March 11, 2024 • 16 mins
On today's episode, we're discussing the transformative power of "Glimmers", and the practice of finding those tiny moments of joy, awe, peace, or serenity.
Drawing from the insights of licensed clinical social worker Deb Dana, this episode dives into the significance of noticing and appreciating these small but powerful moments. From savoring the perfect sip of morning coffee to witnessing acts of kindness from strangers, "Glimmers" send signals of safety to our nervous system, and help train our brain for the BETTER.
I am sharing my own rituals around Glimmers and practical tips for incorporating this mindset shift into regular daily our routines. And I PROMISE.... it's so worth it.
Whether you're looking for a little inspiration, guidance, or simply a reminder to pause and appreciate the beauty around you, this episode will leave you feeling uplifted and inspired.
Honorable Mention: The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy: Engaging the Rhythm of Regulation - Deb Dana (2018)
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
We already know how the brain works.
What you focus on, you find andwhat you put your energy into
comes back to you.
Being able to spot and collectour glimmers is where we build
luck.
Hello, my loves, and welcome tothe Purposeful Lifestyle
Development Podcast, where wediscuss all things thought, work
(00:22):
and manifestation but we useneuroscience and the study of
the brain to do so.
I'm your host, tessa Spisak.
I'm a board-certifiedpractitioner, master life and
health coach and seasonedexecutive speaker.
If you're ready to create yourhighest value lifestyle and turn
your dream life into a reality,you're in the right place.
Let's get right into today'sepisode.
(00:42):
Hello, hello, my loves, andwelcome back into the Tessa
Talks Purposeful LifestyleDevelopment Podcast.
If you're new here, welcome anddon't forget to hit subscribe
so that you never miss part ofthe conversation and if you
learn something along the way,I'd be so grateful if you left a
positive review, as it helpsothers find and join the
(01:04):
conversation as well.
But that being said, for thoseof us who are finally coming out
of these cold winter months,how good has these extra few
hours of sunlight felt?
We're starting to see the trees, see the flowers come back to
life.
We've got more color, sunshine,warmth.
I don't know about you guys,but I needed it.
(01:25):
It was time.
I feel like my soul basicallyjust rejuvenates in the
springtime.
I mean, I personally totallyalign with the idea that the
real new year happens rightaround the spring equinox,
because that is such a time ofnew life and growth, with
everything coming back to life,including what feels like myself
(01:51):
, but that's a story for anotherday.
I just love the feeling thatcomes along with the start of
springtime and I think the goodthing about it is, when we're
moving from these colder towarmer seasons, that shift that
we're in, we find ourselvesdoing certain things.
We're getting outside more,we're noticing how pretty the
new blooms around us are.
Maybe, instead of chugging ourmorning coffee trying to get
(02:14):
some warmth in our bodies, maybewe're taking an extra second to
just savor and enjoy it.
Go find a patio, go stand inyour backyard.
Maybe, instead of runningacross freezing parking lots
trying to get out of the coldand the wind, maybe we're
actually slowing down, stoppingto literally smell the roses.
I feel like I personally slowdown a bit at this time of the
(02:38):
year and really just take anextra second to notice all the
beauty that's coming back, tofeel the warmth on my skin,
everything in between, and Ithink we all do that to some
extent.
But I do have a point here.
I'm not just savoring spring,but it made me think of this
concept because I think onereason we all tend to feel a
(03:00):
little bit better as we'recoming into this time of year
moving away from the wintersadness it's not only all the
things this time of year movingaway from the winter.
Sadness it's not only all thethings I was talking about
getting out in the sun, gettingour vitamin D but we also spend
a little bit more time focusingon one specific thing, and that
would be our glimmers.
Now, you very well mightalready have heard of this word
(03:22):
and this concept.
It's been around for about halfa decade now and started
getting more popular into thediscussion of how we feel,
mental health, mental wellness,all of these things.
It started getting bigger aboutthe last year or two, and just
so you know the history, theterm glimmers was actually
coined by a licensed clinicalsocial worker who specialized in
(03:46):
complex trauma.
Her name was Deb Dana and inher book in 2018, she wrote the
polyvagal theory in therapy, andhere's a quote that she says
about glimmers.
She says that glimmers aremicro moments that begin to
shape our system in very gentleways and that glimmers are, in
(04:06):
essence, the opposite oftriggers.
