August 4, 2025 • 35 mins
What are you missing out on while watching someone else's life? This question sparked an illuminating conversation about the distractions that pull us away from our true purpose and the power of intentionally choosing what deserves our attention.
The journey begins with Kory sharing a transformative moment during a recent band performance when equipment failure forced the musicians to rely solely on their raw talent. What could have been a disaster became a catalyst for growth, creating one of their most authentic and energizing performances. This experience perfectly illustrates how unexpected challenges can reconnect us with our core purpose when we remain open to the moment rather than fixated on distractions.
We dive deep into the concept of FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) and how it manifests in our lives. What happens when we're so busy watching what everyone else is doing that we miss our own calling? Through personal stories and reflections, we explore the freedom that comes from embracing JOMO (Joy Of Missing Out) instead.
As you listen, we'd like to invite you to consider: What distractions might you intentionally miss out on this week? What could you say "yes" to instead? We would like to let you know that your purpose is worthy of protection, and your time is too valuable to trade for what merely distracts.
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Speaker 2 (00:14):
hey, it's jen the builder and cory, and welcome
everyone to take the elevatoryes, welcome on in, have a seat
stand or just make yourself feelreally good.
You know what, jen?
I got to say something aboutthis episode and every episode
moving forward.
I have learned something aboutmyself.
When I'm not comfortable with atopic and not that I'm not
(00:38):
comfortable for myself to talkabout it, it but I'm not
comfortable for people to hearit because I'm afraid or a
little nervous, anxious, abouthow it's going to land with them
.
I tend to dance around thingsand I don't feel good about how
it's coming out.
So I'm going to have to removethat filter.
(01:00):
I'm just going to have to saywhat it is that I'm thinking and
however it lands.
Just know this.
I have no ill intent, I have nomalice and I promise I won't
ever go to a place that is darkand dangerous.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
Yes, you definitely have good and positive
intentions.
And wow, what a disclaimer.
People are probably wonderingwhat is today's episode going to
be about?
I know it's no yeah I totallywelcome, cory, that we dance
through it instead of around ityeah and I think we've been
(01:38):
around enough.
In fact, this is our 370thepisode.
This is 370 370.
So I believe we've stayed trueto our core and our purpose, and
that's to elevate people andelevate everyday dialogue and
the way we think, and that'sexactly what we'll continue to
do absolutely so we didn't havean episode last week because we
(02:04):
opted to spend time alone withour moms.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Yeah, we actually did .
Speaker 1 (02:10):
And we had a wonderful barbecue and it's so
funny.
I don't know if anyone else islike this or if it's a Filipino
thing, Not sure but I legit havea fear of running out of food
when we're hosting a party LikeI.
Just want to have a magnificentspread.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
Yes, I actually like to run out of food.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
That's so weird, why?
Speaker 2 (02:38):
Well, because it makes me feel like the party was
so good and the food tasted soamazing that everybody just ate
everything up.
So if there's no food left,it's like yes, I, I pleased
everyone I see.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Well, part of my party throwing is I want you to
leave my party with someleftovers so you can have it the
next day and share with yourfamily oh my gosh, you.
You know how many people aregoing to want to come to the
house now well, that's why, um,we don't have them that much,
because it's like a legit um.
(03:15):
What is it, cory, when itthrows a monkey wrench in our
budget?
Speaker 2 (03:19):
yeah, jen just said that's why you can't come over
as much.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
Yeah.
So if you do come over becauseyou've been invited and gosh, we
just love to invite people allthe time just know that there's
going to be a bunch of food,yeah, but let's go back just a
little bit because, both mothersbeing here, let's say this
first and foremost we both loveboth mothers.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Yes, unequivocally yeah.
Both mothers enjoy one another,they really do get along, have a
good friendship, actually talkoutside of being with us.
I think they even spent acouple of days together at one
point in time, without us,without us, yeah, and so it's
such a joy.
(04:03):
You know, my mom's 78, Ibelieve your mom is 74 or 75,
okay, 74, and so these veryseasoned women are still sharp.
And I mean they are sharp, oh,they crack jokes.
They know how to be a littlesarcastic and quick with it, so
funky, yeah, we have a good timewith them and never miss a beat
(04:26):
.
So, uh, enjoy your moms.
That's what this message isabout.
Enjoy your mothers, guys,because we just don't know how
long they're going to be hereand I guarantee you I don't want
to look back and say, man, wecould have spent more time yeah,
and for those that don't knowthe story of our moms, um, they
are miracles and just a blessingto have in our lives.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
My mom, um, is cancer free yeah and so she beat
cancer and she's so healthy.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
And your mom well, both our moms with cory's mom
she almost died during covidyeah, she was one of the first
ones to really have that longCOVID and one of the first ones
that was in the uh, intubated astate and then was intubated for
(05:15):
multiple days I think it waslike three to five days and she
don't remember anything and, uh,it was just a, a, a very trying
time.
So, yeah, it's a blessing tohave both mothers and know that
they've been through some tryingtimes but they're still here.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
Yeah, so what we did last weekend was we really
focused on what was important,because I have to tell you us
thinking about recording thepodcast was a distraction it
really was, and it would havetaken us away from that moment,
from that amazing time that wehad with them.
(05:56):
Um, so that's what we want totalk about today, because, cory,
you had a gig over the weekendand cory always, when he gets
back, of course, is tired.
So when I ask him, how was yournight?
Speaker 2 (06:09):
it's a very brief synopsis of how it went yeah,
and I typically like to give areflect on what the night was
like, what the crowd was like,how the band sounded, how we
played, and I like to be reallyhonest and true about that yeah,
I love it because you shareyour learns, like what you had
to do differently, how you hadto flex right, all the things
(06:30):
that come up.
Speaker 1 (06:30):
So I learn a lot and you had shared a story with me
and I'd asked you if you didn'tmind sharing it on take the
elevator um, some of your keytakeaways over the weekend yeah
so tell us about it, sure so thethe thing that I love most
(06:51):
about playing is that we are a astruggling band.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
What does that mean?
Um, I'm not talking financially, I need money.
So that's not the the strugglethat I'm looking for.
I like that.
We struggle because we'redecent players, and I'll say it
like this james the drummer isamazing, danny is is beyond
average, and I'm I'm a bassplayer, but I'm not a bassist
(07:17):
like I.
I can't play everything underthe sun, nor do I want to, nor
have I ever wanted to.
Um, that's just never been mything.
But what I do like is likewe're willing to experiment,
we're willing to take chancesthat we probably shouldn't take
in a live setting, and sometimesit works really well, and then
(07:38):
sometimes it really doesn't.
But this particular night, um,what we did was we removed some
of the background elements thatwe are used to playing with.
Well, you didn't remove itintentionally.
