May 15, 2024 • 19 mins
In this podcast, my friend and fellow health and fitness coach Gabriel Zapata sat down to ask ME questions that he gets commonly asked by clients.
This was not planned but turned out to be an amazing conversation that I’m excited to share with you!
If you’re just starting your journey I have no doubt that this podcast will give you a ton of insight on how to do things THE RIGHT WAY!🙌🏼
In This Video I Cover:
00:00 - Intro: Gabe asks me great questions
00:48 - My Story: short version
02:18 - Biggest Misconception
04:37 - Do you NEED the gym?
07:48 - #1 Mistake people make
11:10 - Fastest weight loss in 30 days…
13:58 - More about us as coaches
16:35 - Gabe’s first impression
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome back to the Todd Not Told podcast.
I have a super fun, unique,exciting episode here for you.
So my friend Gabe over here, hewanted to do something
different.
He actually wanted to ask mesome questions and I was super
excited to do this, and so we'regoing to kind of shoot some
questions back and forth andultimately bring you some value
from a coach's perspective.
(00:20):
So, that being said, if you cantake a moment to follow our
podcast on spotify, it wouldmean the world to me.
And, that being said, let'sdive right in all right.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
So I just finished the podcast with tyler here.
Tyler stutter of the tntpodcast.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
You know what?
It's actually fair now that wedo that, because he
mispronounced my last name.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
I swear this guy was like zapata zapata yeah, yeah,
all right.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
So now we're even I, I swear, I thought it was
Stutter.
No, it's all good, but Studer,okay, studer, I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
No, but we just finished the podcast.
He asked me some questions.
They were really good questions, so now I just wanted to ask
Tyler here.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
I want to first introduce him and then ask him a
question.
Tell everyone about a littlebit about yourself and your
background.
Yeah, um, to put it shortly, uh, I played sports most of my
life.
I played soccer at a high level.
I played semi-pro for a year.
I played in college for twoyears and after running for
miles and miles and miles, andas soon as I stopped, I finally
started putting on musclebecause I wasn't running it all
off my body.
And once I figured out that, youknow, I could start to change
(01:30):
who I was as a person throughhealth and fitness, I reinvented
myself.
I found who I am, what I love.
I completely changed myconfidence.
I really I came out of my shellin that moment and what I
realized is it was, it was likethe most empowering thing ever
was to have complete controlover my health and fitness.
And I began my mission to helpother people experience that
(01:54):
same drive, that same growth intheir own lives.
And so, because of how muchfitness impacted me, I wanted to
have that same impact on otherpeople, and since then I've been
doing this about six years.
I've helped over 500 peoplecompletely transform their lives
through health and fitness.
I now have a team that worksunder me and I train people
across the nation, so it's beenthe most amazing journey I could
(02:16):
have ever asked for.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
That's awesome.
That's awesome, man.
So I would have to ask you thenwhat is the number one
misconception that most peoplehave when just starting out with
their weight loss journey?
Speaker 1 (02:27):
That's a fantastic question.
I think the biggestmisconception people have is
that they need to knoweverything to get started.
I think most people delay thefirst step like years and really
what it takes is just takingthat first step and taking doing
that first thing, taking thatfirst action, instead of
(02:49):
delaying it over and over again.
And uh, once you actually start, you'll realize it's a lot
easier than you think.
And I think it's like thatanalysis, uh, paralysis by
analysis is like the biggestmistake people make is they
overthink, like, oh, I got toknow how many macros are going
to know how much protein.
It's like no, just start.
Just start making betterchoices.
Just start showing up at thegym.
(03:11):
You don't need to know how tolift, just show up there and
you'll start to see other peopledoing things.
You'll start to get that, getthat drive, that motivation to
like okay, maybe I'm ready to gostep on the gym floor.
Let's start on just walking onthe treadmill.
Like I feel like most of thepeople that are so uncomfortable
in the gym, the first thing Itell them is like go to the gym
and just walk.
That's all you need to do.
(03:32):
That's all you have to do toget started, but a lot of people
don't even, aren't even willingto just start there, and so
it's like just getting in thatenvironment, getting in the room
with other people who are alltrying to better themselves,
it's like.
The one last misconception I'llsay about that is a lot of
people think the gym is likethis, like egotistical, like
(03:54):
scary place to be.
And I will tell you, especiallyfrom my own experience of when
I was scared shitless to walkinside of a gym, when I actually
went in there, it was the mostwelcoming place.
