I'm feeling this grief,
(15:08):
I'm actually feeling love for mymother, and because I'm feeling
love for my mother in thismoment, there's no other emotion
that I would want to feel,because love is the most empower
, most powerful and mostconnected emotion that I have to
her.
So if I'm feeling grief to her,that means I'm feeling love to
(15:30):
her.
So, yeah, of course I'm goingto want to feel this grief.
So if you can understand thattoo, that means anytime that you
want to feel a deep connectionto the people or the things that
have passed and you notice itas grief, it's okay.
(15:51):
Now, right, because you knowthat you're just feeling love in
a different way.
So taking the time to just sitdown with yourself usually alone
, is best for 10 to 20 minutesand just allowing yourself in
whatever way works for you,whether it's writing a journal
or just sitting there andthinking about it or meditating,
(16:13):
whatever it is that helps youremember those emotions and that
grief.
It's okay because you'reallowing yourself to feel these
new parts of you, these holesthat are inside of you, and
that's all right.
That experience, because that'spart of being alive, and that's
all right, that experiencebecause that's part of being
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alive is that we go through lifeand we experience life.
But life has two sides birth,where we see babies and we see
the beginning of everything, andalso death, where we see the
(16:54):
end of things.
And so when we see thebeginning, we see joy, we see
this freedom of something newand exciting, but at the end we
see death, and that is thesadness of something ending, but
also the beauty that life islimited.
Our life has a timeline,everyone has it and just
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recognizing that we are notinvincible and we're not going
to live forever, and acceptingevery moment that we have with
the people that are with us now,gives us this sense of beauty
that we are, no matter what,going to have the same
experience as the people whohave already passed.
So why not enjoy every singlemoment that we have now, because
(17:42):
sooner or later it will come toan end, but that's not a bad
thing, it's just part of life,right?
So understanding that we'removing through this process and
experience of just enjoying allthese new things, whether it is
the beginning of something orthe end of something too.
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So hopefully that gives yousome perspective about grief.
Grief is beautiful and itdoesn't have to be something you
have to avoid.
It's something that you canexperience, and if you have
someone in your life that'sexperiencing grief and they
don't know how to tackle it,share it with them this episode
(18:27):
or what you learned from it,because this is something that
is universal.
But also realize, if you doknow someone that's experiencing
grief and they don't know howto do or when to do it, give
them some insight about what isneeded to be done, because if
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they don't do it, then they'rejust avoiding something that is
very beautiful in life.
So just realize that wheneversomeone is experiencing grief
whether it's you or somebodyelse that it's okay to have that
space to do it, okay.
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So I really hope that you foundtoday's episode insightful and
meaningful to you, whoever youare, and know that I love you
and everyone around you alsoloves you for who you are.
And if you are experiencinggrief in this, know that it's
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okay to be there and experienceit, because it's just part of
this beautiful thing that we'reexperiencing.
That one day we will not, andthat's alright.
So going through this doesn'thave to be something you have to
do alone, you know.
Share it with someone reallyspecial with you, and they'll
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surely understand that it's okay.
So much love to all of you outthere.
If you enjoyed today's episode,please definitely like it and
share it with whomever.
And, yeah, we hope to see youin the next episode, which is
going to be a little surprise,so definitely tune in to episode
(20:17):
90 of Tai Oanaka podcast.
We'll see you next time.
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