August 28, 2025 • 21 mins
In this episode of the Talkin’ Crazy Podcast, Meech Speaks exposes the real reasons why people don’t support you. It’s not always hate — sometimes it’s love that holds you back, fear that boxes you in, or envy that can’t stomach your success.
Meech breaks down the silent battles of chasing your goals, from parents who try to protect you, to friends who don’t understand, to peers who want you to fail so they can feel better about quitting.
Drawing from his Marine Corps journey, early content struggles, and recruiting stories, he delivers raw truth and practical wisdom: stop waiting for applause and start investing in yourself.
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The reason why they're not supporting you is because they
cannot fathom the reason why you're winning, and they're not.
(00:23):
This episode is sponsored by Better Help.
What's going on everybody? As we all know, mental health is
a huge piece for me. And recently, as I become a
better version of myself, I've decided that it's time for me to
go to therapy because I understand how life can be a
little overwhelming and we all need help navigating through the
trenches of military service in and out of uniform.
Better Help connects you with a licensed therapist who is
(00:45):
trained to listen and give you helpful unbiased advice. 1st all
you got to do is go to their site, matter of fact.
You can use my link right? Here, answer a few questions and
better help will match you with a professional who has years of
experience in helping people with struggles just like yours.
You can do it all from your phone or computer, via phone
call or video chat or messaging however you feel most
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comfortable. It's the easiest possible way to
start talking to a therapist. You will be matched to a
therapist usually within 48 hours so you can get started
fast. Let Better help connect you to a
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home. Visit Betterhelp dot.
Com slash Meech speaks. And enjoy a special discount on
your first month. What's going on everybody?
(01:27):
It's that ordinary podcaster with the extraordinary thoughts
that tells you to stop being great and be extraordinary.
I'm Demetrius Thickpen, also known as me space and welcome
back to another episode of the Talking Crazy podcast.
Now, before we get started with this podcast, don't forget to
head on over to your favorite streaming platform, whether
that's Apple podcasts or Spotifypodcasts, and leave this podcast
a honest review because this podcast deserves to grow just as
(01:49):
much as we do. So one thing that is really
starting to grow on me is the 2 episodes a week.
Now, initially I did not think that I could do this.
I honestly thought that my workload would just be too much
and I would be too tired. And honestly I thought I would
just make some weird fucking excuse and back out of this, you
know what I mean? But I've really grown on the 2
episodes a week. But the one thing that I really
(02:11):
like is, is how I'll talk about something on Monday.
And there's something in that episode that just really
resonated with me. Like it just never left.
And as we go through the week, boom, I'm about to pull that
piece out of there and talk about something completely
different. I really love that.
So one thing that I will say, all right, do me a favor and,
and send me your feedback. You know, send me your feedback
(02:34):
now, talking about last week's episode.
Earlier this week, I talked about just they don't like you,
man, All right, I I don't know how else to explain that they
don't like you not because you did anything wrong to them.
They don't like you because of your light, bro.
Like they don't like you becauseyou show up authentic.
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You show up in purpose, bro. You show up knocking shit out
the part that they struggle with, you feel me?
And the one thing that stood outto me throughout that entire
episode is that a lot of people just need to understand is that
some people are not going to support you, all right?
And I'll say that again, some people are not going to support
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you, all right? And that is perfectly fine.
Now, one thing that I have learned is that support is
something that we do need. You feel me?
Support is something that we do need.
In fact, support. Honestly, on them days where you
feel like you want to give up, the days that you feel like you
want to quit and you hear somebody tell you, man, I really
love what you're doing. Damn, you really inspired me.
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Damn you motivate the fuck out of me.
Damn sorry. And so and so damn Corporal, so
and so damn Staffs are I just want to be like you.
That right there. Come on, that's all I needed.
But that that's all I needed, you feel me?
And it could show up in many forms.
A like on Instagram, a share, a subscribe, a buy, if you're
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pushing out a product, hell, a simple cheer or once again, a
Marine, someone that's close to you, just somebody in general
coming up to you and just telling you, man, like you
knocking this shit out the park and that support, right?
Like that support, it rejuvenates us because let's
just be frank here. Sometimes we got these blinders
on. You feel me?
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We got this blinders on and we constantly grinding it out,
grinding it out and we don't even realize how far we have
come and we think that we're notmaking any progress.
We think that we're not doing anything.
So when somebody reaches out to you and passes that support, it
does something to the spirit. Now that's the good.
