#20 - Soft Hearts, Strong Boundaries: A breakup letter to the pressure to perform

In this solo episode, I’m unpacking something I think most of us feel but rarely admit out loud.

The weird unwritten rule book of connection in 2025.

What it means to try to build something honest with people in a time where everything feels like performance.

Dating. Friendships. Online visibility. Even running a business.

I’m talking about the pressure to keep it all curated and constant.

To look put together even when life is falling apart behind the scenes.

To always be producing. Always replying. Always being “chill” and low-maintenance and likeable.

This episode is part story, part rant, and mostly a deep exhale for anyone who’s ever felt too tender for the industry they’re in, or the world they’re trying to connect with.

You’ll hear me say the words I wish I’d heard when I was learning this the hard way.

And if you’ve ever found yourself overthinking your place in someone’s life, or shrinking to stay visible in your career, this one is for you.

We talk about grief. Business. Boundaries. And the softest parts of ourselves that still want to be seen.

Because even when things get messy, you still get to show up as yourself.

No performance required.

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