October 9, 2023 • 35 mins
Are you ready to move into your new era or new season of life? To level up? Or just have a bit more intuitive comfort through the ebbs and flows? This episode is for you.
This episode covers the beauty and science of intuition and how it can be harnessed as an instinctive power. Its roots are in our natural human power, seen even as far back as our ancestor's survival instincts.
This episode also covers how our brains respond to uncertainty, and more importantly - how to change it.
Most importantly, this episode guides you through the process of recognizing when it's time for a change and how to create new patterns to manifest your dream life. This can be the start of your enlightening journey of self-discovery, manifestation, and the power of embracing change.
This is your chance to discover how tuning into your intuition can align you with your life purpose and help you be a beacon of light.
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You cannot step into something new by judging or
hating where you are now.
You have to do it throughdesire and through love the
desire to be this new you and tolove yourself enough to do it.
Hello, my loves, and welcome tothe Purposeful Lifestyle
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Development Podcast, where wediscuss all things thought, work
and manifestation but we useneuroscience in the study of the
brain to do so.
I'm your host, tessa Spiezak.
I'm a board certifiedpractitioner, master, life and
health coach and seasonedexecutive speaker.
If you're ready to create yourhighest value lifestyle and turn
your dream life into a reality,you're in the right place.
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Let's get right into today'sepisode.
Hello, hello, my loves.
I always start this episodewith welcome back to you, but
today I'm starting with I'm back.
It has been a wonderful fewweeks taking a bit of a brain
break to travel with my family,let myself recharge, honestly
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regain some brain power and tobe super real, allow a bit of
new creative energy to come intoplay.
So thank you so much for yourpatience, as I took these last
few weeks off from the podcastand, to be quite honest, taking
a break was a really difficultdecision for me to make because,
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truthfully, there's this bigpart of me.
That I mean for those of youwho have tuned in for a while
now or for those of you thatknow me.
You know I am a bit of arecovering perfectionist.
But there was this big part ofme that honestly wanted to go
through the life journey of thispodcast and be able to say I
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never took a break.
I never missed a single week.
Every week was just as good asthe week before that, or even
better, and I never missed abeat.
But that's not how it workedout and, honestly, that's not
what I'm all about.
I really, at the core of it,want to make sure that I'm
providing you guys in mycommunity with really quality
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content that actually does setyou up for a good week ahead.
And I think intuitively and I'mgoing to come back to intuition
here in a minute that plays on alot of what I want to talk
about but intuitively I knewthat it was just really
important to get myself morerealigned again with my why and
my purpose and to share thatwith you guys.
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It is to spread love and lightin the world.
I truthfully, honestly, at mycore, believe that when people
are happier and when we're morein tune with our purpose and
we're actively pouring good,intentionally pouring good into
our own cup, which then, as theflow of reality goes, our cup
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begins to overflow.
All of those good things thatwe poured into our own selves.
That starts to overflow intothose around us and when enough
of us do it, it really tips thescale in favor of good and of
beauty in this world.
So, that being said, just as aheads up for what this episode
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is about today, I mean, ofcourse, I definitely want to
give you a quick update on whatI've been up to and what's been
going on, and I'm really drawnto have a conversation today
about our intuition, what Ibelieve is our sixth sense.
I want to talk about how we tapinto it and how do we use it,
especially right now, andespecially in terms of changing
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seasons or our new eras in life.
And so for my folks that areready to change, or you're in
the midst of an up level orgetting ready for an up level,
this one is for you.
So, super quick, before I getinto it, just for a fun little
backstory on my summer travels,I want to talk about that just
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super briefly, but I will put atime marker in the show notes.
If you don't care at all andyou're just here for the juicy
stuff and the message, you canskip ahead to that.
But I think I had mentioned onmy last episode, before I took
my break, that I was travelingthe summer and this first place
that we went was Italy.
Something that has been on mydream board and my vision board
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since forever.
It was to spend some summertime in Italy and it manifested
for me.
Actually I think honestly I'mbeing a little silly, but a
better way to say that was thatmy mother-in-law.
She manifested it for herselfand I was just a happy byproduct
of her wish and her ownintention.
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We actually went as herretirement celebration and I
guess she's been telling herfamily for years, or even more
like decades, since they werekids, that when she retires she
wants a family trip to Italy.
She didn't care how it happened, she wasn't even sure when she
was retiring, so that didn'tmatter, she just knew that's
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what she wants.
And a side note here, she spenther career as an epidemiologist
, so that's someone who studiesinfectious disease and how it
spreads.
So, needless to say, she's hada busy few years before this
coming up retirement, sodefinitely.
It was absolutely, without adoubt, a privilege to go.
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We were so lucky and blessed togo, but the fact is that when
she finally decided like hey,I'm retiring, she told the
family, like you know, I've beentelling you this your whole
life pick a date, find thetravel agent, make sure it
happened.
And we stepped up to the plate.
We made it happen.
There was nine of us for 10days and we did a bit of a tour.
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We traveled through thebeautiful Tuscan countryside, we
had some amazing wine and themost breathtaking sightseeing.
Then we made our way to Rome tosee the Sistine Chapel and some
old religious art and, yeah,I'm still speechless.
Even so, many years later andso many people having gone
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through this area, the energy ofthat place is still just
something else.
And even aside from that, justseeing the dedication and the
time and the thought that wentinto the infrastructure to do
that detailed work, it wassomething really, really
incredible.
And if you ever get theopportunity, it's worth the long
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lines, it's worth the heat justto experience it.
So, after Rome, we went to whatI have to say is probably my
favorite place in the wholeworld now, which is Capri.
It's this tiny little island upthe west coast of kind of mid
Italy.
It's in the Tirian Sea and itwas like nothing I have ever,
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ever seen.
It was very, very well to doBeautiful shopping, gorgeous
outdoor lunches.
We had way too many apparelspritz and lemon cellos, but it
was a highlight of the summer, Ithink.
For me, that place, it speaksto my soul.
It was amazing.
It made me feel so motivated Idon't even know what the right
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word is it just made me feellike hell.
Yes, this place is so cool.
But after Capri, we had a lookaround Napoli before heading
home, dead tired, but the wholetrip was so great to get to see
so many pieces of this countryand by the end of it, you know,
we fared the jet lag pretty well, so I'm very glad for that.
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So after we got home from thisonce in a lifetime, super
special, super magical trip,something that is so different
than what I'm used to, we hadlike 72 hours to get a little
bit of sleep, get it together,recalibrate in you know a
completely different time zone,and drive down to the Gulf of
Mexico for my mom's birthday.
