September 25, 2025 • 24 mins
This week on the Talkin’ Crazy Podcast, I’m coming in hot — we are talking about expectations, friendships, and why betrayal hurts so bad. Too many of us are expecting “us” from people who were never built like us. I break down:
Why expecting loyalty from everyone is setting yourself up for disappointment
How to stop giving “friend privileges” to classmates, coworkers, and followers
Why fake friends, silent supporters, and secret competitors are dangerous to keep around
How to reevaluate your circle and protect your peace
This episode is about boundaries, accountability, and clarity. If you’ve ever been betrayed, let down, or left wondering why someone you trusted switched up — this one’s for you.
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Some of y'all have brought people into your homes, into
your circles, have shared thingswith people who were supposed to
be your fucking enemy the whole time bro.
And they have given you signs. They have showed you that they
weren't for you. And guess what you've done?
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What's going on, everybody? It's that ordinary podcaster
with the extraordinary thoughts that tells you to stop being
great and be extraordinary. I'm Demetrius.
They then also known as Meetspees.
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And welcome back to another episode of the Talking Crazy
podcast. Now, before we get started with
this podcast, don't forget to head on over to your favorite
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I mean by the lie to you, my my blood is boiling.
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My like, my, my, my, my blood isboiling coming into this
episode, man. And and and you know, honestly,
I'm just gonna go ahead and justsay this shit now.
So that way everybody understands exactly where I
stand on this side of the fence.All right, the talking crazy
podcast meet speaks. We are not affiliated nor are we
associated to pray deck, all right, We we that that that is
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not a thing. OK we are no longer affiliated
or associated to pray deck. I have already reached out to
them to have all my shit pulled off they fucking site.
OK, we do not stand with pedophiles.
We do not support pedophiles. We don't do any of that weird
shit over here. All right, It like, and when I
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say that I'm a just say this right now, man, because I had
heard something, you know, earlier this week, because they
got pulled off the Mick, you know, and I was like, damn, man,
like, well, what the hell they get pulled off the Mick for
like, why, why the hell is you know what I mean?
And but I couldn't find any information.
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I couldn't find any information.Plus, I'm a recruiter, man.
So once again, I can only give out so much of my time.
And I'm scrolling on on on Instagram and next thing you
know, I see the Coda Meyer talking about parade day.
And I'm like, wait a minute. So now I'm looking at it.
And when I found out like the creator was a convicted
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pedophile, I was like, oh, hell no, Oh hell no.
And I'm gonna just say this, man.
I don't like, I mean, but a lot of shit, Loki make you
emotional, bro, because it is just disturbing.
You know what I mean? Like it's disgusting, you know,
because I remember in 2023 beingso excited to be brought out to
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Vegas, you know, alongside them and to find this out, man, Like
I, I, I cannot stress this enough.
We are not affiliated with them,all right?
We don't, we don't stand with pedophiles.
We don't support pedophiles. We don't do any of that weird
shit. But something that stood out to
me and it was something I was just talking about.
Like, I remember just having a conversation and just talking to
him and would have never guessedit, would have never guessed
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something like that. You know, so friendly, so
polite, you know, gives off thisimpression of just being this
good guy. And you honestly just don't know
who the fuck you're talking to. You know what I mean?
Like, you really do not know whothe fuck you're talking to.
And one thing that I have learned is is that, you know,
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some snakes, man, like they do agreat job of hiding, you know,
like they do a great job of hiding, man.
Like I'm having this whole conversation.
I'm like, wow, he's such a good guy whole time.
He's a fucking monster whole fucking time.
And you know, when I sit back, honestly, you know, when we sit
back, just recent events have really been pushing towards this
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episode. You feel me?
Like recent events have really been pushing towards this
episode. And as I reflect on this moment
right here, I also think about, you know, once again, and I
ain't about to keep giving this too much too much spotlight.
I ain't about to keep giving it too much spotlight and I ain't
about to keep talking about it. But I can never help but think
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about, you know, once again, theMarine with the Charlie Curt
situation and how his his close friends got leaked.
You feel me? And I, I wonder, you know, and I
wonder how those people in theremade it into his close friends,
like how those people made it into his inner circle.
You feel me like, did he truly think that they were friends?
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Did they give off this impression?
Were there any signs that these people, you feel me like these
people were working against them?
Who did? Was there any sign of that?
And just honestly, if I really just sit back and just review
the tape of this month, it's been very obvious of what I'm
eventually end up talking about,you know, and one of my one of
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one of my close friends, man, like one of my real close
friends, He he reached out to meand he said like, hey, like this
would be a good episode for you to talk about, you know, just
the problems of with expecting you from other people.