I was the beginner, I had noidea what I was doing, I was
afraid to go to the weights andwhen I asked someone a question,
he's like dude, yeah, yeah,come over here.
I'll like let me show you howto do this.
(04:14):
And I was like I went and askedthe biggest buffest guy and
he's the nicest human.
I was so fucking scared of him.
And so I think the biggestmistake is just like not taking
that first step, not getting inthat room, and honestly, once
you do, you'll start to realizeit's a lot easier and a lot more
enjoyable, and people areeveryone's out there to help you
in the gym, because everyone'son that same journey of trying
(04:35):
to get better as a human.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
Now that we're on this topic.
I know this isn't on the script, but I have a few clients that
do not like going to the gym andthey like to work out at home.
Just be it's more convenient.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
What would you say?
What's what would you giveadvice to them?
Do they have to go to the gym?
Is it mandatory?
Or can they just do their ownthing?
Like, can they still follow aprogram that's at home workouts?
Can they do other things?
Speaker 1 (05:05):
other than lifting weights.
What would you say?
Yeah, dude, that is a fantasticquestion.
I'll break this down and I'llgive you like two or three
different answers to this,because it can I just it.
My my favorite answer is itdepends and I think it really
just depends on what that persontruly wants to accomplish.
And I'm sure you've probablytold your clients, and I'm sure
you know this and most coachesknow this as well.
It's like most people know this, which is like 80 to 90% of
(05:29):
your results come from yournutrition and like, if you can
really take care of your healthnutritionally, a lot of the
physical aspects will take careof themselves.
Now, you can't just sit on yourass all day and expect to look
and feel a certain way.
You have to move.
So movement for you can looklike going on hour-long walks,
30-minute walks every day.
Now, depending on youraesthetic goals, like if you
(05:52):
want to look like an athlete oryou want to have a specific
aesthetic, you can enhance orspeed up that process by picking
up weights lifting inside thegym.
Now I also have had clients whohave seen amazing physical
results by working out at home.
Body weight movement isextremely underrated.
I mean, I know some branches ofthe military don't even do
(06:14):
weight training, they do bodyweight.
It's like all calisthenics andI'm sure you could Google
someone that's like aprofessional calisthenics guy
and with just body weight youcan build an amazing physique at
home.
You could use bands and seeamazing results.
So if you're afraid to go to thegym, on the other hand, I think
that's actually a good thingfor you to overcome that fear.
(06:35):
I think going to the gym ingeneral is a great fear to
overcome because it's again,it's about the growth that
you'll see in doing that.
But I don't think you need thegym to see amazing results.
I think what you need is somesort of progressive um stimulus.
And if that stimulus is bodyweight, if that stimulus is
(06:56):
bands, if that stimulus is inthe gym or it's at home, no
matter what it is, if there is astimulus, yes, you can see
results.
And it just depends on like youcan't become a powerlifter
using bands, you know so, likewhen I wanted to be a
powerlifter, I had to usebarbells, but if I just wanted
to like look good, feel good,and it wasn't me being super
jacked or anything, it was likeI could absolutely see amazing
(07:19):
results and build a greatphysique working out at home.
So I just really think the lastpoint in that I think I
mentioned already but it's like,if you, if you do want to
accelerate that as much aspossible, if you want to enhance
that as much as possible, Ibelieve personally that going to
the gym is the best and fastestway to do so, but you
(07:43):
absolutely do not need the gym.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
I love this a lot.
So now that we're going withthis, I'm going to keep asking
you a few more questions,because this is good.
What do you think is the numberone mistake people are making
right now?
Like, as they're trying toimprove their overall health,
like for longevity, they're justtrying to like hey, I don't
want to be fat, I don't want torisk diabetes, I just want to be
feeling good.
(08:07):
I don't want to be fat, I justwant to be in good shape.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
That's a great question.
The first thing that came tomind was the word restriction.
I think when you come from aplace of restriction,
immediately I begin thinkingabout if you don't enjoy it, you
won't do it.
If you hate it, if you arestopping yourself from enjoying
(08:35):
the things that also extremelymatter in life and holding
yourself back from thoseexperiences, you are going to
restrict your results, you'regoing to restrict your happiness
, and there's no point inlooking or feeling a certain way
if you're not happy.
And so when I think of this, itreally comes down to like what
(08:57):
is your dream life, or what isyour life?
Comes down to like what is yourdream life or what is your life
?
What do you want it to looklike?
Do you have?
Do you want to tell yourfriends I can't go there because
there's going to be too manytreats and I'm going to be
pressured to eat that?