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Here come the reality. Everybody not about to support
you, all right. And I don't know who need to
hear that, but everybody is not about to support you.
Let me rephrase that. If you are just now starting off
on something, just understand the support is about to be
minimum, OK? The support that you really
looking for it to continue to keep pushing forward ain't about
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to be there. All right, when I decided to get
my shit together, you vend me and I wanted to go from being a
shit bag Marine to a top tier performer.
Only one person was actually supporting me.
Only one person was actually rooting for me throughout the
entirety of the situation that was sorry K OK, because he
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invested in me. Everybody else was just
expecting me to fail. All right, when I decided to get
my shit together as a Sergeant, you know, stop showing up to
mess nights drunk, stop pressingother sergeants, stop just being
a little hellraiser, everybody was against me on that.
When I started to create content, my shit was not getting
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shared. All right?
I'm talking about an hour on a video just for it to get 50
likes and 100 views. That support had to come later
on, and I don't know who need tohear this, but they won't.
They won't start supporting you until they start supporting you.
But here's the thing though, allright, because it's somebody
listening right now as we speak,there's somebody listening and
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they feel like bro, like they feel like if they don't have the
support, then they're not going to be able to continue to keep
moving forward. If they don't have the support,
then maybe this isn't for them. If they don't get the support,
they're going to quit because they need that type of support.
And if you do not understand these things very early on, I
promise you, guess what you're about to do, you're going to
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fucking quit. So with that being said, let's
just go ahead and just breakdownwhy people ain't supporting you.
All right, so number one on the list is love and, and despite
popular belief, everybody alwaysassumes that oh, they hate me,
they don't care about me. XY and Z Nah, that's not really
why they don't support you, bro.Sometimes people won't support
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you not because they don't like you.
Sometimes it's not because they hate you.
Sometimes, man, like especially if it's the ones close to you,
they won't support you because it's not one of those things
where they don't think that you can do it.
They don't want to see you get hurt.
OK. And I'll say that again.
The reason why some people that are close to you are not going
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to support you is not because they don't think that you can do
it. They don't want to see you get
hurt. And I, and I don't know who need
to hear this. And I feel like I learned this a
little bit more as a recruiter, man, because I get a kid, kid
come in, kid all excited about the Marine Corps.
He want to do the Marines, you feel me?
He even told me he want to shootguns and blow shit up.
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I asked the kid. I asked the kid.
I say, hey, what's your family think about this?
Like, what's your mom and dad think about this?
They say, oh, they don't care what I do as long as I'm happy.
I'm like, yeah, OK. And then next thing you know, I
get a text or I get a call and then say, hey, my mom and dad
don't want me to come talk to you.
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And the reality is, is that theydon't.
And before I even dive into thisman, because I know I got some
parents talk. Listening to this right now, I
understand. As a parent, parent to parent, I
understand this. You feel me?
We don't want our kids to do something because we fear the
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danger of it. But in that fear we coddle them,
you know what I mean? In that fear we boxed a man and
that fear we caged a man. And I can't tell you how many
times I have seen kids come in highly motivated, you know what
I mean? And they have a career path that
would literally set them up. I had a young lady come here and
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talk to me and she said I want to do Homeland Security.
I want to be in the military, dosomething similar to that field,
and then get out of work in thatfield in civilian world.
I said, girl, that's a fucking perfect plan.
I call her back a day later to confirm our appointment.
She said my mom and dad don't want me to do that.
They said just go to college. I said based off what you told
me earlier, that sounds like it's a good idea.
She said, yeah, but that's not what I want to do.
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And I was like, is that what youwant to do?
Is that what your parents want you to do?
And I say that, man, because a lot of times, man like them,
dreams, them aspirations that support that should get
withholded. If they feel like that it's
gonna hurt you. That is going to get withholded
if they feel like it's not good for you.
Now here's the thing, a lot of times like your loved ones, they
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not going to support you becauseit does not fit the reality that
they already have for you. You feel me?
A lot of people that's close to you that know you or let me
phrase that, that think that they know you.
They not going to support this idea that does not that's not in
the norm of what they have for you.
They already have this baseline and here you come with this
outlandish idea of what you wantto do and you expect them to
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support you, but that does not fit the reality that they have
for you. You know what I mean?
It doesn't fit the plan that they normally have for you.
It doesn't fit the baseline thatyou that you're in in their
minds, bro. So they can't they, they, they
just cannot see themselves supporting this idea because
they don't even think that it works.
