Have you ever laughed off a technical glitch that set the tone for your entire day? That's exactly how Noreen and I began our episode, setting the stage for a lively discussion about life's unpredictability and the resilience it demands. We chuckle our way through unexpected events, personal anecdotes, and the relatable chaos of 2024's "Year of Possibilities," touching on everything from Noreen's morning workouts to her favorite reality TV indulgence, "Ready to Love." This episode is a reminder that even when things go awry, showing up for ourselves and our communities is what truly counts.
As we navigate the quirky world of online dating, we share personal tales that range from amusing to downright puzzling, comparing platforms like Facebook Dating, Tinder, and Plenty of Fish. But it's not all about love and algorithms; we pivot to discuss the importance of maintaining a healthy lifestyle. Mindful eating, listening to our bodies, and heart health take center stage, especially for black women. Our conversation highlights self-care and wellness as pivotal aspects of resilience and personal growth, with a dash of humor and honesty throughout.
The journey from hardship to hope is illuminated by stories of determination and faith. We explore how mindset and prayer can guide us through overwhelming times, introducing listeners to the inspiring work of Noreen Foy, founder of Save Our Sisters. Noreen shares her empowering journey and announces an upcoming event in Peoria, Illinois, focusing on life after loss alongside Keisha Woods of Upgraded Mindsets. Despite the technical hiccups, our episode celebrates perseverance and the incredible strength found within community and sisterhood, proving once again that resilience is the key when "shit happens.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
so hold on.
Noreen is calling me hello.
I don't have a link.
It's a new email.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
I sent it to you in the morning today yes oh my god,
paula, I'm so sorry, it'salright, I didn't, I didn't see
it, it's ok hold on, because I'mready, I just need to log in.
I didn't see it, it's okay.
Hold on, because I'm ready, Ijust need to log in.
(00:30):
Oh, here it is.
Oh, my God, I'm so sorry, Ifeel so bad.
Oh, what a bad friend.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
I mean, it is shit happens.
Speaker 3 (00:40):
It's really happening .
Speaker 1 (00:45):
And you're on loudspeaker while I'm on live,
so you're fine, you can go in.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
Okay, let me hang up, I will log in.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
All right, okay, shit happens.
Shit happens to you and me.
It doesn't matter if you're awizard, a king or a queen, even
if you are magic, you've got toagree it's worth it to talk shit
out, no matter how messy Shithappens.
Speaker 3 (01:22):
Shit happens.
Just FYI, this episode wasrecorded February of 2024, and
(01:48):
it is now February 2025.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
Enjoy, I told myself this year is the year of
possibilities and I'm going tomake sure I'm in every room that
has possibilities of me and mygrowth into this journey.
Do whatever you want to do withthat, oh my God.
(02:11):
Dominic always says shout outto Dominic.
He always says whenever he sayssomething right, and then he
say do what you will with that.
Like you can either take it toheart, you can either listen to
it, you can either follow, youcan either fuck it up.
It is what it is.
Speaker 3 (02:32):
And it sure was a year of possibilities and I sure
did grab as much opportunity asI could.
Now, this year, this year, is asavage year Because, even
though I grabbed as muchopportunity as I could, I was
humble, very humble, last year.
Hence savage year 2025.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Alright, guys, guess I'm sticking around.
Noreen is jumping on and Noreenis over here, so I am going to
go ahead and bring her on.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
okay, she's back oh, my god, paula.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
I mean, ma'am, I do know that this is shit happens,
but damn shit really happens itgot real, it got real.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
I am so, so sorry.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
I am so sorry, it's okay for some reason, my
headphones won't connect, so Idon't know what's going on with
me.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
Mine wouldn't connect either.
That was my problem.
I tried to connect like we didthe other day.
So it's the wednesday and itjust wouldn't do it today.
So I said you know what?
What's gonna, we're just gonnago but that's on us.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
I mean we, we know better, we know we should have
been here like 15 minutes beforeand done our check, check.
So what so?
What happened?
So so, because I was lettingwhoever was watching, even if
nobody was watching, that I gotstood up.
So you want to tell me whathappened?
(04:11):
Why did you stood me up?
I think me and the people inthe explanation.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
I did not stand up.
Your queen, I was having amoment, I had an emergency and
it slipped my mind and so shesaid, hey, are you coming on?
Oh, my goodness, the funnything is I see it on my calendar
and I'm like, okay, I saw yourpost.
(04:38):
Yeah, she posted it.
So I must have set myself areminder to like go listen to
the episode.
And then I forgot about thisone and the mix up.
That is so.
I am so sorry, all the shittalkers out there, I did not
mean to make your queen late forher appointments.
(04:58):
Forgive me, forgive me, forgiveme.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
So I'm sorry you were having a moment and I do
understand Sometimes.
I mean, that's why this segmentis called Shit Happens, right,
because that's the reality oflife Shit does happen.
But it also taught me something, you know, because I could have
easily been like, let me cancel, let me not show up, right.
But instead I still jumped onand was like I'm still going to
(05:25):
talk to people and say somethings and then, if you show up,
we shall do it.
If you don't, you know, shithappens.
But it taught me that I stillneed to show up.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
Yeah, yeah, and that's, you know, that's kind of
a little bit of something thatwe were talking about the other
day.
It's really showing up forcommunity.
But yeah, we definitely have toshow up for ourselves.
We have to just be adaptableand be able to just adapt
ourselves to any situation,right?
Speaker 1 (05:56):
Oh my God, and it's funny.
Yes, and it's funny that allthis is happening, because I was
literally going to talk to you.
We were going to talk to you,we were going to talk about
being resilient and faith,because right now I was about to
give up.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
yeah, no, we cannot give up.
You don't stay on this wholetime, see, you have to be able
to bounce back.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
But as part of with this all the time and this is
real life and the thing is, whenI was doing Talk Shit With P,
it was pre-recorded right, so itdidn't matter.
I wasn't on live, but this ishappening on live hey, you know
(06:42):
what real life is?
Speaker 2 (06:43):
live so these things happen.
Shit is happening.
It's happening today.
So how was your day?
Oh my gosh, you know what?
I woke up in a Zen funky mood,if that makes sense.
I woke up, I went downstairs, Iworked out for about an hour, I
(07:06):
watched my Ready to Love Don'tJudge and then I got in the
shower.
What's Ready to Love?
Oh, ready to Love is by TommyMiles.
It's like black folks trying tofind love.
It's all about black love.
I love it.
They're not in of peoplebecause they're like they're not
in dallas anymore, but uh,they're still in texas.
(07:29):
I can't remember what part theyare in, but, um, you know, it's
just a bunch of food left sokind of like married at first
sight, kind of like what marriedat first.
No, they're not getting married,they're just trying to date.
It's kind of like the boxoffice but like an even playing
(07:51):
field.
I think it's like 10 women, 10men or 18 women, yeah, nine
women to nine men or somethinglike that, and you know, they
just try to get to know eachother.
There's a bunch of mixers, youknow.
Apparently, dating life is hard.
So this guy, Tommy miles, andit's a Will Packer production
and so it's a, it's a black show, and so they go to yeah, they
(08:16):
go from city to city to work.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
It's tough out here.
Let me know when they're inAtlanta.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
Well, I mean shoot, it's tough out here.
Let me know when they're inatlanta.
Well, I mean shoot if I.
Yeah, if I see that I'll letyou know.
Be like oh my god, follow us onthe show.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
There's no way they wouldn't cast you I don't know,
man, I fear finding love onthese shows.
There's one time I was likemaybe I should go to.
Love is blind, because that'smy thing, because I want deep
connection, I know, but then Idon't know if I want my journey
to be on tv yeah, I don't thinkI want my journey to be on tv
(08:57):
either.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
I I like authentic connections, you know.
But I need to see you, you know, and I need to talk to you
because I need to know if we'realigned.
You know, I was watching todayand one of the guys he was
talking to a girl and you knowhe asked her if she had kids.
She said yes, she had kids.
She asked him if he had kids.
He said no, but he would likesome kids.
(09:19):
And he asked her if she wouldlike some kids and he said she
said no, I don't want any morekids.
And he was like nice to meetyou, good luck on your journey.
I was like, well, all right.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
I mean, at that point we already don't want the same
things.
Yeah, I did the same.
I went on a date with a guy andhe told me he got a vasectomy.
So that means he can't have anymore kids.
Yeah, I was like, well, thiswas fun because I knew he wasn't
(09:53):
gonna go anywhere, because Iknew I want at least one child.
Like I know I want a child, sowhy waste my time exactly yeah,
and know a lot of people.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
In your theme of resilience, you know a lot of
people.
When they go through a lot ofthings, they kind of like don't
really bounce back from thatbefore they dive into something
new to just heal themselvesbefore trying to get back in the
.
In the journey of trying tofind love, it's so important for
(10:26):
you to know who you are, knowwhat you want, know where you're
going, know what you'rebringing to the table, in order
for you to actually find thatperson that you want to eat with
at that table.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
You know what I mean.
It's funny, I saw, I think youknow maybe maybe that's why this
needed to still happen.
Because it's funny you broughtthat up?
Because literally two hours agoI just commented on a post.
You see, I'm being nosy now.
I had a door slam and now I'mlike Right, God help me.
(11:05):
But um, two hours ago Icommented on a post.
Somebody posted oh my god, Idon't know why I forgot her name
and I just met her last week atPodfest and her post was like
something like everybody whogets out of it should be a
(11:25):
requirement, that everybody whogets out of it should be a
requirement, that everybody whogets out of a long-term
relationship to have therapy,something like that.
Because it's so true, especiallypeople who have been in a
longer relationship, right, mostpeople end up losing themselves
(11:48):
because they're so used topeople instead of just them
themselves.
So when you enter this, what?