Or do you want to see resultswhile still being able to like
go to social events with familyand friends, or going to your
kids or your your grandma'sbirthday party?
(09:18):
Do you want to be able to goout with your friends and go see
a movie?
Do you want to be able to go toa holiday dinner with your
family, feel peer pressure tohave that piece of pie or that
cookie.
I think restriction is the enemy.
I genuinely think that youshould be able to enjoy the
(09:38):
foods that you love while seeingamazing results, and I do think
that if you do include those inmoderation, it doesn't mean eat
like an asshole, but it meansyou should still include those
things when you want them.
I think one of my buddies,jared Hamilton.
He says he's an amazingcommunicator and I think one
(09:58):
thing he really hammers into hisclients and teaches them is
like this idea of avoidingself-sabotage, and self-sabotage
, I believe, is rooted in thatrestriction mindset of like
needing to pull back on things.
But when it comes to being ableto sustain results, you want to
avoid self-sabotage and youwant to be able to include those
things, and so I think the bestway to avoid those binging
(10:20):
movements is not restricting.
And when you do have a craving,you do have something that comes
up and you're like I reallywant that cookie.
Like go eat the fucking cookie.
Like eat the cookie right whenyou want it, because then you're
less likely to go crush a fullsleeve of Thin Mint Girl Scout
cookies.
You can have one in that moment.
But if you wait till yourcraving's a 10 out of 10, and
(10:41):
you're just deprived yourself ofit, you are going to go
overboard.
You're going to be upset after,you're going to be mad at
yourself and it's going to go inthis spiral of you going back
downhill.
So I think to continue movingforward, when that craving's a 3
out of 10, or 2 out of 10, or 1out of 10, go have the cookie.
And when you're not restrictingyourself, you're going to find
you're going to be able to gomuch longer, much further in
(11:02):
your journey and it's gonna bemuch happier and more enjoyable
life you create when you getthere.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
That's amazing.
That's really good.
I um Tyler, and I know this isnot a professional question to
ask and because we know thescience behind it, but I'm sure
a lot of people I know a lot ofprobably your clients who just
start out with you want to knowwhat is the fastest way to lose
body fat in 30 days.
Like summer's coming up, it'sApril right now.
I want to look good in mybikini.
(11:29):
I want to look good.
I want to look like I have asix pack.
What is the fastest way?
Tell me number one, just onething Like what do I got to do
to do to accelerate my progress?
Speaker 1 (11:38):
Cut your arm off.
It's the fastest way to lose 30pounds.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
Cut your arm off.
People are going to be happywith that answer Realistic.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
I mean, if you want to be realistic, the fastest way
to lose that 20, 30 pounds iscut your freaking leg or your
arm off and like, cool, like,there you go.
But let me be honest, if, uh,if, you want to go fast, it's
also the fastest way to gainthat weight back and then some.
So my, I always tell peoplewhen they when they asked me
(12:13):
this and I'm going to be veryhonest, I don't like this
question because of the factthat it's unrealistic for most
people.
And so what I explain to peopleis like okay, we have two
options At this point in time.
You have two options.
We can get there as quickly aspossible, with a 98% chance that
you gain it back and moreweight after, or you take your
(12:34):
time, you do it the right way.
Sure, this summer you might beunhappy, but what if I tell you
for the next 15 summers of yourlife, you can go on the beach in
your bikini or your swimsuit,be extremely confident,
extremely happy, and maybe findthe love of your life on that
beach, or maybe be supercomfortable actually taking your
shirt off when you go to yourkid's pool party.
Wouldn't that be more worth itto you To be able to experience
(12:57):
those things and be confident inyour own skin for the rest of
your life, or is it just thisone summer that really matters?
I would highly encourage you toreally think about that and
understand that.
I think 15 to 20 more summersis much more valuable than this
one summer, and I think thatwhen you put it in that
perspective, I could care lesshow much you lose in 30 days.
(13:20):
I care about you building thefoundation for lifelong success,
and I'm sorry if that answerfrustrates you.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
It doesn't frustrate me.
I already told you.
You and I both know it's not aprofessional question to ask,
but people ask all the time likewhat's the fastest route to get
there?
But no, I totally agree withTyler on that.
Totally agree with it, becauseit is all a journey and it's
supposed to be a journey,because no one gets it done so
quickly.
And if they get it done quickly, they did some things that are
(13:49):
not sustainable or they did someuh, they took some things, that
, but regardless, it's just, uh,it's not sustainable.
but I totally agree with Tyleron that.