Now, Speaking of things that they just don't think that are
going to work a lot of times, like your loved ones, they're
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not going to support you if theyhave no idea what this thing is.
A good example of this, and I'm pretty sure everybody has heard
this story before. I remember telling my
grandmother, I was like, yo, like, I want to open up my own
restaurant. She said, baby, don't do that.
They don't make a lot of money. She didn't know no, no
restaurant owners. She didn't know anybody like
that. So when I told her this idea, it
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was just so far fetched for her that she couldn't see it being
successful. When I turned around and told
her, like, yo, like, I want to be a comedian.
She didn't know any comedian. She didn't know fucking Richard
Pryor, you know. So when I told her, hey, I want
to be a comedian, she immediately said, baby, do you
really want to be a joke? Because that's how she saw
comedians. She didn't see them on no, no
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other way. She didn't think that I could
actually do that. You know, and I say that to say
this right here, a lot of peoplewon't necessarily support
support you, especially in your inner circle.
Not because they don't believe in you, not because they don't
love you. It's because they don't even
know. They don't have an idea of what
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the thing that you're talking about.
They don't know you telling themthat you want to be in the
military, but they grew up watching the towers get hit.
Then they grew up watching CNN and PTSD and people getting
blown up and you got to tell them about the benefits in the
military. Man, if you don't get the fuck
out of their face, you bout to tell them that you bout to open
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up your own business and, and, and they don't know nobody
that's done that. Man, if you don't get the hell
out of their face, wasting theirtime because they don't there's
no success in it. You know some people in your
circle right now and you tellingthem yo look, I want to get out
of the military and this is exactly what I want to do XY and
Z, they don't know nobody that'sdone that.
So naturally they going to tell you, I don't think that's a good
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idea. I think that you should stay.
When I first started creating content, I told people I was
like, yo look, hey, this is whatI want to do and everybody was
like, Nah, that's a dumb ass idea.
Boy, were they wrong. But they didn't know anybody
that could do it on a podcast. They didn't know anybody that
could create content. They didn't know that.
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So naturally, man, their, their instincts was to protect me from
the unknown. You fear me because at the end
of the day, a lot of people, man, they just don't want to see
you fail. And to be honest with you,
that's honestly why a lot of people don't want to support you
is because they feel like if they support this, right and it
fails, they're held responsible.They don't want to see you fail.
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They don't want to see you get hurt.
They don't want to see what the bad may look like.
So in order to prevent that, they're going to try to pull you
away from me. You feel me?
So, so one thing that I cannot stress man, and I cannot stress
this enough, that love man, likethat love it, it, it, it could
be uplifting, like, but it can also be withholding that love,
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right? Like, like it could push you out
of your comfort zone, but it canalso be the very thing that's
keeping you there. All right.
And to my listeners who have somebody that's got something
that they really want to do and you stopping them because you
don't want to see them get hurt.Do your research.
You feel me support them all right and be there for them when
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they fall. Now the next thing on the list
and I'm just be completely honest with you.
I wanted to put it up first, butI didn't want to come on this
episode pretty negative. But let's just call it a spade,
a space. Some people ain't going to
support you because they just fucking envious of you, OK?
Now this envy come from a space that a lot of y'all not going to
be familiar with. These people are not about to
support you because they don't understand how you're able to do
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it and they couldn't do it, you feel me?
They want to see you fail more than they want to see you win,
and they don't want to see you fail because they hate you.
All right, let's clear that up right now.
They don't want to see you fail because they don't like you
because they won't bad for you because they because they hate
you all of a sudden. No, they want to see you fail
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because if you win, it makes them feel less.
There, you feel me. If you win right now at the
thing that you're doing, if you accomplish the thing that you're
doing, it shows them, especially, especially if they
tried to do it. If they tried to do it and they
failed and you didn't, oh man, that does something today.
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Ego they going to sit back wondering how the fuck were you
able to accomplish it and I couldn't.
So naturally they not about to support you.
They need you to fail because ifyou fail, right, if you fail,
it's it's going to make them feel better about the scenario.
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It makes them feel better about quitting.
It makes them fit and feel better about giving up.
It makes them feel better about walking away because you
couldn't do it. So you couldn't do it.
They couldn't do it. Misery loves company.
Let's all get together and just talk bad about the thing that
shut us down. That's why they're not going to
support you. Some people just don't know how
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to support a fucking winner. All they know how to do is
support losers. They know how to support you
when you fall on your face. They they ready to fix your knee
when it's scraped up. They don't know how to support
you when you achieve it. They don't know.