And I say, you know what, man, like that that piece, right?
There's actually been on my mindbecause I'm gonna just be
completely honest with you. And and, and, and once again,
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never speaking from my high horse.
Never speaking from my high horse.
This your captive flying in, flying in from experience
airlines. And I don't know who needs to
hear this. OK, I don't know who needs to
hear this. Alright, but some of y'all have
made friends with people that were supposed to be your fucking
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enemy, OK? Some of y'all have brought
people into your homes, into your circles, have shared things
with people who were supposed tobe your fucking enemy the whole
time, bro. And they have given you signs.
They have showed you that they weren't for you.
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And guess what you've done? You ignored it.
You fucking ignored it. You gave them the benefit of the
doubt. You expected you out of them and
wound up getting hurt. You thought that you were closer
to somebody that was never even close to you to begin with.
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And when I came into this episode, man, like when I came
into this episode, I had the mindset of watch out for these
people. You know, shame on these people.
But let's just go ahead and calla spade a spade because I feel
like my episodes been a little bit more towards us recently.
And and I'm gonna go ahead and I'm gonna close this month out
with another episode for us. And I'm a leaded with some type
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of accountability because at theend of the day, we got to do
better with this. We got to do better with the
people that we choose to work with, who we choose to
collaborate with. We got to do better with the
people that we choose to call our friends.
We got to do better with the people that we bring into our
fucking households that we call,that we share shit with.
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We got to do better. Because if we don't, I promise
you, I promise you we going to keep getting fucking hurt.
We going to keep getting betrayed.
We going to keep getting let down because we doing the exact
same thing and allowing all of this shit to come to us that was
never supposed to be towards us in the 1st place.
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So with that being said, let's go ahead and get started with
today's episode. All right, so First things
first, let's just talk about theexpectation, OK?
We expect us from other people, OK, and a lot of y'all man, like
when I say that we tend to expect us from other people.
Please hear me out, OK, because some of us, we come from good
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homes. You know what I mean?
And when I say good homes, I'm talking about good communities.
I'm talking about we come from come from a background of just
solid. Like you look up the history.
We come from solid individuals. We ain't we ain't used to doing
somebody wrong to get better to be better than we ain't.
We don't do shit like that. We but we come from loyalty.
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We come from being authentic. We'd come from being real.
We come from doing right by the other person because we want
them to do right by us. You feel me, a lot of us come
from a home where it's love thy neighbor.
And the problem with this expectation, let me rephrase
that. This problem with this mindset
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that is that it leads to this expectation.
You feel me that when you encounter somebody that you
think that they come from the exact same things that you come
from. You think that because you came
from a household of loyalty, because you came from a
household of doing right. You came from a household of do
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unto others as you will want them to do to you, that others
will follow it. And you would think that, but
the reality is that's not alwaysthe case.
You feel me? Like that's not always the case.
Some people come from a household where they fucking
have to survive. And, and the way that they had
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to survive was fuck that person,you feel me?
Some people came from a household where everybody around
them, hey, it is fair game. Some people come from a
household where it's like it's either you or me.
And I don't give a fuck how longwe've known each other.
I don't give a fuck how close you think we are.
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I'm gonna make sure that I'm gonna take care of me.
And, and the problem is, is thatyou, you ignore the signs.
You ignore what it what, what it, what it is because you're
expecting you. You know that you wouldn't do
that. So you expect other people to do
that. And I need you to go ahead and
just take that expectation and toss that out of the window.
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Cross that out of the window. Because I will tell you right
now, the disappointment hurts more, right?
Like the disappointment from people letting you down, not
doing right by you. It hurts more because you
projecting your values, you projecting your beliefs on to
them. And that's not even what they
subscribe to you expecting them to be like you or to handle it
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like you or to do the right thing because you would.
And when they don't, that's where the true disappointment
comes from. Because a lot of times it ain't
even the action that really fucking us up.
It's the fact that you sit back and you say, damn, man, I
wouldn't have done you like that.
I want. That's not how I would have did
it. And that's great that you
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wouldn't do it like that. But the reality is, is that that
person, that's how he always wasgoing to do it, and that's
exactly how he's always going tocontinue to do it.
So I will tell you, relinquish, relinquish that expectation that
you have over other people. Now, one thing that we got to
talk about is what friendship actually really means, OK?
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And friendship, to be honest with you, man, it's a bond that
two people share. You feel me?