All right man.
Um, I'm going to end it withthis question with Tyler on that
.
All right man, I'm going to endit with this question.
You've known me for how long?
Two, two and a half years now.
Speaker 1 (14:04):
I came in October 2022.
Oh, we took a class together,we met in school.
Yeah, we met in school probably20, during COVID.
So it's 21, 22, 2021, 2020,2021.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
Yeah, yeah, dang, yeah, that's crazy, three years
now.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
So two and a half three years.
Speaker 2 (14:20):
Yeah, so what was your first impression of me and
what do you think of me now?
Speaker 1 (14:24):
That's a great question.
Speaker 2 (14:25):
I already have a feeling what he's going to say.
Speaker 1 (14:27):
You know when, when Gabe first came to the gym, um,
my first impression was likehe's the quiet kid, very quiet,
very to himself, um, but alsovery focused.
Like no matter what skill hehad as a coach, I could tell he
gave a fuck.
(14:47):
He genuinely cared, and that'swhy I have a respect for Gabe is
because, no matter how correct,incorrect or what I thought
about the, what I sawspecifically in the gym, what I
did know is that he genuinelycares about his people.
He genuinely cares about hisclients.
(15:09):
I could see the conversationshe had, how engaged he was in
those conversations, the eyecontact and like that is is
inspiring in a way, man, and Ithink that there are too many
coaches in the industry that arethere for a paycheck, that are
there to con them with theirways to result and, to you know,
(15:29):
restrict their clients' food sothey can just give them instant
results and so they could posttheir transformation on social
media.
It's like I never saw that withGabe and I could tell that you
were in it for the long run.
Like you are passionate abouthelping people and I think, more
recently, I've started torealize more and more how growth
(15:50):
minded you are, and I thinkthat in order to really go
places in business, but also inlife and on your fitness journey
for anyone really, it's likeyou have to be growth minded,
you have to be open to change,open to feedback, and I don't
believe I knew you well enoughto know that's how you were, so
(16:12):
it's easy to make assumptions,but I did see your passion, I
did see your focus and intention, which was to help other people
through and through, and, uh, Ithink that's what matters most
as a coach, so I respected thatI appreciate that appreciate
that very much I was gonna saysomething.
Speaker 2 (16:31):
But I was just like man, I don't want to look like
the dick here, because I wasgonna be like.
I was gonna be like.
Oh, my first impression, myfirst impression of you when I
first, when I first saw you.
I like, first of all, I knew youstood out just because, uh, we
took a course together and wewere this was during COVID and
so we were doing a zoom call andso not just him and I, but it
was just in a group class and Isaw this guy.
(16:52):
Just, you know, he looked liketo me first impression.
You know, just like thismeathead, like this guy thinks
he's the shit, and that was justreally my insecurity.
And I saw that he was workingout of the gym.
I just knew his name.
And then when I went to goapply to Self Made in Orange, I
saw this guy and I was like, ohshit, this guy Not this guy,
(17:14):
yeah, this guy.
And so.
But I already knew right then,and there, like this guy stood
out for sure no-transcript.
(17:42):
I'm an observer for sure, I'mdefinitely an observer and so
over time I knew I knew Tylerwas, um, definitely someone that
, like that, stood out amongstthe crowd and, uh, I've always
wanted to.
Didn't know exactly what he wasdoing, but I just knew he was
getting mentorship and I knewthat, like, if I have to be the
(18:03):
best, like I got to do what thebest are doing and so I went to
go look for help and that's whyI was with NCI and uh, and so I
haven't looked back.
And now, now that I got to knowTyler a bit more after uh,
yesterday it was actuallyyesterday I got to know him even
more because, more because wewent out, had something to eat
and we were talking and, man,it's amazing how much I didn't
(18:25):
really know much about this guyI can relate a lot to him and
how he sees his future and howhe cares about his clients,
because him and I both have thesame passion for our clients,
which is that we genuinely careand that we really want to um be
, be the best out there, be thebest coaches, be the best
trainers, and uh, so I told himthat I was very appreciative of
(18:47):
just him just pushing me, eventhough he didn't like physically
any.
He didn't probably know that Iwas pushing, that he was pushing
me, but he really was.
So I was telling him that I waslike I was very appreciative of
him and that, yeah, I'm gladwe're here, I'm glad we're both
killing it, we both stand out.
Speaker 1 (19:03):
Thanks for your kind words, bro.