So that envy, man, like, I I can't stress that enough.
A lot of people, man, like they want to see you fail.
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All right? And I know a lot of people hear
this on a regular basis. Yeah, them people want to see
you fail. I don't think a lot of people
understand how bad. Most people want to see you
fail, then they want to see you win, OK.
If you win, it makes them look bad.
If you win, it proves them wrong.
They have to see you fail. They want to see you fail.
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And it ain't even because they hate you and in fact you failed.
They ready to go out and go havea drink.
You know they're coming to your house.
They ready to pick you up, man. They know exactly how to treat a
loser because they a loser themselves and they need you to
reinforce that. And lastly, one of the biggest
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reasons why most people ain't gonna support you is, is
honestly because they just don'tknow.
They don't know how to support you.
They don't know what you doing sometimes.
Most, most of the people that you talking to have never even
done or even heard of what you're talking about.
So they're just, they going to take a step back because they
don't know what the fuck it is. They don't know what it is.
And if it works, it works. And if it don't work, it don't
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work. You know, and I, and I had to
put that one at the very last. A lot of people just ain't going
to support you. Not because they like you, don't
like you, they just don't know what the hell you're talking
about. They don't know what the hell
you're doing. Okay.
And I will say this again, parent to parent because I know
I have parents listening. We are in that era where our
kids are going to present to us things that we have never even
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heard about. And when I say you don't know
about it, I'm not saying you don't know about the thing.
You don't know that this thing can make money, OK?
You don't know that this thing can build a career.
You don't know that this thing has something, has some backing
to it. So if you don't know it, rather
than shut it down, bro, rather than shut it down, do your
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research, you feel me? Especially if this coming from
your kid, I can't tell you how many times I've had to educate
parents because the desire or the decision that their child is
about to make. But the reality is it's like yo,
like if you know this is something that your child is
interested in, then do the research, learn a little bit so
that way you can already pre educate yourself rather than sit
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there with this deer in the headlights look and just say, I
mean, I guess. And then when they fall on their
face, you have nothing for them.You telling your child that they
can find another job when they was actually in a career, but
you don't know that because you don't know about it.
So I will say this, that support, yes, it means a lot.
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And the parents that's listening, the supporters that
have people that's embarking on something.
I I employ you. All right, I implore you, please
just do your research. So now that I've talked about
them, I'm going to talk about you OK?
I'm going to talk about you because a lot of y'all are
right. You expecting people to support
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you but you don't even support yourself.
OK. You want them to put down a down
payment on your dreams but you haven't even put anything in on
it. You want them to put you want
them to invest in you but you have not dropped the deposit
yet. You are all of this support, but
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you don't believe in yourself. And I don't know who need to
hear this, but it's selfish. And I would just say that right
now it's flat out selfish. You want people to support you.
You honestly have to be able to support yourself first, OK?
You already know what you probably about to do.
Nobody else in your family has done it.
Nobody in your circle has probably done that.
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So naturally they going to be a little apprehensive.
You got to be the one in the very beginning to believe in it.
All right? Now second I will say this.
OK you need to surround yourselfaround other like minded
individuals. If your ass is thinking about
going to the gym guess who you need to start surrounding
yourself around? Other people that go to the gym.
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If you think that you about to start a podcast, guess who you
need to start surrounding yourself around other
podcasters. If you think that you want to
get married, you probably need to surround yourself around
motherfuckers who are also thinking about getting married.
Why? Because birds of a feather will
flock together. And if you surrounding yourself
around people that are going left and you trying to go right,
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either you about to go by yourself or you go on with them
and you need to understand that.OK, I I never will understand.
How we want our groups, we want our loved ones, we want our
close friends to just magically just believe in this.
Do this with me when it's flat out fucking selfish.
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If this is something that you are about to start doing, you
need to start surrounding yourself around people that are
doing this OK. And if you truly believe in
this, you have to believe in it yourself.
Can't be expecting everybody else to.
So as we come to a close to thisweeks episode, one thing that I
really want you to understand. All right, yes, some people just
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ain't going to like you because you show up in a way that they
ain't going to never be able to.And some people ain't going to
never be able to support you because of the simple fact that
they weren't able to do it or they just don't know what it is,
or they just love you and they don't want you to get hurt.
But at the end of the day, you have to continue to keep showing
up as you because you're the onethat's driving this car.