It's a bond that two people share, all right?
And to be honest with you, I'm just go ahead and just say this,
all right? Because I don't, I don't know
who need to hear this, but you, you don't need a lot of fucking
friends, all right? I remember my Mama saying this
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to me when I was younger, you know what I mean?
Like she used to say, everybody ain't your friend.
Everybody don't have to be a friend.
And as I gotten older, I've realized that everybody honestly
does not have to be my friend. Everybody don't need to be my
friend. You know what I mean?
Like everybody don't need to actually be my friend.
OK? I'm gonna just go ahead and just
say this man, because I don't know who needs to hear this, but
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some people are honestly just fucking classmates, bro.
They're just classmates. Some people honestly are just
coworkers. Some of them are just
acquaintances, some of them are just associates, some of them
are just comrades, some of them are just peers, bro.
To be honest, they don't have tobe your friend, OK?
They don't have to be your friend, and I may even do you
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one even better. To be honest with you, they
don't even want to be your friend.
They are very comfortable with just being exactly what they
already have been assigned to be.
They don't have to be your friend, and they don't they they
probably don't even want to be. We open the door and tell
coworkers to come in. We open the door and tell
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acquaintances, classmates, peers, comrades, cohorts,
associates to come in to be our friend, not realizing that this
friendship, this bond that you are extending to everybody else
is actually a fucking privilege that only a few people should
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have. Earlier when I said my close
friend reached out to me, that motherfucker, me and him is
locked in. You see, I'm saying me and him
is locked in. And and that wasn't something
that just was built like that, that took us time to get to.
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We were kind of, we were at an arm's distance with each other
for a while before we finally let our guards down to have that
conversation, to be able to share that.
And we even moved into steps. And I won't even say this, man,
some of y'all be rushing these fucking friendships.
It ain't your relationship that be fucking falling apart.
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It's your friendships too. Some of y'all be rushing into
having friends the same way thatyou'd be trying to rush in and
have a fucking relationship. You already.
You just met this person and youalready sharing your traumas
with them. You just met this person and you
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already telling them stuff that you you should be taken to your
fucking grave. You just met this person and you
you giving them these things that are very near and dear to
you. To be honest, what you and you
really think about the idea whatfriendship is, bro, like it's,
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it's really a sacred thing. It's really a sacred thing.
That's why it hurts so much whenit's broken, because for some,
some of us man, like some friendships, they last a
lifetime. Some friendships, man, are
deeper than blood. But that's not a bond for
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everybody. And I will even go on and say
this, OK, yo, the people that you follow on social media, can
they become your friends in reallife?
Yes. But everybody that you follow on
social media, that ain't your fucking friend.
They are followers, OK? That's what that's what
Instagram call them followers. And it's OK, all right?
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I ain't trying to talk down to you when I say it.
That's just what it is. All right, I'll tell you right
now. Me speaks.
He got 2020 thousand followers. You think I got 20,000 friends?
Fuck no, absolutely not. No, ma'am.
No, Sir. I got three, I got 3, and I'm OK
with that. I'll live and die by that.
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I know I'm coming into this scenario passionate man, kind of
raising my voice, but at the exact same time, I should really
just need y'all to understand that that betrayal, it really
comes from the fact that we close our eyes and we open our
hearts and these doors to our lives to people that were never
meant to even be there. Just like what I said.
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Some people are your classmates,that's OK.
Some people are your teammates, that's OK.
Some people are just your coworkers.
You gonna see them mother fuckers at work, that's OK.
Some people are just followers that you see on Instagram.
That's OK, they don't. To be honest, some people were
just meant to be your fucking enemy, not your friend.
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And that's OK. You do not have to make them
your friends And, and, and when you finally realize that, I
promise you, you will stop feeling the betrayal.
When they don't live up to your expectation, when they choose to
put themselves before you, When they don't meet you at the same
space that you were willing to meet them.
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I promise you, because they are playing the role that they were
already meant to play. You giving these motherfuckers A
promotion that they don't even rate.
So now we already talked about the expectation.
We've already talked about like the idea of friendship and the
roles that other people will play in our lives.
But here, man. And I'll be remiss if I didn't,
if I didn't bring this up, but you also got to pay attention to
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just people that you have now allowed into your life but ain't
really living up to that friendship role.
You feel me like those fake friends.
And I would just tell you this right now, them silent
supporters that you got them ain't real friends.
You, you feel me? Like them silent supporters.
