Dealing with Fantasies: Navigating Relationship Dynamics
In this episode, we delve into three intriguing stories, with a particular focus on a relationship dilemma faced by a 23-year-old man. He shares his experience with his girlfriend's specific fantasy and how it has impacted their intimate life. Initially resistant, he tries out a new toy that his girlfriend is enthusiastic about, which leads to intense and conflicting emotions. Seeking advice, he contemplates whether his feelings are rooted in insecurity and debates how to address the situation while maintaining a healthy and happy relationship. Tune in for a thought-provoking discussion on handling intimate fantasies and open communication in relationships.
00:00 Introduction and Overview
00:05 Story 1: Relationship Dynamics and Fantasies
00:44 The New Toy and Its Impact
01:57 Emotional Aftermath and Avoidance
03:47 Seeking Advice and Confrontation
03:58 Update: Trying Again
05:10 Conflicting Feelings and Final Thoughts
Episode Transcript
Today's stories are, what do Ido?
We have three short stories andhere we go.
I am a male 23 who has been withmy female 21 girlfriend for
about three years now.
We've also had a really activeand fun gig, Getty Gig, Getty
Life with lots of experimenting,trying new positions and role
(00:21):
play.
She's mentioned before that shehas A BBC fantasy.
And we've watched someincredible corn together here
and there, which was hot in themoment, but never went beyond
that.
I was cool with it since it wasa big fantasy of hers.
(00:42):
Hmm.
A few days ago, though, shesurprised me with a new toy.
It's a extender sleep thing thatabsolutely is massive and black.
Designed to look like A BB, C.
She was excited to show me andwanted me to wear it right away
(01:06):
during Gig Getty.
Gig Getty time.
I was super hesitant at firstbecause it felt weird and kind
of em emasculating, but Ididn't.
I want to ruin the mood or takeher feeling, make her feel bad,
(01:28):
so I eventually gave her, gavein and, and put it on.
The Whoopi was very intense forher.
She climaxed way harder thannormal.
Moaning louder.
And talkative.
She was very talkative.
(01:49):
Afterwards.
She kept going on about howamazing it felt and how much she
loved it, which is not normalfor either one of us.
After Gig Gig Getty, gig Gettytime, I felt totally I deranged
and inferior, and.
(02:09):
The entire time, especiallyafter her raving about how
amazing it was.
I guess because I'm wearing thisthing that's supposed to make me
bigger and a different color andit's clear she's responding to
that way more than me.
We are both Caucasian and it'smessing with my head big time.
(02:34):
Hmm.
Okay.
All right, let's get into it.
Let's get into it.
Since that night, I have beenavoiding Whoopi with her.
I have made excuses or just say,I'm tired because I'm scared she
won't.
She want to use it again, and Idon't know if I can handle
feeling like that again, but atthe same time I do.
(03:01):
I don't want to upset her orknock her kinks or shame her.
Because she obviously enjoyed itand I love making her happy.
And I'm over re am Ioverreacting here?
Is this just, I can't read that.
(03:28):
Some of the stuff I can't readon here, people, um, am I just
insecure?
Is it just insecurity on my partor is it valid?
Feeling weird about this?
I don't know if she would talkto her, if I should talk to her
about this or just push through.
Hmm.
I think I would have aconversation with her.
(03:50):
I don't know.
Just to see what she has to say.
I don't know.
I'm into this kind of stuff, sowe'll see.
Okay.
There's an update.
So last night I did confront herabout.
The last night we had Long Con,I did confront her about last
night, and we did have a longconversation that essentially
(04:10):
led her to explaining herthought process more depth, and
eventually got to where Idecided we'd give it another
try.
Well open-minded.
That's good.
And we will admit this, and Iwill admit the second time with
this wasn't bad The first timeshe truly climaxed like crazy
(04:35):
with it.
She ca she climaxed even harder.
The second go round, sheclimaxed harder the second time
and there was more dirty talkfrom her this time.
She did let me finish after shehad climaxed several times, but
(04:58):
it wasn't as enjoyable as for meas it was for her.
Uh, let's see.
I lost my place.
Sorry.
So I guess I am exploring morefor her.
I don't know, still havingconflicting feelings.
(05:20):
That it makes sense.
Is anyone actually been or hadthis happen to them?
If so, please women give meinformation, feedback.
I love making her happy and Ilove making her feel wanted.
(05:41):
So I'm asking should I keepthis, should I keep this in the
fantasy or should I just cut itoff completely?
I would not do it all the time.
Personally.
I would do it every once in awhile just'cause she likes it
and she, she's into it, but it'snot something I would want to do
(06:02):
all the time.
No.
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