October 3, 2025 • 33 mins
Stop arguing with reality and feel your power return. This conversation dives into acceptance as a fierce, life-giving stance—not resignation, not bypassing, but the honest, grounded “yes” to what is. We unpack the difference between the clean pain of the heart and the sticky suffering created by the mind’s “shoulds,” and we show how radical acceptance lowers stress, restores clarity, and becomes the soil where real transformation takes root.
We trace acceptance from neuroscience to mysticism. You’ll hear how fight-or-flight floods the body when we resist, why the prefrontal cortex goes offline, and how Jung’s “what you resist persists” plays out in neural wiring. Then we widen the lens: acceptance as a spiritual gateway that makes space for grace and sets the conditions for forgiveness. From body image and aging to relationships and self-judgment, we explore how accepting what’s here now softens the inner war and opens the path to compassionate, sustainable change.
You’ll also step into a guided “Temple of Acceptance” meditation that is safe, steady, and practical. Use it to practice a sacred pause, breathe into the present moment, and let feelings move through rather than get stuck.
NOTE: Please don't listen to the meditation while driving - it may make you sleepy!
By the end, you’ll have a few anchor phrases, simple micro-choices to use when resistance spikes, and a lived sense of why acceptance is the ground for awakening. If this resonates, share it with someone who’s fighting a hard moment, then subscribe, leave a review, and tell us what shifted for you today.
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SPEAKER_01 (00:03):
Hello, Mystics.
You are listening to That MysticPodcast, and I am your host,
That Mystic Joya.
On this week's episode of thepodcast, we are talking about
acceptance and drop in to abeautiful meditation at the end.
Enjoy the show.
(00:31):
Welcome, beloved souls.
I am so glad you're here.
I am Reverend Dr.
Joya.
I just was awarded my doctoratein divinity.
Ah, I wrote my paper on sacredmusic.
It's so beautiful and I'm soexcited.
I worked really hard on that.
So here I am.
I did it.
And today, on this episode ofThat Mystic Podcast, I'm going
(00:55):
to be talking about somethingthat sounds so simple, but it
feels impossibly hard to do.
And yet it's the key totransformation.
I've been working through my ownprocess.
Of course, I've been walking myown process and especially
really intensely andintentionally since Weston has
(01:16):
crossed over and he's given meso many missing pieces of the
puzzle.
And acceptance for me issomething that landed right in
the beginning.
So we're going to talk aboutacceptance.
And acceptance does not meanresigning or giving up.
And it's not bypassing pain.
It's not pretending everythingis fine, saying you accept
(01:37):
something and you don't.
That's not what I'm talkingabout here.
But this is really thefoundations as I launch into the
mystic path, the book that I'mwriting, Waking Up in the Game,
Walking the Mystical Path.
And that this is the foundationbefore you can walk that path.
We're going to really divedeeply into the topic of this
(01:58):
today, because the first one, ofcourse, is awareness.
That's in my other book,Practical Spirituality, that
awareness is the key.
You can't change what you're notaware of.
So we want to cultivateawareness.
And then once we do that, wemove into acceptance.
And this is a foundation pillarbecause here's what I've learned
through losing Weston is thatthe through decades of my
(02:22):
seeking, decades and decades ofseeking and walking this path,
you cannot change what youcannot accept.
And what you fully accept startsto change on its own.
And that's the real mystery ofmastery, is that it seems like
when it comes down to it, I ofmyself really aren't doing it,
(02:44):
except for in those daily microchoices we make moment by moment
by moment.
So let's talk about whatacceptance is not.
And then we all have heard thefalse teachings of acceptance,
which is settling for less thanwe deserve, pretending we're
okay when we're not, lettingpeople treat us badly because
that's just the way they are,giving up on our dreams, and
(03:04):
spiritual bypassing, which isdisguised as false peace, which
is one of the wraths of MaryMagdalene that she talks about
the soul traps that we gothrough, which I'm going to do
another episode on that nextweek.
But real acceptance is none ofthese things because acceptance
isn't passive.
It's not weak.
In fact, I'd say it's strength,it's the most strong thing you
(03:27):
can do.
It's not about lowering yourstandards or tolerations.
We are not talking about any ofthose things when we talk about
acceptance.
Because true acceptance isfierce.
