May 14, 2025 • 36 mins
In this episode of 'The Talking Taboo with Tara' podcast, Tara and her guest engage in a raw and unfiltered discussion about relationships and personal goals. The guest expresses a determination to avoid relationships until achieving his personal bucket list, which includes working for himself and traveling extensively. They delve into the challenges and rewards of self-employment, the importance of valuing one's time, and the impact of associating with successful people. The conversation shifts to relationships, touching on past heartbreaks, the complexities of love, and the unrealistic idea of soulmates. Both share their views on dating dynamics, the difficulties of finding genuine connections, and the notion that life experiences shape one's outlook on love and companionship. They conclude with reflections on the aspiration of traveling and living life on the road, emphasizing the joy in exploring new places and seeking deeper experiences.
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(00:02):
Welcome to The Talking Taboowith Tara podcast, where Tara
presents the unfilteredinterviews with guests about
today's taboo topics.
And now here's your host, Ms.
Tara.
Tara (00:16):
Relationship thing really fucked you up, huh?
Because that's why you scream.
I'd rather pull my dick out thanmy heart out.
I am quoting you on that one.
Yeah.
Who can blame me?
Who, what Human can blame you.
A person that hadn't experiencedshit in their life, maybe or
don't know about.
What did she do to you or don'tknow about that life?
I just, I don't think it'ssolely her.
(00:38):
It's just where it started.
Sean (00:40):
You know,
Tara (00:41):
when you invest something's hardcore into
somebody and you spend years andit's just, somebody just decides
they don't wanna fuck muchanymore.
You're just last priority.
It's when you go to holdsomebody to the same standards
they hold to you, that's when itbecomes a problem.
Sean (00:56):
Right.
You know?
Tara (00:58):
I feel like there's so many deflective ways of reasons
Sean (01:04):
to why it is just not worth getting into.
I don't think I'm meant to beagamous.
Tara (01:16):
You do want that.
So what's your reason forwanting that?
I crave it.
What, what do you crave theother half?
Why?
Of me.
I don't know.
I wish I knew.
I wish I could make it go away.
I have been there before Forsure.
You've craved your other half?
It just never happened.
Yeah.
So I'm craving something thatdon't exist, so I just let it
(01:37):
go.
And now I don't, it does exist.
I don't know how to reverse whatI've healed.
I've healed myself to not, it'snot that I'm blocking it.
I just, I basically dismantlewhat would allow me to do it by
default.
So now I just don't want to doit.
Sean (01:53):
That's,
Tara (01:54):
that's it makes it so easy.
I just don't want it.
So you wanna be alone for therest of your life?
Possibly.
Possibly.
See, I don't, it's lonely.
I just want somebody to hang outwith.
I want that too.
I want somebody to be fun, so onand so on.
But the minute you put a labelon it, the problems start.
Sean (02:12):
It's just,
Tara (02:13):
it's just been, it's been like that my whole life.
It really has.
I see where you're coming from.
I do.
So it's just, is it worth it?
Sean (02:20):
You know,
Tara (02:20):
it's harder to get out than it was getting in.
You can argue until the cowscome home.
That's the truth.
Wow.
You're so stubborn.
No, I'm telling you the truth.
It's hard.
That's to get out than it isgetting in.
It's your way of thinking.
It shouldn't, you can't help thetruth.
(02:43):
You,
you either speak the truth or you can live in a dream
world.
It's easy for a female to sitthere and say they want to live
the fantasy.
It's not a fantasy.
You all think I crave a reality.
You crave a fantasy.
No.
Because I'm gonna make it areality.
See, that's the differencebetween me and you.
I know it's reality because mybody craves it, my mind craves
(03:05):
it, my heart craves it.
I know it's out there.
I think everybody wants love.
That's natural.
Everybody wants love.
It's a trade off is, I guess iswhat I'm getting at.
I don't feel like the trade offis worth it.
If you invest your emotions,what are you trading off?
Well,
your emotions, your feelings.
You lose
your,
your heart.
(03:25):
Like,
I like to be able to do what I want.
You know?
That's just me.
I get that.
Me too.
You know?
And that, that does suck because you do have to pick one
way or the other.
If you're,
you know,
compromised.
You gotta spend time with theperson, you gotta be around.
And, and that's, uh, expected.
That's what I would expect too.
Uh, if I'm taking somebody tothat level, uh,
(03:48):
if I'm into somebody, I feel like maybe I get attached a
little too hard and that pushespeople away ultimately.
That's why you stay sostandoffish?
I don't wanna be a creeper.
I don't wanna be accused of justwanting one thing all the
fucking time.
Maybe I am, maybe I'm not.
But it's just all theseassumptions comes up front and
it's
Sean (04:07):
like, well,
Tara (04:07):
guess what?
You're not getting any of it.
So you see what you want.
'cause if somebody else is notwilling to do something,
somebody else is, there's alwaysthat other person who is okay.
But is that person as good asthe other person is that person
is gonna make you laugh, makeyou, sometimes I've had more fun
(04:28):
with somebody who doesn't loveme.
They're honest.
There's no hiding, nothing.
If they're still talking totheir ex, they just, have you
ever had friendship before?
You had relationship with afemale, you mean?
Yeah.
That's what I'm referring to.
Yeah.
You've had friendship.
Before relationship.
Like you've been friends withthat person for a period of and
(04:50):
had a relationship Yes.
And then had a relationship.
Yeah.
How did that work?
And those are people I wouldstill talk to today.
I've had a lot of good breakupsand then That's crazy.
'cause I haven't had a bunch ofbad ones.
It's just circumstantial.
And I feel like, that's funny.
'cause I still talk to all myexes too.
Yeah.
I, none of my exes have anythingbad to say about me neither.
(05:12):
Compatibility a lot of times.
I know that I can't have my cakeand eat it too.
'cause you're either gonna besingle, be free, be lonely a
little bit,
deal
with deal without.
What's your heart's asking youto do?
Like yourself?
Your heart's hungry for it.
Okay.
Craving it.
I have been there, I have beenthere and
Sean (05:31):
I ran,
Tara (05:31):
I ran out of that mode where those nights laying in
bed.
Borderline crying or justborderline fucking lost.
Like lonely.
Nobody wants me,
Sean (05:41):
you know,
Tara (05:41):
you go through those states.
I have, I go through the stateswhere I'm like, nobody decent
wants me.
It's always some shit bag whohas a bad attitude?
Who can't get off their ex orthey can't do this, can't do
that.
It's always something if Ihappen to like'em and the ones
that like me are particularlythe ones I just don't like.
That's really to sum it up, itjust don't work out.
(06:02):
And if I get lucky enough andit's too good to be true, it
probably is too good to be true.
Really?
You think that See you, youdon't understand your way of
thinking.
Just bogles my mind.
No, you haven't been where Ibeen.
How do you, how would you know?
I've been a lot of places, babe.
I've been around more than you.
I guarantee it.
You think I guarantee it?
No.
No.
You've had long relationshipsbefore.
(06:23):
My longest was three years.
Of girlfriends, a lot of fuckbuddies.
Me too.
A lot of one night stands.
Me too.
Just telling you.
Me too.
I'm a retired player.
Me too.
I enjoy the buzz.
I enjoy
not,
not giving a fuck.
I enjoy not having, I did notanymore.
I'm giving a woman the power tohurt me and they can't do it.
I like when they can't do it andthey're pissed about it.
(06:44):
And that's why you're 47 andsingle.
'cause you're scared I changedthat way and
I'm not,
I'm not
even
even 46 yet, by the way.
Oh God.
You keep correcting me.
I keep,'cause I'm 47.
Okay.
46.
Yeah.
It's not,
it's not a bitter thing.
It's just, I enjoy it.
I enjoy being single too, but mybody still craves that person.
(07:05):
I crave the first three monthsof relationship.
Oh, you craved the honeymoonstage.
Yeah.
And that's good.
Then they start doing this to meand
you know,
telling their friends,
uh, you're,
you're hovering me.
You're hovering me.
Then it's time to ghost.
Wait a minute.
That's where the ghosting comesin.
(07:25):
Who tells
you
you're hovering me when I took backseat.
That's when I start ghosting.
Wait a minute.
When who says
who's,
who's hovering?
I'm,
I'm lost.
Well,
I was
kind of
role playing that one, but I know that's why I was like,
who's who.
Yeah.
But it gets to the point where,and I'm not putting the,
timeline on it, but it does havea average ish timeline.
(07:46):
Let's say,
let's say two to six months is really gonna test out
if it's gonna go a distance ofsome kind, whether it just be a
few years, whether it be longerthan that.
The first two to six months willdecide that.
Because if you can get pastthat, you guys still getting
along, you're very compatible.
(08:07):
You love them nights on Netflixand you like the nights going
out too.
When those two things can workout, and let's say they stay
working out and there's nointerruption from the family,
there's no interruption fromyour girlfriend that you're
taking advice from and she'ssingle for a fucking reason.
You shouldn't be taking heradvice.
Because that bitch is single andlonely and pissed off and can't
(08:28):
get what you're getting.
And she's trying to sabotage it.
Lemme tell you something ladies,if, if this fucking thing is
still recording right now, quitlistening to your fucking
friends that're miserable.