And then you're going to be tooquick to jump in any other
thing because you're used toalways having somebody, but
you've got to find firstyourself again.
You've got to figure out whoyou are, what do you want?
(12:09):
Because outside of what thatwas, that way you don't bring
any more garbage to your nextrelationship.
Also, you end up finding theright one, so you might go on to
that, and that's when ithappens.
Six months, 12 months, you know, just half-half half, because
it didn't align and you didn'twork on yourself yeah, and then
(12:30):
you, you have to be open.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
You can't, you can't go into finding love
close-minded.
You have to be open to everypossibility.
Now, if you have these deeprooted preferences like he must
be tall, he must, must bechocolate, he must have six-pack
, you know, he must drive aLexus, you know, if you have
those type of superficial idealsand you know things that you
(12:54):
put up for yourself, you're notgoing to really find that.
You know.
But you have to really lookmore within, like, okay, I need
somebody that's a good person,somebody that you know maybe
shares the same religion youknow, shares your same morals
and values, you know.
And then you get into thehobbies and all the other things
that would be important to you,you know.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
And that's so true.
And for some reason I'm intodad bods these days, so they can
have the six pack.
Speaker 2 (13:27):
Yeah, you know what I think?
People have a six pack.
I always feel like you know,like when I was out in the
dating world you know I was Ialways used to think, oh God,
please, then let me not date agym buff, because then he's
going to want me to do all thesedifferent things.
Like, if he's going to be a gymbuff, let him be on his gym
journey by himself.
Let me be on my journey,because if I'm fat and if I'm
(13:49):
having like a positive what doyou call it?
Body negativity moment, I don'tneed him to be chiming in like,
well, if you stop eating thisand if you stop eating that, you
know, mind your business, stayin your lane.
You know, don't push yourjourney on to me, I will get
there on my own.
You know, now if I come to youand ask for advice, then yes,
please give it, but please donot give me an unsolicited
(14:11):
advice.
I always feel like, oh gosh, Idon't want to date a guy that is
too much into that, becausethen I'm not going to be for him
, because I'm not going to wakeup at 5 am to go go work out
with you.
I may wake up at 9 am to gowork out with you.
But you know, if you're likeone of those people that have to
be so regimented at 5 am andthen you have to have your
(14:33):
protein shakes and all thesedifferent things and your
protein bars and all that, I'mlike no, because today is pasta
day and I need you to be OK withthat.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
Oh, because today is pasta day and I need you to be
okay with that.
Oh my god, it's so funny yousay that first of all, now I
want pasta.
But it's so funny you say thatbecause all my dating apps,
anytime I see a guy who's likethey write gym so much or they
have all these gym pictures I Idon't care how hot you look, I'm
swiping.
Like I know, I don't know whyLike I want.
If I want to go to the gym, Igo, and if I don't, I don't, but
(15:13):
I don't want somebody.
So there's this guy.
You know I've been enjoyingFacebook dating.
It's so funny, y'all.
Speaker 2 (15:21):
Like it's the creepiest.
I've always thought that wasturning out for people.
Facebook dating.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
It's trash.
Like you think, tinder is trash, facebook dating is trash.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
You know what that was?
Trash Plenty of fish.
Speaker 1 (15:36):
I thought that was trash.
I've never tried that one, ever, because a lot of people
complain about it.
So the thing is, facebookdating is so trash but it kind
of reminds me of my trash TV.
So whenever I'm just like, letme see what's going on today,
(15:58):
and I get all the weirdos likingme, you know, on today, and I
get all the weird weirdos likingme, you know.
So, um, there's this guy wholiterally is is um, his bio says
he's looking for somebody to goto the gym with, whatever,
whatever.
And then he liked me and I waslike I'm so sorry, I don't go to
the gym every day, I barely go,so I'm not the one for you
(16:22):
because you can message them asyou reply you.
You like them and I was likebut you have a picture of you in
a gym with a boxing bag.
I'm like I box and I haven'tdone that in in seven I don't
know in how many months but Idon't go to the gym like.
I have these moments, thesemoments and me, most of the time
(16:43):
I do work out in ways ofstretching, like sit-ups,
running.
I used to go to my other gym inmy old apartment.
Our gym had a climbing wallwhich spin around, so that was
kind of good for stretching andit had the boxing bag.
So that's why I was at the gym,because I love boxing.
But I'm not going to the gymfor the trademarks and the
(17:04):
lifting and none of that.
I don't do that.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
No, no, and I, you know, my husband and I, you know
, we have a bunch of stuffdownstairs in our basement.
Our home basement is the gym,and then of course it's the
movie theater down there too.
So that's really where we zenout.
You know his studios there.
You know that's that's like theZen area of the of the house.
(17:27):
You know that's the, that's thecreative area, you know.
But, um, I try to just reallyjust stay healthy.
You know, I'm down eight pounds.
I have 12 more to go.
My goal is 20.
I didn't give myself an enddate, I just want to lose 20
pounds.
So I'm taking the pressure.
You know, like sometimes yousay I want to lose weight by
(17:48):
this date and then you put somuch pressure on yourself.
I'm not doing that to myself, Ijust say I want to lose 20
pounds.
When I lose it, I lose it, butI'm actively working to lose it,
that's's all.
Speaker 1 (18:02):
Yeah, it does.
Because even me, whenever Iused to say I want to gain
weight and I tried forcingmyself to eat so much, and shit
I wasn't gaining shit.
Because also the mind, you know, because it's in your mind
constantly, so you're not doingthe other things that you're
supposed to do as well to helpyou gain the weight, you're just
concentrating on eating it.
I gotta gain, I gotta gain, Igotta gain.
(18:24):
So when I stopped caring andnot overthinking it and just be
like I want to gain and I'mgonna do my best, but if it
doesn't happen, and so I startedgaining, yeah, you know I think
some things are mind overmatter, but you know, you have
to really be intentional aboutwhat you're really putting into
your body.
Speaker 2 (18:43):
You know and don't let me get to preaching about
that but you know, as, as blackwomen, you know we have to be
very mindful of heart disease,you know, and eating a bunch of
things that are not good for ourbody.
And, uh, you know, hey, I'm notgoing to throw my red meat onto
the bus because your sis lovesa good ribeye, okay, with the
fat, you know.
(19:03):
But you know we have to be verycognizant about what we're
putting in our body.
So, whether we try to loseweight or gain weight, we have
to just really have like a planon how we're gonna get to this,
this, this ideal weight goal.
You know what I mean yeah, it'ssuch um now, before we huh good,
(19:29):
when I work out, it's like Idon't say, okay, I'm gonna do 20
reps of this and 30 reps ofthat.
I go down, I stretch, I don'tdo anything in order, you know,
I just do them all.
I say, okay, this is because,listen, I'm of a different age,
so if I wake up with body aches,then I'm going to do the things
(19:50):
.
That's not going to ache mybody that day.
I'm going to do more stretching, I'm going to do less vigorous
stuff.
You know, I have that stairthing where you step on it and
you do that.
I love to get on that.
My knees are killing me.
I'm not going to get on that.
I'm just going to go slowly,maybe not as much as I would,
not as hard as I normally go.
But you know, my target areasare my arms and my stomach.
(20:13):
You know, and you know my legsare sexy.
You know they, they are right.
But I go in there with justlike, not putting any pressure
on anything.
I just do what I need to do andI get out and I don't put bad
things in my body.
I, I I'm not a calorie counter,you know, but you know it is
what it is.
(20:33):
See, we, we, we got onto.
We started talking about love.
Now we're on weight gain or on,we're on, we're on a fitness.
Speaker 1 (20:50):
And we should be talking let's get back to track.
So I might, I might, read thisright resilience for her is not
merely bouncing back, butbouncing forward, embracing
change and emerging strongerafter setbacks.
Let let's dive into that.
Yeah, because I feel like youknow, after the year of okay,
(21:10):
let me not even think deepthings, right.
Even just here, right now,while I was trying to figure
this shit out, I was just thisquestion, just saying like maybe
we should reschedule, right,but then that would be giving up
, right, it would, and thatwould mean also, you don't have
(21:33):
faith that you can make thisshit happen.
Speaker 2 (21:36):
Yeah, yeah, but you bounced back really well though.
You bounced back well, you hungin there, you know, because
listen, like I said, aspodcasters this could happen.
You could have like a veryimportant interview and you
could do the tech check, andthen you hit live and then all
hell breaks loose, you know.
And so it's just about how youreally overcome it, and you
(21:57):
bounce back really well.
You bounce back really well.
So applaud yourself.
I'll give you a round ofapplause.
Speaker 1 (22:06):
After she stands me up.
Now she's praising me.
Speaker 2 (22:10):
Hey, I didn't stand you up.
Let's reframe that.
Remember, we learned that.
Let's reframe that.
I was a tad bit late.
Shit was happening.
It's a little bit delayed.
She needs happening and it's alittle bit delayed.
Speaker 1 (22:25):
She needs to buy me lunch now because she brought up
pasta and she was late, so nowshe needs to buy me pasta for
lunch.
Speaker 2 (22:35):
I will show you the whole town.
I will take you to eat.
We will eat our way through thecity city.
I love to eat.
That's why I need to get inshape now.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
I will take you to eat.
We shall eat.
Speaker 2 (22:54):
Let's get back to this so, besides, how did you
this little conundrum that wewas just into with the
technology?
Because, let me tell you,streaming artists sometimes it
it could be hard to managesometimes, because I was just
trying to hook up my microphoneon it and that's when I couldn't
(23:14):
hear you and I justdisconnected and I was like,
okay, we're not doingmicrophones today.
Then you know, but how do youbounce back from normal things
in your life?
Speaker 1 (23:24):
so.
So that's the thing, right,last year.
Last year was really tough forme, right, you know, and I
contemplated suicide back andforth, like I really.
I really was.