Some of y'all got some silent supporters in y'all lives, man,
like, and I don't understand whyyou ain't cut these
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motherfuckers off yet, all right?
You don't overcame something that would have broke somebody
and they ain't cheer for you. But but as soon as you mess up
the the criticism is loud, the disappointment is loud.
You feel me? You got to pay attention to
this. And when I tell you, I'm not
telling you to be on the to be on the look, I'm telling you to
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open your fucking eyes and actually just see it because
it's very obvious. I had a somebody in my life that
never cheered for anything. He will always say shit like,
yeah, that's what you supposed to do.
But as soon as I messed up, thatmotherfucker had every critique
I had to get him the fuck up outof here because you ain't for
me. You know them friends where they
constantly are you always agreeing to whatever you want to
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do, even when it's stupid. And I'm gonna just be the first
one to tell you because I might be the most real estate
motherfucker in your life. Some of y'all make dumb
decisions. Some of y'all lack
accountability. And the reason why you continue
to keep doing this type of stuffis because you surround yourself
around people that are too afraid of.
Let me phrase that just honestlyjust do not care to actually
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tell you that you doing wrong, that this is stupid, that this
is going hurt you in the end, that this does not help you.
I'm a promise you right now, that person needs to get out of
your life because they will allow you to walk off a Cliff.
They will allow you to walk intotraffic.
They will allow you to sabotage your relationship.
They will allow you to sabotage your career.
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Get the silent supporters and the people who refuse to hold
you accountable out of your life.
Get them out of there. And, and, and to be honest with
you, the ones who got to go to the ones who got to go first,
all right, is the ones that are always competing with you.
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Now I'm all about healthy competition.
I'm all about that, you feel me?I'm always about like, you know,
friends that are that, that, that compete with me to make me
better. But I'll never be for a friend
that's competing with me so he can be better.
Alright. And I'm I'm, I'm, I'm gonna
break that piece down. I'm all about if we competing
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because you want to see the goodin me and I want to see the good
in you. You want to see the great in me
and I want to see the great in you.
But I will never, never compete with you because I solely want
to be better than you. And some of y'all got friends
like that in your lives. You feel me?
They see you get a new car, but they can't stand the fact that
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you got something better than them.
So they gonna go ahead and go get it.
They will even go as far as sabotaging you.
And when I mean sabotaging you, some of y'all got some people in
your lives that'll withhold someinformation just because that
information gives them the advantage.
And, and and you think that thatperson, your masks, you think
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that person care about you? Hell no, Hell no.
That person. That's why he'd be so happy to
see you fail, because now he gotone up above you.
That's why he can't. That's why he's so happy to see
you slip, see you fall. It's because he now got
something above you. They got to go first.
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But most importantly, as we cometo a close to this episode, I
will say this. All right, here are some things
that you need to start doing within your Life OK, to to
ensure that you do not allow these type of people to come
into your life number phrase that these are some things that
you need to do to ensure that you do not continue to allow
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these type of people in your life.
First things first, stop expecting everything.
Stop expecting you from other people.
Allow people to be themselves, OK?
Allow them to be themselves. Also, I need you to re evaluate
your circle. OK, if your circle is big, then
you better be big. But a what a whole bunch of
solid motherfuckers. But if it's not, I need it to
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get smaller. All right, just like what I've
said earlier in this episode, you do not need to have a lot of
friends, OK? You honestly just need 3 solid
people in your life. You probably just need 2 solid
people in your life. Some of y'all just need one
solid person in your life. And honestly, there's more value
in that person than it would be in 10.
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And most importantly, sometimes you just got to love people from
a distance, All right? Some people ain't got to be up
under the wing. Some people ain't got to be in
the house. Some people ain't got to be
close to you. You can love them from a
distance. But one of the biggest things
that I just want everybody to do, especially as we close to
come to a close to this episode and start to come to a close
this week, do me a favor, OK? I want you to sit with yourself.
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I want you to write down. Or if you don't have it, or if
you don't want to write it down,I just need you to think about
think about the solid people that you have in your life.
Me, I can name 2 right out thereor right off my head.
Shaffer and Peasy, OK, easily. I know that they solid.
I know that they fucking solid. I know that they got my best
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intentions at heart. I need you to sit with yourself,
and I want you to name the people who really have your best
intentions, who really have yourbest interests, who actually do
give a fuck about you. And for the ones that you cannot
think of, they got to go. They got to go because they
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don't mean anything to you and you don't mean anything to them.
And just like that, another extraordinary thought left this
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I'm out.
