August 12, 2025 • 34 mins
What if that moment required you to be more than okay? What if ordinary just wasn't enough?
This question frames a robust conversation about pushing beyond comfortable mediocrity into extraordinary territory.
The distinction is subtle but profound: ordinary means meeting minimal requirements with no shock value, while extraordinary means exceeding expectations and making a lasting impact.
For those hesitant to embrace the extraordinary, the hosts offer practical guidance: clarify your "why," dream exponentially bigger than feels comfortable, set progressively larger goals, tap into your unique strengths, find inspiring role models, and push through resistance by raising your standards. The simple shift from asking "what's good enough?" to "what's my best?" can fundamentally change your approach to challenges.
The episode concludes with a powerful mantra that encapsulates the extraordinary mindset: "If it's worth it, then it's worth my all." Whether applied to relationships, career opportunities, or personal dreams, this perspective transforms ordinary efforts into extraordinary results.
Ready to elevate your thinking and performance? Join us to discover how small shifts in preparation and mindset can yield remarkable outcomes in every area of your life.
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Speaker 1 (00:14):
Hey, it's Jen the Builder and Corey and welcome to
Take the Elevator.
We are one day late, and forgood reason.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Great reasons, great reasons, awesome reasons.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
So when this airs, it will be mine and Corey's 19th
wedding anniversary, do you?
Know, what today is?
It's our anniversary.
Yeah, made for you and me.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
So yeah, 19 years, what a blessing it's been.
So over the weekend we went outof town and went to Arizona,
did Phoenix, tucson, paradiseValley and Scottsdale.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
Oh boy, scottsdale.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
I have to tell you we fell in love.
We fell in love with Scottsdale.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Love, love, love.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
Yeah, so it was a good time with family and, um,
amazing times there.
We could dedicate a wholeepisode to the events of arizona
.
We won't do that today, becausetoday we're talking about a
topic that cory brought forward,and I have to tell you this.
(01:24):
I'm just going to be fullytransparent.
Well, let's go over what thetopic is it's about, when
ordinary just isn't enough.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
Right.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
And how to be extraordinary and push through.
So isn't it funny how we gotcalled on the carpet on this.
And let me give you somecontext.
Corey and I got off work, hadour dinner.
We're like, yeah, let's, let'smake sure to record this episode
.
Spend some time on the elevatorand we felt so good, like we
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just hit the point and we werehaving a great time.
And I go to upload it on ourplatform and there's a problem
with the SD card and I was like,no, it wasn't showing up.
So Corey and I are re-recordingthis and this is our answer to
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being extraordinary and pushingthrough.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
Absolutely, because if you can only do it one time,
it's not going to beextraordinary anyway.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
That's right, that's right.
So I'm going to start off byposing this question have you
ever looked back on somethingand thought I did all right, it
was okay, but I could have donemore?
What if that moment requiredyou to be more than okay?
What if ordinary just wasn'tenough?
Speaker 2 (02:47):
that's that dun-dun-dun moment because, yes,
no doubt I have definitelyshown up very ordinary in my
past and the crushing reality isthat it should have been
extraordinary.
And that's the moment of trueeducation and learning, when
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someone tells you you know what?
That was a little bit on thesafe side.
You need to bring all yourgifts, all your tools.
I want the toolbox empty by thetime you're done with this.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Yeah, yeah.
So Corey and I, you you know,for those who've been listening
to us, well over three, I thinkwe're almost into 400 episodes,
but if you've been here with us,you know that cory and I show
up united yet different.
That's how I'm gonna say it sowe're talking about this topic
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over dinner, and so I startposing questions to Corey,
because he's the one whoproduced this show, so I started
sharing with him.
You know, I think extraordinaryis when you show up and you
push through during criticalmoments.
That's my definition, corey,you said that extraordinary is
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when, for you, it's all the time, every day.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
Anytime you can possibly show up extraordinary,
I encourage you to do so.
If you're walking aroundordinary, that's probably how
you're being perceived byeveryone around you.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
Okay, so let's define some words Sure.
What do you mean by ordinary?
Speaker 2 (04:28):
Ordinary is no shock value.
It's the way everyone expectsyou to be, the way everyone
expects you to act, sing, speak,engage, and there's nothing out
of the ordinary that'shappening okay, and so I'd add
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on and say you're doing minimalokay, requirement for success so
it still could be success, butmaybe it's you know,
it's good and let me say this II want to be really, really
clear when I say there isnothing wrong with ordinary.
You can live a very happy lifeshowing up ordinary and
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typically we're talking aboutfor performance style behavior.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
Okay, so then extraordinary would mean Then
extraordinary would mean.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
For me, that means that whatever I'm doing is so
over the top that people aregoing to not only notice, but
they're never going to forget it, and they'll remind not only
other people but even you thatyou did this extraordinary feat
and how surprised and shockedthey were.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
Yes.
So for me, definition is justshowing up fully, and when I say
just, I don't mean just Showingup fully requires a lot, it's
exceeding the expectations right, and just going full on in and
making a lasting impact.
So I know, corey, you mentionedperformance and we're going to
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elaborate on that more because Ithink you can be extraordinary
and other things that aren'tnecessarily performance-based,
and we'll talk about that.
So I have to say and I'm goingto address the elephant in the
room there are people and thesaying is you know, I am enough,
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I'm perfectly flawed and Idon't take away from that you
are enough.
But I've met a lot of peoplewho use that as an excuse to not
do more or be more a crutchexactly so.
What we're saying is in thisepisode is you are enough, but
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most of the time, ordinary isn'tenough, so you have to push
through and be more, because youcan do more.
Right, right, it's, it's in ournature, it's who we are.
Um, I love this concept ofordinary keeps you comfortable,
whereas extraordinary pushes youout of that comfort zone yeah,
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into a whole nother realm inspace yeah.
So I'm going to give someexamples of when ordinary isn't
enough because, again, coryCorey and I two different people
.
He performs extraordinarilyalmost all the time, and I say
almost, because I'm not going togive an absolute.
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Okay, I'm just not going to dothat.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
I don't mind.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
Okay.
So some of the things that cometo my mind when it isn't enough
is when you have opportunitiesthat you might feel aren't going
to come again.