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Now, this is really, reallyspecial and something that I
could not miss, because we havebeen going to the same beach for
her birthday every single yearsince I was a little girl and it
is so, so special, not only forher but for me too, and now
getting to bring my family whereI used to as you know a
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six-year-old girl make sandcastles and sand angels.
I'm now bringing my family sothat's a little bit of a happy
tear to bring us all togethervery new season, very beautiful,
and I think there's somethingreally magical about revisiting
such familiar places andchanneling your favorite
memories, especially in contrastto the new things that you're
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actively bringing into your life.
It's a really solid anchoringor grounding point to see what
it is you want and where youwant to go moving forward, for
me at least.
So once we got home from thatbeach trip to celebrate my mom,
we had just a minute before wepacked up again to head
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somewhere.
That, I gotta say, was a bitdifferent for me, and now I'm a
traveler.
I love it, I prioritize it inmy life.
It is very, very important tome, but I've never really been a
mountain girly.
But y'all, the last in line ofour travels was going to
Whitefish, montana somewhere.
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Admittedly, I gotta say I'venever really thought about
before, but I get it.
I get why y'all are so in lovewith Montana.
We were there for our dearfriend, kirstie in Holmes
wedding.
It was so, so beautiful.
We cried tears of happiness,danced until we were all
barefoot.
It was amazing.
But it was right on the lakeand it had the mountains in the
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background.
There's so many beautifultrails.
I love it.
We did so so much exploring.
We had to buy bear spray, ofall things, did not see any
bears, which I feel like I'mdisappointed at, but I I feel
like that's also probably veryignorant.
I just wanted to see some offin the distance.
I've never seen a bear in reallife before, but it was
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absolutely beautiful.
We went to Glacier National Parkand I'm a hiker, or at least I
thought I was, but I have neverseen anything like this, so much
untouched land.
It really really does somethingfor my soul.
I think it's another thing that, for me at least, that same
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feeling, that grounding, it's areal strong reminder of nature
and creation and all the forcesthat be that are outside of us
and outside of humanintervention and human creation.
I don't know, it feels like acleanse to me when you get to be
that connected to nature.
And again I recognize how bigof a blessing and a privilege it
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is to be able to spend a summercelebrating our parents and
celebrating our friends andgetting that time to unplug a
bit, to dive into the lessonsthat we learn along the way
while we aren't so distracted.
But one concept that kept comingup for me and just finding its
way into my thoughts while weswung from that busy, hectic
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planning to fully relaxed andunplugged and then back again
into the craziness, but it wasthe thought of how we get into a
space where we are able tointuitively tap in, how to
better listen to your inner selfand when to trust it.
And how do we differentiate,how do we know when something is
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an intuitive thought or a nudgeversus maybe an older part of
our subconscious, somesubconscious thought, maybe a
limiting belief or somethingthat doesn't serve us at this
time, et cetera.
All of that Because, as I saidat the beginning here, I believe
our intuition is just as muchof a sense for us as taste,
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touch, sight, hearing, all ofthat.
But I believe that the onlyreason we don't consider it to
be is because it's somethingthat we can't measure across the
board.
You can measure your sight.
Put something over your eye,tell me, read this.
You can measure your hearing.
Raise your hand when you hearthe beep, something like this.
But you can't necessarily testintuition in that same way, but
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I do want to talk about it alittle.
Let's talk about your intuition.
What is it?
Let's start by defining it.
Y'all know I really like tostart with a definition here,
but intuition is the ability tounderstand something immediately
, without the need for consciousreasoning.
So that means it's the abilityto understand or just know
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something immediately, right offthe bat, based on your feelings
, rather than having to bepresented with facts, consider
those facts and intentionallymake a conscious choice.
It's more of a natural abilityor a power that makes it
possible to know somethingwithout direct proof of evidence
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.
It's a feeling that guides aperson to act in a certain way
without even fully needing tounderstand why.
And now this isn't a woo-wooconcept, even though I
admittedly personally use it inwoo-woo ways but in psychology
it's believed that intuitioncomes from natural human powers
of pattern matching.
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That's all really good patternmatching.
And the mind, basicallyinstinctively, is able to comb
through stored experience, eventhings that are in long-term
memory and the subconscious forsimilar situations that allow us
to make those instant in themoment judgments just based off
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them, based on those pastexperiences, basically using all
of our insights faster than away that we're aware of or maybe
even capable to logically do,if that makes sense.
It's just a quick, naturalprocess in the brain and super
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simple explanation for this ishighway hypnosis.
We've talked about this onebefore on the podcast just
because it is such a well-knownphenomena and something that I
think most of us haveexperienced.
But highway hypnosis is wheresomeone who's driving has
traveled for miles without aconscious thought about the
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activity of driving the car.
Especially this happens whenit's a route they've taken over
and over again.
But the brain knows what toexpect.
Therefore, it knows what tolook for and it lets you kind of
go into a bit of autopilot.
And there are more arguments,which I also have explained
before that intuition was asurvival instinct gained in that
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older part of our brain throughour hunter-gatherer days.
But we know that the braincan't function if we are in
constant hyperdrive, activelythinking about and scanning
everything.
We can't do it just like ourancestors couldn't do that.
So instead, instead of thebrain constantly scanning for a
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threat even when there is nosight of one around, the
subconscious takes over in a way, and it's trusting that what
you already know and the signsof danger that you already know
or the signs of change that youalready know, like think back
hunter-gatherer days, just likewrestling, leaves in the
distance where it should bequiet, and you know it's
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normally quiet.
You may instinctively know thatthat could be a predator and
your body prepares for it andyou're ready to run and your
heartbeat starts faster and youradrenaline starts going.
All of this happens without youhaving to have the instinctive
thought of I believe that thereis a predator, because this
piece of land is normally quietand I heard wrestling, that
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sounded like footsteps.
You don't have to go throughall of that.
It's just I snapped.
I don't know if you could hearthat, but it's really quick,
instantaneous, and that part ofthe intuition is what I want to
talk about today.
Sometimes our intuition istelling us something, but it's
not so instantaneous.
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It's more of that gut feelingand a big time where I think
that really comes into play forus.
When we get that gut feeling,that internal draw, is when our
intuition is telling us thatwhat we're doing now does not
serve us to our best and maybethat just means that it's time
to move into a new season, greetsomething new, a new era, if
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you will.
Now I kind of went into whatI've been up to and clearly my
last season blessed to be ableto do it was about rest,
rejuvenation, travel, learning,applying the lessons that I know
and I've learned along the way,and that season really allowed
me to create an intuitive spacethat was able to tell me very
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clearly Look, I'm refreshed, I'mgood, this season served its
purpose and it's come to an endand I am ready to put the work
in and when I do and I'm readyto rebuild that structure,
rebuild that growth zone, I knowit'll be for something great.
