December 6, 2023 • 35 mins
Ever wondered about shaping your individuality and nurturing determination?
Tune in for an enlightening chat with Sherman Perryman, a successful entrepreneur, podcaster, and author. Sherman delves into his "Militant Grind" brand philosophy, highlighting the significance of integrity in brand-building.
We'll also explore the challenges and joys of parenting, focusing on how to raise empathetic and understanding children. Sherman's journey, including his struggles with mental health, offers vital insights on maintaining mental wellness for success.
Discover the core pillars of Sherman's approach – love, honor, strength, discipline, and wisdom – guiding principles for overcoming life's obstacles and achieving success.
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Dai Manuel (00:02):
Hey there, champions of Change, welcome back to your
favorite slice of inspiration2% Solution Podcast.
I'm your host, diamond.
Well, here, just sprinkle a bitof laughter on your path to
transformation.
Today we're turning the dial upto 11 because we've got a guest
who's as rare as a snowman inthe Sahara, the one, the only,
(00:22):
sherman Perryman.
Now get this.
Sherman once said about himselfI'm so unique even my DNA is
shaking its head in disbelief.
Now, that's not confidence withthe capital C, I don't know
what is.
And, folks, he's got the lifestory to match that bold claim.
In this episode, sherman'sgoing to reveal a game-changing
(00:43):
moment in his life, a 2% shiftthat redefined everything.
It all began when he steppedinto the world of fatherhood,
suddenly, making a difference,went from a bumper sticker slope
to his personal creed for hiskids, for all of us, for our
future and for a little fun,fact Sherman's life soundtrack
(01:04):
don't stop believin'.
All right, I'm not journeyed byany stretch of the means, but I
love seeing that that was hissoundtrack.
Funny little side note, it'sKristi and I's song too, so I
love seeing that come in.
And if that doesn't scream epicjourney, I mean I really don't
know what to us.
He's also going to dive into hisbook From Grit to Greatness.
(01:25):
This isn't just your averagesuccess story.
It's a journey through themilitant grind and it's as
gripping as it sounds.
This might be just the pep talkyour bookshelf is craving.
Oh, and did I mention?
Sherman is also a fellowpodcast maestro.
That's right.
He's a wizard on both sides ofthe mic, and when it comes to
(01:47):
the age old coffee or tea debate, sherman's mantra is coffee
morning, noon and night.
I think that's why him and Ihit it off so well.
He's a 24 seven kind of guy, atrue testament to live in the
grind.
And what's the one book thatrevolutionized his world?
Outwitting the devil byNapoleon Hill.
And if he could have a heart toheart with anyone, malcolm X,
(02:11):
imagine being a fly on the wallfor that chat, from peddling
cookies to being the shinybeacon of the entrepreneurial
spirit in LA.
Sherman Perryman isn't just astory of success.
He's a whirlwind, a lifestyle,a living, breathing dose of.
You can do it too.
He's not in it just to leave afootprint.
(02:31):
He's here to forge a path forothers to follow.
So strap in, my friends.
This episode isn't just anotherpodcast, it's an adventure.
Sherman Perryman is here togive us a turbo boost of
motivation, stir the pot ofpossibility and remind us all of
the unstoppable force withineach of us.
Let's jump into thisexhilarating ride.
(02:51):
All right, the 2% solutionpodcast with Sherman Perryman is
kicking off right now.
Let the fun and inspirationbegin.
Welcome to the 2% solution,sherman.
(03:12):
It's great to see you, brother.
It's been a little while sinceI was on your podcast and I'm so
honored to have you back here.
Hello, how you doing?
Sherman Perryman (03:22):
Great, great.
How are you?
Dai Manuel (03:24):
I'm doing much better.
Now that I'm looking at you,I'm like I just remember our
first conversation and howamazing it was.
But it was me answering yourquestion, so it's nice to have
the tables turned, as they say.
Today.
I get to ask you some coolquestions and in the intro I
gave people the background, yourbio and some of the highlights
(03:45):
what in your application.
Because, hey, everybodylistening there's always us
podcasters.
We always like to.
Well, we're kind of lazy, andso, rather than going and trying
to figure out everybody's links, people fill out applications
and tell us some of the thingsthat we want to know before the
show, and so I ask a veryspecific question, and it's a
question around uniqueness, inparticular, one of a kind.
(04:08):
And so, sherman, I'm going toturn the mic over to you because
you said there's no one on thisplanet quite like you, and I
would agree, but I want you toshare a bit more about what
makes Sherman Perryman truly oneof a kind.
Sherman Perryman (04:21):
Well, there's layers to that because
scientifically that's true.
But then me, I grew up with twoyounger brothers in the
household, right?
So we're all a year apart Likeone.
I was born one year, secondyear, third year, and then I
started to see that even thoughwe grew up with the same
principles, same exact parentsof same schools, everything like
(04:42):
that, we're all different inour all unique way.
No, and I will hear otherfamily members say, well, you're
just like your dad and you'rejust like this, so you're just
like that.
But in reality we're not.
Because, say, I'll give thisexample, right, say, if I'm
talking to a girl and I'm inlove with her and she breaks my
heart, that is a traumatic eventin my life that no one else has
(05:04):
experienced or even hear about.
That's going to shape mytrajectory on how I think and
how I feel about myself.
And we all have these personaltraumas, these personal issues
that we go through that shape usand personal experiences.
Even though we have the samegenetics, we have the same like
(05:24):
principles, things like that, weare all different in our all
unique way because we thinkdifferent, we go through
different things, we eatdifferent foods, etc.
Dai Manuel (05:34):
Well, I love that and, for everybody that's
listening right now, you gottago check out everything Sherwin
does, especially his Instagramaccount, because I think there's
a lot of inspiration throwndown.
But, more importantly, yourpodcast, and I'm not going to
get into it too much because I'mgoing to let the show notes do
the talking.