No, we did not do thatintentionally, right?
That's the thing it was.
At the very last set and thefirst song in the last set,
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equipment started failing and wefound ourselves in this
situation.
But I was thriving, because whathappens for me?
When it's just threeinstruments?
It forces us to play at levelsthat we've never played at
before, and that's where Ithrive, that's where I think I
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sound the best, because now I'mnot relying on anything but my
skill and ability to play andthen I'm able to hear all the
music in its entirety.
And so what I was explaining tojim to not go too long on this
is that, um, it grew us in justa 45 minute time span, and after
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the growth I just feltincredibly energized.
I actually felt like this iswhat I started playing for.
This is why we started gettingshows and going on the road and
playing in front of people,because this amazing feeling of
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of having to survive a 45 minuteto three hour set and and sound
good and make people enjoy it.
Sorry, jane, I know I went on.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
Well, that's how valuable that learn was for you
in that experience.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
Yeah, incredible.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
But what I wanted to share, and thanks for bringing
that forward, because duringthat night you told me too that
of course, in a place like that,people are.
It's a Friday night, first ofall.
So people are unwinding afterthe first week of August.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
And I mean unwinding.
Yes, they are drinking, theyare having a good time.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
Yes, and they're with their buds right.
So there's this one particulargroup that got got pretty loud
and it could have been seen, orwas seen, as as a distraction
and disrespectful band members.
Yeah so a distraction.
That was disrespectful, and Idon't know if any of you have
had to perform or had to focuson the one thing and there's
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something else going on and ittakes your mind off what you're
supposed to be doing.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Right.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
Right.
So it reminded me, Corey, ofwhat we learned from one of our
kids is FOMO.
Right the fear of missing out,and what that means typically is
you see it in social media alot, a lot of the reason for the
chronic scrolling right.
We don't want to miss out onwhat's going on there, we want
to be a part of it, and we caneven have FOMO with our circle
(10:39):
of friends or at work or family,where we always have to be in
the know yeah so we become verybusy bodies, and so when you
think about that, what we wantto ask here or bring forward is
that when you're in fear ofmissing out, um, sometimes
(11:02):
you're actually missing out onwhat's supposed to happen for
you.
I think it's bigger than missingout on what's happening in the
world, but what you're supposedto pick up from the world, does
that make sense?
Speaker 2 (11:15):
Absolutely.
I mean ultimately.
What you're saying is sometimesmissing out on the trending
popular thing is better for you,so you don't miss out on the
personal thing that's going tohappen to you more internally,
inward facing, than outwardfacing.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
Right, right.
So that thing that distractsyou, like, let me bring it home
a little bit.
So I imagine that if I was onstage as a band member and
there's that loud group andthat's what I'm focused on, so
it takes me off my game onsinging, playing my instrument
and seeing what else ishappening in the crowd, because,
(11:53):
incore, you shared with me whatelse you saw in the crowd and
what actually happened as far asglimmers.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
Yeah, where.
That doesn't bother me.
It bothers the lead singer,danny, a great deal to have a
distraction like that, but itdoesn't bother me because I'm
always scanning the entire room.
I did notice that there were 12other people that were very,
very in tune and you say, well,was the place packed or was it
(12:24):
just you know a few?
No, the place was pretty packed,but you always have your few
people that are heavily engaged,and there are 12 people close
in, within close proximity, thatwere very engaged, and they
don't always have to be updancing and singing, they just
show you in their eyes, theyshow you in their head bobs or
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their small applause at the endof the song, and so those are
the ones I'm looking tocaptivate yeah, yeah, and so
what we're saying here is, whenwe get so caught up in the big
thing that's happening, you missout on the little things that
are actually hopeful andencouraging and a positive force
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in your life, because we're sofocused on the negative or maybe
even focused on things thatwe're just not supposed to be
involved in.
Speaker 1 (13:14):
You know what I mean.
So I think about latelyrecently actually I've mentioned
that I had a transition in mycareer and, corey, let me tell
you about my FOMO.
I legit almost asked themanager that took my place to
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blind copy me on emails, just soI could be in the know of
what's going on with my old teamand it's that's hard for me to
confess.
I was like this is a realproblem, like why would you even
think that?
But that's the realness of thefear of missing out now.
If that had been my focus, Iwould have missed out on seeing
(14:01):
my new team making plans to be apart of them stepping into my
role, because I would have beenstraddling the fence right.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
I would have been one foot out, but yet one foot
still in right so I realizedthis is a distraction not to
mention me from my own growthyeah, not to mention you would
have been stepping on someone'stoes, hello but I mean, it's
just a real thought.
Speaker 1 (14:26):
I wonder if we were to talk about the things that we
really think about in thatmoment related to fomo.
Like it is kind of I don't wantto say embarrassing, but just
to hear me say it out loud, it'slike ew, that's like cringe,
right yeah um, but it's just thereality of the thing.
Like, fomo is a real thing.
(14:46):
So what we really want toengage you in is what are you
missing out on when you're so inthat space of FOMO, you know?
Speaker 2 (14:59):
well, we can go down that road if you like go ahead.
You're not supposed to filtertoday you know, I'm I'm sure not
gonna filter this one, okay.
So a lot of times when we're sointerested and I'll give a real
good example um, we're sointerested to see how far ai can
take us.
That's what.
(15:19):
That's what the big thing isright now.
How much can?
Speaker 1 (15:23):
right ai.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
How far can AI excel my career, excel my Make it
easier for me.
Make it easier for me, make memore productive Right and grow
my social medias and so forthand so on.
And so, while you're sodistracted with that, you forget
the fact that the humanconnection was the best part of
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what you were doing in the firstplace.
Speaker 1 (15:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
That's what allowed you to really write and express
yourself.
That's what it allowed you toreally create in a whole nother
space and a whole nother time.
And then, guys, I got, reallygot to ask this question, and
this is a real question in realtime who cares how many people
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are following us?
Like, I know, we want to seethose big numbers, but why?
Is it just because it makes uslook popular?
Is it because it makes us feelbetter about ourselves?
But at the end of the day, whenyou lay down and go to sleep,
whether it's 2,000 or 2 millionpeople following you, it really
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shouldn't change who we are.
And somehow it does right.
Speaker 1 (16:37):
It ties into our self-worth right, our belonging,
our identity and, my goodness,there's so much more to who you
are than like you say.
Corey.
Follows likes, people likes,loving what you're saying,
commenting on what you're saying.
(16:58):
What we've learned through takethe elevator is this we put
episodes out you guys know thisevery week and sometimes it is
silence, like we don't hearanything we post and, honestly,
like we're seriously not aboutthe likes.
But it is nice to see someoneengaged, because then I don't
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have to think like because Ifeel like I made a mistake
downloading or it didn't, itdidn't, um, get on the platforms
correctly, because I'm nothearing anything.
