How Do I Ask For My Stuff Back Without Feeling Awkward?

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Ever had someone borrow your hoodie, your tools, or your favorite book—and somehow it never makes its way back home? In this episode, Big Slick gets real about the uncomfortable moment when you want your stuff returned, but you don’t want to look petty, desperate, or start unnecessary drama.

We break down the real issue behind “forgetful” borrowers: weak boundaries, not bad memory. People don’t forget what they borrowed—they assume you won’t ask. You’ll learn exactly how to request your belongings confidently, using clear wording, specific timelines, and simple follow-up messages that make the exchange easy instead of awkward.

Then we get practical with preventative strategies to protect your time, money, and sanity:
 • creating a personal “no-lend list,”
 • using quick photo receipts,
 • offering alternatives instead of handing over your valuables,
 • and staying present while something is used so nothing disappears.

We also tackle the repeat offenders—the friends, family members, or coworkers who turn you into their free supply store. You’ll learn how to set firm boundaries, stop over-lending, and protect your peace without guilt or apology.

If asking for your own belongings back feels uncomfortable, this episode gives you the exact words, the confidence, and the mindset you need. Hit follow, share this with someone who’s still missing half their stuff, and drop a review telling us the one thing you’re STILL waiting on.

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SPEAKER_00 (00:05):
You, you, and you.
Yeah, YouTube.
Now, let's talk about it.

SPEAKER_01 (00:15):
What up, what up, what up, what up?
It's your host, Big Slick.
And welcome to another episodeof Talk Your Shit.
But first, I want to give ashout out to all the listeners.
Whether you at home, at work, inyour car, all the truck drivers
on the road, I appreciate youtuning in.

(00:36):
Look, we got another greatepisode, like we always do.
And I'm about to jump into thisletter that was sent in, and I'm
gonna give my honest opinion onit, like I always do, and I'm
gonna talk my shit while I'mdoing it.
Let's jump right in.
When someone borrows things andnever returns them, people often

(01:00):
borrow my things and forget toreturn them.
How do I ask for them backwithout feeling awkward?
All right, let's jump right intothis one.
So, people is always borrowing.
So, listen, first of all, whyare you letting everybody borrow
your shit?
First of all, why why are youlending out all your stuff?

(01:23):
That's the let's look at thatfirst.
Stop letting people borrow allyour stuff, right?
And you're saying people, sothis is this is not you're not
just lending something to oneperson, you lending your stuff
out to different people, right?
And you're not getting nothingback.
So when you lend something outto one person, and then another

(01:47):
person comes, and then you lendout something else, but you
ain't get the first thing thatyou lent out from the the first
person, then you the one overhere tripping.
You you you you know you the onebugging over here, right?
So the word is out to come toyou to get free shit.
That that's what it is becauseyou just giving away, you know.

(02:07):
I'm saying so you might as welljust call yourself a charity.
You might as well don't even saythat they come in to borrow it,
you might as well just say yougiving it to them because that
right now that's exactly whatyou're doing.
Well, look, I'm I'm gonna helpyou out with this one.
I'm gonna help you out with thisone.
First of all, when people comein, when you letting people
borrow, say no, right?

(02:30):
You can't lend out your stuff toeverybody because a lot of time,
depending on who you're lendingit to, you might not even want
that back once they get a holdof it, depending on what it is.
I you know, some people don'thandle your stuff the way you
handle your stuff.
That's why it's never really agood thing to just lend out

(02:52):
stuff to people because you'llbe surprised once your stuff
gets to their house, yeah, it'sa different story, you know.
I'm saying that ain't gettingwashed, it ain't getting clean,
it ain't getting taken care of,is is is it's crazy.
So that's one thing, but the wayyou handle this, you're talking
about it feels awkward.
I know you just didn't say itfeels awkward.

(03:14):
Do I ask for them back withouthow the hell you feeling awkward
axing for your own shit back?
What are we talking about?
What what do you mean?
How why would you feel it's yourshit unless you let them hold it
so long they think it's theirsnow, and now you gotta borrow it
back from them, which is crazy.

(03:35):
But you shouldn't feel awkward,you should just go, yo, where is
the stuff I let you hold?
You let you just ask for itback.
You shouldn't you should notfeel awkward for asking for your
stuff back.
Now, the way I'm reading this,you might not like confrontation
or the it gotta be because youshouldn't feel awkward for

(03:56):
asking back for your stuff thatyou loaned out.
That's crazy.
So there's no reason for you tofeel like that.
Go get your shit back, right?
Moving forward, don't lend outyour stuff.
Learn to say no.
And what's happening is that ispeople is taking advantage of
you.
That's what's happening.

(04:17):
Like I said, the word is out,they know you're giving out free
shit, so they're gonna just comeask you for the shit, right?
And I'm gonna tell you this whensomebody borrows something from
you, they don't forget.
So don't don't think, don'tthink that's the truth.
When somebody borrows somethingfrom you, they never they do not

(04:40):
forget.
Everybody know what's in theirhouse that they didn't pay for
the same way.
They know that shit is in theirhouse that they paid for, they
know when stuff is in there thatthey borrowed from somebody, all
right.
So nobody knows nobody forgetsabout borrowed money either.
Yeah, a motherfucker act likethey forgot, but they don't
forget if you loan somebodymoney.

(05:01):
Believe me, that person didn'tforget.
They hope you forgot about theshit, but they didn't forget
about it.
I'm telling you, this is a fact.
People do not forget about shitthey got from somebody, they
don't forget about money thatthey got from you, and they
don't forget about stuff theyborrow from you.
They hoping you forget, right?

(05:23):
So if you don't ask, you're notgonna you're not gonna get your
shit back, and that's whenyou're dealing with bullshit
people.
Now, if you're dealing withstraight up people and they you
know they need to borrowsomething, they're gonna give it
right back to you.
You know what I'm saying?
The people that you literallyhave to go back and ask for your
own shit.

(05:43):
Once you get your shit back,leave them people alone, cut
them off because they're usingyou.
Just just leave them alone.
But that's my advice to you.
Go get your shit back, leavethem alone after you get your
stuff back, and stop lendingout.
Stop doing it, you're not goodat it, obviously.

(06:06):
So just stop doing it, stoplending shit out and just start
telling people no, it's okay tosay no, man.
I've been saying this a thousandtimes.
Say no, you live longer when yousay no, man.
It's a stress-free life.
I'm telling you, no feels good,man.
Say no, say, just say it,practice the shit in the mirror
if you got to say no, keep itmoving.

(06:28):
You already know what it is.
This been another yo, theseletters is getting easy for me.
I'm having fun with this shit.
This has been another greatepisode.
You already know a talk yourshit.
And if you want to be a part ofthis show, email your letter
into talk your shit daily atgmail.com.
That's talk your shit daily atgmail.com.

(06:52):
I'll pull your letter, put it onthe show, and give you my
honest, unfiltered, raw, uncutopinion, whether you like it or
not, because that's what I do.
This is Big Slick, and I'm out.
Peace.