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Kristen (00:01):
Hey everyone, welcome
back.
I am so excited today to have myfriend Tiffany on here.
Tiffany, I've known each otherfor a while and she has so many
cool things.
She's one of the coolest peopleI know and I'm so excited that
she agreed to do this and talkabout all the super cool stuff
she has going on.
Hi Tiffany.
Tiffany (00:20):
Hi, I'm so excited to
be here.
Thank you for inviting me on theshow.
I can't wait.
Kristen (00:25):
Yes, so for people who
don't know you, can you give us
a little introduction of whoTiffany is?
Tiffany (00:33):
Yeah, absolutely.
So my name is Tiffany Patterson.
I am a certified natural healthprofessional, a transformational
life coach, and I'm an angelicreiki master teacher.
And I'm also part of the sacredpriesthood.
I actually did a priestess walkin Colorado for a year and a
half.
And one of the big things that Ijust really focus on is, just
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overall complete women wellness.
And it takes all kinds ofdifferent layers and levels.
We look at the energy side ofthings, the spiritual side of
things, physical, mental,financial, all of the wellnesses
you can think of.
You can't have one without theother.
And if any one of them is out ofbalance, you're all out of
balance.
I focus on all of that.
And in that shell and justreally helping women, shift back
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from feeling stuck anddisconnected and exhausted until
a place where they are fullyaligned, deeply embodied, and
just absolutely thriving.
So I'm so excited to be here.
And I'm like, really excited tostart diving in and
conversations with you.
Kristen (01:34):
Yeah.
And like, all of that is soexciting, because I feel like
that's where I've been so often.
And I think so many of thelisteners have to is just that
stuck There's no other way forit.
Like we're surviving, we'regetting through, but getting to
that next level of actuallythriving, I think is something
that so many people long for,but they don't know how to
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attain it on their own.
Tiffany (01:57):
Yeah, absolutely.
And that's one of the biggestthings and I work with women and
men and kids, but I mainly focuswith women because there's just
been this huge movement,especially after the pandemic
that, we really realize that weweren't in control of.
What we thought we were incontrol of and there's a lot of,
things of us being told of whatis acceptable, what's not
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acceptable, what we should bedoing.
And, all of these standards andit's they're not even ours and
they're so outdated that theydon't even support us anymore.
And so I feel like I'm that,that disturber, like I'm that
disruptor that everybody neverknew they needed because I'm
like, no, I'm going to call youout on your stuff.
And I'm like, and I'm, I feellike I'm very sweet and loving
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when it comes to coaching.
It's listen, I'm going to tellyou what it is.
I'm going to call you on yourstuff because somebody has to
bring this awareness into you.
Our lenses into our field sothat we can understand Yeah,
this is what we've been taughtto do.
And there's no wrong in that.
But as we continue to evolve asa human race, we also need to
involve, evolve all of thethings that support us.
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And we just haven't done that.
And so that's the thing that Ilike to do is I like to be that
disruptor into people's livesand saying, Hey, you know what?
Is this even yours?
If you had the choice, is thiswhat you would actually choose
or would you choose somethingdifferent?
And that's the tough love thatpeople really need to start
pushing through and alsorealizing what is an alignment
for us and what isn't analignment for us.
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And I think that's one of thehardest pieces of my job, but
also one of the most.
gratifying things becausewhenever I see people like
understand and it just clicks,their growth and their healing
and their wellness justskyrocket.
And it's a beautiful thing towatch.
Kristen (03:41):
I love that.
Now, can we take a step back andtalk about how you got into
this, and you've got all thedifferent titles, your life
coaching and your Reiki, all thestuff you have.
How did it start?
What made you interested?
What came first and led to theother?
Could you take a couple minutesand lead us through your story
that got you to here?
Tiffany (04:01):
Yeah.
So what's actually really funnyis I was born and raised in a
Southern Baptist church, likeanybody around here, most people
have been to church or No, andunderstand just how the church
works, functions and processes.
And so at a very young, earlyage, I always knew I was
different.
I could feel and sense thingsthat other people couldn't.
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I could hear and see things thatother people couldn't.
And whenever I was bringing itup to my family and to, my
mentors and church, the, a lotof the things I was.
basically told to was we don'ttalk about that.
Or, it's not really somethingthat's, we don't do that.
That's not of God was like thebiggest thing that I got.
Kristen (04:46):
That's not biblical.
That's not biblically
Tiffany (04:48):
sound.
Exactly.
And, and I'm not shaming myfamily or my church or anything
like, I love them all to death,but I'd never had that support.
And so I actually hid myself, mytalents for a really long time
until I turned 18 and I decidedto abruptly leave my parents
household so I can do my ownthing.
And I actually started withangelic mediumship because that
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was the thing that I knew.
I could definitely hear and seethings that people couldn't and
I wanted to do it in a way thatwas still safe but also a gift
because God gave me this giftfor a
Kristen (05:23):
reason
Tiffany (05:24):
and how am I supposed
to help support anybody or you
know help people heal if I can'texpress that or lean into or
work with.
And I did go through an angelicpractitioner program.
I learned mediumship.
I learned how to read cards andjust really starting getting
really good with like energyhealing.
And from there I went intoReiki, which wasn't exactly my
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cup of tea.
I actually hated it.
Wow.