It might be a promotion, orit's a big presentation that's
like the determining factor ofyour trajectory, of where you're
going to go next right rightthat kind of way, or it's a
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crucial conversation and you'rereally going to have to stretch
yourself.
We see this a lot during timesof adversity.
There are people who show up inextraordinary ways and we've
seen this in community right,where we help each other during
family crisis or during anuncertain moment, and so we see
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that happen, turning points inrelationships.
I think you should beextraordinary when you are in a
relationship that matters to you.
So I hope most relationshipsmatter to you, but like, for
example, speaking of theanniversary, corey, you and I
are do or die kind ofrelationship.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
All in or don't go.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
That's right.
So you deserve and I deserve myextraordinary efforts in this
relationship, yeah Right.
So a lot of other times, too,where you go extraordinary in
relationships is when you've gotto rebuild trust Right, because
you've got to gain that backPersonal goals and dreams.
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It's when you again you pushthrough and you don't quit.
So that's when I say ordinaryisn't enough, because big things
are going to happen if, if youdo this in extraordinary ways go
ahead.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
I love your face right now say what you want to
say see, I just live in adifferent plane, on a different
plane and in a different planebecause, uh, I was taught some,
some key things.
You only get to make a firstimpression once.
What if you run into your nextwherever you go?
So that's why, when I go to thegrocery store, I'm getting
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fully dressed and I'm looking mybest.
That's why, when I I goanywhere to do anything, I never
know when I'm going to meetsomeone or run into someone from
my past that has, um,opportunities or events that I
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may be able to capitalize on.
And so being extraordinary andstanding out helps me to go to
that next level.
Now you say well, what if yougo 20 places and nothing ever
happens?
I still feel good about myselfand I still feel extraordinary
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and I walk away with theconfidence that, even if
something didn't happen, I wasready for it yeah, yeah, and
that's beautiful, because Iagree with that mindset, corey.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
I think looking your best or being on top of that is
so important, especially whenyou don't feel that great.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:48):
I mean that plays a big part.
We've heard of studies wherethey've taken groups of people
and have put them in prisonuniforms, jail outfits, and put
them in that setting.
And these stand-up people allof a sudden want to act criminal
.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
Right, because you dress for the part that you're
gonna play and it's a real thing, yeah it really is, it really
is.
So I love what you're bringingup too, because we're not saying
extraordinary has to be overthe top, not at all.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
No, extraordinary is that one percent, that above the
notch, that elevated, elevatedmoment right yeah, you got
dressed, you put on somedeodorant, got your hair looking
right, brushed your teeth.
Now here's the extraordinary.
I want a spritz of cologne.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
Everyone's like.
That's my ordinary, God, I hopethat's your ordinary.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
Oh my gosh, please, let's not go there.
We've seen some.
Well, we won't go there.
But yes, the extra sometimes isa little bit of cologne.
Or wear your newest pair ofshoes as opposed to your oldest
pair of shoes, or put some sockson with those shoes instead of
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just going oh, just throw on theflip-flops.
I know it doesn't look rightwith this, but I'm gonna do that
anyway.
You just have to begin to thinkin a more elevated manner, to
allow yourself a a chance to bedifferent from everybody else
yeah, so he's covering the mindover matter.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
Piece of Extraordinary.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
I'm going to give an example and yes, right now I'm
going to focus on us as authorsof the Fuzzy Furry Forest series
, because it's so relatable tous right now and it's relevant.
So recently we had a booksigning for Kelly Kanga, but let
me give some context beforethat.
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So we just started getting intobook fairs and pop-ups and
stuff like that and I you know,corey and I were like, yeah, we
need, we need our setup, like weneed our branding.
I know we're we're brandingourselves, but we need some of
that stuff around us.
So I'm like, okay, he's likelet's do backdrop and I'm like,
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yeah, let's do it.
Speaker 2 (13:13):
And normal backdrops are.
What size?
Speaker 1 (13:14):
uh, eight by five eight by five yeah so five feet
is gonna be the width of thetable, if not a little bit
bigger.
Something yeah, that's that'scool.
That Something yeah, that'scool, that's standard.
Yeah, that's ordinary.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1 (13:29):
Well, corey's on.
Nah, we're extraordinary.
So Corey came home just smilesbecause he had ordered all the
stuff and this backdrop isamazing and it's a 9 by 12.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
Yes, indeed, and very brightly colorful and amazing.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
Spectacular.
And then we have our littleside banner thing or tablecloths
.
But the thing is is this iswhat extraordinary will get you?
People stop and are in awe andthey just automatically their
attention is drawn and the tablestarts to fill faster because
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of the look of the booth.
So I've learned to play withyou, corey, on the extraordinary
.
Speaker 2 (14:19):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
For me.
I was like it's not practical,it's our budget and you start
going there.
But you are worth theinvestment, whether it be money,
whether it be time, energy.
Extraordinary is the way to go,and I think of people who want
to promote and here was myrationale.
So you kick butt during aninterview and you go
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extraordinary.
Right, you lose sleep the nightbefore you're reviewing all
these questions and answers, butthe thing is is, if you're like
Corey and you're justextraordinary every day, it's
less stress during the interview.
Speaker 2 (15:00):
So much less stress.
And again, you know I leanheavily into the book fairs and
the boutiques and the pop-upswhere everyone is fighting for
the same thing Someone'sattention, someone's dollar,
possibly, or someone'sinvestment into you or your
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brand, which is you.
And so if you are willing tolook sound and act like everyone
else, there's a good chancethat you might not get seen.
It's the extraordinary thattakes it to that next level for
someone to say wait a minute,there's something else there,
there's something that I reallywant to see and be a part of.
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That's what I'm searching for.
That's what I'm looking for.
Speaker 1 (15:48):
Love that.
So, corey, we're going to givesome tips on how to step into
your extraordinary I love it.
Don't even say your, I meanyours, yours, the people who are
listening.
Speaker 2 (15:58):
Not mine, yours.
Speaker 1 (15:59):
Yes, because we're sharing some stories on what
we've done, and it's becausewe're the only two behind the
mics right now, um, but wereally want to encourage you to
step into your extraordinary.
So here's some really practicalsteps and cory, you and I are
just going to ping pong, sure,and so my first step would be
get clear on the why.
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So it always helps me to timemy efforts into a bigger purpose
.