But then we walk around, we runinto someone and they mention
the episode that just reallyspoke to them yeah and I love
(17:41):
that quay because I think whatwe've built is true human
connection absolutely, and Ithink people know that we love
the face-to-face if notface-to-face the phone calls,
the video calls, right, justsomething that's so beyond ai,
ai and the definitions of whatsuccess is supposed to look like
(18:04):
for you, it's really what youmake it for yourself, and so
that's why we were just like man.
We don't want our friends tomiss out on what's in it for
them, like on their calling,because we're so concerned about
the calling of someone else orthe actions of someone else.
Speaker 2 (18:25):
You know, jen, it's strange for me when I find
myself doing that, looking atnumbers, looking at likes and
stuff like that what I do andthis is a blunt admission I turn
everything off, I just walkaway, because then I realize at
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that moment you're about tostart down a rabbit hole.
That is a never ending rabbithole.
Speaker 1 (18:51):
Yeah, and I love that , because when you walk away
from that, what you're reallywalking into is what Walking
away puts you in a space, whenyou're walking into things that
are going to serve you better.
Speaker 2 (19:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
Things where you can go intrinsic and really spend
time with yourself in reflectionand tap into and touch the
things that matter.
Right, really deciphering thatdoesn't matter.
That's actually a waste of mytime and energy or it's putting
me in a bad place, right?
So we got a little playful withfomo and I.
(19:28):
I think I've heard this joy ofmissing out.
Yeah, like, make it a joy ofmissing out, like oh god, jomo,
okay, and if we elevate jomo wecan go into pammo.
Peace, peace about missing out.
(19:50):
Okay, now that's a little too.
Oh, come on play with me here.
Okay, I'm playing, but I don'tknow if I'm liking it because
I'm going opposite of fear,right, fear of missing out, and
then we're going to the spacesof joy.
But it's so great to be atpeace with the fact that I don't
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need to be keeping up with thejoneses like I get to focus on
my calling, what I'm supposed todo, and care about the people
around me right, no, I, Itotally agree, and I was just
playing with you about that.
I probably would never say thatyeah, I think fomo jomo makes
(20:34):
sense, but then you go pamo,that's like what?
Speaker 2 (20:38):
yeah um, but I'll play.
I'm just, you know, probablynot gonna say it out loud in
front of people, right?
Um, what I've noticed, jen, andthis is so crazy when you stop
caring on that level, like, Igotta get that, I gotta get my
likes to this, I gotta get my myfollowing to this, I gotta get
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I to play this song perfect thefirst time through, or I got to
play the first set, flawless.
Speaker 1 (21:06):
Right, I have to do it just this way, or I have to
see the words just like this thefocus is so much on the thing
that it's not about the act thatyou're actually participating
in yeah, and who you're becomingright and who you're impacting
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and it's so much fun to play.
Speaker 2 (21:30):
It's so much fun to interact with people on social
media.
It's so fun to write, toproduce, to whatever it is
you're doing, and that's why youstarted doing it in the first
place, because it was fun.
But then some brainiac threw atus that we need to get people
to like it and that's not thefun part.
Speaker 1 (21:51):
Right, it's not my job to make you like what I'm
doing right it's only my job todo the thing that I do yeah, and
there's so many growth anddevelopment workshops out there
about not people pleasing?
Speaker 2 (22:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (22:05):
But yet look at the society we live in.
Right, it's all about that.
Speaker 2 (22:09):
So that's all it's about.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
Yeah, yeah, so I have some.
Really, you know how I lovequestions because, as a coach
that just speaks to me, I get toanswer them.
Yeah, oh, how I love questionsbecause, as a coach that just
speaks to me.
Speaker 2 (22:18):
I get to answer them.
Speaker 1 (22:19):
Yeah, oh, I love answering questions Go for it or
share some philosophy around it.
Sure, so, and I'm going toinvite our friends and listeners
to maybe journal or justreflect or talk with a friend
about these two.
So what have I been missing outon in my life while watching
someone else's?
Speaker 2 (22:42):
And that's a question for me, yeah.
Speaker 1 (22:44):
Not necessarily for you, cause I know you don't
really watch anyone else's life.
Speaker 2 (22:48):
Well, I think that's the answer.
You've been missing out on lifewatching someone else's.
That's the problem with thesebig distractions from social
media, and when I say it blanketlike that, I'm talking about an
excess of social media, anexcess of TV.
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I was talking to a friend ofours about how Jen and I are
able to move the needle and howwe're able to remain focused in
this journey, and I just simplyremoved a few key things, and
those key things allowed me tohave more time than I could ever
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imagine having, because I don't.
Should I give a precursor tothis?
I don't.
Should I give a precursor tothis?
I'm not knocking any televisionshow.
I'm not knocking any sport.
I'm not knocking any thing thatyou may find enjoyable.
It's just not for me.
(23:53):
Yes, I found removing sports toadd so much time to what I need
to do.
I also found removingtelevision as far as sitcoms and
favorite TV shows.
Removing that added so muchtime and worth to what I'm doing
(24:15):
.
And so it's simple now I don'tget caught up in someone else's
life to live my own.
Speaker 1 (24:25):
Yeah, I love that answer.
You're like you're you'remissing out on life period.
Yeah, that's really good.
So I'm going to give you all myperspective on this.
I am a little more lenient whenit comes to TV, a little so
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like.
For example, I watched arom-com an hour and a half while
Corey was playing and that justfills my heart.
It really does.
But I just also watched oh,what was it called Building the
Band Excellent show on Netflix,and I'm going to tell you why
I'm giving it an excellent.
I love watching shows that haveto do with relationships
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building, how people form rightBehavior, and that's all in
there.
So, honestly, this is what I do.
I will pick a show that gets mein a very pensive state and
excited about the things that Ijust am naturally drawn to.
So get creative with it, right.
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We're not saying, or I'm notsaying that all TV is bad.
I think there's some reallygood educational pieces in there
, and what we're saying at theend of the day is it's your time
.
You get to choose what to dowith it right and how it propels
you or how it holds you back.
That's up to you.
Speaker 2 (25:52):
And I want to offer this last little thing.
You know, if you're a speaker,a singer, a dancer and you were
to perform the night that yourfavorite show came on, would you
not watch?
I mean, would you not performto watch your favorite show or
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your favorite sports team?
Or would you say you know what?
I really need to go out herenot only make this money, but do
this thing I love to do, whichis dancing, right, play or
whatever it is, and catch thatshow at another time or maybe
miss that episode.
Speaker 1 (26:30):
That's the way I align, what I'm trying to do
yeah or catch up on it later.
I think that's one of the coolthings, too about the world we
live in.