I want people to go and checkout some of those episodes.
But I know that we've talkedabout this idea of a 2% pivot
(05:59):
right, or this moment in ourlives where things could have
gone one of two directions, butfor some reason we chose very
specifically and intentionallyto go one of the two directions
and sort of refer to this asthis 2% moment in life right.
And you mentioned that becominga father completely reshaped
(06:20):
your perspective, not only onthe world, but your role in the
world, also just your desire andintention to make the world a
better place, but not really foryou, more intentionally for
your kids and their kids to come.
And do you mind elaborating onthat and just sharing, because I
think it's just wonderful?
I really do.
Sherman Perryman (06:40):
Yeah, because, well, I would say, growing up
as a young man, you're kind ofselfish, you don't care, like oh
, somebody around the cornerjust got beat up or this robbery
, hey, it has nothing to do withme, whatever.
But then you think about whenyour child is out there in the
world and the possibility ofsomething happening to them and
how you would feel.
It's kind of like it wouldn'tbe a good feeling if your
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daughter was the one to go to aparty and have some drinks to
get taken advantage of, orgrowth or anything like that.
Like you would be pretty upset,but then it's also likely for
it to happen.
Period, we have no idea.
So, with that being said, I waslike I have to start being more
conscious of my environment andspreading the word about things
(07:27):
that I believe are right,because we have to be a little
bit more outspoken in order tomake a change, because, even
though you may think that itwill fall on deaf ears, one day
it might spark.
Like a lot of people tell me Ididn't understand what you were
saying.
At first I was angry at you.
They couldn't really processsome of the things that I've
(07:50):
told them.
And then, a year or two laterlike wow, now I understand it.
So here in that, I just becamea guy like no matter what I'm, a
stand on righteousness, what Ibelieve is right and period, no
matter how anybody feels.
They may not get it now, butthey'll get it later.
And, with that being said, it'skind of like a trickle effect
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on changing the world andchanging your environment,
because one person changed.
You could talk to one person,that person talked to somebody
else, the next person, just goeson and on and on.
You may be unintentionallyaware of the changes that you
brought in the world, eventhough you have, just by talking
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to one person or sparking onemind.
Dai Manuel (08:37):
I was going to say.
You know that.
I just love that you reallyfocus on that.
So there's a two-wayperspective, right, we have the
external view and then we havethe internal view.
But it's amazing how thatinternal view adds filters to
the external view.
Right, the way that we look atthings internally, especially
(08:58):
from our own emotional state,psychological state, all those
experiences that haveaccumulated to this moment,
right, but the way we look atthe world is often heavily
influenced by that.
And as a father, because I thinkthis is really practical, what
is it that you do?
How do you broach some of theseconversation pieces with
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younger people, like maybe noteven your children, but your
friends' children?
Because I find that this is aconversation that sometimes is
really challenging to have withkids, especially as they get
more into the teen years,because they already think they
know it all.
Right, and I'm curious couldyou offer some tips on how to
start navigating these biggerconversations?
Right?
And really, when we starttalking about the worldview and
(09:41):
work with our kids to mentorthem and nurture them, to have a
very kind view, but also a viewthat they can make a difference
, right, because then, afterthis, I want to get into the
book because people got to hearabout what your book that just
came out, as well as understandthe militant grind philosophy,
which I think is a game changer.
Before we get to that, justgive us a few tips on how to
(10:03):
best have these conversationswith our kids.
Sherman Perryman (10:06):
I'm just to be brutally honest with them,
maybe vulnerable with them.
Now, those are some of the twomain things With my oldest
daughter.
She's 10.
I'll talk to her like she's anadult because I know she has a
consciousness to understand howthings operate and I give her
grace.
I'm vulnerable with her, butalso tell her that, hey, there
(10:27):
are certain lives that you can'tcross with me just because I am
your father.
We're not like best friends andgo back and forth and talk a
mess about each other.
But I am honest with her on howthe world operates.
But I also give her stories andexamples based off of what I
had to deal with growing up,which in turn becomes my
(10:47):
vulnerability.
Like, hey, I know how you feel,I've been through this and when
they could talk to somebodythat they could relate to,
that've been through some of thethings that they're going
through, it's a better form ofunderstanding Instead of me just
ruling with an iron fist andsaying, no, it's this, because I
said it, I let her know, Ibreak it down, and when I break
(11:08):
it down to where she canunderstand it or for when any of
my kids can understand it, it'sway better.
I don't have to discipline her.
I don't have to whoop her.
She is the greatest kid.
If I say, do something, she'lldo it.
But why?
It's because I was nurturingher mind into being an
understanding, loving and kindperson, but also letting her
(11:31):
know and letting and also givingher a form of understanding of
being conscious of how you treatpeople, because you want to
treat people how you like to betreating.
How would you feel if daddysaid this to you?
How would you feel if someonesaid this to you?
That doesn't feel good, right?
Oh well, you shouldn't do it toother people, you know.
So I, I break it down, and so Ilike getting her mind to really
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be conscious of what she'sdoing and, with that being said
in turn, it's like okay, I haveto be more aware.
It's not always about me, it'sabout all of us.
We all have to survive in thisworld.
Oh, so, just be aware of thatand go for it.
Dai Manuel (12:12):
Sherman, I really appreciate that what you're
really teaching and or askingthem to get in tune with is
recognize that, that empatheticside or nature in us, right,
like that ability to seeourselves walking in someone
else's shoe, you know, and notjust see ourselves visualize it,
but actually feel what it mustbe like.
Cause I know that, for mydaughters especially, I can
(12:34):
really resonate with what youjust shared and I know that that
was something that was reallyinstrumental with her own, my
daughters, was that not just thevulnerability but more
importantly for us, I found, wasjust this idea of really trying
to help them better explaintheir emotions.
Do you know what I mean?
