You’ve been told that changing your mindset and loving your body will stop the food and body noise. But those messages, well-meaning as they are, may have been keeping you stuck. In this episode, I’m diving into why I don’t coach mindset—and why I don’t teach body love either.
Instead of piling on more affirmations or chasing a feeling of love about your body still centers women's worthiness around appearance. I am offering you something different: the power of embodiment and the quiet, profound relief of body neutrality. I share how cultural narratives around positivity and beauty have let midlife women down, and why the true transformation happens not in your thoughts, but in your nervous system.
If you’ve ever felt like mindset work didn’t “work” for you, or like body love was another impossible standard—you’re not broken. Let’s explore what leads to a sustainably calm mind and true confidence in yourself.
[Timeline Summary]
[1:35] - Why I stopped coaching mindset and body love — and what I teach instead
[4:48] - How mindset became self-help’s golden ticket — and where it goes wrong
[9:32] - The problem with body love
[13:21] - My personal story of chasing perfection and the turning point to embodiment
[18:44] - The difference between mindset work and embodied transformation
[23:17] - A client example that shows how safety and nervous system healing shift everything
[28:09] - Why body respect (not body love) creates lasting change and true confidence
Links & Resources:
🎧 Download the Midlife Body Image Assessment + audio guide. It helps you see what’s really driving your food and body noise — and what to do to get relief.
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