This is bigger than me, this isbigger than my fear, this is
bigger than my resistance.
It's like do the thing rightand just tie into that and
remember your why, and your whyhas got to be big.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
Huge.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
Yeah, so that would be my practical step number one.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
My step number one would be to dream big, big, big,
huge like never before.
If you saw it five feet, dreamit 25 feet, dream it 55 feet.
And the reason why is becausethe bigger you dream, the more
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impact you're going to have inreality.
And that's what you're tryingto do.
Let me just give a quick storyon dreaming bigger than
everybody else.
If you're not familiar with theband called Kiss, there was
this rock and roll band back inthe day and I'm sure a lot of
people remember who they are,but it wasn't that they were so
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amazingly talented, but they hada stage show that was unmatched
by anybody else at the time.
You want to know wherepyrotechnics come from.
Kiss brought that to the stagepyrotechnics come from.
KISS brought that to the stageand so when you've seen the
explosions and the lights andthe flashing, you knew you were
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at a KISS concert and you justcouldn't get that anywhere else.
They were extraordinary withthe makeup on their faces and
the outfits and it became athing to do those type of things
so that you can.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
Stand out, stand out.
Yeah, dream big.
Speaker 2 (18:10):
As big as possible.
Speaker 1 (18:12):
So I'm going to piggyback on that.
That's a beautiful reminder todream big.
While you're dreaming big,activate your intentional energy
.
So I'm sure Kisses askedthemselves back in the day what
is going all in look like rightnow.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
Right, I could do it this way, but what does all?
In mean, it's like when we didwhen we're doing fuzzy furry
forest series, you do one book,now we're gonna make it a series
.
13 books, guys.
Yeah, that's the all in, and uh, it's been the gift that keeps
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on giving yeah, with purpose andvision yeah and a dream that's
Speaker 2 (18:59):
really, really big.
Yeah, um, my last one is tohave a goal, not just one, but
multiple goals, but have astarting goal and a finishing
goal.
So you want to have a one-yeargoal, you want to have a
five-year goal, you want to havea 10-year goal, and each goal
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should be 10 times bigger thanthe first one or the one before
it, so that you never stophaving to push and that you
never get comfortable.
The moment you get comfortableis when you've kind of given up
on yourself and it's you thathas to push yourself.
Nobody's going to push you inthis and you say, oh, this is
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just way too much work.
This is just way more than Iever asked for.
Again, and I hope I made myselfclear ordinary is fine.
There are people that havewonderful, clear ordinary is
fine.
There are people that havewonderful, amazing lives.
With the ordinary.
You want to write one book, youwant to sing one song, you want
to do one job promotion andthen you want to throw in the
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towel and retire that.
That's fine.
But if you're looking to dothat next big thing, you got to
start thinking extraordinary.
Speaker 1 (20:09):
Have some goals goals , yeah, and to help you do that,
really tap into your strengths,because you're not going in
this alone.
No, and when I say alone, Idon't necessarily mean people.
Yeah, you want support group,yes, you want community, but
you've got to rely on yourstrengths.
Lean in, lean in, do what youdo best and amplify it.
Speaker 2 (20:33):
Yeah, and don't be afraid to acquire some role
models.
I'm not talking about peopleyou can mimic.
I'm talking about people thatyou can pick and choose what
attributes that you want toacquire most and then make them
your own and even grow them alittle bit more.
Speaker 1 (20:51):
Yes, yes, so my last one.
I think this is the last one onour behalf as far as tips to
step into.
Your extraordinary is pushthrough the resistance.
And there will be some, yeah,lots, I think the way to push
through is you've got to raiseyour standard.
Guys, like, stop askingyourself what's good enough and
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change that question to what'smy best right.
Speaker 2 (21:16):
Oh, I like that jim.
Speaker 1 (21:17):
I really like that a lot that one has worked
amazingly for me and I know Ineed to take that mindset and
put it in a couple of things inmy life right now and it's a
process, right, but you've gotto spend time in those questions
because I think cory is peoplewe spend a lot of time in the
places of resistance and so whatyou give your mind to, what you
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spend time in, is gonna, isgonna win yeah so I say spend
time in what does my best.
Look like like what.
What do I need to do to go allin Play in that space and don't
let yourself talk you out of it.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
Right, and then you got to ask yourself those
questions like well, how did Ishow up the last time?
Was that good enough?
If it was good enough, how canI top that?
How can I go a little bitfurther?
How did I come across last time?
And, guys, these are questionsI'm literally asking myself
every time I do anything.
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This is me, though.
I just have to continue to pushbecause, again, I never know
when my next opportunity isgoing to come and, with that
being said, I'm sure my ourstory of this past weekend.
Speaker 1 (22:32):
Yes, and remember the tips that we just gave, because
I think we're going to see howthey came into play for us.
Speaker 2 (22:38):
Right.
So everywhere I go, because Igot caught slipping a couple of
times in the past where I wouldgo places and didn't have
business cards, I didn't havethe books, I didn't have
material that I could give topeople or show people, because
you just never know when thatopportunity may present itself.
So as we were packing andgetting ready, I made sure to
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run to the room and grab a setof books all four and I put them
somewhere where I wouldn'tforget them and easy
accessibility.
And when I unloaded the carwhen we got to the hotel, I made
sure to leave them in the car.
So we go to this amazingboutique before breakfast and we
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meet this woman who is anentrepreneur and she's doing her
thing, and she had alreadytalked to Jen about a few things
when I was off doing myshopping.
And then, when Jen was in thecorner doing her shopping, she
asked me what I, what I did, andI introduced myself as a
published children's book writerand author and she gave me a
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look of no way.
But I didn't know that no waywas because she was.
The wheels were churning, Ithought it was in doubt.
Well, here was my opportunity.
I'm not only going to provethat I'm an author.
But I'm also going to try tocapitalize on the boutique and
the store.
So I excused myself, ran out tothe car and grabbed the books
you want to take over from there, jane.
Speaker 1 (24:03):
Yeah.
So you walk in with the booksand she's just so grateful.
And of course she asked fromone business owner to another,
how much are these?
And I'm looking at Corey Now.
Corey is so extraordinary thatmy man would give a book to
everyone if he could.
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And so I just I looked at herand I said you know, what we'd
really love is to see our booksin your store for sale.