Cause I find emotions,especially as we're younger, and
(12:55):
I mean I struggle now and I'm47 years old, I still struggle
communicating when I'm feeling,oh.
So I know that with kids atthat age it's also a big
challenge because they might nothave their vernacular yet right
, like the vocabulary todescribe.
And I guess in those situationslike how do you navigate that?
Oh, like, how do you create Iguess maybe this is better, this
(13:17):
is more practical Is, how doyou create space for sometimes
these conversations to be had,cause they're not always easy
conversations, right Like thesecan be really tricky at times,
especially if it's involvingthis idea of disciplinary, being
disciplinary with our children.
You know like we're we're veryplayback parents, my wife and I,
and I know that our disciplinemight be different, but we would
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be very stern to hold themaccountable, especially when
they were doing things thatweren't the best way they could
have done them.
It is encouraging feedback andI'm just wondering do you have
any words of advice on this orthoughts?
Sherman Perryman (13:52):
Well, one thing that I know that is
effective is, when you talk tochildren, you get on their level
.
So you may have to stoop downand look to them eye to eye,
which in turn like when I, whenI first started doing that, it
was like okay, no, I'm serious,I'm getting down to you, your
level but then also notice thatwithin that, I have to bring
(14:14):
myself down to their levelfrequently to get a level of
understanding, because I knowthat they're not adults, so I
can't expect for them tounderstand like an adult at all.
Well, I have to be like okay,this is a child, Put yourself in
the place of a child, becausewe were children before, and
(14:34):
then be a little bit empathetictowards their limited
understanding.
So that's the way.
That's the way I do it.
It's like come on, man, youwere 10 before you know how this
works.
You know like you were.
Dai Manuel (14:46):
You were a 10 before .
I can't remember that far backdude.
Sherman Perryman (14:50):
Well, yeah, it's like my eldest.
She reminds me so much ofmyself and how I think, and so
it's like she thinks just likeme.
It's kind of scary.
So I have to like step backsometimes and be like you know
what.
You were like this too, so youknow how to navigate Like this
person is a part of you, so it's, it's a little, let's take some
(15:11):
work.
But then I noticed, growing up,my father would expect for me
to be on his level, which was adisservice Cause.
It's like, man, you're 30 yearsolder than me, but now it's
like, no, you have to get on thekids level, but just a little.
No, bring your wisdom to theirlevel so they could get it.
Dai Manuel (15:28):
I think that's such a simple well simple, but also
highly effective.
I can imagine that, like just,I do remember at times and it's
interesting because it wasn'treally in the disciplinary
action but I remember doing thatmore in a consoling way, like
when it was something reallysensitive or serious, or if they
were triggered at school oversome sort of action that another
(15:50):
student did or another kid intheir class, like I remember we
would get down to make them feelsafe, and so I can see how this
can also help on the other side.
Sherman Perryman (15:58):
So it's the same philosophy, but then it's
just like enhanced yes, yeah,yeah, yeah, yeah.
Dai Manuel (16:03):
Well, you know what I want to talk about your book,
okay, cause I know it just cameout, so congratulations, it's
not a small feat.
And for those that are listening, you remember, during the intro
I mentioned the title, which Ilove, by the way, from grit to
greatness.
I mean what, dude?
That's a great title.
That's a great title, thank you.
And so give us a glimpse intothe basic, core message of this
(16:24):
book.
But also, how does it alignwith your platform, in
particular the militant grind,and the philosophy of that
platform?
So maybe I don't know which wayyou want to tackle this.
Do you want to talk aboutmilitant grind first, then talk
about the book?
Sherman Perryman (16:35):
No, no, no, it may give you the stage man, you
just take it away.
Not all plays into a park, causeI actually somewhat suggested
me to write a book about, likethe five pillars.
So the five pillars are love,strength no love, honor,
strength, discipline and wisdomright.
So just to break down likesimple vernacular is on like
okay, this is what I abide bywhen it comes to my life and the
(16:58):
militant grind philosophy.
So I break down those fivepillars and I give stories, I
get personal stories, I getbiblical stories, those stories
about celebrities et cetera,just to get people a level of
understanding on how to applythose five pillars.
But also say that you know,just, these are just, this is
just something that I abide by.
(17:19):
You can just take it and dowhatever you want with it.
But this is just kind of like abase.
So it's not like the end all beall, but I do feel like love,
honor, strength, discipline andwisdom is our core to me.
And yeah, man, I just, Ibasically just take those five,
break it down, um, and then I,at the end of the book, I have a
(17:41):
conclusion on how I likeintertwine all five of those
pillars and, yeah, it's prettysimple.
Dai Manuel (17:49):
So it's pretty simple.
Sherman Perryman (17:49):
A lot of goals , yeah.
Dai Manuel (17:51):
Well, simple doesn't mean easy, though.
Yeah.
What I mean by that is it doestake action right, like people
have to.
Yeah, they can do, wanting tofollow a roadmap, like and I
appreciate that you're giving aframework that is very much your
framework, that you've used toget from point A to point B to
point C and navigate life, andjust the fact that you're giving
(18:12):
an example of a framework butalso giving the flexibility that
, yeah, there might be somevalues that are interchangeable,
meaning that I might have adifferent value, that I want to
replace one of your five pillarswith right and but that's the
subjectivity to it, and that'sthe I think the point is is that
this idea of grit to greatness,it takes commitment right.
Sherman Perryman (18:33):
Yeah.
Dai Manuel (18:34):
I mean, if we want things to change, we got to want
things to change and we got todo something about it.
But I got to ask you though butwhy this book?
Like, why were you drawn towrite this book?
Sherman Perryman (18:46):
Well, it was a suggestion, but then I do feel
like there are principles, that,because a lot of people will
ask me like, hey, I want to pickyour brain, or hey, I want your
advice on something, right.
But I was just like, okay,first I need to put out a
foundation, you know.