I don't have fear necessarilyaround it, or even if I do, it's
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not something enough to keep meaway.
But I'm ready for that newseason and I believe we all ebb
and flow between the seasons inour life.
I did an episode gosh, Icouldn't even tell you maybe
last summer, but it's titled EBSand Flows.
That was one of my most popularones.
It was, I think, prettydecently insightful, for
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especially what a lot of thefolks that I was working with at
the time.
You know again, probably aroundthe same time of the year, but
it's that ebbing and flowingbetween the seasons of our lives
, changing, growing, buildingand then enjoying and living in
that growth, slowing down andbeing a bit softer than we are
when we are in that more rigidgrowth mode.
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So I want to talk about thatshift, the shift when you know
it's time to move into somethingnew.
You intuitively know that you'reready for the new season, for
that new era, and you're readyfor something to change.
That feeling is a strong one,and it can show up in a lot of
different ways.
Maybe it starts to feel likeyou're stuck, kind of like stuck
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in the mud.
Or maybe, when you finish yourday, you have that familiar
thought of ugh, I wish it hadgone this way instead.
I wish I had done this instead.
I wish my life looked like this.
And you know that whateveryou're doing now, while it might
have suited you, for a thousanddifferent reasons, a whole host
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of different reasons, anythingfrom that's what you knew that
made sense to you needed comfortafter something else.
Whatever that reason is, youknow it doesn't serve you
anymore and a lot of us can bedirected to get these feelings
in a few different ways.
A lot of times some externalchange begets the change you
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want to see in you.
And let me explain to you whatI mean by that, because there's
a few different ways this canshow up.
I know, for me personally and alot of us, I'm directed by the
seasons.
Mention this a little bitbefore, I believe it was
actually in that ebbs and flips,but I'm not sure what it was in
Flo's episode.
But I'm still a bit conditionedby the seasons.
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You know, january to March, I'min that growth, pushing,
creating zone, but then aboutspringtime, march to May, it's
mine and my loved one'sbirthdays.
It's my favorite season.
It's, you know, everything isbeautiful.
I'm still feeling reallyinspired, but I am also more
inspired to enjoy the growththat I've put in the beginning
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of the year.
Then, about June to August is,you know, summertime.
My kiddos home work is changinga little bit.
I get to at least, even if I'mnot changing my activities as
much.
My head space is.
I want to relax and allow theflow and allow the almost
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feminine side of the moremasculine that I had been in for
that year is I had been pushing, growing, grinding, and then
it's time to relax, enjoy andreceive it right Before moving
into the holiday season, whichfor me is about family gratitude
and I am less so rigid onmyself, I'm much more outwardly
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focused, but this is the pointin the year that I'm ready to
get back into that growth zone.
I'm ready to build and move andgroove and grow and all of that
.
But this can also happen for alot of people with just the
normal happenings of life, whichalso can be a bit seasonal too.
Maybe right now at this time,if you've just gone back to
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school or someone in your househas, or there's some change in
dynamic after summer, like this,is a very popular time to move
or again just create that newroutine, like for me, my travel
season is over, my step son isback in school, my husband is
getting busier with the work inhis universities, and so it
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makes sense that, aside from mynormal seasonal flow, the lives
of the people around me arechanging too, so it helps direct
that new era, and so one of thethings I coach on a lot is that
when there's already somechange in dynamic, like you are
already navigating some changein your schedule or something
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like that, just a change in yourlife.
I think it's the best time toreally catapult into that new
change that you want, basicallyusing that change, especially if
there is an inherent change inyour schedule.
Use that to help build anotherone.
It's a lot easier to create newhabits and build out new habit
stacks when you're somewhatforced out of old habits.
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You're not having to will yourway out or try your way out.
It's that life change.
So you're just away from it andinstead of falling back into
something that you don't like,intentionally creating something
new.
But regardless of how this timecomes about, you know when it's
time and most people willchange.
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Even though I don't necessarilylike this sentence, it's a truth
, it's very true.
But when the pain or discomfortof staying the same is greater
than a discomfort of change,that's when most people will
change.
And I don't say discomfort likea dirty word, I'm more so
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referencing that pick your hardsaying, and I think you might
have heard this one before.
If you haven't, it's so good.
But this pick your hard quotelists out hards and the
opposites of so it goes.
Yes, marriage is hard, butdivorce is hard too, so pick
your hard.
Staying fit is hard, butobesity is hard, so pick your
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hard.
Being in debt is hard, but sois being financially disciplined
.
The pain of not communicatingversus the pain of having a hard
conversation, right Dependingon the conversation usually and
of course we're not talkingabout specific outliers here but
you get the sentiment that youget to pick your hard.
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So, yes, change can be hard.
We've talked about that.
It's difficult for the brain.
We're not really wired that way.
The brain is naturallyresistant to uncertainty.
I've said it before.
But the brain's whole job is tohelp protect you from threats,
to keep you alive, even ifthings aren't life or death
situations.
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The brain doesn't reallyregister it on a scale that way.
So it's important to know that,yeah, routines, patterns.
They provide us a sense ofsecurity, and trying to deviate
from that pattern or thatroutine that you've already set
in can trigger some discomfort.
So please refer back to chooseyour hard.
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But there's also a good side ofthat coin Is that the brain
really likes routine, likespattern, so we can create that
new pattern that becomes morefamiliar and becomes that new.
But I like to be aware so thatwhen things are difficult.
We're not blaming ourselves,we're not putting any judgment
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on ourselves.
We're like oh yeah, this isjust what the brain does.
Change introduces us to sometype of uncertainty that
activates the brain's threatresponse.
So that's why even the prospectof change whether it's good
change or not, right it canevoke a little resistance.
It's just our brain perceivingit as a potential threat.
It has nothing to do with ourmotivation, our discipline, our
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drive, how much we want it, whatkind of person we are, nothing
like that.
It's just how we human.
It's how the brain works.
So, knowing all of this, how dowe say OK, cool, but how do we
change something about ourselvesand change something about our
day to day activities to be morein line with what you want?
Well, I'm going to give you theformula for exactly how to
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apply this to your life.
And, of course, since ourreasoning is backed up in
neuroscience, so is the formulaas always.
First and foremost sorry ifthis sounds a bit repetitive,
but we always got to start here,guys, we have to cultivate some
kind of awareness.
This is going to help yourprefrontal cortex override
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whatever default patterns andhow it's set in its ways, so to
speak.