Speaker 2 (26:41):
Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:42):
Okay, so the next question is what distractions am
I choosing that pull me awayfrom what really matters?
Speaker 2 (26:50):
Well, that would be our mothers, that would be each
other, that would be.
Speaker 1 (26:57):
Those are the distractions.
Speaker 2 (26:59):
That I'm allowed.
I mean, and when I.
They're not distractions,they're things that I'm deeming
more important than somethingthat I would normally do okay, I
see how you've taken thatquestion all right, how was it
meant to be taken?
Speaker 1 (27:15):
just there's the thing.
Those are the things thatreally matter, like your mom,
like me, like the fuzzy furryforest and genco stuff.
What distractions have takenyou away from that at any point?
Speaker 2 (27:29):
oh, not much of anything for me.
I'm just, I'm not here for that.
I, I can't.
I have a job to do, I'm focused.
Speaker 1 (27:39):
You are super focused .
I feel like I'm more ADHD.
I have to have my hands inevery project a little bit at a
time.
Can I be honest, Corey?
Sometimes I just get bored justbeing in the one thing, and I
know that we've got so much soit makes it playful for me,
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almost like a game.
I don't know, it just works forme.
Speaker 2 (28:07):
No, I totally get it.
Speaker 1 (28:09):
So I don't think those are really distractions.
I think you and I are reallygood too about hey, we need some
downtime.
Um, we're going to take a tripover the weekend or we're gonna
go ahead and make thatreservation and use our magic
keys for disneyland.
You know those kind of thingsI've gotten better with that.
Speaker 2 (28:29):
Yeah, thank goodness I used to struggle.
I'm like, yeah, but I reallygot work to do right now yes.
Speaker 1 (28:36):
So the last question is what boundaries or rhythms
would help me stay aligned to myown purpose and I love that
word rhythm, because you knowwe're musicians and so that word
just really speaks to me isfinding your rhythm, hearing
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your own voice and being inharmony with people around you
that are also aligned with whatyou're about.
You know what I mean, becausethat just gets all sorts of
messy and chaotic when I've gottoo much going on and it takes
me away from what this is allabout.
Speaker 2 (29:16):
Well, I think, first and foremost, we shouldn't be
finding rhythms.
I think we should be creatingour rhythm.
That's for me, if we'recreating our rhythms, it's a lot
easier to find the pace and thetime that you're supposed to be
keeping.
Um, and I could go on and onand on and on about that.
(29:40):
So I I'm just gonna leave itthere, and if it landed with you
, please let me know.
If it didn't, please let meknow.
And, and I'll go into it deeperat a later date.
But I'm just a believer increating my own rhythm, my own
pace.
Um, because I like, uh,alternative music, old school
alternative music, like nirvana,and when you start playing that
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kind of stuff, queen of thestone age, uh, that, that's the,
the rhythm I like to keep justthat, fast, hard.
Speaker 1 (30:16):
That's exactly your rhythm, that's exactly.
But see, the beautiful thingabout rhythm, and I have to
dance to your rhythm.
We're partners, we're married.
I'll skip a couple of thosebeats.
Yeah, so like, what was yourrhythm right now?
Speaker 2 (30:30):
and see how it's constant mine might be.
Speaker 1 (30:32):
Didn't right and I just love that because I'm still
on beat.
I'm just not on the same countand so that's again.
It shows how creating your ownrhythm works, because if you're
trying to go to mine, it mightnot work yeah you might not be
(30:53):
ready for that pace exactly, butsee how I can choose to jump in
on a beat, step off a beat, andthen I think, with Harmony,
what I love about that, and Iwrote this whole thing and I
have every intention to writethis blog.
But we're redoing the gencocomso it's still up, but there's
(31:17):
this blog I wrote and it's aboutHarmony and the beautiful thing
about Harmony is you've got tobe able to hear your own voice
first.
You've got to find your pitchand the note and where you're
going.
And then when you've got peoplein your life that are singing
their own melody right, orthey're bringing in the harmony,
(31:39):
you start to listen to oneanother and build together, and
so I'm very about that.
I think that's a huge boundaryfor me is who am I in harmony
with?
Speaker 2 (31:50):
and if there's no harmony, then you ain't coming
over for food and gettingleftovers when you go home, and
so for you non-singers ornon-music people trying to
understand harmonic structureand and where jen probably
thought that was a very simpleexplanation someone that's
non-musical is like what is shetalking about?
(32:12):
What is harmony and how doesthat look?
Basically, what she's saying isbeing lockstep with someone
else, being able to walk stridefor stride like you're marching
in an army.
Speaker 1 (32:25):
But you're still singing your own note and it's a
different note, but it blends.
Speaker 2 (32:28):
Absolutely.
You're still doing your thingRight, but it's in lockstep with
someone else.
That, or you're mimicking theperson to the point to where
it's you looking like them andthem looking like you that that
may not be a compatible match atthat point in time that's right
(32:50):
.
Speaker 1 (32:51):
So we're coming to close and I just had a closing
challenge and then a note that Iwanted to share.
Corey and I are encouraging youto intentionally exercise the
power and freedom of choice.
Choose one thing tointentionally miss out on this
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week.
Experience the joy of missingout on that.
Speaker 2 (33:19):
I like that.
Speaker 1 (33:22):
And then choose one thing that you're gonna say yes
to in its place.
Oh, I bet there are things.
I have a list.
I have a list of things that Ineed to say yes to or that are
all cory true story on my to-dolist.
I have one.
That's a list that's alreadymarked on calendar because I
know this is the milestone.
I've got to hit it.
(33:42):
And then I have a list that'sunder the category of someday
Okay, Because it's like thereand I know I need to get to it
Right.
So it doesn't.
It's not that I'm ignoring it.
I'm just saying I just don'tknow when this is going to get
done, but my intentions are tohave it done.
You know what I mean yeah so geton your list and say yes to one
(34:05):
of those things that's on yoursomeday list.
Oh, go ahead.
Oh no, I was gonna ask what ifyou had anything to add um, to
that point, no, but I did likethat whole concept.
Speaker 2 (34:19):
So I'm interested to see if anyone will reach out to
us and tell us what they put onthe back burner and what they
replace it with.
What I will say is we have somereally good, exciting news
coming up about the Fuzzy FurryForest, but it's not all
completely developed yet, so Idon't want to start giving
(34:41):
little hints and droppingnuggets here and there.
I will.
I want to tell you guys thewhole thing all at once and just
buckle up.
This is about to be one ofthose good, crazy rides that
everyone's going to enjoy, Ipromise you.
Speaker 1 (35:00):
Yes.
So I'm going to end with thislove note from cory and I.
It says my time is sacred, mypurpose is worthy.
I will not trade what I valuefor what distracts good stuff.