So what is my foundation?
How do I operate?
So let's say, let's just gowith love, right?
(19:06):
Love is the first pillar, butlove is also very, very
important Self love, familiallove, love, just period, because
love is a very important driverwhen it comes to success, when
it comes to you wanting to bephysically fit Um, you know.
So this, whatever, for you tobe the best you could be, you
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need love, a period.
And self love is the mostimportant to me, because if you
don't love yourself, you can'tproject love to anybody else.
So also break that down withthat pillar.
But then it's like, okay, Ineed something where it's like
what, what is militant grindabout?
What are you about?
How can I figure you out?
(19:49):
And so, right, in that book itwas supposed to be something
small, but then it just gotbigger.
It's still, it's a short read,but then it was supposed to be
like one page.
But then, after a while, Istarted thinking about it.
It's like no, I could reallybreak this down.
And so that's that's how ithappened, because I feel like if
you are out there, you'remotivating people.
(20:10):
You want people to referenceyou somehow or get to know you
or just basically like gettingyour mind.
So, instead of me talking tohundreds of people over and over
and over or repeating the samething, it's like hey well, check
out my book so you canunderstand me, I'll give them
some type of some reference.
And that was one of the bestthings I've ever done, cause,
(20:31):
you know, I've had one guy he'san author as well.
He just wrote a book and heleft me like a four minute
message saying that's one of thebest books he've ever read.
Wow.
Dai Manuel (20:40):
What a call.
Sherman Perryman (20:41):
I break down the examples.
It makes sense because Iactually, like, went through
certain things where I've reliedon these principles to survive
in the inner city or in lifeperiod or to get through some
personal triumphs, because a lotof times when I read books I
say Brian Tracy or Napoleon Hillor anything like that, they're
(21:02):
giving examples of otherpeople's lives.
But now I'm just like I cangive an example of my life
because I went through so manythings just to help them
understand.
You know why this principle isso important and so once I did
that, I thought it was.
It was.
Dai Manuel (21:17):
It's a lot more relatable for certain people to
understand, you know it's also agreat example of the power of
reflection right andintrospection, like this idea of
reflecting back on past andsometimes we might refer to them
as transgressions, right, or,but really it's just past
experiences but now being ableto see it for what it is
(21:37):
positive, can we see thepositive in that experience?
Can we come out of it with thepositives right, like learning?
Sherman Perryman (21:43):
if you will and I think it's, you've taken
this to the next level because,also, you've come out with a
learning, but you've also nowgiven examples on how we can
start to implement these changesfor ourselves, you know, oh
yeah definitely, definitely,because I do have an example
where I possibly could have diedif I didn't listen to my the
wisdom of like looking at, ofbeing in the streets and looking
(22:04):
at certain people, seeingcertain things and being like,
okay, it's time to go, I could.
I could feel it like my wisdomis telling me this is the right,
based off of the informationthat I collected in my life,
based off what I've seen, basedoff what I've heard, I need to
leave.
And as soon as I was leaving, Isaw this like police officer
(22:25):
walking up and then it just wentdown, telling you like we cross
paths like right then and there, and me and my friend talk
about it till this day.
It's like we looked at eachother.
We was like I think it's timeto leave.
Okay, come on, let's go.
And intuition, huh, yeah, theintuition, but also but that's
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that's in my wisdom, my wisdomchapter but yeah, it's very
important because I know thatthere there were some.
Everybody has these situationsthat you know they see, where
they just like you know theyprobably just fight it with
their ego Like no, I'm a say, orno, I'm gonna take this extra
drink, or no, I'm a drink, andthen I'm a drive, I'm gonna be
okay, but something else istelling you, man, you're drunk
(23:07):
and probably need to chill out.
You know, there's some wisdomtalking to you that you tend to
ignore.
Dai Manuel (23:14):
Yes, oh my gosh, we get really good at ignoring it
too, and my interest also isbecause we normalize that right
Like it's a.
It's just a normal way to dealwith it, because we get very
good.
I mean I should actuallyreframe that and say I was
really good at that.
Okay, so I'll own it.
Sherman Perryman (23:31):
I'll own it.
Dai Manuel (23:32):
I'll own it.
So I and I know that I wish Ihad a resource like this 14
years ago when I was goingthrough my big changes, because
I really found it challenging.
I knew there was parts about methat I wanted to change certain
habits.
I wanted to change, but Istruggled with understanding how
to do it but also, moreimportantly, how to get in my
own way, cause I was my ownworst enemy, preventing me from
(23:54):
making the changes.
But a habit like drinking wasthe one that kept holding me
back and I know, once I gotthrough that it was important
for me to find support and acoach, a mentor, even a health
expert, to support me as I wasnavigating some of those peaks
of discomfort.
Let's say, oh and Right, I justhave to say thank you for for
bringing this out, but I'd beremiss if I didn't, because I
(24:17):
know people are thinking okayand I didn't want to go too much
into the stories, because it'sa reason why we want to pick up
the book is to get the goodstory.
Sherman Perryman (24:22):
But, yeah, I also people to understand how
you got here.
Dai Manuel (24:26):
I know a little bit about this story, right Like
selling cookies and churchaisles to now being extremely
well recognized and successfulentrepreneur in LA.
I mean that's, that's a prettybig juxtaposition there.
So how the heck talk about someof those key lessons you
learned during thattransformative period of going
from cookies in the church aisleto to now working as an
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entrepreneur in LA, one of thebusiest and most?
Well, let's just say it is a.
Everybody knows LA, okay, andall you gotta do is go there.
What?
Oh, no way.
Or you don't Tell us just somecontext of this, and I know
we're getting down to the wirehere, but please take a few
minutes because I think.
But I feel, remiss if I didn'tallow you to touch you.
Sherman Perryman (25:10):
Yeah well, la is a city where it's like your
reputation is everything youknow, who you involve with, who
you are, where you're from.