This has been a pleasure andI'm thankful we sat down and had
this conversation and I thinkour goal with this and I could
tell was ultimately to help thepeople on the other side of this
, and I feel like the people wholisten to this will get a ton
of value, and I appreciate yourtime, man.
That was awesome.
Speaker 2 (19:25):
We totally redid that .
Speaker 1 (19:26):
I totally messed up that first one.
Speaker 2 (19:28):
I'm not going to pretend like we didn't mess that
one up.
Welcome back to the Todd Not Told podcast.
I have a super fun, unique,exciting episode here for you.
So my friend Gabe over here, hewanted to do something
different.
He actually wanted to ask mesome questions and I was super
excited to do this, and so we'regoing to kind of shoot some
questions back and forth andultimately bring you some value
from a coach's perspective.
(00:20):
So, that being said, if you cantake a moment to follow our
podcast on spotify, it wouldmean the world to me.
And, that being said, let'sdive right in all right.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
So I just finished the podcast with tyler here.
Tyler stutter of the tntpodcast.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
You know what?
It's actually fair now that wedo that, because he
mispronounced my last name.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
I swear this guy was like zapata zapata yeah, yeah,
all right.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
So now we're even I, I swear, I thought it was
Stutter.
No, it's all good, but Studer,okay, studer, I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
No, but we just finished the podcast.
He asked me some questions.
They were really good questions, so now I just wanted to ask
Tyler here.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
I want to first introduce him and then ask him a
question.
Tell everyone about a littlebit about yourself and your
background.
Yeah, um, to put it shortly, uh, I played sports most of my
life.
I played soccer at a high level.
I played semi-pro for a year.
I played in college for twoyears and after running for
miles and miles and miles, andas soon as I stopped, I finally
started putting on musclebecause I wasn't running it all
off my body.
And once I figured out that, youknow, I could start to change
(01:30):
who I was as a person throughhealth and fitness, I reinvented
myself.
I found who I am, what I love.
I completely changed myconfidence.
I really I came out of my shellin that moment and what I
realized is it was, it was likethe most empowering thing ever
was to have complete controlover my health and fitness.
And I began my mission to helpother people experience that
(01:54):
same drive, that same growth intheir own lives.
And so, because of how muchfitness impacted me, I wanted to
have that same impact on otherpeople, and since then I've been
doing this about six years.
I've helped over 500 peoplecompletely transform their lives
through health and fitness.
I now have a team that worksunder me and I train people
across the nation, so it's beenthe most amazing journey I could
(02:16):
have ever asked for.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
That's awesome.
That's awesome, man.
So I would have to ask you thenwhat is the number one
misconception that most peoplehave when just starting out with
their weight loss journey?
Speaker 1 (02:27):
That's a fantastic question.
I think the biggestmisconception people have is
that they need to knoweverything to get started.
I think most people delay thefirst step like years and really
what it takes is just takingthat first step and taking doing
that first thing, taking thatfirst action, instead of
(02:49):
delaying it over and over again.
And uh, once you actually start, you'll realize it's a lot
easier than you think.
And I think it's like thatanalysis, uh, paralysis by
analysis is like the biggestmistake people make is they
overthink, like, oh, I got toknow how many macros are going
to know how much protein.
It's like no, just start.
Just start making betterchoices.
Just start showing up at thegym.
(03:11):
You don't need to know how tolift, just show up there and
you'll start to see other peopledoing things.
You'll start to get that, getthat drive, that motivation to
like okay, maybe I'm ready to gostep on the gym floor.
Let's start on just walking onthe treadmill.
Like I feel like most of thepeople that are so uncomfortable
in the gym, the first thing Itell them is like go to the gym
and just walk.
That's all you need to do.
(03:32):
That's all you have to do toget started, but a lot of people
don't even, aren't even willingto just start there, and so
it's like just getting in thatenvironment, getting in the room
with other people who are alltrying to better themselves,
it's like.
The one last misconception I'llsay about that is a lot of
people think the gym is likethis, like egotistical, like
(03:54):
scary place to be.
And I will tell you, especiallyfrom my own experience of when
I was scared shitless to walkinside of a gym, when I actually
went in there, it was the mostwelcoming place.
I was the beginner, I had noidea what I was doing, I was
afraid to go to the weights andwhen I asked someone a question,
he's like dude, yeah, yeah,come over here.
I'll like let me show you howto do this.
(04:14):
And I was like I went and askedthe biggest buffest guy and
he's the nicest human.
I was so fucking scared of him.