But I started doing a little bitmore research and I found
Angelic Reiki.
And so I traveled to Coloradobecause I was the closest
practitioner.
And I actually took little babyRaya.
She was probably two or threeyears old.
And little Xavier was only a fewmonths old.
He wasn't even walking yet.
And we loaded up in the car, dida 13 hour drive out there.
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I got certified.
We went back the next month.
I continued my certification forthree straight days to become a
master teacher.
So then I can bring it back hereto Missouri as the first Angelic
Reiki practitioner and teacher.
And I started teaching and doingall that stuff here, which then
just continued to lead into my,naturopathy during the pandemic
because I wanted to look moreholistically versus chemically.
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And then we got into all theother things like the coaching
and homesteading and just livingour lives.
Kristen (06:40):
Oh my gosh, I love that
so much.
And it's interesting how onething led to another and led to
another to where you are nowwith all the stuff you have
going on.
Tiffany (06:51):
Yeah, it was really
interesting because after I did
my first attunement.
As a master and just traditionalReiki, I actually started seeing
these really cool symbols.
And I actually have it tattooedon my arm now and I kept drawing
them over and over again.
And I took it back to my Reikimaster and I was like, Hey, what
are these symbols?
I can't find them anywhere.
And she goes, honestly, I'venever seen them before.
So I actually started lookinginto them some more and I
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learned that they were calledZaibu symbols.
Okay.
And they're angelic symbols.
And I started looking into theangelic, like meaning and
everything.
And that's how I came across theangelic Reiki.
And I knew I wanted it and wedidn't know how we were going to
make it happen, but we did.
And it has been such a lifechanging thing.
I actually went up to Canadaafter doing a in depth two year
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program of just called thedisruptor
Kristen (07:39):
code,
Tiffany (07:39):
which is really similar
to the naturopathy that I've
been learning and working withas well, but it's brought more
in.
Of like the energetic of likeanatomy and things like that,
which I thought was just superfascinating.
And so I do a nice blend of allof it.
Kristen (07:55):
That is so cool.
Do you see common themes thatwomen have, or can you tell us
what some of the common themesare that you see over and over
with women?
Yeah.
Tiffany (08:06):
Yeah, so I have to say
the thing I see the most is
women know they want more.
They know that there's somethingstarting there's something new
there's got to be something thatis More to life than what we
have right now and it's nothingwrong with that because even
people who are very highlysuccessful they get to a point
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where At some point, they stillwant to continue to thrive.
They still want to continue togrow, or they just want to shake
things up a little bit.
And so a big thing that gets inour own way is our own self
sabotage.
We start getting ourselvesoverwhelmed because of all the
information overload.
And we're just like, Trying todo all the things at once
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instead of breaking it down intomore manageable pieces, or we
allow society to just basicallybreak us.
I think is the biggest thing andwe don't follow through.
And so it's not that we'refailing at what we're trying to
do.
It's just, we're not findingthat right.
State that we need to putourselves in so that our bodies
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feel safe.
They get out of that fight orflight mode so that we can
actually start being more intune with ourselves.
Because when you're constantlystressed out or worried about
things or just not allowingourselves to slow down and
process and heal, our bodies areconstantly in that fight or
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flight mode.
And it's never a, it's neverallowed to actually reset.
Okay.
And if we're not letting ourbodies reset, then it's not
balancing like it needs to, orhealing like it needs to, which
is where we're going to startseeing the chronic pain, the
stress, the unbalanced hormones,the physical, just Exhaustion
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that we're constantly feeling ona day to day base.
And then we're drowningourselves a coffee all the time
and coffee actually feels moreof that.
Then what it would if we wouldactually take the time to do
more water or do, Something thatlike protein is really like the
biggest thing that we need todo.
And a lot of people just don'tdo that.
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Not that coffee is that I lovemy coffee, but there's a
difference between a cup or twoof coffee and two or three puffs
of coffee.
And so Those are the kinds ofthings that we just have to
start being more mindful about.
Kristen (10:23):
So I feel very called
out by everything you just said.
But it's because I think I'mthat target audience, like the
exhaustion, both mentally,physically I feel like I'm
always stressed.
I haven't been diagnosed withADHD, but I feel like I have
some version of adult ADHD.
When my brain is always going 5,000 times a minute, like I can't
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ever shut it off.
And it is always fight or flightbecause I'm like scared of
something and not likephysically ah, there's a lion
going to eat me.
But all the other things thatare going on, the anxiety that
builds, but then feeds thestress, which then makes me more
nervous, which You know, I canfeel it through my whole body
and yeah, the coffee is a forreal thing.
(11:05):
I know I'm drinking a lot of it,probably too much, but at the
same time it is, it's I don't dodrugs.
I don't do a lot of alcohol.
Like for me, like the caffeineis where I get my boost yay, I
feel good.
Life is good.
This is wonderful.
But that's just, it's almostjust covering up like it's a
bandaid.
Like it's something that kind ofgoes over everything else and
it's not getting me anywhere.
(11:27):
But what I want to talk aboutfrom everything you said, aside
from me being convicted, becauseI clearly have all the things
wrong.
You mentioned society, and Iwant to pull this thread a
little bit longer, because I'mcurious some of the things that
you think society is doingagainst women, because I have
all these theories where, We seemean girl culture, which I
believe is still very huge.