It's a tiny moment of awe, joyor peace that we notice
throughout the day, that make usfeel good.
And again, note that she saidthese are tiny moments.
So think of being on a walk andpetting a happy animal.
That is one of my favoritethings In the trail behind my
(04:28):
house.
All the dogs that are out thereliterally think people come
just to pet them.
And seeing a happy puppy run upto me for some pets totally a
glimmer for me.
Maybe this is just when yourmorning hot beverage whatever it
is, your tea, your coffee ittastes just right.
Maybe you're interacting withpeople, just strangers on the
(04:50):
street, and they just seem extranice.
Maybe they smile at you.
Maybe they compliment yourfavorite shoes that you're
wearing.
Maybe you look in the mirrorand your outfit is outfitting
just the way you wanted it toBack on the spring vibes.
Maybe you smell this reallynice bloom and you notice how
pretty the flowers are.
Maybe you hear that guy overthere singing and just having a
(05:13):
really good morning and you feelhappy for him.
Maybe you got to see a rainbow,maybe the part of traffic
that's usually awful just flowedreally smoothly today and as
soon as you sat in your car,your favorite jam came on.
Maybe that old friend that youwere just thinking about reaches
out and says something nice toyou.
T-tiny things won't even noticethem if you're not looking for
(05:35):
them, but these are calledglimmers.
They are tiny moments, but whenwe actively notice them, we
feel this moment of joy or calmor happiness, and the cool part
about it is here's our braintalk.
Here is this literally sendscues of safety to your nervous
(05:55):
system.
How cool is this?
In doing my research for thisepisode, I was doing some
reading and in the NewportInstitute they described this in
such a good way.
They said, and I'm going toquote here triggers activate the
fight or flight response, whichtriggers the feeling of
agitation, anxiety, fear,sadness or anger within the body
(06:16):
.
Glimmers, on the other hand,produce sensations that make you
feel calm, joyful or grateful,and this is where I want you to
think about it in the terms ofthe nervous system.
When we talk about we've gottwo sides right the sympathetic
and the parasympathetic nervoussystem.
I want you to remember how todifferentiate these.
(06:37):
Remember that the sympatheticnervous system is just that.
It's a sympathetic response tothe things going on around you
and it's in a way that triggersa fight or flight sensation and
those reactions within the body.
Your body is responding just asit would to a threat.
Now let's take the other side.
(06:58):
Glimmers also stimulate thenervous system like a trigger
does, but essentially in theopposite way.
Glimmers will stimulate theparasympathetic nervous system,
which typically just refers tothat state of homeostasis
Everything is working as itshould, we're not in fight or
flight and it produces thatsense of calm and relaxation not
(07:23):
in fight or flight and itproduces that sense of calm and
relaxation.
Now remember our girl, deb,said glimmers are micro moments
that begin to shape our systemin very gentle ways.
And I want to throw in a fewmore powerful quotes from her
book that really anger in thispoint for me.
I think they'll do the same foryou.
Back to a point of the nervoussystem.
She said in her book the samefor you.
Back to a point of the nervoussystem.
She said in her book the job ofthe automatic nervous system is
(07:44):
to ensure we survive in themoments of danger yet thrive in
the times of safety, survivalrequires threat detection and
the activation of a survivalresponse.
Thriving demands the oppositethe inhibition of a survival
response so that socialengagement can happen.
(08:05):
Without the capacity foractivation, inhibition and
flexibility of those responses,we suffer.
Holy crap.
That's so good.
And just to add to that,hopefulness lies in knowing that
while our early experiencesshape our nervous system, our
(08:26):
ongoing experiences reshape it.
So think about it this way Ifthe way you were raised, you
were brought up in society theway you've always been, that is
going to shape how your nervoussystem responses or, excuse me,
responds, and what its responseis.
But that doesn't mean it'sfixed.
We can change it and we canreshape it, and noticing
(08:49):
glimmers is a way to do it, butthe key to that is that it's
ongoing.
Being someone who intentionallypicks up on glimmers is a
practice.
It's the practice of noticingand appreciating glimmers that
can cue your nervous system torelax, which is a legitimate way
to help promote better mentalhealth for yourself as well as
(09:12):
us, getting into a bettervibrational flow.
And just noticing them more andmore.