And so I think the biggestmistake is just like not taking
that first step, not getting inthat room, and honestly, once
you do, you'll start to realizeit's a lot easier and a lot more
enjoyable, and people areeveryone's out there to help you
in the gym, because everyone'son that same journey of trying
(04:35):
to get better as a human.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
Now that we're on this topic.
I know this isn't on the script, but I have a few clients that
do not like going to the gym andthey like to work out at home.
Just be it's more convenient.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
What would you say?
What's what would you giveadvice to them?
Do they have to go to the gym?
Is it mandatory?
Or can they just do their ownthing?
Like, can they still follow aprogram that's at home workouts?
Can they do other things?
Speaker 1 (05:05):
other than lifting weights.
What would you say?
Yeah, dude, that is a fantasticquestion.
I'll break this down and I'llgive you like two or three
different answers to this,because it can I just it.
My my favorite answer is itdepends and I think it really
just depends on what that persontruly wants to accomplish.
And I'm sure you've probablytold your clients, and I'm sure
you know this and most coachesknow this as well.
It's like most people know this, which is like 80 to 90% of
(05:29):
your results come from yournutrition and like, if you can
really take care of your healthnutritionally, a lot of the
physical aspects will take careof themselves.
Now, you can't just sit on yourass all day and expect to look
and feel a certain way.
You have to move.
So movement for you can looklike going on hour-long walks,
30-minute walks every day.
Now, depending on youraesthetic goals, like if you
(05:52):
want to look like an athlete oryou want to have a specific
aesthetic, you can enhance orspeed up that process by picking
up weights lifting inside thegym.
Now I also have had clients whohave seen amazing physical
results by working out at home.
Body weight movement isextremely underrated.
I mean, I know some branches ofthe military don't even do
(06:14):
weight training, they do bodyweight.
It's like all calisthenics andI'm sure you could Google
someone that's like aprofessional calisthenics guy
and with just body weight youcan build an amazing physique at
home.
You could use bands and seeamazing results.
So if you're afraid to go to thegym, on the other hand, I think
that's actually a good thingfor you to overcome that fear.
(06:35):
I think going to the gym ingeneral is a great fear to
overcome because it's again,it's about the growth that
you'll see in doing that.
But I don't think you need thegym to see amazing results.
I think what you need is somesort of progressive um stimulus.
And if that stimulus is bodyweight, if that stimulus is
(06:56):
bands, if that stimulus is inthe gym or it's at home, no
matter what it is, if there is astimulus, yes, you can see
results.
And it just depends on like youcan't become a powerlifter
using bands, you know so, likewhen I wanted to be a
powerlifter, I had to usebarbells, but if I just wanted
to like look good, feel good,and it wasn't me being super
jacked or anything, it was likeI could absolutely see amazing
(07:19):
results and build a greatphysique working out at home.
So I just really think the lastpoint in that I think I
mentioned already but it's like,if you, if you do want to
accelerate that as much aspossible, if you want to enhance
that as much as possible, Ibelieve personally that going to
the gym is the best and fastestway to do so, but you
(07:43):
absolutely do not need the gym.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
I love this a lot.
So now that we're going withthis, I'm going to keep asking
you a few more questions,because this is good.
What do you think is the numberone mistake people are making
right now?
Like, as they're trying toimprove their overall health,
like for longevity, they're justtrying to like hey, I don't
want to be fat, I don't want torisk diabetes, I just want to be
feeling good.
(08:07):
I don't want to be fat, I justwant to be in good shape.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
That's a great question.
The first thing that came tomind was the word restriction.
I think when you come from aplace of restriction,
immediately I begin thinkingabout if you don't enjoy it, you
won't do it.
If you hate it, if you arestopping yourself from enjoying
(08:35):
the things that also extremelymatter in life and holding
yourself back from thoseexperiences, you are going to
restrict your results, you'regoing to restrict your happiness
, and there's no point inlooking or feeling a certain way
if you're not happy.
And so when I think of this, itreally comes down to like what
(08:57):
is your dream life, or what isyour life?
Comes down to like what is yourdream life or what is your life
?
What do you want it to looklike?
Do you have?
Do you want to tell yourfriends I can't go there because
there's going to be too manytreats and I'm going to be
pressured to eat that?
Or do you want to see resultswhile still being able to like
go to social events with familyand friends, or going to your
kids or your your grandma'sbirthday party?
(09:18):
Do you want to be able to goout with your friends and go see
a movie?
Do you want to be able to go toa holiday dinner with your
family, feel peer pressure tohave that piece of pie or that
cookie.
I think restriction is the enemy.
