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Transformation and comfort rarely go hand in hand, especially when it comes to overcoming compulsive hoarding.
In this episode, I talk honestly about why making real change means facing discomfort, based on a quote from Healing Justice London that “transformation and comfort do not live in the same house”.
I challenge us to identify the difference between familiarity and comfort, and share practical ways to push through those tough moments - because growth comes from getting a bit uncomfortable.
If you’re tired of mistaking chaos for comfort, this one’s for you.
- “Transformation and comfort do not live in the same house” (Healing Justice London)
- The universal truth behind the idea
- The necessity of discomfort for real transformation
- Discomfort Versus Comfort in the Hoarding Context
- Familiarity as a source of “comfort” for those who hoard
- Risks of equating familiarity with true comfort
- The need for change and its inherent discomfort
- Examples of positive outcomes after embracing discomfort
- The Reality of Discomfort in Dehoarding
- Emotional and physical challenges of dehoarding
- Potential for overwhelming feelings and anxiety
- Catastrophising and perfectionism surrounding decision-making
- Emotional toll of letting go and possible identity implications
- Acknowledgement that discomfort does not mean failure
- Familiarity Versus Authentic Comfort
- Distinction between feeling comfortable and something being familiar
- The false sense of control and security provided by clutter
- The actual consequences of living in a hoarded home:
- Physical hazards (tripping, blocked access, risk in emergencies)
- Social isolation and shame
- Lack of practical comfort (e.g., not sleeping in one’s own bed)
- The hidden, ongoing “slow burn” of stress and discomfort
- Motivation and Community
- Importance of recognising the true discomfort of living with hoarding
- Community connections via the podcast and accountability Zoom sessions
- Methods to share resources and reduce isolation
- Reframing Discomfort as Growth
- Viewing discomfort as a sign of progress rather than a warning
- The parallel discomforts of both dehoarding and continuing to hoard
- Making conscious choices between competing difficulties
- Strategies for Managing Discomfort
- Taking small, manageable steps to build resilience
- Being gentle and compassionate with oneself during the process
- Reaching out for support (friends, family, therapist, peer groups)
- The use and benefit of accountability sessions
- The Broader Benefits of Transformation
- Improved physical space and wellbeing
- Increased self-confidence and pride
- Better relationships and decreased shame
- Regaining practical functionality and freedom at home
- Enhanced overall quality of life
- Practical Suggestions and Further Resources
- Trying a small, uncomfortable but positive task today
- References to previous episodes for deeper exploration:
- Sitting with discomfort and distress tolerance (Episode 49)
- Building resilience (Episode 70 with Dr. Jan Eppingstall)
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