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July 11, 2025 26 mins

Transformation and comfort rarely go hand in hand, especially when it comes to overcoming compulsive hoarding.

In this episode, I talk honestly about why making real change means facing discomfort, based on a quote from Healing Justice London that “transformation and comfort do not live in the same house”.

I challenge us to identify the difference between familiarity and comfort, and share practical ways to push through those tough moments - because growth comes from getting a bit uncomfortable.

If you’re tired of mistaking chaos for comfort, this one’s for you.

  • “Transformation and comfort do not live in the same house” (Healing Justice London)
  • The universal truth behind the idea
  • The necessity of discomfort for real transformation
  • Discomfort Versus Comfort in the Hoarding Context
  • Familiarity as a source of “comfort” for those who hoard
  • Risks of equating familiarity with true comfort
  • The need for change and its inherent discomfort
  • Examples of positive outcomes after embracing discomfort
  • The Reality of Discomfort in Dehoarding
  • Emotional and physical challenges of dehoarding
  • Potential for overwhelming feelings and anxiety
  • Catastrophising and perfectionism surrounding decision-making
  • Emotional toll of letting go and possible identity implications
  • Acknowledgement that discomfort does not mean failure
  • Familiarity Versus Authentic Comfort
  • Distinction between feeling comfortable and something being familiar
  • The false sense of control and security provided by clutter
  • The actual consequences of living in a hoarded home:
  • Physical hazards (tripping, blocked access, risk in emergencies)
  • Social isolation and shame
  • Lack of practical comfort (e.g., not sleeping in one’s own bed)
  • The hidden, ongoing “slow burn” of stress and discomfort
  • Motivation and Community
  • Importance of recognising the true discomfort of living with hoarding
  • Community connections via the podcast and accountability Zoom sessions
  • Methods to share resources and reduce isolation
  • Reframing Discomfort as Growth
  • Viewing discomfort as a sign of progress rather than a warning
  • The parallel discomforts of both dehoarding and continuing to hoard
  • Making conscious choices between competing difficulties
  • Strategies for Managing Discomfort
  • Taking small, manageable steps to build resilience
  • Being gentle and compassionate with oneself during the process
  • Reaching out for support (friends, family, therapist, peer groups)
  • The use and benefit of accountability sessions
  • The Broader Benefits of Transformation
  • Improved physical space and wellbeing
  • Increased self-confidence and pride
  • Better relationships and decreased shame
  • Regaining practical functionality and freedom at home
  • Enhanced overall quality of life
  • Practical Suggestions and Further Resources
  • Trying a small, uncomfortable but positive task today
  • References to previous episodes for deeper exploration:
  • Sitting with discomfort and distress tolerance (Episode 49)
  • Building resilience (Episode 70 with Dr. Jan Eppingstall)

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