I genuinely think that youshould be able to enjoy the
(09:38):
foods that you love while seeingamazing results, and I do think
that if you do include those inmoderation, it doesn't mean eat
like an asshole, but it meansyou should still include those
things when you want them.
I think one of my buddies,jared Hamilton.
He says he's an amazingcommunicator and I think one
(09:58):
thing he really hammers into hisclients and teaches them is
like this idea of avoidingself-sabotage, and self-sabotage
, I believe, is rooted in thatrestriction mindset of like
needing to pull back on things.
But when it comes to being ableto sustain results, you want to
avoid self-sabotage and youwant to be able to include those
things, and so I think the bestway to avoid those binging
(10:20):
movements is not restricting.
And when you do have a craving,you do have something that comes
up and you're like I reallywant that cookie.
Like go eat the fucking cookie.
Like eat the cookie right whenyou want it, because then you're
less likely to go crush a fullsleeve of Thin Mint Girl Scout
cookies.
You can have one in that moment.
But if you wait till yourcraving's a 10 out of 10, and
(10:41):
you're just deprived yourself ofit, you are going to go
overboard.
You're going to be upset after,you're going to be mad at
yourself and it's going to go inthis spiral of you going back
downhill.
So I think to continue movingforward, when that craving's a 3
out of 10, or 2 out of 10, or 1out of 10, go have the cookie.
And when you're not restrictingyourself, you're going to find
you're going to be able to gomuch longer, much further in
(11:02):
your journey and it's gonna bemuch happier and more enjoyable
life you create when you getthere.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
That's amazing.
That's really good.
I um Tyler, and I know this isnot a professional question to
ask and because we know thescience behind it, but I'm sure
a lot of people I know a lot ofprobably your clients who just
start out with you want to knowwhat is the fastest way to lose
body fat in 30 days.
Like summer's coming up, it'sApril right now.
I want to look good in mybikini.
(11:29):
I want to look good.
I want to look like I have asix pack.
What is the fastest way?
Tell me number one, just onething Like what do I got to do
to do to accelerate my progress?
Speaker 1 (11:38):
Cut your arm off.
It's the fastest way to lose 30pounds.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
Cut your arm off.
People are going to be happywith that answer Realistic.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
I mean, if you want to be realistic, the fastest way
to lose that 20, 30 pounds iscut your freaking leg or your
arm off and like, cool, like,there you go.
But let me be honest, if, uh,if, you want to go fast, it's
also the fastest way to gainthat weight back and then some.
So my, I always tell peoplewhen they when they asked me
(12:13):
this and I'm going to be veryhonest, I don't like this
question because of the factthat it's unrealistic for most
people.
And so what I explain to peopleis like okay, we have two
options At this point in time.
You have two options.
We can get there as quickly aspossible, with a 98% chance that
you gain it back and moreweight after, or you take your
(12:34):
time, you do it the right way.
Sure, this summer you might beunhappy, but what if I tell you
for the next 15 summers of yourlife, you can go on the beach in
your bikini or your swimsuit,be extremely confident,
extremely happy, and maybe findthe love of your life on that
beach, or maybe be supercomfortable actually taking your
shirt off when you go to yourkid's pool party.
Wouldn't that be more worth itto you To be able to experience
(12:57):
those things and be confident inyour own skin for the rest of
your life, or is it just thisone summer that really matters?
I would highly encourage you toreally think about that and
understand that.
I think 15 to 20 more summersis much more valuable than this
one summer, and I think thatwhen you put it in that
perspective, I could care lesshow much you lose in 30 days.
(13:20):
I care about you building thefoundation for lifelong success,
and I'm sorry if that answerfrustrates you.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
It doesn't frustrate me.
I already told you.
You and I both know it's not aprofessional question to ask,
but people ask all the time likewhat's the fastest route to get
there?
But no, I totally agree withTyler on that.
Totally agree with it, becauseit is all a journey and it's
supposed to be a journey,because no one gets it done so
quickly.
And if they get it done quickly, they did some things that are
(13:49):
not sustainable or they did someuh, they took some things, that
, but regardless, it's just, uh,it's not sustainable.
but I totally agree with Tyleron that.
All right man.
Um, I'm going to end it withthis question with Tyler on that
.
All right man, I'm going to endit with this question.
You've known me for how long?
Two, two and a half years now.
Speaker 1 (14:04):
I came in October 2022.
Oh, we took a class together,we met in school.
Yeah, we met in school probably20, during COVID.
