What if stress could be your ally rather than your adversary? We're kicking off this episode with a mindset revolution alongside the incredible Coach K (Kisha Woods), who shares her wisdom on transforming stress from a burden into a source of strength. Together, we explore how stepping away from negativity and outdated thinking can align us with a community of like-minded individuals who push us to be our authentic selves. As we stand on the threshold of 2024, there's no better time to embrace passion-driven stress as a catalyst for living unapologetically and fully supporting each other in our personal journeys.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
We scared of that, we scared of them things.
So we'll continue to deal withnegativity, toxicity, we'll
still deal with outdatedthinking methods because we are
scared of leaving that alone.
We not, I'll tell you right nowanybody that is ready to
encounter that journey.
I know you feel like thatyou're gonna be by yourself, but
, baby, you gonna align yourselfwith some amazing people.
(00:22):
Denise, you already know youlearning and you learning her
baby, and once you get tolearning her, hey, I'm just so
excited Cause you on a journey.
You know what I'm saying, likeI'm super excited and happy for
you Cause she is definitely onthat journey to you and me.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
It doesn't matter if you're a wizard, a king or a
queen, even if you are magic,you've got to agree it's worth
it to talk shit out, no matterhow messy shit happens.
Shit happens.
(01:15):
Hello, hello, hello.
And we are back.
Right now, we have the one andonly the incredible Coach K with
me.
I hope she's here.
(01:36):
I see she's here.
So we're going to be discussingincredible shit about mindset.
All right, so I'm big onmindset and lately I'm big on
mindset switch.
So I feel like this is going tobe an incredible conversation
(01:58):
and I'm looking forward to that.
And, um, I was in uh kisha'spodcast last year and now she's
coming to.
Shit Happens, you know.
So hopefully good shit happensover here today.
I'm going to go ahead and bringCoach K on the stage, because
she was hiding somewhere when Icame here.
(02:20):
Look at her.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
What up, what up y'all.
Hey, ronna, I'm so sorry.
I y'all hey raw and uncut.
I am so sorry.
Had a client go over baby.
You know the grind don't stop.
What's poppin' baby.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Look at you looking all clean and shit.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Hey Kenya, look, Get myself situated here I like how
we all rocking our jumper match.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
Look at us, you know.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
Happy New Year, happy 2024.
How are you, boo?
Speaker 2 (02:55):
Fabulous man, I can't complain.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
Hey, let me just say I'm proud of you.
Yo, you've been killing shit,sis.
You've been crushing it.
I'm so damn proud of you.
Yo, you've been killing shit,sis, like you've been crushing
it.
I'm so damn proud of you, man,like when you say unapologetic,
living your best life.
That's you, boo.
I'm so proud of you so proud ofyou so much.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
Thank you so much.
But you know it takes a villageand it's because I get to
surround myself with people whoare doing the same thing and
showing up as themselves,because normally you know, like
me, I'm gonna be told oh, you'retoo loud, are you?
But there are people out therewho are showing up just like
that and being and beingrewarded so when I surround
myself in communities that allowme to be myself and just be
(03:40):
seen as myself.
So y'all are part of my success, like community.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
I'm so glad.
I'm glad that I met you, I'mglad that we're here.
I'm just glad overall.
I love it, I love it thank youso much.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
Um so what you been up to, how you been I've been
good.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
2024 has definitely kicked off with a bang,
definitely been on the grind,definitely been more community
oriented, definitely stillshowing up here online.
But I have been doing a lot ofthings here locally, doing a
little bit of restructuringwithin the brand.
It's been a busy one, but it'sbeen a blessed one and I can't
(04:25):
say that I'm stressed, becausewhen we step in and walk it in
our purpose baby, ain't nostress behind that?
You feel me.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
Amen.
Even if it's stress, it's thegood stress.
You know, there's the stress.
There's like yo, this isstressful.
I fucking love this.
This is what I wanted.
More of.
This is what I wanted.
More of this is what I wasmissing.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
So, yes, it's okay if it's stressful, but it's just
good stress.
It is definitely been soblessed with it, though yo it's
been so dope that's amazing.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
Just like when I was a port person, I was like I'm
exhausted, but not in thatexhaustion of, oh my god.
Like I'm exhausted in a in agood way, like I'm exhausted
with so much of theconversations, the connections,
that everything, and.
And when I tell you I was tiredand I would be looking at it
like it's 3 am, I want to go tobed, but I'm also sitting with
(05:15):
incredible people.
We're just chopping it up andjust I'm like I only have four
days of this.
Why would I go to bed right now?
Speaker 1 (05:21):
and they're so you know exactly I'm to enjoy myself
and do what I do, likeabsolutely Like I can sleep when
I get home, but I'm going to dowhat I do right now, like I get
it, like I'm so just like, sogreat about wanting to open up
and expand and build and meetnew people and be around
(05:42):
like-minded.
You know, that's why I'm like,hey, I already told myself, next
podcast expo I'm there, baby,I'm claiming that.
So I am there, because I justseen yours and then like a
couple of other people that Istarted following, you know, and
it's like hey, them, my people,it's a vibe.
Speaker 2 (05:58):
It's a vibe and I love how much blackness we have
this year.
I've been going to PortFest fortwo years.
I mean what I love aboutPortFest it's welcoming and
inclusive to everybody.
But you know, us black people,we feel like we need to
constantly be pushed into come.
That's why I keep on tellinglike yo, you need to come
(06:20):
because the space is there andthey want you there.
So the fact that we were somany this year to the extent
that we're like Chris, we needsomething of ours next year at
Puffers.
So you got to be there becausewe are planning a black thing at
Puffers next year, I'm there.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
I'm there, baby Trust and believe I am there, Like I
did.
I thought it was so dope, Like,and you know, even with my
podcast and just doingeverything else too, you know
what I'm saying, but like I know, like talking and speaking and
bringing resource and value,like that, I get a kick out of
that shit.
You know what I'm saying.
So why not?
(06:58):
You know, and it doesn't to me.
I don't even look at it from acultural standpoint anymore
because there's people that Ihave been mingling with and have
been engaged and interactedwith.
The Better Business Bureau herein Heart of Illinois launched
their podcast and I was theirinaugural episode.
You know what I'm saying.
So it's like, thank you, youknow, like just expanding myself
(07:20):
and not limiting you know whereor who, you know like that shit
was dope as hell to me.
So it's like that wasconfirmation to just saying you
know, I'm just going to expand alittle bit more and do what I
got to do.
Speaker 2 (07:33):
So I tell people 2024 , I'm all about visibility.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
Period.
You better talk about it.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
And that's why we do live broadcasting these days,
because you're gonna see me,you're gonna you're gonna see me
, baby and I think that camefrom, uh, the ego boost I got
after this podcast.
This podcast was so rewardingfor me and and I'm like, oh my
god, I'm in my head thinking I'mthis little pawn.
But they're actually peopleover here who are really seeing
(08:04):
me and seeing my potential,seeing my growth.
But I'm here thinking myselfI'm this small, so I'm no longer
considering myself in the smallbox.
I'm like I'm out of the box.
I'm like Absolutely.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
Hey ain't no boxes, we ain't got no boxes.
We don't know what boxes isaround here, period.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
And you would have a time of your life and connect
with so many people.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
I say to just divide.
It looked like a whole vibe.
You know what I'm saying?
Like it looked like a wholevibe and I'm like I'm not
missing that shit next time Irefuse.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
One of my friends who came all the way from Canada
right Cause I was posting him.
I was like you just got intothe podcast world.
You need to come here and meetdifferent people.
I was like you know what?
I'm just coming because it'sFreud, I'm gonna go party and if
I catch some shit, cool,because I got a free ticket from
bus truck.
This man did not even leave thelike apart from the parties we
went to at night.
(08:56):
Like all of us, he literallydid not go into town and do the
shit.
He said he was enjoying the,the connection, he was enjoying
the class, like I would call him, and be like what are you doing
?
I'm over.
He's like yo, man, I'm going tothis session because I really
want to go.
I'm going to this.
I'm like oh so what happened toall that shit?
You were talking that and then,and then he goes.
(09:17):
Man, paula, you were right, Iwish I came earlier, because he
came on thursday late night.
Most of us came on Wednesday,so he started on Friday, but
Wednesday night we already hadsome shit going on.
So when he was mingling withpeople, like, oh yeah, we did
this yesterday, we did this.
He's like yo, paula, next year.
I'm coming from day one Day oneDay one.
(09:40):
I don't lie when I find acommunity which really is about
that love and community andconnection, I'm going to bring
everybody who I want to be apart of it, because I'm not
going to bring you some shittyshit.
Why would I even be in someshitty shit?
Why would you, as you say?
Why would you?
Speaker 1 (09:56):
be in some shitty shit, that part.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
And that's why I post on my stories.
Whenever I'm a podcast, I postthem on my story so that even
for those people who think maybeyou know, sometimes people are
like maybe she's getting acommission, maybe she's being
paid to to to talk this much Ijust post so that you can get
the idea yourself.
You can get the idea of thesessions, the parties, the
normal chill sessions, like it.
(10:18):
It's a bunch of everything,whether you're an introvert,
extrovert, whether you likegoing out, whether you like
being inside, whether it there'speople for everybody that part.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
Yeah, I love it.
Though, like I said, you, youlook like you had such an
amazing time like and I justthink that that's so dope and I
just can't wait to be at thenext one, so it's claimed it's
done this year.
Speaker 2 (10:43):
I want to do more in person than online, like I want
to be a part of all thesecommunities and collaborate.
And let me tell you something?
Speaker 1 (10:54):
I just talked about this, right, I just had a
conversation about how peoplereally just need to start
building community, buildingnetwork, doing more networking
in person.
I feel like a lot of times,some of us still default to the
online, and I get it, you knowwhat I'm saying.
Covid made us rely on online.
(11:16):
I get it, and I definitely wasthat person you know what I'm
saying Because I didn't want togo outside, I didn't want to do
nothing.
I had that COVID anxiety, stuff, whatever, but, like I
literally just was talking aboutthis last week, like we outside
, it's time to plan your events.
To plan, you know, community,but also stop having events but
(11:36):
also supporting others events aswell, because that's how you
truly build community.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
And that's how you also make intentional
connections.
Yes, they happen online, butwhen you meet them in person,
you really nurture them.
Like, look at me and Leah.
We met on the summit right, weshowed up at Afros and Arches
together and just vibing.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
And that is so dope, Like that picture will take you.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
You know it's like okay, you really are a real
person and I can really fuckwith you in person, because
online people sometimes theyjust be online faking it.
Speaker 1 (12:10):
Hey, the representatives, the
representatives.
You know how that go.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
I know you guys, you also have an event coming, but I
want to talk about that at theend.
Shout out to noreen.
So we're gonna.
We're gonna get into thatbecause I love this.
And I was saying, noreen, if Ican make it, I will try my best
to make it.
But because with the moving andeverything, but who knows you
(12:38):
know, who knows, you know I putit out in the universe and let
lord lead me.
Like you know, that's all I cando you said something about
pouring into these communitiesbecause I also attended Atlanta.
Finally, I started bringingback, shout out to Mark Deal
Atlanta podcast, which diedafter doing COVID, and he was
(13:02):
also getting overwhelmed becausehe was doing it by himself.
I told him you have a community, a community.
I want to build a community.
I don't get why Atlanta, wedon't have a community and I
have to seek community when I goto port fest.
So when I go to Afros, I waslike I'm willing to help.
So we now have a committee andwe are, we're gonna everybody's
gonna plan like different months, that way it doesn't exhaust.
(13:24):
So I'm planning the Februaryone.
And it's funny because Februarystarted on Thursday, ending on
Thursday and my favorite day ison Thursday.
So I was like we're going toleave on the 29th and it's a
leap year.
Right, it's a, it's a lunar, soit feels like a blessing on
blessing.
(13:48):
So I am excited to not only puton other communities but also to
build and nurture my owncommunity here and I was
impressed because the one inJanuary when we all met two days
later I saw there was a guy whohad a podcast studio and I saw
a guy go to his podcast studioto record.
So I messaged there and I waslike did you guys know each
other before you came to themeeting, or was this after the
(14:08):
meeting?
He's like no after.
So that gave me hope, likeliterally people are meeting and
collaborating, so we need thisspace right, because they
wouldn't have met each other ifit wasn't there and it was all
black people.
So you're supporting each other.
So that was just like godtelling me you gotta do this.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
This is a sign we need.