So how to move away from thepatterns and the habits and the
things that we want to change.
We have to cultivate someawareness.
So what does that mean?
Take your day inventory.
Take a very serious and reallook at what's going on in your
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life, what your schedule lookslike, what conscious and
unconscious thoughts you havethroughout the day, which ones
of those are serving you, whichones do you want to keep, maybe
uplift, do a little more, giveyourself a pat on the back for,
or which ones do you want to doaway with, even if you're not
sure yet how you want to get ridof them?
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Just note the ones you want toget rid of and then walk through
the steps of your day andactually feel through the steps
of your day.
And this is in thought, right,because emotions are energy in
motion.
So how does your energy feelwhen you think about your day?
What feels like flow and whatfeels like resistance or a block
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in the road?
And I really suggest trying todo this as objectively as you
can, meaning don't put anyjudgment on the things you want
to change.
Here's an example.
I just did this with a clientbefore, so think of it this way
Maybe one of the things that'sholding you back from stepping
into your next era and your nextseason and being the you that
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is more you that you want to be.
But something that's holding youback is your sleep routine.
You're staying up way too lateand that ruins your morning and
you don't know how to change it.
And da, da, da, da da.
I don't want you to be thejudge here.
I don't want you to judge thatbecause, objectively, being up
at two in the morning it's not agood or bad thing.
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There is no arbitrary value andit doesn't change the type of
person you are when you areawake versus asleep.
However, when we've moved pastthat judgment, we can recognize
that being up at 2 am doeschange how you go through your
day.
Right, it does take away thatmorning routine.
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It does make you groggy x, y, z, so we want to correct it.
But I need you to hear thisclearly you cannot step into
something new by judging orhating where you are now.
You have to do it throughdesire and through love the
desire to be this new you and tolove yourself enough to do it,
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and you want to use reallymindful and thoughtful practices
to do so.
It might take a while to feelthrough and be able to feel
through what you need to do.
And this is why things likemeditation, journaling, yoga,
tapping, whatever they're soimportant, because they give you
that chance to think.
You can brain dump, you canclear the noise, you can get
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past the normal ruminatingrolodex of thoughts right.
To create that new habit.
You're actually going to haveto rewire old neural pathways or
old ways of thinking, justingrained thought patterns, and
create a new response to thosesituations.
It requires mindfulness interms of think of it this way,
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in terms of your consciousawareness of your own brain's
behaviors and patterns at thevery moment that they occur.
That way you are able to be incontrol, to be in the driver's
seat and change those habitsinto the direction that you want
.
Then the key is to keep yourfocus there.
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Keep your focus on the thingthat you want.
I remind you guys, get clear onwhat that ideal day looks like.
Create that focus in your mindand keep visualizing it
Literally.
This is my challenge to youSchedule out a time for you to
visualize and go through themotions.
If you can have it stack onthis, great.
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If that's maybe taking a pieceof your hot girl walk or your
walk outside and visualizingthat perfect day without your
headphones in, great, awesome.
If that is setting five minutesto close your eyes down, quiet
your head, space down and sitafter a workout, great.
If you want to start taking abath and you'll do it there, I
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don't care Whatever makes moresense to you, but schedule in
that time to visualize and movethrough the feelings of this new
day.
Your brain doesn't know ifyou're just thinking about
something or you're actuallyexperiencing this.
We've gone through that right.
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Let your brain get used to thisnew reality, to this new
schedule, to seeing it, toseeing this new set of habits,
to feeling it, whatever that is.
Let yourself practice this dayin thought so that when you
actually do it in action, it isso much easier to go through the
motions and your brain isn'tfighting you with the fear of
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change or the fear of newness.
It's used to this, it's seen it, she knows right.
This is what allows you tobuild those entirely new neural
pathways through repetition andpractice of thinking and feeling
and acting.
We're not just doing the thinga thousand times, we're thinking
through it, we're feelingthrough it and then, when we go
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to do it in person.
It is so much easier.
You are thinking about the newday, the new reality, feeling
through it, would feel andacting more and more in
accordance with it, and yourbrain isn't fighting you.
It's helping you along becausethis is what it knows.
It becomes so much easier.
So, as you get going, base yourhabits on your desired identity,
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who you want to be, who thatnext season or era of you is.
Who you want to be and what youwant to create to receive this
new era.
This means making your habits abit of your life project for
the time of the change.
So if you're like me, forinstance, and you're moving from
that summer flow, the restperiod, into a growth-focused
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period, or maybe that meansyou're changing jobs, or you are
going to school and maybeyou've got a job, maybe your
kids are back in school.
Whatever the case may be, ifit's time for you to move into a
new hard, that is the formulabased on your brain.
Figure out where you are, whatyou like about it and what you
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don't like about it.
Take inventory on your triggersand your responses in the areas
that you want to change.
Then get clear on what you'dreally really like instead and
script it out.
Get comfortable with youractual desire and get
comfortable visualizing yourselfdoing exactly that.
Then, and only then, do we needto start really getting into
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that action.
Is it so much easier now?
We're not fighting against thatresistance Every single time
you do something, even thetiniest little thing, if it's a
new thought, the new baby action, something you do or don't do,
whatever it is, even if it isthe smallest grain of rice,
little baby thing that is closerto what you want and that
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aligns with that new you andyour new season, I want you to
recognize it.
I want you to congratulateyourself with a little pat on
the back.
I want you to continue makingthose changes, even if it's just
little grains of rice at a time.
Remember, we all get to pickour hard.
I'm going to leave you withthis question today what would
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you rather?
You are hard to be?
Hard because you're learningand working towards who you want
to be, or hard because you knowyou aren't living up to your
own potential or your owndesires and your intuition is
yelling at you that you deservemore or you deserve different.
I'm here to tell you if youdesire it, you deserve it.
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My loves, I cannot wait to hearwhat this new season has in
store for you, whatever thatgrowth piece is for you.
All my love to you specificallyand if you haven't done so, I
would so appreciate if thisresonated with you leave a
positive review, let me knowwhat's going on with you, what
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We're talking and we've got theconversation back open again.
When you leave a review, whenyou leave some stars, something
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invite others to join thatconversation with us too.
Put this up in the algorithm sowe get this conversation with
an even larger, growinglywonderful community.
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And to everyone who tuned inthis week, thank you so much.
I missed you.
I'm so glad to be back.
Have a wonderful week.
I'll talk to you soon and Ican't wait to hear your stories.
So make sure you write in, letme know, either on my socials or
at info at purposeful lifestyledevelopment dot com.
Talk to you soon.
But alright, my loves, that'swhere I'll leave us today.