It's really the mystic warriorstance that says, I see what is,
I see reality as it is, and I'mnot arguing with it anymore.
And from this ground, the groundof what's actually true, I can
(03:52):
finally act with power.
Because we're not wasting ourenergy arguing with reality.
And when Weston died in thebeginning, I realized this right
away because I slipped into thatplace where my mind took over.
It made me have a psychosomaticreaction in my body.
(04:14):
I could, I felt a panic attackhit me.
And I felt it in my body, and Ididn't realize what was going on
in my mind until I did somepractices through breath work,
through some movement to groundmyself.
That I heard this voice that wassaying, you knew this was going
to happen.
You should have stopped this.
This should have happened.
(04:34):
That should have happened.
Why didn't he?
Why didn't you?
And all of those thoughts thatwere making me want reality to
be different than it actuallyis, were creating a hell, a
deeper suffering of my ownmaking.
And I realized immediately thatgrief, that there's two kinds:
(04:55):
there's the heart grief of theloss and the true sorrow, the
pain of missing that person.
And then there's the head griefthat kicks in with all of those
thoughts and the ruminationsthat creates a hopeless,
helpless grief around what can'tbe changed.
It's a totally different energy.
(05:16):
And so the grief was real, yes.
The devastation was real, yes.
But the deep suffering frommental torture that was coming
from fighting what had happenedwas not going to be a part of my
journey.
And the acceptance didn't mean,of course, that I was happy.
Absolutely not.
(05:36):
And it didn't mean that I don'tmiss him, that I still don't
miss him every day.
I do.
But it means that I finallystopped arguing with the one
thing that I had no power, nopower to change, which was what
had actually happened.
And in that moment ofacceptance, something shifted
and lifted inside of me.
The grief was still there, ofcourse.
(05:57):
But instead of it beingall-encompassing, and it was for
the first few weeks, it began totake on a rhythm of its own
where there was space in thegrief where I could breathe.
And so why fighting realityliterally hurts us because
here's what happens inside ofyour brain when you resist.
(06:19):
Your nervous system goes intofight or flight mode and your
body starts releasing stresshormones because your mind is
telling it to.
Your prefrontal cortex, which isthe part that helps you think
clearly and make wise decisions,completely gets shut down and
goes offline.
And you're literally burningenergy, fighting a battle that
you've already lost because thething you're fighting has
(06:42):
already happened and there'snothing you can do about it.
Carl Jung said it perfectly.
He's the one who coined thisphrase, if you've heard it
before, that what you resistpersists.
And neuroscience backs this upbecause the more you push
against a thought or a feeling,the more you resist that thought
or resist that feeling, the moreneural pathways you are built
(07:04):
building toward that thought orfeeling.
Isn't that interesting?
Which is why we create what wedon't want, by the way.
It's the same thing.
We're because we're giving allof our energy and attention to
what we don't want.
And so we create what we don'twant because we are wired to
create in the field and we arewired as creators within our own
(07:25):
inner reality.
It starts here first before itmanifests externally.
So we want to practice radicalacceptance.
A radical acceptance, theconcept, first came about
through dialectical behaviortherapy, which teaches radical
acceptance.
And the creator of thisdeveloped it after her own
profound suffering, whichactually included having to
(07:47):
spend time in psychiatricinstitutions.
And radical acceptance meansaccepting reality on reality's
terms, even when that reality isdevastating, even when it's
unfair, even when every fiber ofyour being wants it to be
different.
She teaches us that pain isinevitable, but suffering is
(08:07):
optional.
Pain is what life brings us.
There is pain with life, it'spart of life's process.
But the suffering in that doesnot have to be part of the pain.
But here's where it getsmystical.
Acceptance isn't justpsychological, it's also a
spiritual gateway.
Because when you stop fightingwhat is, you create space now
(08:30):
for grace to enter.
Because acceptance is also whathappens before forgiveness can
happen.
And this is not a talk onforgiveness.
So we'll save that one foranother day.
But when you go through theseprocesses of deep acceptance,
then you're allowing for graceto enter.
And you create the conditionsfor transformation that you
(08:51):
couldn't have forced ormanufactured.
Acceptance is the love of fate,is what it's known as.
And it's what the mystics havetaught for centuries that
everything is exactly as itneeds to be, even when we can't
see why.