And it's funny because I showedup online because my podcast
was still going on and I wantedto make sure those last few
(23:45):
episodes were very hard to showup and promote.
But I wanted to make sure thatthe guests get the same support
the other guests had when I wasokay, because they took their
time to come and talk and sharesome knowledge.
They needed as much supportlike that.
So it was hard to really showup, but I was really dying
(24:08):
inside, like my life was really,and it was tough.
I even stopped praying because Iwas in this place where I
didn't think even God cared.
But then when I came into thisyear, right, no, but again, it's
just in the mind.
(24:29):
Right, it's the things we tellourselves in our mind.
It's not the reality.
So when I started this year, Ihad to switch my mind.
Mindset switch is real and veryimportant.
So I was like yo, last yearkicked my ass, this year we're
(24:52):
going to kick its ass, we'regoing to turn it around.
So I started.
That's why I was like my wordwas going to be discipline and I
started praying and notworrying, I told myself last
year.
I was worrying so much becausea lot was happening at the same
time and I was really in a deephole.
I really wasn't sure how Iwould survive that year.
(25:15):
So I was constantly worryinginstead of actually praying and
having faith that God got me.
Speaker 2 (25:25):
Yeah, that's important that you actually take
the time to realize that andjust take that time to
self-reflect.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
Because it's really important for your journey when
I realized I was lacking faithin God.
Even the prayers don't makesense if you don't have faith in
him to actually answer yourprayers.
Speaker 2 (25:47):
Yeah, faith without words is dead.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
So I was like my word's going to be discipline.
If I want to make this year abetter year, I need to change
stuff.
I need to be disciplined.
If I want to make this year abetter year, I need to change
stuff.
I need to be disciplined, Ineed to do things different and
I need to pray and have faith.
God got me and not why and Ireally haven't been worrying.
Speaker 2 (26:15):
I'm just praying Because it's not your job to
worry.
I mean, if you're going to prayto God, then you need to let
him do his job.
Your job is to just have thefaith and do what you need to do
to stand in your faith.
His job is to make thingshappen.
You can't do your job and his.
(26:35):
You got to let it go.
You know, sometimes we say youknow, we say well, god,
sometimes people need to get Godnow.
You know things.
We're such in a now culture.
Everything needs to beimmediate.
We need instant everythinginstant coffee, instant food,
instant this, instant that.
And we need to just be patient,you know, because we have to.
Everything comes with time andeverything has a season.
(26:56):
And so last year you were in aseason of darkness, and now you,
this season, this year, you'rein a season of darkness.
Now this year you're in aseason of light.
Everybody goes through it.
I don't want you to put toomuch pressure on yourself.
Just take your time and justwork through your stuff.
Just do what's best for you.
Speaker 1 (27:18):
That's why I've realized what.
I've just realized somethingOur names have disappeared.
Streamyard is doing some funnythings today, anyways, but also
(27:40):
it's funny.
We're talking about resilience,right.
And then, when you ask me thatquestion, because as I was going
to uh, port fest, a shout outto shout out atlanta, they did
an article on me which I'll postit next week.
I haven't literally posted it,I forgot about it because it
came while I was on my way toport festelt, so my entire mind
(28:01):
was just Port Felt.
But the first question Ianswered was about resilience.
And how do you stay resilient?
Because it is very hard to keepfighting.
Sometimes, when you feel likeyou're losing every battle,
you're fighting.
Speaker 2 (28:19):
Yeah, but you have to go it one day at a time.
Speaker 1 (28:24):
But that's the thing.
When you're fighting them,those things don't apply because
you are in a different space.
You are just inside yourselfand that's why we recommend that
people have the support andshare to people and talk to
people.
But some people don't have thatand that's why I tell people I
don't condemn suicide and I topeople and talk to people.
(28:46):
But some people don't have thatand that's why I tell people I
don't condemn suicide and Idon't wish suicide on anybody.
But I do understand why somepeople end up doing it?
Speaker 2 (28:54):
Yeah, so I have never contemplated it myself.
That's amazing.
I can see how people get there.
Trust me, I've been through alot in my life, but I think for
me my saving grace has been mychildren, and I always say,
(29:14):
listen, I cannot let anybodyelse raise them, I have to be
here.
So that means I have to pushthrough.
So I always dangled my owncarrot and that that is what
kept me going, is that I alwayssaid, listen, my children
there's my children were mycarrot.
I have to be there for them.
That means I have to pushthrough.
(29:36):
So, even even like I have tocelebrate my small wins.
So when I am feeling like I amjust hopeless, and listen, I
raised them, my older two, Iraised them by myself.
You know, there have been timeswhere I thought I can't raise
these kids, maybe they need adifferent mother because the
(29:57):
father wasn't in the picture.
Yeah, he was around, but hewasn't helping.
He wasn't around the picture.
Yeah, he was around, but hewasn't helping.
He wasn't, he wasn't around forus.
He was just around, you know,just to say, hey, I have a son.
You know, hey, I have adaughter.
And listen, and there weretimes where he even went back
and forth with the daughter.
Speaker 1 (30:13):
His daughter was, his daughter wasn't his, you know
all that bs, but um to get outof their responsibilities, I'm
telling you, and it's like, okay, I have to really be there for
them, because if nobody iswanting my children, I want them
.
Speaker 2 (30:32):
I gave birth to them, I carried them, I want them,
and so I have to be around forthem because I don't want
anybody else to raise them.
I, I deserve them and theydeserve me.
I don't want anybody else toraise them.
I, I deserve them and theydeserve me.
And so when I had those momentswhere I felt focused, when I
was choosing between pampers,gas and food, like I had to rock
paper scissors, it like on adaily basis, and I'm like 23
(30:55):
years old, with two kids thatare 15 months apart, so I had to
rock paper scissors, it Okay,well, today we're going to eat,
you know.
So they went sleep.
You know, gas was always aconstant for me, even though it
was always a choice.
I'm like, okay, maybe somebodywill give me some gas money, you
know, but I, my kids, certainlyhave slept without pampers, but
(31:18):
I know I had to feed them andthere was even a time I went to,
I lived off of ramen noodlesand tuna fish for a very long
time because it was cheap and itwould stretch, you know, or
even bananas, like my kids hadto eat, so I would just boil
some.
And of course, I'm an islandgirl for your audience that
doesn't know me, but I'm anisland girl, I'm from the Virgin
(31:40):
Islands and so we eat greenbananas and we would boil the
bananas until it gets soft, wewould mash them and we would mix
it with butter and I would feedthat to my kids and they would
eat bananas.
They would eat mangoes, butthey would eat everything you
know, and they would eat alittle bit of the ramen noodles
and tuna fish.
You know they ate early.
You know they thought it wouldtable food early because that's
(32:00):
that's what we needed.
That's that's where I was at.
So in those moments, yeah, I'mlosing my mind and I'm thinking
I want to give my kids up, but Inever allowed my mind to go so
low that I would think that, ok,I want to take myself out
because I was like I have to bethere for them.
So when you find your purpose,like you, something like you
(32:25):
mentioned your dad.
You mentioned your dad is isyou and your dad are very close,
you know.
And when you think aboutexactly if you're not here, how
is he going to go on without you?
That's that was.
That's what got in my head.
How, how would my kids go onwithout you?
That's what got in my head.
How would my kids go on withoutme?
(32:45):
That's what kept me going.
That was what fueled myresilient spirit.
Does that make sense?
Speaker 1 (32:58):
It does.
It does you and your kids are.
I have my dad, but that's whatI'm saying.
Some of us are lacking orblessed even to have that
purpose.
That makes us not go above it,the thought, or even into the
(33:18):
thought.
There are those people whodon't.
Speaker 2 (33:23):
Yeah, and you said you had done this to downloads.
You know, and your podcast iswhat really kept you afloat.
You know, my kids is what keptme afloat, you know, because I
didn't have a support system.
I was just by myself.
My parents were not helping,the father wasn't helping, my
siblings were doing their ownthing.
You know, I just felt like, ok,it's just me and these babies
(33:47):
and we're going to make itthrough no matter what, even if
I have to give them up.
That was what I contemplated.
I contemplated giving my kidsup because I felt they deserved
better than what I could givethem, because I felt they
deserved better than what Icould give them At 23,.
I mean living on an island, Imean, if you've ever lived on an
(34:08):
island or lived in any type ofa place that's dependent on
tourism or rural areas, it couldget really expensive and not
all places have that governmentassistance, and that's another
thing that people don't reallyconsider.
Not all the places havegovernment assistance to swoop
in and and help you and say,here, have this.
You know, yeah, same thingthere in america.
(34:31):
I think that's why people getso so enamored with the american
dream is because americans havea lot of resources, you know,
and, and when we as outsiders wecome in and we look at it,
we're like, yeah, they'repissing on their blessings
because I wish they had this inmy country.
So I'm going to come here andI'm going to use the resources
(34:53):
because y'all just tripping.
You know what I mean.
It's like I got to survive, Igot to eat.
I got to survive, I got to getmy rent.
Got to eat, I got to survive.
I got to get my rent paid, mymortgage paid, I got to get my
job, all that stuff.
Come on now, say your shit,girl.
Say your shit, use it.
(35:15):
You have to use it.
Like I said, I had to become myown champion and I had to
become my own source of strengthbecause I knew that there was
nobody else to do it.
But I had to overcome.
I'm an overcomer that's reallyhow I describe myself because
(35:36):
even around that time I hadalready overcome so much.
I had so much that I wascarrying in my trauma knapsack
with these two kids that thatwas traumatic, how I had to
really feed them, and I justfelt like it wasn't even fair to
them to have to live that waybecause they didn't ask to be
here.
Speaker 1 (35:57):
You know, and that's the thing when you say overcome,
right, that part, that's how,also, I feel.
Whenever I get into thosethoughts I'm like, but listen,
I've overcome so much.