Noticing the good, the calm,the peaceful, the relaxing them
more and more.
Noticing the good, the calm,the peaceful, the relaxing,
noticing it more.
Where can we see something thatmakes us feel good?
And I think that's the key isnoticing this as a practice.
This isn't one and done.
It's not where we notice allthe good things one time and
(09:35):
it's life changing, which it canbe day changing but it's
getting in the habit of askingyourself what are all the good
things that I can notice aboutmy right now, about where I am,
what I see, what about my rightnow?
Deb Dana says setting anintention is a way to support my
(09:55):
new practice.
My glimmer intention is to lookfor the glimmers that are on my
path, just waiting for me tofind them.
I love that.
The glimmers that are waitingfor you to find them.
So I like to ask myself whatare all the things that make me
feel lucky that I get to beexperiencing right now?
What are my blessings over allthe big ones and the little ones
(10:18):
that I can see right in frontof my face?
Blessings over all the big onesand the little ones that I can
see right in front of my face.
One of the best things that I'vedone for myself is getting in
the habit of, as soon as I wakeup before my mind starts going
to my to-do list and all theother needs to do's throughout
the day, I interrupt it andthink of as many good things as
(10:39):
I can, and now this only takesseconds and I really do it
before I get out of bed half thetime before I even open my eyes
, but I list out as many goodthings as I can think of.
Maybe it's my bed is so comfyright now.
I am so blessed and lucky tohave this bed and, ah, my man,
my husband.
He's in this bed with me.
I'm so lucky to have someonewho's so madly in love with me
and protects me and cares for me, and the man that I love is so
(11:02):
peaceful right now.
I can see the light coming inthrough the window.
Look how beautiful the sky is,and I'm so lucky to have this
view.
I tried to reminisce a littlebit on the day before.
Maybe our dinner was reallygood.
I put a lot of love intopreparing it.
Maybe just that I love to dothat for my family and I'm glad
we could have a goodconversation and a moment to
(11:24):
chill on the couch and cuddle,then maybe move into the day
that I'm about to have.
I remember, okay, I have themeeting with these clients.
I love that they trust me withtheir stuff and they trust me to
be on their journey with them,and I bet they have some big
wins to tell me about and Icannot wait to hear it.
Maybe I'm meeting a new person,hell yeah, this is such an
(11:45):
honor and I'm thrilled to get tomeet them.
You get the picture.
It's everything that I canthink of in my sleepy little
state that I can be grateful forthat.
I could possibly say, hey, I'mreally lucky for this.
I usually call thisromanticizing your life, where
you're looking out for everypossible thing there is to be
(12:06):
happy about and, like I said, Ilove to do this first thing in
the morning or as you're fallingasleep, because we're utilizing
the theta brainwave state,which is basically classified as
slow brain activity.
This is where creativity,intuition, daydreaming and
fantasizing happens really,really effectively, and it's
also where we tend to anchor ourmemories, our emotions and the
(12:29):
sensations we get through theday.
So remember this theta wavesare known to be the strongest
during, of course, right whenwe're waking up and right as
we're falling asleep, but duringintentional focus, during
meditation, prayer and spiritualawareness.
So sorry for the brainwavetangent, but I really wanted to
(12:51):
add that in there.
I just love this habit.
It's one of the best thingsI've ever done for myself.
As soon as I wake up, when mythoughts start to come in, I've
done it enough that it feelsgood and my body likes it, and
that's, I swear, the only waythat I can remember to do it,
that it's become a habit, thatit's something I do before I
(13:13):
even open my eyes.
It's because it's good for me,my body likes it.
We're tapping into that rewardsystem that we already talked
about.
But running through my gratitudelist, man, perfect way to start
the day, perfect way to end theday, and it sets the tone for
your day.
We're starting the day withintentional gratitude early, all
the little glimmers that I cansee from my bed, and it's just
like when the morning starts offwrong, like starts off on the
(13:35):
wrong foot, so to speak.
If your morning starts bad,maybe you sleep through the
alarm, then you're in a rushtill you stub your toe, then you
spill your coffee.
So you have to change youroutfit and you don't like this
outfit.
It's not comfy and you're alsolate and you're annoyed and you
get it right.
I basically think of it like theopposite of that Starting the
(13:56):
practice of noticing yourglimmers wakes you up on the
right side of the bed period.