It's like if you, if you comeout here, you don't know anybody
, there's always gonna be like abarrier of resistance.
So with me, knowing that I tendto always like, I'm very
protective of my name and myreputation, because that can
(25:32):
make or break you.
If you're known as a badbusinessman or someone that does
people dirty or shady, it'sover for you.
But you could be outcasted.
Yes, it's pretty and see, I waslike man.
I heard this guy then decide itjust goes around and goes
around.
If you're one of those guysthat Changes their number every
two years or something and youknow it could be bad, I you
(25:55):
might as well just move out thecity, move to Vegas or something
like that.
My goodness, I was all always aStickler on doing good business
door right by people, even if Ihad to take a loss myself, and
so that was very important to meas an entrepreneur, because we
are all for noor you're gonnatry out different businesses.
So whatever you try out, orjust make sure that you know
(26:18):
what you're doing, you you'rehaving the right prices, you're
going right by people etc.
And your crowd will alwaysfollow you with whatever you do
because they know at the coreYou're a very good person.
Because you might I say youmight I say I have my real
estate license, insurancelicense.
I did all kinds of things but Icould always go to of my crowd
(26:40):
because they know, hey, whateverthis guy touches, I know he's
serious about it and he's kindof do good business.
So it's no surprise that nowthat I came up with Melaton
grind and Inspiring people,motivating people, giving people
coming like a mental coachBecause they've seen me go
through a lot of things in myearly 20s that people my age
(27:02):
weren't doing at all I know onewas working for New York life.
No one did A commercial realestate.
You know what I mean.
So I was like, what ismotivating this guy to get into
all of these different avenues?
So now I'm like, okay, I'mgonna break down my thought
process and and I always lovehelping people too.
(27:23):
So this is kind of like a.
This is like a match made inheaven for me, because I always
like to say, when it comes tobusiness, if I know I cannot
help that person, my moralcompass will be like at the, at
an all-time low, like I hate,absolutely hate door things when
it's like I know him, but inthe back of my mind I'm taking
(27:44):
advantage of this person andthat probably was my downfall
when it came to a lot of salespositions that I would get in
because it's very Predatory, butI would just like I would feel
horrible, horrible, and they'llbe like well, see the damn, were
you who's gonna eat?
But it's like I'm eating.
But then I did a disservice tosomebody and I know that it's
(28:06):
wrong, but I'm just satisfyingyou because I'm hitting the
numbers.
Dai Manuel (28:11):
Yes, oh, man, yeah, honor that integrity, though,
like that must feel very good.
Do you know what I mean?
Like, oh, yeah, I appreciatethat you're.
You recognize that I, like you,recognize also the mental
health aspect that happens whenwe do things that's outside of
our integrity or goes againstour integrity, right, like that
(28:31):
tarnishes that integrity.
Yeah, and I think that's reallyimportant to take note here,
because your framework that youshare in the book, and obviously
the militant grind philosophy,like Clarity gives us confidence
and I know the people listen tome sick and tired of me saying
this, but it really is.
Once you have clarity, you gaina lot of confidence.
When you feel confident, youdon't procrastinate, you stop
(28:52):
doing a lot of the things thatreally aren't going to move the
needle the right direction andyou start to confidently do the
right actions.
Right, and I just do thanks,because All the tools and
resources and everything thatyou're building on your platform
, it's all about giving usclarity, man Better
understanding how to navigatecrazy thing called life, and I
think the big vision for thisokay, like a huge vision here,
and I'm gonna give you a momentto not only answer this question
(29:13):
, but I have one more questionafter this, which would be a
real fast one.
Milton grind dude, it's waymore than a brand, you know,
it's really.
You're building a movement andand I guess, what is the
long-term goal, what is thelong-term vision that you have
for a militant grind right andwhat is this legacy that you
hope to create through all thesevarious endeavors that you're
(29:35):
doing?
Sherman Perryman (29:37):
I'm big to a lot of funerals with babies past
couple years, and so the legacythat I want to leave behind is
like man, this guy really Lookedout for me.
Or he helped me become a betterperson, or he changed my life.
He changed the way I feel aboutmyself.
But then I could also referenceit by going online or looking
(29:57):
at his youtube videos, or thisis at the third.
So I want to leave like aimprint behind which pushed me
to Start a podcast.
Because it's like man, what ifyou died tomorrow and you know
your kids are hearing thesestories about you, but they have
no way to see you.
They can't hear you speak.
They can.
They don't have anything toreference and the internet is
(30:19):
perfect for that, you know.
So that's probably like thelegacy I want to leave behind,
because I know Myself Istruggled with mental health.
I was depressed for a coupleyears.
They didn't know it.
So it's like if I can helpother individuals get over that
hump and be the best versions ofthemselves, that's one of the
best things I could do for theworld and for my legacy.
(30:40):
And the world does have to knowthat I did it.
God could know that I did it,oh.
And I will be perfectly fine, sowe'll find with that.
Dai Manuel (30:51):
I feel like dropping my mic, but it's a new mic and
I don't want to break it.
I would totally drop it because, I mean, I find your content
very inspiring, oh andmotivating.
But, also, at the same time, iteducates, right, like.
It just offers a shift inperspective and and I love that
everything that you create isall about this perspective that
we have Self-view, worldviewright, and how do we?
connect everything in betweenand I guess, as we sort of wrap
(31:13):
up today, is there any Lastmessage you'd like to leave for
the listeners and for theviewers, so those that are here
today Gobbling up all this greatstuff Is there something that
you'd like to leave us withtoday.
Sherman Perryman (31:27):
Well, let's just go.
I'll just share the the pillarlove again.
Make sure that you loveyourself and project love onto
others and with that Is thefoundation for a lot of change,
because a lot of times we treatpeople how we treat ourselves.