Even in adult women lives,there's always women talking
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about other women, tearing themdown and it's almost acceptable.
Like people just Oh yeah, meangirl mentality, whatever.
And it's not something that'sactually done it, but there's
also the different society,working moms.
It's great to be a working mom,but make sure you're still
making time for your family andyou're doing all these other
things and you can have it all,but you still have to do it all.
And there's a lot of thosethings.
is still expected.
(12:11):
So I'm curious in your words,what do you think are some of
the biggest pressures thatsociety is putting on women?
Tiffany (12:19):
Yeah, and this is
probably not the best movie to
quote, but this reminds me ofthis speech and Barbie where
she's talking about literallythis, like we're expected to be
this person and this person thatcan't be too fat or too thin or
too, it has this just pictureperfect what it's supposed to
look and feel like as a womanand as a mom.
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It's not even it's not evenreal, the perfection is an
illusion because what I seeperfect versus what you or
somebody else would see asperfect are completely two
different things.
And so we're chasingperfectionism and it's not even
a thing, it's a completeillusion.
And so I think the biggest thingthat I struggled with society
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was that.
You have to work a nine to fivejob in order to be successful.
You have to go to school andcollege in order to be
successful.
You have to, do all of thesedifferent things.
And it's instead of the systemsupporting us, I feel like it's
trying to break us more thananything.
Do I believe in Westernmedicine?
Absolutely.
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If I'm in a car accident, youbest believe you're strapping my
butt in an ambulance and takingme to a hospital.
However, if my kids arestruggling with, let's talk
about all of these sick kidshere lately.
You don't need to keep puttingall of these crazy medications
and things in their bodies.
There's a way to naturally getthem out of it.
So Xavier actually, for example,ended up he's.
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My sweet boy for those of youguys who don't know he's seven
and a half and he ended up withinfluenza A.
And if you've known anybody whohas currently recently got the
influenza A, it is a doozy thisyear.
And I have seen grown adults whohave been wiped out for almost
17 plus days.
Oh my gosh.
And so whenever I learned thathe got it, he's already immune
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compromised with his asthma.
His little lungs just got overthe whole walking pneumonia
thing that he ended up with inJanuary.
So my mind, I just, I lost itbecause I'm like, Oh my gosh,
this is not good.
Kristen (14:17):
And so
Tiffany (14:17):
I went to my, so I'm
actually got some indigenous
blood.
My great grandma was since aCherokee Indian.
And so I busted out one of thesebooks that my grandma gave me of
just like indigenous homeremedies.
And one of the things that theyhad for the flu was to chop up
onions.
Stick them in your sock and letthem sleep with the onions and
their socks overnight.
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And I'm not kidding you, hewould literally rent from a
miserable child with body aches,105 fever, couldn't keep his
head up, didn't have anystrength to hardly get off the
couch to go to the bathroom, toa kid that we couldn't get to
sit down.
Wow.
he had it for less than threedays.
No fever, we were able to breakthe fever that once he was
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diagnosed, I started doing thehome treatment and I'm not
saying this is going to work foreverybody, because everybody's
bodies are different.
But he didn't need to have allthe antibiotics and all the
things.
I actually didn't prescribe himanything because it's a virus
like you can't do anything forthat.
And it's just being mindful thatthere's more healthier
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supportive ways to support ourbodies even whenever we have
these difficult viruses that aregoing around that doesn't
include us just having to pushthe medication or You know the
other thing too is You It's socomplicated and getting the
things that we need just as faras like the food and
everything's, Prices arechanging and everything's
shifting and all this stuff andit's all fear tactic And that's
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what I can't stand about thislike the way that society sets
up all these Expectations isit's so fear driven.
They don't want us to not befearful of something or another.
It's a control tactic.
It is.
And and I love the church, butit's similar to the whole fear
of God thing too.
When I was growing up, it waslike, Oh, don't do that.
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Cause you're going to go to hellor you can't do this because it
goes against God and you're notgoing to get into heaven.
And Oh, I was always feartactics.
And so whenever I was able tojust step back and be like,
okay, if we look at all of thisin a different way, because I'm
very much still a very strongChristian, I think my faith is
stronger now that I've everbeen.
It literally is just looking atwhat you're being told and then
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Is it actually truth to you oris there some other way that
truth is going to support you ina different manner?
Yeah.
And so that was the thing that Iloved the most about all of
this.
Kristen (16:41):
Yeah, and I think it's
so important to be able to have
your own belief system andunderstanding why you believe it
I recently was talking my friendAlexis about purity culture and
I know you're a little bityounger than I am But you
probably grew up in the samething true love waits and we
were all terrified to not knowdo anything, because Oh, you're
gonna go to hell if you do thisbefore marriage and all this
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stuff.
And Alexis and I were talkingthe same point you just brought
up, there was so much feartactics.
And that's what they were usingto scare us to keep us in line
to follow the quote unquoterules.
And it's crazy that once you arean adult, and you look back at
and you're like, wow, they weremessed up and how they were
doing I believe their heartswere in the right places.
And the intentions were there.
And they were trying to, raisechildren the way they thought.
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They were supposed to in abiblical fashion, but it's just
how it was Pushed towards peoplemissed that and I think messed
us up a lot along the way
Tiffany (17:34):
Yeah, and I totally
agree and I think that's the big
thing too is if we don'tunderstand something and this is
just Like our, like human racein general.