That's it.
And, honestly, I would adviseeven if you're just like how the
heck am I supposed to thinkabout that?
I'm way too groggy.
Here's what I would do, then isjust, honestly, do it anytime
you think of it, anytime you'reoutside, anytime you want to
move your thoughts away fromsomething that you don't like,
(14:19):
instead of getting in that badthought spiral.
Just go collect some glimmers.
Think of it like a game, thinkof some you've seen before.
I'd also say have a glimmercollecting place, have a place
that you can go, that you knowyou can find them For me.
I know where my glimmercollecting place is.
It's the trail behind myneighborhood.
It's the one I just mentionedwith all the cute dogs, but it
(14:42):
is full of all the glimmers thatwork for me.
It's literally in the woods,and you have to cross this
little bridge over the water.
It's I sometimes call it ariver, but it's more like a
stream, but in any case, everytime I go to this park, it's
over the river and through thewoods, which I just find that
delightful.
That's so cute to me and it's areally beautiful spot.
(15:04):
The stream has a lot of littlerock waterfalls that are
gorgeous and it really givesthis zen waterscape soundtrack.
I swear I could record it andsell it to spas.
It's amazing.
It sounds so good and I said,there's always dogs to pet.
The neighbors are friendly andthey're happy to meet you.
Their dogs are really happy toget their head scratched and
(15:26):
this park isn't a full-onconservatory area, but we do
have quite a few around so itreally looks like it is.
There's lots of plants thatintentionally attract the
wildlife.
The butterflies, the honeybeesand come on, butterflies on a
flower are a treasure andthey're everywhere and that
feels so good to me.
But, like I said before, thesearen't grandiose things.
(15:50):
They're just the little, smallthings that make our life better
and the better you get atnoticing them, the more you'll
find them around you.
So I would give you somehomework for this week.
Go through the next bit of yourday or even your whole day, make
it a few days, if you can thewhole week and notice every
single glimmer that you can.
Like I said, try to hit a fewdays, try to hit a whole week,
(16:13):
figure out what your glimmercollecting place is and make it
a practice.
We know how the brain works.
What you focus on, you find.
What you put your energy intocomes back to you.
So the more you look, the morethere will be All of my love to
each and every one of you andhappy glimmer hunting.
But all right, my loves.
(16:34):
That's where I'll leave ustoday.
I want to thank you so much forjoining in on this conversation
with me, and each week, everymonday, we're going to be
posting a new episode, going alittle bit deeper into the
conversation, of what you can doto train your brain on purpose
to really allow for thelifestyle that you want to live.
Until next time, my loves.
In the meantime, here's to yourhealth and your happiness.
We already know how the brain works.
What you focus on, you find andwhat you put your energy into
comes back to you.
Being able to spot and collectour glimmers is where we build
luck.
Hello, my loves, and welcome tothe Purposeful Lifestyle
Development Podcast, where wediscuss all things thought, work
(00:22):
and manifestation but we useneuroscience and the study of
the brain to do so.
I'm your host, tessa Spisak.
I'm a board-certifiedpractitioner, master life and
health coach and seasonedexecutive speaker.
If you're ready to create yourhighest value lifestyle and turn
your dream life into a reality,you're in the right place.
Let's get right into today'sepisode.
(00:42):
Hello, hello, my loves, andwelcome back into the Tessa
Talks Purposeful LifestyleDevelopment Podcast.
If you're new here, welcome anddon't forget to hit subscribe
so that you never miss part ofthe conversation and if you
learn something along the way,I'd be so grateful if you left a
positive review, as it helpsothers find and join the
(01:04):
conversation as well.
But that being said, for thoseof us who are finally coming out
of these cold winter months,how good has these extra few
hours of sunlight felt?
We're starting to see the trees, see the flowers come back to
life.
We've got more color, sunshine,warmth.
I don't know about you guys,but I needed it.
(01:25):
It was time.
I feel like my soul basicallyjust rejuvenates in the
springtime.
I mean, I personally totallyalign with the idea that the
real new year happens rightaround the spring equinox,
because that is such a time ofnew life and growth, with
everything coming back to life,including what feels like myself
(01:51):
, but that's a story for anotherday.