This is your journey and that. And when nobody else is
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supporting you, you have to be the one to support yourself.
And just like that, another extraordinary thought left.
This ordinary mind, I hope. You enjoyed this episode?
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I'm out.
The reason why they're not supporting you is because they
cannot fathom the reason why you're winning, and they're not.
(00:23):
This episode is sponsored by Better Help.
What's going on everybody? As we all know, mental health is
a huge piece for me. And recently, as I become a
better version of myself, I've decided that it's time for me to
go to therapy because I understand how life can be a
little overwhelming and we all need help navigating through the
trenches of military service in and out of uniform.
Better Help connects you with a licensed therapist who is
(00:45):
trained to listen and give you helpful unbiased advice. 1st all
you got to do is go to their site, matter of fact.
You can use my link right? Here, answer a few questions and
better help will match you with a professional who has years of
experience in helping people with struggles just like yours.
You can do it all from your phone or computer, via phone
call or video chat or messaging however you feel most
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comfortable. It's the easiest possible way to
start talking to a therapist. You will be matched to a
therapist usually within 48 hours so you can get started
fast. Let Better help connect you to a
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home. Visit Betterhelp dot.
Com slash Meech speaks. And enjoy a special discount on
your first month. What's going on everybody?
(01:27):
It's that ordinary podcaster with the extraordinary thoughts
that tells you to stop being great and be extraordinary.
I'm Demetrius Thickpen, also known as me space and welcome
back to another episode of the Talking Crazy podcast.
Now, before we get started with this podcast, don't forget to
head on over to your favorite streaming platform, whether
that's Apple podcasts or Spotifypodcasts, and leave this podcast
a honest review because this podcast deserves to grow just as
(01:49):
much as we do. So one thing that is really
starting to grow on me is the 2 episodes a week.
Now, initially I did not think that I could do this.
I honestly thought that my workload would just be too much
and I would be too tired. And honestly I thought I would
just make some weird fucking excuse and back out of this, you
know what I mean? But I've really grown on the 2
episodes a week. But the one thing that I really
(02:11):
like is, is how I'll talk about something on Monday.
And there's something in that episode that just really
resonated with me. Like it just never left.
And as we go through the week, boom, I'm about to pull that
piece out of there and talk about something completely
different. I really love that.
So one thing that I will say, all right, do me a favor and,
and send me your feedback. You know, send me your feedback
(02:34):
now, talking about last week's episode.
Earlier this week, I talked about just they don't like you,
man, All right, I I don't know how else to explain that they
don't like you not because you did anything wrong to them.
They don't like you because of your light, bro.
Like they don't like you becauseyou show up authentic.
(02:54):
You show up in purpose, bro. You show up knocking shit out
the part that they struggle with, you feel me?
And the one thing that stood outto me throughout that entire
episode is that a lot of people just need to understand is that
some people are not going to support you, all right?
And I'll say that again, some people are not going to support
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you, all right? And that is perfectly fine.
Now, one thing that I have learned is that support is
something that we do need. You feel me?
Support is something that we do need.
In fact, support. Honestly, on them days where you
feel like you want to give up, the days that you feel like you
want to quit and you hear somebody tell you, man, I really
love what you're doing. Damn, you really inspired me.
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Damn you motivate the fuck out of me.
Damn sorry. And so and so damn Corporal, so
and so damn Staffs are I just want to be like you.
That right there. Come on, that's all I needed.
But that that's all I needed, you feel me?
And it could show up in many forms.
A like on Instagram, a share, a subscribe, a buy, if you're
(04:01):
pushing out a product, hell, a simple cheer or once again, a
Marine, someone that's close to you, just somebody in general
coming up to you and just telling you, man, like you
knocking this shit out the park and that support, right?
Like that support, it rejuvenates us because let's
just be frank here. Sometimes we got these blinders
on. You feel me?
(04:22):
We got this blinders on and we constantly grinding it out,
grinding it out and we don't even realize how far we have
come and we think that we're notmaking any progress.
We think that we're not doing anything.
So when somebody reaches out to you and passes that support, it
does something to the spirit. Now that's the good.
(04:42):
Here come the reality. Everybody not about to support
you, all right. And I don't know who need to
hear that, but everybody is not about to support you.
Let me rephrase that. If you are just now starting off
on something, just understand the support is about to be
minimum, OK? The support that you really
looking for it to continue to keep pushing forward ain't about
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to be there. All right, when I decided to get
my shit together, you vend me and I wanted to go from being a
shit bag Marine to a top tier performer.
