Make Her CRAVE Penetration—5 Powerful Science-Backed Tricks That Work Instantly

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 In this episode, we dive deep into what it truly takes to make penetration pleasurable—not just tolerable, not just “fine,” but deeply, mind-blowingly good. From physical preparation to the power of relaxation, arousal, and full-body engagement, we explore the key elements that turn penetration into an experience of pure pleasure. Whether you're looking to enhance your own enjoyment or better understand how to please a partner, this conversation unpacks the techniques, mindset shifts, and erotic intelligence needed to unlock deeper, more satisfying penetration. 

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
do the sex.
Welcome to Masturbation Mondaywith me, annette Benedetti, your
host for Locker Room Talk andChats.
This is your invitation to joinme for coffee in bed and a
candid conversation about themasturbation practice I'm
developing to support my mental,physical and emotional health
and help manifest my dreams.

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Masturbation Monday is a guideto self-pleasure, better sex and
using the power of the pussy toopen new doors to a better life
.
Today we're diving into a topicthat is often misunderstood but
so important to pleasure andintimacy.

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It is how to help women notjust tolerate penetration but
find deep, satisfying pleasureout of it and even crave it in
their sex life.
But before we dive in, I wantto remind you that I have an OF
page where I am posting myerotic how-to demonstrations and

(01:06):
tips, along with audio-guidedself-pleasure meditations that
are going to help you discoveryour own pleasure better.
Along with all of that, overthere, I share erotic readings
and so much more.
You can find me there at myhandle, where you can find me
almost everywhere, which is atTalkSexWithAnette.
You can find me there at myhandle, where you can find me
almost everywhere, which is atTalkSexWithAnette.

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You can also find me onSubstack, where I am doing a lot
of writing, diving into somehow-tos, giving more information
, and it's a free subscriptionover there, and you can find me
there again at TalkSexWithAnette.
So head over there and join meif you are looking to improve
your sex life.

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Go on your own self-pleasurejourney.
Expand your relationship withpleasure, whether alone or with
a partner.
I'd love to see you there.
All right, let's dive in to ourtopic.
For years, the primary focusaround women's pleasure has been
the external clitoris and thestimulation of the external

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clitoris, and for good reason.
18 to 25% of women claim thatthey cannot orgasm at all or
consistently from penetrativesex.
75% of women say they needexternal clitoral stimulation to
climax, and many, many womenbelieve that orgasm and pleasure

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from penetration alone is notpossible, and this leads to a
lot of frustration, not only forwomen, but for women and their
partners in partnered sex.
Here's the thing Penetrativepleasure is possible and we need
to start talking about it.
Instead of reinforcing the ideathat women are simply built for
external stimulation andpleasure, we need to change our

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approach.
We need to start talking aboutlooking at penetration,
understanding it better andlearning how to enhance
penetrative pleasure.
What if women could not onlyachieve penetrative pleasure,
but they could orgasm from it.
I'm here to tell you thatthat's not a myth, that's a
reality.
And today we are going to beexploring penetrative pleasure

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and how to achieve it with yourpartner or how to achieve it
yourself, whether you are in along-term relationship or you
have just started a newrelationship with someone and
you're going to get intimate.
I have five science-backedstrategies for exploring,
discovering and enjoyingpenetrative pleasure, and I can
tell you enjoying penetrativepleasure.

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And I can tell you I'm notgrabbing these just from the
research papers that I've read,the research I've done on
studies.
I have put these strategiesinto practice myself and with my
clients, and I have seen peopleachieve success over and over
again and over again and notjust learn to enjoy penetrative

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pleasure, but crave it in theirsex life as an essential part of
their sex life, leading to moresatisfaction for both partners
in bed.
So let's dive into these fivetricks, tips, strategies for
exploring and discovering andgrowing the penetrative pleasure

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in your sex life.
Get ready to crave more, deeperand sometimes even harder
Cheers.
My first tip for enjoying morepenetrative intimacy is just the
tip, a psychological reframe.
Let's start with somethingcounterintuitive, just the tip,

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and no, I'm not talking aboutteasing.
New research shows that whenpenetrative sex is framed as an
option rather than anexpectation, women experience
less performance, anxiety andmore arousal.
A 2023 study found thatremoving the pressure to go all
in actually heightens arousaland relaxation.

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So instead of pushing for deeppenetration right off the bat,
take your time.
Try some external teasing, thenpush in an inch and back out,
while focusing on other pleasurepoints.
That could be her inner thighs.
It could be the clitoris.
This builds anticipation andincreases natural lubrication.

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Pro tip try whispering in herear that you want to go deeper,
but that you're savoring themoment.
It flips the dynamic, makingher want more instead of feeling
like she has to accommodate forpenetration.
Tip number two for helping awoman discover penetrative
pleasure is exploring the A-spotconnection.