This is I don't think peopleget like I get.
We want to, you know, be aroundthose that we know and we want
that support from people that weknow and you can get that.
You know what I'm saying, youcan get it.
But I started Upgraded Mindsetsonline during COVID you know
what I'm saying.
Like 2020, we were on lockdown.
I launched Upgraded Mindsets in2020.
(14:51):
So I was already in the processof building community online,
right, and I think people don'trealize, because people in my
community are like oh, how longhave you been doing this?
And when I tell them, they'relike really, yes, because I
started online.
I came back to my community.
You know what I'm saying.
I came back to say, okay, Iwant to step up, because I've
(15:13):
even had my office location forthree years, you know.
But in the beginning, when Istarted, I still was online
focused.
You know what I'm saying.
So it was just a matter ofsaying, okay, I do want to build
with community, but what I comeacross in community and, like I
said, y'all know I'm raw anduncut I don't care, but there's
too many cliques.
(15:33):
You got too many people thatwant to stay with their friends.
You got too many people thatjust want to build and work with
their friends, but what I'mseeing is nobody's building.
People are just doing things.
What's coming from that?
You know what I'm saying.
What are you gaining fromactually having an event, doing
an event?
Are you supporting those thatwant to support you?
(15:53):
Like there's just so manydifferent things that I feel
like people drop the ball on,like we got to break those
clicks.
If we're really wanting to build, then you got to break those
clicks and you got to getuncomfortable and step out of
that zone and say you know what?
This is somebody that I'venever really worked with before,
um, but I'm going to reach outand ask, not saying that every
(16:13):
connection is going to begenuine and work out, but you
are yourself, you know, if youdon't even make the attempt.
You know what I'm saying.
Like I have a group of coaches.
I actually had the honor ofbeing a speaker at the Black
Life Coach Summit down inRaleigh this past June and we
had built such an amazingconnection online for two years.
(16:37):
You know what I'm saying.
So, just being able to meet herin person, that is my coach
connection, that is my coachtribe, like we talk about so
many intimate things togetherand I'm so grateful for that
community and it's only likethree or four of us in that
community now, but I'm sothankful for it.
You know, but I would have neverdone that if I would have just
(16:57):
said, oh, I'm just going to keepon you know talking to the
people that I already know, oryou know what I'm saying Like I
would have never been able tomake that happen and that's a
trouble quick.
Speaker 2 (17:06):
That's why I stopped even working with with friends
or depending on friends.
I tell people I network withstrangers.
That's why I go to all theseevents and meet new people,
because even your friends, theydon't take it serious because
there's already that friendship.
So they're like, oh, I'll showup or we'll get it done when we
get it.
Again, as you say, you're justdoing it but you're not building
.
(17:27):
And even when I was at portugal,as much as I was happy to see
so many black people, I was like, make sure you don't only
mingle with with the black folks.
Like there's so many there,there's so much you can get from
everybody.
I'm not saying don't be with.
I mean, I love our black people, but sometimes our as black
(17:47):
people, we have this mindset nowwe only gotta work with each
other, we only got you know.
And that ends up.
And then we also end up saying,oh, they're gatekeeping, but
are you trying to get over thegate?
So I was like this is for thosewho I knew I was.
I was trying to introduce themto other people.
Like you need, like you need toknow him.
You need to know him Becausethey have something that they
(18:08):
can offer you that you can alsotake it back to your people.
Speaker 1 (18:12):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:13):
Because that's how you're going to grow, that's how
you're going to learn, that'show you're going to grow it is.
Speaker 1 (18:19):
That's the only way that you're going like people
feel like and then that's evenlike.
You know me as a coach.
You know, listen, I get peopleare like and you know especially
like here locally in mycommunity.
I've been in this community foryears so there are a lot of
people who know the old keisha.
You know that.
Oh, that know k-dub, which wasmy teenage and early 20 years,
where I was hey, k-dub, that'smy nickname, like nickname.
(18:42):
So I know people see me and belike well, why would I have her
help me?
I remember when she used to dothis.
But if that's the mindset thatyou have, that's even more
reason why you should be workingwith me, because I don't
operate in that mindset anymore.
I am not that person.
I am completely different.
I have transformed everythingabout me from my mind.
The only thing ain'ttransformed yet is all this
(19:04):
booty that they ain't gonnanever go nowhere.
Speaker 2 (19:06):
You know okay, hey, and it's funny how we literally
went into this, becauseliterally I was gonna talk to
you about mindset and transform,transformation shift, because,
but you see, sometimes you know,you, just you, just I know
(19:27):
right, and just to add on thatthere was one time I was gonna
do an event but then I ended up,uh, losing my job and it didn't
feel like the right time to dothe event.
But I hadn't marketed thatevent, I just put it on event
break but.
But I didn't post it on social,I created it, I put it there.
I put it there in June.
The event was supposed to be inDecember, the first week.
(19:49):
That way we end the year nicelyand then kind of bring it back.
People look forward to thebeginning of the year and it was
supposed to be speed networking.
So in my head and I only putout 20 tickets, but I wanted, uh
, 40 people and the 20 ticketwas when you get a ticket you
(20:10):
get two tickets.
I want you to invite somebodyelse, because I didn't want us
to network the same people,because I knew half of the
tickets my friends wouldprobably get them just to come
and share support yeah to comeand support right.
But I already know you guys, youknow I want new people.
So my idea was you get a ticket, two tickets, bring somebody
else and then in the next yearone like when the next event
(20:33):
comes, that person you broughtbring somebody else.
That way we are constantlyoutgrowing the networking,
because otherwise we'll keep onnetworking just ourselves.
Because even these events withmy friends, when you go you see
the same faces, the same people.
You meet you for me, so we'regonna work together.
Oh, we have to do something andthen nothing yeah, and those
(20:56):
are your people.
Speaker 1 (20:57):
You know, like I say a lot of times, we have to
really get over the somebody'srepresentative and like figure
out who they are, because youcould talk a good game, but your
action is going to show.
You know, like, yeah, if I meetyou and you tell me that, oh,
I'd love to work with you, andthen I go to your social media
pages and you haven't doneanything in like a month and a
half, it's clear to say thatwe're probably never going to
(21:20):
work together because you're notworking on yourself.
You have this, so I'm cool withthat.
You know the experience wasgreat.
You know it was good to talk,chat or whatever else, but we
have to get into the thing ofvetting people and discovering
who people really are.
Um, because, even though peoplewill be like, oh, I just post
stuff on social media forentertainment.
(21:42):
Because, even though people belike, oh, I just post stuff on
social media for entertainment.
Some of y'all be capping withthat and I think y'all hide
behind that, because that'sreally who you are.
Any entrepreneur, any coaches,any podcasters listen, let me
tell y'all this Be who you wantto be.
If you're somebody that onlywants to post once a month, be
unapologetic about only being aperson that wants to post, and
(22:02):
own that shit, that's okay.
Speaker 2 (22:04):
Own it, that's who you are.
Own it, but don't talk about itand just be like listen.
I want to work with you, but mysocial media game is, once a
month At least.
I already know Okay.
Speaker 1 (22:14):
Yeah, I know what I'm dealing with.
Speaker 2 (22:23):
Then we will plan something around around that
once a month.
If I really want to work withyou, but I don't want to work
with somebody where I'mconstantly on social media
posting and putting myself outthere and you're not doing that.
That means you won't put thesame energy to your followers.
But it's funny.
When I did that event I wasn'tsure if people were even going
to want to come.
I already knew my friends weregoing to show up regardless, but
(22:45):
then that shit got sold outwithin a month.
And then I was getting emails,people like, hey, I saw your
event, I'm interested, but it'ssold out.
Is there any way I can get it?
Yo, that shit was like.
I was like wait, I haven't evenpromoted this shit.
And when I canceled people wereso mad like this was such a
(23:06):
good idea, I hope you do itagain.
So last year I didn't do it,but this year, baby, we're
bringing that back.
Speaker 1 (23:12):
I'm gonna do that.
I'm gonna do that hey, it's aline, you know it's a line now.
So you know good and well thatit's definitely gonna make it do
what it do.
So you know, I know what I'msaying.
Like, we go through things andeven though I know that
sometimes things aren't always apositive, I try to turn
everything into a positive,whether it that that the action
(23:35):
itself may not be positive, butmy response is going to be and I
think that's sometimes where wefall, you know, fall out.
We're human, you know.
We are, you know, vulnerableand we should be, you know.
But anything that happens to us, just like you said, you know
you lost your job, but, baby,look how you thriving right now,
like you is like crushing it inthe podcast game right now.
(23:57):
You know what I'm saying, but,like you know that this is what
you want to do, this is yourpurpose, this is your passion.
And it might be uncomfortableat times, but I tell you what
you'll never show it, you'llnever show it only when you want
to be vulnerable.
But when I say you never showit, your actions are showing
your resilience of handlingthings.
You know what I'm saying and Ithink that that's dope.
(24:17):
You know I'm gonna keep tellingyou I'm proud of your ass,
cause that's just what I do, soyou know what I'm saying.
Like, hey, we've been throughit as somebody that lost their
job in 2020.
I get it, you know what I'msaying, cause I was at a stage
in 2020 where I was so unsureabout so much Did I want to go
back to work?
Did I want to find another job,or was I supposed to?
You know, trust the process andmaybe I trusted that process
(24:41):
and three and a half years later, hey, you got the most
unapologetic dope ass, life,business and mindset coach that
ever touched the streets.
Speaker 2 (24:50):
You hear me Speak on it, speak on it, speak on it,
and that's the thing right.
And that's why I think peopleare willing to help me, to
nurture me and to support me,because, despite all the shit
they see me going after like Idon't have all the dollars,
sometimes I don't even know howI'm paying my rent, but I'm
(25:12):
still showing up, I'm stillpushing shit, I'm still figuring
it out, and that somebody wantsto help you.
That makes somebody like yo, yo, we see her, we see her grind.
Let's point to her.
But then if you're reallytalking about, oh, I really want
to do this, this is my passion,I'm going to do it, but then we
are not seeing you doing it.
But then you want support.
(25:33):
I'm not going to support you.
I'm sorry, because I don't seeyou putting in the work and
that's why it's like you got tobet on yourself.
Dominique always says this beton yourself, because the more
you keep betting on yourself,people are going to start
betting on you.
I'm not going to bet on you ifyou're not betting on yourself.
Like clearly you don't believein yourself, so why should I?
Speaker 1 (25:56):
I'm always bet on me, baby.
I'm always, even when I'muncertain.
I'm a bet on me, even when Idon't know where it's going to
go.
You know we want to know theresolution and sometimes that's
where we fall short.
We're not going to always knowthe journey.
We know where we're supposed tostart.
We know, you know I'm saying weknow what we would want to see.
(26:18):
But I think a lot of times weknow fear gets in our way.
You know what I'm saying.
Fear stops us from living ourbest life and becoming that most
unapologetic version ofourselves.
But sometimes you got to do ascare.
No, ain't no.
Sometimes, all the time you gotto do a scare, you know, all
the time you need to set theintention, set the action plan.
You might have some obstacles.
(26:38):
You're going to.
You know that's what has allowedme to continue on the journey
is the understanding that I'mgoing to encounter some
obstacles.
I might encounter a roadblockhere and there, but I have
strategies in place to help mewith those.
When that happens and a lot oftimes people don't have
strategies They'll just give upall the way around.
Life be life, life be like.
(27:03):
If you expect the perfect life,then that's your number one
failure as an individual,because life is not perfect.
We know that.
So, with the expectation ofknowing that I'm going to
encounter some potential thingsthat might be set to destroy me,
I already know I'm going to putthis mindset to work and make
sure I stay actionable eventhrough those hard times, even
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because that's what we got to do.
Speaker 2 (27:30):
It's amazing.
You say that because yesterday,as I just finished doing my
lives, I had four livesyesterday.
Oh wow, girl, you was killingit.
And I have four tomorrow and mypodcasting meetup.
But that's what I said.
I wanted more visibility thisyear.
I wanted discipline, I wantedto build my YouTube, Facebook,
(27:53):
LinkedIn presence, and this ishow I can do it.
Speaker 1 (27:55):
So I'm going to do it .
Speaker 2 (27:56):
but as I was preparing promos for today, I
received a message from my momthat her sister passed away and
this is one of my favoritesisters, the firstborn and I
instantly started crying and Icalled my mom and as soon as I
had a voice I had to hang upbecause I knew.