And they want you to staymiserable with them.
They don't wanna be miserablealone.
But if you got ones that aredictating your thought process
or what you wanna do, right?
They're not your true friends.
No.
And girls are, and fellas, don'ttake advice from a woman on
(08:50):
relationships.
Don't take advice from a womanon anything.
Sex at all, really to heart.
Fuck you, you fed us.
How ended that with Yeah, afteryou, after I tilted my head and
looked at you like, you'refucking crazy.
Not, maybe not the sex part.
Maybe you could take theirmessage, because I know what the
fuck I'm talking about.
But relationship advice and likehow to attract a woman and do
all that stuff.
If a girl's giving a guy advice,they're gonna tell you
(09:12):
everything you shouldn't do.
They're gonna tell you to dothose things, to be nice, to be
too gentlemen like,'cause thenyou're gonna become too nice.
You're gonna look desperate.
You're gonna look ish andinsecure, controlling and all
the other fucking things thatyou're coming up with.
You are just so in your head.
You think, I'm just making thisup.
Sean (09:33):
Kind of.
I mean,
Tara (09:35):
do you get out much?
Let anything fate?
Why is it so unheard of thatsomebody just wants to be
single?
Why is that so odd?
It's not odd.
There's plenty of women likethat.
I'm strong and independent.
I don't need no, man.
Why don't you go ask them that.
Ask them why they're being soselfish and they don't need a
man around.
Tara (2) (09:55):
Well,
Tara (09:55):
I can answer that, huh?
Because most of'em are bums andthey just wanna live.
I'd rather be single.
I don't need no fucking, I cananswer that for you, right?
Because they're bums and theywanna live off of a woman that
is independent and has somethinga lot of them do.
I've had a lot of them do it tome.
Why the fuck is a woman evenmessing with a guy like that in
the first place?
Attention.
She's a blame.
(10:15):
Yep.
Attention.
She's a blame.
If she can't fucking raise hershit.
Lemme tell you about a womanwho's doing something like that.
She don't know our worth either.
Why?
Why?
'cause she ain't, don't have noworth.
Because if she can't mention onething other than sex what she
has to offer, then she ain'tworth no more than that.
Anybody listening to this rightnow?
Answer the question.
(10:36):
What do you have to bring to thetable other than sex and don't
mention sex?
What are you gonna say?
I'll support my man.
What do you say to thatquestion?
You don't your support if you'reattracted to him in the first
place.
What do you say to thatquestion?
If somebody asks you what's yourworth?
What do you say?
I don't even know why that's asaying to a human worth.
Are we talking about financial?
Are we talking about That's whatI, what's the worth?
(10:57):
Well,
you just sat there and said, if they don't know what
you bring to the table,
well,
that's what I insinuate what worth is.
That's what I'm saying.
What is it I'm asking you?
I'm asking.
A man could bring a lot ofthings to the table, but a woman
can't explain that the same waya man can.
'cause a man has to accomplish afuck ton more than a woman does
to attract a woman than it doesa man to attract to a woman.
(11:21):
I'll sum that up in a very smallphrase.
A man has no problem falling inlove with a girl who has no
experience, has ant accomplishedshit in her life, but she's very
humble and sweet versus a bosslady with a fucking narcissist
attitude all day long.
That's the secret.
Ladies, if you're listening,nobody gives a fuck if you're a
(11:41):
boss lady.
Nobody gives a shit about any ofthat.
You know why this guy's
like, well,
that's just the way of life for us.
It's not impressing me at all.
'cause number one, I don't needyou either.
You know what I mean?
That's the truth.
I know.
You know,
there's a lot of Ben out there too.
They don't fucking care aboutthat unless he's a beta male.
He wants you to be the one thatleads, and when the door gets
kicked in, you go grab the gunand go downstairs.
(12:04):
You know what I mean?
So you could say that.
I'm just thinking this stuff inmy head.
This is all real.
I,
I'm just wondering if you're sexist or what.
No,
no, I'm just, I'm secure with who I am and I'm not going
to give somebody power to bringme down and I just want what I
want and I don't want what Idon't want.
Well, that's good.
Very well said.
Yeah, that's a good way to sumit up.
(12:26):
Very good way.
And you know what I'm saying,it's not just,
it, it,
it sounds like I'm being negative or something like that,
but I have my reasons.
And I just think that you're soclosed off to the, to any
possibilities though with,'causeyou're so set in your ways, you
lose your identity in arelationship.
I was once told that by my old,my ex boss.
(12:46):
She was a female.
I had a small crush on her.
Just visually, I didn't like herattitude.
She's right in way.
I just saw she was attracted.
She's
like,
I don't wanna date.
She told me that.
Like,
and I, she's right in a way though.
She is.
She's
like,
I don't wanna lose my identity.
And I'm like, what do you meanby that?
And I didn't know.
I didn't know what she meantbecause you lose a piece of
yourself when you give yourpiece of self yourself to
someone else.
Well
(13:06):
that, and plus when you have a significant other,
especially the older we get,
you know,
you're gonna spend 90% of your time with that person.
So there's less going out withthe girls.
There's less going out with theguys.
There's less this, that and theother.
So,
and then
that,
that comes with compromise obviously, unless both don't
(13:26):
mind beating up each other's asssometimes.
I used to like that.
I liked being up my girl's assand I liked her up my ass.
What changed?
Being single patterns?
Just patterns.
Being single.
Yeah.
Just much greater.
I'm just so used to flaky peopleand people that are
(13:47):
bullshitters.
Nobody's serious no more.
I mean, that's not everybody.
I just think most people arejust not serious.
They don't take it serious.
So I pity the world that you'rein looking for what you're
looking for.
And I pity you for being soclose-minded.
You shouldn't.
I do.
You shouldn't.
(14:08):
I do.
She pitted me if I'm stuck withsome girl I fucking ate and I
can't get off her.
'cause I love her, but shetreats me like dog shit.
And she won't stop.
I've her exes.
I've been,
I've been there.
I've been there.
Love is blind.
So you still talk to your exes,right?
No, I do not talk to that exanymore.
No.
That one I do not talk toanymore.
If you're in a relationship withsome guy, he's not gonna want
you doing that.
(14:28):
So you have to say goodbye toevery X you read?
No, I do not talk to them now.
Like
if I see them out, I'm cordial with them.
Like
there's no bad blood.
No.
And,
you know,
no negativity.
Yeah.
Stuff like that.
That's what I mean.
I don't physically talk to themnow.
No.
Yeah.
But what I'm saying is we lefton good terms.
(14:49):
I could still walk up to themand say, hi, how are you?
And we could be cordial witheach other.
Yeah.
Well,
no bad luck.
We would rather have that than,
you know,
high school.
We would've handled thatdifferent,
you know?
Right.
But as an adult now, I don't talk to any of my exes.
I don't want anything to do withmy exes.
They're an expert reason.
That's how I see it.
(15:14):
I don't know, I just wish Ididn't have such the bad juju
and relationships that I did.
I wish that you wasn't sonegative.
Torture relationships too,though.
Like you, the way you talk abouta relationship is like, you
never wanna be in one everagain.
You, you never, ever, you'rejust so closed off to It is the
(15:36):
best way I can put it.
I'm open to it because that'swhat my body's craving.
And you said your body did atone time.
Yeah, I did it one time.
Yeah.
I can't start myself off fromrunning that.
I know I'm gonna find it.
If you ever find it, you'll, Iknow.
I'm gonna
find,
find it.
Quit swinging at it.
(15:56):
I'll be, I'm not even lookingfor it.
That's the thing.
And usually it'll find me whenit's ready.
Consensus, it's backwards.
Usually this is whole, thiswhole thing is backwards.
What do you mean?
And general consensus.
Most women these days, onceagain going by, I'm independent,
don't need a man.
I wanna be single.
I love my single life shit.
No, I
don't,
don't I got a fucking deal to at home.
I got my own car and apartmentshit.
(16:16):
Nope.
What do I need?
A man for?
What?
Because I need one.
But why do women fucking up forthemselves?
Some many women, men, selfsabotage to don't sit there and
say just women not as clear asmuch as women.
Dude, bullshit.
Come on.
There's a big margin on that.
Bullshit.
Men are very simple creatures.
If a woman can't satisfy a manthat, that woman's fucking
retarded.
(16:36):
Look how much a guy has to do tokeep a woman or attract a woman
from the start.
Let's start there.
What do you have to do?
What do you have to do toimpress the guy?
Sit there, be able to talk.
Some bitches can't even hold up.
We gotta halfway decentconversation.
We have a job, but we don't haveno X around.
We make five to six figures ayear.
(16:58):
So you're just, look, I'mdriving.
I'm she out.
Money foot tall.
I'm 10.
I'm big Dick.
I'm smart.
I'm handsome.
This all has to be fed out toget that perfect man.
Okay.
You just gotta exist.
Oh, I, and it's been that wayyour whole life.
Oh my God.
You got dick pics from your waythis way.
Don't have no pussy pics comingmy way.
I guess if he wasn't so closepuy, he could get some, huh?
(17:20):
If he wasn't so closed off.
Maybe you could get some, I canget some closed off or not.
I get more pussy closed off thanI do on Do you really?
Fuck yeah.
I get more.
