Call It What You Want… But Was It Love? trauma bonding, overgiving, and earned love.

Why do we fall for people who can’t meet us halfway? Why does it hurt so much when they leave—even if they were never fully ours to begin with?

In this episode, I sit down with Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying) Andie, to unpack the messy middle of love, attachment, fantasy bonds, and overgiving. We talk about trauma responses disguised as chemistry, the ache of being “almost chosen,” and why silence can trigger such a deep spiral. If you’ve ever found yourself waiting on a text, playing therapist in your own love life, or trying to earn love that should’ve been freely given… this one’s for you.

We’ll explore:

• ​Why “earned love” feels more powerful than “available love”
• ​The truth about ghosting, fantasy bonding, and why we fall fast
• ​How to tell the difference between intuition and anxious attachment
• ​How to actually choose yourself—even when your nervous system still misses them

This one’s a warm hug and a reality check. A deep breath and a wake-up call. You’re not crazy. You’re just craving connection—and this episode is here to help you understand why.

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