In this episode I dive into one of the most pervasive and exhausting beliefs I see in my coaching practice: the idea that your body is a problem that needs to be fixed.
Even for those of us who reject diet culture or adopt intuitive eating, this belief often runs deep and unconsciously influences how we perceive ourselves.
I explore the systems of belief that reinforce the "fix-it" mentality—from diet culture and patriarchy to wellness culture and emotional avoidance.
Plus, I share a client story that beautifully illustrates what it looks like to break free from this cycle. If you're ready to get relief from feeling like you're always falling short and start approaching your health and wellbeing in a more productive way, this one's for you.
Timeline Summary
[1:28] - Unpacking the deeply ingrained belief that your body is a problem to fix
[5:11] - The fantasy of a "fixed" body and why it keeps us stuck
[8:45] - A client story: shifting from self-fixing to self-care without drama
[12:22] - How diet culture, patriarchy, and wellness culture fuel body shame
[17:36] - The emotional roots of the fix-it cycle and why action often comes from avoidance
[22:50] - How self-compassion breaks the cycle and fosters genuine confidence
[26:10] - A next step to bring clarity: The Midlife Body Image Self-Assessment + Audio Guide
Links & Resources:
🎧 Download the Midlife Body Image Assessment + audio guide. It helps you see what’s really driving your food and body noise — and what to do to get relief.
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Closing Thoughts:
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