I can get more ass.
You get more pussy being a dickthan you did.
I can't.
I can get more sex.
You get more Dick.
I'm sorry.
You get more pussy being adickhead than you do.
Being nice, don't you?
I'm saying I can get No,'causethat's you saying that.
I'm just asking it.
Just see we're we don't see eyeto eye.
(17:42):
I'm trying to figure this out.
We,'cause you said you was aplayer.
Yeah.
So therefore you're not in the,you are not into relationships
whatsoever.
Except for fucking, and you'relike,
well,
you're just, that's why you're single at 46, 47.
Yeah.
'cause because you're closeminded choice.
Yeah.
But you're also close-minded.
I
don't,
I, you, I don't wanna,
don't,
(18:02):
don't.
I've already been open-mindedmost of my life.
Before I got close-minded.
It's not like I was alwaysclose-minded.
I gave it a chance.
I gave the single life going,trying to get a relationship, a
chance
over and
over and over.
People lie.
Yeah.
I've always had a liar.
Me too.
I've always had one
(18:22):
that
that, puts their best foot forward.
In the beginning, remember wewere talking about the honeymoon
stage When you first get theother fall in low?
That's the best part.
But we all know a hundredpercent it's not gonna stay that
way because that's thebeginning.
That's the best part.
What I'm gonna fall in love within the end is after that six
months to a year, are you stillgonna be that way?
(18:45):
Are you still gonna be fuckingtrustable?
Are you still gonna fuck me asmuch or am I just gonna be a
chore or somebody to go run thegarbage for you?
I don't wanna fucking be thatguy.
Guess what?
Now I'm stuck with all thesebills.
I gotta split and I gotta dothis, this and this.
That wasn't my obligationbefore, but now it is.
(19:08):
Do you understand what I'msaying?
Yes.
I understand the man sacrifice.
What you're saying is much more,you all upgrade in a
relationship.
We have to downgrade as negativeas it sounds, as the truth.
Are you fucking kidding me rightnow?
You wanna go pound for pound?
Tell me what you're sacrificingand I'll tell you what I'm
sacrificing if I get into one.
What, okay, what
if I,
(19:28):
if I choose to get in a relationship with someone, women
up upgrade, I have to, excuseme, I have to uproot my kids.
How are you gonna uproot yourkids if I have to move?
They're not going anywhere.
Are you moving in with the guyor is he moving in with you?
We're doing something'causewe're in a relationship.
So you're upgrading.
Finally got a piece of the pie,right?
(19:49):
How
so?
Now you're moving up into his place?
No, we would be getting our ownplace together.
Yeah.
So is it an upgrade?
How's.
I've been living in a house he'sliving in with two women
typically don't date.
So,
so
Right,
right now I'm living in a house.
You're living with tworoommates.
Yes.
So you would be upgrading just,how do you know that?
(20:12):
Because you said you're livingin a,
you're,
you're renting.
Women don't,
women don't date men who make less than them by
tradition.
So getting a house probablywould be more on my income than
yours.
You're upgrading sweetheart.
Oh my God.
You're getting the guy to playthe part and everything.
I can't go out no more.
I can't spend the money onmyself.
(20:33):
I can't leave cars in thedriveway and work on'em if I
want.
But guess what?
You're getting a better homenow.
You got somebody playing thepart and you got someone cooking
and cleaning and fucking youdoing all that.
Like,
I need all that.
Like I need any of it.
I've been cooking and cleaningmy fucking self my whole life
and fucking yourself.
And not being lonely
and,
and fucking myself and not being lonely and having someone
(20:53):
to confide in.
Fucking have someone to talk to.
No, you can have sign, findsomeone to fuck.
That's it.
Hard.
You don't have someone toconfide in and it's not hard to
do.
Share
your
your secrets with and Yeah.
And that's the very tools yougive someone to destroy you.
Secrets you.
It frustrates you.
I know.
'cause no guy's able to.
No, you're right.
That's why it frustrates me.
(21:14):
I know.
It makes me so fucking, fuckingmad.
Because you're right.
I'm telling.
I know.
But as I'm telling you this,none of this is to piss you off.
But you're right.
That's why it makes me mad.
I don't want you to be mad at methough.
I'm not mad at you.
You, I want you to know
that,
that I'm mad at the fucking point that you're, I'm
able to word.
Right.
Because other men don't know how to fucking say it.
Right.
The, it makes you mad because you're right.
It sucks.
There's nothing cool about it.
(21:34):
There's nothing cool that I, butthen again, I think you're
wrong.
I think the way I think.
But it's, it sucks the way youthink.
I don't like the way you thinkI'm gonna put that out there
right now.
I don't.
It's not an attention thingeither.
It really is.
I don't like the way you think.
It sucks.
It don't suck.
But it sucks.
It sucks'cause I know too much.
I wish I didn't know too much.
You don't have, sometimesknowledge is power, faith, or
(21:55):
hope either like where.
Where's,
where's the hope?
Women?
Listen.
Women and men, let's stopcategorizing.
Say,
say, women, men and women.
Men, fuck it up too.
People are telling on themselvesevery day through reels, social
media, videos, live videos,podcasts, whatever.
(22:16):
People are fucked up.
Men and women.
Everybody's fucked up.
No one's perfect.
Nobody's to be trusted thesedays for long term.
I feel like, I don't know,
Sean (22:31):
how am I, how am I gonna word this?
I feel like once again, itlove's temporary, and then
that's why marriage doesn't workIn the modern day.
People change.
I don't believe that theychange.
I don't believe that.
What if you got a got with aguy?
We already, we all are.
Your kids don't even want youdate.
(22:52):
And first and foremost, fuckyou.
You already got a fucking hurdleto go through.
So start there.
I think that my kids don't wantme to date because they know I'm
doing so well by myself.
They know I'm not having someonehurt my feelings.
They don't see me cry, stufflike that.
But if you find the right one,you upgrade.
(23:13):
Why do you keep calling it afucking upgrade?
I know you don't.
Why the fuck do you think it's afucking upgrade?
You don't think you're gonnaupgrade when you meet somebody
else.
You think you're gonnadowngrade.
I'm not gonna have somebody tellme how to spend my money.
I'm not gonna say, have somebodysay, when you coming back, what
are you gonna do?
Who's you with?
(23:34):
Why?
Guess if you wasn't trust, youfuck me once a week.
What do you care if you'retrustworthy?
They wouldn't be asking youthat.
If you built trust in thatperson, they wouldn't be asking
you those questions.
That's if, once again, noteverybody trust either.
I don't wanna act like you'venever heard of an insecure
person before, or somebody don'ttrust you.
Yeah, I've, what do you callhim?
Tara (23:54):
Somebody that's,
well,
I guess like my father, I'm a son of somebody who
wouldn't let my mom use thebathroom by her fucking self.
Nearly the only like controllingfreak.
Controlling freak.
Yeah.
And I don't have that.
I've never controlled a femalein my life.
I've had a couple of them andthey're not something I want to
(24:14):
be with.
And I'm, I go my own way.
When you start controlling me, Idon't have nothing for you.
I don't like to be controlled.
Well,
that's if you let someone control you, don't let somebody
control you.
That's what I'm saying.
They tried, they tried tocontrol me.
I hate they don't work likethat.
Hate women has ever,
if I like women sometimes have popped off outta their neck
and say something,
(24:34):
well, you're,
you're being controlling or you're being insecure.
I what?
Why do women just throw thataround so easily?
Insecure, controlling creeper.
I've never used the wordcreeper.
You use it a lot, I tell you,but I'm saying you use it a lot.
Like you don't want to be acreeper.
(24:55):
What's a creeper?
Women invented this fuckingword.
What's a creeper?, A creeper,just a guy on.
That's what a creeper is.
I mean,
I have Kelly,
you know
Tammy, who's outta state?
This is, this might be the tabooshow, but what I'm saying is not
taboo.
Okay.
Guys are going to do some realshit
in,
in these days, trying to approach a woman without looking
(25:16):
like that.
Everybody's a fucking creeperthese days.
I think women are using thatword too loosely.
Too much.
Yes.
Too much, too loosely.
Or, and it's younger girlsmainly.
You're weird or you're beingweird or you're Ooh, stalkerish.
Ooh, okay.
The new Snow White movie.
That's
young,
(25:36):
young bitches.
That's all young bitches.
Girls are age acted that waytoo.
I've never seen no one act thata that way.
No one my age.
Sure.
Literally go to Johanna Pub.
They're all over.
Wow.
That's where they all fucking,apparently you need to stay out
of there.
Then.
That's where they have theirsight on.
That's just the one spot I usedto play darts there.
It's a, yeah.
That place has went downhill.
Snow White.
(25:56):
The new movie.
What's that stupid bitch theyput on there?
She's not all that great lookingnew Snow White.
Well,
she's
like,
we're gonna change
the,
the storyline up a little bit.
Yeah.
It was a snow White's just gonnabe doing her own thing now.
She just, she's not gonna bewaiting for her love.
Weird, weird.
You know,
he's weird stalker.
Yeah.
I saw it all over the fucking,the reels and Tok and shit.
(26:20):
Yeah.
I don't know what rock you'reunder, but have you ever heard
of Woke?
I fucking hate that.