Only one person was actually supporting me.
Only one person was actually rooting for me throughout the
entirety of the situation that was sorry K OK, because he
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invested in me. Everybody else was just
expecting me to fail. All right, when I decided to get
my shit together as a Sergeant, you know, stop showing up to
mess nights drunk, stop pressingother sergeants, stop just being
a little hellraiser, everybody was against me on that.
When I started to create content, my shit was not getting
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shared. All right?
I'm talking about an hour on a video just for it to get 50
likes and 100 views. That support had to come later
on, and I don't know who need tohear this, but they won't.
They won't start supporting you until they start supporting you.
But here's the thing though, allright, because it's somebody
listening right now as we speak,there's somebody listening and
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they feel like bro, like they feel like if they don't have the
support, then they're not going to be able to continue to keep
moving forward. If they don't have the support,
then maybe this isn't for them. If they don't get the support,
they're going to quit because they need that type of support.
And if you do not understand these things very early on, I
promise you, guess what you're about to do, you're going to
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fucking quit. So with that being said, let's
just go ahead and just breakdownwhy people ain't supporting you.
All right, so number one on the list is love and, and despite
popular belief, everybody alwaysassumes that oh, they hate me,
they don't care about me. XY and Z Nah, that's not really
why they don't support you, bro.Sometimes people won't support
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you not because they don't like you.
Sometimes it's not because they hate you.
Sometimes, man, like especially if it's the ones close to you,
they won't support you because it's not one of those things
where they don't think that you can do it.
They don't want to see you get hurt.
OK. And I'll say that again.
The reason why some people that are close to you are not going
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to support you is not because they don't think that you can do
it. They don't want to see you get
hurt. And I, and I don't know who need
to hear this. And I feel like I learned this a
little bit more as a recruiter, man, because I get a kid, kid
come in, kid all excited about the Marine Corps.
He want to do the Marines, you feel me?
He even told me he want to shootguns and blow shit up.
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I asked the kid. I asked the kid.
I say, hey, what's your family think about this?
Like, what's your mom and dad think about this?
They say, oh, they don't care what I do as long as I'm happy.
I'm like, yeah, OK. And then next thing you know, I
get a text or I get a call and then say, hey, my mom and dad
don't want me to come talk to you.
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And the reality is, is that theydon't.
And before I even dive into thisman, because I know I got some
parents talk. Listening to this right now, I
understand. As a parent, parent to parent, I
understand this. You feel me?
We don't want our kids to do something because we fear the
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danger of it. But in that fear we coddle them,
you know what I mean? In that fear we boxed a man and
that fear we caged a man. And I can't tell you how many
times I have seen kids come in highly motivated, you know what
I mean? And they have a career path that
would literally set them up. I had a young lady come here and
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talk to me and she said I want to do Homeland Security.
I want to be in the military, dosomething similar to that field,
and then get out of work in thatfield in civilian world.
I said, girl, that's a fucking perfect plan.
I call her back a day later to confirm our appointment.
She said my mom and dad don't want me to do that.
They said just go to college. I said based off what you told
me earlier, that sounds like it's a good idea.
She said, yeah, but that's not what I want to do.
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And I was like, is that what youwant to do?
Is that what your parents want you to do?
And I say that, man, because a lot of times, man like them,
dreams, them aspirations that support that should get
withholded. If they feel like that it's
gonna hurt you. That is going to get withholded
if they feel like it's not good for you.
Now here's the thing, a lot of times like your loved ones, they
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not going to support you becauseit does not fit the reality that
they already have for you. You feel me?
A lot of people that's close to you that know you or let me
phrase that, that think that they know you.
They not going to support this idea that does not that's not in
the norm of what they have for you.
They already have this baseline and here you come with this
outlandish idea of what you wantto do and you expect them to
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support you, but that does not fit the reality that they have
for you. You know what I mean?
It doesn't fit the plan that they normally have for you.
It doesn't fit the baseline thatyou that you're in in their
minds, bro. So they can't they, they, they
just cannot see themselves supporting this idea because
they don't even think that it works.
Now, Speaking of things that they just don't think that are
going to work a lot of times, like your loved ones, they're
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not going to support you if theyhave no idea what this thing is.
A good example of this, and I'm pretty sure everybody has heard
this story before. I remember telling my
grandmother, I was like, yo, like, I want to open up my own
restaurant. She said, baby, don't do that.