And that there's a biggermystery, there's a mysterious
force at work that's beyond ourmental level of comprehension
(09:13):
and understanding.
So, how do we actually accept?
How do you accept what feelsunacceptable?
The first step is to distinguishbetween pain and suffering.
Pain is the raw sensation, it'sthe grief, it's the
disappointment, it's thephysical ache, it's the loss
itself.
(09:34):
And suffering is the story thatyou're adding on top of that.
This shouldn't be happening.
Something is wrong with me.
This is unfair.
I'm never going to be happyagain.
Why did this happen?
Why did they do this?
Why did I do that?
Can you feel the difference?
The pain is just the pain.
It's clean.
(09:54):
And suffering is us arguing withthat pain.
Second is to notice theresistance.
Before you can accept, you haveto become aware of where you're
fighting.
Is it in your body?
You're fighting your body.
I should be thinner, healthier,younger, whatever it is.
(10:14):
Resisting aging.
That's a common one I'm hearingfrom women now.
Oh my gosh.
Your feelings, I shouldn't feelthis way.
Your past, it shouldn't havebeen that way.
Other people, they should haveknown better.
Why did they do this?
Or reality itself.
This isn't fair.
You notice that in all of those,you're shoulding, would have,
(10:37):
could have.
But just notice it and don'tjudge the resistance because
that's more resistance.
And you don't want to judge yourjudgment or resist your
resistance.
You just notice it.
Notice it happening.
Notice it arising.
Notice what it's making you feellike.
And then the third thing is tocreate the sacred pause.
Because between resistance andacceptance, there is a pause.
(10:59):
There's a breath.
There's a moment where you canbreathe in and just say, okay,
what if I stopped fighting thisjust for this one breath?
And you don't have to accept itforever, just for right now,
just for this moment.
And I did this last week tomyself.
I just went through this.
And now I realize what it was,which is fascinating.
(11:21):
And I'm gonna save that also.
But my mind kicked up withmissing Weston.
I was triggered by seeing avideo on my phone of him and I
laughing.
And I just got so upset.
And I just said, I miss him somuch.
I want him back.
And that thing got locked intome.
(11:41):
I want him back.
I want him back.
And I started arguing withreality through that feeling.
And I fell into this dark, deephole of sadness that was really
difficult to come out of.
It actually took me a few daysto pull myself back up out of
the pain that I inflicted uponmyself in that experience.
(12:04):
So I finally just stopped and Isaid, What if I just allow
myself to be sad?
I am sad.
What if I could just be this sadright now without the story that
I want him back?
How about if I just miss him somuch?
And that's the sadness.
Not wanting something I can'thave.
(12:25):
And I'm so blessed that I dohave a relationship with him.
That I am cultivating how to howto develop and cultivate a
relationship, a meaningfulrelationship with your loved
ones that have passed is reallyhard work.
Because I want to I miss havinga conversation with him.
But it comes in telepathically.
I'll get an idea, and it'll justbe like, hey, momulus.
(12:47):
And I'm like, I know that's him.
I don't call myself momulus.
So once I accepted it, thatarguing stopped and I could hold
it.
And I was bigger than it wasbecause I wasn't adding
suffering to the pain anymore.
So the phrase that changeseverything is to say, this is
what's happening right now.
Not this is what should behappening or this is what I want
(13:10):
to be happening.
Just this is what's happeningright now.
And can I be with what is?
That's acceptance.
That's the ground that we'retalking about here.
And when you finally have thatpower again, not power over
reality, but power withinreality and what's been handed
(13:32):
to you.
So why does acceptance matterfor this mystical path of
awakening?
In my path of awakening that I'mcreat that I've created, the
acceptance is the secondfoundation pillar on the mystic
path because without it, none ofthe other principles can ever
take root.
Acceptance is the soil andeverything else grows from
(13:54):
there.
And the beautiful secret is thatacceptance does not mean nothing
changes.
It means you stop trying toforce change from resistance.
And instead, you allow and trustthat transformation is emerging
moment by moment by moment,which it is.
When you accept your body as itis, suddenly it becomes easier
(14:16):
to care for it.
You're not at war with yourbody.
I'm in this one right nowmyself, and it's beautiful.
I'm so grateful.
When you accept your feelings asthey are, they move through you
instead of being stuck.