Speaker 2 (24:37):
That was the very extraordinary that I was looking
from Jen, because Jen is alwaysthinking extraordinary once we
turn the switch on for her aswell yeah, and you know it's a
sale.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
When people do this, when they start to envision what
that looks like, she goes oh, Icould put your books up there
on that shelf yeah, man and soshe's like how much would you
charge me for them?
so she's already going thatroute and so ultimately there's
that and we've been invited todo book signing at her boutique.
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So we're going to be going backto beautiful Scottsdale.
So excited about that.
And what I love, corey, is,over the weekend we were talking
about the different things andwe had succumbed to this fact
that part of being extraordinaryand we didn't use that word at
this time, so I'm just addingthat in right now is, yes, being
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prepared and planning anddiligent, and then sometimes
just not really having a plan,and actually the plan is to be
ready for whatever's going tocome our way our way.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
Yeah, I'm glad you said that, jen, because we can
plan all day and all night forsomething to happen or for
something to happen a certainway, and it just might not go
that route, but you can alwaysbe prepared for whatever's going
to come your way.
And the boutique lady asked usquestions that we hadn't planned
on, but we were prepared forthe outcome of that next
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question and then what wouldlead to being invited to do a
book signing, which isincredible.
And again at that moment, uh,cool, and the game came on in
our, in our soundtrack, and down, down, down, down, down, down,
down down.
Yeah, so I'm dancing on theinside and I'm watching Jen, and
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Jen is a very good poker player.
She's never gonna give her truefeelings away, whereas I make
crack and break, so it'simportant that I walk away oh, g
, oh, you're the sweetest thing,though people.
Speaker 1 (26:55):
People may not know this about you.
In fact, I'm sure they don'tknow about you.
Corey is so excited about doingbusiness with people, about
plugging in, like he'll give upinnocently the goods before it's
time, or he'll show like supereager that there's no more
negotiating, like it's like well, I guess we're doing this and
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and I and I love to sell, I lovethat process, but you're like a
kid in that way, and I meanthat with so much respect.
Speaker 2 (27:29):
I'm working on my game face, though, guys, so I
love it I need a little bit moretime to get that the game face
thing down pat yeah, so it.
Speaker 1 (27:40):
That is our example of being extraordinary.
And see, it didn't, doesn'ttake too much.
You have books with you or youhave a dream that you you know
you want to be a writer or asinger or you want to promote.
Speaker 2 (27:55):
Let me tell you, man, people are looking at you every
day, all day, and they may notsay anything, but it's, it's
amazing when it's time, andpeople say stuff yeah, I'll tell
this last little story, jen,and then we'll go wherever you
want to go, because I had aprevious life as a singer, as a
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background singer and a soloartist.
I'm not saying I was the bestor the greatest, but I was.
Extraordinary music world isthat you always got to be ready
to sing, no matter what peopleare going to ask you to sing and
believe it or not.
When I traveled in certaincircles, that was the thing sing
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something.
And so that moment of beingembarrassed and holding back or
let me see what song I'm goingto sing, or you know all that
stuff.
Once I removed that and I didvery quickly and someone said
sing something.
Even though I was in a group, Ijust started singing.
I sing whatever song came tomind and I sing it to the best
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of my ability.
And so a lot of people wouldsay, well, did you get a big
record deal?
No, I did not.
But let me tell you what I didget.
I got plenty of opportunitiesto sing background with some
amazing people.
I got plenty of opportunity tobe in the room when things were
going down and people werewriting songs and I was asked
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what my opinion was and gotwriter's credit.
So it's those moments to be alittle bit more extraordinary
and that's a singing musicalworld and I just wanted to share
that with you guys as well.
I hope that helps someone yeah,I'm sure it will.
Speaker 1 (29:37):
I'm sure it'll help quite a few people there.
Um, I wanted to say this onething for people already to take
the extra extraordinary daily,go for it.
For people who are stillprocessing this, sometimes the
extraordinary is just eventhinking what's one step, one
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step that I can do this weekjust to push through the
resistance.
And because you're alreadythinking it, that's powerful
because everything begins inyour mind yeah and um.
Speaker 2 (30:09):
Your thoughts matter, so if you can start to change
the way you think into beingextraordinary, that'll happen oh
, yeah, and and, like she said,having that run through your
mind changes the game, simplybecause you're not contemplating
an easy play.
(30:30):
You're contemplating therecould be resistance, there could
be someone that's trying tostop me or interrupt me or
change the direction or thetrajectory of this particular
conversation or thing that I'mtrying to do.
But if you're already thinkingin that mindset, you'll know
okay, I have to shift gears, Ihave to pivot, to pivot.
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Oh, pivot's huge in all thosecircumstances.
Speaker 1 (30:53):
But yeah, you'll be thinking in that, in those terms
yeah, I want to say one, onemore one more, one more I, I
definitely need to say this um,this, as most of you know, is
mine and cory's second marriage,second shot at this, and I just
know that when you're doingsomething over and that you've
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experienced failure, maybe someinsecurities, or you're just
like, do I really want to makemyself vulnerable again, you
have to be in a mindset ofextraordinary because you're
giving it.
You've raised your standard inessence, right?
So I think not.
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I think that's part of uscelebrating 19 years into our
second marriage.
That's huge.
So I just want to say it's beena blessing to be extraordinary
and I hope that this mantrarings, energizing for people
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listening and it's this if it'sworth it, then it's worth my all
you said that very much sodifferent, with more impact than
I've ever heard it before, andI appreciate that.
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Yeah.
Speaker 2 (32:20):
It's worth my all.
Speaker 1 (32:24):
Yeah, and I'm just sitting here and enjoying the
silence of and just letting thatring inside me.
If it's worth it, then it'sworth my all and I'm like
thinking of all the things yeah,that's what I was doing
marriage, children, uh career,uh friendship, family
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relationships.
Yeah, everything it's worth myall hmm, anyways, you know, we
appreciate you.
We do we appreciate you guys somuch and love you and just
thank you for being here with uson our anniversary.
Speaker 2 (33:00):
You thought I forgot.
I did not forget.
Speaker 1 (33:02):
What's that?