If we don't understandsomething, we fear it.
We don't give it the opportunityto show us, is it going to help
us?
Is it going to support us?
Is it going to hurt us?
I've been doing energy worksince back in 2010, 2011, but it
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did not get popular untilprobably the past year or two.
And if you went to any of thecoast, you can go to East coast,
West coast, didn't matter if youwent to a coast.
They were thriving with energyhealers.
That's why I was going all theway out to Colorado when I first
really dove into this.
It's because there were no otherpractitioners around here that
offered anything like what Iwanted, which was that angelic
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Reiki.
Kristen (18:24):
And
Tiffany (18:24):
so that was my mission.
If I wanted to bring that backhere, I wanted to bring, because
as Christians and as a Christianmyself, having that ability to
just connect to the divineenergy Is a whole different
level of spirituality andhealing.
And that's where things reallystarted to thrive for me.
And, you knew me whenever Ifirst was at my darkest, my
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lowest, we were in the pandemic,pregnant with twins, had the
twins.
It wasn't even four monthslater, became guardians of my
special needs.
This is My health was crap.
It was so bad.
My mental, like my mental healthwas bad.
It was just awful.
And it took me two years tofinally get to the point of
where I'm at now.
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And it has been a very deep diveof a journey.
And so that's what I love abouteverything that I've been
working on and coaching anddoing all the things is because
I was that person.
I was over 250 pounds, so deepin postpartum depression that I
didn't even know if I wanted tostay here.
Oh wow.
And whenever we got to thatpoint where I was like, I hate
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the person that I am.
How can my husband love me?
I'm just, how can my kids loveme?
Because I can't even move andplay or do anything because I'm
just so overweight.
I don't have the energy.
I got chronic pain.
I was having to get spinalinjections because the pain was
so bad with my sciatica.
I couldn't pick my babies up outof the bed because I was afraid
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my back was going to lock up andI would drop them.
Like it was the darkest time ofmy life.
And if I can go through that andbe.
where I'm at today, I want toshare my story with women
because you're not alone.
There's so many women that hidtheir miscarriages.
That was something that myhusband and I battled with by
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ourselves.
We struggled with I struggledwith postpartum depression and I
did that for about nine monthsuntil I finally realized like,
This is actually not me.
This is not who I am.
And it's after I've startedsharing my story, it's so many
women that I personally knew,and I'm like, I had no idea.
And they're like, girl, I had noidea.
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And I said, we need to stophiding.
We need to start sharing ourstories and being truthful with
each other, because that is howwe're going to support each
other and start thriving.
But as you mentioned before, wehave to stop.
judging everybody because nobodyhonestly knows what that person
is going through until they'rein their shoes.
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And so we got to stop with theseclicks.
We got to stop with the Oh, myhouse is cooler than your house
shenanigans.
As long as you have a roof overyour head, your family's healthy
and fed, you're, happily in amarriage or happily living your
life.
It doesn't matter what yourhouse looks like.
Kristen (21:11):
It
Tiffany (21:11):
matters what is
happening inside that house and
how everybody is living.
Are they happy?
Are they thriving?
Are they struggling?
We need to start being more openwith what we have in our lap so
that we can start actuallyhealing.
As an entire whole and reallystart just embodying that
support that women aredesperately craving right now.
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I think too.
And that's the other thing thatI love just helping with.
Kristen (21:38):
Yeah, and I think so
much of what you're saying
connects to what we were talkingabout earlier, too.
I still think it's a societything, too.
It's like hiding it.
You're talking about, I didn'tknow these women were going
through this.
They didn't know I had gonethrough it.
Because we're told, back to whatyou're saying, Be perfect.
Be the happy little wife, be thegood little girl, nothing can be
wrong with you.
And I feel like there's so manyof us that are like walking
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around masked.
Like we've got them out.
We get the happy face oneverything's fine.
Don't let anybody knowanything's wrong because and
then I know personally Istruggle I don't want to tell
anybody what's going on becausethey don't really care.
And then it just looks like I'mcomplaining and I don't want to
talk about what's going on andmake people feel bad.
And then there's theinsecurities too.
too.
I don't want people to think Ican't handle this or I don't
like, I'm not in control.
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Like they need to think that I'mbetter than this, that I can do
it.
And I struggle with that a lot.
I think that's partly why Istarted the podcast too.
I say, talk with Kristen with anE because it's cheaper than
therapy because so much I thinkis therapy for me too, is I'm
going through things that.
I learned as a young woman orthought of the insecurities I
have in confronting them on myown.
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And, this is who I am, I've hidfor so long of just trying to be
what I thought everybody elsewanted me to be that I lost
myself along the way.
And here it is, I'm 41, almost41 and a half.
And it's it's time that I can bethe real me and be unashamed of
who I am.
Like.
This is all of me and you canlike me or not, but I have to
get past that because I'm areally bad people pleaser too,
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but I've got to get past that,that I can't always worry about
what people are thinking aboutme.
But before I can get to that, Ihave to love myself first.
And that's another piece where Ithink self worth is very hard.
And I'm sure you've seen thatwith a lot of people you've
worked with.
So what are some of the tips oradvice you give people from how
to heal on the inside andrebuild their self worth?