Okay.
I hate fuck woke.
Whoever's listening to this, ifyou're woke, change of fucking
channel.
Yeah.
You,
if you're, if you're,
if you're agreeing with what I'm saying, then you're
gonna
like
this podcast.
Yeah.
The whole woke bullshit is justbullshit.
(26:40):
So,
and it, this is just the, this portion of the rope that
I'm speaking of is how thenarrative towards men shaming
men are creeper or not becausethey've always, they've made it
sound like no matter whathappens, this guy's a potential
creeper.
Now if the guy's at the streetcorner and he looks over at a
female at the intersection, yousee that, oh, oh God, I got a
(27:06):
creeper looking at me.
Well,
maybe just fucking checking you out for God damn
sakes.
You know?
Right.
Sean (27:11):
Men don't want to approach women no more.
We just don't want to, and thisis another thing.
This is a growing trend.
This ain't something I createdwanting to be single.
This is something that's being,the narrative is starting to go
across the board because womenare on TikTok bitching now.
Why don't men want to commitanymore?
They just don't want to commit.
(27:33):
Maybe start listening to what wegotta say a little more.
We'll tell you, but you don'twanna listen because women think
on emotion.
We think on.
Logic and it's two differentthings.
That's why sometimes if you'rethinking about on, on, on the
basis of a emotion, it can beblurring out what's important
(27:55):
besides logic like marriage,it's the worst contract you can
sign.
And men think logic likebusiness, it's the worst
contract you can sign.
What motherfucking paperworkshould I sign saying if this
don't work out, which mostlikely it probably won't, this
is 2025, then I'm gonna puteverything I work for my whole
life on the line so someone Ican fucking hate can take it all
(28:17):
from me.
You know,
Tara (28:18):
they make prenups, right?
That bitch I was with would'vedone the same thing if I
would've let her have the keys.
'cause I bought her a ring and Inever proposed to her, but I
bought her the ring.
That's how far she made it.
A white gold with naturaldiamonds in this kind of shit
that I sell in my store.
Now she got it and she refusedto give it back.
When we broke up, it was a giftto her.
(28:39):
And legal, consensus.
No, it's true.
No, you can't Indian give,
uh,
no engagement Rings are to give, be given back if you say
no.
Well,
she refused to give it back to me.
You can take it to court and getit.
It's been 13 years too late.
Statute of limitations.
I'm sure there's some stupidfucking blanket law that you
can't do it civilly.
It's a civil case, not acriminal case.
(29:01):
So, and I do know the differenceof that since I worked in a law
firm and collections and theygave me a little bit of
knowledge.
But anyway, that, that's, Iguess that trade helped me
understand a few things too.
So anyway, marriage is abusiness.
It's supposed to be the eyes ofGod.
You guys commit to each other,take a thin sticker, sickness to
(29:24):
health, you guys stick it out.
There's nobody doing that nomore.
And it's bad contract and moreand more
so, and you can.
Deflect me what you want.
It's worse for the guy.
It always is.
That's why they make prenups.
Well,
whatever you guys gain together.
Yeah.
What's so wrong with gainingtogether?
That's what a couple is supposedto do.
(29:44):
I don't see problem with it, butlike most women seem to have a
problem with the prenup.
When they hear that, they'relike, oh.
Oh, what?
You don't trust me?
Well, no, as soon as you saidthat, no.
No.
'cause I expect the person I'mgetting with to sign a prenup
because what I have before themarriage is mine and it's gonna
stay mine.
Right.
You would want
to
to protect your home in two acres, right?
Correct.
So why does a woman freak outwhen a guy says that?
(30:05):
'cause he wants to protect thisbecause they want what they
want, what they have.
And I don't want what they have.
I want to build with somebody.
That's the difference.
I don't want what somebody elsehas.
I want to build with somebody.
I want our own stuff together.
That's the difference between meand somebody else.
Building with somebody else.
(30:27):
That's hard to find.
Sean (30:28):
Well,
Tara (30:28):
hopefully you find that I will.
I know I will.
I still have things I wanna doin my life that's gonna keep me
from wanting to be in one, evenif I wanted to be in one,
because I still wanted to live alittle bit of a nomad life for a
little while.
Why?
I'm not, dude, you're almost 50.
That's the perfect time.
That's the perfect time.
You kill me.
(30:49):
I'm confused.
You're almost 50.
Never been married.
You realize that most people whoare nomads are fucking senior
citizens.
I don't even know what nomadsis.
I'm just thinking.
See, you haven't, there's a lot.
Don't.
In my mind, I'm just thinking
like,
you just give up.
You just gave up.
Right.
Point blank.
I'm living my life.
You've been living your life.
I'm not looking at a time clockno more.
I own my vehicles.
(31:10):
I owe nobody nothing but thefucking rent I pay.
Right.
And my phone bill and my insurance and the shit that I
have to pay.
You know,
the shit that I
have to
have to pay every month bills.
I get that.
That keeps me enjoying my life.
I gotta pay that stuff so
Right.
Uh, you know,
and have a place to keep myself clean, cut and do my
thing.
But in the end, i'm not too oldto be a nomad and travel the
(31:31):
country before I get too old.
This is the point why I wanna doit now is because someday I'm
gonna be too old to do it and Idon't want to be with hell.
Katie slippers on and humpingthe trying to hump the nurse's
leg.
Like,
you know what?
I wish I would've fuckingtraveled.
I didn't listen to myself.
Now I'm too fucking old to doanything and I married some
fucking winch.
Who's out there fucking theyoung pool boy?
(31:52):
Well,
I can't feed myself.
That's how it is.
Why couldn't you find someonethat likes to travel too?
Why couldn't you find someonethat you can make money
together?
Why can't I?
I don't know.
Why can't I?
Where are they at?
You're Most women wannahomestead.
They don't wanna do that.
There's not a lot of women whowanna live like that and it's
(32:13):
not permanent.
Anyway, I told you, I said Iwant to do it for a few years,
right?
I wanted to live where I'm
at
at the time, and my camper work in my online auctions and
shit and hit different parts ofthe country to find collectibles
and selling'em where I'm at.
Hitting the post office andpinching'em out and going to the
beach and getting thatmargarita.
(32:34):
I like the life to me not, oh,it's been a dream of mine.
God, I'm not gonna lie.
Where are you at?
You fucking some other bitch at10 minutes, God late.
I got dinner.
It's getting cold.
You're pissing the kids off.
You told them you were gonnawatch Pokemon with them.
You're not having any kids.
You're done.
It's an example.
I know, but that, that, that'sover and done with the shit, the
(32:55):
kids thing.
Thank God.
Now you're just, because Ididn't want that either.
I didn't want that either.
I never had kids.
I know that one was,
I would,
I would rather risk marriage than have a kid.
But if I would've had a kid, Iwish I would've done it years
ago with your kid's age?
Yeah.
You know they're teenagers.
That's a good time.
You know they're turning intoadults soon and right now you
(33:17):
feel like you can talk to'em ona level and not I do.
Come on, honey.
You're not doing that no more.
No, it's,
you know.
I talked to them like adults.
16.
You got one that's 14.
And yes.
Young adults, I talk to themlike they're young adults and
yeah.
As well.
You should as well.
You should because I'm teachingthem lessons.
Prepare them to understandhumor.
Mm-hmm.
Adult humors
and,
and adult gestures and what, how to respect people.
(33:40):
Give them mutual respect upfront.
Mm-hmm.
I feel like that's highly important.
If I was a parent, and I'll tellyou one thing, and this ain't a
subject changer, it's
kind of
off to the side, but like every girl I was with that did
have kids said it was great withthem.
That's nice.
All of them.
My kids are so good.
I've never really had todiscipline them, be mean to
(34:02):
them, spank them.
My kids are very well behaved.
They've never thrown tittertantrums, they've never acted
out in public.
They're perfect.
Like I got blessed.
I'm not gonna fucking lie.
I got fucking,
I mean, you know,
you did and you was being a mom.
That's what you did apparently.
'cause you wasn't, they'd be outthere fucking stealing your car
(34:23):
in the middle of the night.
I did something.
Right.
I gotta say that I did something right.
Yeah.
Because my kids are very good.
Same with my mother.
She'd say the same about me.
I was hard to raise.
I was
kind of
a hoodlum.
Mm-hmm.
Hell at the time.
But my mom would be so confusedby that.
'cause I was kind of the bad boysomewhat, but I was a good kid.
I wasn't getting a serioustrouble.
They'd say, your son's so nice.
(34:45):
He comes over and ask to use thebathroom.
Ask politely if he needssomething to drink.
Just like when I asked you, doyou have a soda?
This is all embedded into megetting raised.
Ask.
It's not me just doing.
Yeah.
You ask for if you, before yougrab or you get Yeah.
When I'm in your spot that way,private space, this is your safe
place.
This building right here on thisland,
you know,
(35:05):
this is what you consider your home.
You're going to be selective whoyou let pass the door clearly.
Yeah.
So when I've been blessed to doin somebody's home and they
trust me to come in, I gottashow them that.
I don't just go in yourrefrigerator and go, you're
gonna be respectful.
I'm gonna be respectful untilthe day you say, quit fucking
asking me and just go getsomething to drink, then I'll do
(35:25):
it.