Speaker 2 (33:03):
This big event we have coming up this week at a
backpack giveaway with LA Careand I'm so excited because Jen
and I will be a part of thisevent and we are just looking
forward to introducing the FuzzyFurry Forest to the kids and to
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LA County and just all thesewonderful situations.
So man can't say enough aboutextraordinary opportunities.
Well, jen is struggling rightnow.
We'll say it like this you knowus at, take the elevator, we
say look up and let's elevateEvery day, elevate Every day.
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You try to drown me out withthis Elevate Every day, elevate
Every day.
Hey, it's Jen the Builder and Corey and welcome to
Take the Elevator.
We are one day late, and forgood reason.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Great reasons, great reasons, awesome reasons.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
So when this airs, it will be mine and Corey's 19th
wedding anniversary, do you?
Know, what today is?
It's our anniversary.
Yeah, made for you and me.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
So yeah, 19 years, what a blessing it's been.
So over the weekend we went outof town and went to Arizona,
did Phoenix, tucson, paradiseValley and Scottsdale.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
Oh boy, scottsdale.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
I have to tell you we fell in love.
We fell in love with Scottsdale.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Love, love, love.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
Yeah, so it was a good time with family and, um,
amazing times there.
We could dedicate a wholeepisode to the events of arizona
.
We won't do that today, becausetoday we're talking about a
topic that cory brought forward,and I have to tell you this.
(01:24):
I'm just going to be fullytransparent.
Well, let's go over what thetopic is it's about, when
ordinary just isn't enough.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
Right.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
And how to be extraordinary and push through.
So isn't it funny how we gotcalled on the carpet on this.
And let me give you somecontext.
Corey and I got off work, hadour dinner.
We're like, yeah, let's, let'smake sure to record this episode
.
Spend some time on the elevatorand we felt so good, like we
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just hit the point and we werehaving a great time.
And I go to upload it on ourplatform and there's a problem
with the SD card and I was like,no, it wasn't showing up.
So Corey and I are re-recordingthis and this is our answer to
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being extraordinary and pushingthrough.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
Absolutely, because if you can only do it one time,
it's not going to beextraordinary anyway.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
That's right, that's right.
So I'm going to start off byposing this question have you
ever looked back on somethingand thought I did all right, it
was okay, but I could have donemore?
What if that moment requiredyou to be more than okay?
What if ordinary just wasn'tenough?
Speaker 2 (02:47):
that's that dun-dun-dun moment because, yes,
no doubt I have definitelyshown up very ordinary in my
past and the crushing reality isthat it should have been
extraordinary.
And that's the moment of trueeducation and learning, when
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someone tells you you know what?
That was a little bit on thesafe side.
You need to bring all yourgifts, all your tools.
I want the toolbox empty by thetime you're done with this.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Yeah, yeah.
So Corey and I, you you know,for those who've been listening
to us, well over three, I thinkwe're almost into 400 episodes,
but if you've been here with us,you know that cory and I show
up united yet different.
That's how I'm gonna say it sowe're talking about this topic
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over dinner, and so I startposing questions to Corey,
because he's the one whoproduced this show, so I started
sharing with him.
You know, I think extraordinaryis when you show up and you
push through during criticalmoments.
That's my definition, corey,you said that extraordinary is
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when, for you, it's all the time, every day.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
Anytime you can possibly show up extraordinary,
I encourage you to do so.
If you're walking aroundordinary, that's probably how
you're being perceived byeveryone around you.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
Okay, so let's define some words Sure.
What do you mean by ordinary?
Speaker 2 (04:28):
Ordinary is no shock value.
It's the way everyone expectsyou to be, the way everyone
expects you to act, sing, speak,engage, and there's nothing out
of the ordinary that'shappening okay, and so I'd add
(04:50):
on and say you're doing minimalokay, requirement for success so
it still could be success, butmaybe it's you know,
it's good and let me say this II want to be really, really
clear when I say there isnothing wrong with ordinary.
You can live a very happy lifeshowing up ordinary and
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typically we're talking aboutfor performance style behavior.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
Okay, so then extraordinary would mean Then
extraordinary would mean.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
For me, that means that whatever I'm doing is so
over the top that people aregoing to not only notice, but
they're never going to forget it, and they'll remind not only
other people but even you thatyou did this extraordinary feat
and how surprised and shockedthey were.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
Yes.
So for me, definition is justshowing up fully, and when I say
just, I don't mean just Showingup fully requires a lot, it's
exceeding the expectations right, and just going full on in and
making a lasting impact.
So I know, corey, you mentionedperformance and we're going to
(06:04):
elaborate on that more because Ithink you can be extraordinary
and other things that aren'tnecessarily performance-based,
and we'll talk about that.
So I have to say and I'm goingto address the elephant in the
room there are people and thesaying is you know, I am enough,
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I'm perfectly flawed and Idon't take away from that you
are enough.
But I've met a lot of peoplewho use that as an excuse to not
do more or be more a crutchexactly so.
What we're saying is in thisepisode is you are enough, but
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most of the time, ordinary isn'tenough, so you have to push
through and be more, because youcan do more.
Right, right, it's, it's in ournature, it's who we are.
Um, I love this concept ofordinary keeps you comfortable,
whereas extraordinary pushes youout of that comfort zone yeah,
(07:14):
into a whole nother realm inspace yeah.
So I'm going to give someexamples of when ordinary isn't
enough because, again, coryCorey and I two different people
.
He performs extraordinarilyalmost all the time, and I say
almost, because I'm not going togive an absolute.
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Okay, I'm just not going to dothat.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
I don't mind.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
Okay.
So some of the things that cometo my mind when it isn't enough
is when you have opportunitiesthat you might feel aren't going
to come again.
It might be a promotion, orit's a big presentation that's
like the determining factor ofyour trajectory, of where you're
going to go next right rightthat kind of way, or it's a
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crucial conversation and you'rereally going to have to stretch
yourself.
We see this a lot during timesof adversity.
There are people who show up inextraordinary ways and we've
seen this in community right,where we help each other during
family crisis or during anuncertain moment, and so we see
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that happen, turning points inrelationships.
I think you should beextraordinary when you are in a
relationship that matters to you.
So I hope most relationshipsmatter to you, but like, for
example, speaking of theanniversary, corey, you and I
are do or die kind ofrelationship.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
All in or don't go.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
That's right.