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I want to thank you so much forjoining in on this conversation
with me, and each week, everyMonday, we're going to be
posting a new episode going alittle bit deeper into the
conversation of what you can doto train your brain on purpose
to really allow for thelifestyle that you want to live.
Until next time, my loves.
In the meantime, here's to yourhealth and your happiness.
You cannot step into something new by judging or
hating where you are now.
You have to do it throughdesire and through love the
desire to be this new you and tolove yourself enough to do it.
Hello, my loves, and welcome tothe Purposeful Lifestyle
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Development Podcast, where wediscuss all things thought, work
and manifestation but we useneuroscience in the study of the
brain to do so.
I'm your host, tessa Spiezak.
I'm a board certifiedpractitioner, master, life and
health coach and seasonedexecutive speaker.
If you're ready to create yourhighest value lifestyle and turn
your dream life into a reality,you're in the right place.
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Let's get right into today'sepisode.
Hello, hello, my loves.
I always start this episodewith welcome back to you, but
today I'm starting with I'm back.
It has been a wonderful fewweeks taking a bit of a brain
break to travel with my family,let myself recharge, honestly
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regain some brain power and tobe super real, allow a bit of
new creative energy to come intoplay.
So thank you so much for yourpatience, as I took these last
few weeks off from the podcastand, to be quite honest, taking
a break was a really difficultdecision for me to make because,
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truthfully, there's this bigpart of me.
That I mean for those of youwho have tuned in for a while
now or for those of you thatknow me.
You know I am a bit of arecovering perfectionist.
But there was this big part ofme that honestly wanted to go
through the life journey of thispodcast and be able to say I
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never took a break.
I never missed a single week.
Every week was just as good asthe week before that, or even
better, and I never missed abeat.
But that's not how it workedout and, honestly, that's not
what I'm all about.
I really, at the core of it,want to make sure that I'm
providing you guys in mycommunity with really quality
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content that actually does setyou up for a good week ahead.
And I think intuitively and I'mgoing to come back to intuition
here in a minute that plays on alot of what I want to talk
about but intuitively I knewthat it was just really
important to get myself morerealigned again with my why and
my purpose and to share thatwith you guys.
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It is to spread love and lightin the world.
I truthfully, honestly, at mycore, believe that when people
are happier and when we're morein tune with our purpose and
we're actively pouring good,intentionally pouring good into
our own cup, which then, as theflow of reality goes, our cup
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begins to overflow.
All of those good things thatwe poured into our own selves.
That starts to overflow intothose around us and when enough
of us do it, it really tips thescale in favor of good and of
beauty in this world.
So, that being said, just as aheads up for what this episode
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is about today, I mean, ofcourse, I definitely want to
give you a quick update on whatI've been up to and what's been
going on, and I'm really drawnto have a conversation today
about our intuition, what Ibelieve is our sixth sense.
I want to talk about how we tapinto it and how do we use it,
especially right now, andespecially in terms of changing
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seasons or our new eras in life.
And so for my folks that areready to change, or you're in
the midst of an up level orgetting ready for an up level,
this one is for you.
So, super quick, before I getinto it, just for a fun little
backstory on my summer travels,I want to talk about that just
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super briefly, but I will put atime marker in the show notes.
If you don't care at all andyou're just here for the juicy
stuff and the message, you canskip ahead to that.
But I think I had mentioned onmy last episode, before I took
my break, that I was travelingthe summer and this first place
that we went was Italy.
Something that has been on mydream board and my vision board
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since forever.
It was to spend some summertime in Italy and it manifested
for me.
Actually I think honestly I'mbeing a little silly, but a
better way to say that was thatmy mother-in-law.
She manifested it for herselfand I was just a happy byproduct
of her wish and her ownintention.
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We actually went as herretirement celebration and I
guess she's been telling herfamily for years, or even more
like decades, since they werekids, that when she retires she
wants a family trip to Italy.
She didn't care how it happened, she wasn't even sure when she
was retiring, so that didn'tmatter, she just knew that's
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what she wants.
And a side note here, she spenther career as an epidemiologist
, so that's someone who studiesinfectious disease and how it
spreads.
So, needless to say, she's hada busy few years before this
coming up retirement, sodefinitely.
It was absolutely, without adoubt, a privilege to go.
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We were so lucky and blessed togo, but the fact is that when
she finally decided like hey,I'm retiring, she told the
family, like you know, I've beentelling you this your whole
life pick a date, find thetravel agent, make sure it
happened.
And we stepped up to the plate.
We made it happen.
There was nine of us for 10days and we did a bit of a tour.
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We traveled through thebeautiful Tuscan countryside, we
had some amazing wine and themost breathtaking sightseeing.
Then we made our way to Rome tosee the Sistine Chapel and some
old religious art and, yeah,I'm still speechless.
Even so, many years later andso many people having gone
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through this area, the energy ofthat place is still just
something else.
And even aside from that, justseeing the dedication and the
time and the thought that wentinto the infrastructure to do
that detailed work, it wassomething really, really
incredible.
And if you ever get theopportunity, it's worth the long
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lines, it's worth the heat justto experience it.
So, after Rome, we went to whatI have to say is probably my
favorite place in the wholeworld now, which is Capri.
It's this tiny little island upthe west coast of kind of mid
Italy.
It's in the Tirian Sea and itwas like nothing I have ever,
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ever seen.
It was very, very well to doBeautiful shopping, gorgeous
outdoor lunches.
We had way too many apparelspritz and lemon cellos, but it
was a highlight of the summer, Ithink.
For me, that place, it speaksto my soul.
It was amazing.
It made me feel so motivated Idon't even know what the right
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word is it just made me feellike hell.
Yes, this place is so cool.
But after Capri, we had a lookaround Napoli before heading
home, dead tired, but the wholetrip was so great to get to see
so many pieces of this countryand by the end of it, you know,
we fared the jet lag pretty well, so I'm very glad for that.
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So after we got home from thisonce in a lifetime, super
special, super magical trip,something that is so different
than what I'm used to, we hadlike 72 hours to get a little
bit of sleep, get it together,recalibrate in you know a
completely different time zone,and drive down to the Gulf of
Mexico for my mom's birthday.
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Now, this is really, reallyspecial and something that I
could not miss, because we havebeen going to the same beach for
her birthday every single yearsince I was a little girl and it
is so, so special, not only forher but for me too, and now
getting to bring my family whereI used to as you know a
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six-year-old girl make sandcastles and sand angels.
I'm now bringing my family sothat's a little bit of a happy
tear to bring us all togethervery new season, very beautiful,
and I think there's somethingreally magical about revisiting
such familiar places andchanneling your favorite
memories, especially in contrastto the new things that you're
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actively bringing into your life.