So love yourself so you cantreat other people with love.
Dai Manuel (31:48):
Oh man Love it.
Sherman Perryman (31:51):
Love it Honestly.
I do.
Dai Manuel (31:53):
And sure, man, I'm so honored to have had you here
on the show today.
Like I, I'm a big person, thatI'm sorry.
I'm a big proponent.
I'm a big guy too, but I'm abig proponent of of really
Trying to get people in front ofthe right people, if you know
what I mean because I know whenyou get around the right people.
It's amazing how things start toshift, and so getting people
(32:15):
around you and your energy andwhat you're speaking to is very
important.
And I'm curious what, whatwould be the best platform for
people to connect with you on,because obviously we have all
these different.
What's the one that you feelsbest for people to get their
first impression, to reallystart to get to know you?
Sherman Perryman (32:29):
Let's say instagram and youtube Of sort to
find those sources justmilitant grind calm.
Okay, because everybody hastheir preferred source some
people on tiktok, some people onYouTube, instagram, whatever,
but I have them all.
So if you they want to check itout, just know that's at grind
calm.
Dai Manuel (32:48):
Perfect, okay, well, that these are all being the
show notes for everybodylistening, and also we'll have
an action item, a one pager thatyou're going to have an
opportunity to do, and I thinkit's going to be really around
this idea of pillars and value,and I know that you have some
great information that we canshare with them.
Sure, man, and so don't worry,there'll be more on that in the
(33:08):
community later to come, but fornow, best thing anybody can do
is that link in the show notesthat takes you to the website,
or to go buy yourself a copy ofSherman's book.
Sherman, it's been a pleasurehaving you on the 2% solution.
Your journey and insights aretestament to what can be
achieved with resilience anddetermination.
(33:29):
Thanks for joining us today andsharing your invaluable
experience with Brother, andthat, my friends, wraps up our
fantastic conversation with theone and only Sherman Perryman.
What a journey we've been ontoday.
He deep dives into self-loveand discipline, to exploring the
(33:52):
realms of wisdom, honor andstrength.
Sherman has truly given us amasterclass in not just
entrepreneurship but life itself.
Sherman's book from Grit toGreatness isn't just a read,
it's an experience.
It's like your personal guideto becoming the best version of
yourself, one chapter at a time.
So if you're looking to get alittle grittier and a whole lot
(34:14):
greater, you know what to do.
Grab a copy of his book.
It's like a Swiss army knife ofpersonal development, handy in
every situation.
And hey, just don't stop at thebook.
Follow Sherman on social media.
His insights, stories andnuggets of wisdom are daily
doses of motivation.
Trust me, your feed will thankyou for it.
Now, if Sherman's stories strucka chord with you, if it lit a
(34:37):
fire in your heart or sparked athought in your mind, share this
episode with someone else.
Spread the inspiration likeit's a confetti at a party.
While you're at it, hit thatlike, share and subscribe button
.
It's the trifecta of podcastlove.
And speaking of love, a reviewfrom you would be the cherry on
top of our podcast someday.
(34:58):
Let us know what resonated withyou, what made you laugh or
even what made you pause andthink.
Your feedback is the GPS thatguides our journey on the 2%
solution podcast.
Thank you for tuning in.
Remember every day is a chanceto turn your grit into greatness
.
Keep pushing, keep growing andlet's keep making those small
(35:18):
steps for big, lasting changes.
I'm Diamond Well, signing off,but not saying goodbye, just
saying see you soon.
Stay gritty, my friends.
Hey there, champions of Change, welcome back to your
favorite slice of inspiration2% Solution Podcast.
I'm your host, diamond.
Well, here, just sprinkle a bitof laughter on your path to
transformation.
Today we're turning the dial upto 11 because we've got a guest
who's as rare as a snowman inthe Sahara, the one, the only,
(00:22):
sherman Perryman.
Now get this.
Sherman once said about himselfI'm so unique even my DNA is
shaking its head in disbelief.
Now, that's not confidence withthe capital C, I don't know
what is.
And, folks, he's got the lifestory to match that bold claim.
In this episode, sherman'sgoing to reveal a game-changing
(00:43):
moment in his life, a 2% shiftthat redefined everything.
It all began when he steppedinto the world of fatherhood,
suddenly, making a difference,went from a bumper sticker slope
to his personal creed for hiskids, for all of us, for our
future and for a little fun,fact Sherman's life soundtrack
(01:04):
don't stop believin'.
All right, I'm not journeyed byany stretch of the means, but I
love seeing that that was hissoundtrack.
Funny little side note, it'sKristi and I's song too, so I
love seeing that come in.
And if that doesn't scream epicjourney, I mean I really don't
know what to us.
He's also going to dive into hisbook From Grit to Greatness.
(01:25):
This isn't just your averagesuccess story.
It's a journey through themilitant grind and it's as
gripping as it sounds.
This might be just the pep talkyour bookshelf is craving.
Oh, and did I mention?
Sherman is also a fellowpodcast maestro.
That's right.
He's a wizard on both sides ofthe mic, and when it comes to
(01:47):
the age old coffee or tea debate, sherman's mantra is coffee
morning, noon and night.
I think that's why him and Ihit it off so well.
He's a 24 seven kind of guy, atrue testament to live in the
grind.
And what's the one book thatrevolutionized his world?
Outwitting the devil byNapoleon Hill.
And if he could have a heart toheart with anyone, malcolm X,
(02:11):
imagine being a fly on the wallfor that chat, from peddling
cookies to being the shinybeacon of the entrepreneurial
spirit in LA.
Sherman Perryman isn't just astory of success.
He's a whirlwind, a lifestyle,a living, breathing dose of.
You can do it too.
He's not in it just to leave afootprint.
(02:31):
He's here to forge a path forothers to follow.
So strap in, my friends.
This episode isn't just anotherpodcast, it's an adventure.