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This is one of the mostoverlooked erogenous zones and
it is a powerful one.
You've heard of the G-spot, buthave you heard of the A-spot?
If not, I have a video tutorialon it.
You're going to want to go backand check that out.
The A-spot is one of the mostoverlooked erogenous zones in
the vaginal canal and it'slocated near the cervix.

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Stimulating this erogenous zonecan lead to deep orgasmic
pleasure, sometimes even moreintense than clitoral
stimulation.
A recent study in the Journalof Sexual Medicine found that
women who experience A-spotpleasure and orgasms report
feeling more sexually satisfiedthan their peers who are only

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experiencing clitoral orgasms.
The key Long, deep strokes or acurved toy that reaches the
anterior fornix.
But don't just dive into it.
Slowly, warm up and build up toit.
Remember just the tip we'regoing to want to start there.
Before we start trying todiscover that A spot Pro tip,

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try some deep breathingexercises together while you to
discover that A spot Pro tip.
Try some deep breathingexercises together while you're
exploring the A spot.
When she inhales, push indeeper slightly.
When she exhales, withdraw justa little bit.
This helps her feel the wholesensation and relax into it
rather than tensing against it.
My third tip for exploringpenetrative pleasure is the slow

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withdrawal technique.
Most people focus on the thrust, but what about the pullback?
Now?
Research shows that the way youexit the body is just as
important as how you enter thebody.
A study on neural sensitivityfound that the vaginal walls
actually have a heightenedresponse to slow, deliberate
withdrawal, as it activates deep, sensitive nerve endings that

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activate arousal.
Instead of quick, repetitivethrusts.
Try a method where you withdrawslowly and almost completely,
hovering there for just a secondbefore pushing back in at an
angle.
This prevents overstimulationand creates a wave-like motion
that builds deeper desire.
Pro tip pair this with deep eyecontact.

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Slow movement combined with asensual gaze builds a sense of
intimacy and closeness andincreases a psychological
craving for more.
My fourth tip for buildingpenetrative pleasure is sensory
expansion beyond penetration.
Here's something that'soverlooked.
How a woman experiencespenetration is directly linked

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to how engaged her other sensesare.
A 2022 study in sexualneuroscience found that women
who engaged multiple sensesduring intimacy, such as sight,
taste, scent and sound,experienced stronger vaginal
contractions.
How do you use this?
Include elements like essentialoils, now.

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This could be during a massage.
It could be a candle thatscents the room.
You can include audio eroticaNow.
It could be music that's on orsomething you're listening to,
or it could be the way you moanin her ear, giving her
affirmations as you enter her.
Another cool idea is tactilecontrast, so you can cool her

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skin with ice cube right beforepenetration, or use warming oil
to heat things up.
Pro tip try blindfolding herand restraining her with silk
scarves, not for control, butwhen you take away one sense,
which is the sense of sight.
It brings her into her body.
So her focus is on all of theother physical sensations that

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are taking place.
And my fifth and final tip forenhancing penetrative pleasure
is the post-sex integrationtrick.
This one is a game changer andit is backed by some fascinating
psychology.
Most people focus on foreplay,but what happens after sex
directly affects if she's goingto want sex again.

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The brain links pastexperiences with future desire,
which means what happens inaftercare is going to dictate
her desire for penetration inthe future.
A study from the KinseyInstitute found that couples
that engage in at least 15minutes of aftercare and that
could be cuddling it could beeven just talking about the sex

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they just had report highersexual satisfaction and more sex
.
Pro tip and this is a good oneuse an anchor phrase right after
sex.
Whisper something like I lovethe way your body responds to me
or I can't wait to feel thisagain.
Her brain will connectpenetration with pleasure and

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emotional connection, making hereager for future encounters.
So there you go.
Those are my five tips forincreasing penetrative pleasure
for her.
They are science-backed, I'vegiven them a whirl myself and
I'm here to tell you, if you dothem consistently, she is going
to enjoy penetration even moreand even crave it.

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I know I do.
Now, if you have any questionsor comments, you know you can
drop them below this video.
If you're watching me onYouTube at at TalkSexWithAnnette
, you can email me at Annette atTalkSexWithAnnettecom.
If you are looking for morehelp in your own sex life,
whether that's with a partner orin your own personal pleasure

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journey, my intimacy and sexcoaching books are open.
You can find out more aboutthat on my website,
talksexwithanettecom.
You can also email me.
Just email me and ask me and Iwill get you set up with some
coaching.
I would love to be your wingwoman.
I would love to be your trustysidekick in your journey.

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together we are going to getourselves to a place where we're

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all experiencing more pleasurein our own bodies and with our
partners.
So until next time, folks, I'llsee you in the locker room.
Cheers.