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It's spring 1989 in New York.
A car is heading north weavingbetween lanes the vehicle
swerves dodging a van and whenit pulls off the highway begins
racing through a suburbanneighborhood.
where large trees line a streetof older homes.
Inside the car.
Mary Peter's Johnson is grippingthe steering wheel with all her
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might.
She knows the other driversprobably think she's a bad
driver, but she doesn't careRight now all that matters is
getting to her mothers home asfast as possible.
About 40 minutes ago, hermother's neighbor called her in
a panic.
The neighbor said she found hermother, Martha roaming, the
street, incoherent, naked fromthe waist up, barefoot with
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bloody feet.
Mary was at work about 20 milesaway.
So she told her neighbor to call9 1 1, and she grabbed her
purse, ran to the parkinggarage, hopped in her car, and
sped off down the road.
Mary is now a few minutes fromher mother's home, and she was
trying to reassure herself thateverything is going to be okay.
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Her mother has a live incaregiver that is there with
her.
But when Mary turns onto hermother's street, her body goes
stiff.
There are policemen blocking offthe sidewalk.
EMT are racing into the house.
And there was ambulance parkedout front, lighting up the
entire block with flashinglights.
Mary throws her car in a park.
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Leaps out.
Runs across the front yard, herheels clacking on the cement
sidewalk, her heart pounding inher chest.
But as she heads to the frontdoor, a paramedic blocks her
path.
I'm sorry.
Ma'am you can't go any further.
That's my mother's house.
My mom is in there.
I'm sorry to tell you.
Ma'am your mom was foundwandering in the street.
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Naked and barefoot.
Okay, where is she?
Is she okay?
The paramedics were stabilizingher so we can transfer her to
the hospital.
Where's Carmen.
Who's Carmen.
She's my mother's caregiver.
Ma'am.
There was no one other thanemergency workers in the house
with your mother.
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Mary begins to feel lightheaded,and feels her body sway a
little.
The red and lights become a hazyblur.
What do you mean stabilize her?
What do you mean there's no onein the house with her.
Mom mom.
I need to see my mother.
The paramedic nods.
But maintains a stoic look andpivots the conversation.
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Ma'am I understand this is noteasy.
I need some information.
What is your mother's age?
She's 80.
Who is her primary doctor?
Just then the neighbor who foundher mother walks up.
Mary hugs are tight and beginsto cry.
A policemen approaches and askHave you had any reason to
suspect.
any of the people living herewere selling drugs?
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Drugs.
Drugs.
My mom is a senior citizen withAlzheimer's.
People, what people.
The only people living here, mymom and her caregiver, Carmen.
I was just over here thisweekend.
My mom doesn't sell drugs.
Mary tries to push her way pastthe paramedic, but she is
stopped by a police woman.
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I need to see my mother.
Ma'am.
They are bringing her out.
Now you can follow the ambulanceto the hospital.
We're going to tape off her homeand have evidence technicians.
Test the drugs inside the home.
It may be nothing, but it alsomay be illegal.
If so we will take what we findinto evidence.
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Later that night inside thehospital.
Mary pulls an extra blanket ontoher mother.
Making sure her mother iscomfortable.
Her mother has an IV she looksweak, innocent, vulnerable.
Mary sits beside her in a chairand tries to get some sleep.
But she can't sleep.
She can't stop replaying theconversation, the questioning
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from the doctors and the police.
The drugs in the house.
And where the hill is.
Carmen.
Mary rises from her seatrealizing she can't sleep.
She needs answers.
The longer Mary sits there, themore she wonders, what type of
drugs could be in her mother'shome.
And what should she do next?
From Nancebe this has take careof time.
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The tales and exhales ofcaregivers.
There are 44 million caregiversin the United States.
When asked if they had a choicein taking on the responsibility
to provide care for their lovedone.
Half of all caregivers report.
That they had no choice intaking on their caregiving
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responsibilities.
So, what does the only child whohas a husband, young kids and a
mother who refused to leave herhome do when mom now needs help.
This is episode one, thesqatter.
It's 1987 in Larchmont, NewYork.
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About two years before MaryPeters was discovered.
Walking barefoot and partiallynaked in her suburban
neighborhood.
Martha's daughter, Maryaccompanies her to a doctor's
appointment.
Where she is diagnosed withearly stage Alzheimer's.
Mary is upset, but not surprisedin the last few months she's
noticed her mother repeatingquestions, forgetfulness and
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misplacing items.
She knows her mother is pridefulheadstrong woman.
And since the death of herhusband, the previous year,
Martha has made it clear.
She does not want to downsizethe home where she raised her
only daughter.
Planted a garden out back madeso many memories and knows most
of her neighbors.
Mom, you need to move in with usso we can take care of you.