And that's how they're supposedto be energy and motion.
We're not supposed to get stuckin one emotion.
And when we do, that's whenwe're wiring that to become our
(14:37):
reality.
When you accept others as theyare, you're finally free from
the exhausting work of trying tochange them.
Oh my gosh, trying to manageother people's lives.
When you accept yourself as youare, you discover that you were
always, already whole andalready enough just as you are.
And this is what mystics know.
(14:58):
You don't change by fightingyourself, you don't change by
fighting reality.
Change happens by acceptingyourself so completely that
transformation happens naturallyand organically from the inside
out.
It's change that's really softbecause you're not fixing what's
(15:18):
broken.
You're remembering that you'realready whole.
There's nothing to fix.
It goes back to the download Ireceived in Egypt three, four
years ago now.
The only thing left to heal isyour belief.
There's anything left to heal.
And when I can just accept whatis, that's when the miracle of
(15:41):
healing actually happens becauseour body, our life, is always
seeking the fullest expressionof itself if we allow it.
And we do that through acceptingwhere we are.
It's a divine feminineprinciple.
So I want to drop in to this nowthrough a beautiful meditation.
(16:02):
And I want us to practiceacceptance not as an idea but as
a lived experience.
And I want to guide you throughthis beautiful meditation.
It's just a simple spoken wordmeditation put to music.
If you're driving, feel free tolisten to it and say these words
aloud so you don't get sleepyfrom the music.
(16:22):
But if you're somewhere whereit's safe to close your eyes and
get comfortable, I invite you topause right now and go do that.
And go ahead and do that while Ihave a sip of my tea.
Alright, so find a comfortableposition.
You can sit, you can lay down,you can do a walking meditation.
(16:45):
Whatever allows your body tofeel the most held.
And we're going to enter into,I'm calling these temples, each
one that we go into.
We're going to go into thetemple of acceptance.
And this is a sacred spaceinside of you that's always been
there, that will always bethere.
(17:05):
A space where everything iswelcome, where nothing needs to
be fixed or changed or approved.
A space where you can finallyrest.
So I invite you to close youreyes and let's go there now.
SPEAKER_00 (17:41):
Take a breath.
SPEAKER_02 (18:17):
Relax into her arms, and this is where we begin.
SPEAKER_00 (18:24):
No effort, no striving, just to be.
(23:08):
Each moment has already beenwoven into the fabric of your
becoming.
You are not behind.
You are not late.
(23:30):
You are not broken.
You are unfolding as slowly andas surely as rose.
SPEAKER_02 (23:59):
The ones who disappointed you.
SPEAKER_00 (26:07):
Can you allow even this?
The self you judge is alreadyheld in mercy.
The self you resist is alreadywrapped in grace.
(26:31):
Beloved, the only thing left toheal is the belief there is
anything left to heal.
Acceptance is the atmosphere ofGod.
(26:54):
It is the soil of peace whereforgiveness blooms.
SPEAKER_01 (27:03):
It is the quiet honey that descends into the
heart when you stop asking, whyme?
SPEAKER_00 (27:14):
And you whisper instead, here I am.
So breathe now.
Breathe acceptance into theroots of your being.
(27:36):
Let it rise up through yourbody, through your feet, your
legs, your belly, your heart,your throat, and into your mind.
SPEAKER_02 (27:57):
Feel a river of welcome flowing through every
cell.
Say silently to yourself, Iaccept this body.
(28:18):
I accept this breath.
I accept this feeling.
I accept this moment.
I accept this life.
SPEAKER_00 (28:56):
No one to become just this the holy ground of
now.
And in this temple ofacceptance, everything you
(29:18):
thought you had to fix isalready forgiven.
Everything you thought you hadto earn is already given.
Stay here.
(29:42):
Rest here.
SPEAKER_02 (29:48):
Bask in the vast embrace of the one who accepts
you completely without conditionand without end.
(30:09):
Acceptance is not the end ofyour journey.
SPEAKER_00 (30:15):
It is the ground on which you see that your journey
has been holy all along.
SPEAKER_01 (30:49):
Take your time coming back.
There's no rush.
And know that this temple ofacceptance is always here.
You can return anytime you needto remember that you are already
held, already whole, and alreadyenough.
Acceptance is not something youachieve once and master forever.