It's a really solid anchoringor grounding point to see what
it is you want and where youwant to go moving forward, for
me at least.
So once we got home from thatbeach trip to celebrate my mom,
we had just a minute before wepacked up again to head
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somewhere.
That, I gotta say, was a bitdifferent for me, and now I'm a
traveler.
I love it, I prioritize it inmy life.
It is very, very important tome, but I've never really been a
mountain girly.
But y'all, the last in line ofour travels was going to
Whitefish, montana somewhere.
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Admittedly, I gotta say I'venever really thought about
before, but I get it.
I get why y'all are so in lovewith Montana.
We were there for our dearfriend, kirstie in Holmes
wedding.
It was so, so beautiful.
We cried tears of happiness,danced until we were all
barefoot.
It was amazing.
But it was right on the lakeand it had the mountains in the
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background.
There's so many beautifultrails.
I love it.
We did so so much exploring.
We had to buy bear spray, ofall things, did not see any
bears, which I feel like I'mdisappointed at, but I I feel
like that's also probably veryignorant.
I just wanted to see some offin the distance.
I've never seen a bear in reallife before, but it was
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absolutely beautiful.
We went to Glacier National Parkand I'm a hiker, or at least I
thought I was, but I have neverseen anything like this, so much
untouched land.
It really really does somethingfor my soul.
I think it's another thing that, for me at least, that same
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feeling, that grounding, it's areal strong reminder of nature
and creation and all the forcesthat be that are outside of us
and outside of humanintervention and human creation.
I don't know, it feels like acleanse to me when you get to be
that connected to nature.
And again I recognize how bigof a blessing and a privilege it
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is to be able to spend a summercelebrating our parents and
celebrating our friends andgetting that time to unplug a
bit, to dive into the lessonsthat we learn along the way
while we aren't so distracted.
But one concept that kept comingup for me and just finding its
way into my thoughts while weswung from that busy, hectic
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planning to fully relaxed andunplugged and then back again
into the craziness, but it wasthe thought of how we get into a
space where we are able tointuitively tap in, how to
better listen to your inner selfand when to trust it.
And how do we differentiate,how do we know when something is
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an intuitive thought or a nudgeversus maybe an older part of
our subconscious, somesubconscious thought, maybe a
limiting belief or somethingthat doesn't serve us at this
time, et cetera.
All of that Because, as I saidat the beginning here, I believe
our intuition is just as muchof a sense for us as taste,
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touch, sight, hearing, all ofthat.
But I believe that the onlyreason we don't consider it to
be is because it's somethingthat we can't measure across the
board.
You can measure your sight.
Put something over your eye,tell me, read this.
You can measure your hearing.
Raise your hand when you hearthe beep, something like this.
But you can't necessarily testintuition in that same way, but
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I do want to talk about it alittle.
Let's talk about your intuition.
What is it?
Let's start by defining it.
Y'all know I really like tostart with a definition here,
but intuition is the ability tounderstand something immediately
, without the need for consciousreasoning.
So that means it's the abilityto understand or just know
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something immediately, right offthe bat, based on your feelings
, rather than having to bepresented with facts, consider
those facts and intentionallymake a conscious choice.
It's more of a natural abilityor a power that makes it
possible to know somethingwithout direct proof of evidence
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.
It's a feeling that guides aperson to act in a certain way
without even fully needing tounderstand why.
And now this isn't a woo-wooconcept, even though I
admittedly personally use it inwoo-woo ways but in psychology
it's believed that intuitioncomes from natural human powers
of pattern matching.
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That's all really good patternmatching.
And the mind, basicallyinstinctively, is able to comb
through stored experience, eventhings that are in long-term
memory and the subconscious forsimilar situations that allow us
to make those instant in themoment judgments just based off
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them, based on those pastexperiences, basically using all
of our insights faster than away that we're aware of or maybe
even capable to logically do,if that makes sense.
It's just a quick, naturalprocess in the brain and super
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simple explanation for this ishighway hypnosis.
We've talked about this onebefore on the podcast just
because it is such a well-knownphenomena and something that I
think most of us haveexperienced.
But highway hypnosis is wheresomeone who's driving has
traveled for miles without aconscious thought about the
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activity of driving the car.
Especially this happens whenit's a route they've taken over
and over again.
But the brain knows what toexpect.
Therefore, it knows what tolook for and it lets you kind of
go into a bit of autopilot.
And there are more arguments,which I also have explained
before that intuition was asurvival instinct gained in that
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older part of our brain throughour hunter-gatherer days.
But we know that the braincan't function if we are in
constant hyperdrive, activelythinking about and scanning
everything.
We can't do it just like ourancestors couldn't do that.
So instead, instead of thebrain constantly scanning for a
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threat even when there is nosight of one around, the
subconscious takes over in a way, and it's trusting that what
you already know and the signsof danger that you already know
or the signs of change that youalready know, like think back
hunter-gatherer days, just likewrestling, leaves in the
distance where it should bequiet, and you know it's
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normally quiet.
You may instinctively know thatthat could be a predator and
your body prepares for it andyou're ready to run and your
heartbeat starts faster and youradrenaline starts going.
All of this happens without youhaving to have the instinctive
thought of I believe that thereis a predator, because this
piece of land is normally quietand I heard wrestling, that
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sounded like footsteps.
You don't have to go throughall of that.
It's just I snapped.
I don't know if you could hearthat, but it's really quick,
instantaneous, and that part ofthe intuition is what I want to
talk about today.
Sometimes our intuition istelling us something, but it's
not so instantaneous.
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It's more of that gut feelingand a big time where I think
that really comes into play forus.
When we get that gut feeling,that internal draw, is when our
intuition is telling us thatwhat we're doing now does not
serve us to our best and maybethat just means that it's time
to move into a new season, greetsomething new, a new era, if
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you will.
Now I kind of went into whatI've been up to and clearly my
last season blessed to be ableto do it was about rest,
rejuvenation, travel, learning,applying the lessons that I know
and I've learned along the way,and that season really allowed
me to create an intuitive spacethat was able to tell me very
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clearly Look, I'm refreshed, I'mgood, this season served its
purpose and it's come to an endand I am ready to put the work
in and when I do and I'm readyto rebuild that structure,
rebuild that growth zone, I knowit'll be for something great.
I don't have fear necessarilyaround it, or even if I do, it's
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not something enough to keep meaway.
But I'm ready for that newseason and I believe we all ebb
and flow between the seasons inour life.