Yeah.
But that's it.
But it is just, I think thatmost people get a good
impression from me from beingthat way no matter where I go.
'cause that's how I was raised,that's how my mom raised me.
And I have to say, I've raisedmine the same way.
That's right.
Obey respect when you're insomeone else's fucking house.
(35:46):
Right.
So you know why I'm here.
I'm in your country, right?
This is your state.
I'm just a guest here.
I just flew in to visit yourwonderful country and your
family and your people.
And I'm glad that you do.
Thank you for coming.
Thanks for listening to today'spodcast.
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Tara (00:16):
Relationship thing really fucked you up, huh?
Because that's why you scream.
I'd rather pull my dick out thanmy heart out.
I am quoting you on that one.
Yeah.
Who can blame me?
Who, what Human can blame you.
A person that hadn't experiencedshit in their life, maybe or
don't know about.
What did she do to you or don'tknow about that life?
I just, I don't think it'ssolely her.
(00:38):
It's just where it started.
Sean (00:40):
You know,
Tara (00:41):
when you invest something's hardcore into
somebody and you spend years andit's just, somebody just decides
they don't wanna fuck muchanymore.
You're just last priority.
It's when you go to holdsomebody to the same standards
they hold to you, that's when itbecomes a problem.
Sean (00:56):
Right.
You know?
Tara (00:58):
I feel like there's so many deflective ways of reasons
Sean (01:04):
to why it is just not worth getting into.
I don't think I'm meant to beagamous.
Tara (01:16):
You do want that.
So what's your reason forwanting that?
I crave it.
What, what do you crave theother half?
Why?
Of me.
I don't know.
I wish I knew.
I wish I could make it go away.
I have been there before Forsure.
You've craved your other half?
It just never happened.
Yeah.
So I'm craving something thatdon't exist, so I just let it
(01:37):
go.
And now I don't, it does exist.
I don't know how to reverse whatI've healed.
I've healed myself to not, it'snot that I'm blocking it.
I just, I basically dismantlewhat would allow me to do it by
default.
So now I just don't want to doit.
Sean (01:53):
That's,
Tara (01:54):
that's it makes it so easy.
I just don't want it.
So you wanna be alone for therest of your life?
Possibly.
Possibly.
See, I don't, it's lonely.
I just want somebody to hang outwith.
I want that too.
I want somebody to be fun, so onand so on.
But the minute you put a labelon it, the problems start.
Sean (02:12):
It's just,
Tara (02:13):
it's just been, it's been like that my whole life.
It really has.
I see where you're coming from.
I do.
So it's just, is it worth it?
Sean (02:20):
You know,
Tara (02:20):
it's harder to get out than it was getting in.
You can argue until the cowscome home.
That's the truth.
Wow.
You're so stubborn.
No, I'm telling you the truth.
It's hard.
That's to get out than it isgetting in.
It's your way of thinking.
It shouldn't, you can't help thetruth.
(02:43):
You,
you either speak the truth or you can live in a dream
world.
It's easy for a female to sitthere and say they want to live
the fantasy.
It's not a fantasy.
You all think I crave a reality.
You crave a fantasy.
No.
Because I'm gonna make it areality.
See, that's the differencebetween me and you.
I know it's reality because mybody craves it, my mind craves
(03:05):
it, my heart craves it.
I know it's out there.
I think everybody wants love.
That's natural.
Everybody wants love.
It's a trade off is, I guess iswhat I'm getting at.
I don't feel like the trade offis worth it.
If you invest your emotions,what are you trading off?
Well,
your emotions, your feelings.
You lose
your,
your heart.
(03:25):
Like,
I like to be able to do what I want.
You know?
That's just me.
I get that.
Me too.
You know?
And that, that does suck because you do have to pick one
way or the other.
If you're,
you know,
compromised.
You gotta spend time with theperson, you gotta be around.
And, and that's, uh, expected.
That's what I would expect too.
Uh, if I'm taking somebody tothat level, uh,
(03:48):
if I'm into somebody, I feel like maybe I get attached a
little too hard and that pushespeople away ultimately.
That's why you stay sostandoffish?
I don't wanna be a creeper.
I don't wanna be accused of justwanting one thing all the
fucking time.
Maybe I am, maybe I'm not.
But it's just all theseassumptions comes up front and
it's
Sean (04:07):
like, well,
Tara (04:07):
guess what?
You're not getting any of it.
So you see what you want.
'cause if somebody else is notwilling to do something,
somebody else is, there's alwaysthat other person who is okay.
But is that person as good asthe other person is that person
is gonna make you laugh, makeyou, sometimes I've had more fun
(04:28):
with somebody who doesn't loveme.
They're honest.
There's no hiding, nothing.
If they're still talking totheir ex, they just, have you
ever had friendship before?
You had relationship with afemale, you mean?
Yeah.
That's what I'm referring to.
Yeah.
You've had friendship.
Before relationship.
Like you've been friends withthat person for a period of and
(04:50):
had a relationship Yes.
And then had a relationship.
Yeah.
How did that work?
And those are people I wouldstill talk to today.
I've had a lot of good breakupsand then That's crazy.
'cause I haven't had a bunch ofbad ones.
It's just circumstantial.
And I feel like, that's funny.
'cause I still talk to all myexes too.
Yeah.
I, none of my exes have anythingbad to say about me neither.
(05:12):
Compatibility a lot of times.
I know that I can't have my cakeand eat it too.
'cause you're either gonna besingle, be free, be lonely a
little bit,
deal
with deal without.
What's your heart's asking youto do?
Like yourself?
Your heart's hungry for it.
Okay.
Craving it.
I have been there, I have beenthere and
Sean (05:31):
I ran,
Tara (05:31):
I ran out of that mode where those nights laying in
bed.
Borderline crying or justborderline fucking lost.
Like lonely.
Nobody wants me,
Sean (05:41):
you know,
Tara (05:41):
you go through those states.
I have, I go through the stateswhere I'm like, nobody decent
wants me.
It's always some shit bag whohas a bad attitude?
Who can't get off their ex orthey can't do this, can't do
that.
It's always something if Ihappen to like'em and the ones
that like me are particularlythe ones I just don't like.
That's really to sum it up, itjust don't work out.
(06:02):
And if I get lucky enough andit's too good to be true, it
probably is too good to be true.
Really?
You think that See you, youdon't understand your way of
thinking.
Just bogles my mind.
No, you haven't been where Ibeen.
How do you, how would you know?
I've been a lot of places, babe.
I've been around more than you.
I guarantee it.
You think I guarantee it?
No.
No.
You've had long relationshipsbefore.
(06:23):
My longest was three years.
Of girlfriends, a lot of fuckbuddies.
Me too.
A lot of one night stands.
Me too.
Just telling you.
Me too.
I'm a retired player.
Me too.
I enjoy the buzz.
I enjoy
not,
not giving a fuck.
I enjoy not having, I did notanymore.
I'm giving a woman the power tohurt me and they can't do it.
I like when they can't do it andthey're pissed about it.
(06:44):
And that's why you're 47 andsingle.
'cause you're scared I changedthat way and
I'm not,
I'm not
even
even 46 yet, by the way.
Oh God.
You keep correcting me.
I keep,'cause I'm 47.
Okay.
46.
Yeah.
It's not,
it's not a bitter thing.
It's just, I enjoy it.
I enjoy being single too, but mybody still craves that person.
(07:05):
I crave the first three monthsof relationship.
Oh, you craved the honeymoonstage.
Yeah.
And that's good.
Then they start doing this to meand
you know,
telling their friends,
uh, you're,
you're hovering me.
You're hovering me.
Then it's time to ghost.
Wait a minute.
That's where the ghosting comesin.
(07:25):
Who tells
you
you're hovering me when I took backseat.
That's when I start ghosting.
Wait a minute.
When who says
who's,
who's hovering?
I'm,
I'm lost.
Well,
I was
kind of
role playing that one, but I know that's why I was like,
who's who.
Yeah.
But it gets to the point where,and I'm not putting the,
timeline on it, but it does havea average ish timeline.
(07:46):
Let's say,
let's say two to six months is really gonna test out
if it's gonna go a distance ofsome kind, whether it just be a
few years, whether it be longerthan that.
The first two to six months willdecide that.
Because if you can get pastthat, you guys still getting
along, you're very compatible.
(08:07):
You love them nights on Netflixand you like the nights going
out too.
When those two things can workout, and let's say they stay
working out and there's nointerruption from the family,
there's no interruption fromyour girlfriend that you're
taking advice from and she'ssingle for a fucking reason.
You shouldn't be taking heradvice.
Because that bitch is single andlonely and pissed off and can't
(08:28):
get what you're getting.
And she's trying to sabotage it.
Lemme tell you something ladies,if, if this fucking thing is
still recording right now, quitlistening to your fucking
friends that're miserable.
And they want you to staymiserable with them.
They don't wanna be miserablealone.
But if you got ones that aredictating your thought process
or what you wanna do, right?
They're not your true friends.
No.
And girls are, and fellas, don'ttake advice from a woman on
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relationships.
Don't take advice from a womanon anything.
Sex at all, really to heart.
Fuck you, you fed us.