(31:11):
It's definitely a practice,definitely a constant returning,
and a gentle remembering thathappens again and again.
And some days are easier thanothers.
Some days you're going to fightwith reality like your life
depends on it.
And that's okay too.
Even that can be accepted.
(31:33):
And this is the mystics path.
This is how we wake up, not bytranscending our humanity, but
by accepting it and acceptingourselves so completely that we
remember the divinity that'sthere underneath it all.
(32:11):
Very excited for this.
You can go to thatmystic.com andget on the mailing list so you
can be the first to be notifiedwhen it launches.
So until next time, beloved, mayyou rest in acceptance.
May you know yourself as alreadywhole.
(32:34):
And may you remember that youare never anything but light.
From one mystic to another.
See you next week.
(32:54):
Bye.
Thank you for listening to thatmystic.
As always, your likes, reviews,and subscribes are deeply
appreciated.
SPEAKER_00 (33:06):
Wishing you a very blessed and beautiful day.
Hello, Mystics.
You are listening to That MysticPodcast, and I am your host,
That Mystic Joya.
On this week's episode of thepodcast, we are talking about
acceptance and drop in to abeautiful meditation at the end.
Enjoy the show.
(00:31):
Welcome, beloved souls.
I am so glad you're here.
I am Reverend Dr.
Joya.
I just was awarded my doctoratein divinity.
Ah, I wrote my paper on sacredmusic.
It's so beautiful and I'm soexcited.
I worked really hard on that.
So here I am.
I did it.
And today, on this episode ofThat Mystic Podcast, I'm going
(00:55):
to be talking about somethingthat sounds so simple, but it
feels impossibly hard to do.
And yet it's the key totransformation.
I've been working through my ownprocess.
Of course, I've been walking myown process and especially
really intensely andintentionally since Weston has
(01:16):
crossed over and he's given meso many missing pieces of the
puzzle.
And acceptance for me issomething that landed right in
the beginning.
So we're going to talk aboutacceptance.
And acceptance does not meanresigning or giving up.
And it's not bypassing pain.
It's not pretending everythingis fine, saying you accept
(01:37):
something and you don't.
That's not what I'm talkingabout here.
But this is really thefoundations as I launch into the
mystic path, the book that I'mwriting, Waking Up in the Game,
Walking the Mystical Path.
And that this is the foundationbefore you can walk that path.
We're going to really divedeeply into the topic of this
(01:58):
today, because the first one, ofcourse, is awareness.
That's in my other book,Practical Spirituality, that
awareness is the key.
You can't change what you're notaware of.
So we want to cultivateawareness.
And then once we do that, wemove into acceptance.
And this is a foundation pillarbecause here's what I've learned
through losing Weston is thatthe through decades of my
(02:22):
seeking, decades and decades ofseeking and walking this path,
you cannot change what youcannot accept.
And what you fully accept startsto change on its own.
And that's the real mystery ofmastery, is that it seems like
when it comes down to it, I ofmyself really aren't doing it,
(02:44):
except for in those daily microchoices we make moment by moment
by moment.
So let's talk about whatacceptance is not.
And then we all have heard thefalse teachings of acceptance,
which is settling for less thanwe deserve, pretending we're
okay when we're not, lettingpeople treat us badly because
that's just the way they are,giving up on our dreams, and
(03:04):
spiritual bypassing, which isdisguised as false peace, which
is one of the wraths of MaryMagdalene that she talks about
the soul traps that we gothrough, which I'm going to do
another episode on that nextweek.
But real acceptance is none ofthese things because acceptance
isn't passive.
It's not weak.
In fact, I'd say it's strength,it's the most strong thing you
(03:27):
can do.
It's not about lowering yourstandards or tolerations.
We are not talking about any ofthose things when we talk about
acceptance.
Because true acceptance isfierce.
It's really the mystic warriorstance that says, I see what is,
I see reality as it is, and I'mnot arguing with it anymore.
And from this ground, the groundof what's actually true, I can
(03:52):
finally act with power.
Because we're not wasting ourenergy arguing with reality.
And when Weston died in thebeginning, I realized this right
away because I slipped into thatplace where my mind took over.
It made me have a psychosomaticreaction in my body.
(04:14):
I could, I felt a panic attackhit me.