I did an episode gosh, Icouldn't even tell you maybe
last summer, but it's titled EBSand Flows.
That was one of my most popularones.
It was, I think, prettydecently insightful, for
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especially what a lot of thefolks that I was working with at
the time.
You know again, probably aroundthe same time of the year, but
it's that ebbing and flowingbetween the seasons of our lives
, changing, growing, buildingand then enjoying and living in
that growth, slowing down andbeing a bit softer than we are
when we are in that more rigidgrowth mode.
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So I want to talk about thatshift, the shift when you know
it's time to move into somethingnew.
You intuitively know that you'reready for the new season, for
that new era, and you're readyfor something to change.
That feeling is a strong one,and it can show up in a lot of
different ways.
Maybe it starts to feel likeyou're stuck, kind of like stuck
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in the mud.
Or maybe, when you finish yourday, you have that familiar
thought of ugh, I wish it hadgone this way instead.
I wish I had done this instead.
I wish my life looked like this.
And you know that whateveryou're doing now, while it might
have suited you, for a thousanddifferent reasons, a whole host
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of different reasons, anythingfrom that's what you knew that
made sense to you needed comfortafter something else.
Whatever that reason is, youknow it doesn't serve you
anymore and a lot of us can bedirected to get these feelings
in a few different ways.
A lot of times some externalchange begets the change you
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want to see in you.
And let me explain to you whatI mean by that, because there's
a few different ways this canshow up.
I know, for me personally and alot of us, I'm directed by the
seasons.
Mention this a little bitbefore, I believe it was
actually in that ebbs and flips,but I'm not sure what it was in
Flo's episode.
But I'm still a bit conditionedby the seasons.
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You know, january to March, I'min that growth, pushing,
creating zone, but then aboutspringtime, march to May, it's
mine and my loved one'sbirthdays.
It's my favorite season.
It's, you know, everything isbeautiful.
I'm still feeling reallyinspired, but I am also more
inspired to enjoy the growththat I've put in the beginning
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of the year.
Then, about June to August is,you know, summertime.
My kiddos home work is changinga little bit.
I get to at least, even if I'mnot changing my activities as
much.
My head space is.
I want to relax and allow theflow and allow the almost
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feminine side of the moremasculine that I had been in for
that year is I had been pushing, growing, grinding, and then
it's time to relax, enjoy andreceive it right Before moving
into the holiday season, whichfor me is about family gratitude
and I am less so rigid onmyself, I'm much more outwardly
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focused, but this is the pointin the year that I'm ready to
get back into that growth zone.
I'm ready to build and move andgroove and grow and all of that
.
But this can also happen for alot of people with just the
normal happenings of life, whichalso can be a bit seasonal too.
Maybe right now at this time,if you've just gone back to
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school or someone in your househas, or there's some change in
dynamic after summer, like this,is a very popular time to move
or again just create that newroutine, like for me, my travel
season is over, my step son isback in school, my husband is
getting busier with the work inhis universities, and so it
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makes sense that, aside from mynormal seasonal flow, the lives
of the people around me arechanging too, so it helps direct
that new era, and so one of thethings I coach on a lot is that
when there's already somechange in dynamic, like you are
already navigating some changein your schedule or something
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like that, just a change in yourlife.
I think it's the best time toreally catapult into that new
change that you want, basicallyusing that change, especially if
there is an inherent change inyour schedule.
Use that to help build anotherone.
It's a lot easier to create newhabits and build out new habit
stacks when you're somewhatforced out of old habits.
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You're not having to will yourway out or try your way out.
It's that life change.
So you're just away from it andinstead of falling back into
something that you don't like,intentionally creating something
new.
But regardless of how this timecomes about, you know when it's
time and most people willchange.
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Even though I don't necessarilylike this sentence, it's a truth
, it's very true.
But when the pain or discomfortof staying the same is greater
than a discomfort of change,that's when most people will
change.
And I don't say discomfort likea dirty word, I'm more so
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referencing that pick your hardsaying, and I think you might
have heard this one before.
If you haven't, it's so good.
But this pick your hard quotelists out hards and the
opposites of so it goes.
Yes, marriage is hard, butdivorce is hard too, so pick
your hard.
Staying fit is hard, butobesity is hard, so pick your
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hard.
Being in debt is hard, but sois being financially disciplined
.
The pain of not communicatingversus the pain of having a hard
conversation, right Dependingon the conversation usually and
of course we're not talkingabout specific outliers here but
you get the sentiment that youget to pick your hard.
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So, yes, change can be hard.
We've talked about that.
It's difficult for the brain.
We're not really wired that way.
The brain is naturallyresistant to uncertainty.
I've said it before.
But the brain's whole job is tohelp protect you from threats,
to keep you alive, even ifthings aren't life or death
situations.
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The brain doesn't reallyregister it on a scale that way.
So it's important to know that,yeah, routines, patterns.
They provide us a sense ofsecurity, and trying to deviate
from that pattern or thatroutine that you've already set
in can trigger some discomfort.
So please refer back to chooseyour hard.
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But there's also a good side ofthat coin Is that the brain
really likes routine, likespattern, so we can create that
new pattern that becomes morefamiliar and becomes that new.
But I like to be aware so thatwhen things are difficult.
We're not blaming ourselves,we're not putting any judgment
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on ourselves.
We're like oh yeah, this isjust what the brain does.
Change introduces us to sometype of uncertainty that
activates the brain's threatresponse.
So that's why even the prospectof change whether it's good
change or not, right it canevoke a little resistance.
It's just our brain perceivingit as a potential threat.
It has nothing to do with ourmotivation, our discipline, our
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drive, how much we want it, whatkind of person we are, nothing
like that.
It's just how we human.
It's how the brain works.
So, knowing all of this, how dowe say OK, cool, but how do we
change something about ourselvesand change something about our
day to day activities to be morein line with what you want?
Well, I'm going to give you theformula for exactly how to
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apply this to your life.
And, of course, since ourreasoning is backed up in
neuroscience, so is the formulaas always.
First and foremost sorry ifthis sounds a bit repetitive,
but we always got to start here,guys, we have to cultivate some
kind of awareness.
This is going to help yourprefrontal cortex override
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whatever default patterns andhow it's set in its ways, so to
speak.
So how to move away from thepatterns and the habits and the
things that we want to change.
We have to cultivate someawareness.
So what does that mean?
Take your day inventory.
Take a very serious and reallook at what's going on in your
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life, what your schedule lookslike, what conscious and
unconscious thoughts you havethroughout the day, which ones
of those are serving you, whichones do you want to keep, maybe
uplift, do a little more, giveyourself a pat on the back for,
or which ones do you want to doaway with, even if you're not
sure yet how you want to get ridof them?