Where I am right now, everyshit that I felt like I couldn't
pass through, I got through.
And why give up now, when itfeels so much closer because I'm
(36:23):
not where I was?
That means I'm just gettingcloser.
So that kind of keeps me likewe gotta keep fighting man.
We gotta keep, we gotta beresilient, because I know the
life I want and I'm not gonnastop until I get the life I want
exactly.
Speaker 2 (36:43):
And I think when you align your goals like that, you
line them up, even write themout and put them on a big
billboard where you can see themevery day and you can look at
it and you can stay aligned.
When you set your intent foryourself and you say it out loud
and you do your affirmations,you know I feel like it sticks
and so that kind of serves asyour platform for what you're
(37:07):
going to do, what your next moveis going to be.
It sets your foundation forsuccess essentially.
You know so.
When you tell yourself I'm notgoing to be, it sets your
foundation for successessentially.
You know so.
When you tell yourself I'm notgoing to be a statistic, I'm not
going to be that girl I'm, youknow, and my thing was I left
home at like 23 years old.
I left home, actually I was 24.
(37:28):
I left home at 24.
So, leaving the Virgin Islandsand coming to America with two
small kids, I said to myself Iwill never go back and I would
make it.
So I will never go back becausethere was a lot of people that
were leaving the island andgoing to the States and you know
(37:52):
they wouldn't make it and thenthey would have to come back
home with a tail between theirlegs, move back in with their
parents and live that islandlife again.
And I said to myself when I goto America, I'm going to have me
a plan and, and don't mind, Ihave these two kids, I'm going
to be successful because I wantthem to have the life that I
didn't have.
I don't want them to struggleas much, but I want them to
(38:13):
struggle just enough to keepthem humble.
Does that make sense?
It does.
Yeah, I want them to strugglejust enough to keep them humble,
because you always have to knowwhere you come from and you
always have to know that withGod, all things are possible.
That is one of my favoritesayings.
With God, all things arepossible.
So is one of my favoritesayings With God, all things are
(38:34):
possible.
So I stand strong in my faithand my dad used to tell me.
He used to say Noreen, I used tocome downstairs to check on you
.
I lived in a downstairsapartment, a two-bedroom
apartment that my dad builtbeneath their house, and I lived
there with my kids.
And he said Noreen, there aretimes that I would come down to
check on you and these kids,because it was just you and
those kids.
You're such a quiet person Iwanted to make sure you were
(38:55):
okay, he said.
But every time I come downthere and I look through the
window, you're on your kneespraying and the thing is I would
hear him.
I didn't know somebody was there.
I would hear it was a gravelwalkway and so I would hear the
gravel, but when I would look Iwouldn't see anybody.
So all those times that I wouldhear the gravel and I wouldn't
(39:17):
see anybody, I was like, oh,maybe I was hearing things.
But when he told me that that'swhat he was doing, I put two
and two together and he said Ialways saw you praying and I
didn't want to disturb yourprayer, so I just figured I'd
come back at a different time.
I just figured I'd come back ata different time and that just
made me even.
It made me feel good that mydad was just like supportive of
(39:40):
that.
You know he knew what I wasgoing through, because you know.
Speaker 1 (39:46):
Because he was a guardian angel, because imagine
your dad all the time coming atthe time when you were on your
knees praying.
That's a guardian angelwatching over you, yeah.
Speaker 2 (39:56):
Yeah, I always felt like there was somebody present.
You know I am no stranger to mybelief of a higher power and
higher beings.
You know I believe in angels, Ibelieve in guardian angels, I
believe in circumstances.
You know I believe in thingshappening for a circumstances.
You know I believe in in thingshappening for a reason, you
(40:23):
know.
But I also had a lot of beliefin myself, like when you're like
I, I never needed people tovalidate me.
I've always just validatedmyself.
And I think that's where Ithrive, in that bubble, where I
know I can do it.
You may not think I can do it,but I know I can do it and I
don't need to say let me showyou, I'm just going to do it
because I don't have to proveanything to anybody.
And so my kids grew up withthat same spirit.
(40:46):
They are very independent andthey are very spirited and they
understand, hey, you have toreally just work your way
through some stuff in your life,you know.
Speaker 1 (41:01):
All right.
Well, you all had Miss Noreenpreach over here, so we are
going to come to an end, as it'salready one hour and I'm trying
to make this not longer thanone hour.
It's already one hour and I'mtrying to make this not longer
than one hour, I know.
Thank you for joining us.
I mean, it was a very if thisconversation doesn't inspire
(41:24):
anybody, because there was aboutlove, there was about dating,
there was about gym and therewas about faith and we wrapped
it up with resilience.
So if you're out there right nowthinking about giving up, just
know there are people out therewho are willing to talk to you
if you need talking to, to praywith you, if you need praying
(41:46):
for, or who have gone throughthat same place.
You are right now and gottenout, and they might not be
driving, but you know, one dayat a time.
So reach out to the peoplearound you.
I mean you can even reach outto me on the ring, we don't mind
If you're going throughsomething and need a listening
(42:09):
ear, you know, just slide in ourDMs.
Yeah, there you go.
Slide in the DMs, you know justsliding our dms.
Speaker 2 (42:15):
Yeah, there you go, sliding the dms, you know, and
you can leave anybody with any.
Any advice on anything.
You know.
We talk about resilience, youknow.
And bouncing back it's not tosay that you're not gonna fall,
it's how you get up.
But when you get up, my, my, myadvice is you get up.
Do not just get up.
Get up with a plan, have a planof action, because if you just
(42:39):
get up and you're just doing thesame thing, then you're going
to keep falling.
So you have to have a plan toget you out of your situation.
Get to your root cause.
Why am I even down here?
In the first place?
You may need to change yourcircle.
You may need to change yourcircle.
You may need to change yourmindset.
But come up with a new plan sothat you would be able to bounce
(42:59):
back, bounce forward, so thatyou would be successful.
Speaker 1 (43:06):
So true.
And sometimes even yoursurroundings.
You know, change ofsurroundings can help you thrive
.
Oh my God, I cannot.
And I was sharing this earlier,right?
I was sharing this earlierright?
These are all my podcasts.
(43:26):
This was from the first one Iattended in 2022.
This was in 2023 and 2024.
And all of them you see how itwent from.
This was the first one, so Iwent from one to this to this.
It shows and I like that I havethem because it shows belonging
in a community that actuallysees you, that accepts you, that
(43:52):
supports you, that nurtures you, that pours into you as much as
you pour into yourself, becausesometimes we don't see our
growth.
I look at this and I see mygrowth.
I'm like, oh my God, look, whenI went there the first time,
where I was, and because ofthese people, I didn't give up,
(44:12):
I kept on going.
I became Lizzie, and socommunity is very a big factor
of for me anyways, and it shouldbe for most of people.
So, but as we come to an end,ms Noreen, please let the people
know where they can find you,what you're up to, if there's
any amazing stuff for them tolook out to, what you're up to
(44:34):
if there's any amazing stuff forthem to look out to.
Speaker 2 (44:37):
Yes, so, noreen Foy.
For those of you that areexperiencing me for the first
time, I am the founder of theSave Our Sisters not-for-profit
group and host of Save OurSisters Unplugged, and those
platforms are dedicated toresilience, and I empower women
to share their survival tosuccess journeys through the
power of storytelling, so Iencourage them to share what has
(45:00):
happened to them.
So, in my spaces, that is whatI do.
I'm a lover of empowermentwomen.
I'm on LinkedIn, facebook Joinmy Facebook group it's Save Our
Sisters group.
Also on YouTube, pleasesubscribe.
I am trying to grow mycommunity there, as I will be
doing a lot more in that space.
(45:22):
And if you are in the PeoriaIllinois area, we do have.
I have teamed up with my goodgirlfriend, keisha Woods, of
Upgraded Mindsets.
We are putting on yes, we areputting on a luncheon, and the
theme is renewing our resilience, excuse me, renewing our
(45:45):
resilience, managing life afterloss.
And loss is not just loss oflife.
Loss could be loss ofopportunities, it could be loss
of a loved one, it could be lossof job.
You know, it could be just lossof yourself, because sometimes
you can lose yourself inrelationships.
We're going to dive into it all.
So it's going to be on March16th from 12 to 3 pm and it's
(46:08):
going to be at the EastportBanquet Center, which is in East
Peoria.
At the Eastport Banquet Center,which is in East Peoria,
illinois.
It's at the East Peoria Marina.
It's beautiful.
I got married in that facility.
So, just encouraging the womento come out for an afternoon of
fellowship, we are going to begiving away a scholarship and we
are also going to be donatingprom dresses to a group here
(46:33):
called it Takes a Village, andso their mission is to not only
donate the prom dresses to girlsthat cannot have, but they do
so much more in our communityhere.
So we've got a lot going on andthere's a lot of sisters out
there that's just really tryingto empower and uplift and what
we do is we just group uptogether because, you know, one
(46:53):
group can't do it, all you know.
And it does take a village andthat was always my slogan for
everything in life it does takea village.
So I appreciate you inviting meto be on your Shit Happens
episode, because a lot of shitwas happening today and I was
late and I was really bad andunprofessional, but thank you
(47:15):
for giving me grace.
I hope your audience gives megrace Because you know life just
happens, and it happens quickly, and all you have to do is,
just like we're talking about,bounce back from it.
Speaker 1 (47:29):
I mean, if they don't give you grace, then they're
really not my people, because mypeople, we are all about giving
grace.
And look, I mean we are on.
Shit Happens literally, so itis what it is.
I mean you still made it.
You dropped some gems and wehad a blast, so that's all that
matters.
Thank you for still jumping onand they heard you on the
(47:53):
loudspeaker when you called tofreak out a bit.
So it's fine.
They had a little entertainment.