Sherman Perryman is here togive us a turbo boost of
motivation, stir the pot ofpossibility and remind us all of
the unstoppable force withineach of us.
Let's jump into thisexhilarating ride.
(02:51):
All right, the 2% solutionpodcast with Sherman Perryman is
kicking off right now.
Let the fun and inspirationbegin.
Welcome to the 2% solution,sherman.
(03:12):
It's great to see you, brother.
It's been a little while sinceI was on your podcast and I'm so
honored to have you back here.
Hello, how you doing?
Sherman Perryman (03:22):
Great, great.
How are you?
Dai Manuel (03:24):
I'm doing much better.
Now that I'm looking at you,I'm like I just remember our
first conversation and howamazing it was.
But it was me answering yourquestion, so it's nice to have
the tables turned, as they say.
Today.
I get to ask you some coolquestions and in the intro I
gave people the background, yourbio and some of the highlights
(03:45):
what in your application.
Because, hey, everybodylistening there's always us
podcasters.
We always like to.
Well, we're kind of lazy, andso, rather than going and trying
to figure out everybody's links, people fill out applications
and tell us some of the thingsthat we want to know before the
show, and so I ask a veryspecific question, and it's a
question around uniqueness, inparticular, one of a kind.
(04:08):
And so, sherman, I'm going toturn the mic over to you because
you said there's no one on thisplanet quite like you, and I
would agree, but I want you toshare a bit more about what
makes Sherman Perryman truly oneof a kind.
Sherman Perryman (04:21):
Well, there's layers to that because
scientifically that's true.
But then me, I grew up with twoyounger brothers in the
household, right?
So we're all a year apart Likeone.
I was born one year, secondyear, third year, and then I
started to see that even thoughwe grew up with the same
principles, same exact parentsof same schools, everything like
(04:42):
that, we're all different inour all unique way.
No, and I will hear otherfamily members say, well, you're
just like your dad and you'rejust like this, so you're just
like that.
But in reality we're not.
Because, say, I'll give thisexample, right, say, if I'm
talking to a girl and I'm inlove with her and she breaks my
heart, that is a traumatic eventin my life that no one else has
(05:04):
experienced or even hear about.
That's going to shape mytrajectory on how I think and
how I feel about myself.
And we all have these personaltraumas, these personal issues
that we go through that shape usand personal experiences.
Even though we have the samegenetics, we have the same like
(05:24):
principles, things like that, weare all different in our all
unique way because we thinkdifferent, we go through
different things, we eatdifferent foods, etc.
Dai Manuel (05:34):
Well, I love that and, for everybody that's
listening right now, you gottago check out everything Sherwin
does, especially his Instagramaccount, because I think there's
a lot of inspiration throwndown.
But, more importantly, yourpodcast, and I'm not going to
get into it too much because I'mgoing to let the show notes do
the talking.
I want people to go and checkout some of those episodes.
But I know that we've talkedabout this idea of a 2% pivot
(05:59):
right, or this moment in ourlives where things could have
gone one of two directions, butfor some reason we chose very
specifically and intentionallyto go one of the two directions
and sort of refer to this asthis 2% moment in life right.
And you mentioned that becominga father completely reshaped
(06:20):
your perspective, not only onthe world, but your role in the
world, also just your desire andintention to make the world a
better place, but not really foryou, more intentionally for
your kids and their kids to come.
And do you mind elaborating onthat and just sharing, because I
think it's just wonderful?
I really do.
Sherman Perryman (06:40):
Yeah, because, well, I would say, growing up
as a young man, you're kind ofselfish, you don't care, like oh
, somebody around the cornerjust got beat up or this robbery
, hey, it has nothing to do withme, whatever.
But then you think about whenyour child is out there in the
world and the possibility ofsomething happening to them and
how you would feel.
It's kind of like it wouldn'tbe a good feeling if your
(07:03):
daughter was the one to go to aparty and have some drinks to
get taken advantage of, orgrowth or anything like that.
Like you would be pretty upset,but then it's also likely for
it to happen.
Period, we have no idea.
So, with that being said, I waslike I have to start being more
conscious of my environment andspreading the word about things
(07:27):
that I believe are right,because we have to be a little
bit more outspoken in order tomake a change, because, even
though you may think that itwill fall on deaf ears, one day
it might spark.
Like a lot of people tell me Ididn't understand what you were
saying.
At first I was angry at you.
They couldn't really processsome of the things that I've
(07:50):
told them.
And then, a year or two laterlike wow, now I understand it.
So here in that, I just becamea guy like no matter what I'm, a
stand on righteousness, what Ibelieve is right and period, no
matter how anybody feels.
They may not get it now, butthey'll get it later.
And, with that being said, it'skind of like a trickle effect
(08:11):
on changing the world andchanging your environment,
because one person changed.
You could talk to one person,that person talked to somebody
else, the next person, just goeson and on and on.
You may be unintentionallyaware of the changes that you
brought in the world, eventhough you have, just by talking
(08:32):
to one person or sparking onemind.
Dai Manuel (08:37):
I was going to say.
You know that.
I just love that you reallyfocus on that.
So there's a two-wayperspective, right, we have the
external view and then we havethe internal view.
But it's amazing how thatinternal view adds filters to
the external view.
Right, the way that we look atthings internally, especially
(08:58):
from our own emotional state,psychological state, all those
experiences that haveaccumulated to this moment,
right, but the way we look atthe world is often heavily
influenced by that.
And as a father, because I thinkthis is really practical, what
is it that you do?
How do you broach some of theseconversation pieces with
(09:19):
younger people, like maybe noteven your children, but your
friends' children?
Because I find that this is aconversation that sometimes is
really challenging to have withkids, especially as they get
more into the teen years,because they already think they
know it all.
Right, and I'm curious couldyou offer some tips on how to
start navigating these biggerconversations?