How ended that with Yeah, afteryou, after I tilted my head and
looked at you like, you'refucking crazy.
Not, maybe not the sex part.
Maybe you could take theirmessage, because I know what the
fuck I'm talking about.
But relationship advice and likehow to attract a woman and do
all that stuff.
If a girl's giving a guy advice,they're gonna tell you
(09:12):
everything you shouldn't do.
They're gonna tell you to dothose things, to be nice, to be
too gentlemen like,'cause thenyou're gonna become too nice.
You're gonna look desperate.
You're gonna look ish andinsecure, controlling and all
the other fucking things thatyou're coming up with.
You are just so in your head.
You think, I'm just making thisup.
Sean (09:33):
Kind of.
I mean,
Tara (09:35):
do you get out much?
Let anything fate?
Why is it so unheard of thatsomebody just wants to be
single?
Why is that so odd?
It's not odd.
There's plenty of women likethat.
I'm strong and independent.
I don't need no, man.
Why don't you go ask them that.
Ask them why they're being soselfish and they don't need a
man around.
Tara (2) (09:55):
Well,
Tara (09:55):
I can answer that, huh?
Because most of'em are bums andthey just wanna live.
I'd rather be single.
I don't need no fucking, I cananswer that for you, right?
Because they're bums and theywanna live off of a woman that
is independent and has somethinga lot of them do.
I've had a lot of them do it tome.
Why the fuck is a woman evenmessing with a guy like that in
the first place?
Attention.
She's a blame.
(10:15):
Yep.
Attention.
She's a blame.
If she can't fucking raise hershit.
Lemme tell you about a womanwho's doing something like that.
She don't know our worth either.
Why?
Why?
'cause she ain't, don't have noworth.
Because if she can't mention onething other than sex what she
has to offer, then she ain'tworth no more than that.
Anybody listening to this rightnow?
Answer the question.
(10:36):
What do you have to bring to thetable other than sex and don't
mention sex?
What are you gonna say?
I'll support my man.
What do you say to thatquestion?
You don't your support if you'reattracted to him in the first
place.
What do you say to thatquestion?
If somebody asks you what's yourworth?
What do you say?
I don't even know why that's asaying to a human worth.
Are we talking about financial?
Are we talking about That's whatI, what's the worth?
(10:57):
Well,
you just sat there and said, if they don't know what
you bring to the table,
well,
that's what I insinuate what worth is.
That's what I'm saying.
What is it I'm asking you?
I'm asking.
A man could bring a lot ofthings to the table, but a woman
can't explain that the same waya man can.
'cause a man has to accomplish afuck ton more than a woman does
to attract a woman than it doesa man to attract to a woman.
(11:21):
I'll sum that up in a very smallphrase.
A man has no problem falling inlove with a girl who has no
experience, has ant accomplishedshit in her life, but she's very
humble and sweet versus a bosslady with a fucking narcissist
attitude all day long.
That's the secret.
Ladies, if you're listening,nobody gives a fuck if you're a
(11:41):
boss lady.
Nobody gives a shit about any ofthat.
You know why this guy's
like, well,
that's just the way of life for us.
It's not impressing me at all.
'cause number one, I don't needyou either.
You know what I mean?
That's the truth.
I know.
You know,
there's a lot of Ben out there too.
They don't fucking care aboutthat unless he's a beta male.
He wants you to be the one thatleads, and when the door gets
kicked in, you go grab the gunand go downstairs.
(12:04):
You know what I mean?
So you could say that.
I'm just thinking this stuff inmy head.
This is all real.
I,
I'm just wondering if you're sexist or what.
No,
no, I'm just, I'm secure with who I am and I'm not going
to give somebody power to bringme down and I just want what I
want and I don't want what Idon't want.
Well, that's good.
Very well said.
Yeah, that's a good way to sumit up.
(12:26):
Very good way.
And you know what I'm saying,it's not just,
it, it,
it sounds like I'm being negative or something like that,
but I have my reasons.
And I just think that you're soclosed off to the, to any
possibilities though with,'causeyou're so set in your ways, you
lose your identity in arelationship.
I was once told that by my old,my ex boss.
(12:46):
She was a female.
I had a small crush on her.
Just visually, I didn't like herattitude.
She's right in way.
I just saw she was attracted.
She's
like,
I don't wanna date.
She told me that.
Like,
and I, she's right in a way though.
She is.
She's
like,
I don't wanna lose my identity.
And I'm like, what do you meanby that?
And I didn't know.
I didn't know what she meantbecause you lose a piece of
yourself when you give yourpiece of self yourself to
someone else.
Well
(13:06):
that, and plus when you have a significant other,
especially the older we get,
you know,
you're gonna spend 90% of your time with that person.
So there's less going out withthe girls.
There's less going out with theguys.
There's less this, that and theother.
So,
and then
that,
that comes with compromise obviously, unless both don't
(13:26):
mind beating up each other's asssometimes.
I used to like that.
I liked being up my girl's assand I liked her up my ass.
What changed?
Being single patterns?
Just patterns.
Being single.
Yeah.
Just much greater.
I'm just so used to flaky peopleand people that are
(13:47):
bullshitters.
Nobody's serious no more.
I mean, that's not everybody.
I just think most people arejust not serious.
They don't take it serious.
So I pity the world that you'rein looking for what you're
looking for.
And I pity you for being soclose-minded.
You shouldn't.
I do.
You shouldn't.
(14:08):
I do.
She pitted me if I'm stuck withsome girl I fucking ate and I
can't get off her.
'cause I love her, but shetreats me like dog shit.
And she won't stop.
I've her exes.
I've been,
I've been there.
I've been there.
Love is blind.
So you still talk to your exes,right?
No, I do not talk to that exanymore.
No.
That one I do not talk toanymore.
If you're in a relationship withsome guy, he's not gonna want
you doing that.
(14:28):
So you have to say goodbye toevery X you read?
No, I do not talk to them now.
Like
if I see them out, I'm cordial with them.
Like
there's no bad blood.
No.
And,
you know,
no negativity.
Yeah.
Stuff like that.
That's what I mean.
I don't physically talk to themnow.
No.
Yeah.
But what I'm saying is we lefton good terms.
(14:49):
I could still walk up to themand say, hi, how are you?
And we could be cordial witheach other.
Yeah.
Well,
no bad luck.
We would rather have that than,
you know,
high school.
We would've handled thatdifferent,
you know?
Right.
But as an adult now, I don't talk to any of my exes.
I don't want anything to do withmy exes.
They're an expert reason.
That's how I see it.
(15:14):
I don't know, I just wish Ididn't have such the bad juju
and relationships that I did.
I wish that you wasn't sonegative.
Torture relationships too,though.
Like you, the way you talk abouta relationship is like, you
never wanna be in one everagain.
You, you never, ever, you'rejust so closed off to It is the
(15:36):
best way I can put it.
I'm open to it because that'swhat my body's craving.
And you said your body did atone time.
Yeah, I did it one time.
Yeah.
I can't start myself off fromrunning that.
I know I'm gonna find it.
If you ever find it, you'll, Iknow.
I'm gonna
find,
find it.
Quit swinging at it.
(15:56):
I'll be, I'm not even lookingfor it.
That's the thing.
And usually it'll find me whenit's ready.
Consensus, it's backwards.
Usually this is whole, thiswhole thing is backwards.
What do you mean?
And general consensus.
Most women these days, onceagain going by, I'm independent,
don't need a man.
I wanna be single.
I love my single life shit.
No, I
don't,
don't I got a fucking deal to at home.
I got my own car and apartmentshit.
(16:16):
Nope.
What do I need?
A man for?
What?
Because I need one.
But why do women fucking up forthemselves?
Some many women, men, selfsabotage to don't sit there and
say just women not as clear asmuch as women.
Dude, bullshit.
Come on.
There's a big margin on that.
Bullshit.
Men are very simple creatures.
If a woman can't satisfy a manthat, that woman's fucking
retarded.
(16:36):
Look how much a guy has to do tokeep a woman or attract a woman
from the start.
Let's start there.
What do you have to do?
What do you have to do toimpress the guy?
Sit there, be able to talk.
Some bitches can't even hold up.
We gotta halfway decentconversation.
We have a job, but we don't haveno X around.
We make five to six figures ayear.
(16:58):
So you're just, look, I'mdriving.
I'm she out.
Money foot tall.
I'm 10.
I'm big Dick.
I'm smart.
I'm handsome.
This all has to be fed out toget that perfect man.
Okay.
You just gotta exist.
Oh, I, and it's been that wayyour whole life.
Oh my God.
You got dick pics from your waythis way.
Don't have no pussy pics comingmy way.
I guess if he wasn't so closepuy, he could get some, huh?
(17:20):
If he wasn't so closed off.
Maybe you could get some, I canget some closed off or not.
I get more pussy closed off thanI do on Do you really?
Fuck yeah.
I get more.
I can get more ass.
You get more pussy being a dickthan you did.
I can't.
I can get more sex.
You get more Dick.
I'm sorry.
You get more pussy being adickhead than you do.
Being nice, don't you?
I'm saying I can get No,'causethat's you saying that.
I'm just asking it.
Just see we're we don't see eyeto eye.
(17:42):
I'm trying to figure this out.
We,'cause you said you was aplayer.