I just love the feeling thatcomes along with the start of
springtime and I think the goodthing about it is, when we're
moving from these colder towarmer seasons, that shift that
we're in, we find ourselvesdoing certain things.
We're getting outside more,we're noticing how pretty the
new blooms around us are.
Maybe, instead of chugging ourmorning coffee trying to get
(02:14):
some warmth in our bodies, maybewe're taking an extra second to
just savor and enjoy it.
Go find a patio, go stand inyour backyard.
Maybe, instead of runningacross freezing parking lots
trying to get out of the coldand the wind, maybe we're
actually slowing down, stoppingto literally smell the roses.
I feel like I personally slowdown a bit at this time of the
(02:38):
year and really just take anextra second to notice all the
beauty that's coming back, tofeel the warmth on my skin,
everything in between, and Ithink we all do that to some
extent.
But I do have a point here.
I'm not just savoring spring,but it made me think of this
concept because I think onereason we all tend to feel a
(03:00):
little bit better as we'recoming into this time of year
moving away from the wintersadness it's not only all the
things this time of year movingaway from the winter.
Sadness it's not only all thethings I was talking about
getting out in the sun, gettingour vitamin D but we also spend
a little bit more time focusingon one specific thing, and that
would be our glimmers.
Now, you very well mightalready have heard of this word
(03:22):
and this concept.
It's been around for about halfa decade now and started
getting more popular into thediscussion of how we feel,
mental health, mental wellness,all of these things.
It started getting bigger aboutthe last year or two, and just
so you know the history, theterm glimmers was actually
coined by a licensed clinicalsocial worker who specialized in
(03:46):
complex trauma.
Her name was Deb Dana and inher book in 2018, she wrote the
polyvagal theory in therapy, andhere's a quote that she says
about glimmers.
She says that glimmers aremicro moments that begin to
shape our system in very gentleways and that glimmers are, in
(04:06):
essence, the opposite oftriggers.
It's a tiny moment of awe, joyor peace that we notice
throughout the day, that make usfeel good.
And again, note that she saidthese are tiny moments.
So think of being on a walk andpetting a happy animal.
That is one of my favoritethings In the trail behind my
(04:28):
house.
All the dogs that are out thereliterally think people come
just to pet them.
And seeing a happy puppy run upto me for some pets totally a
glimmer for me.
Maybe this is just when yourmorning hot beverage whatever it
is, your tea, your coffee ittastes just right.
Maybe you're interacting withpeople, just strangers on the
(04:50):
street, and they just seem extranice.
Maybe they smile at you.
Maybe they compliment yourfavorite shoes that you're
wearing.
Maybe you look in the mirrorand your outfit is outfitting
just the way you wanted it toBack on the spring vibes.
Maybe you smell this reallynice bloom and you notice how
pretty the flowers are.
Maybe you hear that guy overthere singing and just having a
(05:13):
really good morning and you feelhappy for him.
Maybe you got to see a rainbow,maybe the part of traffic
that's usually awful just flowedreally smoothly today and as
soon as you sat in your car,your favorite jam came on.
Maybe that old friend that youwere just thinking about reaches
out and says something nice toyou.
T-tiny things won't even noticethem if you're not looking for
(05:35):
them, but these are calledglimmers.
They are tiny moments, but whenwe actively notice them, we
feel this moment of joy or calmor happiness, and the cool part
about it is here's our braintalk.
Here is this literally sendscues of safety to your nervous
(05:55):
system.
How cool is this?
In doing my research for thisepisode, I was doing some
reading and in the NewportInstitute they described this in
such a good way.
They said, and I'm going toquote here triggers activate the
fight or flight response, whichtriggers the feeling of
agitation, anxiety, fear,sadness or anger within the body
(06:16):
.
Glimmers, on the other hand,produce sensations that make you
feel calm, joyful or grateful,and this is where I want you to
think about it in the terms ofthe nervous system.
When we talk about we've gottwo sides right the sympathetic
and the parasympathetic nervoussystem.
I want you to remember how todifferentiate these.
(06:37):
Remember that the sympatheticnervous system is just that.
It's a sympathetic response tothe things going on around you
and it's in a way that triggersa fight or flight sensation and
those reactions within the body.
Your body is responding just asit would to a threat.
Now let's take the other side.
(06:58):
Glimmers also stimulate thenervous system like a trigger
does, but essentially in theopposite way.