Some of y'all have brought people into your homes, into
your circles, have shared thingswith people who were supposed to
be your fucking enemy the whole time bro.
And they have given you signs. They have showed you that they
weren't for you. And guess what you've done?
(00:28):
Always say something. This episode is sponsored by
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As we all know, mental health isa huge piece for me.
And recently, as I become a better version of myself, I've
(00:50):
decided that it's time for me togo to therapy because I
understand how life can be a little overwhelming and we all
need help navigating through thetrenches of military service in
and out of uniform. Better Help connects you with a
licensed therapist who is trained to listen and give you
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What's going on, everybody? It's that ordinary podcaster
with the extraordinary thoughts that tells you to stop being
great and be extraordinary. I'm Demetrius.
They then also known as Meetspees.
(01:51):
And welcome back to another episode of the Talking Crazy
podcast. Now, before we get started with
this podcast, don't forget to head on over to your favorite
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I mean by the lie to you, my my blood is boiling.
(02:13):
My like, my, my, my, my blood isboiling coming into this
episode, man. And and and you know, honestly,
I'm just gonna go ahead and justsay this shit now.
So that way everybody understands exactly where I
stand on this side of the fence.All right, the talking crazy
podcast meet speaks. We are not affiliated nor are we
associated to pray deck, all right, We we that that that is
(02:36):
not a thing. OK we are no longer affiliated
or associated to pray deck. I have already reached out to
them to have all my shit pulled off they fucking site.
OK, we do not stand with pedophiles.
We do not support pedophiles. We don't do any of that weird
shit over here. All right, It like, and when I
(02:56):
say that I'm a just say this right now, man, because I had
heard something, you know, earlier this week, because they
got pulled off the Mick, you know, and I was like, damn, man,
like, well, what the hell they get pulled off the Mick for
like, why, why the hell is you know what I mean?
And but I couldn't find any information.
(03:18):
I couldn't find any information.Plus, I'm a recruiter, man.
So once again, I can only give out so much of my time.
And I'm scrolling on on on Instagram and next thing you
know, I see the Coda Meyer talking about parade day.
And I'm like, wait a minute. So now I'm looking at it.
And when I found out like the creator was a convicted
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pedophile, I was like, oh, hell no, Oh hell no.
And I'm gonna just say this, man.
I don't like, I mean, but a lot of shit, Loki make you
emotional, bro, because it is just disturbing.
You know what I mean? Like it's disgusting, you know,
because I remember in 2023 beingso excited to be brought out to
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Vegas, you know, alongside them and to find this out, man, Like
I, I, I cannot stress this enough.
We are not affiliated with them,all right?
We don't, we don't stand with pedophiles.
We don't support pedophiles. We don't do any of that weird
shit. But something that stood out to
me and it was something I was just talking about.
Like, I remember just having a conversation and just talking to
him and would have never guessedit, would have never guessed
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something like that. You know, so friendly, so
polite, you know, gives off thisimpression of just being this
good guy. And you honestly just don't know
who the fuck you're talking to. You know what I mean?
Like, you really do not know whothe fuck you're talking to.
And one thing that I have learned is is that, you know,
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some snakes, man, like they do agreat job of hiding, you know,
like they do a great job of hiding, man.
Like I'm having this whole conversation.
I'm like, wow, he's such a good guy whole time.
He's a fucking monster whole fucking time.
And you know, when I sit back, honestly, you know, when we sit
back, just recent events have really been pushing towards this
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episode. You feel me?
Like recent events have really been pushing towards this
episode. And as I reflect on this moment
right here, I also think about, you know, once again, and I
ain't about to keep giving this too much too much spotlight.
I ain't about to keep giving it too much spotlight and I ain't
about to keep talking about it. But I can never help but think
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about, you know, once again, theMarine with the Charlie Curt
situation and how his his close friends got leaked.
You feel me? And I, I wonder, you know, and I
wonder how those people in theremade it into his close friends,
like how those people made it into his inner circle.
You feel me like, did he truly think that they were friends?
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Did they give off this impression?
Were there any signs that these people, you feel me like these
people were working against them?
Who did? Was there any sign of that?
And just honestly, if I really just sit back and just review
the tape of this month, it's been very obvious of what I'm
eventually end up talking about,you know, and one of my one of
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one of my close friends, man, like one of my real close
friends, He he reached out to meand he said like, hey, like this
would be a good episode for you to talk about, you know, just
the problems of with expecting you from other people.
And I say, you know what, man, like that that piece, right?