Yeah.
So therefore you're not in the,you are not into relationships
whatsoever.
Except for fucking, and you'relike,
well,
you're just, that's why you're single at 46, 47.
Yeah.
'cause because you're closeminded choice.
Yeah.
But you're also close-minded.
I
don't,
I, you, I don't wanna,
don't,
(18:02):
don't.
I've already been open-mindedmost of my life.
Before I got close-minded.
It's not like I was alwaysclose-minded.
I gave it a chance.
I gave the single life going,trying to get a relationship, a
chance
over and
over and over.
People lie.
Yeah.
I've always had a liar.
Me too.
I've always had one
(18:22):
that
that, puts their best foot forward.
In the beginning, remember wewere talking about the honeymoon
stage When you first get theother fall in low?
That's the best part.
But we all know a hundredpercent it's not gonna stay that
way because that's thebeginning.
That's the best part.
What I'm gonna fall in love within the end is after that six
months to a year, are you stillgonna be that way?
(18:45):
Are you still gonna be fuckingtrustable?
Are you still gonna fuck me asmuch or am I just gonna be a
chore or somebody to go run thegarbage for you?
I don't wanna fucking be thatguy.
Guess what?
Now I'm stuck with all thesebills.
I gotta split and I gotta dothis, this and this.
That wasn't my obligationbefore, but now it is.
(19:08):
Do you understand what I'msaying?
Yes.
I understand the man sacrifice.
What you're saying is much more,you all upgrade in a
relationship.
We have to downgrade as negativeas it sounds, as the truth.
Are you fucking kidding me rightnow?
You wanna go pound for pound?
Tell me what you're sacrificingand I'll tell you what I'm
sacrificing if I get into one.
What, okay, what
if I,
(19:28):
if I choose to get in a relationship with someone, women
up upgrade, I have to, excuseme, I have to uproot my kids.
How are you gonna uproot yourkids if I have to move?
They're not going anywhere.
Are you moving in with the guyor is he moving in with you?
We're doing something'causewe're in a relationship.
So you're upgrading.
Finally got a piece of the pie,right?
(19:49):
How
so?
Now you're moving up into his place?
No, we would be getting our ownplace together.
Yeah.
So is it an upgrade?
How's.
I've been living in a house he'sliving in with two women
typically don't date.
So,
so
Right,
right now I'm living in a house.
You're living with tworoommates.
Yes.
So you would be upgrading just,how do you know that?
(20:12):
Because you said you're livingin a,
you're,
you're renting.
Women don't,
women don't date men who make less than them by
tradition.
So getting a house probablywould be more on my income than
yours.
You're upgrading sweetheart.
Oh my God.
You're getting the guy to playthe part and everything.
I can't go out no more.
I can't spend the money onmyself.
(20:33):
I can't leave cars in thedriveway and work on'em if I
want.
But guess what?
You're getting a better homenow.
You got somebody playing thepart and you got someone cooking
and cleaning and fucking youdoing all that.
Like,
I need all that.
Like I need any of it.
I've been cooking and cleaningmy fucking self my whole life
and fucking yourself.
And not being lonely
and,
and fucking myself and not being lonely and having someone
(20:53):
to confide in.
Fucking have someone to talk to.
No, you can have sign, findsomeone to fuck.
That's it.
Hard.
You don't have someone toconfide in and it's not hard to
do.
Share
your
your secrets with and Yeah.
And that's the very tools yougive someone to destroy you.
Secrets you.
It frustrates you.
I know.
'cause no guy's able to.
No, you're right.
That's why it frustrates me.
(21:14):
I know.
It makes me so fucking, fuckingmad.
Because you're right.
I'm telling.
I know.
But as I'm telling you this,none of this is to piss you off.
But you're right.
That's why it makes me mad.
I don't want you to be mad at methough.
I'm not mad at you.
You, I want you to know
that,
that I'm mad at the fucking point that you're, I'm
able to word.
Right.
Because other men don't know how to fucking say it.
Right.
The, it makes you mad because you're right.
It sucks.
There's nothing cool about it.
(21:34):
There's nothing cool that I, butthen again, I think you're
wrong.
I think the way I think.
But it's, it sucks the way youthink.
I don't like the way you thinkI'm gonna put that out there
right now.
I don't.
It's not an attention thingeither.
It really is.
I don't like the way you think.
It sucks.
It don't suck.
But it sucks.
It sucks'cause I know too much.
I wish I didn't know too much.
You don't have, sometimesknowledge is power, faith, or
(21:55):
hope either like where.
Where's,
where's the hope?
Women?
Listen.
Women and men, let's stopcategorizing.
Say,
say, women, men and women.
Men, fuck it up too.
People are telling on themselvesevery day through reels, social
media, videos, live videos,podcasts, whatever.
(22:16):
People are fucked up.
Men and women.
Everybody's fucked up.
No one's perfect.
Nobody's to be trusted thesedays for long term.
I feel like, I don't know,
Sean (22:31):
how am I, how am I gonna word this?
I feel like once again, itlove's temporary, and then
that's why marriage doesn't workIn the modern day.
People change.
I don't believe that theychange.
I don't believe that.
What if you got a got with aguy?
We already, we all are.
Your kids don't even want youdate.
(22:52):
And first and foremost, fuckyou.
You already got a fucking hurdleto go through.
So start there.
I think that my kids don't wantme to date because they know I'm
doing so well by myself.
They know I'm not having someonehurt my feelings.
They don't see me cry, stufflike that.
But if you find the right one,you upgrade.
(23:13):
Why do you keep calling it afucking upgrade?
I know you don't.
Why the fuck do you think it's afucking upgrade?
You don't think you're gonnaupgrade when you meet somebody
else.
You think you're gonnadowngrade.
I'm not gonna have somebody tellme how to spend my money.
I'm not gonna say, have somebodysay, when you coming back, what
are you gonna do?
Who's you with?
(23:34):
Why?
Guess if you wasn't trust, youfuck me once a week.
What do you care if you'retrustworthy?
They wouldn't be asking youthat.
If you built trust in thatperson, they wouldn't be asking
you those questions.
That's if, once again, noteverybody trust either.
I don't wanna act like you'venever heard of an insecure
person before, or somebody don'ttrust you.
Yeah, I've, what do you callhim?
Tara (23:54):
Somebody that's,
well,
I guess like my father, I'm a son of somebody who
wouldn't let my mom use thebathroom by her fucking self.
Nearly the only like controllingfreak.
Controlling freak.
Yeah.
And I don't have that.
I've never controlled a femalein my life.
I've had a couple of them andthey're not something I want to
(24:14):
be with.
And I'm, I go my own way.
When you start controlling me, Idon't have nothing for you.
I don't like to be controlled.
Well,
that's if you let someone control you, don't let somebody
control you.
That's what I'm saying.
They tried, they tried tocontrol me.
I hate they don't work likethat.
Hate women has ever,
if I like women sometimes have popped off outta their neck
and say something,
(24:34):
well, you're,
you're being controlling or you're being insecure.
I what?
Why do women just throw thataround so easily?
Insecure, controlling creeper.
I've never used the wordcreeper.
You use it a lot, I tell you,but I'm saying you use it a lot.
Like you don't want to be acreeper.
(24:55):
What's a creeper?
Women invented this fuckingword.
What's a creeper?, A creeper,just a guy on.
That's what a creeper is.
I mean,
I have Kelly,
you know
Tammy, who's outta state?
This is, this might be the tabooshow, but what I'm saying is not
taboo.
Okay.
Guys are going to do some realshit
in,
in these days, trying to approach a woman without looking
(25:16):
like that.
Everybody's a fucking creeperthese days.
I think women are using thatword too loosely.
Too much.
Yes.
Too much, too loosely.
Or, and it's younger girlsmainly.
You're weird or you're beingweird or you're Ooh, stalkerish.
Ooh, okay.
The new Snow White movie.
That's
young,
(25:36):
young bitches.
That's all young bitches.
Girls are age acted that waytoo.
I've never seen no one act thata that way.
No one my age.
Sure.
Literally go to Johanna Pub.
They're all over.
Wow.
That's where they all fucking,apparently you need to stay out
of there.
Then.
That's where they have theirsight on.
That's just the one spot I usedto play darts there.
It's a, yeah.
That place has went downhill.
Snow White.
(25:56):
The new movie.
What's that stupid bitch theyput on there?
She's not all that great lookingnew Snow White.
Well,
she's
like,
we're gonna change
the,
the storyline up a little bit.
Yeah.
It was a snow White's just gonnabe doing her own thing now.
She just, she's not gonna bewaiting for her love.
Weird, weird.
You know,
he's weird stalker.
Yeah.
I saw it all over the fucking,the reels and Tok and shit.
(26:20):
Yeah.
I don't know what rock you'reunder, but have you ever heard
of Woke?
I fucking hate that.
Okay.
I hate fuck woke.
Whoever's listening to this, ifyou're woke, change of fucking
channel.
Yeah.
You,
if you're, if you're,
if you're agreeing with what I'm saying, then you're
gonna
like
this podcast.
Yeah.
The whole woke bullshit is justbullshit.