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When they have lost themselvesto their families, to their
jobs, to society, how can you,what, how do you tell them to
find themselves and connect withthat?
Tiffany (23:37):
Yeah, absolutely.
And you know what, this is oneof my favorite things that I
love just, sharing out in publicor in person.
But whenever I, when I came upwith the whole Aligned and
Thriving, like the biggest piecethat I had my students or my
followers do just as a test runto see how it went was, When you
were a kid, what did you dreamof doing when you got older?
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When you were in high school,what was the one thing that you
remember just wanting to, focusin on what were your hobbies?
What were the things that madeyou feel alive, that made you
feel fun, that made you do allof the things that just really
brought that play into yourlife?
Because as women, the older thatwe get, we are and we've been
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focused on supporting for ourkids and making sure that
they're healthy and that they'rethriving and, mine are fairly
young.
I'm finally getting out of thatstage where they don't need me
constantly.
And so it's like I've given allof myself to them making sure
that their needs are fully metbut now that it's Shifting into
the other role where guys stillneed to be there for my kids.
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What about myself, And I thinkthat was the biggest thing too
was Most people don't know whatto do After a certain stage and
like you said you're at thestage now where you're like, I
want to be me I don't care whatother people think of and the
biggest thing that I love doingand I tell people this all the
time obviously it's theperfectionism thing, but People
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are going to talk,
Kristen (25:04):
they're
Tiffany (25:05):
going to talk.
If you're doing well, they'regoing to talk.
If you're failing at life, notthat many of us are, we just
feel like we are, but regardlessof what stage we're in at life,
people are going to talk.
So let them, let them, that'stheir problem, not yours.
And so I am a people pleaser aswell.
And one of the things that Ialso have to teach a lot of
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women is when we're doingeverything we can to support
Friends, family, or children ina way that doesn't actually
allow them to learn the processthemselves or the healing that
needs to be learned in thatmoment, in that situation, we're
actually not helping them.
Instead, we're causing moreproblems.
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Because they're notunderstanding what they need to
do to get out of the situationthat they're in so that they can
move forward.
And I think that's the hardestthing, especially as a parent,
because you want to make sureyour kids know, obviously what's
right and wrong, how to staysafe, how to treat each other,
how to treat themselves, how totreat, all the things, which I
think that the foundations ofthe church come in really well
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with that, about being a goodperson and all the things, but.
But at some point, they're goingto have to start making their
own life choices.
And so this is where that kindof, not freedom, but the, I'm
going to let you decide.
And then based off of yourdecision, as long as they are
safe, as long as they are nothurting anybody or anything or
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causing any harm or destruction,Let them learn from their own
choices, because if we're notallowing them to make mature
choices or things, then we'renot actually allowing them to
grow up or to learn.
As humans, the 1st thing I wantyou guys to understand is.
Take time to be by yourself fora minimum of 10 minutes.
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And I'm not saying hiding in thebathroom either, like actually
genuinely find 10 minutes andyou can either do a quick
workout, you can do ameditation, you can do some
breathing exercises.
Stretch, go lay out in theground and the dirt and just
ground yourself out in nature.
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There is, there's so much thatyou can do in 10 minutes that
will just absolutely reset yourentire system, which is what we
need to do.
And Kristen, you actually talkedabout having that ADHD brain.
I totally have it.
And it is I have so manyconversations happening in my
head at one part of it.
spiritual part of it, my envisateam, and part of it's just my
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brain not being able to shut up.
But one thing that I love to dois put some headphones on.
Go look for ADHD binaural beats.
And just let them play, turn itup, give yourself 10 minutes.
It is the most awkward thingwhen you first try it.
Cause you're not used to yourbrain, not making any kind of
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noise inside of it.
But it is the most, like yourentire body will just melt.
It'll melt.
Like even my husband, he's Idon't know what you're listening
to, but this sounds great.
And I'm like, dude, you shouldput the headphones on.
It's totally different.
And he's this is amazing.
And I'm like, but.
Do something for 10 minutes.
That's going to allow you tojust be you.
If you're really wanting tostart doing some self love, I
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can tell you one of the hardestthings that you can do is to
stand in front of a mirror,completely, just you with no
clothing or anything on andallow the horrible things to
come up in that as you'relooking at yourself.
Okay.
And then once you get done doingthat for about five minutes,
Then do five minutes of justpositive affirmations.
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You can find affirmations onSpotify or any kind of music.
And then just really startempowering yourself and saying,
you know what?
No, I love my body.
Guess what?
My body carried two beautifulgirls at the same time.
My body has allowed me to havethree very healthy pregnancies
and it did it without anycomplications.
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My body has allowed me to do, X,Y, and Z and really start
honoring and thanking ourbodies, even though they might
not be exactly where we wantthem.
They've gotten us To where we'reat now, and we should be
grateful for that.
And so just really giving thataffirmation, that positive,
that, Hey, thank you for whatyou've done for me thing.
As you continue to do thispractice for 30 days, your
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entire script on what say, andhow you feel about yourself will
completely shift and yourconfidence is going to go
through the roof.
And it's going to be a completelife changing thing.
However, you've got to get pastthose first.
Like week because it isuncomfortable and it's hard and
it is brutal.
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But if you get past that firstweek, it gets easier from there.