So you deserve and I deserve myextraordinary efforts in this
relationship, yeah Right.
So a lot of other times, too,where you go extraordinary in
relationships is when you've gotto rebuild trust Right, because
you've got to gain that backPersonal goals and dreams.
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It's when you again you pushthrough and you don't quit.
So that's when I say ordinaryisn't enough, because big things
are going to happen if, if youdo this in extraordinary ways go
ahead.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
I love your face right now say what you want to
say see, I just live in adifferent plane, on a different
plane and in a different planebecause, uh, I was taught some,
some key things.
You only get to make a firstimpression once.
What if you run into your nextwherever you go?
So that's why, when I go to thegrocery store, I'm getting
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fully dressed and I'm looking mybest.
That's why, when I I goanywhere to do anything, I never
know when I'm going to meetsomeone or run into someone from
my past that has, um,opportunities or events that I
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may be able to capitalize on.
And so being extraordinary andstanding out helps me to go to
that next level.
Now you say well, what if yougo 20 places and nothing ever
happens?
I still feel good about myselfand I still feel extraordinary
(10:27):
and I walk away with theconfidence that, even if
something didn't happen, I wasready for it yeah, yeah, and
that's beautiful, because Iagree with that mindset, corey.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
I think looking your best or being on top of that is
so important, especially whenyou don't feel that great.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:48):
I mean that plays a big part.
We've heard of studies wherethey've taken groups of people
and have put them in prisonuniforms, jail outfits, and put
them in that setting.
And these stand-up people allof a sudden want to act criminal
.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
Right, because you dress for the part that you're
gonna play and it's a real thing, yeah it really is, it really
is.
So I love what you're bringingup too, because we're not saying
extraordinary has to be overthe top, not at all.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
No, extraordinary is that one percent, that above the
notch, that elevated, elevatedmoment right yeah, you got
dressed, you put on somedeodorant, got your hair looking
right, brushed your teeth.
Now here's the extraordinary.
I want a spritz of cologne.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
Everyone's like.
That's my ordinary, God, I hopethat's your ordinary.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
Oh my gosh, please, let's not go there.
We've seen some.
Well, we won't go there.
But yes, the extra sometimes isa little bit of cologne.
Or wear your newest pair ofshoes as opposed to your oldest
pair of shoes, or put some sockson with those shoes instead of
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just going oh, just throw on theflip-flops.
I know it doesn't look rightwith this, but I'm gonna do that
anyway.
You just have to begin to thinkin a more elevated manner, to
allow yourself a a chance to bedifferent from everybody else
yeah, so he's covering the mindover matter.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
Piece of Extraordinary.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
I'm going to give an example and yes, right now I'm
going to focus on us as authorsof the Fuzzy Furry Forest series
, because it's so relatable tous right now and it's relevant.
So recently we had a booksigning for Kelly Kanga, but let
me give some context beforethat.
(12:50):
So we just started getting intobook fairs and pop-ups and
stuff like that and I you know,corey and I were like, yeah, we
need, we need our setup, like weneed our branding.
I know we're we're brandingourselves, but we need some of
that stuff around us.
So I'm like, okay, he's likelet's do backdrop and I'm like,
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yeah, let's do it.
Speaker 2 (13:13):
And normal backdrops are.
What size?
Speaker 1 (13:14):
uh, eight by five eight by five yeah so five feet
is gonna be the width of thetable, if not a little bit
bigger.
Something yeah, that's that'scool.
That Something yeah, that'scool, that's standard.
Yeah, that's ordinary.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1 (13:29):
Well, corey's on.
Nah, we're extraordinary.
So Corey came home just smilesbecause he had ordered all the
stuff and this backdrop isamazing and it's a 9 by 12.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
Yes, indeed, and very brightly colorful and amazing.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
Spectacular.
And then we have our littleside banner thing or tablecloths
.
But the thing is is this iswhat extraordinary will get you?
People stop and are in awe andthey just automatically their
attention is drawn and the tablestarts to fill faster because
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of the look of the booth.
So I've learned to play withyou, corey, on the extraordinary
.
Speaker 2 (14:19):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
For me.
I was like it's not practical,it's our budget and you start
going there.
But you are worth theinvestment, whether it be money,
whether it be time, energy.
Extraordinary is the way to go,and I think of people who want
to promote and here was myrationale.
So you kick butt during aninterview and you go
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extraordinary.
Right, you lose sleep the nightbefore you're reviewing all
these questions and answers, butthe thing is is, if you're like
Corey and you're justextraordinary every day, it's
less stress during the interview.
Speaker 2 (15:00):
So much less stress.
And again, you know I leanheavily into the book fairs and
the boutiques and the pop-upswhere everyone is fighting for
the same thing Someone'sattention, someone's dollar,
possibly, or someone'sinvestment into you or your
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brand, which is you.
And so if you are willing tolook sound and act like everyone
else, there's a good chancethat you might not get seen.
It's the extraordinary thattakes it to that next level for
someone to say wait a minute,there's something else there,
there's something that I reallywant to see and be a part of.
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That's what I'm searching for.
That's what I'm looking for.
Speaker 1 (15:48):
Love that.
So, corey, we're going to givesome tips on how to step into
your extraordinary I love it.
Don't even say your, I meanyours, yours, the people who are
listening.
Speaker 2 (15:58):
Not mine, yours.
Speaker 1 (15:59):
Yes, because we're sharing some stories on what
we've done, and it's becausewe're the only two behind the
mics right now, um, but wereally want to encourage you to
step into your extraordinary.
So here's some really practicalsteps and cory, you and I are
just going to ping pong, sure,and so my first step would be
get clear on the why.
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So it always helps me to timemy efforts into a bigger purpose
.
This is bigger than me, this isbigger than my fear, this is
bigger than my resistance.
It's like do the thing rightand just tie into that and
remember your why, and your whyhas got to be big.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
Huge.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
Yeah, so that would be my practical step number one.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
My step number one would be to dream big, big, big,
huge like never before.
If you saw it five feet, dreamit 25 feet, dream it 55 feet.
And the reason why is becausethe bigger you dream, the more
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impact you're going to have inreality.
And that's what you're tryingto do.
Let me just give a quick storyon dreaming bigger than
everybody else.