Glimmers will stimulate theparasympathetic nervous system,
which typically just refers tothat state of homeostasis
Everything is working as itshould, we're not in fight or
flight and it produces thatsense of calm and relaxation not
(07:23):
in fight or flight and itproduces that sense of calm and
relaxation.
Now remember our girl, deb,said glimmers are micro moments
that begin to shape our systemin very gentle ways.
And I want to throw in a fewmore powerful quotes from her
book that really anger in thispoint for me.
I think they'll do the same foryou.
Back to a point of the nervoussystem.
She said in her book the samefor you.
Back to a point of the nervoussystem.
She said in her book the job ofthe automatic nervous system is
(07:44):
to ensure we survive in themoments of danger yet thrive in
the times of safety, survivalrequires threat detection and
the activation of a survivalresponse.
Thriving demands the oppositethe inhibition of a survival
response so that socialengagement can happen.
(08:05):
Without the capacity foractivation, inhibition and
flexibility of those responses,we suffer.
Holy crap.
That's so good.
And just to add to that,hopefulness lies in knowing that
while our early experiencesshape our nervous system, our
(08:26):
ongoing experiences reshape it.
So think about it this way Ifthe way you were raised, you
were brought up in society theway you've always been, that is
going to shape how your nervoussystem responses or, excuse me,
responds, and what its responseis.
But that doesn't mean it'sfixed.
We can change it and we canreshape it, and noticing
(08:49):
glimmers is a way to do it, butthe key to that is that it's
ongoing.
Being someone who intentionallypicks up on glimmers is a
practice.
It's the practice of noticingand appreciating glimmers that
can cue your nervous system torelax, which is a legitimate way
to help promote better mentalhealth for yourself as well as
(09:12):
us, getting into a bettervibrational flow.
And just noticing them more andmore.
Noticing the good, the calm,the peaceful, the relaxing them
more and more.
Noticing the good, the calm,the peaceful, the relaxing,
noticing it more.
Where can we see something thatmakes us feel good?
And I think that's the key isnoticing this as a practice.
This isn't one and done.
It's not where we notice allthe good things one time and
(09:35):
it's life changing, which it canbe day changing but it's
getting in the habit of askingyourself what are all the good
things that I can notice aboutmy right now, about where I am,
what I see, what about my rightnow?
Deb Dana says setting anintention is a way to support my
(09:55):
new practice.
My glimmer intention is to lookfor the glimmers that are on my
path, just waiting for me tofind them.
I love that.
The glimmers that are waitingfor you to find them.
So I like to ask myself whatare all the things that make me
feel lucky that I get to beexperiencing right now?
What are my blessings over allthe big ones and the little ones
(10:18):
that I can see right in frontof my face?
Blessings over all the big onesand the little ones that I can
see right in front of my face.
One of the best things that I'vedone for myself is getting in
the habit of, as soon as I wakeup before my mind starts going
to my to-do list and all theother needs to do's throughout
the day, I interrupt it andthink of as many good things as
(10:39):
I can, and now this only takesseconds and I really do it
before I get out of bed half thetime before I even open my eyes
, but I list out as many goodthings as I can think of.
Maybe it's my bed is so comfyright now.
I am so blessed and lucky tohave this bed and, ah, my man,
my husband.
He's in this bed with me.
I'm so lucky to have someonewho's so madly in love with me
and protects me and cares for me, and the man that I love is so
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peaceful right now.
I can see the light coming inthrough the window.
Look how beautiful the sky is,and I'm so lucky to have this
view.
I tried to reminisce a littlebit on the day before.
Maybe our dinner was reallygood.
I put a lot of love intopreparing it.
Maybe just that I love to dothat for my family and I'm glad
we could have a goodconversation and a moment to
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chill on the couch and cuddle,then maybe move into the day
that I'm about to have.
I remember, okay, I have themeeting with these clients.
I love that they trust me withtheir stuff and they trust me to
be on their journey with them,and I bet they have some big
wins to tell me about and Icannot wait to hear it.
Maybe I'm meeting a new person,hell yeah, this is such an
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honor and I'm thrilled to get tomeet them.
You get the picture.
It's everything that I canthink of in my sleepy little
state that I can be grateful forthat.
I could possibly say, hey, I'mreally lucky for this.