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Just note the ones you want toget rid of and then walk through
the steps of your day andactually feel through the steps
of your day.
And this is in thought, right,because emotions are energy in
motion.
So how does your energy feelwhen you think about your day?
What feels like flow and whatfeels like resistance or a block
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in the road?
And I really suggest trying todo this as objectively as you
can, meaning don't put anyjudgment on the things you want
to change.
Here's an example.
I just did this with a clientbefore, so think of it this way
Maybe one of the things that'sholding you back from stepping
into your next era and your nextseason and being the you that
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is more you that you want to be.
But something that's holding youback is your sleep routine.
You're staying up way too lateand that ruins your morning and
you don't know how to change it.
And da, da, da, da da.
I don't want you to be thejudge here.
I don't want you to judge thatbecause, objectively, being up
at two in the morning it's not agood or bad thing.
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There is no arbitrary value andit doesn't change the type of
person you are when you areawake versus asleep.
However, when we've moved pastthat judgment, we can recognize
that being up at 2 am doeschange how you go through your
day.
Right, it does take away thatmorning routine.
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It does make you groggy x, y, z, so we want to correct it.
But I need you to hear thisclearly you cannot step into
something new by judging orhating where you are now.
You have to do it throughdesire and through love the
desire to be this new you and tolove yourself enough to do it,
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and you want to use reallymindful and thoughtful practices
to do so.
It might take a while to feelthrough and be able to feel
through what you need to do.
And this is why things likemeditation, journaling, yoga,
tapping, whatever they're soimportant, because they give you
that chance to think.
You can brain dump, you canclear the noise, you can get
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past the normal ruminatingrolodex of thoughts right.
To create that new habit.
You're actually going to haveto rewire old neural pathways or
old ways of thinking, justingrained thought patterns, and
create a new response to thosesituations.
It requires mindfulness interms of think of it this way,
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in terms of your consciousawareness of your own brain's
behaviors and patterns at thevery moment that they occur.
That way you are able to be incontrol, to be in the driver's
seat and change those habitsinto the direction that you want
.
Then the key is to keep yourfocus there.
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Keep your focus on the thingthat you want.
I remind you guys, get clear onwhat that ideal day looks like.
Create that focus in your mindand keep visualizing it
Literally.
This is my challenge to youSchedule out a time for you to
visualize and go through themotions.
If you can have it stack onthis, great.
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If that's maybe taking a pieceof your hot girl walk or your
walk outside and visualizingthat perfect day without your
headphones in, great, awesome.
If that is setting five minutesto close your eyes down, quiet
your head, space down and sitafter a workout, great.
If you want to start taking abath and you'll do it there, I
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don't care Whatever makes moresense to you, but schedule in
that time to visualize and movethrough the feelings of this new
day.
Your brain doesn't know ifyou're just thinking about
something or you're actuallyexperiencing this.
We've gone through that right.
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Let your brain get used to thisnew reality, to this new
schedule, to seeing it, toseeing this new set of habits,
to feeling it, whatever that is.
Let yourself practice this dayin thought so that when you
actually do it in action, it isso much easier to go through the
motions and your brain isn'tfighting you with the fear of
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change or the fear of newness.
It's used to this, it's seen it, she knows right.
This is what allows you tobuild those entirely new neural
pathways through repetition andpractice of thinking and feeling
and acting.
We're not just doing the thinga thousand times, we're thinking
through it, we're feelingthrough it and then, when we go
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to do it in person.
It is so much easier.
You are thinking about the newday, the new reality, feeling
through it, would feel andacting more and more in
accordance with it, and yourbrain isn't fighting you.
It's helping you along becausethis is what it knows.
It becomes so much easier.
So, as you get going, base yourhabits on your desired identity,
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who you want to be, who thatnext season or era of you is.
Who you want to be and what youwant to create to receive this
new era.
This means making your habits abit of your life project for
the time of the change.
So if you're like me, forinstance, and you're moving from
that summer flow, the restperiod, into a growth-focused
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period, or maybe that meansyou're changing jobs, or you are
going to school and maybeyou've got a job, maybe your
kids are back in school.
Whatever the case may be, ifit's time for you to move into a
new hard, that is the formulabased on your brain.
Figure out where you are, whatyou like about it and what you
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don't like about it.
Take inventory on your triggersand your responses in the areas
that you want to change.
Then get clear on what you'dreally really like instead and
script it out.
Get comfortable with youractual desire and get
comfortable visualizing yourselfdoing exactly that.
Then, and only then, do we needto start really getting into
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that action.
Is it so much easier now?
We're not fighting against thatresistance Every single time
you do something, even thetiniest little thing, if it's a
new thought, the new baby action, something you do or don't do,
whatever it is, even if it isthe smallest grain of rice,
little baby thing that is closerto what you want and that
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aligns with that new you andyour new season, I want you to
recognize it.
I want you to congratulateyourself with a little pat on
the back.
I want you to continue makingthose changes, even if it's just
little grains of rice at a time.
Remember, we all get to pickour hard.
I'm going to leave you withthis question today what would
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you rather?
You are hard to be?
Hard because you're learningand working towards who you want
to be, or hard because you knowyou aren't living up to your
own potential or your owndesires and your intuition is
yelling at you that you deservemore or you deserve different.
I'm here to tell you if youdesire it, you deserve it.
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My loves, I cannot wait to hearwhat this new season has in
store for you, whatever thatgrowth piece is for you.
All my love to you specificallyand if you haven't done so, I
would so appreciate if thisresonated with you leave a
positive review, let me knowwhat's going on with you, what
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helped, especially now thatwe're back in action.
We're talking and we've got theconversation back open again.
When you leave a review, whenyou leave some stars, something
like that, maybe even share,what that's going to do is
invite others to join thatconversation with us too.
Put this up in the algorithm sowe get this conversation with
an even larger, growinglywonderful community.
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And to everyone who tuned inthis week, thank you so much.
I missed you.
I'm so glad to be back.
Have a wonderful week.
I'll talk to you soon and Ican't wait to hear your stories.
So make sure you write in, letme know, either on my socials or
at info at purposeful lifestyledevelopment dot com.
Talk to you soon.
But alright, my loves, that'swhere I'll leave us today.
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I want to thank you so much forjoining in on this conversation
with me, and each week, everyMonday, we're going to be
posting a new episode going alittle bit deeper into the
conversation of what you can doto train your brain on purpose
to really allow for thelifestyle that you want to live.
Until next time, my loves.
In the meantime, here's to yourhealth and your happiness.
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