If you're not familiar with theband called Kiss, there was
this rock and roll band back inthe day and I'm sure a lot of
people remember who they are,but it wasn't that they were so
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amazingly talented, but they hada stage show that was unmatched
by anybody else at the time.
You want to know wherepyrotechnics come from.
Kiss brought that to the stagepyrotechnics come from.
KISS brought that to the stageand so when you've seen the
explosions and the lights andthe flashing, you knew you were
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at a KISS concert and you justcouldn't get that anywhere else.
They were extraordinary withthe makeup on their faces and
the outfits and it became athing to do those type of things
so that you can.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
Stand out, stand out.
Yeah, dream big.
Speaker 2 (18:10):
As big as possible.
Speaker 1 (18:12):
So I'm going to piggyback on that.
That's a beautiful reminder todream big.
While you're dreaming big,activate your intentional energy
.
So I'm sure Kisses askedthemselves back in the day what
is going all in look like rightnow.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
Right, I could do it this way, but what does all?
In mean, it's like when we didwhen we're doing fuzzy furry
forest series, you do one book,now we're gonna make it a series
.
13 books, guys.
Yeah, that's the all in, and uh, it's been the gift that keeps
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on giving yeah, with purpose andvision yeah and a dream that's
Speaker 2 (18:59):
really, really big.
Yeah, um, my last one is tohave a goal, not just one, but
multiple goals, but have astarting goal and a finishing
goal.
So you want to have a one-yeargoal, you want to have a
five-year goal, you want to havea 10-year goal, and each goal
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should be 10 times bigger thanthe first one or the one before
it, so that you never stophaving to push and that you
never get comfortable.
The moment you get comfortableis when you've kind of given up
on yourself and it's you thathas to push yourself.
Nobody's going to push you inthis and you say, oh, this is
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just way too much work.
This is just way more than Iever asked for.
Again, and I hope I made myselfclear ordinary is fine.
There are people that havewonderful, clear ordinary is
fine.
There are people that havewonderful, amazing lives.
With the ordinary.
You want to write one book, youwant to sing one song, you want
to do one job promotion andthen you want to throw in the
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towel and retire that.
That's fine.
But if you're looking to dothat next big thing, you got to
start thinking extraordinary.
Speaker 1 (20:09):
Have some goals goals , yeah, and to help you do that,
really tap into your strengths,because you're not going in
this alone.
No, and when I say alone, Idon't necessarily mean people.
Yeah, you want support group,yes, you want community, but
you've got to rely on yourstrengths.
Lean in, lean in, do what youdo best and amplify it.
Speaker 2 (20:33):
Yeah, and don't be afraid to acquire some role
models.
I'm not talking about peopleyou can mimic.
I'm talking about people thatyou can pick and choose what
attributes that you want toacquire most and then make them
your own and even grow them alittle bit more.
Speaker 1 (20:51):
Yes, yes, so my last one.
I think this is the last one onour behalf as far as tips to
step into.
Your extraordinary is pushthrough the resistance.
And there will be some, yeah,lots, I think the way to push
through is you've got to raiseyour standard.
Guys, like, stop askingyourself what's good enough and
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change that question to what'smy best right.
Speaker 2 (21:16):
Oh, I like that jim.
Speaker 1 (21:17):
I really like that a lot that one has worked
amazingly for me and I know Ineed to take that mindset and
put it in a couple of things inmy life right now and it's a
process, right, but you've gotto spend time in those questions
because I think cory is peoplewe spend a lot of time in the
places of resistance and so whatyou give your mind to, what you
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spend time in, is gonna, isgonna win yeah so I say spend
time in what does my best.
Look like like what.
What do I need to do to go allin Play in that space and don't
let yourself talk you out of it.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
Right, and then you got to ask yourself those
questions like well, how did Ishow up the last time?
Was that good enough?
If it was good enough, how canI top that?
How can I go a little bitfurther?
How did I come across last time?
And, guys, these are questionsI'm literally asking myself
every time I do anything.
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This is me, though.
I just have to continue to pushbecause, again, I never know
when my next opportunity isgoing to come and, with that
being said, I'm sure my ourstory of this past weekend.
Speaker 1 (22:32):
Yes, and remember the tips that we just gave, because
I think we're going to see howthey came into play for us.
Speaker 2 (22:38):
Right.
So everywhere I go, because Igot caught slipping a couple of
times in the past where I wouldgo places and didn't have
business cards, I didn't havethe books, I didn't have
material that I could give topeople or show people, because
you just never know when thatopportunity may present itself.
So as we were packing andgetting ready, I made sure to
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run to the room and grab a setof books all four and I put them
somewhere where I wouldn'tforget them and easy
accessibility.
And when I unloaded the carwhen we got to the hotel, I made
sure to leave them in the car.
So we go to this amazingboutique before breakfast and we
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meet this woman who is anentrepreneur and she's doing her
thing, and she had alreadytalked to Jen about a few things
when I was off doing myshopping.
And then, when Jen was in thecorner doing her shopping, she
asked me what I, what I did, andI introduced myself as a
published children's book writerand author and she gave me a
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look of no way.
But I didn't know that no waywas because she was.
The wheels were churning, Ithought it was in doubt.
Well, here was my opportunity.
I'm not only going to provethat I'm an author.
But I'm also going to try tocapitalize on the boutique and
the store.
So I excused myself, ran out tothe car and grabbed the books
you want to take over from there, jane.
Speaker 1 (24:03):
Yeah.
So you walk in with the booksand she's just so grateful.
And of course she asked fromone business owner to another,
how much are these?
And I'm looking at Corey Now.
Corey is so extraordinary thatmy man would give a book to
everyone if he could.
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And so I just I looked at herand I said you know, what we'd
really love is to see our booksin your store for sale.
Speaker 2 (24:37):
That was the very extraordinary that I was looking
from Jen, because Jen is alwaysthinking extraordinary once we
turn the switch on for her aswell yeah, and you know it's a
sale.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
When people do this, when they start to envision what
that looks like, she goes oh, Icould put your books up there
on that shelf yeah, man and soshe's like how much would you
charge me for them?
so she's already going thatroute and so ultimately there's
that and we've been invited todo book signing at her boutique.
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So we're going to be going backto beautiful Scottsdale.
So excited about that.
