That Is Not How You Do It

How fast should you text back?

In this episode of That Is Not How You Do It, Ram and Anna explore the unspoken rules of texting — and why response time can feel so personal.

Some people reply instantly. Others take hours — or even days.

But what does that actually mean?

We discuss:

• fast texters vs slow texters

• the psychology behind response timing

• why read receipts cause anxiety

• and how texting has changed modern communication.

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Shoes in the house — normal behavior or absolute chaos?

In this episode of That’s Not How You Do It, Ram and Anna dive into one of the most surprisingly passionate household debates.

Some people believe outside shoes should never touch the floor inside a home. Others think it’s completely normal.

But this debate goes deeper than just dirt.

We explore:

• cultural norms around shoes indoors

• hygiene vs convenience

• the awkward moment when y...

Watching a show together sounds simple… until someone cheats ahead.

In this episode of That’s Not How You Do It, Ram and Anna break down the surprisingly serious rules people create around shared TV shows.

Is watching ahead betrayal?

Does falling asleep cancel your rights to the next episode?

And why do people treat shared shows like relationship contracts?

We explore:

• binge watching vs slow watching

• the psychology behind shared enter...

Few household arguments escalate faster than the thermostat.

Some people are always cold. Others are always overheating. And somehow everyone believes their preferred temperature is the correct one.

In this episode of That’s Not How You Do It, we explore the psychology and biology behind temperature preferences — and why the thermostat often becomes a quiet power struggle in shared spaces.

We talk about:

• why people experience tempe...

Everyone has the chair.

The place where clothes go when they’re not quite dirty but not quite clean. The hoodie you might wear again. The jeans that are “still good.” The pile that slowly becomes… structural.

In this episode of That’s Not How You Do It, we unpack the psychology of the chair.

Is it a system… or procrastination?

We talk about:

• decision fatigue

• stress signals in our living spaces

• and why some people need visual ...

When you say "I'm on my way"... are you actually moving?

Or are you emotionally preparing to move?

In Episode 2 of That's Not How You Do It, we break down one of the most casually dishonest phrases in modern communication.

For some people, "On My Way" means engine on, wheels turning.

For others, it means shoes are nearby and optimism is high.

We dive into:

Literal time vs. intention time.

Cultur...

Is it better to clean as you cook...or deal with the destruction after the meal?

In our very first episode of That's Not How You Do It, we enter the most dangerous room in any relationship: the kitchen. Specifically - the sink!

One of us believes in rinsing immediately, wiping as we go, and protecting Future Me from suffering.

The other believes cooking is a sacred creative act and the mes is simply part of the process.