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The kids would love having theirgrandmother around every day.
We have plenty of room.
No Mary.
You know, I love both mygrandkids, but I love my house.
I love my home.
I don't want to move.
I don't want to be a burden.
I'm fine.
I can take care of myself.
After discussing her mother'scare with her husband, Rob.
It is Rob who suggest hiring acaregiver to help Martha.
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Martha relents and allows Maryto hire a caregiver.
She thinks it will be nice tohave someone to talk to, and she
can remain independent.
Mary would rather have her mommove into her spare room of her
home, but concedes and beginsinterviewing potential
caregivers.
Carmen Rodriguez, acompassionate.
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Experienced caregiver carriesthe warmth of her Puerto Rican
heritage in every interaction.
Born and raised in Puerto Rico.
Carmen developed a deepappreciation for family bonds
and a natural inclination towardcaregiving.
Growing up, Carmen wassurrounded by a close knit
community.
We're taking care of elders.
was not just a responsibility.
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But a cultural tradition.
inspired by her abuelasnurturing spirit and wisdom.
Carmen knew from an early agethat she wanted to dedicate her
life to helping others.
After completing her nursingstudies in San Juan Carmen
decided to bring her caregivingexpertise to the big city of New
York.
Seeking new challenges andopportunities.
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Carmen already had an aunt andcousins living in the Bronx.
So this New York borough.
Was like a home away from home.
Her journey led her to become acertified home health care aid.
Specializing in caring forelderly individuals with diverse
needs.
Karma's reputation for genuineempathy and nurturing touch
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quickly spread throughout thecaregiving community.
Families appreciate her abilityto create a sense of trust and
comfort for both the seniors shecared for and their loved ones.
Her bilingual fluency in Englishand Spanish also made her an
asset in communities withdiverse backgrounds.
One day.
They bought Carmen to a yogaclass.
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Where she crossed paths withMary Peters Johnson.
They struck up a conversationand Carmen found out Mary was
seeking the best care for hermother, Martha and Mary found
out that Carmen was a caregiverand had availability.
Mary was immediately drawn toCarmen's compassionate nature
and unwavering dedication to herwork.
Carmen in turn.
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Was touched by the genuineconcern Mary showed for her
mother's wellbeing.
As Carmen steps into Martha'shouse, she brings not only her
professional expertise, but alsoa heart full of stories,
laughter and echos of heraubelas wisdom.
Carmen sees caregiving as morethan a job, it's a calling and
opportunity to create.
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A positive impact on the livesof those.
She cares for.
As Carmen embarks on this newchapter with Mary.
And Martha, she carries thespirit of her Puerto Rican
roots.
Lending cultural richness withgenuine commitment.
To providing the highest levelof care.
Upon meeting Martha for thefirst time.
Carmen knew this was the perfectplacement for her.
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Carmen seamlessly integratedinto Martha's daily life.
Her mornings began with an aromaof freshly brewed coffee and
lightly buttered toast.
It thought we'll touch that turnMartha's routine into a
comforting ritual.
Carmen's caregiving promiseextended beyond the basics.
She encouraged Martha to work inher garden on occasion.
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And Carmen always had soft musicplaying in the house as to
create a tranquil space forMartha.
Mary informed Carmen.
That the basement of the housewas strictly used for storage.
And there was no reason for herto go down there.
But one day when Martha wasnapping, Carmen's curiosity got
the best of her.
And she opened a door at the endof the hall and to send it the
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wooden stairs to the basement.
Carmen was expecting a bunch ofold dusty boxes, but when she
turned on the basement light,she was pleasantly surprised to
find a well-organized clean,small apartment size space with
a chair, a couch, a rug.
And clear storage boxes ofChristmas lights and
decorations.
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Uh, Carmen thought to herself,this could be the perfect space
for a single person to live.
There is a quote that says.
Your thoughts become things.
And as fate would have it,Carmen's thoughts and Mary
Peter's basement will soonbecome the stage for unforeseen
challenges and unexpectedconnections.
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This is episode one of theswatter.
For take care of time, the talesand exhales of caregivers.
In our next episode.
Carmen, the caregiver makes afateful decision about the
basement in Martha's home.
If you would like moreinformation about early stage
symptoms of Alzheimer's.
We recommend the Alzheimer'sassociation@hlz.org, where you
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can learn more about the variousstages of Alzheimer's.
Please note that this episodefeatures reenactments and
dramatize details.
While in most cases, the exactverbatim dialogue may not be
known.
All dramatizations are groundedin research.
To respect the privacy andconfidentiality of individuals
involved.
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Names and some identifyingdetails have been changed.
Do you have an interestingcaregiver story that you would
like to have told, please emailus at.
Podcast@takecareoftime.com.
We would love to hear from you.