I usually call thisromanticizing your life, where
you're looking out for everypossible thing there is to be
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happy about and, like I said, Ilove to do this first thing in
the morning or as you're fallingasleep, because we're utilizing
the theta brainwave state,which is basically classified as
slow brain activity.
This is where creativity,intuition, daydreaming and
fantasizing happens really,really effectively, and it's
also where we tend to anchor ourmemories, our emotions and the
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sensations we get through theday.
So remember this theta wavesare known to be the strongest
during, of course, right whenwe're waking up and right as
we're falling asleep, but duringintentional focus, during
meditation, prayer and spiritualawareness.
So sorry for the brainwavetangent, but I really wanted to
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add that in there.
I just love this habit.
It's one of the best thingsI've ever done for myself.
As soon as I wake up, when mythoughts start to come in, I've
done it enough that it feelsgood and my body likes it, and
that's, I swear, the only waythat I can remember to do it,
that it's become a habit, thatit's something I do before I
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even open my eyes.
It's because it's good for me,my body likes it.
We're tapping into that rewardsystem that we already talked
about.
But running through my gratitudelist, man, perfect way to start
the day, perfect way to end theday, and it sets the tone for
your day.
We're starting the day withintentional gratitude early, all
the little glimmers that I cansee from my bed, and it's just
like when the morning starts offwrong, like starts off on the
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wrong foot, so to speak.
If your morning starts bad,maybe you sleep through the
alarm, then you're in a rushtill you stub your toe, then you
spill your coffee.
So you have to change youroutfit and you don't like this
outfit.
It's not comfy and you're alsolate and you're annoyed and you
get it right.
I basically think of it like theopposite of that Starting the
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practice of noticing yourglimmers wakes you up on the
right side of the bed period.
That's it.
And, honestly, I would adviseeven if you're just like how the
heck am I supposed to thinkabout that?
I'm way too groggy.
Here's what I would do, then isjust, honestly, do it anytime
you think of it, anytime you'reoutside, anytime you want to
move your thoughts away fromsomething that you don't like,
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instead of getting in that badthought spiral.
Just go collect some glimmers.
Think of it like a game, thinkof some you've seen before.
I'd also say have a glimmercollecting place, have a place
that you can go, that you knowyou can find them For me.
I know where my glimmercollecting place is.
It's the trail behind myneighborhood.
It's the one I just mentionedwith all the cute dogs, but it
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is full of all the glimmers thatwork for me.
It's literally in the woods,and you have to cross this
little bridge over the water.
It's I sometimes call it ariver, but it's more like a
stream, but in any case, everytime I go to this park, it's
over the river and through thewoods, which I just find that
delightful.
That's so cute to me and it's areally beautiful spot.
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The stream has a lot of littlerock waterfalls that are
gorgeous and it really givesthis zen waterscape soundtrack.
I swear I could record it andsell it to spas.
It's amazing.
It sounds so good and I said,there's always dogs to pet.
The neighbors are friendly andthey're happy to meet you.
Their dogs are really happy toget their head scratched and
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this park isn't a full-onconservatory area, but we do
have quite a few around so itreally looks like it is.
There's lots of plants thatintentionally attract the
wildlife.
The butterflies, the honeybeesand come on, butterflies on a
flower are a treasure andthey're everywhere and that
feels so good to me.
But, like I said before, thesearen't grandiose things.
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They're just the little, smallthings that make our life better
and the better you get atnoticing them, the more you'll
find them around you.
So I would give you somehomework for this week.
Go through the next bit of yourday or even your whole day, make
it a few days, if you can thewhole week and notice every
single glimmer that you can.
Like I said, try to hit a fewdays, try to hit a whole week,
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figure out what your glimmercollecting place is and make it
a practice.
We know how the brain works.
What you focus on, you find.
What you put your energy intocomes back to you.
So the more you look, the morethere will be All of my love to
each and every one of you andhappy glimmer hunting.
But all right, my loves.
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That's where I'll leave ustoday.
I want to thank you so much forjoining in on this conversation
with me, and each week, everymonday, we're going to be
posting a new episode, going alittle bit deeper into the
conversation, of what you can doto train your brain on purpose
to really allow for thelifestyle that you want to live.
Until next time, my loves.
In the meantime, here's to yourhealth and your happiness.
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