I knew I would start crying andI wouldn't get shit done and I
(28:20):
knew I had work to do, you think.
So I literally hanged up on herand I was like I'll call you in
a bit and I continue working.
And then, in the moments, I wasjust like I haven't spoken to
my aunt in forever yeah do Ieven?
do I even have the right togrieve her?
Do I even have like?
you know you're questioning that.
And then I'm also feelingguilty, like I'm literally
(28:42):
working, because I know if Istart crying I'm gonna go in
that dark hole and and I'm notgonna get shit done.
So even today I could havecanceled this today.
But I was like, no, if I'm sad,I will end up staying in bed
the whole day sad and startgetting depressed and I might
have taken it towards the end ofthe week.
(29:02):
I was like, nope, I did myfirst life and then I called my
mom, I spoke to her, I cried abit, I laughed.
I was like okay, we are comingback to another life after this
life.
I'm done until six o'clock whenI have another.
So I'm like in that time I letmyself grieve.
But but you know, you, yougotta, you gotta just be like yo
.
Life is gonna happen and andit's not gonna stop.
(29:25):
For me, whether I need togrieve or not, it's not gonna
stop.
Life is gonna keep going.
So I just need to, not to bestrong enough, but just to to
realize that sometimes you gottado shit, even when shit is
happening you gotta do you likeand I get it.
Speaker 1 (29:44):
You know, because I tell people all the time,
because I'm one of them people,honestly, if I mentally, if I'm
not there, I will cut, I willcancel everything.
Right.
I'm that person because I know,I know my personality, I know
how bold I am, I know howunapologetic I am.
So I have to realize that Iwear that across the board and
if mentally I'm just not up forthat conversation, I will
(30:08):
reschedule, I will cancel.
You know accordingly, because Iwant to make sure that I am
being, you know, unapologetic tome because I'm my number one
priority.
You know what I'm saying.
I'm number one on my list andevery list that come behind me.
Because if I'm my number onepriority, you know what I'm
saying, I'm number one on mylist and every list that come
behind me.
Because if I'm not pouring intomyself like I'm making other
people pour into themselves,then it's a mute point.
(30:31):
You know how am I comingthrough as a coach, you know.
But I think that that's alsoimportant, but also to not stay
in that struggle, right.
So I love that.
You were like.
You know what I'm grieving inbetween.
You know I'm going to get thisout, get my emotions out, and
I'm going to shake it off andI'm going to bounce back, and I
think that's a part ofresilience, people don't?
There's so many differentlevels to that.
(30:53):
You know, you identified it andyou're like you know what.
I know that I need to do thisand I need to handle this, but
I'm going to go ahead and makesure that I get through this and
then handle that and then goahead and keep doing how I do.
So I think that that's dope.
You got a strategy in place.
Speaker 2 (31:10):
When we talk about mindset switch right, and that's
because I've been working on mymindset switch lately and I
keep on looking at people.
You got to switch your mindset,mindset always matters.
And to me me also I would havecanceled, like I I cancel
sometimes on shit, that when Iknow I can't give a hundred.
But also I looked at it today Ionly had jamie and you, so I
(31:34):
knew those vibes will keep megoing because you know,
sometimes you need that energy,yeah, in order to.
So if it was somebody who waskind of brand new and I really
didn't know and I was right thatprobably I would have been like
let's take it on a better daybecause I don't know your energy
.
But jamie, she literally mademe laugh and sometimes that's
what you need when you'regrieving, right, you need that
(31:55):
laughter.
We laughed, we, whatever wetalk.
And then you, because I know wevibe and I know you're going to
incite some insightful thoughtsthat will help me continue
grieving after I get off thiscall.
So that's why I was like I'm notgoing to cancel this too,
because, yeah, I can, I can workwith them right right so it's
also choosing who you know, thatpower, that energy that you
(32:16):
need, oh, unlike other people,because other people can drain
you.
So if it was somebody who Iknew, I would have canceled and
be like today's not the day whatyou say, not today, not today,
not today, yeah, and you'reright, like um, and it is.
Speaker 1 (32:34):
It does boil down to mindset.
Uh, mindset is everything,mindset over everything.
Like I, I can't tell peopleenough how shifting how I
thought about things and what Ido about how I think about
things has been so detrimentalin me becoming this person that
I am today.
Because me shifting my mindsethas enabled me to become a
(32:57):
lifelong learner.
Before I was in that restrictedstate of mind that, oh, I know
everything.
Oh, you can't tell me nothing,I'm always right who I know
everything.
Oh, you can't tell me nothing,I'm always right who I'm always
right.
Like you can't tell me nothing.
But now I am open-minded tolisten.
I am open-minded forconstructive criticism, because
if somebody tried to tell mesomething before baby, you can't
tell me shit.
Speaker 2 (33:17):
We talked about constructive criticism.
We would do stuff and he'd giveus that constructive criticism.
We both used to have an issuewith that, but I can't believe
it has already been 35 minutesLike where is time going with
you?
But before our time comes to anend, right, you talked about
when you had your mindsetchanged.
So I want people to know, forthose people who are having a
(33:38):
hard time switching theirmindset and I think for me, I
feel like most people have thatissue because people don't want
to unlearn what they know.
Yeah, you know, and that's thetough part, because I had to
unlearn a lot of shit when Istarted working on myself and
switching my mindset and andthen you have to be open-minded,
but some people are stuck ontheir ways, like you can tell
(34:00):
you know, like our, those peoplegrew up on AOL, trying to get
them to move to Xfinity andthey're like no, I'm going to
stick to my AOL.
Man, listen, it's fine, I don'tneed a mobile phone, hey.
Speaker 1 (34:15):
It's so, ooh, girl, you're so.
Speaker 2 (34:20):
How did you get to the point where you allowed that
transformation to happen, whereyou, you, you allowed to have
that mindset switch and andunlearn yourself?
Speaker 1 (34:33):
and and it gives me goosebumps every time I talk
about it because it was such acritical moment for me.
Um, but it was 2020.
March of 2020 was when I wasjust so mentally frustrated and
we suppress emotions, wesuppress so many things and I
(34:54):
lived a life of that.
I did that for years, but Ithought, oh OK, as long as I
keep putting everybody elsebefore me, I'll get my blessings
that way.
I no longer think like that.
That is no longer my mindsetand I know a lot of people still
feel that way.
Oh, I'll get my blessings if Ijust keep, you know, helping and
helping and helping.
But why are you not helping you?
And I wasn't helping me, and Iwas to the point where I was
(35:15):
angry.
All the time I was frustratedLike you could have dropped the
piece of paper in front of me,sis, and I would have snapped on
your ass Like you was trying tokill me.
You know what I'm saying.
But that was all from thosesuppressed emotions that we act
like don't affect our day to daylife, but it affects the hell
out of us and I was tired of itand, with the uncertainties of
COVID at the time, my emotionsjust got the better of me and I
(35:39):
hit that low and I was like youknow what?
It's time to make some changes.
And I actually took a 30 dayfast from social media in April
of 2020.
Yep, at a time where that's allwe knew.
I had to step away from thatbecause mentally, I was drained,
I was exhausted, I couldn't doit anymore and I journaled for
30 days, every day.
(36:00):
I talked about what was goingon on the line at the time.
I was still working full timethen, so I was talking about the
uncertainties at work and Ijust that first 30 days was so
critical.
So I will just tell people whenyou are tired, when you know
you're tired and you're acrossthat bed crying because you're
(36:21):
tired.
You know what I'm saying.
That is your key and that isyour signal, your sign to say
it's time to make some changesNow.
Nothing's going to happenovernight, but, like you said I
love the word you saidunlearning.
You are unlearning things.
Listen, the values of yourparents and your grandparents
(36:41):
may not be the values of you atthis present day, and it's okay.
Yep, you were raised this way.
You were raised to believe this.
You've got to figure out whoyou are right now, in 2024.
Who are you at this moment Ifyou struggle with those same
values that you did when youwere five, six, 13, 18,?
You've got to figure yourselfout.
(37:02):
It's the season ofself-discovery people, and
self-discovery means you've gotto figure out who you are, what
you want, what your values, whatyour beliefs are.
And it might not be the same,it could be, but you still got
to figure that out.
And that's a part of the wholemindset transformational journey
, because your mind is going todo what you tell it.
(37:26):
So, if you're telling it, it'stime for me to get uncomfortable
and figure out who I am, as anindividual, as a person, as a
woman, as a man.
I'm on that journey.
Your mind is going to be thereand it's going to be rough, but
you're reconditioning, you'rerealigning, you're refocusing.
All of those things are socritical, but I challenge you to
take that step and I challengeyou to do it because the journey
(37:49):
is so necessary.
Y'all, I am living the best lifeever.
I'm not rich, you know what I'msaying but because I'm trusting
the process, I have beenblessed because I am striving to
be the most empowering versionof myself.
Everything is aligning itselfto make that happen and it never
would have started if I did notget tired in March of 2020.
(38:12):
So, figure out when you'retired.
Once you know you're tired,that journey necessary and I'm
super proud of myself because Itold people I was going to be a
coach and they looked at me likeI was crazy.
And I currently have clients ineight different States, not to
mention here locally in mycommunity.
I have my podcast, I have myonline store, I'm a multi you
(38:35):
know, business owner and I neverwould have been that if I would
have listened to the naysayersand listened to the people like
what, who?
Speaker 2 (38:42):
Ma'am, ma'am, you're also Amazon bestseller.
Speaker 1 (38:46):
Hey, let's talk about the Amazon bestselling author.
Come on, thank you, thank you,sis, thank you Appreciate it,
you know.
But just, yes, like, turn thatjournal into an Amazon
bestselling book, like all ofthat.
You know what I'm saying?
Just that.
And have my own another guidethat I put out the journey to
activate our best life.
It is a self-discovery guide tohelp you figure out who you are
(39:10):
.
All of these things are on myonline store.
There's other resources overthere clothing, positive
reinforcement, like hoodies, allof that.
Everything to promotepositivity, promote motivation,
promote everything that it isfor us to be the best versions
of ourselves.
And I love who I am and I lovewho I'm still becoming.
(39:31):
You know, oh, look like wemight've lost her there, but I
will tell y'all this, okay, nope, nope, I was going to go ahead
and take it covering for you,sis, don't worry.
Speaker 2 (39:42):
I forgot to put do not disturb when my mom was
calling.
Speaker 1 (39:45):
Oh my gosh hey, shit happens, it is what it is.
Speaker 2 (39:49):
I mean, we have no.
Shit happens right, shit doeshappen.
Shout out to Denise Lewis onthe comments who said I'm on
that journey.
You go girl, you go baby.
I'm proud of you.
You're going to go through.
It's going to be the hardestjourney, but such a rewarding
and beautiful journey.
That journey, you go girl, yougo baby.
I'm proud of you.
You love it.
It's going to be the hardestjourney, but such a rewarding
and beautiful journey Becausethere's nothing about.
I think that's also why peopledon't want to work on themselves
(40:16):
, because you really get tolearn yourself the bad, the good
we scared of that, we scared ofthem things.
Speaker 1 (40:24):
So we'll continue to deal with negativity, toxicity,
we'll still deal with outdatedthinking methods because we are
scared of leaving that alone.
We not, I'll tell you right nowanybody that is ready to
encounter that journey.
I know you feel like thatyou're gonna be by yourself
but're going to align yourselfwith some amazing people.
Denise, you already know You'relearning and you're learning
(40:47):
her baby and once you get tolearning her, hey, I'm just so
excited because you're on ajourney.
You know what I'm saying.
I'm super excited and happy foryou because she is definitely
on that journey.
Excited and happy for youbecause she is definitely on
that journey.
Speaker 2 (40:59):
Even me, because I started my journey as well
during COVID in 2020.
When I look at myself, where Iwas 2020 and how I am here, if I
hadn't done the work to reallylearn myself, I wouldn't have
found the community thatactually accepts me.
For me, I don't have to show upas somebody.
I don't have to hide out.
I don't have to show to to showup as some, somebody.
(41:20):
I don't have to hide out.
I don't have to be afraid ofbeing me.
I want an award.
I have a podcast, people arecalling me to have me.
I've been on panels, I want aguinness.
None of that shit would havehappened.
And also because I I, I waslike yo.
I need a mindset switch.