And once it starts gettingeasier from there, it's like,
why didn't I start doing thisbefore?
And you guys have got to startputting more water and protein
in yourselves.
If you're not doing enough waterand protein, it doesn't matter
what kind of regimen you'redoing to better your wellness or
get in better shape or mentalwellness or anything like that.
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It's got to have that extraprotein and that extra water.
Kristen (30:14):
Yeah, it's true.
And you say the first week isthe hardest.
I imagine the first five minutesis the hardest because I'm
cringing.
And I know, I've heard thatbefore, go through all the
things you don't like, but thentalk about all the things you do
Oh, I have very cute wrists.
I'm very happy with my wrists.
I like my earlobes.
I feel like they're attachedjust perfectly.
But being able to look at thebig things.
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And I mean that like in reallife.
And it's just it's harder to getthrough that.
And you're right.
It's the affirmations.
And it's, relearning the selftalk.
And I think that's the hardestthing.
Tiffany (30:46):
It really is.
And the way that I also reallyencourage, the women that I
coach is to start flipping thescript.
When you start noticing yourselfreally downing on whatever
you're doing, how you'refeeling, whatever you're working
on, or even the way that you'relooking or feeling, So you know
what?
No, that's not how I want tothink or process.
Like instead I'm going todelete, delete, delete.
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I tell my husband, destroy anduncreate that.
That is not happening.
We're not living that life.
But just erase it and then belike, but what I do want or what
I want to affirm is thisinstead.
And so take the negative andflip it to more positive.
And the other thing too is oursubconscious doesn't know the
difference between what'sreality and what's not.
Kristen (31:28):
And
Tiffany (31:28):
so I love to tell my
clients to put your head back up
in the clouds, daydream, startdreaming those elaborate lives,
or, those things that seem sofar out of reach, because the
more we start living in thatbrain, the more we start seeing
ourselves in that space, thataspect, the more we're our
reality is actually going tostart shifting that because our
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subconscious is going to go, OhI thought this is where we're
at, but actually we're overhere.
I need to start focusing onthis.
I need to start bringing in moreof this and like then we start
manifesting the things that wewant to manifest.
And so if you catch yourselfsaying, you know what i'm never
going to get out of debt.
I'm struggling so hard I don'twant to open up the bail the
bills because I don't want tosee what I owe x y and z be
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like, you know what No debt doesnot control me.
I am going to claim this.
I'm going to own this.
And you know what?
I'm going to crush this becauseI am financially abundant.
I am a millionaire mama.
And you know what?
Believe it.
If you don't have that beliefbehind the energy or the
intentions that you're setting,then you might as well just be
throwing wet noodles at the walland seeing that they stick
because you've got to have thatbelief that's going to be there.
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And if you're doubting yourself,even just a little bit, nope,
destroying and create that.
I don't doubt myself.
I am going to make it.
This happened.
And so just having that belief,having that energy behind it,
and then flipping the scriptfrom the negative to the
positive and just reaffirmingwhat it is you're actually
wanting to do.
Kristen (32:50):
That's the thing.
Cause I've heard too, especiallywhen you're working on the self
talk, talk to yourself in a wayyou would talk to a good friend
and you're not going to say allthose mean, hurtful things.
Comments to a good friend, thenwhy are you saying them to
yourself and being able toswitch that, like you said,
delete it and change it and makeit what you want it to be.
And also manifesting.
So this is something that I'vebecome More aware of, probably
in the past year or two.
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And it's because I'll saysomething and I know sometimes
people think I'm joking, but I'mlike, I'm going to manifest it
and I'll sit, I'll talk aboutsomething happening or I'll talk
about it's happened twice now.
I've had two friends that havewanted a job and I've just
talked about so and so is goingto get the job like, oh, I hear
they're hiring for thisposition.
We already know so and so isgoing to get it.
And I'm not kidding you twice.
This has happened withinprobably the past year.
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And it's like you said, it's thebelief and it takes it back to
our biblical beginnings where,faith like a mustard seed, all
things through faith arepossible.
And, it's, we're taught that wayto believe in God, to make
something happen.
And I still believe thateverything does happen for a
greater purpose, God, universe,whatever people want to believe
in.
But I also think thatmanifesting.
And saying things out loud andbelieving that it's going to
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happen and doing the work as ifit has happened or will happen.
I do agree that's huge.
And it's I find myself,manifesting all the time now.
And like I said, I know peoplethink I'm joking because if they
haven't seen it happen on theirown, or it's not something that
fits into their worldview ortheir belief system, like I get
it.
Everybody, is free to believewhatever they want and do
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whatever they want.
But I have seen that.
I really do believe themanifesting thing is for real.
Tiffany (34:24):
Absolutely.
And I love that you said youhave to see yourself there.
You have to believe you'realready there.
But instead of saying, you knowwhat, I'm going to be a million
dollar mama one day.
No, I am one.
I'm already at that point.
You don't have to make me tryworking for it or do I know that
I'm that million dollar mama.
And you have to put yourself inthat place and you have to start
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saying from authority that I amthis person because until you
genuinely believe it yourself,you're not going to be able to
manifest that you're not goingto be able to make it actually
come to life.
If you're still stockingguessing or if you're struggling
to say, one day, one day.
Okay, cool.
That's one day in it.
It's time.