Speaker 2 (35:16):
you wrote that, mm-hmm Amazing.
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (35:21):
Anyhow, you know us to take the elevator.
We say, look up and let'selevate.
Speaker 2 (35:34):
Every day.
Elevate Every day, elevateEvery day.
I wonder if they can tell wereally miss them.
Elevate.
Speaker 1 (35:45):
Every day.
hey, it's jen the builder and cory, and welcome
everyone to take the elevatoryes, welcome on in, have a seat
stand or just make yourself feelreally good.
You know what, jen?
I got to say something aboutthis episode and every episode
moving forward.
I have learned something aboutmyself.
When I'm not comfortable with atopic and not that I'm not
(00:38):
comfortable for myself to talkabout it, it but I'm not
comfortable for people to hearit because I'm afraid or a
little nervous, anxious, abouthow it's going to land with them
.
I tend to dance around thingsand I don't feel good about how
it's coming out.
So I'm going to have to removethat filter.
(01:00):
I'm just going to have to saywhat it is that I'm thinking and
however it lands.
Just know this.
I have no ill intent, I have nomalice and I promise I won't
ever go to a place that is darkand dangerous.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
Yes, you definitely have good and positive
intentions.
And wow, what a disclaimer.
People are probably wonderingwhat is today's episode going to
be about?
I know it's no yeah I totallywelcome, cory, that we dance
through it instead of around ityeah and I think we've been
(01:38):
around enough.
In fact, this is our 370thepisode.
This is 370 370.
So I believe we've stayed trueto our core and our purpose, and
that's to elevate people andelevate everyday dialogue and
the way we think, and that'sexactly what we'll continue to
do absolutely so we didn't havean episode last week because we
(02:04):
opted to spend time alone withour moms.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Yeah, we actually did .
Speaker 1 (02:10):
And we had a wonderful barbecue and it's so
funny.
I don't know if anyone else islike this or if it's a Filipino
thing, Not sure but I legit havea fear of running out of food
when we're hosting a party LikeI.
Just want to have a magnificentspread.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
Yes, I actually like to run out of food.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
That's so weird, why?
Speaker 2 (02:38):
Well, because it makes me feel like the party was
so good and the food tasted soamazing that everybody just ate
everything up.
So if there's no food left,it's like yes, I, I pleased
everyone I see.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Well, part of my party throwing is I want you to
leave my party with someleftovers so you can have it the
next day and share with yourfamily oh my gosh, you.
You know how many people aregoing to want to come to the
house now well, that's why, um,we don't have them that much,
because it's like a legit um.
(03:15):
What is it, cory, when itthrows a monkey wrench in our
budget?
Speaker 2 (03:19):
yeah, jen just said that's why you can't come over
as much.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
Yeah.
So if you do come over becauseyou've been invited and gosh, we
just love to invite people allthe time just know that there's
going to be a bunch of food,yeah, but let's go back just a
little bit because, both mothersbeing here, let's say this
first and foremost we both loveboth mothers.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Yes, unequivocally yeah.
Both mothers enjoy one another,they really do get along, have a
good friendship, actually talkoutside of being with us.
I think they even spent acouple of days together at one
point in time, without us,without us, yeah, and so it's
such a joy.
(04:03):
You know, my mom's 78, Ibelieve your mom is 74 or 75,
okay, 74, and so these veryseasoned women are still sharp.
And I mean they are sharp, oh,they crack jokes.
They know how to be a littlesarcastic and quick with it, so
funky, yeah, we have a good timewith them and never miss a beat
(04:26):
.
So, uh, enjoy your moms.
That's what this message isabout.
Enjoy your mothers, guys,because we just don't know how
long they're going to be hereand I guarantee you I don't want
to look back and say, man, wecould have spent more time yeah,
and for those that don't knowthe story of our moms, um, they
are miracles and just a blessingto have in our lives.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
My mom, um, is cancer free yeah and so she beat
cancer and she's so healthy.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
And your mom well, both our moms with cory's mom
she almost died during covidyeah, she was one of the first
ones to really have that longCOVID and one of the first ones
that was in the uh, intubated astate and then was intubated for
(05:15):
multiple days I think it waslike three to five days and she
don't remember anything and, uh,it was just a, a, a very trying
time.
So, yeah, it's a blessing tohave both mothers and know that
they've been through some tryingtimes but they're still here.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
Yeah, so what we did last weekend was we really
focused on what was important,because I have to tell you us
thinking about recording thepodcast was a distraction it
really was, and it would havetaken us away from that moment,
from that amazing time that wehad with them.
(05:56):
Um, so that's what we want totalk about today, because, cory,
you had a gig over the weekendand cory always, when he gets
back, of course, is tired.
So when I ask him, how was yournight?
Speaker 2 (06:09):
it's a very brief synopsis of how it went yeah,
and I typically like to give areflect on what the night was
like, what the crowd was like,how the band sounded, how we
played, and I like to be reallyhonest and true about that yeah,
I love it because you shareyour learns, like what you had
to do differently, how you hadto flex right, all the things
(06:30):
that come up.
Speaker 1 (06:30):
So I learn a lot and you had shared a story with me
and I'd asked you if you didn'tmind sharing it on take the
elevator um, some of your keytakeaways over the weekend yeah
so tell us about it, sure so thethe thing that I love most
(06:51):
about playing is that we are a astruggling band.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
What does that mean?
Um, I'm not talking financially, I need money.
So that's not the the strugglethat I'm looking for.
I like that.
We struggle because we'redecent players, and I'll say it
like this james the drummer isamazing, danny is is beyond
average, and I'm I'm a bassplayer, but I'm not a bassist
(07:17):
like I.
I can't play everything underthe sun, nor do I want to, nor
have I ever wanted to.
Um, that's just never been mything.
But what I do like is likewe're willing to experiment,
we're willing to take chancesthat we probably shouldn't take
in a live setting, and sometimesit works really well, and then
(07:38):
sometimes it really doesn't.
But this particular night, um,what we did was we removed some
of the background elements thatwe are used to playing with.
Well, you didn't remove itintentionally.
No, we did not do thatintentionally, right?
That's the thing it was.
At the very last set and thefirst song in the last set,
(08:03):
equipment started failing and wefound ourselves in this
situation.
But I was thriving, because whathappens for me?
When it's just threeinstruments?
It forces us to play at levelsthat we've never played at
before, and that's where Ithrive, that's where I think I
(08:25):
sound the best, because now I'mnot relying on anything but my
skill and ability to play andthen I'm able to hear all the
music in its entirety.
And so what I was explaining tojim to not go too long on this
is that, um, it grew us in justa 45 minute time span, and after
(08:51):
the growth I just feltincredibly energized.
I actually felt like this iswhat I started playing for.