But everybody else and I wantto reach out to Ana to know more
about the donated dress, theprom dress, ana, to know more
about that.
So we'll talk offline.
But everybody who joined in,thank you for hanging out with
(48:17):
me.
Sorry for that technicaldifficulties, sorry for the uh
guests being late, but I hope Ientertained you in the beginning
for a few minutes.
You had me.
I still showed up.
I hope you learned to listen onshowing up, staying consistency
and being resilient and faithhaving faith.
(48:37):
So until next time, shithappens.
Speaker 2 (48:42):
Peace and blessings Shit happens, shit, shit happens
, shit, shit happens, shit, shit, shit, shit happens, shit
(49:05):
happens, shit happens, shithappens, shit happens, shit
happens.
so hold on.
Noreen is calling me hello.
I don't have a link.
It's a new email.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
I sent it to you in the morning today yes oh my god,
paula, I'm so sorry, it'salright, I didn't, I didn't see
it, it's ok hold on, because I'mready, I just need to log in.
I didn't see it, it's okay.
Hold on, because I'm ready, Ijust need to log in.
(00:30):
Oh, here it is.
Oh, my God, I'm so sorry, Ifeel so bad.
Oh, what a bad friend.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
I mean, it is shit happens.
Speaker 3 (00:40):
It's really happening .
Speaker 1 (00:45):
And you're on loudspeaker while I'm on live,
so you're fine, you can go in.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
Okay, let me hang up, I will log in.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
All right, okay, shit happens.
Shit happens to you and me.
It doesn't matter if you're awizard, a king or a queen, even
if you are magic, you've got toagree it's worth it to talk shit
out, no matter how messy Shithappens.
Speaker 3 (01:22):
Shit happens.
Just FYI, this episode wasrecorded February of 2024, and
(01:48):
it is now February 2025.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
Enjoy, I told myself this year is the year of
possibilities and I'm going tomake sure I'm in every room that
has possibilities of me and mygrowth into this journey.
Do whatever you want to do withthat, oh my God.
(02:11):
Dominic always says shout outto Dominic.
He always says whenever he sayssomething right, and then he
say do what you will with that.
Like you can either take it toheart, you can either listen to
it, you can either follow, youcan either fuck it up.
It is what it is.
Speaker 3 (02:32):
And it sure was a year of possibilities and I sure
did grab as much opportunity asI could.
Now, this year, this year, is asavage year Because, even
though I grabbed as muchopportunity as I could, I was
humble, very humble, last year.
Hence savage year 2025.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Alright, guys, guess I'm sticking around.
Noreen is jumping on and Noreenis over here, so I am going to
go ahead and bring her on.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
okay, she's back oh, my god, paula.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
I mean, ma'am, I do know that this is shit happens,
but damn shit really happens itgot real, it got real.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
I am so, so sorry.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
I am so sorry, it's okay for some reason, my
headphones won't connect, so Idon't know what's going on with
me.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
Mine wouldn't connect either.
That was my problem.
I tried to connect like we didthe other day.
So it's the wednesday and itjust wouldn't do it today.
So I said you know what?
What's gonna, we're just gonnago but that's on us.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
I mean we, we know better, we know we should have
been here like 15 minutes beforeand done our check, check.
So what so?
What happened?
So so, because I was lettingwhoever was watching, even if
nobody was watching, that I gotstood up.
So you want to tell me whathappened?
(04:11):
Why did you stood me up?
I think me and the people inthe explanation.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
I did not stand up.
Your queen, I was having amoment, I had an emergency and
it slipped my mind and so shesaid, hey, are you coming on?
Oh, my goodness, the funnything is I see it on my calendar
and I'm like, okay, I saw yourpost.
(04:38):
Yeah, she posted it.
So I must have set myself areminder to like go listen to
the episode.
And then I forgot about thisone and the mix up.
That is so.
I am so sorry, all the shittalkers out there, I did not
mean to make your queen late forher appointments.
(04:58):
Forgive me, forgive me, forgiveme.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
So I'm sorry you were having a moment and I do
understand Sometimes.
I mean, that's why this segmentis called Shit Happens, right,
because that's the reality oflife Shit does happen.
But it also taught me something, you know, because I could have
easily been like, let me cancel, let me not show up, right.
But instead I still jumped onand was like I'm still going to
(05:25):
talk to people and say somethings and then, if you show up,
we shall do it.
If you don't, you know, shithappens.
But it taught me that I stillneed to show up.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
Yeah, yeah, and that's, you know, that's kind of
a little bit of something thatwe were talking about the other
day.
It's really showing up forcommunity.
But yeah, we definitely have toshow up for ourselves.
We have to just be adaptableand be able to just adapt
ourselves to any situation,right?
Speaker 1 (05:56):
Oh my God, and it's funny.
Yes, and it's funny that allthis is happening, because I was
literally going to talk to you.
We were going to talk to you,we were going to talk about
being resilient and faith,because right now I was about to
give up.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
yeah, no, we cannot give up.
You don't stay on this wholetime, see, you have to be able
to bounce back.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
But as part of with this all the time and this is
real life and the thing is, whenI was doing Talk Shit With P,
it was pre-recorded right, so itdidn't matter.
I wasn't on live, but this ishappening on live hey, you know
(06:42):
what real life is?
Speaker 2 (06:43):
live so these things happen.
Shit is happening.
It's happening today.
So how was your day?
Oh my gosh, you know what?
I woke up in a Zen funky mood,if that makes sense.
I woke up, I went downstairs, Iworked out for about an hour, I
(07:06):
watched my Ready to Love Don'tJudge and then I got in the
shower.
What's Ready to Love?
Oh, ready to Love is by TommyMiles.
It's like black folks trying tofind love.
It's all about black love.
I love it.
They're not in of peoplebecause they're like they're not
in dallas anymore, but uh,they're still in texas.
(07:29):
I can't remember what part theyare in, but, um, you know, it's
just a bunch of food left sokind of like married at first
sight, kind of like what marriedat first.
No, they're not getting married,they're just trying to date.
It's kind of like the boxoffice but like an even playing
(07:51):
field.
I think it's like 10 women, 10men or 18 women, yeah, nine
women to nine men or somethinglike that, and you know, they
just try to get to know eachother.
There's a bunch of mixers, youknow.
Apparently, dating life is hard.
So this guy, Tommy miles, andit's a Will Packer production
and so it's a, it's a black show, and so they go to yeah, they
(08:16):
go from city to city to work.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
It's tough out here.
Let me know when they're inAtlanta.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
Well, I mean shoot, it's tough out here.
Let me know when they're inatlanta.
Well, I mean shoot if I.
Yeah, if I see that I'll letyou know.
Be like oh my god, follow us onthe show.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
There's no way they wouldn't cast you I don't know,
man, I fear finding love onthese shows.
There's one time I was likemaybe I should go to.
Love is blind, because that'smy thing, because I want deep
connection, I know, but then Idon't know if I want my journey
to be on tv yeah, I don't thinkI want my journey to be on tv
(08:57):
either.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
I I like authentic connections, you know.
But I need to see you, you know, and I need to talk to you
because I need to know if we'realigned.
You know, I was watching todayand one of the guys he was
talking to a girl and you knowhe asked her if she had kids.
She said yes, she had kids.
She asked him if he had kids.
He said no, but he would likesome kids.
(09:19):
And he asked her if she wouldlike some kids and he said she
said no, I don't want any morekids.
And he was like nice to meetyou, good luck on your journey.
I was like, well, all right.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
I mean, at that point we already don't want the same
things.
Yeah, I did the same.
I went on a date with a guy andhe told me he got a vasectomy.
So that means he can't have anymore kids.
Yeah, I was like, well, thiswas fun because I knew he wasn't
(09:53):
gonna go anywhere, because Iknew I want at least one child.
Like I know I want a child, sowhy waste my time exactly yeah,
and know a lot of people.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
In your theme of resilience, you know a lot of
people.
When they go through a lot ofthings, they kind of like don't
really bounce back from thatbefore they dive into something
new to just heal themselvesbefore trying to get back in the
.
In the journey of trying tofind love, it's so important for
(10:26):
you to know who you are, knowwhat you want, know where you're
going, know what you'rebringing to the table, in order
for you to actually find thatperson that you want to eat with
at that table.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
You know what I mean.
It's funny, I saw, I think youknow maybe maybe that's why this
needed to still happen.
Because it's funny you broughtthat up?
Because literally two hours agoI just commented on a post.
You see, I'm being nosy now.
I had a door slam and now I'mlike Right, God help me.
(11:05):
But um, two hours ago Icommented on a post.
Somebody posted oh my god, Idon't know why I forgot her name
and I just met her last week atPodfest and her post was like
something like everybody whogets out of it should be a
(11:25):
requirement, that everybody whogets out of it should be a
requirement, that everybody whogets out of a long-term
relationship to have therapy,something like that.
Because it's so true, especiallypeople who have been in a
longer relationship, right, mostpeople end up losing themselves
(11:48):
because they're so used topeople instead of just them
themselves.
So when you enter this, what?
And then you're going to be tooquick to jump in any other
thing because you're used toalways having somebody, but
you've got to find firstyourself again.
You've got to figure out whoyou are, what do you want?
(12:09):
Because outside of what thatwas, that way you don't bring
any more garbage to your nextrelationship.
Also, you end up finding theright one, so you might go on to
that, and that's when ithappens.
Six months, 12 months, you know, just half-half half, because
it didn't align and you didn'twork on yourself yeah, and then
(12:30):
you, you have to be open.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
You can't, you can't go into finding love
close-minded.
You have to be open to everypossibility.
Now, if you have these deeprooted preferences like he must
be tall, he must, must bechocolate, he must have six-pack
, you know, he must drive aLexus, you know, if you have
those type of superficial idealsand you know things that you
(12:54):
put up for yourself, you're notgoing to really find that.