The time is now the times tostep up the times, to show up,
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start shaking things up andhonestly, just not caring what
other people think because it'snot them who has to live your
life.
You have to live your life.
And the other thing too, that wehave to think about it, we are
the examples for our children.
So if our children are seeing usstruggle, if our children are
seeing us, have all thesedifferent things that we're,
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just conflicting withinourselves, what's that going to
teach them, right?
They're going to do the samething.
They're going to withdraw.
They're going to, change whatthey want to do, how they act,
how they believe, how they livetheir life so that it fits the
mold to what, other people wantthem to be doing because that's
what they saw us do, and it's Idon't want to be that person.
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Instead, I want to be the personthat shakes things up, makes you
start questioning everything.
So then you can start figuringout what feels in alignment for
you.
So then we can start thriving.
And it wasn't until, like yousaid, you just got to stop
letting other people, drive thecar.
And drive it yourself that wereally started as a family
seeing the shifts as a whole andit's been really Quite beautiful
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because once you start workingon yourself, your kids are going
to notice They're going to startdoing the same thing Your
partners are going to noticethey're going to start doing the
same things and then all thepeople that they're connected to
And it's a beautiful rippleeffect.
It always reminds me of thatReach out to three people and if
they touch three people and thenthose three people do three
people and then you like, it'sjust a continuation of going out
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even further.
And that's how we start makingthose really big shifts.
Those really big movement andreally just start creating.
a entire lifestyle that peopleare genuinely craving and
genuinely wanting to step into,which is why I've got the
Aligned and Thriving program.
Kristen (36:52):
Yeah, which I do want
you to give us all the details
on that before we wrap up, but Iwanted to make one other point
that I thought of when you weretalking about that.
It is so important for us to beexamples to our kids.
And I have seen that too.
It's so important that I don'twant my son to have the same
insecurities I have, I'd wanthim to do his own thing.
But the interesting thing I'veseen in my situation is that I'm
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actually learning it more frommy son.
He's the kind of person that hedoesn't care what anybody
thinks.
You know this, he's one of theonly boys in the dance class, in
fact, he was the only boy for alittle bit, he's got some of his
friends to join, they've comeand gone, and he doesn't care,
and he proudly tells he was athis soccer team last year that
he was on, it was a new team,and they were like, oh what
other things are you involvedin?
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And he leads with, I'm in a hiphop dance class and I play
basketball.
Like it, he actually went withthat first.
And it's, and I say that there'snothing wrong with boys dancing.
It's just where we are.
It's not a common thing, but hedoesn't let that stop him.
And there's other times likehe'll mix match his shoes or his
socks or whatever on his team.
A few years ago, he was known astwo shoes because he was always
wearing two different shoes.
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And it's he is so secure in whohe is at 11, which is not
something I ever was at 11.
That I am impressed and tryingto follow his example of being
comfortable in my own skin andwho I am.
So I think the point of that isthat we can learn from each
other.
Parents leading childrenteaching parents, like you said
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partners, it's just all about.
learning from everyone.
Tiffany (38:19):
Absolutely.
And I love that.
I love, the confidence that hehas.
And I do know your son and he'sso sweet and I always love him
because his personality is justso genuine.
Kids are our mirrors.
They do really great jobs atshowing us the things that we
need to work on ourselves.
And a lot of this actually comesfrom our parenting too.
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Like, Why am I yelling at mykids over something so stupid?
Like, why does it frustrate methat, they can't just take two
seconds and put their shoes inthe cubby hole that's right
here.
Like, why can't they just throwit in the laundry basket instead
of on the floor next to it?
Like all these things will popup.
Part of that's my ADHD.
Part of it is the fact that I amvery particular and controlling
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because of my ADHD I can see tensteps ahead of everybody else
But I'm like you're slowing medown because now I'm having to
go back Yeah, and so my kids andmy husband are so amazing at
like This is triggering the Fout of me right now.
Why?
What lesson is here for me tolearn?
Or, you know what, look at, anyof our kids that are just
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killing it right now, that aregenuinely being themselves and
doing what's right and justmaking their own.
And it's I want that.
I want to have that ability todo that.
And it's Yeah.
Show me.
And that's the other thing, too,is we have to be willing to tell
our kids, you know what?
Mommy lost her temper tonightand I got really angry and I
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raised my voice and mommy'srealizing that it's not your
fault.
Are you still needing to beaccountable for your actions?
Yes, but showing our kids thatwe too are still working on
healing ourselves and findingour new rhythm as a whole
ourselves and actually takingaccountability for our own
actions is going to teach themto do the same.
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And, it actually, Rhea did thatthe other day, she got really
frustrated with her sister, shesnapped at her, they got in a
big ol fight, ended up both ofthem getting grounded from their
screens it was a huge deal, andthen she comes back and she
goes, Lyra, I just really needto apologize for you, I had a
really rough day at school, andI took it out on you, and I
didn't mean to do that, and I'mso sorry, and it's I looked at
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my husband, and I'm just like,oh my gosh.
Because she learned that from
Kristen (40:28):
you.
Tiffany (40:28):
Yeah, exactly.
Because I've been owning up tomyself and it's really hard to
say, you know what, I messed upor, hey, you know what, I
probably shouldn't have donethis.
But the fact that we're able todo that and be that transparent
with each other, I think is alsogoing to really build those
relationships.