This is why we started gettingshows and going on the road and
playing in front of people,because this amazing feeling of
(09:11):
of having to survive a 45 minuteto three hour set and and sound
good and make people enjoy it.
Sorry, jane, I know I went on.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
Well, that's how valuable that learn was for you
in that experience.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
Yeah, incredible.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
But what I wanted to share, and thanks for bringing
that forward, because duringthat night you told me too that
of course, in a place like that,people are.
It's a Friday night, first ofall.
So people are unwinding afterthe first week of August.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
And I mean unwinding.
Yes, they are drinking, theyare having a good time.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
Yes, and they're with their buds right.
So there's this one particulargroup that got got pretty loud
and it could have been seen, orwas seen, as as a distraction
and disrespectful band members.
Yeah so a distraction.
That was disrespectful, and Idon't know if any of you have
had to perform or had to focuson the one thing and there's
(10:09):
something else going on and ittakes your mind off what you're
supposed to be doing.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Right.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
Right.
So it reminded me, Corey, ofwhat we learned from one of our
kids is FOMO.
Right the fear of missing out,and what that means typically is
you see it in social media alot, a lot of the reason for the
chronic scrolling right.
We don't want to miss out onwhat's going on there, we want
to be a part of it, and we caneven have FOMO with our circle
(10:39):
of friends or at work or family,where we always have to be in
the know yeah so we become verybusy bodies, and so when you
think about that, what we wantto ask here or bring forward is
that when you're in fear ofmissing out, um, sometimes
(11:02):
you're actually missing out onwhat's supposed to happen for
you.
I think it's bigger than missingout on what's happening in the
world, but what you're supposedto pick up from the world, does
that make sense?
Speaker 2 (11:15):
Absolutely.
I mean ultimately.
What you're saying is sometimesmissing out on the trending
popular thing is better for you,so you don't miss out on the
personal thing that's going tohappen to you more internally,
inward facing, than outwardfacing.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
Right, right.
So that thing that distractsyou, like, let me bring it home
a little bit.
So I imagine that if I was onstage as a band member and
there's that loud group andthat's what I'm focused on, so
it takes me off my game onsinging, playing my instrument
and seeing what else ishappening in the crowd, because,
(11:53):
incore, you shared with me whatelse you saw in the crowd and
what actually happened as far asglimmers.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
Yeah, where.
That doesn't bother me.
It bothers the lead singer,danny, a great deal to have a
distraction like that, but itdoesn't bother me because I'm
always scanning the entire room.
I did notice that there were 12other people that were very,
very in tune and you say, well,was the place packed or was it
(12:24):
just you know a few?
No, the place was pretty packed,but you always have your few
people that are heavily engaged,and there are 12 people close
in, within close proximity, thatwere very engaged, and they
don't always have to be updancing and singing, they just
show you in their eyes, theyshow you in their head bobs or
(12:45):
their small applause at the endof the song, and so those are
the ones I'm looking tocaptivate yeah, yeah, and so
what we're saying here is, whenwe get so caught up in the big
thing that's happening, you missout on the little things that
are actually hopeful andencouraging and a positive force
(13:07):
in your life, because we're sofocused on the negative or maybe
even focused on things thatwe're just not supposed to be
involved in.
Speaker 1 (13:14):
You know what I mean.
So I think about latelyrecently actually I've mentioned
that I had a transition in mycareer and, corey, let me tell
you about my FOMO.
I legit almost asked themanager that took my place to
(13:35):
blind copy me on emails, just soI could be in the know of
what's going on with my old teamand it's that's hard for me to
confess.
I was like this is a realproblem, like why would you even
think that?
But that's the realness of thefear of missing out now.
If that had been my focus, Iwould have missed out on seeing
(14:01):
my new team making plans to be apart of them stepping into my
role, because I would have beenstraddling the fence right.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
I would have been one foot out, but yet one foot
still in right so I realizedthis is a distraction not to
mention me from my own growthyeah, not to mention you would
have been stepping on someone'stoes, hello but I mean, it's
just a real thought.
Speaker 1 (14:26):
I wonder if we were to talk about the things that we
really think about in thatmoment related to fomo.
Like it is kind of I don't wantto say embarrassing, but just
to hear me say it out loud, it'slike ew, that's like cringe,
right yeah um, but it's just thereality of the thing.
Like, fomo is a real thing.
(14:46):
So what we really want toengage you in is what are you
missing out on when you're so inthat space of FOMO, you know?
Speaker 2 (14:59):
well, we can go down that road if you like go ahead.
You're not supposed to filtertoday you know, I'm I'm sure not
gonna filter this one, okay.
So a lot of times when we're sointerested and I'll give a real
good example um, we're sointerested to see how far ai can
take us.
That's what.
(15:19):
That's what the big thing isright now.
How much can?
Speaker 1 (15:23):
right ai.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
How far can AI excel my career, excel my Make it
easier for me.
Make it easier for me, make memore productive Right and grow
my social medias and so forthand so on.
And so, while you're sodistracted with that, you forget
the fact that the humanconnection was the best part of
(15:45):
what you were doing in the firstplace.
Speaker 1 (15:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
That's what allowed you to really write and express
yourself.
That's what it allowed you toreally create in a whole nother
space and a whole nother time.
And then, guys, I got, reallygot to ask this question, and
this is a real question in realtime who cares how many people
(16:09):
are following us?
Like, I know, we want to seethose big numbers, but why?
Is it just because it makes uslook popular?
Is it because it makes us feelbetter about ourselves?
But at the end of the day, whenyou lay down and go to sleep,
whether it's 2,000 or 2 millionpeople following you, it really
(16:31):
shouldn't change who we are.
And somehow it does right.
Speaker 1 (16:37):
It ties into our self-worth right, our belonging,
our identity and, my goodness,there's so much more to who you
are than like you say.
Corey.
Follows likes, people likes,loving what you're saying,
commenting on what you're saying.
(16:58):
What we've learned through takethe elevator is this we put
episodes out you guys know thisevery week and sometimes it is
silence, like we don't hearanything we post and, honestly,
like we're seriously not aboutthe likes.
But it is nice to see someoneengaged, because then I don't
(17:21):
have to think like because Ifeel like I made a mistake
downloading or it didn't, itdidn't, um, get on the platforms
correctly, because I'm nothearing anything.
But then we walk around, we runinto someone and they mention
the episode that just reallyspoke to them yeah and I love
(17:41):
that quay because I think whatwe've built is true human
connection absolutely, and Ithink people know that we love
the face-to-face if notface-to-face the phone calls,
the video calls, right, justsomething that's so beyond ai,
ai and the definitions of whatsuccess is supposed to look like
(18:04):
for you, it's really what youmake it for yourself, and so
that's why we were just like man.