You know.
But you have to really lookmore within, like, okay, I need
somebody that's a good person,somebody that you know maybe
shares the same religion youknow, shares your same morals
and values, you know.
And then you get into thehobbies and all the other things
that would be important to you,you know.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
And that's so true.
And for some reason I'm intodad bods these days, so they can
have the six pack.
Speaker 2 (13:27):
Yeah, you know what I think?
People have a six pack.
I always feel like you know,like when I was out in the
dating world you know I was Ialways used to think, oh God,
please, then let me not date agym buff, because then he's
going to want me to do all thesedifferent things.
Like, if he's going to be a gymbuff, let him be on his gym
journey by himself.
Let me be on my journey,because if I'm fat and if I'm
(13:49):
having like a positive what doyou call it?
Body negativity moment, I don'tneed him to be chiming in like,
well, if you stop eating thisand if you stop eating that, you
know, mind your business, stayin your lane.
You know, don't push yourjourney on to me, I will get
there on my own.
You know, now if I come to youand ask for advice, then yes,
please give it, but please donot give me an unsolicited
(14:11):
advice.
I always feel like, oh gosh, Idon't want to date a guy that is
too much into that, becausethen I'm not going to be for him
, because I'm not going to wakeup at 5 am to go go work out
with you.
I may wake up at 9 am to gowork out with you.
But you know, if you're likeone of those people that have to
be so regimented at 5 am andthen you have to have your
(14:33):
protein shakes and all thesedifferent things and your
protein bars and all that, I'mlike no, because today is pasta
day and I need you to be OK withthat.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
Oh, because today is pasta day and I need you to be
okay with that.
Oh my god, it's so funny yousay that first of all, now I
want pasta.
But it's so funny you say thatbecause all my dating apps,
anytime I see a guy who's likethey write gym so much or they
have all these gym pictures I Idon't care how hot you look, I'm
swiping.
Like I know, I don't know whyLike I want.
If I want to go to the gym, Igo, and if I don't, I don't, but
(15:13):
I don't want somebody.
So there's this guy.
You know I've been enjoyingFacebook dating.
It's so funny, y'all.
Speaker 2 (15:21):
Like it's the creepiest.
I've always thought that wasturning out for people.
Facebook dating.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
It's trash.
Like you think, tinder is trash, facebook dating is trash.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
You know what that was?
Trash Plenty of fish.
Speaker 1 (15:36):
I thought that was trash.
I've never tried that one, ever, because a lot of people
complain about it.
So the thing is, facebookdating is so trash but it kind
of reminds me of my trash TV.
So whenever I'm just like, letme see what's going on today,
(15:58):
and I get all the weirdos likingme, you know, on today, and I
get all the weird weirdos likingme, you know.
So, um, there's this guy wholiterally is is um, his bio says
he's looking for somebody to goto the gym with, whatever,
whatever.
And then he liked me and I waslike I'm so sorry, I don't go to
the gym every day, I barely go,so I'm not the one for you
(16:22):
because you can message them asyou reply you.
You like them and I was likebut you have a picture of you in
a gym with a boxing bag.
I'm like I box and I haven'tdone that in in seven I don't
know in how many months but Idon't go to the gym like.
I have these moments, thesemoments and me, most of the time
(16:43):
I do work out in ways ofstretching, like sit-ups,
running.
I used to go to my other gym inmy old apartment.
Our gym had a climbing wallwhich spin around, so that was
kind of good for stretching andit had the boxing bag.
So that's why I was at the gym,because I love boxing.
But I'm not going to the gymfor the trademarks and the
(17:04):
lifting and none of that.
I don't do that.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
No, no, and I, you know, my husband and I, you know
, we have a bunch of stuffdownstairs in our basement.
Our home basement is the gym,and then of course it's the
movie theater down there too.
So that's really where we zenout.
You know his studios there.
You know that's that's like theZen area of the of the house.
(17:27):
You know that's the, that's thecreative area, you know.
But, um, I try to just reallyjust stay healthy.
You know, I'm down eight pounds.
I have 12 more to go.
My goal is 20.
I didn't give myself an enddate, I just want to lose 20
pounds.
So I'm taking the pressure.
You know, like sometimes yousay I want to lose weight by
(17:48):
this date and then you put somuch pressure on yourself.
I'm not doing that to myself, Ijust say I want to lose 20
pounds.
When I lose it, I lose it, butI'm actively working to lose it,
that's's all.
Speaker 1 (18:02):
Yeah, it does.
Because even me, whenever Iused to say I want to gain
weight and I tried forcingmyself to eat so much, and shit
I wasn't gaining shit.
Because also the mind, you know, because it's in your mind
constantly, so you're not doingthe other things that you're
supposed to do as well to helpyou gain the weight, you're just
concentrating on eating it.
I gotta gain, I gotta gain, Igotta gain.
(18:24):
So when I stopped caring andnot overthinking it and just be
like I want to gain and I'mgonna do my best, but if it
doesn't happen, and so I startedgaining, yeah, you know I think
some things are mind overmatter, but you know, you have
to really be intentional aboutwhat you're really putting into
your body.
Speaker 2 (18:43):
You know and don't let me get to preaching about
that but you know, as, as blackwomen, you know we have to be
very mindful of heart disease,you know, and eating a bunch of
things that are not good for ourbody.
And, uh, you know, hey, I'm notgoing to throw my red meat onto
the bus because your sis lovesa good ribeye, okay, with the
fat, you know.
(19:03):
But you know we have to be verycognizant about what we're
putting in our body.
So, whether we try to loseweight or gain weight, we have
to just really have like a planon how we're gonna get to this,
this, this ideal weight goal.
You know what I mean yeah, it'ssuch um now, before we huh good,
(19:29):
when I work out, it's like Idon't say, okay, I'm gonna do 20
reps of this and 30 reps ofthat.
I go down, I stretch, I don'tdo anything in order, you know,
I just do them all.
I say, okay, this is because,listen, I'm of a different age,
so if I wake up with body aches,then I'm going to do the things
(19:50):
.
That's not going to ache mybody that day.
I'm going to do more stretching, I'm going to do less vigorous
stuff.
You know, I have that stairthing where you step on it and
you do that.
I love to get on that.
My knees are killing me.
I'm not going to get on that.
I'm just going to go slowly,maybe not as much as I would,
not as hard as I normally go.
But you know, my target areasare my arms and my stomach.
(20:13):
You know, and you know my legsare sexy.
You know they, they are right.
But I go in there with justlike, not putting any pressure
on anything.
I just do what I need to do andI get out and I don't put bad
things in my body.
I, I I'm not a calorie counter,you know, but you know it is
what it is.
(20:33):
See, we, we, we got onto.
We started talking about love.
Now we're on weight gain or on,we're on, we're on a fitness.
Speaker 1 (20:50):
And we should be talking let's get back to track.
So I might, I might, read thisright resilience for her is not
merely bouncing back, butbouncing forward, embracing
change and emerging strongerafter setbacks.
Let let's dive into that.
Yeah, because I feel like youknow, after the year of okay,
(21:10):
let me not even think deepthings, right.
Even just here, right now,while I was trying to figure
this shit out, I was just thisquestion, just saying like maybe
we should reschedule, right,but then that would be giving up
, right, it would, and thatwould mean also, you don't have
(21:33):
faith that you can make thisshit happen.
Speaker 2 (21:36):
Yeah, yeah, but you bounced back really well though.
You bounced back well, you hungin there, you know, because
listen, like I said, aspodcasters this could happen.
You could have like a veryimportant interview and you
could do the tech check, andthen you hit live and then all
hell breaks loose, you know.
And so it's just about how youreally overcome it, and you
(21:57):
bounce back really well.
You bounce back really well.
So applaud yourself.
I'll give you a round ofapplause.
Speaker 1 (22:06):
After she stands me up.
Now she's praising me.
Speaker 2 (22:10):
Hey, I didn't stand you up.
Let's reframe that.
Remember, we learned that.
Let's reframe that.
I was a tad bit late.
Shit was happening.
It's a little bit delayed.
She needs happening and it's alittle bit delayed.
Speaker 1 (22:25):
She needs to buy me lunch now because she brought up
pasta and she was late, so nowshe needs to buy me pasta for
lunch.
Speaker 2 (22:35):
I will show you the whole town.
I will take you to eat.
We will eat our way through thecity city.
I love to eat.
That's why I need to get inshape now.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
I will take you to eat.
We shall eat.
Speaker 2 (22:54):
Let's get back to this so, besides, how did you
this little conundrum that wewas just into with the
technology?
Because, let me tell you,streaming artists sometimes it
it could be hard to managesometimes, because I was just
trying to hook up my microphoneon it and that's when I couldn't
(23:14):
hear you and I justdisconnected and I was like,
okay, we're not doingmicrophones today.
Then you know, but how do youbounce back from normal things
in your life?
Speaker 1 (23:24):
so.
So that's the thing, right,last year.
Last year was really tough forme, right, you know, and I
contemplated suicide back andforth, like I really.
I really was.
And it's funny because I showedup online because my podcast
was still going on and I wantedto make sure those last few
(23:45):
episodes were very hard to showup and promote.
But I wanted to make sure thatthe guests get the same support
the other guests had when I wasokay, because they took their
time to come and talk and sharesome knowledge.
They needed as much supportlike that.
So it was hard to really showup, but I was really dying
(24:08):
inside, like my life was really,and it was tough.
I even stopped praying because Iwas in this place where I
didn't think even God cared.
But then when I came into thisyear, right, no, but again, it's
just in the mind.
(24:29):
Right, it's the things we tellourselves in our mind.
It's not the reality.
So when I started this year, Ihad to switch my mind.
Mindset switch is real and veryimportant.
So I was like yo, last yearkicked my ass, this year we're
(24:52):
going to kick its ass, we'regoing to turn it around.