And I felt it in my body, and Ididn't realize what was going on
in my mind until I did somepractices through breath work,
through some movement to groundmyself.
That I heard this voice that wassaying, you knew this was going
to happen.
You should have stopped this.
This should have happened.
(04:34):
That should have happened.
Why didn't he?
Why didn't you?
And all of those thoughts thatwere making me want reality to
be different than it actuallyis, were creating a hell, a
deeper suffering of my ownmaking.
And I realized immediately thatgrief, that there's two kinds:
(04:55):
there's the heart grief of theloss and the true sorrow, the
pain of missing that person.
And then there's the head griefthat kicks in with all of those
thoughts and the ruminationsthat creates a hopeless,
helpless grief around what can'tbe changed.
It's a totally different energy.
(05:16):
And so the grief was real, yes.
The devastation was real, yes.
But the deep suffering frommental torture that was coming
from fighting what had happenedwas not going to be a part of my
journey.
And the acceptance didn't mean,of course, that I was happy.
Absolutely not.
(05:36):
And it didn't mean that I don'tmiss him, that I still don't
miss him every day.
I do.
But it means that I finallystopped arguing with the one
thing that I had no power, nopower to change, which was what
had actually happened.
And in that moment ofacceptance, something shifted
and lifted inside of me.
The grief was still there, ofcourse.
(05:57):
But instead of it beingall-encompassing, and it was for
the first few weeks, it began totake on a rhythm of its own
where there was space in thegrief where I could breathe.
And so why fighting realityliterally hurts us because
here's what happens inside ofyour brain when you resist.
(06:19):
Your nervous system goes intofight or flight mode and your
body starts releasing stresshormones because your mind is
telling it to.
Your prefrontal cortex, which isthe part that helps you think
clearly and make wise decisions,completely gets shut down and
goes offline.
And you're literally burningenergy, fighting a battle that
you've already lost because thething you're fighting has
(06:42):
already happened and there'snothing you can do about it.
Carl Jung said it perfectly.
He's the one who coined thisphrase, if you've heard it
before, that what you resistpersists.
And neuroscience backs this upbecause the more you push
against a thought or a feeling,the more you resist that thought
or resist that feeling, the moreneural pathways you are built
(07:04):
building toward that thought orfeeling.
Isn't that interesting?
Which is why we create what wedon't want, by the way.
It's the same thing.
We're because we're giving allof our energy and attention to
what we don't want.
And so we create what we don'twant because we are wired to
create in the field and we arewired as creators within our own
(07:25):
inner reality.
It starts here first before itmanifests externally.
So we want to practice radicalacceptance.
A radical acceptance, theconcept, first came about
through dialectical behaviortherapy, which teaches radical
acceptance.
And the creator of thisdeveloped it after her own
profound suffering, whichactually included having to
(07:47):
spend time in psychiatricinstitutions.
And radical acceptance meansaccepting reality on reality's
terms, even when that reality isdevastating, even when it's
unfair, even when every fiber ofyour being wants it to be
different.
She teaches us that pain isinevitable, but suffering is
(08:07):
optional.
Pain is what life brings us.
There is pain with life, it'spart of life's process.
But the suffering in that doesnot have to be part of the pain.
But here's where it getsmystical.
Acceptance isn't justpsychological, it's also a
spiritual gateway.
Because when you stop fightingwhat is, you create space now
(08:30):
for grace to enter.
Because acceptance is also whathappens before forgiveness can
happen.
And this is not a talk onforgiveness.
So we'll save that one foranother day.
But when you go through theseprocesses of deep acceptance,
then you're allowing for graceto enter.
And you create the conditionsfor transformation that you
(08:51):
couldn't have forced ormanufactured.
Acceptance is the love of fate,is what it's known as.
And it's what the mystics havetaught for centuries that
everything is exactly as itneeds to be, even when we can't
see why.
And that there's a biggermystery, there's a mysterious
force at work that's beyond ourmental level of comprehension
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and understanding.
So, how do we actually accept?
How do you accept what feelsunacceptable?
The first step is to distinguishbetween pain and suffering.
Pain is the raw sensation, it'sthe grief, it's the
disappointment, it's thephysical ache, it's the loss
itself.
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And suffering is the story thatyou're adding on top of that.
This shouldn't be happening.
Something is wrong with me.
This is unfair.
I'm never going to be happyagain.