So as they continue being older,getting into those more
difficult situations, they feelcomfortable enough in saying,
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hey, you know what, mom?
I was in this situation.
I don't think I handled it thebest or I didn't know what to
do.
Can we talk about it kind ofthing.
And we have, we expect our kidsto be transparent with us and
honest with us and, accountablefor their actions.
But we also need to beaccountable for our own actions,
which I think is a really hardpiece for a lot of people to
swallow at first.
Kristen (41:10):
Agreed.
All right.
So tell us about Aligned andThriving.
Where can people find it?
How can they find you?
What can you do for them?
Give us all the details.
Tiffany (41:21):
Yes.
So I'm really excited.
I actually launched my first runwith Aligned and Thriving
January 11th.
And I had eight beautiful womenthat committed to stepping on
this 90 day life changingquantum healing journey with me.
And I dive into everything.
We are going to look ateverything from a soul level to
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a spiritual level, to financial,to physical, to nutritional,
mental.
I take all of the differentwellnesses and the things that
make us who we are by design andjust.
Break it all down.
I tear it all down and Ibasically have women start from
scratch and it is one of themost terrifying, the most
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emotional things that you can gothrough in your first week of
the program.
But once again, if you get pastthat first week, that's where
you're going to see thosemassive shifts and changes.
And I've been working withseveral women who are now losing
weight, who are off medication,who are just completely thriving
in all aspects of their life.
I have one mama who is workingreally hard to get full custody
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of her child.
And she's actually got herselfin a stable position to where
she can do that.
I have been working with her fora long time, but she's actually
been like, this program hashelped her really start figuring
out what she wants with herselfand her family.
And she's been doing amazing,but.
I was able to lose a hundredpounds and get my entire
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physical, mental, spiritual selfback in order.
And this is what I'm doing withthe women.
And I can only share what I'vegot because I had to use it
myself.
And I've been there and I'vebeen through the trenches and I
know how hard it is.
But if you're wanting those realtransformation, this is the way
to go.
And it's not about forcingyourself into a better routine.
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It's genuinely about justgetting to the root causes of
what's been holding you back andactually healing and shifting it
on all layers and levels.
And so It's not about doingmore.
It's about doing differently andlearning in a way that's going
to really support you and livinga life of alignment instead of
living a life that feels moreforced, feels more anxiety,
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feels more stressed, feels a lotmore just not in alignment.
And, it's really great.
It's super fun.
I'm actually getting ready tolaunch another run of it again
in March.
And you can find all theinformation on my website, which
is sacred wellness journey.
us.
(43:53):
And then on the top of mine isgoing to be a little tab that
says Aligned and Thriving, andyou can find all the information
there.
You can also follow me onFacebook.
I am on Instagram as SacredWellness Journey.
I am on TikTok, but I don'treally do a whole lot of TikTok
videos.
That's more for me just toshare.
But yeah, and you can reach outto me also via Facebook or
Facebook Messenger or anythinglike that.
Kristen (44:15):
That's awesome and I'll
put all the details in the
description of the episode soyou can get straight to
Tiffany's site and her Instagramand I'll probably put your email
in there too and people canreach out to you whichever way
works best for them and You canhelp us all so we can all just
get past surviving and get tothriving and get ourselves
aligned to where we need to bein all the areas of our life.
Tiffany (44:39):
Yes, absolutely.
And be sure to check out, I haveit's not like a freebie tab, but
I do have my ebook that has,it's really fun.
It's actually one of the onesthat I use as a staple.
It's free.
And it starts just getting youset up for the in depth run of
aligned and thriving with somejust simple suggestions and tips
and things like that.
(44:59):
That, I find very helpful, butif you're actually looking to
have somebody coach you throughthose 90 days and really help
you in getting to those rootcauses and to diving deeper into
really getting to that spot thatjust.
People tend to really bury downdeep inside and forget about
them.
That's where I come in andthat's where this program comes
in.
And, we do build a verybeautiful community of women who
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are going through the samething.
Which gives you that supportsystem that a lot of women are
looking for that's nonjudgmental.
We can be completely raw, openand honest and not even have to
think twice about it.
It's really fun.
It's really, it's a lot of work,but it's definitely worth it.
And if you're really looking forthose lasting shifts and
changes, then this is the wayit'd be.
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It's so much fun.
So
Kristen (45:46):
that's awesome.
Tiffany, thank you so much forbeing here.
And I don't want to put you onthe spot, but I'm going to can I
invite you back to come talkagain?
Cause I feel like there's somuch we still need to talk
about.
Tiffany (45:58):
Yes, absolutely.
And like I said, if you haveanything that like, Hey, I've
got some followers that werereally interested in learning
more about this or this let meknow.
I know you got your podcast andeverything going now, but I can
always share some fun tips andtricks.
And tricks too, if that'ssomething that you're looking
for as Hey, I listened to yourpodcast and this is what I would
(46:19):
like to, or I have questionsfor, I'd like to know more about
I can do that as well too.
Kristen (46:23):
Perfect.
So you heard it first here,everyone, Tiffany will come
back.
She'll answer your questions.
So make sure you get those in,let us know what else we can
talk about Tiffany with.
All right.
Thanks so much, Tiffany.
Tiffany (46:35):
Absolutely.
Thank you guys so much.