So I started.
That's why I was like my wordwas going to be discipline and I
started praying and notworrying, I told myself last
year.
I was worrying so much becausea lot was happening at the same
time and I was really in a deephole.
I really wasn't sure how Iwould survive that year.
(25:15):
So I was constantly worryinginstead of actually praying and
having faith that God got me.
Speaker 2 (25:25):
Yeah, that's important that you actually take
the time to realize that andjust take that time to
self-reflect.
Speaker 1 (25:34):
Because it's really important for your journey when
I realized I was lacking faithin God.
Even the prayers don't makesense if you don't have faith in
him to actually answer yourprayers.
Speaker 2 (25:47):
Yeah, faith without words is dead.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
So I was like my word's going to be discipline.
If I want to make this year abetter year, I need to change
stuff.
I need to be disciplined.
If I want to make this year abetter year, I need to change
stuff.
I need to be disciplined, Ineed to do things different and
I need to pray and have faith.
God got me and not why and Ireally haven't been worrying.
Speaker 2 (26:15):
I'm just praying Because it's not your job to
worry.
I mean, if you're going to prayto God, then you need to let
him do his job.
Your job is to just have thefaith and do what you need to do
to stand in your faith.
His job is to make thingshappen.
You can't do your job and his.
(26:35):
You got to let it go.
You know, sometimes we say youknow, we say well, god,
sometimes people need to get Godnow.
You know things.
We're such in a now culture.
Everything needs to beimmediate.
We need instant everythinginstant coffee, instant food,
instant this, instant that.
And we need to just be patient,you know, because we have to.
Everything comes with time andeverything has a season.
(26:56):
And so last year you were in aseason of darkness, and now you,
this season, this year, you'rein a season of darkness.
Now this year you're in aseason of light.
Everybody goes through it.
I don't want you to put toomuch pressure on yourself.
Just take your time and justwork through your stuff.
Just do what's best for you.
Speaker 1 (27:18):
That's why I've realized what.
I've just realized somethingOur names have disappeared.
Streamyard is doing some funnythings today, anyways, but also
(27:40):
it's funny.
We're talking about resilience,right.
And then, when you ask me thatquestion, because as I was going
to uh, port fest, a shout outto shout out atlanta, they did
an article on me which I'll postit next week.
I haven't literally posted it,I forgot about it because it
came while I was on my way toport festelt, so my entire mind
(28:01):
was just Port Felt.
But the first question Ianswered was about resilience.
And how do you stay resilient?
Because it is very hard to keepfighting.
Sometimes, when you feel likeyou're losing every battle,
you're fighting.
Speaker 2 (28:19):
Yeah, but you have to go it one day at a time.
Speaker 1 (28:24):
But that's the thing.
When you're fighting them,those things don't apply because
you are in a different space.
You are just inside yourselfand that's why we recommend that
people have the support andshare to people and talk to
people.
But some people don't have thatand that's why I tell people I
don't condemn suicide and I topeople and talk to people.
(28:46):
But some people don't have thatand that's why I tell people I
don't condemn suicide and Idon't wish suicide on anybody.
But I do understand why somepeople end up doing it?
Speaker 2 (28:54):
Yeah, so I have never contemplated it myself.
That's amazing.
I can see how people get there.
Trust me, I've been through alot in my life, but I think for
me my saving grace has been mychildren, and I always say,
(29:14):
listen, I cannot let anybodyelse raise them, I have to be
here.
So that means I have to pushthrough.
So I always dangled my owncarrot and that that is what
kept me going, is that I alwayssaid, listen, my children
there's my children were mycarrot.
I have to be there for them.
That means I have to pushthrough.
(29:36):
So, even even like I have tocelebrate my small wins.
So when I am feeling like I amjust hopeless, and listen, I
raised them, my older two, Iraised them by myself.
You know, there have been timeswhere I thought I can't raise
these kids, maybe they need adifferent mother because the
(29:57):
father wasn't in the picture.
Yeah, he was around, but hewasn't helping.
He wasn't around the picture.
Yeah, he was around, but hewasn't helping.
He wasn't, he wasn't around forus.
He was just around, you know,just to say, hey, I have a son.
You know, hey, I have adaughter.
And listen, and there weretimes where he even went back
and forth with the daughter.
Speaker 1 (30:13):
His daughter was, his daughter wasn't his, you know
all that bs, but um to get outof their responsibilities, I'm
telling you, and it's like, okay, I have to really be there for
them, because if nobody iswanting my children, I want them
.
Speaker 2 (30:32):
I gave birth to them, I carried them, I want them,
and so I have to be around forthem because I don't want
anybody else to raise them.
I, I deserve them and theydeserve me.
I don't want anybody else toraise them.
I, I deserve them and theydeserve me.
And so when I had those momentswhere I felt focused, when I
was choosing between pampers,gas and food, like I had to rock
paper scissors, it like on adaily basis, and I'm like 23
(30:55):
years old, with two kids thatare 15 months apart, so I had to
rock paper scissors, it Okay,well, today we're going to eat,
you know.
So they went sleep.
You know, gas was always aconstant for me, even though it
was always a choice.
I'm like, okay, maybe somebodywill give me some gas money, you
know, but I, my kids, certainlyhave slept without pampers, but
(31:18):
I know I had to feed them andthere was even a time I went to,
I lived off of ramen noodlesand tuna fish for a very long
time because it was cheap and itwould stretch, you know, or
even bananas, like my kids hadto eat, so I would just boil
some.
And of course, I'm an islandgirl for your audience that
doesn't know me, but I'm anisland girl, I'm from the Virgin
(31:40):
Islands and so we eat greenbananas and we would boil the
bananas until it gets soft, wewould mash them and we would mix
it with butter and I would feedthat to my kids and they would
eat bananas.
They would eat mangoes, butthey would eat everything you
know, and they would eat alittle bit of the ramen noodles
and tuna fish.
You know they ate early.
You know they thought it wouldtable food early because that's
(32:00):
that's what we needed.
That's that's where I was at.
So in those moments, yeah, I'mlosing my mind and I'm thinking
I want to give my kids up, but Inever allowed my mind to go so
low that I would think that, ok,I want to take myself out
because I was like I have to bethere for them.
So when you find your purpose,like you, something like you
(32:25):
mentioned your dad.
You mentioned your dad is isyou and your dad are very close,
you know.
And when you think aboutexactly if you're not here, how
is he going to go on without you?
That's that was.
That's what got in my head.
How, how would my kids go onwithout you?
That's what got in my head.
How would my kids go on withoutme?
(32:45):
That's what kept me going.
That was what fueled myresilient spirit.
Does that make sense?
Speaker 1 (32:58):
It does.
It does you and your kids are.
I have my dad, but that's whatI'm saying.
Some of us are lacking orblessed even to have that
purpose.
That makes us not go above it,the thought, or even into the
(33:18):
thought.
There are those people whodon't.
Speaker 2 (33:23):
Yeah, and you said you had done this to downloads.
You know, and your podcast iswhat really kept you afloat.
You know, my kids is what keptme afloat, you know, because I
didn't have a support system.
I was just by myself.
My parents were not helping,the father wasn't helping, my
siblings were doing their ownthing.
You know, I just felt like, ok,it's just me and these babies
(33:47):
and we're going to make itthrough no matter what, even if
I have to give them up.
That was what I contemplated.
I contemplated giving my kidsup because I felt they deserved
better than what I could givethem, because I felt they
deserved better than what Icould give them At 23,.
I mean living on an island, Imean, if you've ever lived on an
(34:08):
island or lived in any type ofa place that's dependent on
tourism or rural areas, it couldget really expensive and not
all places have that governmentassistance, and that's another
thing that people don't reallyconsider.
Not all the places havegovernment assistance to swoop
in and and help you and say,here, have this.
You know, yeah, same thingthere in america.
(34:31):
I think that's why people getso so enamored with the american
dream is because americans havea lot of resources, you know,
and, and when we as outsiders wecome in and we look at it,
we're like, yeah, they'repissing on their blessings
because I wish they had this inmy country.
So I'm going to come here andI'm going to use the resources
(34:53):
because y'all just tripping.
You know what I mean.
It's like I got to survive, Igot to eat.
I got to survive, I got to getmy rent.
Got to eat, I got to survive.
I got to get my rent paid, mymortgage paid, I got to get my
job, all that stuff.
Come on now, say your shit,girl.
Say your shit, use it.
(35:15):
You have to use it.
Like I said, I had to become myown champion and I had to
become my own source of strengthbecause I knew that there was
nobody else to do it.
But I had to overcome.
I'm an overcomer that's reallyhow I describe myself because
(35:36):
even around that time I hadalready overcome so much.
I had so much that I wascarrying in my trauma knapsack
with these two kids that thatwas traumatic, how I had to
really feed them, and I justfelt like it wasn't even fair to
them to have to live that waybecause they didn't ask to be
here.
Speaker 1 (35:57):
You know, and that's the thing when you say overcome,
right, that part, that's how,also, I feel.
Whenever I get into thosethoughts I'm like, but listen,
I've overcome so much.
Where I am right now, everyshit that I felt like I couldn't
pass through, I got through.
And why give up now, when itfeels so much closer because I'm
(36:23):
not where I was?
That means I'm just gettingcloser.
So that kind of keeps me likewe gotta keep fighting man.
We gotta keep, we gotta beresilient, because I know the
life I want and I'm not gonnastop until I get the life I want
exactly.
Speaker 2 (36:43):
And I think when you align your goals like that, you
line them up, even write themout and put them on a big
billboard where you can see themevery day and you can look at
it and you can stay aligned.
When you set your intent foryourself and you say it out loud
and you do your affirmations,you know I feel like it sticks
and so that kind of serves asyour platform for what you're
(37:07):
going to do, what your next moveis going to be.