There's actually been on my mindbecause I'm gonna just be
completely honest with you. And and, and, and once again,
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never speaking from my high horse.
Never speaking from my high horse.
This your captive flying in, flying in from experience
airlines. And I don't know who needs to
hear this. OK, I don't know who needs to
hear this. Alright, but some of y'all have
made friends with people that were supposed to be your fucking
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enemy, OK? Some of y'all have brought
people into your homes, into your circles, have shared things
with people who were supposed tobe your fucking enemy the whole
time, bro. And they have given you signs.
They have showed you that they weren't for you.
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And guess what you've done? You ignored it.
You fucking ignored it. You gave them the benefit of the
doubt. You expected you out of them and
wound up getting hurt. You thought that you were closer
to somebody that was never even close to you to begin with.
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And when I came into this episode, man, like when I came
into this episode, I had the mindset of watch out for these
people. You know, shame on these people.
But let's just go ahead and calla spade a spade because I feel
like my episodes been a little bit more towards us recently.
And and I'm gonna go ahead and I'm gonna close this month out
with another episode for us. And I'm a leaded with some type
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of accountability because at theend of the day, we got to do
better with this. We got to do better with the
people that we choose to work with, who we choose to
collaborate with. We got to do better with the
people that we choose to call our friends.
We got to do better with the people that we bring into our
fucking households that we call,that we share shit with.
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We got to do better. Because if we don't, I promise
you, I promise you we going to keep getting fucking hurt.
We going to keep getting betrayed.
We going to keep getting let down because we doing the exact
same thing and allowing all of this shit to come to us that was
never supposed to be towards us in the 1st place.
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So with that being said, let's go ahead and get started with
today's episode. All right, so First things
first, let's just talk about theexpectation, OK?
We expect us from other people, OK, and a lot of y'all man, like
when I say that we tend to expect us from other people.
Please hear me out, OK, because some of us, we come from good
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homes. You know what I mean?
And when I say good homes, I'm talking about good communities.
I'm talking about we come from come from a background of just
solid. Like you look up the history.
We come from solid individuals. We ain't we ain't used to doing
somebody wrong to get better to be better than we ain't.
We don't do shit like that. We but we come from loyalty.
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We come from being authentic. We'd come from being real.
We come from doing right by the other person because we want
them to do right by us. You feel me, a lot of us come
from a home where it's love thy neighbor.
And the problem with this expectation, let me rephrase
that. This problem with this mindset
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that is that it leads to this expectation.
You feel me that when you encounter somebody that you
think that they come from the exact same things that you come
from. You think that because you came
from a household of loyalty, because you came from a
household of doing right. You came from a household of do
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unto others as you will want them to do to you, that others
will follow it. And you would think that, but
the reality is that's not alwaysthe case.
You feel me? Like that's not always the case.
Some people come from a household where they fucking
have to survive. And, and the way that they had
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to survive was fuck that person,you feel me?
Some people came from a household where everybody around
them, hey, it is fair game. Some people come from a
household where it's like it's either you or me.
And I don't give a fuck how longwe've known each other.
I don't give a fuck how close you think we are.
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I'm gonna make sure that I'm gonna take care of me.
And, and the problem is, is thatyou, you ignore the signs.
You ignore what it what, what it, what it is because you're
expecting you. You know that you wouldn't do
that. So you expect other people to do
that. And I need you to go ahead and
just take that expectation and toss that out of the window.
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Cross that out of the window. Because I will tell you right
now, the disappointment hurts more, right?
Like the disappointment from people letting you down, not
doing right by you. It hurts more because you
projecting your values, you projecting your beliefs on to
them. And that's not even what they
subscribe to you expecting them to be like you or to handle it
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like you or to do the right thing because you would.
And when they don't, that's where the true disappointment
comes from. Because a lot of times it ain't
even the action that really fucking us up.
It's the fact that you sit back and you say, damn, man, I
wouldn't have done you like that.
I want. That's not how I would have did
it. And that's great that you
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wouldn't do it like that. But the reality is, is that that
person, that's how he always wasgoing to do it, and that's
exactly how he's always going tocontinue to do it.
So I will tell you, relinquish, relinquish that expectation that
you have over other people. Now, one thing that we got to
talk about is what friendship actually really means, OK?
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And friendship, to be honest with you, man, it's a bond that
two people share. You feel me?
It's a bond that two people share, all right?
And to be honest with you, I'm just go ahead and just say this,
all right? Because I don't, I don't know
who need to hear this, but you, you don't need a lot of fucking
friends, all right? I remember my Mama saying this
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to me when I was younger, you know what I mean?