Why did this happen?
Why did they do this?
Why did I do that?
Can you feel the difference?
The pain is just the pain.
It's clean.
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And suffering is us arguing withthat pain.
Second is to notice theresistance.
Before you can accept, you haveto become aware of where you're
fighting.
Is it in your body?
You're fighting your body.
I should be thinner, healthier,younger, whatever it is.
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Resisting aging.
That's a common one I'm hearingfrom women now.
Oh my gosh.
Your feelings, I shouldn't feelthis way.
Your past, it shouldn't havebeen that way.
Other people, they should haveknown better.
Why did they do this?
Or reality itself.
This isn't fair.
You notice that in all of those,you're shoulding, would have,
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could have.
But just notice it and don'tjudge the resistance because
that's more resistance.
And you don't want to judge yourjudgment or resist your
resistance.
You just notice it.
Notice it happening.
Notice it arising.
Notice what it's making you feellike.
And then the third thing is tocreate the sacred pause.
Because between resistance andacceptance, there is a pause.
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There's a breath.
There's a moment where you canbreathe in and just say, okay,
what if I stopped fighting thisjust for this one breath?
And you don't have to accept itforever, just for right now,
just for this moment.
And I did this last week tomyself.
I just went through this.
And now I realize what it was,which is fascinating.
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And I'm gonna save that also.
But my mind kicked up withmissing Weston.
I was triggered by seeing avideo on my phone of him and I
laughing.
And I just got so upset.
And I just said, I miss him somuch.
I want him back.
And that thing got locked intome.
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I want him back.
I want him back.
And I started arguing withreality through that feeling.
And I fell into this dark, deephole of sadness that was really
difficult to come out of.
It actually took me a few daysto pull myself back up out of
the pain that I inflicted uponmyself in that experience.
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So I finally just stopped and Isaid, What if I just allow
myself to be sad?
I am sad.
What if I could just be this sadright now without the story that
I want him back?
How about if I just miss him somuch?
And that's the sadness.
Not wanting something I can'thave.
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And I'm so blessed that I dohave a relationship with him.
That I am cultivating how to howto develop and cultivate a
relationship, a meaningfulrelationship with your loved
ones that have passed is reallyhard work.
Because I want to I miss havinga conversation with him.
But it comes in telepathically.
I'll get an idea, and it'll justbe like, hey, momulus.
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And I'm like, I know that's him.
I don't call myself momulus.
So once I accepted it, thatarguing stopped and I could hold
it.
And I was bigger than it wasbecause I wasn't adding
suffering to the pain anymore.
So the phrase that changeseverything is to say, this is
what's happening right now.
Not this is what should behappening or this is what I want
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to be happening.
Just this is what's happeningright now.
And can I be with what is?
That's acceptance.
That's the ground that we'retalking about here.
And when you finally have thatpower again, not power over
reality, but power withinreality and what's been handed
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to you.
So why does acceptance matterfor this mystical path of
awakening?
In my path of awakening that I'mcreat that I've created, the
acceptance is the secondfoundation pillar on the mystic
path because without it, none ofthe other principles can ever
take root.
Acceptance is the soil andeverything else grows from
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there.
And the beautiful secret is thatacceptance does not mean nothing
changes.
It means you stop trying toforce change from resistance.
And instead, you allow and trustthat transformation is emerging
moment by moment by moment,which it is.
When you accept your body as itis, suddenly it becomes easier
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to care for it.
You're not at war with yourbody.
I'm in this one right nowmyself, and it's beautiful.
I'm so grateful.
When you accept your feelings asthey are, they move through you
instead of being stuck.
And that's how they're supposedto be energy and motion.
We're not supposed to get stuckin one emotion.
And when we do, that's whenwe're wiring that to become our
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reality.
When you accept others as theyare, you're finally free from
the exhausting work of trying tochange them.
Oh my gosh, trying to manageother people's lives.
When you accept yourself as youare, you discover that you were
always, already whole andalready enough just as you are.
And this is what mystics know.
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You don't change by fightingyourself, you don't change by
fighting reality.
Change happens by acceptingyourself so completely that
transformation happens naturallyand organically from the inside
out.
It's change that's really softbecause you're not fixing what's
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broken.
You're remembering that you'realready whole.
There's nothing to fix.