It sets your foundation forsuccess essentially.
You know so.
When you tell yourself I'm notgoing to be, it sets your
foundation for successessentially.
You know so.
When you tell yourself I'm notgoing to be a statistic, I'm not
going to be that girl I'm, youknow, and my thing was I left
home at like 23 years old.
I left home, actually I was 24.
(37:28):
I left home at 24.
So, leaving the Virgin Islandsand coming to America with two
small kids, I said to myself Iwill never go back and I would
make it.
So I will never go back becausethere was a lot of people that
were leaving the island andgoing to the States and you know
(37:52):
they wouldn't make it and thenthey would have to come back
home with a tail between theirlegs, move back in with their
parents and live that islandlife again.
And I said to myself when I goto America, I'm going to have me
a plan and, and don't mind, Ihave these two kids, I'm going
to be successful because I wantthem to have the life that I
didn't have.
I don't want them to struggleas much, but I want them to
(38:13):
struggle just enough to keepthem humble.
Does that make sense?
It does.
Yeah, I want them to strugglejust enough to keep them humble,
because you always have to knowwhere you come from and you
always have to know that withGod, all things are possible.
That is one of my favoritesayings.
With God, all things arepossible.
So is one of my favoritesayings With God, all things are
(38:34):
possible.
So I stand strong in my faithand my dad used to tell me.
He used to say Noreen, I used tocome downstairs to check on you
.
I lived in a downstairsapartment, a two-bedroom
apartment that my dad builtbeneath their house, and I lived
there with my kids.
And he said Noreen, there aretimes that I would come down to
check on you and these kids,because it was just you and
those kids.
You're such a quiet person Iwanted to make sure you were
(38:55):
okay, he said.
But every time I come downthere and I look through the
window, you're on your kneespraying and the thing is I would
hear him.
I didn't know somebody was there.
I would hear it was a gravelwalkway and so I would hear the
gravel, but when I would look Iwouldn't see anybody.
So all those times that I wouldhear the gravel and I wouldn't
(39:17):
see anybody, I was like, oh,maybe I was hearing things.
But when he told me that that'swhat he was doing, I put two
and two together and he said Ialways saw you praying and I
didn't want to disturb yourprayer, so I just figured I'd
come back at a different time.
I just figured I'd come back ata different time and that just
made me even.
It made me feel good that mydad was just like supportive of
(39:40):
that.
You know he knew what I wasgoing through, because you know.
Speaker 1 (39:46):
Because he was a guardian angel, because imagine
your dad all the time coming atthe time when you were on your
knees praying.
That's a guardian angelwatching over you, yeah.
Speaker 2 (39:56):
Yeah, I always felt like there was somebody present.
You know I am no stranger to mybelief of a higher power and
higher beings.
You know I believe in angels, Ibelieve in guardian angels, I
believe in circumstances.
You know I believe in thingshappening for a circumstances.
You know I believe in in thingshappening for a reason, you
(40:23):
know.
But I also had a lot of beliefin myself, like when you're like
I, I never needed people tovalidate me.
I've always just validatedmyself.
And I think that's where Ithrive, in that bubble, where I
know I can do it.
You may not think I can do it,but I know I can do it and I
don't need to say let me showyou, I'm just going to do it
because I don't have to proveanything to anybody.
And so my kids grew up withthat same spirit.
(40:46):
They are very independent andthey are very spirited and they
understand, hey, you have toreally just work your way
through some stuff in your life,you know.
Speaker 1 (41:01):
All right.
Well, you all had Miss Noreenpreach over here, so we are
going to come to an end, as it'salready one hour and I'm trying
to make this not longer thanone hour.
It's already one hour and I'mtrying to make this not longer
than one hour, I know.
Thank you for joining us.
I mean, it was a very if thisconversation doesn't inspire
(41:24):
anybody, because there was aboutlove, there was about dating,
there was about gym and therewas about faith and we wrapped
it up with resilience.
So if you're out there right nowthinking about giving up, just
know there are people out therewho are willing to talk to you
if you need talking to, to praywith you, if you need praying
(41:46):
for, or who have gone throughthat same place.
You are right now and gottenout, and they might not be
driving, but you know, one dayat a time.
So reach out to the peoplearound you.
I mean you can even reach outto me on the ring, we don't mind
If you're going throughsomething and need a listening
(42:09):
ear, you know, just slide in ourDMs.
Yeah, there you go.
Slide in the DMs, you know justsliding our dms.
Speaker 2 (42:15):
Yeah, there you go, sliding the dms, you know, and
you can leave anybody with any.
Any advice on anything.
You know.
We talk about resilience, youknow.
And bouncing back it's not tosay that you're not gonna fall,
it's how you get up.
But when you get up, my, my, myadvice is you get up.
Do not just get up.
Get up with a plan, have a planof action, because if you just
(42:39):
get up and you're just doing thesame thing, then you're going
to keep falling.
So you have to have a plan toget you out of your situation.
Get to your root cause.
Why am I even down here?
In the first place?
You may need to change yourcircle.
You may need to change yourcircle.
You may need to change yourmindset.
But come up with a new plan sothat you would be able to bounce
(42:59):
back, bounce forward, so thatyou would be successful.
Speaker 1 (43:06):
So true.
And sometimes even yoursurroundings.
You know, change ofsurroundings can help you thrive
.
Oh my God, I cannot.
And I was sharing this earlier,right?
I was sharing this earlierright?
These are all my podcasts.
(43:26):
This was from the first one Iattended in 2022.
This was in 2023 and 2024.
And all of them you see how itwent from.
This was the first one, so Iwent from one to this to this.
It shows and I like that I havethem because it shows belonging
in a community that actuallysees you, that accepts you, that
(43:52):
supports you, that nurtures you, that pours into you as much as
you pour into yourself, becausesometimes we don't see our
growth.
I look at this and I see mygrowth.
I'm like, oh my God, look, whenI went there the first time,
where I was, and because ofthese people, I didn't give up,
(44:12):
I kept on going.
I became Lizzie, and socommunity is very a big factor
of for me anyways, and it shouldbe for most of people.
So, but as we come to an end,ms Noreen, please let the people
know where they can find you,what you're up to, if there's
any amazing stuff for them tolook out to, what you're up to
(44:34):
if there's any amazing stuff forthem to look out to.
Speaker 2 (44:37):
Yes, so, noreen Foy.
For those of you that areexperiencing me for the first
time, I am the founder of theSave Our Sisters not-for-profit
group and host of Save OurSisters Unplugged, and those
platforms are dedicated toresilience, and I empower women
to share their survival tosuccess journeys through the
power of storytelling, so Iencourage them to share what has
(45:00):
happened to them.
So, in my spaces, that is whatI do.
I'm a lover of empowermentwomen.
I'm on LinkedIn, facebook Joinmy Facebook group it's Save Our
Sisters group.
Also on YouTube, pleasesubscribe.
I am trying to grow mycommunity there, as I will be
doing a lot more in that space.
(45:22):
And if you are in the PeoriaIllinois area, we do have.
I have teamed up with my goodgirlfriend, keisha Woods, of
Upgraded Mindsets.
We are putting on yes, we areputting on a luncheon, and the
theme is renewing our resilience, excuse me, renewing our
(45:45):
resilience, managing life afterloss.
And loss is not just loss oflife.
Loss could be loss ofopportunities, it could be loss
of a loved one, it could be lossof job.
You know, it could be just lossof yourself, because sometimes
you can lose yourself inrelationships.
We're going to dive into it all.
So it's going to be on March16th from 12 to 3 pm and it's
(46:08):
going to be at the EastportBanquet Center, which is in East
Peoria.
At the Eastport Banquet Center,which is in East Peoria,
illinois.
It's at the East Peoria Marina.
It's beautiful.
I got married in that facility.
So, just encouraging the womento come out for an afternoon of
fellowship, we are going to begiving away a scholarship and we
are also going to be donatingprom dresses to a group here
(46:33):
called it Takes a Village, andso their mission is to not only
donate the prom dresses to girlsthat cannot have, but they do
so much more in our communityhere.
So we've got a lot going on andthere's a lot of sisters out
there that's just really tryingto empower and uplift and what
we do is we just group uptogether because, you know, one
(46:53):
group can't do it, all you know.
And it does take a village andthat was always my slogan for
everything in life it does takea village.
So I appreciate you inviting meto be on your Shit Happens
episode, because a lot of shitwas happening today and I was
late and I was really bad andunprofessional, but thank you
(47:15):
for giving me grace.
I hope your audience gives megrace Because you know life just
happens, and it happens quickly, and all you have to do is,
just like we're talking about,bounce back from it.
Speaker 1 (47:29):
I mean, if they don't give you grace, then they're
really not my people, because mypeople, we are all about giving
grace.
And look, I mean we are on.
Shit Happens literally, so itis what it is.
I mean you still made it.
You dropped some gems and wehad a blast, so that's all that
matters.
Thank you for still jumping onand they heard you on the
(47:53):
loudspeaker when you called tofreak out a bit.
So it's fine.
They had a little entertainment.
But everybody else and I wantto reach out to Ana to know more
about the donated dress, theprom dress, ana, to know more
about that.
So we'll talk offline.
But everybody who joined in,thank you for hanging out with
(48:17):
me.
Sorry for that technicaldifficulties, sorry for the uh
guests being late, but I hope Ientertained you in the beginning
for a few minutes.
You had me.
I still showed up.
I hope you learned to listen onshowing up, staying consistency
and being resilient and faithhaving faith.
(48:37):
So until next time, shithappens.
Speaker 2 (48:42):
Peace and blessings Shit happens, shit, shit happens
, shit, shit happens, shit, shit, shit, shit happens, shit
(49:05):
happens, shit happens, shithappens, shit happens, shit
happens.
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