(26:40):
So,
and it, this is just the, this portion of the rope that
I'm speaking of is how thenarrative towards men shaming
men are creeper or not becausethey've always, they've made it
sound like no matter whathappens, this guy's a potential
creeper.
Now if the guy's at the streetcorner and he looks over at a
female at the intersection, yousee that, oh, oh God, I got a
(27:06):
creeper looking at me.
Well,
maybe just fucking checking you out for God damn
sakes.
You know?
Right.
Sean (27:11):
Men don't want to approach women no more.
We just don't want to, and thisis another thing.
This is a growing trend.
This ain't something I createdwanting to be single.
This is something that's being,the narrative is starting to go
across the board because womenare on TikTok bitching now.
Why don't men want to commitanymore?
They just don't want to commit.
(27:33):
Maybe start listening to what wegotta say a little more.
We'll tell you, but you don'twanna listen because women think
on emotion.
We think on.
Logic and it's two differentthings.
That's why sometimes if you'rethinking about on, on, on the
basis of a emotion, it can beblurring out what's important
(27:55):
besides logic like marriage,it's the worst contract you can
sign.
And men think logic likebusiness, it's the worst
contract you can sign.
What motherfucking paperworkshould I sign saying if this
don't work out, which mostlikely it probably won't, this
is 2025, then I'm gonna puteverything I work for my whole
life on the line so someone Ican fucking hate can take it all
(28:17):
from me.
You know,
Tara (28:18):
they make prenups, right?
That bitch I was with would'vedone the same thing if I
would've let her have the keys.
'cause I bought her a ring and Inever proposed to her, but I
bought her the ring.
That's how far she made it.
A white gold with naturaldiamonds in this kind of shit
that I sell in my store.
Now she got it and she refusedto give it back.
When we broke up, it was a giftto her.
(28:39):
And legal, consensus.
No, it's true.
No, you can't Indian give,
uh,
no engagement Rings are to give, be given back if you say
no.
Well,
she refused to give it back to me.
You can take it to court and getit.
It's been 13 years too late.
Statute of limitations.
I'm sure there's some stupidfucking blanket law that you
can't do it civilly.
It's a civil case, not acriminal case.
(29:01):
So, and I do know the differenceof that since I worked in a law
firm and collections and theygave me a little bit of
knowledge.
But anyway, that, that's, Iguess that trade helped me
understand a few things too.
So anyway, marriage is abusiness.
It's supposed to be the eyes ofGod.
You guys commit to each other,take a thin sticker, sickness to
(29:24):
health, you guys stick it out.
There's nobody doing that nomore.
And it's bad contract and moreand more
so, and you can.
Deflect me what you want.
It's worse for the guy.
It always is.
That's why they make prenups.
Well,
whatever you guys gain together.
Yeah.
What's so wrong with gainingtogether?
That's what a couple is supposedto do.
(29:44):
I don't see problem with it, butlike most women seem to have a
problem with the prenup.
When they hear that, they'relike, oh.
Oh, what?
You don't trust me?
Well, no, as soon as you saidthat, no.
No.
'cause I expect the person I'mgetting with to sign a prenup
because what I have before themarriage is mine and it's gonna
stay mine.
Right.
You would want
to
to protect your home in two acres, right?
Correct.
So why does a woman freak outwhen a guy says that?
(30:05):
'cause he wants to protect thisbecause they want what they
want, what they have.
And I don't want what they have.
I want to build with somebody.
That's the difference.
I don't want what somebody elsehas.
I want to build with somebody.
I want our own stuff together.
That's the difference between meand somebody else.
Building with somebody else.
(30:27):
That's hard to find.
Sean (30:28):
Well,
Tara (30:28):
hopefully you find that I will.
I know I will.
I still have things I wanna doin my life that's gonna keep me
from wanting to be in one, evenif I wanted to be in one,
because I still wanted to live alittle bit of a nomad life for a
little while.
Why?
I'm not, dude, you're almost 50.
That's the perfect time.
That's the perfect time.
You kill me.
(30:49):
I'm confused.
You're almost 50.
Never been married.
You realize that most people whoare nomads are fucking senior
citizens.
I don't even know what nomadsis.
I'm just thinking.
See, you haven't, there's a lot.
Don't.
In my mind, I'm just thinking
like,
you just give up.
You just gave up.
Right.
Point blank.
I'm living my life.
You've been living your life.
I'm not looking at a time clockno more.
I own my vehicles.
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I owe nobody nothing but thefucking rent I pay.
Right.
And my phone bill and my insurance and the shit that I
have to pay.
You know,
the shit that I
have to
have to pay every month bills.
I get that.
That keeps me enjoying my life.
I gotta pay that stuff so
Right.
Uh, you know,
and have a place to keep myself clean, cut and do my
thing.
But in the end, i'm not too oldto be a nomad and travel the
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country before I get too old.
This is the point why I wanna doit now is because someday I'm
gonna be too old to do it and Idon't want to be with hell.
Katie slippers on and humpingthe trying to hump the nurse's
leg.
Like,
you know what?
I wish I would've fuckingtraveled.
I didn't listen to myself.
Now I'm too fucking old to doanything and I married some
fucking winch.
Who's out there fucking theyoung pool boy?
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Well,
I can't feed myself.
That's how it is.
Why couldn't you find someonethat likes to travel too?
Why couldn't you find someonethat you can make money
together?
Why can't I?
I don't know.
Why can't I?
Where are they at?
You're Most women wannahomestead.
They don't wanna do that.
There's not a lot of women whowanna live like that and it's
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not permanent.
Anyway, I told you, I said Iwant to do it for a few years,
right?
I wanted to live where I'm
at
at the time, and my camper work in my online auctions and
shit and hit different parts ofthe country to find collectibles
and selling'em where I'm at.
Hitting the post office andpinching'em out and going to the
beach and getting thatmargarita.
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I like the life to me not, oh,it's been a dream of mine.
God, I'm not gonna lie.
Where are you at?
You fucking some other bitch at10 minutes, God late.
I got dinner.
It's getting cold.
You're pissing the kids off.
You told them you were gonnawatch Pokemon with them.
You're not having any kids.
You're done.
It's an example.
I know, but that, that, that'sover and done with the shit, the
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kids thing.
Thank God.
Now you're just, because Ididn't want that either.
I didn't want that either.
I never had kids.
I know that one was,
I would,
I would rather risk marriage than have a kid.
But if I would've had a kid, Iwish I would've done it years
ago with your kid's age?
Yeah.
You know they're teenagers.
That's a good time.
You know they're turning intoadults soon and right now you
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feel like you can talk to'em ona level and not I do.
Come on, honey.
You're not doing that no more.
No, it's,
you know.
I talked to them like adults.
16.
You got one that's 14.
And yes.
Young adults, I talk to themlike they're young adults and
yeah.
As well.
You should as well.
You should because I'm teachingthem lessons.
Prepare them to understandhumor.
Mm-hmm.
Adult humors
and,
and adult gestures and what, how to respect people.
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Give them mutual respect upfront.
Mm-hmm.
I feel like that's highly important.
If I was a parent, and I'll tellyou one thing, and this ain't a
subject changer, it's
kind of
off to the side, but like every girl I was with that did
have kids said it was great withthem.
That's nice.
All of them.
My kids are so good.
I've never really had todiscipline them, be mean to
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them, spank them.
My kids are very well behaved.
They've never thrown tittertantrums, they've never acted
out in public.
They're perfect.
Like I got blessed.
I'm not gonna fucking lie.
I got fucking,
I mean, you know,
you did and you was being a mom.
That's what you did apparently.
'cause you wasn't, they'd be outthere fucking stealing your car
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in the middle of the night.
I did something.
Right.
I gotta say that I did something right.
Yeah.
Because my kids are very good.
Same with my mother.
She'd say the same about me.
I was hard to raise.
I was
kind of
a hoodlum.
Mm-hmm.
Hell at the time.
But my mom would be so confusedby that.
'cause I was kind of the bad boysomewhat, but I was a good kid.
I wasn't getting a serioustrouble.
They'd say, your son's so nice.
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He comes over and ask to use thebathroom.
Ask politely if he needssomething to drink.
Just like when I asked you, doyou have a soda?
This is all embedded into megetting raised.
Ask.
It's not me just doing.
Yeah.
You ask for if you, before yougrab or you get Yeah.
When I'm in your spot that way,private space, this is your safe
place.
This building right here on thisland,
you know,
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this is what you consider your home.
You're going to be selective whoyou let pass the door clearly.
Yeah.
So when I've been blessed to doin somebody's home and they
trust me to come in, I gottashow them that.
I don't just go in yourrefrigerator and go, you're
gonna be respectful.
I'm gonna be respectful untilthe day you say, quit fucking
asking me and just go getsomething to drink, then I'll do
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it.
Yeah.
But that's it.
But it is just, I think thatmost people get a good
impression from me from beingthat way no matter where I go.
'cause that's how I was raised,that's how my mom raised me.
And I have to say, I've raisedmine the same way.
That's right.
Obey respect when you're insomeone else's fucking house.
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Right.
So you know why I'm here.
I'm in your country, right?
This is your state.
I'm just a guest here.
I just flew in to visit yourwonderful country and your
family and your people.
And I'm glad that you do.
Thank you for coming.
Thanks for listening to today'spodcast.
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