We are constantly puttingnegative shit in our head or
(41:41):
telling ourselves no, I tell myfriends these days, if you
really want something, I don'twant to hear you say maybe when
I get this, say when I get this,Because even God is not going
to give it to you, because thatchild is not sure if she wants
it or not.
So why should I bless her?
Speaker 1 (41:55):
Hey, y'all got to stop saying them prayers and
you're not taking the actionafter them.
Prayers I'm not saying becauseI am definitely a believer and
I'm definitely more spirituallyinclined in the last year.
I have gotten there.
But let me tell y'all somethingStop talking about y'all
trusting God and y'all believein God when y'all not talking
about it and you're not lettinghim do what he got to do and
(42:16):
you're not letting him do whathe got to do and you're not
taking the actions to make ithappen.
Behind that and I said what Isaid Okay, period.
Speaker 2 (42:22):
It takes faith and walk.
You gotta have faith that Godgot you.
And sometimes we say we havefaith, we prayed on it, but
we're still worrying on it.
Speaker 1 (42:34):
How you have faith God got you when you're worrying
about that shit that you justprayed, or you still allowing
the same shit that God justshowed you over and over again
that you need to eliminate?
Speaker 2 (42:43):
Stop blocking your blessings.
Sometimes we are the onesblocking our blessings.
Speaker 1 (42:46):
We're always the one blocking our blessings.
Speaker 2 (42:49):
I wanted to touch on the unlearned part right, and I
feel like most people are scaredabout that, because most of us
who grew up right we will allthe things we learned we learned
from our parents orgrandparents.
This is good, this is bad, butas we are growing up right now,
even some of us, our parents arealso working on themselves.
They finally got to the point.
Speaker 1 (43:10):
My mom is 75 years old and she's working on herself
.
But you know why?
Because I'm working on myself.
Speaker 2 (43:17):
And you're having those conversations and they're
learning that they were alsowrong.
That was not right.
So that's why it is soimportant to literally work on
yourself and have this mindsetswitch, because it opens you to
a different world, a world thatyou're actually going to be seen
and you're going to win.
The reason you're not winningor being seen is because of that
(43:40):
mindset that you have.
You are now outdated.
Speaker 1 (43:43):
I call it outdated thinking.
You're an outdated thinkingmethod.
It's the outdated mindset.
You've got to figure out whoyou are.
You've got to figure out whatyour beliefs and values are, and
you got to be unapologetic infiguring that out.
You are going to lose peoplealong the lines, y'all.
You are going to losefriendships.
You may lose relationships, youmay even no longer associate
(44:05):
with certain family members, butthem sacrifices are necessary,
and I don't even say I got to bebehind it.
Speaker 2 (44:12):
They will not want to be there for your mental health
and it heals your mental health.
I'm not going to say youranxiety or depression is gonna
go away.
No, it's gonna be less, becausenow you have a clear sense of
who you are, what you want andyou have a clear sense of the
support that you actually need.
That's gonna help you walkthrough this journey with you.
(44:33):
The reason we get depressed oranxiety or all that is because
we are trying to be what wereally aren't.
Speaker 1 (44:42):
You better talk about it that struggle real, you try
to fit.
You trying to be something thatyou know good and well, you
struggling with.
You try to do something thatyou know is having an adverse
effect.
You trying to do stuff that youknow is having an adverse and a
negative effect on you.
We got to stop punishingourselves like that.
We're not supposed to acceptthings that cause us negativity,
(45:04):
that cause us havoc, that causeus frustration.
We are not supposed to deal andwe're not supposed to accept it
.
I don't care who it is.
I had that conversation with myentire family.
I sat them down and said,listen, I'm to the point
mentally in 2020, I had sat themdown and said, listen, I'm to
the point mentally in 2020, Ihad set them down and said,
listen, I'm to the pointmentally where I'm not ready to
hurt somebody or myself.
(45:24):
And it got to that point.
And I know it's so many of usespecially women, I know, and
men too, because I have beentalking and conversing with more
men here lately.
You know I'm trusting myprocess in that.
But we got to stop holding stuffback.
We got to stop suppressing ouremotions.
(45:45):
You ain't being confrontationalby getting your emotions out.
You're not trying to be messyand drama field, because you
want to express your emotions.
We should be able to do that,and I'm not going to be around.
Anybody that feels like mesaying something to you about
how I feel.
Is me coming to you with dramaor being negative and stuff like
(46:08):
that.
No, I'm ready to have aconversation with you.
But that's all evolved with areconditioned mind and that's
all involved with the journeythat I have been on the last
three and a half years and Iteach my clients how to do the
same thing and they love me forit.
But I'm still Keisha.
I'm still me.
I still talk shit.
Speaker 2 (46:26):
I'm still hey, I'm still that person and I think
that the idea we have that thelife we live is supposed to be
what it is.
You work, you get married, youhave a house, you have kids and
you just keep on working.
Hey, baby, that's the goodthing about working on yourself
you learn that it's okay to livea different life, it's okay to
(46:48):
want bigger things, or even ifyou want smaller things,
whatever life you want thatbrings you happiness and peace,
you can have it.
You just need to go out thereand get it.
Speaker 1 (47:02):
Straight like that.
Speaker 2 (47:03):
Now we are coming up to an hour, so I want to make
sure people know about the eventthat you got coming up?
Speaker 1 (47:09):
Oh yes, absolutely, I have two.
So this Saturday, february 10th, I actually am a guest speaker
at the second annual galentine'sdate event here in peoria,
illinois.
Um, I definitely am superexcited about that.
It is a sneaker ball, so Idon't want got me some little
bling shoes.
I think I'm gonna be cute.
Saturday well, I don't know ifit's still tickets available for
(47:31):
that.
I know I got some of myfollowers watching, so if you're
peoria illinois, you can checkout my website and see if
there's still tickets available.
I'm not in charge of thosetickets, but I will tell y'all.
Renewing our resilience likeMarch 16th Listen me and my girl
, noreen of Save Our Sisters.
This is our second annual eventwe had.
(47:53):
We do it in honor of Women'sHistory Month and this year we
felt like renewing ourresilience.
Managing life after loss.
We know that so many peoplehave dealt with loss in so many
different ways from death tojobs, to finances, divorce,
relationships, family.
You know just so many differentlevels of loss and we all want
(48:16):
to come together, bond, buildfrom that and create a
supportive community based offof that.
We are going to have full lunchavailable.
We have women vendors that aregoing to be in the house.
We are doing a panel stylistmyself, noreen Erica Bayard and
Philanda James.
She's the president of NAMITri-County here in Illinois.
(48:37):
That's the National Alliance ofMental Illness.
We are going to have, like,mental awareness resources,
mental health resources.
It's just going to be so manythings going on there.
I'm super geeked about it.
Tickets are on sale onEventbrite, y'all, and, like I
said, if you are here in Peoriaand you're catching this live,
you can definitely stop by.
Speaker 2 (49:05):
If you're not familiar with Eventbrite, I can
go ahead and take care of thatticket for you here at my office
at 2104 West Moss here in WestPeoria.
So that's an event I want to.
I'm working on making shithappens.
Speaker 1 (49:14):
I say the worst is, you say the word and it's up,
baby.
Speaker 2 (49:18):
But also let the people know about UPM Switch.
Speaker 1 (49:21):
Absolutely so.
Upm is a resource hub that Ihave with my co-owners and it is
a resource center for personaland entrepreneurial development.
We also have other smallbusinesses in UPM.
We have our brow and lash techthat actually got me together
today, you know, being able tohave that in-house.
We have another business ownerthat carries custom-made jewelry
(49:43):
and organic skin and hair careproducts.
We also have small rentalspaces that are available.
We have a suite availableactually as well, but we are
just here to, you know, buildcommunity within UPM, but also
make resources available.
We do business cards, we doposters, banners.
We create all of those thingsfor you.
(50:04):
So only thing I can tell you isto just go check out the
website upmsuitesilcom.
You'll see everybody that's inthere, some of the products we
have, and it's just.
You know, I just love beinghere because we are a family
here at UPM as well, and, youknow, building that community,
too, is just so dope to me.
Speaker 2 (50:23):
I love that.
I love that Now, before we go,leave an advice for somebody out
there who's looking totransform their life, but they
don't know how or where to start, because sometimes that can be
hard right.
Trying out, like where do Istart?
Do I just pray to God?
Do I go into?
(50:43):
Do I go into the river and andright come back and I'm divorced
.
Like where, where do?
Speaker 1 (50:51):
I go, so I will say this um, really, just start
sitting down and justself-reflecting.
Think about the things that arecausing you stress.
Think about people, places,things.
I say this write a letter toyourself.
Right, if you are truly readyto begin the journey of
(51:15):
self-discovery, mindsettransformation and becoming your
most unapologetic self, thenit's time to write that letter
to self, and you need to writeeverything that you know.
That has been good, bad ugly.
I did that in 2020 and myletter was six pages long, but
when I tell you, it was the mostfreedom-minded thing that I
(51:36):
could have done.
Oh my God, y'all.
It was so exhilarating just tobe able to put that out there,
because what it does is it takesit out your mind and it puts it
on paper.
So now you're, able to get asense of clarity about where it
is that you want to go movingforward.
Get you some resources together.
(51:57):
Start asking yourself thoseuncomfortable questions, those
questions that you're runningfrom.
It's time to start answeringthose questions.
You can talk to yourself andyou can answer back.
You're not crazy.
Okay, get some resources.
If you need to talk to acounselor, be okay with that.
We are not crazy.
We are breaking that stigmay'all.
If you feel like you need totalk to somebody because your
(52:17):
mind is racing 80 miles an hour,go talk to somebody about it.
You're not crazy.
If anything, be proud becauseyou are taking the steps to
become the more empoweringversion of yourself, and that's
so necessary.
But start with self.
Start figuring out what yourenergy zappers are, because it's
going to be a journey, it'sgoing to be a process.
(52:39):
It's a process and journey.
That's necessary, and don't puta time on it right now until
you start that self-discoveryjourney and then you can start
setting those things.
But just be intentional insaying that I'm going to put in
the work to make it happen.
Speaker 2 (52:56):
I love that.
Thank you very much for sharingand talking to to me and you
can talk forever and ever.
You know we, we, we go it andyou know you always welcome back
to.
Speaker 1 (53:05):
shit happens anytime, cause we just have all these
conversations, absolutely, y'all, don't forget to tune in to a
power and real talk.
Speaker 2 (53:12):
I was about to tell you that the people know where
they can find you, where theyconnect what.
Let the people know where theycan find you, where they connect
what you're all about.
This is the time to brag andsell yourself.
Speaker 1 (53:21):
So, yeah, I have two.
My Instagram is CoachKayWDS, orEmpowering Real Talk, which you
can follow both of those.
Facebook is CoachKayWoods.
You can just pretty muchhashtag CoachKayWoods and you
will definitely find me.
But my websites areUpgradedMindsetslife, if you're
interested in learning moreabout the services and products
that I offer.
(53:41):
Upgradedmindsetsshop, theEmpowered Real Talk podcast
streams on YouTube, apple,spotify it's pretty much
everywhere.
I'm just dropping some raw anduncut conversations, but those
are the conversations that arenecessary.
These are things to help usgrow personally, professionally,
entrepreneurially, whatever itis you want to do.
(54:02):
You will definitely get somevalue and insight from
Empowering Real Talk, so goahead and follow me over there.
I generally follow back, unlessyou a spam bot, but other than
that, go ahead and follow yourgirl and I definitely will
follow back.
So I definitely just appreciatebeing here, sis, like you've
been so dope, like you such agreat host, and I just love
talking shit with you, you knowalways, always right back.
Speaker 2 (54:24):
I love it, and so thank you all for who joined.
Um, thank you to Denise,Michelle and hey, you want the
comments?
Uh, chopping it up.
We love it when people on thecomment, so shit happens.
We just have raw discussions onshit, you know.
On shit yeah and today wasmindset.
So I hope you all learnedsomething about transforming
(54:46):
your lives and your mindsetswitch and you go do some shit
with that.
Okay Period Until then.
I'll catch you all next timeand, by the way, go follow our
podcast.
Go listen to it If you want tolisten to us more.
I was on our podcast last year.
Speaker 1 (55:02):
Check out our episode .
We definitely own there, babyon YouTube and everything.
Go check us out.
Speaker 2 (55:07):
And whoever can attend those events.
Please go support.
The whole point of this eventis for the community to empower
and support.
So if you're looking forcommunities, you gotta be there.
So showing up is important,just like how you showed up on
these comments.