Like she used to say, everybody ain't your friend.
Everybody don't have to be a friend.
And as I gotten older, I've realized that everybody honestly
does not have to be my friend. Everybody don't need to be my
friend. You know what I mean?
Like everybody don't need to actually be my friend.
OK? I'm gonna just go ahead and just
say this man, because I don't know who needs to hear this, but
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some people are honestly just fucking classmates, bro.
They're just classmates. Some people honestly are just
coworkers. Some of them are just
acquaintances, some of them are just associates, some of them
are just comrades, some of them are just peers, bro.
To be honest, they don't have tobe your friend, OK?
They don't have to be your friend, and I may even do you
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one even better. To be honest with you, they
don't even want to be your friend.
They are very comfortable with just being exactly what they
already have been assigned to be.
They don't have to be your friend, and they don't they they
probably don't even want to be. We open the door and tell
coworkers to come in. We open the door and tell
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acquaintances, classmates, peers, comrades, cohorts,
associates to come in to be our friend, not realizing that this
friendship, this bond that you are extending to everybody else
is actually a fucking privilege that only a few people should
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have. Earlier when I said my close
friend reached out to me, that motherfucker, me and him is
locked in. You see, I'm saying me and him
is locked in. And and that wasn't something
that just was built like that, that took us time to get to.
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We were kind of, we were at an arm's distance with each other
for a while before we finally let our guards down to have that
conversation, to be able to share that.
And we even moved into steps. And I won't even say this, man,
some of y'all be rushing these fucking friendships.
It ain't your relationship that be fucking falling apart.
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It's your friendships too. Some of y'all be rushing into
having friends the same way thatyou'd be trying to rush in and
have a fucking relationship. You already.
You just met this person and youalready sharing your traumas
with them. You just met this person and you
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already telling them stuff that you you should be taken to your
fucking grave. You just met this person and you
you giving them these things that are very near and dear to
you. To be honest, what you and you
really think about the idea whatfriendship is, bro, like it's,
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it's really a sacred thing. It's really a sacred thing.
That's why it hurts so much whenit's broken, because for some,
some of us man, like some friendships, they last a
lifetime. Some friendships, man, are
deeper than blood. But that's not a bond for
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everybody. And I will even go on and say
this, OK, yo, the people that you follow on social media, can
they become your friends in reallife?
Yes. But everybody that you follow on
social media, that ain't your fucking friend.
They are followers, OK? That's what that's what
Instagram call them followers. And it's OK, all right?
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I ain't trying to talk down to you when I say it.
That's just what it is. All right, I'll tell you right
now. Me speaks.
He got 2020 thousand followers. You think I got 20,000 friends?
Fuck no, absolutely not. No, ma'am.
No, Sir. I got three, I got 3, and I'm OK
with that. I'll live and die by that.
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I know I'm coming into this scenario passionate man, kind of
raising my voice, but at the exact same time, I should really
just need y'all to understand that that betrayal, it really
comes from the fact that we close our eyes and we open our
hearts and these doors to our lives to people that were never
meant to even be there. Just like what I said.
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Some people are your classmates,that's OK.
Some people are your teammates, that's OK.
Some people are just your coworkers.
You gonna see them mother fuckers at work, that's OK.
Some people are just followers that you see on Instagram.
That's OK, they don't. To be honest, some people were
just meant to be your fucking enemy, not your friend.
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And that's OK. You do not have to make them
your friends And, and, and when you finally realize that, I
promise you, you will stop feeling the betrayal.
When they don't live up to your expectation, when they choose to
put themselves before you, When they don't meet you at the same
space that you were willing to meet them.
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I promise you, because they are playing the role that they were
already meant to play. You giving these motherfuckers A
promotion that they don't even rate.
So now we already talked about the expectation.
We've already talked about like the idea of friendship and the
roles that other people will play in our lives.
But here, man. And I'll be remiss if I didn't,
if I didn't bring this up, but you also got to pay attention to
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just people that you have now allowed into your life but ain't
really living up to that friendship role.
You feel me like those fake friends.
And I would just tell you this right now, them silent
supporters that you got them ain't real friends.
You, you feel me? Like them silent supporters.
Some of y'all got some silent supporters in y'all lives, man,
like, and I don't understand whyyou ain't cut these
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motherfuckers off yet, all right?
You don't overcame something that would have broke somebody
and they ain't cheer for you. But but as soon as you mess up
the the criticism is loud, the disappointment is loud.