And what I love, corey, is,over the weekend we were talking
about the different things andwe had succumbed to this fact
that part of being extraordinaryand we didn't use that word at
this time, so I'm just addingthat in right now is, yes, being
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prepared and planning anddiligent, and then sometimes
just not really having a plan,and actually the plan is to be
ready for whatever's going tocome our way our way.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
Yeah, I'm glad you said that, jen, because we can
plan all day and all night forsomething to happen or for
something to happen a certainway, and it just might not go
that route, but you can alwaysbe prepared for whatever's going
to come your way.
And the boutique lady asked usquestions that we hadn't planned
on, but we were prepared forthe outcome of that next
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question and then what wouldlead to being invited to do a
book signing, which isincredible.
And again at that moment, uh,cool, and the game came on in
our, in our soundtrack, and down, down, down, down, down, down,
down down.
Yeah, so I'm dancing on theinside and I'm watching Jen, and
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Jen is a very good poker player.
She's never gonna give her truefeelings away, whereas I make
crack and break, so it'simportant that I walk away oh, g
, oh, you're the sweetest thing,though people.
Speaker 1 (26:55):
People may not know this about you.
In fact, I'm sure they don'tknow about you.
Corey is so excited about doingbusiness with people, about
plugging in, like he'll give upinnocently the goods before it's
time, or he'll show like supereager that there's no more
negotiating, like it's like well, I guess we're doing this and
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and I and I love to sell, I lovethat process, but you're like a
kid in that way, and I meanthat with so much respect.
Speaker 2 (27:29):
I'm working on my game face, though, guys, so I
love it I need a little bit moretime to get that the game face
thing down pat yeah, so it.
Speaker 1 (27:40):
That is our example of being extraordinary.
And see, it didn't, doesn'ttake too much.
You have books with you or youhave a dream that you you know
you want to be a writer or asinger or you want to promote.
Speaker 2 (27:55):
Let me tell you, man, people are looking at you every
day, all day, and they may notsay anything, but it's, it's
amazing when it's time, andpeople say stuff yeah, I'll tell
this last little story, jen,and then we'll go wherever you
want to go, because I had aprevious life as a singer, as a
(28:17):
background singer and a soloartist.
I'm not saying I was the bestor the greatest, but I was.
Extraordinary music world isthat you always got to be ready
to sing, no matter what peopleare going to ask you to sing and
believe it or not.
When I traveled in certaincircles, that was the thing sing
(28:38):
something.
And so that moment of beingembarrassed and holding back or
let me see what song I'm goingto sing, or you know all that
stuff.
Once I removed that and I didvery quickly and someone said
sing something.
Even though I was in a group, Ijust started singing.
I sing whatever song came tomind and I sing it to the best
(29:01):
of my ability.
And so a lot of people wouldsay, well, did you get a big
record deal?
No, I did not.
But let me tell you what I didget.
I got plenty of opportunitiesto sing background with some
amazing people.
I got plenty of opportunity tobe in the room when things were
going down and people werewriting songs and I was asked
(29:22):
what my opinion was and gotwriter's credit.
So it's those moments to be alittle bit more extraordinary
and that's a singing musicalworld and I just wanted to share
that with you guys as well.
I hope that helps someone yeah,I'm sure it will.
Speaker 1 (29:37):
I'm sure it'll help quite a few people there.
Um, I wanted to say this onething for people already to take
the extra extraordinary daily,go for it.
For people who are stillprocessing this, sometimes the
extraordinary is just eventhinking what's one step, one
(29:58):
step that I can do this weekjust to push through the
resistance.
And because you're alreadythinking it, that's powerful
because everything begins inyour mind yeah and um.
Speaker 2 (30:09):
Your thoughts matter, so if you can start to change
the way you think into beingextraordinary, that'll happen oh
, yeah, and and, like she said,having that run through your
mind changes the game, simplybecause you're not contemplating
an easy play.
(30:30):
You're contemplating therecould be resistance, there could
be someone that's trying tostop me or interrupt me or
change the direction or thetrajectory of this particular
conversation or thing that I'mtrying to do.
But if you're already thinkingin that mindset, you'll know
okay, I have to shift gears, Ihave to pivot, to pivot.
(30:50):
Oh, pivot's huge in all thosecircumstances.
Speaker 1 (30:53):
But yeah, you'll be thinking in that, in those terms
yeah, I want to say one, onemore one more, one more I, I
definitely need to say this um,this, as most of you know, is
mine and cory's second marriage,second shot at this, and I just
know that when you're doingsomething over and that you've
(31:16):
experienced failure, maybe someinsecurities, or you're just
like, do I really want to makemyself vulnerable again, you
have to be in a mindset ofextraordinary because you're
giving it.
You've raised your standard inessence, right?
So I think not.
(31:36):
I think that's part of uscelebrating 19 years into our
second marriage.
That's huge.
So I just want to say it's beena blessing to be extraordinary
and I hope that this mantrarings, energizing for people
(31:58):
listening and it's this if it'sworth it, then it's worth my all
you said that very much sodifferent, with more impact than
I've ever heard it before, andI appreciate that.
(32:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (32:20):
It's worth my all.
Speaker 1 (32:24):
Yeah, and I'm just sitting here and enjoying the
silence of and just letting thatring inside me.
If it's worth it, then it'sworth my all and I'm like
thinking of all the things yeah,that's what I was doing
marriage, children, uh career,uh friendship, family
(32:44):
relationships.
Yeah, everything it's worth myall hmm, anyways, you know, we
appreciate you.
We do we appreciate you guys somuch and love you and just
thank you for being here with uson our anniversary.
Speaker 2 (33:00):
You thought I forgot.
I did not forget.
Speaker 1 (33:02):
What's that?
Speaker 2 (33:03):
This big event we have coming up this week at a
backpack giveaway with LA Careand I'm so excited because Jen
and I will be a part of thisevent and we are just looking
forward to introducing the FuzzyFurry Forest to the kids and to
(33:23):
LA County and just all thesewonderful situations.
So man can't say enough aboutextraordinary opportunities.
Well, jen is struggling rightnow.
We'll say it like this you knowus at, take the elevator, we
say look up and let's elevateEvery day, elevate Every day.
(33:54):
You try to drown me out withthis Elevate Every day, elevate
Every day.
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