Go show up period let's get it.
Speaker 1 (55:41):
Shit, shit happens, shit, shit, shit, shit happens.
Speaker 2 (55:51):
Shit happens, shit happens, shit, shit happens,
shit happens, shit happens.
We scared of that, we scared of them things.
So we'll continue to deal withnegativity, toxicity, we'll
still deal with outdatedthinking methods because we are
scared of leaving that alone.
We not, I'll tell you right nowanybody that is ready to
encounter that journey.
I know you feel like thatyou're gonna be by yourself, but
, baby, you gonna align yourselfwith some amazing people.
(00:22):
Denise, you already know youlearning and you learning her
baby, and once you get tolearning her, hey, I'm just so
excited Cause you on a journey.
You know what I'm saying, likeI'm super excited and happy for
you Cause she is definitely onthat journey to you and me.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
It doesn't matter if you're a wizard, a king or a
queen, even if you are magic,you've got to agree it's worth
it to talk shit out, no matterhow messy shit happens.
Shit happens.
(01:15):
Hello, hello, hello.
And we are back.
Right now, we have the one andonly the incredible Coach K with
me.
I hope she's here.
(01:36):
I see she's here.
So we're going to be discussingincredible shit about mindset.
All right, so I'm big onmindset and lately I'm big on
mindset switch.
So I feel like this is going tobe an incredible conversation
(01:58):
and I'm looking forward to that.
And, um, I was in uh kisha'spodcast last year and now she's
coming to.
Shit Happens, you know.
So hopefully good shit happensover here today.
I'm going to go ahead and bringCoach K on the stage, because
she was hiding somewhere when Icame here.
(02:20):
Look at her.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
What up, what up y'all.
Hey, ronna, I'm so sorry.
I y'all hey raw and uncut.
I am so sorry.
Had a client go over baby.
You know the grind don't stop.
What's poppin' baby.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Look at you looking all clean and shit.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Hey Kenya, look, Get myself situated here I like how
we all rocking our jumper match.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
Look at us, you know.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
Happy New Year, happy 2024.
How are you, boo?
Speaker 2 (02:55):
Fabulous man, I can't complain.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
Hey, let me just say I'm proud of you.
Yo, you've been killing shit,sis.
You've been crushing it.
I'm so damn proud of you.
Yo, you've been killing shit,sis, like you've been crushing
it.
I'm so damn proud of you, man,like when you say unapologetic,
living your best life.
That's you, boo.
I'm so proud of you so proud ofyou so much.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
Thank you so much.
But you know it takes a villageand it's because I get to
surround myself with people whoare doing the same thing and
showing up as themselves,because normally you know, like
me, I'm gonna be told oh, you'retoo loud, are you?
But there are people out therewho are showing up just like
that and being and beingrewarded so when I surround
myself in communities that allowme to be myself and just be
(03:40):
seen as myself.
So y'all are part of my success, like community.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
I'm so glad.
I'm glad that I met you, I'mglad that we're here.
I'm just glad overall.
I love it, I love it thank youso much.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
Um so what you been up to, how you been I've been
good.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
2024 has definitely kicked off with a bang,
definitely been on the grind,definitely been more community
oriented, definitely stillshowing up here online.
But I have been doing a lot ofthings here locally, doing a
little bit of restructuringwithin the brand.
It's been a busy one, but it'sbeen a blessed one and I can't
(04:25):
say that I'm stressed, becausewhen we step in and walk it in
our purpose baby, ain't nostress behind that?
You feel me.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
Amen.
Even if it's stress, it's thegood stress.
You know, there's the stress.
There's like yo, this isstressful.
I fucking love this.
This is what I wanted.
More of.
This is what I wanted.
More of this is what I wasmissing.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
So, yes, it's okay if it's stressful, but it's just
good stress.
It is definitely been soblessed with it, though yo it's
been so dope that's amazing.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
Just like when I was a port person, I was like I'm
exhausted, but not in thatexhaustion of, oh my god.
Like I'm exhausted in a in agood way, like I'm exhausted
with so much of theconversations, the connections,
that everything, and.
And when I tell you I was tiredand I would be looking at it
like it's 3 am, I want to go tobed, but I'm also sitting with
(05:15):
incredible people.
We're just chopping it up andjust I'm like I only have four
days of this.
Why would I go to bed right now?
Speaker 1 (05:21):
and they're so you know exactly I'm to enjoy myself
and do what I do, likeabsolutely Like I can sleep when
I get home, but I'm going to dowhat I do right now, like I get
it, like I'm so just like, sogreat about wanting to open up
and expand and build and meetnew people and be around
(05:42):
like-minded.
You know, that's why I'm like,hey, I already told myself, next
podcast expo I'm there, baby,I'm claiming that.
So I am there, because I justseen yours and then like a
couple of other people that Istarted following, you know, and
it's like hey, them, my people,it's a vibe.
Speaker 2 (05:58):
It's a vibe and I love how much blackness we have
this year.
I've been going to PortFest fortwo years.
I mean what I love aboutPortFest it's welcoming and
inclusive to everybody.
But you know, us black people,we feel like we need to
constantly be pushed into come.
That's why I keep on tellinglike yo, you need to come
(06:20):
because the space is there andthey want you there.
So the fact that we were somany this year to the extent
that we're like Chris, we needsomething of ours next year at
Puffers.
So you got to be there becausewe are planning a black thing at
Puffers next year, I'm there.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
I'm there, baby Trust and believe I am there, Like I
did.
I thought it was so dope, Like,and you know, even with my
podcast and just doingeverything else too, you know
what I'm saying, but like I know, like talking and speaking and
bringing resource and value,like that, I get a kick out of
that shit.
You know what I'm saying.
So why not?
(06:58):
You know, and it doesn't to me.
I don't even look at it from acultural standpoint anymore
because there's people that Ihave been mingling with and have
been engaged and interactedwith.
The Better Business Bureau herein Heart of Illinois launched
their podcast and I was theirinaugural episode.
You know what I'm saying.
So it's like, thank you, youknow, like just expanding myself
(07:20):
and not limiting you know whereor who, you know like that shit
was dope as hell to me.
So it's like that wasconfirmation to just saying you
know, I'm just going to expand alittle bit more and do what I
got to do.
Speaker 2 (07:33):
So I tell people 2024 , I'm all about visibility.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
Period.
You better talk about it.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
And that's why we do live broadcasting these days,
because you're gonna see me,you're gonna you're gonna see me
, baby and I think that camefrom, uh, the ego boost I got
after this podcast.
This podcast was so rewardingfor me and and I'm like, oh my
god, I'm in my head thinking I'mthis little pawn.
But they're actually peopleover here who are really seeing
(08:04):
me and seeing my potential,seeing my growth.
But I'm here thinking myselfI'm this small, so I'm no longer
considering myself in the smallbox.
I'm like I'm out of the box.
I'm like Absolutely.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
Hey ain't no boxes, we ain't got no boxes.
We don't know what boxes isaround here, period.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
And you would have a time of your life and connect
with so many people.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
I say to just divide.
It looked like a whole vibe.
You know what I'm saying?
Like it looked like a wholevibe and I'm like I'm not
missing that shit next time Irefuse.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
One of my friends who came all the way from Canada
right Cause I was posting him.
I was like you just got intothe podcast world.
You need to come here and meetdifferent people.
I was like you know what?
I'm just coming because it'sFreud, I'm gonna go party and if
I catch some shit, cool,because I got a free ticket from
bus truck.
This man did not even leave thelike apart from the parties we
went to at night.
(08:56):
Like all of us, he literallydid not go into town and do the
shit.
He said he was enjoying the,the connection, he was enjoying
the class, like I would call him, and be like what are you doing
?
I'm over.
He's like yo, man, I'm going tothis session because I really
want to go.
I'm going to this.
I'm like oh so what happened toall that shit?
You were talking that and then,and then he goes.
(09:17):
Man, paula, you were right, Iwish I came earlier, because he
came on thursday late night.
Most of us came on Wednesday,so he started on Friday, but
Wednesday night we already hadsome shit going on.
So when he was mingling withpeople, like, oh yeah, we did
this yesterday, we did this.
He's like yo, paula, next year.
I'm coming from day one Day oneDay one.
(09:40):
I don't lie when I find acommunity which really is about
that love and community andconnection, I'm going to bring
everybody who I want to be apart of it, because I'm not
going to bring you some shittyshit.
Why would I even be in someshitty shit?
Why would you, as you say?
Why would you?
Speaker 1 (09:56):
be in some shitty shit, that part.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
And that's why I post on my stories.
Whenever I'm a podcast, I postthem on my story so that even
for those people who think maybeyou know, sometimes people are
like maybe she's getting acommission, maybe she's being
paid to to to talk this much Ijust post so that you can get
the idea yourself.
You can get the idea of thesessions, the parties, the
normal chill sessions, like it.
(10:18):
It's a bunch of everything,whether you're an introvert,
extrovert, whether you likegoing out, whether you like
being inside, whether it there'speople for everybody that part.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
Yeah, I love it.
Though, like I said, you, youlook like you had such an
amazing time like and I justthink that that's so dope and I
just can't wait to be at thenext one, so it's claimed it's
done this year.
Speaker 2 (10:43):
I want to do more in person than online, like I want
to be a part of all thesecommunities and collaborate.
And let me tell you something?
Speaker 1 (10:54):
I just talked about this, right, I just had a
conversation about how peoplereally just need to start
building community, buildingnetwork, doing more networking
in person.
I feel like a lot of times,some of us still default to the
online, and I get it, you knowwhat I'm saying.
Covid made us rely on online.
(11:16):
I get it, and I definitely wasthat person you know what I'm
saying Because I didn't want togo outside, I didn't want to do
nothing.
I had that COVID anxiety, stuff, whatever, but, like I
literally just was talking aboutthis last week, like we outside
, it's time to plan your events.
To plan, you know, community,but also stop having events but
(11:36):
also supporting others events aswell, because that's how you
truly build community.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
And that's how you also make intentional
connections.
Yes, they happen online, butwhen you meet them in person,
you really nurture them.
Like, look at me and Leah.
We met on the summit right, weshowed up at Afros and Arches
together and just vibing.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
And that is so dope, Like that picture will take you.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
You know it's like okay, you really are a real
person and I can really fuckwith you in person, because
online people sometimes theyjust be online faking it.
Speaker 1 (12:10):
Hey, the representatives, the
representatives.
You know how that go.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
I know you guys, you also have an event coming, but I
want to talk about that at theend.
Shout out to noreen.
So we're gonna.
We're gonna get into thatbecause I love this.
And I was saying, noreen, if Ican make it, I will try my best
to make it.
But because with the moving andeverything, but who knows you
(12:38):
know, who knows, you know I putit out in the universe and let
lord lead me.
Like you know, that's all I cando you said something about
pouring into these communitiesbecause I also attended Atlanta.
Finally, I started bringingback, shout out to Mark Deal
Atlanta podcast, which diedafter doing COVID, and he was
(13:02):
also getting overwhelmed becausehe was doing it by himself.
I told him you have a community, a community.
I want to build a community.
I don't get why Atlanta, wedon't have a community and I
have to seek community when I goto port fest.
So when I go to Afros, I waslike I'm willing to help.
So we now have a committee andwe are, we're gonna everybody's
gonna plan like different months, that way it doesn't exhaust.
(13:24):
So I'm planning the Februaryone.
And it's funny because Februarystarted on Thursday, ending on
Thursday and my favorite day ison Thursday.
So I was like we're going toleave on the 29th and it's a
leap year.
Right, it's a, it's a lunar, soit feels like a blessing on
blessing.
(13:48):
So I am excited to not only puton other communities but also to
build and nurture my owncommunity here and I was
impressed because the one inJanuary when we all met two days
later I saw there was a guy whohad a podcast studio and I saw
a guy go to his podcast studioto record.
So I messaged there and I waslike did you guys know each
other before you came to themeeting, or was this after the
(14:08):
meeting?
He's like no after.
So that gave me hope, likeliterally people are meeting and
collaborating, so we need thisspace right, because they
wouldn't have met each other ifit wasn't there and it was all
black people.
So you're supporting each other.
So that was just like godtelling me you gotta do this.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
This is a sign we need.
This is I don't think peopleget like I get.
We want to, you know, be aroundthose that we know and we want
that support from people that weknow and you can get that.
You know what I'm saying, youcan get it.
But I started Upgraded Mindsetsonline during COVID you know
what I'm saying.