We don't want our friends tomiss out on what's in it for
them, like on their calling,because we're so concerned about
the calling of someone else orthe actions of someone else.
Speaker 2 (18:25):
You know, jen, it's strange for me when I find
myself doing that, looking atnumbers, looking at likes and
stuff like that what I do andthis is a blunt admission I turn
everything off, I just walkaway, because then I realize at
(18:45):
that moment you're about tostart down a rabbit hole.
That is a never ending rabbithole.
Speaker 1 (18:51):
Yeah, and I love that , because when you walk away
from that, what you're reallywalking into is what Walking
away puts you in a space, whenyou're walking into things that
are going to serve you better.
Speaker 2 (19:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
Things where you can go intrinsic and really spend
time with yourself in reflectionand tap into and touch the
things that matter.
Right, really deciphering thatdoesn't matter.
That's actually a waste of mytime and energy or it's putting
me in a bad place, right?
So we got a little playful withfomo and I.
(19:28):
I think I've heard this joy ofmissing out.
Yeah, like, make it a joy ofmissing out, like oh god, jomo,
okay, and if we elevate jomo wecan go into pammo.
Peace, peace about missing out.
(19:50):
Okay, now that's a little too.
Oh, come on play with me here.
Okay, I'm playing, but I don'tknow if I'm liking it because
I'm going opposite of fear,right, fear of missing out, and
then we're going to the spacesof joy.
But it's so great to be atpeace with the fact that I don't
(20:10):
need to be keeping up with thejoneses like I get to focus on
my calling, what I'm supposed todo, and care about the people
around me right, no, I, Itotally agree, and I was just
playing with you about that.
I probably would never say thatyeah, I think fomo jomo makes
(20:34):
sense, but then you go pamo,that's like what?
Speaker 2 (20:38):
yeah um, but I'll play.
I'm just, you know, probablynot gonna say it out loud in
front of people, right?
Um, what I've noticed, jen, andthis is so crazy when you stop
caring on that level, like, Igotta get that, I gotta get my
likes to this, I gotta get my myfollowing to this, I gotta get
(21:00):
I to play this song perfect thefirst time through, or I got to
play the first set, flawless.
Speaker 1 (21:06):
Right, I have to do it just this way, or I have to
see the words just like this thefocus is so much on the thing
that it's not about the act thatyou're actually participating
in yeah, and who you're becomingright and who you're impacting
(21:28):
and it's so much fun to play.
Speaker 2 (21:30):
It's so much fun to interact with people on social
media.
It's so fun to write, toproduce, to whatever it is
you're doing, and that's why youstarted doing it in the first
place, because it was fun.
But then some brainiac threw atus that we need to get people
to like it and that's not thefun part.
Speaker 1 (21:51):
Right, it's not my job to make you like what I'm
doing right it's only my job todo the thing that I do yeah, and
there's so many growth anddevelopment workshops out there
about not people pleasing?
Speaker 2 (22:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (22:05):
But yet look at the society we live in.
Right, it's all about that.
Speaker 2 (22:09):
So that's all it's about.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
Yeah, yeah, so I have some.
Really, you know how I lovequestions because, as a coach
that just speaks to me, I get toanswer them.
Yeah, oh, how I love questionsbecause, as a coach that just
speaks to me.
Speaker 2 (22:18):
I get to answer them.
Speaker 1 (22:19):
Yeah, oh, I love answering questions Go for it or
share some philosophy around it.
Sure, so, and I'm going toinvite our friends and listeners
to maybe journal or justreflect or talk with a friend
about these two.
So what have I been missing outon in my life while watching
someone else's?
Speaker 2 (22:42):
And that's a question for me, yeah.
Speaker 1 (22:44):
Not necessarily for you, cause I know you don't
really watch anyone else's life.
Speaker 2 (22:48):
Well, I think that's the answer.
You've been missing out on lifewatching someone else's.
That's the problem with thesebig distractions from social
media, and when I say it blanketlike that, I'm talking about an
excess of social media, anexcess of TV.
(23:09):
I was talking to a friend ofours about how Jen and I are
able to move the needle and howwe're able to remain focused in
this journey, and I just simplyremoved a few key things, and
those key things allowed me tohave more time than I could ever
(23:32):
imagine having, because I don't.
Should I give a precursor tothis?
I don't.
Should I give a precursor tothis?
I'm not knocking any televisionshow.
I'm not knocking any sport.
I'm not knocking any thing thatyou may find enjoyable.
It's just not for me.
(23:53):
Yes, I found removing sports toadd so much time to what I need
to do.
I also found removingtelevision as far as sitcoms and
favorite TV shows.
Removing that added so muchtime and worth to what I'm doing
(24:15):
.
And so it's simple now I don'tget caught up in someone else's
life to live my own.
Speaker 1 (24:25):
Yeah, I love that answer.
You're like you're you'remissing out on life period.
Yeah, that's really good.
So I'm going to give you all myperspective on this.
I am a little more lenient whenit comes to TV, a little so
(24:47):
like.
For example, I watched arom-com an hour and a half while
Corey was playing and that justfills my heart.
It really does.
But I just also watched oh,what was it called Building the
Band Excellent show on Netflix,and I'm going to tell you why
I'm giving it an excellent.
I love watching shows that haveto do with relationships
(25:10):
building, how people form rightBehavior, and that's all in
there.
So, honestly, this is what I do.
I will pick a show that gets mein a very pensive state and
excited about the things that Ijust am naturally drawn to.
So get creative with it, right.
(25:32):
We're not saying, or I'm notsaying that all TV is bad.
I think there's some reallygood educational pieces in there
, and what we're saying at theend of the day is it's your time
.
You get to choose what to dowith it right and how it propels
you or how it holds you back.
That's up to you.
Speaker 2 (25:52):
And I want to offer this last little thing.
You know, if you're a speaker,a singer, a dancer and you were
to perform the night that yourfavorite show came on, would you
not watch?
I mean, would you not performto watch your favorite show or
(26:13):
your favorite sports team?
Or would you say you know what?
I really need to go out herenot only make this money, but do
this thing I love to do, whichis dancing, right, play or
whatever it is, and catch thatshow at another time or maybe
miss that episode.
Speaker 1 (26:30):
That's the way I align, what I'm trying to do
yeah or catch up on it later.
I think that's one of the coolthings, too about the world we
live in.
Speaker 2 (26:41):
Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:42):
Okay, so the next question is what distractions am
I choosing that pull me awayfrom what really matters?
Speaker 2 (26:50):
Well, that would be our mothers, that would be each
other, that would be.
Speaker 1 (26:57):
Those are the distractions.
Speaker 2 (26:59):
That I'm allowed.
I mean, and when I.