You feel me? You got to pay attention to
this. And when I tell you, I'm not
telling you to be on the to be on the look, I'm telling you to
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open your fucking eyes and actually just see it because
it's very obvious. I had a somebody in my life that
never cheered for anything. He will always say shit like,
yeah, that's what you supposed to do.
But as soon as I messed up, thatmotherfucker had every critique
I had to get him the fuck up outof here because you ain't for
me. You know them friends where they
constantly are you always agreeing to whatever you want to
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do, even when it's stupid. And I'm gonna just be the first
one to tell you because I might be the most real estate
motherfucker in your life. Some of y'all make dumb
decisions. Some of y'all lack
accountability. And the reason why you continue
to keep doing this type of stuffis because you surround yourself
around people that are too afraid of.
Let me phrase that just honestlyjust do not care to actually
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tell you that you doing wrong, that this is stupid, that this
is going hurt you in the end, that this does not help you.
I'm a promise you right now, that person needs to get out of
your life because they will allow you to walk off a Cliff.
They will allow you to walk intotraffic.
They will allow you to sabotage your relationship.
They will allow you to sabotage your career.
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Get the silent supporters and the people who refuse to hold
you accountable out of your life.
Get them out of there. And, and, and to be honest with
you, the ones who got to go to the ones who got to go first,
all right, is the ones that are always competing with you.
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Now I'm all about healthy competition.
I'm all about that, you feel me?I'm always about like, you know,
friends that are that, that, that compete with me to make me
better. But I'll never be for a friend
that's competing with me so he can be better.
Alright. And I'm I'm, I'm, I'm gonna
break that piece down. I'm all about if we competing
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because you want to see the goodin me and I want to see the good
in you. You want to see the great in me
and I want to see the great in you.
But I will never, never compete with you because I solely want
to be better than you. And some of y'all got friends
like that in your lives. You feel me?
They see you get a new car, but they can't stand the fact that
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you got something better than them.
So they gonna go ahead and go get it.
They will even go as far as sabotaging you.
And when I mean sabotaging you, some of y'all got some people in
your lives that'll withhold someinformation just because that
information gives them the advantage.
And, and and you think that thatperson, your masks, you think
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that person care about you? Hell no, Hell no.
That person. That's why he'd be so happy to
see you fail, because now he gotone up above you.
That's why he can't. That's why he's so happy to see
you slip, see you fall. It's because he now got
something above you. They got to go first.
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But most importantly, as we cometo a close to this episode, I
will say this. All right, here are some things
that you need to start doing within your Life OK, to to
ensure that you do not allow these type of people to come
into your life number phrase that these are some things that
you need to do to ensure that you do not continue to allow
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these type of people in your life.
First things first, stop expecting everything.
Stop expecting you from other people.
Allow people to be themselves, OK?
Allow them to be themselves. Also, I need you to re evaluate
your circle. OK, if your circle is big, then
you better be big. But a what a whole bunch of
solid motherfuckers. But if it's not, I need it to
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get smaller. All right, just like what I've
said earlier in this episode, you do not need to have a lot of
friends, OK? You honestly just need 3 solid
people in your life. You probably just need 2 solid
people in your life. Some of y'all just need one
solid person in your life. And honestly, there's more value
in that person than it would be in 10.
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And most importantly, sometimes you just got to love people from
a distance, All right? Some people ain't got to be up
under the wing. Some people ain't got to be in
the house. Some people ain't got to be
close to you. You can love them from a
distance. But one of the biggest things
that I just want everybody to do, especially as we close to
come to a close to this episode and start to come to a close
this week, do me a favor, OK? I want you to sit with yourself.
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I want you to write down. Or if you don't have it, or if
you don't want to write it down,I just need you to think about
think about the solid people that you have in your life.
Me, I can name 2 right out thereor right off my head.
Shaffer and Peasy, OK, easily. I know that they solid.
I know that they fucking solid. I know that they got my best
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intentions at heart. I need you to sit with yourself,
and I want you to name the people who really have your best
intentions, who really have yourbest interests, who actually do
give a fuck about you. And for the ones that you cannot
think of, they got to go. They got to go because they
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don't mean anything to you and you don't mean anything to them.
And just like that, another extraordinary thought left this
ordinary mind. I hope you enjoyed this episode
half as much as I enjoy making it.
Don't forget to head on over to your favorite streaming
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and leave this podcast an honestreview because this podcast
deserves to grow just as much aswe do.
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Meech is spelled M EE Ch. Stay motivated, stay healthy.
I'm out.
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