Like 2020, we were on lockdown.
I launched Upgraded Mindsets in2020.
(14:51):
So I was already in the processof building community online,
right, and I think people don'trealize, because people in my
community are like oh, how longhave you been doing this?
And when I tell them, they'relike really, yes, because I
started online.
I came back to my community.
You know what I'm saying.
I came back to say, okay, Iwant to step up, because I've
(15:13):
even had my office location forthree years, you know.
But in the beginning, when Istarted, I still was online
focused.
You know what I'm saying.
So it was just a matter ofsaying, okay, I do want to build
with community, but what I comeacross in community and, like I
said, y'all know I'm raw anduncut I don't care, but there's
too many cliques.
(15:33):
You got too many people thatwant to stay with their friends.
You got too many people thatjust want to build and work with
their friends, but what I'mseeing is nobody's building.
People are just doing things.
What's coming from that?
You know what I'm saying.
What are you gaining fromactually having an event, doing
an event?
Are you supporting those thatwant to support you?
(15:53):
Like there's just so manydifferent things that I feel
like people drop the ball on,like we got to break those
clicks.
If we're really wanting to build, then you got to break those
clicks and you got to getuncomfortable and step out of
that zone and say you know what?
This is somebody that I'venever really worked with before,
um, but I'm going to reach outand ask, not saying that every
(16:13):
connection is going to begenuine and work out, but you
are yourself, you know, if youdon't even make the attempt.
You know what I'm saying.
Like I have a group of coaches.
I actually had the honor ofbeing a speaker at the Black
Life Coach Summit down inRaleigh this past June and we
had built such an amazingconnection online for two years.
(16:37):
You know what I'm saying.
So, just being able to meet herin person, that is my coach
connection, that is my coachtribe, like we talk about so
many intimate things togetherand I'm so grateful for that
community and it's only likethree or four of us in that
community now, but I'm sothankful for it.
You know, but I would have neverdone that if I would have just
(16:57):
said, oh, I'm just going to keepon you know talking to the
people that I already know, oryou know what I'm saying Like I
would have never been able tomake that happen and that's a
trouble quick.
Speaker 2 (17:06):
That's why I stopped even working with with friends
or depending on friends.
I tell people I network withstrangers.
That's why I go to all theseevents and meet new people,
because even your friends, theydon't take it serious because
there's already that friendship.
So they're like, oh, I'll showup or we'll get it done when we
get it.
Again, as you say, you're justdoing it but you're not building
.
(17:27):
And even when I was at portugal,as much as I was happy to see
so many black people, I was like, make sure you don't only
mingle with with the black folks.
Like there's so many there,there's so much you can get from
everybody.
I'm not saying don't be with.
I mean, I love our black people, but sometimes our as black
(17:47):
people, we have this mindset nowwe only gotta work with each
other, we only got you know.
And that ends up.
And then we also end up saying,oh, they're gatekeeping, but
are you trying to get over thegate?
So I was like this is for thosewho I knew I was.
I was trying to introduce themto other people.
Like you need, like you need toknow him.
You need to know him Becausethey have something that they
(18:08):
can offer you that you can alsotake it back to your people.
Speaker 1 (18:12):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:13):
Because that's how you're going to grow, that's how
you're going to learn, that'show you're going to grow it is.
Speaker 1 (18:19):
That's the only way that you're going like people
feel like and then that's evenlike.
You know me as a coach.
You know, listen, I get peopleare like and you know especially
like here locally in mycommunity.
I've been in this community foryears so there are a lot of
people who know the old keisha.
You know that.
Oh, that know k-dub, which wasmy teenage and early 20 years,
where I was hey, k-dub, that'smy nickname, like nickname.
(18:42):
So I know people see me and belike well, why would I have her
help me?
I remember when she used to dothis.
But if that's the mindset thatyou have, that's even more
reason why you should be workingwith me, because I don't
operate in that mindset anymore.
I am not that person.
I am completely different.
I have transformed everythingabout me from my mind.
The only thing ain'ttransformed yet is all this
(19:04):
booty that they ain't gonnanever go nowhere.
Speaker 2 (19:06):
You know okay, hey, and it's funny how we literally
went into this, becauseliterally I was gonna talk to
you about mindset and transform,transformation shift, because,
but you see, sometimes you know,you, just you, just I know
(19:27):
right, and just to add on thatthere was one time I was gonna
do an event but then I ended up,uh, losing my job and it didn't
feel like the right time to dothe event.
But I hadn't marketed thatevent, I just put it on event
break but.
But I didn't post it on social,I created it, I put it there.
I put it there in June.
The event was supposed to be inDecember, the first week.
(19:49):
That way we end the year nicelyand then kind of bring it back.
People look forward to thebeginning of the year and it was
supposed to be speed networking.
So in my head and I only putout 20 tickets, but I wanted, uh
, 40 people and the 20 ticketwas when you get a ticket you
(20:10):
get two tickets.
I want you to invite somebodyelse, because I didn't want us
to network the same people,because I knew half of the
tickets my friends wouldprobably get them just to come
and share support yeah to comeand support right.
But I already know you guys, youknow I want new people.
So my idea was you get a ticket, two tickets, bring somebody
else and then in the next yearone like when the next event
(20:33):
comes, that person you broughtbring somebody else.
That way we are constantlyoutgrowing the networking,
because otherwise we'll keep onnetworking just ourselves.
Because even these events withmy friends, when you go you see
the same faces, the same people.
You meet you for me, so we'regonna work together.
Oh, we have to do something andthen nothing yeah, and those
(20:56):
are your people.
Speaker 1 (20:57):
You know, like I say a lot of times, we have to
really get over the somebody'srepresentative and like figure
out who they are, because youcould talk a good game, but your
action is going to show.
You know, like, yeah, if I meetyou and you tell me that, oh,
I'd love to work with you, andthen I go to your social media
pages and you haven't doneanything in like a month and a
half, it's clear to say thatwe're probably never going to
(21:20):
work together because you're notworking on yourself.
You have this, so I'm cool withthat.
You know the experience wasgreat.
You know it was good to talk,chat or whatever else, but we
have to get into the thing ofvetting people and discovering
who people really are.
Um, because, even though peoplewill be like, oh, I just post
stuff on social media forentertainment.
(21:42):
Because, even though people belike, oh, I just post stuff on
social media for entertainment.
Some of y'all be capping withthat and I think y'all hide
behind that, because that'sreally who you are.
Any entrepreneur, any coaches,any podcasters listen, let me
tell y'all this Be who you wantto be.
If you're somebody that onlywants to post once a month, be
unapologetic about only being aperson that wants to post, and
(22:02):
own that shit, that's okay.
Speaker 2 (22:04):
Own it, that's who you are.
Own it, but don't talk about itand just be like listen.
I want to work with you, but mysocial media game is, once a
month At least.
I already know Okay.
Speaker 1 (22:14):
Yeah, I know what I'm dealing with.
Speaker 2 (22:23):
Then we will plan something around around that
once a month.
If I really want to work withyou, but I don't want to work
with somebody where I'mconstantly on social media
posting and putting myself outthere and you're not doing that.
That means you won't put thesame energy to your followers.
But it's funny.
When I did that event I wasn'tsure if people were even going
to want to come.
I already knew my friends weregoing to show up regardless, but
(22:45):
then that shit got sold outwithin a month.
And then I was getting emails,people like, hey, I saw your
event, I'm interested, but it'ssold out.
Is there any way I can get it?
Yo, that shit was like.
I was like wait, I haven't evenpromoted this shit.
And when I canceled people wereso mad like this was such a
(23:06):
good idea, I hope you do itagain.
So last year I didn't do it,but this year, baby, we're
bringing that back.
Speaker 1 (23:12):
I'm gonna do that.
I'm gonna do that hey, it's aline, you know it's a line now.
So you know good and well thatit's definitely gonna make it do
what it do.
So you know, I know what I'msaying.
Like, we go through things andeven though I know that
sometimes things aren't always apositive, I try to turn
everything into a positive,whether it that that the action
(23:35):
itself may not be positive, butmy response is going to be and I
think that's sometimes where wefall, you know, fall out.
We're human, you know.
We are, you know, vulnerableand we should be, you know.
But anything that happens to us, just like you said, you know
you lost your job, but, baby,look how you thriving right now,
like you is like crushing it inthe podcast game right now.
(23:57):
You know what I'm saying, but,like you know that this is what
you want to do, this is yourpurpose, this is your passion.
And it might be uncomfortableat times, but I tell you what
you'll never show it, you'llnever show it only when you want
to be vulnerable.
But when I say you never showit, your actions are showing
your resilience of handlingthings.
You know what I'm saying and Ithink that that's dope.
(24:17):
You know I'm gonna keep tellingyou I'm proud of your ass,
cause that's just what I do, soyou know what I'm saying.
Like, hey, we've been throughit as somebody that lost their
job in 2020.
I get it, you know what I'msaying, cause I was at a stage
in 2020 where I was so unsureabout so much Did I want to go
back to work?
Did I want to find another job,or was I supposed to?
You know, trust the process andmaybe I trusted that process
(24:41):
and three and a half years later, hey, you got the most
unapologetic dope ass, life,business and mindset coach that
ever touched the streets.
Speaker 2 (24:50):
You hear me Speak on it, speak on it, speak on it,
and that's the thing right.
And that's why I think peopleare willing to help me, to
nurture me and to support me,because, despite all the shit
they see me going after like Idon't have all the dollars,
sometimes I don't even know howI'm paying my rent, but I'm
(25:12):
still showing up, I'm stillpushing shit, I'm still figuring
it out, and that somebody wantsto help you.
That makes somebody like yo, yo, we see her, we see her grind.
Let's point to her.
But then if you're reallytalking about, oh, I really want
to do this, this is my passion,I'm going to do it, but then we
are not seeing you doing it.
But then you want support.
(25:33):
I'm not going to support you.
I'm sorry, because I don't seeyou putting in the work and
that's why it's like you got tobet on yourself.
Dominique always says this beton yourself, because the more
you keep betting on yourself,people are going to start
betting on you.
I'm not going to bet on you ifyou're not betting on yourself.
Like clearly you don't believein yourself, so why should I?
Speaker 1 (25:56):
I'm always bet on me, baby.
I'm always, even when I'muncertain.
I'm a bet on me, even when Idon't know where it's going to
go.
You know we want to know theresolution and sometimes that's
where we fall short.
We're not going to always knowthe journey.
We know where we're supposed tostart.
We know, you know I'm saying weknow what we would want to see.
(26:18):
But I think a lot of times weknow fear gets in our way.
You know what I'm saying.
Fear stops us from living ourbest life and becoming that most
unapologetic version ofourselves.
But sometimes you got to do ascare.
No, ain't no.
Sometimes, all the time you gotto do a scare, you know, all
the time you need to set theintention, set the action plan.
You might have some obstacles.
(26:38):
You're going to.
You know that's what has allowedme to continue on the journey
is the understanding that I'mgoing to encounter some
obstacles.
I might encounter a roadblockhere and there, but I have
strategies in place to help mewith those.
When that happens and a lot oftimes people don't have
strategies They'll just give upall the way around.
Life be life, life be like.
(27:03):
If you expect the perfect life,then that's your number one
failure as an individual,because life is not perfect.
We know that.
So, with the expectation ofknowing that I'm going to
encounter some potential thingsthat might be set to destroy me,
I already know I'm going to putthis mindset to work and make
sure I stay actionable eventhrough those hard times, even
(27:26):
because that's what we got to do.
Speaker 2 (27:30):
It's amazing.
You say that because yesterday,as I just finished doing my
lives, I had four livesyesterday.
Oh wow, girl, you was killingit.
And I have four tomorrow and mypodcasting meetup.
But that's what I said.
I wanted more visibility thisyear.
I wanted discipline, I wantedto build my YouTube, Facebook,
(27:53):
LinkedIn presence, and this ishow I can do it.
Speaker 1 (27:55):
So I'm going to do it .
Speaker 2 (27:56):
but as I was preparing promos for today, I
received a message from my momthat her sister passed away and
this is one of my favoritesisters, the firstborn and I
instantly started crying and Icalled my mom and as soon as I
had a voice I had to hang upbecause I knew.
I knew I would start crying andI wouldn't get shit done and I
(28:20):
knew I had work to do, you think.
So I literally hanged up on herand I was like I'll call you in
a bit and I continue working.