So it's 21, 22, 2021, 2020,2021.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
Yeah, yeah, dang, yeah, that's crazy, three years
now.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
So two and a half three years.
Speaker 2 (14:20):
Yeah, so what was your first impression of me and
what do you think of me now?
Speaker 1 (14:24):
That's a great question.
Speaker 2 (14:25):
I already have a feeling what he's going to say.
Speaker 1 (14:27):
You know when, when Gabe first came to the gym, um,
my first impression was likehe's the quiet kid, very quiet,
very to himself, um, but alsovery focused.
Like no matter what skill hehad as a coach, I could tell he
gave a fuck.
(14:47):
He genuinely cared, and that'swhy I have a respect for Gabe is
because, no matter how correct,incorrect or what I thought
about the, what I sawspecifically in the gym, what I
did know is that he genuinelycares about his people.
He genuinely cares about hisclients.
(15:09):
I could see the conversationshe had, how engaged he was in
those conversations, the eyecontact and like that is is
inspiring in a way, man, and Ithink that there are too many
coaches in the industry that arethere for a paycheck, that are
there to con them with theirways to result and, to you know,
(15:29):
restrict their clients' food sothey can just give them instant
results and so they could posttheir transformation on social
media.
It's like I never saw that withGabe and I could tell that you
were in it for the long run.
Like you are passionate abouthelping people and I think, more
recently, I've started torealize more and more how growth
(15:50):
minded you are, and I thinkthat in order to really go
places in business, but also inlife and on your fitness journey
for anyone really, it's likeyou have to be growth minded,
you have to be open to change,open to feedback, and I don't
believe I knew you well enoughto know that's how you were, so
(16:12):
it's easy to make assumptions,but I did see your passion, I
did see your focus and intention, which was to help other people
through and through, and, uh, Ithink that's what matters most
as a coach, so I respected thatI appreciate that appreciate
that very much I was gonna saysomething.
Speaker 2 (16:31):
But I was just like man, I don't want to look like
the dick here, because I wasgonna be like.
I was gonna be like.
Oh, my first impression, myfirst impression of you when I
first, when I first saw you.
I like, first of all, I knew youstood out just because, uh, we
took a course together and wewere this was during COVID and
so we were doing a zoom call andso not just him and I, but it
was just in a group class and Isaw this guy.
(16:52):
Just, you know, he looked liketo me first impression.
You know, just like thismeathead, like this guy thinks
he's the shit, and that was justreally my insecurity.
And I saw that he was workingout of the gym.
I just knew his name.
And then when I went to goapply to Self Made in Orange, I
saw this guy and I was like, ohshit, this guy Not this guy,
(17:14):
yeah, this guy.
And so.
But I already knew right then,and there, like this guy stood
out for sure no-transcript.
(17:42):
I'm an observer for sure, I'mdefinitely an observer and so
over time I knew I knew Tylerwas, um, definitely someone that
, like that, stood out amongstthe crowd and, uh, I've always
wanted to.
Didn't know exactly what he wasdoing, but I just knew he was
getting mentorship and I knewthat, like, if I have to be the
(18:03):
best, like I got to do what thebest are doing and so I went to
go look for help and that's whyI was with NCI and uh, and so I
haven't looked back.
And now, now that I got to knowTyler a bit more after uh,
yesterday it was actuallyyesterday I got to know him even
more because, more because wewent out, had something to eat
and we were talking and, man,it's amazing how much I didn't
(18:25):
really know much about this guyI can relate a lot to him and
how he sees his future and howhe cares about his clients,
because him and I both have thesame passion for our clients,
which is that we genuinely careand that we really want to um be
, be the best out there, be thebest coaches, be the best
trainers, and uh, so I told himthat I was very appreciative of
(18:47):
just him just pushing me, eventhough he didn't like physically
any.
He didn't probably know that Iwas pushing, that he was pushing
me, but he really was.
So I was telling him that I waslike I was very appreciative of
him and that, yeah, I'm gladwe're here, I'm glad we're both
killing it, we both stand out.
Speaker 1 (19:03):
Thanks for your kind words, bro.
This has been a pleasure andI'm thankful we sat down and had
this conversation and I thinkour goal with this and I could
tell was ultimately to help thepeople on the other side of this
, and I feel like the people wholisten to this will get a ton
of value, and I appreciate yourtime, man.
That was awesome.
Speaker 2 (19:25):
We totally redid that .
Speaker 1 (19:26):
I totally messed up that first one.
Speaker 2 (19:28):
I'm not going to pretend like we didn't mess that
one up.
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