They don't make a lot of money. She didn't know no, no
restaurant owners. She didn't know anybody like
that. So when I told her this idea, it
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was just so far fetched for her that she couldn't see it being
successful. When I turned around and told
her, like, yo, like, I want to be a comedian.
She didn't know any comedian. She didn't know fucking Richard
Pryor, you know. So when I told her, hey, I want
to be a comedian, she immediately said, baby, do you
really want to be a joke? Because that's how she saw
comedians. She didn't see them on no, no
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other way. She didn't think that I could
actually do that. You know, and I say that to say
this right here, a lot of peoplewon't necessarily support
support you, especially in your inner circle.
Not because they don't believe in you, not because they don't
love you. It's because they don't even
know. They don't have an idea of what
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the thing that you're talking about.
They don't know you telling themthat you want to be in the
military, but they grew up watching the towers get hit.
Then they grew up watching CNN and PTSD and people getting
blown up and you got to tell them about the benefits in the
military. Man, if you don't get the fuck
out of their face, you bout to tell them that you bout to open
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up your own business and, and, and they don't know nobody
that's done that. Man, if you don't get the hell
out of their face, wasting theirtime because they don't there's
no success in it. You know some people in your
circle right now and you tellingthem yo look, I want to get out
of the military and this is exactly what I want to do XY and
Z, they don't know nobody that'sdone that.
So naturally they going to tell you, I don't think that's a good
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idea. I think that you should stay.
When I first started creating content, I told people I was
like, yo look, hey, this is whatI want to do and everybody was
like, Nah, that's a dumb ass idea.
Boy, were they wrong. But they didn't know anybody
that could do it on a podcast. They didn't know anybody that
could create content. They didn't know that.
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So naturally, man, their, their instincts was to protect me from
the unknown. You fear me because at the end
of the day, a lot of people, man, they just don't want to see
you fail. And to be honest with you,
that's honestly why a lot of people don't want to support you
is because they feel like if they support this, right and it
fails, they're held responsible.They don't want to see you fail.
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They don't want to see you get hurt.
They don't want to see what the bad may look like.
So in order to prevent that, they're going to try to pull you
away from me. You feel me?
So, so one thing that I cannot stress man, and I cannot stress
this enough, that love man, likethat love it, it, it, it could
be uplifting, like, but it can also be withholding that love,
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right? Like, like it could push you out
of your comfort zone, but it canalso be the very thing that's
keeping you there. All right.
And to my listeners who have somebody that's got something
that they really want to do and you stopping them because you
don't want to see them get hurt.Do your research.
You feel me support them all right and be there for them when
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they fall. Now the next thing on the list
and I'm just be completely honest with you.
I wanted to put it up first, butI didn't want to come on this
episode pretty negative. But let's just call it a spade,
a space. Some people ain't going to
support you because they just fucking envious of you, OK?
Now this envy come from a space that a lot of y'all not going to
be familiar with. These people are not about to
support you because they don't understand how you're able to do
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it and they couldn't do it, you feel me?
They want to see you fail more than they want to see you win,
and they don't want to see you fail because they hate you.
All right, let's clear that up right now.
They don't want to see you fail because they don't like you
because they won't bad for you because they because they hate
you all of a sudden. No, they want to see you fail
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because if you win, it makes them feel less.
There, you feel me. If you win right now at the
thing that you're doing, if you accomplish the thing that you're
doing, it shows them, especially, especially if they
tried to do it. If they tried to do it and they
failed and you didn't, oh man, that does something today.
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Ego they going to sit back wondering how the fuck were you
able to accomplish it and I couldn't.
So naturally they not about to support you.
They need you to fail because ifyou fail, right, if you fail,
it's it's going to make them feel better about the scenario.
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It makes them feel better about quitting.
It makes them fit and feel better about giving up.
It makes them feel better about walking away because you
couldn't do it. So you couldn't do it.
They couldn't do it. Misery loves company.
Let's all get together and just talk bad about the thing that
shut us down. That's why they're not going to
support you. Some people just don't know how
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to support a fucking winner. All they know how to do is
support losers. They know how to support you
when you fall on your face. They they ready to fix your knee
when it's scraped up. They don't know how to support
you when you achieve it. They don't know.
So that envy, man, like, I I can't stress that enough.
A lot of people, man, like they want to see you fail.
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All right? And I know a lot of people hear
this on a regular basis. Yeah, them people want to see
you fail. I don't think a lot of people
understand how bad. Most people want to see you
fail, then they want to see you win, OK.