And then, in the moments, I wasjust like I haven't spoken to
my aunt in forever yeah do Ieven?
do I even have the right togrieve her?
Do I even have like?
you know you're questioning that.
And then I'm also feelingguilty, like I'm literally
(28:42):
working, because I know if Istart crying I'm gonna go in
that dark hole and and I'm notgonna get shit done.
So even today I could havecanceled this today.
But I was like, no, if I'm sad,I will end up staying in bed
the whole day sad and startgetting depressed and I might
have taken it towards the end ofthe week.
(29:02):
I was like, nope, I did myfirst life and then I called my
mom, I spoke to her, I cried abit, I laughed.
I was like okay, we are comingback to another life after this
life.
I'm done until six o'clock whenI have another.
So I'm like in that time I letmyself grieve.
But but you know, you, yougotta, you gotta just be like yo
.
Life is gonna happen and andit's not gonna stop.
(29:25):
For me, whether I need togrieve or not, it's not gonna
stop.
Life is gonna keep going.
So I just need to, not to bestrong enough, but just to to
realize that sometimes you gottado shit, even when shit is
happening you gotta do you likeand I get it.
Speaker 1 (29:44):
You know, because I tell people all the time,
because I'm one of them people,honestly, if I mentally, if I'm
not there, I will cut, I willcancel everything.
Right.
I'm that person because I know,I know my personality, I know
how bold I am, I know howunapologetic I am.
So I have to realize that Iwear that across the board and
if mentally I'm just not up forthat conversation, I will
(30:08):
reschedule, I will cancel.
You know accordingly, because Iwant to make sure that I am
being, you know, unapologetic tome because I'm my number one
priority.
You know what I'm saying.
I'm number one on my list andevery list that come behind me.
Because if I'm my number onepriority, you know what I'm
saying, I'm number one on mylist and every list that come
behind me.
Because if I'm not pouring intomyself like I'm making other
people pour into themselves,then it's a mute point.
(30:31):
You know how am I comingthrough as a coach, you know.
But I think that that's alsoimportant, but also to not stay
in that struggle, right.
So I love that.
You were like.
You know what I'm grieving inbetween.
You know I'm going to get thisout, get my emotions out, and
I'm going to shake it off andI'm going to bounce back, and I
think that's a part ofresilience, people don't?
There's so many differentlevels to that.
(30:53):
You know, you identified it andyou're like you know what.
I know that I need to do thisand I need to handle this, but
I'm going to go ahead and makesure that I get through this and
then handle that and then goahead and keep doing how I do.
So I think that that's dope.
You got a strategy in place.
Speaker 2 (31:10):
When we talk about mindset switch right, and that's
because I've been working on mymindset switch lately and I
keep on looking at people.
You got to switch your mindset,mindset always matters.
And to me me also I would havecanceled, like I I cancel
sometimes on shit, that when Iknow I can't give a hundred.
But also I looked at it today Ionly had jamie and you, so I
(31:34):
knew those vibes will keep megoing because you know,
sometimes you need that energy,yeah, in order to.
So if it was somebody who waskind of brand new and I really
didn't know and I was right thatprobably I would have been like
let's take it on a better daybecause I don't know your energy
.
But jamie, she literally mademe laugh and sometimes that's
what you need when you'regrieving, right, you need that
(31:55):
laughter.
We laughed, we, whatever wetalk.
And then you, because I know wevibe and I know you're going to
incite some insightful thoughtsthat will help me continue
grieving after I get off thiscall.
So that's why I was like I'm notgoing to cancel this too,
because, yeah, I can, I can workwith them right right so it's
also choosing who you know, thatpower, that energy that you
(32:16):
need, oh, unlike other people,because other people can drain
you.
So if it was somebody who Iknew, I would have canceled and
be like today's not the day whatyou say, not today, not today,
not today, yeah, and you'reright, like um, and it is.
Speaker 1 (32:34):
It does boil down to mindset.
Uh, mindset is everything,mindset over everything.
Like I, I can't tell peopleenough how shifting how I
thought about things and what Ido about how I think about
things has been so detrimentalin me becoming this person that
I am today.
Because me shifting my mindsethas enabled me to become a
(32:57):
lifelong learner.
Before I was in that restrictedstate of mind that, oh, I know
everything.
Oh, you can't tell me nothing,I'm always right who I know
everything.
Oh, you can't tell me nothing,I'm always right who I'm always
right.
Like you can't tell me nothing.
But now I am open-minded tolisten.
I am open-minded forconstructive criticism, because
if somebody tried to tell mesomething before baby, you can't
tell me shit.
Speaker 2 (33:17):
We talked about constructive criticism.
We would do stuff and he'd giveus that constructive criticism.
We both used to have an issuewith that, but I can't believe
it has already been 35 minutesLike where is time going with
you?
But before our time comes to anend, right, you talked about
when you had your mindsetchanged.
So I want people to know, forthose people who are having a
(33:38):
hard time switching theirmindset and I think for me, I
feel like most people have thatissue because people don't want
to unlearn what they know.
Yeah, you know, and that's thetough part, because I had to
unlearn a lot of shit when Istarted working on myself and
switching my mindset and andthen you have to be open-minded,
but some people are stuck ontheir ways, like you can tell
(34:00):
you know, like our, those peoplegrew up on AOL, trying to get
them to move to Xfinity andthey're like no, I'm going to
stick to my AOL.
Man, listen, it's fine, I don'tneed a mobile phone, hey.
Speaker 1 (34:15):
It's so, ooh, girl, you're so.
Speaker 2 (34:20):
How did you get to the point where you allowed that
transformation to happen, whereyou, you, you allowed to have
that mindset switch and andunlearn yourself?
Speaker 1 (34:33):
and and it gives me goosebumps every time I talk
about it because it was such acritical moment for me.
Um, but it was 2020.
March of 2020 was when I wasjust so mentally frustrated and
we suppress emotions, wesuppress so many things and I
(34:54):
lived a life of that.
I did that for years, but Ithought, oh OK, as long as I
keep putting everybody elsebefore me, I'll get my blessings
that way.
I no longer think like that.
That is no longer my mindsetand I know a lot of people still
feel that way.
Oh, I'll get my blessings if Ijust keep, you know, helping and
helping and helping.
But why are you not helping you?
And I wasn't helping me, and Iwas to the point where I was
(35:15):
angry.
All the time I was frustratedLike you could have dropped the
piece of paper in front of me,sis, and I would have snapped on
your ass Like you was trying tokill me.
You know what I'm saying.
But that was all from thosesuppressed emotions that we act
like don't affect our day to daylife, but it affects the hell
out of us and I was tired of itand, with the uncertainties of
COVID at the time, my emotionsjust got the better of me and I
(35:39):
hit that low and I was like youknow what?
It's time to make some changes.
And I actually took a 30 dayfast from social media in April
of 2020.
Yep, at a time where that's allwe knew.
I had to step away from thatbecause mentally, I was drained,
I was exhausted, I couldn't doit anymore and I journaled for
30 days, every day.
(36:00):
I talked about what was goingon on the line at the time.
I was still working full timethen, so I was talking about the
uncertainties at work and Ijust that first 30 days was so
critical.
So I will just tell people whenyou are tired, when you know
you're tired and you're acrossthat bed crying because you're
(36:21):
tired.
You know what I'm saying.
That is your key and that isyour signal, your sign to say
it's time to make some changesNow.
Nothing's going to happenovernight, but, like you said I
love the word you saidunlearning.
You are unlearning things.
Listen, the values of yourparents and your grandparents
(36:41):
may not be the values of you atthis present day, and it's okay.
Yep, you were raised this way.
You were raised to believe this.
You've got to figure out whoyou are right now, in 2024.
Who are you at this moment Ifyou struggle with those same
values that you did when youwere five, six, 13, 18,?
You've got to figure yourselfout.
(37:02):
It's the season ofself-discovery people, and
self-discovery means you've gotto figure out who you are, what
you want, what your values, whatyour beliefs are.
And it might not be the same,it could be, but you still got
to figure that out.
And that's a part of the wholemindset transformational journey
, because your mind is going todo what you tell it.
(37:26):
So, if you're telling it, it'stime for me to get uncomfortable
and figure out who I am, as anindividual, as a person, as a
woman, as a man.
I'm on that journey.
Your mind is going to be thereand it's going to be rough, but
you're reconditioning, you'rerealigning, you're refocusing.
All of those things are socritical, but I challenge you to
take that step and I challengeyou to do it because the journey
(37:49):
is so necessary.
Y'all, I am living the best lifeever.
I'm not rich, you know what I'msaying but because I'm trusting
the process, I have beenblessed because I am striving to
be the most empowering versionof myself.
Everything is aligning itselfto make that happen and it never
would have started if I did notget tired in March of 2020.
(38:12):
So, figure out when you'retired.
Once you know you're tired,that journey necessary and I'm
super proud of myself because Itold people I was going to be a
coach and they looked at me likeI was crazy.
And I currently have clients ineight different States, not to
mention here locally in mycommunity.
I have my podcast, I have myonline store, I'm a multi you
(38:35):
know, business owner and I neverwould have been that if I would
have listened to the naysayersand listened to the people like
what, who?
Speaker 2 (38:42):
Ma'am, ma'am, you're also Amazon bestseller.
Speaker 1 (38:46):
Hey, let's talk about the Amazon bestselling author.
Come on, thank you, thank you,sis, thank you Appreciate it,
you know.
But just, yes, like, turn thatjournal into an Amazon
bestselling book, like all ofthat.
You know what I'm saying?
Just that.
And have my own another guidethat I put out the journey to
activate our best life.
It is a self-discovery guide tohelp you figure out who you are
(39:10):
.
All of these things are on myonline store.
There's other resources overthere clothing, positive
reinforcement, like hoodies, allof that.
Everything to promotepositivity, promote motivation,
promote everything that it isfor us to be the best versions
of ourselves.
And I love who I am and I lovewho I'm still becoming.
(39:31):
You know, oh, look like wemight've lost her there, but I
will tell y'all this, okay, nope, nope, I was going to go ahead
and take it covering for you,sis, don't worry.
Speaker 2 (39:42):
I forgot to put do not disturb when my mom was
calling.
Speaker 1 (39:45):
Oh my gosh hey, shit happens, it is what it is.
Speaker 2 (39:49):
I mean, we have no.
Shit happens right, shit doeshappen.
Shout out to Denise Lewis onthe comments who said I'm on
that journey.
You go girl, you go baby.
I'm proud of you.
You're going to go through.
It's going to be the hardestjourney, but such a rewarding
and beautiful journey.
That journey, you go girl, yougo baby.
I'm proud of you.
You love it.
It's going to be the hardestjourney, but such a rewarding
and beautiful journey Becausethere's nothing about.
I think that's also why peopledon't want to work on themselves
(40:16):
, because you really get tolearn yourself the bad, the good
we scared of that, we scared ofthem things.
Speaker 1 (40:24):
So we'll continue to deal with negativity, toxicity,
we'll still deal with outdatedthinking methods because we are
scared of leaving that alone.
We not, I'll tell you right nowanybody that is ready to
encounter that journey.
I know you feel like thatyou're gonna be by yourself
but're going to align yourselfwith some amazing people.
Denise, you already know You'relearning and you're learning
(40:47):
her baby and once you get tolearning her, hey, I'm just so
excited because you're on ajourney.
You know what I'm saying.
I'm super excited and happy foryou because she is definitely
on that journey.
Excited and happy for youbecause she is definitely on
that journey.
Speaker 2 (40:59):
Even me, because I started my journey as well
during COVID in 2020.
When I look at myself, where Iwas 2020 and how I am here, if I
hadn't done the work to reallylearn myself, I wouldn't have
found the community thatactually accepts me.
For me, I don't have to show upas somebody.
I don't have to hide out.
I don't have to show to to showup as some, somebody.
(41:20):
I don't have to hide out.
I don't have to be afraid ofbeing me.
I want an award.
I have a podcast, people arecalling me to have me.
I've been on panels, I want aguinness.
None of that shit would havehappened.
And also because I I, I waslike yo.
I need a mindset switch.
We are constantly puttingnegative shit in our head or
(41:41):
telling ourselves no, I tell myfriends these days, if you
really want something, I don'twant to hear you say maybe when
I get this, say when I get this,Because even God is not going
to give it to you, because thatchild is not sure if she wants
it or not.
So why should I bless her?