They're not distractions,they're things that I'm deeming
more important than somethingthat I would normally do okay, I
see how you've taken thatquestion all right, how was it
meant to be taken?
Speaker 1 (27:15):
just there's the thing.
Those are the things thatreally matter, like your mom,
like me, like the fuzzy furryforest and genco stuff.
What distractions have takenyou away from that at any point?
Speaker 2 (27:29):
oh, not much of anything for me.
I'm just, I'm not here for that.
I, I can't.
I have a job to do, I'm focused.
Speaker 1 (27:39):
You are super focused .
I feel like I'm more ADHD.
I have to have my hands inevery project a little bit at a
time.
Can I be honest, Corey?
Sometimes I just get bored justbeing in the one thing, and I
know that we've got so much soit makes it playful for me,
(28:04):
almost like a game.
I don't know, it just works forme.
Speaker 2 (28:07):
No, I totally get it.
Speaker 1 (28:09):
So I don't think those are really distractions.
I think you and I are reallygood too about hey, we need some
downtime.
Um, we're going to take a tripover the weekend or we're gonna
go ahead and make thatreservation and use our magic
keys for disneyland.
You know those kind of thingsI've gotten better with that.
Speaker 2 (28:29):
Yeah, thank goodness I used to struggle.
I'm like, yeah, but I reallygot work to do right now yes.
Speaker 1 (28:36):
So the last question is what boundaries or rhythms
would help me stay aligned to myown purpose and I love that
word rhythm, because you knowwe're musicians and so that word
just really speaks to me isfinding your rhythm, hearing
(28:57):
your own voice and being inharmony with people around you
that are also aligned with whatyou're about.
You know what I mean, becausethat just gets all sorts of
messy and chaotic when I've gottoo much going on and it takes
me away from what this is allabout.
Speaker 2 (29:16):
Well, I think, first and foremost, we shouldn't be
finding rhythms.
I think we should be creatingour rhythm.
That's for me, if we'recreating our rhythms, it's a lot
easier to find the pace and thetime that you're supposed to be
keeping.
Um, and I could go on and onand on and on about that.
(29:40):
So I I'm just gonna leave itthere, and if it landed with you
, please let me know.
If it didn't, please let meknow.
And, and I'll go into it deeperat a later date.
But I'm just a believer increating my own rhythm, my own
pace.
Um, because I like, uh,alternative music, old school
alternative music, like nirvana,and when you start playing that
(30:03):
kind of stuff, queen of thestone age, uh, that, that's the,
the rhythm I like to keep justthat, fast, hard.
Speaker 1 (30:16):
That's exactly your rhythm, that's exactly.
But see, the beautiful thingabout rhythm, and I have to
dance to your rhythm.
We're partners, we're married.
I'll skip a couple of thosebeats.
Yeah, so like, what was yourrhythm right now?
Speaker 2 (30:30):
and see how it's constant mine might be.
Speaker 1 (30:32):
Didn't right and I just love that because I'm still
on beat.
I'm just not on the same countand so that's again.
It shows how creating your ownrhythm works, because if you're
trying to go to mine, it mightnot work yeah you might not be
(30:53):
ready for that pace exactly, butsee how I can choose to jump in
on a beat, step off a beat, andthen I think, with Harmony,
what I love about that, and Iwrote this whole thing and I
have every intention to writethis blog.
But we're redoing the gencocomso it's still up, but there's
(31:17):
this blog I wrote and it's aboutHarmony and the beautiful thing
about Harmony is you've got tobe able to hear your own voice
first.
You've got to find your pitchand the note and where you're
going.
And then when you've got peoplein your life that are singing
their own melody right, orthey're bringing in the harmony,
(31:39):
you start to listen to oneanother and build together, and
so I'm very about that.
I think that's a huge boundaryfor me is who am I in harmony
with?
Speaker 2 (31:50):
and if there's no harmony, then you ain't coming
over for food and gettingleftovers when you go home, and
so for you non-singers ornon-music people trying to
understand harmonic structureand and where jen probably
thought that was a very simpleexplanation someone that's
non-musical is like what is shetalking about?
(32:12):
What is harmony and how doesthat look?
Basically, what she's saying isbeing lockstep with someone
else, being able to walk stridefor stride like you're marching
in an army.
Speaker 1 (32:25):
But you're still singing your own note and it's a
different note, but it blends.
Speaker 2 (32:28):
Absolutely.
You're still doing your thingRight, but it's in lockstep with
someone else.
That, or you're mimicking theperson to the point to where
it's you looking like them andthem looking like you that that
may not be a compatible match atthat point in time that's right
(32:50):
.
Speaker 1 (32:51):
So we're coming to close and I just had a closing
challenge and then a note that Iwanted to share.
Corey and I are encouraging youto intentionally exercise the
power and freedom of choice.
Choose one thing tointentionally miss out on this
(33:15):
week.
Experience the joy of missingout on that.
Speaker 2 (33:19):
I like that.
Speaker 1 (33:22):
And then choose one thing that you're gonna say yes
to in its place.
Oh, I bet there are things.
I have a list.
I have a list of things that Ineed to say yes to or that are
all cory true story on my to-dolist.
I have one.
That's a list that's alreadymarked on calendar because I
know this is the milestone.
I've got to hit it.
(33:42):
And then I have a list that'sunder the category of someday
Okay, Because it's like thereand I know I need to get to it
Right.
So it doesn't.
It's not that I'm ignoring it.
I'm just saying I just don'tknow when this is going to get
done, but my intentions are tohave it done.
You know what I mean yeah so geton your list and say yes to one
(34:05):
of those things that's on yoursomeday list.
Oh, go ahead.
Oh no, I was gonna ask what ifyou had anything to add um, to
that point, no, but I did likethat whole concept.
Speaker 2 (34:19):
So I'm interested to see if anyone will reach out to
us and tell us what they put onthe back burner and what they
replace it with.
What I will say is we have somereally good, exciting news
coming up about the Fuzzy FurryForest, but it's not all
completely developed yet, so Idon't want to start giving
(34:41):
little hints and droppingnuggets here and there.
I will.
I want to tell you guys thewhole thing all at once and just
buckle up.
This is about to be one ofthose good, crazy rides that
everyone's going to enjoy, Ipromise you.
Speaker 1 (35:00):
Yes.
So I'm going to end with thislove note from cory and I.
It says my time is sacred, mypurpose is worthy.
I will not trade what I valuefor what distracts good stuff.
Speaker 2 (35:16):
you wrote that, mm-hmm Amazing.
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (35:21):
Anyhow, you know us to take the elevator.
We say, look up and let'selevate.
Speaker 2 (35:34):
Every day.
Elevate Every day, elevateEvery day.
I wonder if they can tell wereally miss them.
Elevate.
Speaker 1 (35:45):
Every day.
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