It goes back to the download Ireceived in Egypt three, four
years ago now.
The only thing left to heal isyour belief.
There's anything left to heal.
And when I can just accept whatis, that's when the miracle of
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healing actually happens becauseour body, our life, is always
seeking the fullest expressionof itself if we allow it.
And we do that through acceptingwhere we are.
It's a divine feminineprinciple.
So I want to drop in to this nowthrough a beautiful meditation.
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And I want us to practiceacceptance not as an idea but as
a lived experience.
And I want to guide you throughthis beautiful meditation.
It's just a simple spoken wordmeditation put to music.
If you're driving, feel free tolisten to it and say these words
aloud so you don't get sleepyfrom the music.
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But if you're somewhere whereit's safe to close your eyes and
get comfortable, I invite you topause right now and go do that.
And go ahead and do that while Ihave a sip of my tea.
Alright, so find a comfortableposition.
You can sit, you can lay down,you can do a walking meditation.
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Whatever allows your body tofeel the most held.
And we're going to enter into,I'm calling these temples, each
one that we go into.
We're going to go into thetemple of acceptance.
And this is a sacred spaceinside of you that's always been
there, that will always bethere.
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A space where everything iswelcome, where nothing needs to
be fixed or changed or approved.
A space where you can finallyrest.
So I invite you to close youreyes and let's go there now.
SPEAKER_00 (17:41):
Take a breath.
SPEAKER_02 (18:17):
Relax into her arms, and this is where we begin.
SPEAKER_00 (18:24):
No effort, no striving, just to be.
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Each moment has already beenwoven into the fabric of your
becoming.
You are not behind.
You are not late.
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You are not broken.
You are unfolding as slowly andas surely as rose.
SPEAKER_02 (23:59):
The ones who disappointed you.
SPEAKER_00 (26:07):
Can you allow even this?
The self you judge is alreadyheld in mercy.
The self you resist is alreadywrapped in grace.
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Beloved, the only thing left toheal is the belief there is
anything left to heal.
Acceptance is the atmosphere ofGod.
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It is the soil of peace whereforgiveness blooms.
SPEAKER_01 (27:03):
It is the quiet honey that descends into the
heart when you stop asking, whyme?
SPEAKER_00 (27:14):
And you whisper instead, here I am.
So breathe now.
Breathe acceptance into theroots of your being.
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Let it rise up through yourbody, through your feet, your
legs, your belly, your heart,your throat, and into your mind.
SPEAKER_02 (27:57):
Feel a river of welcome flowing through every
cell.
Say silently to yourself, Iaccept this body.
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I accept this breath.
I accept this feeling.
I accept this moment.
I accept this life.
SPEAKER_00 (28:56):
No one to become just this the holy ground of
now.
And in this temple ofacceptance, everything you
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thought you had to fix isalready forgiven.
Everything you thought you hadto earn is already given.
Stay here.
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Rest here.
SPEAKER_02 (29:48):
Bask in the vast embrace of the one who accepts
you completely without conditionand without end.
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Acceptance is not the end ofyour journey.
SPEAKER_00 (30:15):
It is the ground on which you see that your journey
has been holy all along.
SPEAKER_01 (30:49):
Take your time coming back.
There's no rush.
And know that this temple ofacceptance is always here.
You can return anytime you needto remember that you are already
held, already whole, and alreadyenough.
Acceptance is not something youachieve once and master forever.
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It's definitely a practice,definitely a constant returning,
and a gentle remembering thathappens again and again.
And some days are easier thanothers.
Some days you're going to fightwith reality like your life
depends on it.
And that's okay too.
Even that can be accepted.
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And this is the mystics path.
This is how we wake up, not bytranscending our humanity, but
by accepting it and acceptingourselves so completely that we
remember the divinity that'sthere underneath it all.
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Very excited for this.
You can go to thatmystic.com andget on the mailing list so you
can be the first to be notifiedwhen it launches.
So until next time, beloved, mayyou rest in acceptance.
May you know yourself as alreadywhole.
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And may you remember that youare never anything but light.
From one mystic to another.
See you next week.
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Bye.
Thank you for listening to thatmystic.
As always, your likes, reviews,and subscribes are deeply
appreciated.
SPEAKER_00 (33:06):
Wishing you a very blessed and beautiful day.
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