Speaker 1 (41:55):
Hey, y'all got to stop saying them prayers and
you're not taking the actionafter them.
Prayers I'm not saying becauseI am definitely a believer and
I'm definitely more spirituallyinclined in the last year.
I have gotten there.
But let me tell y'all somethingStop talking about y'all
trusting God and y'all believein God when y'all not talking
about it and you're not lettinghim do what he got to do and
(42:16):
you're not letting him do whathe got to do and you're not
taking the actions to make ithappen.
Behind that and I said what Isaid Okay, period.
Speaker 2 (42:22):
It takes faith and walk.
You gotta have faith that Godgot you.
And sometimes we say we havefaith, we prayed on it, but
we're still worrying on it.
Speaker 1 (42:34):
How you have faith God got you when you're worrying
about that shit that you justprayed, or you still allowing
the same shit that God justshowed you over and over again
that you need to eliminate?
Speaker 2 (42:43):
Stop blocking your blessings.
Sometimes we are the onesblocking our blessings.
Speaker 1 (42:46):
We're always the one blocking our blessings.
Speaker 2 (42:49):
I wanted to touch on the unlearned part right, and I
feel like most people are scaredabout that, because most of us
who grew up right we will allthe things we learned we learned
from our parents orgrandparents.
This is good, this is bad, butas we are growing up right now,
even some of us, our parents arealso working on themselves.
They finally got to the point.
Speaker 1 (43:10):
My mom is 75 years old and she's working on herself
.
But you know why?
Because I'm working on myself.
Speaker 2 (43:17):
And you're having those conversations and they're
learning that they were alsowrong.
That was not right.
So that's why it is soimportant to literally work on
yourself and have this mindsetswitch, because it opens you to
a different world, a world thatyou're actually going to be seen
and you're going to win.
The reason you're not winningor being seen is because of that
(43:40):
mindset that you have.
You are now outdated.
Speaker 1 (43:43):
I call it outdated thinking.
You're an outdated thinkingmethod.
It's the outdated mindset.
You've got to figure out whoyou are.
You've got to figure out whatyour beliefs and values are, and
you got to be unapologetic infiguring that out.
You are going to lose peoplealong the lines, y'all.
You are going to losefriendships.
You may lose relationships, youmay even no longer associate
(44:05):
with certain family members, butthem sacrifices are necessary,
and I don't even say I got to bebehind it.
Speaker 2 (44:12):
They will not want to be there for your mental health
and it heals your mental health.
I'm not going to say youranxiety or depression is gonna
go away.
No, it's gonna be less, becausenow you have a clear sense of
who you are, what you want andyou have a clear sense of the
support that you actually need.
That's gonna help you walkthrough this journey with you.
(44:33):
The reason we get depressed oranxiety or all that is because
we are trying to be what wereally aren't.
Speaker 1 (44:42):
You better talk about it that struggle real, you try
to fit.
You trying to be something thatyou know good and well, you
struggling with.
You try to do something thatyou know is having an adverse
effect.
You trying to do stuff that youknow is having an adverse and a
negative effect on you.
We got to stop punishingourselves like that.
We're not supposed to acceptthings that cause us negativity,
(45:04):
that cause us havoc, that causeus frustration.
We are not supposed to deal andwe're not supposed to accept it
.
I don't care who it is.
I had that conversation with myentire family.
I sat them down and said,listen, I'm to the point
mentally in 2020, I had sat themdown and said, listen, I'm to
the point mentally in 2020, Ihad set them down and said,
listen, I'm to the pointmentally where I'm not ready to
hurt somebody or myself.
(45:24):
And it got to that point.
And I know it's so many of usespecially women, I know, and
men too, because I have beentalking and conversing with more
men here lately.
You know I'm trusting myprocess in that.
But we got to stop holding stuffback.
We got to stop suppressing ouremotions.
(45:45):
You ain't being confrontationalby getting your emotions out.
You're not trying to be messyand drama field, because you
want to express your emotions.
We should be able to do that,and I'm not going to be around.
Anybody that feels like mesaying something to you about
how I feel.
Is me coming to you with dramaor being negative and stuff like
(46:08):
that.
No, I'm ready to have aconversation with you.
But that's all evolved with areconditioned mind and that's
all involved with the journeythat I have been on the last
three and a half years and Iteach my clients how to do the
same thing and they love me forit.
But I'm still Keisha.
I'm still me.
I still talk shit.
Speaker 2 (46:26):
I'm still hey, I'm still that person and I think
that the idea we have that thelife we live is supposed to be
what it is.
You work, you get married, youhave a house, you have kids and
you just keep on working.
Hey, baby, that's the goodthing about working on yourself
you learn that it's okay to livea different life, it's okay to
(46:48):
want bigger things, or even ifyou want smaller things,
whatever life you want thatbrings you happiness and peace,
you can have it.
You just need to go out thereand get it.
Speaker 1 (47:02):
Straight like that.
Speaker 2 (47:03):
Now we are coming up to an hour, so I want to make
sure people know about the eventthat you got coming up?
Speaker 1 (47:09):
Oh yes, absolutely, I have two.
So this Saturday, february 10th, I actually am a guest speaker
at the second annual galentine'sdate event here in peoria,
illinois.
Um, I definitely am superexcited about that.
It is a sneaker ball, so Idon't want got me some little
bling shoes.
I think I'm gonna be cute.
Saturday well, I don't know ifit's still tickets available for
(47:31):
that.
I know I got some of myfollowers watching, so if you're
peoria illinois, you can checkout my website and see if
there's still tickets available.
I'm not in charge of thosetickets, but I will tell y'all.
Renewing our resilience likeMarch 16th Listen me and my girl
, noreen of Save Our Sisters.
This is our second annual eventwe had.
(47:53):
We do it in honor of Women'sHistory Month and this year we
felt like renewing ourresilience.
Managing life after loss.
We know that so many peoplehave dealt with loss in so many
different ways from death tojobs, to finances, divorce,
relationships, family.
You know just so many differentlevels of loss and we all want
(48:16):
to come together, bond, buildfrom that and create a
supportive community based offof that.
We are going to have full lunchavailable.
We have women vendors that aregoing to be in the house.
We are doing a panel stylistmyself, noreen Erica Bayard and
Philanda James.
She's the president of NAMITri-County here in Illinois.
(48:37):
That's the National Alliance ofMental Illness.
We are going to have, like,mental awareness resources,
mental health resources.
It's just going to be so manythings going on there.
I'm super geeked about it.
Tickets are on sale onEventbrite, y'all, and, like I
said, if you are here in Peoriaand you're catching this live,
you can definitely stop by.
Speaker 2 (49:05):
If you're not familiar with Eventbrite, I can
go ahead and take care of thatticket for you here at my office
at 2104 West Moss here in WestPeoria.
So that's an event I want to.
I'm working on making shithappens.
Speaker 1 (49:14):
I say the worst is, you say the word and it's up,
baby.
Speaker 2 (49:18):
But also let the people know about UPM Switch.
Speaker 1 (49:21):
Absolutely so.
Upm is a resource hub that Ihave with my co-owners and it is
a resource center for personaland entrepreneurial development.
We also have other smallbusinesses in UPM.
We have our brow and lash techthat actually got me together
today, you know, being able tohave that in-house.
We have another business ownerthat carries custom-made jewelry
(49:43):
and organic skin and hair careproducts.
We also have small rentalspaces that are available.
We have a suite availableactually as well, but we are
just here to, you know, buildcommunity within UPM, but also
make resources available.
We do business cards, we doposters, banners.
We create all of those thingsfor you.
(50:04):
So only thing I can tell you isto just go check out the
website upmsuitesilcom.
You'll see everybody that's inthere, some of the products we
have, and it's just.
You know, I just love beinghere because we are a family
here at UPM as well, and, youknow, building that community,
too, is just so dope to me.
Speaker 2 (50:23):
I love that.
I love that Now, before we go,leave an advice for somebody out
there who's looking totransform their life, but they
don't know how or where to start, because sometimes that can be
hard right.
Trying out, like where do Istart?
Do I just pray to God?
Do I go into?
(50:43):
Do I go into the river and andright come back and I'm divorced
.
Like where, where do?
Speaker 1 (50:51):
I go, so I will say this um, really, just start
sitting down and justself-reflecting.
Think about the things that arecausing you stress.
Think about people, places,things.
I say this write a letter toyourself.
Right, if you are truly readyto begin the journey of
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self-discovery, mindsettransformation and becoming your
most unapologetic self, thenit's time to write that letter
to self, and you need to writeeverything that you know.
That has been good, bad ugly.
I did that in 2020 and myletter was six pages long, but
when I tell you, it was the mostfreedom-minded thing that I
(51:36):
could have done.
Oh my God, y'all.
It was so exhilarating just tobe able to put that out there,
because what it does is it takesit out your mind and it puts it
on paper.
So now you're, able to get asense of clarity about where it
is that you want to go movingforward.
Get you some resources together.
(51:57):
Start asking yourself thoseuncomfortable questions, those
questions that you're runningfrom.
It's time to start answeringthose questions.
You can talk to yourself andyou can answer back.
You're not crazy.
Okay, get some resources.
If you need to talk to acounselor, be okay with that.
We are not crazy.
We are breaking that stigmay'all.
If you feel like you need totalk to somebody because your
(52:17):
mind is racing 80 miles an hour,go talk to somebody about it.
You're not crazy.
If anything, be proud becauseyou are taking the steps to
become the more empoweringversion of yourself, and that's
so necessary.
But start with self.
Start figuring out what yourenergy zappers are, because it's
going to be a journey, it'sgoing to be a process.
(52:39):
It's a process and journey.
That's necessary, and don't puta time on it right now until
you start that self-discoveryjourney and then you can start
setting those things.
But just be intentional insaying that I'm going to put in
the work to make it happen.
Speaker 2 (52:56):
I love that.
Thank you very much for sharingand talking to to me and you
can talk forever and ever.
You know we, we, we go it andyou know you always welcome back
to.
Speaker 1 (53:05):
shit happens anytime, cause we just have all these
conversations, absolutely, y'all, don't forget to tune in to a
power and real talk.
Speaker 2 (53:12):
I was about to tell you that the people know where
they can find you, where theyconnect what.
Let the people know where theycan find you, where they connect
what you're all about.
This is the time to brag andsell yourself.
Speaker 1 (53:21):
So, yeah, I have two.
My Instagram is CoachKayWDS, orEmpowering Real Talk, which you
can follow both of those.
Facebook is CoachKayWoods.
You can just pretty muchhashtag CoachKayWoods and you
will definitely find me.
But my websites areUpgradedMindsetslife, if you're
interested in learning moreabout the services and products
that I offer.
(53:41):
Upgradedmindsetsshop, theEmpowered Real Talk podcast
streams on YouTube, apple,spotify it's pretty much
everywhere.
I'm just dropping some raw anduncut conversations, but those
are the conversations that arenecessary.
These are things to help usgrow personally, professionally,
entrepreneurially, whatever itis you want to do.
(54:02):
You will definitely get somevalue and insight from
Empowering Real Talk, so goahead and follow me over there.
I generally follow back, unlessyou a spam bot, but other than
that, go ahead and follow yourgirl and I definitely will
follow back.
So I definitely just appreciatebeing here, sis, like you've
been so dope, like you such agreat host, and I just love
talking shit with you, you knowalways, always right back.
Speaker 2 (54:24):
I love it, and so thank you all for who joined.
Um, thank you to Denise,Michelle and hey, you want the
comments?
Uh, chopping it up.
We love it when people on thecomment, so shit happens.
We just have raw discussions onshit, you know.
On shit yeah and today wasmindset.
So I hope you all learnedsomething about transforming
(54:46):
your lives and your mindsetswitch and you go do some shit
with that.
Okay Period Until then.
I'll catch you all next timeand, by the way, go follow our
podcast.
Go listen to it If you want tolisten to us more.
I was on our podcast last year.
Speaker 1 (55:02):
Check out our episode .
We definitely own there, babyon YouTube and everything.
Go check us out.
Speaker 2 (55:07):
And whoever can attend those events.
Please go support.
The whole point of this eventis for the community to empower
and support.
So if you're looking forcommunities, you gotta be there.
So showing up is important,just like how you showed up on
these comments.
Go show up period let's get it.
Speaker 1 (55:41):
Shit, shit happens, shit, shit, shit, shit happens.
Speaker 2 (55:51):
Shit happens, shit happens, shit, shit happens,
shit happens, shit happens.
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