If you win, it makes them look bad.
If you win, it proves them wrong.
They have to see you fail. They want to see you fail.
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And it ain't even because they hate you and in fact you failed.
They ready to go out and go havea drink.
You know they're coming to your house.
They ready to pick you up, man. They know exactly how to treat a
loser because they a loser themselves and they need you to
reinforce that. And lastly, one of the biggest
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reasons why most people ain't gonna support you is, is
honestly because they just don'tknow.
They don't know how to support you.
They don't know what you doing sometimes.
Most, most of the people that you talking to have never even
done or even heard of what you're talking about.
So they're just, they going to take a step back because they
don't know what the fuck it is. They don't know what it is.
And if it works, it works. And if it don't work, it don't
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work. You know, and I, and I had to
put that one at the very last. A lot of people just ain't going
to support you. Not because they like you, don't
like you, they just don't know what the hell you're talking
about. They don't know what the hell
you're doing. Okay.
And I will say this again, parent to parent because I know
I have parents listening. We are in that era where our
kids are going to present to us things that we have never even
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heard about. And when I say you don't know
about it, I'm not saying you don't know about the thing.
You don't know that this thing can make money, OK?
You don't know that this thing can build a career.
You don't know that this thing has something, has some backing
to it. So if you don't know it, rather
than shut it down, bro, rather than shut it down, do your
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research, you feel me? Especially if this coming from
your kid, I can't tell you how many times I've had to educate
parents because the desire or the decision that their child is
about to make. But the reality is it's like yo,
like if you know this is something that your child is
interested in, then do the research, learn a little bit so
that way you can already pre educate yourself rather than sit
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there with this deer in the headlights look and just say, I
mean, I guess. And then when they fall on their
face, you have nothing for them.You telling your child that they
can find another job when they was actually in a career, but
you don't know that because you don't know about it.
So I will say this, that support, yes, it means a lot.
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And the parents that's listening, the supporters that
have people that's embarking on something.
I I employ you. All right, I implore you, please
just do your research. So now that I've talked about
them, I'm going to talk about you OK?
I'm going to talk about you because a lot of y'all are
right. You expecting people to support
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you but you don't even support yourself.
OK. You want them to put down a down
payment on your dreams but you haven't even put anything in on
it. You want them to put you want
them to invest in you but you have not dropped the deposit
yet. You are all of this support, but
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you don't believe in yourself. And I don't know who need to
hear this, but it's selfish. And I would just say that right
now it's flat out selfish. You want people to support you.
You honestly have to be able to support yourself first, OK?
You already know what you probably about to do.
Nobody else in your family has done it.
Nobody in your circle has probably done that.
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So naturally they going to be a little apprehensive.
You got to be the one in the very beginning to believe in it.
All right? Now second I will say this.
OK you need to surround yourselfaround other like minded
individuals. If your ass is thinking about
going to the gym guess who you need to start surrounding
yourself around? Other people that go to the gym.
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If you think that you about to start a podcast, guess who you
need to start surrounding yourself around other
podcasters. If you think that you want to
get married, you probably need to surround yourself around
motherfuckers who are also thinking about getting married.
Why? Because birds of a feather will
flock together. And if you surrounding yourself
around people that are going left and you trying to go right,
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either you about to go by yourself or you go on with them
and you need to understand that.OK, I I never will understand.
How we want our groups, we want our loved ones, we want our
close friends to just magically just believe in this.
Do this with me when it's flat out fucking selfish.
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If this is something that you are about to start doing, you
need to start surrounding yourself around people that are
doing this OK. And if you truly believe in
this, you have to believe in it yourself.
Can't be expecting everybody else to.
So as we come to a close to thisweeks episode, one thing that I
really want you to understand. All right, yes, some people just
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ain't going to like you because you show up in a way that they
ain't going to never be able to.And some people ain't going to
never be able to support you because of the simple fact that
they weren't able to do it or they just don't know what it is,
or they just love you and they don't want you to get hurt.
But at the end of the day, you have to continue to keep showing
up as you because you're the onethat's driving this car.
This is your journey and that. And when nobody else is
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supporting you, you have to be the one to support yourself.
And just like that, another extraordinary thought left.
This ordinary mind, I hope. You enjoyed this episode?
Half as much as I enjoyed makingit, don't forget to head on.
Over to your favorite streaming.Platform whether that's.
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Podcast on Honest review becausethis podcast deserves to grow
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