Right?
And really, when we starttalking about the worldview and
(09:41):
work with our kids to mentorthem and nurture them, to have a
very kind view, but also a viewthat they can make a difference
, right, because then, afterthis, I want to get into the
book because people got to hearabout what your book that just
came out, as well as understandthe militant grind philosophy,
which I think is a game changer.
Before we get to that, justgive us a few tips on how to
(10:03):
best have these conversationswith our kids.
Sherman Perryman (10:06):
I'm just to be brutally honest with them,
maybe vulnerable with them.
Now, those are some of the twomain things With my oldest
daughter.
She's 10.
I'll talk to her like she's anadult because I know she has a
consciousness to understand howthings operate and I give her
grace.
I'm vulnerable with her, butalso tell her that, hey, there
(10:27):
are certain lives that you can'tcross with me just because I am
your father.
We're not like best friends andgo back and forth and talk a
mess about each other.
But I am honest with her on howthe world operates.
But I also give her stories andexamples based off of what I
had to deal with growing up,which in turn becomes my
(10:47):
vulnerability.
Like, hey, I know how you feel,I've been through this and when
they could talk to somebodythat they could relate to,
that've been through some of thethings that they're going
through, it's a better form ofunderstanding Instead of me just
ruling with an iron fist andsaying, no, it's this, because I
said it, I let her know, Ibreak it down, and when I break
(11:08):
it down to where she canunderstand it or for when any of
my kids can understand it, it'sway better.
I don't have to discipline her.
I don't have to whoop her.
She is the greatest kid.
If I say, do something, she'lldo it.
But why?
It's because I was nurturingher mind into being an
understanding, loving and kindperson, but also letting her
(11:31):
know and letting and also givingher a form of understanding of
being conscious of how you treatpeople, because you want to
treat people how you like to betreating.
How would you feel if daddysaid this to you?
How would you feel if someonesaid this to you?
That doesn't feel good, right?
Oh well, you shouldn't do it toother people, you know.
So I, I break it down, and so Ilike getting her mind to really
(11:54):
be conscious of what she'sdoing and, with that being said
in turn, it's like okay, I haveto be more aware.
It's not always about me, it'sabout all of us.
We all have to survive in thisworld.
Oh, so, just be aware of thatand go for it.
Dai Manuel (12:12):
Sherman, I really appreciate that what you're
really teaching and or askingthem to get in tune with is
recognize that, that empatheticside or nature in us, right,
like that ability to seeourselves walking in someone
else's shoe, you know, and notjust see ourselves visualize it,
but actually feel what it mustbe like.
Cause I know that, for mydaughters especially, I can
(12:34):
really resonate with what youjust shared and I know that that
was something that was reallyinstrumental with her own, my
daughters, was that not just thevulnerability but more
importantly for us, I found, wasjust this idea of really trying
to help them better explaintheir emotions.
Do you know what I mean?
Cause I find emotions,especially as we're younger, and
(12:55):
I mean I struggle now and I'm47 years old, I still struggle
communicating when I'm feeling,oh.
So I know that with kids atthat age it's also a big
challenge because they might nothave their vernacular yet right
, like the vocabulary todescribe.
And I guess in those situationslike how do you navigate that?
Oh, like, how do you create Iguess maybe this is better, this
(13:17):
is more practical Is, how doyou create space for sometimes
these conversations to be had,cause they're not always easy
conversations, right Like thesecan be really tricky at times,
especially if it's involvingthis idea of disciplinary, being
disciplinary with our children.
You know like we're we're veryplayback parents, my wife and I,
and I know that our disciplinemight be different, but we would
(13:40):
be very stern to hold themaccountable, especially when
they were doing things thatweren't the best way they could
have done them.
It is encouraging feedback andI'm just wondering do you have
any words of advice on this orthoughts?
Sherman Perryman (13:52):
Well, one thing that I know that is
effective is, when you talk tochildren, you get on their level
.
So you may have to stoop downand look to them eye to eye,
which in turn like when I, whenI first started doing that, it
was like okay, no, I'm serious,I'm getting down to you, your
level but then also notice thatwithin that, I have to bring
(14:14):
myself down to their levelfrequently to get a level of
understanding, because I knowthat they're not adults, so I
can't expect for them tounderstand like an adult at all.
Well, I have to be like okay,this is a child, Put yourself in
the place of a child, becausewe were children before, and
(14:34):
then be a little bit empathetictowards their limited
understanding.
So that's the way.
That's the way I do it.
It's like come on, man, youwere 10 before you know how this
works.
You know like you were.
Dai Manuel (14:46):
You were a 10 before .
I can't remember that far backdude.
Sherman Perryman (14:50):
Well, yeah, it's like my eldest.
She reminds me so much ofmyself and how I think, and so
it's like she thinks just likeme.
It's kind of scary.
So I have to like step backsometimes and be like you know
what.
You were like this too, so youknow how to navigate Like this
person is a part of you, so it's, it's a little, let's take some
(15:11):
work.
But then I noticed, growing up,my father would expect for me
to be on his level, which was adisservice Cause.
It's like, man, you're 30 yearsolder than me, but now it's
like, no, you have to get on thekids level, but just a little.
No, bring your wisdom to theirlevel so they could get it.
Dai Manuel (15:28):
I think that's such a simple well simple, but also
highly effective.
I can imagine that, like just,I do remember at times and it's
interesting because it wasn'treally in the disciplinary
action but I remember doing thatmore in a consoling way, like
when it was something reallysensitive or serious, or if they
were triggered at school oversome sort of action that another
(15:50):
student did or another kid intheir class, like I remember we
would get down to make them feelsafe, and so I can see how this
can also help on the other side.
Sherman Perryman (15:58):
So it's the same philosophy, but then it's
just like enhanced yes, yeah,yeah, yeah, yeah.
Dai Manuel (16:03):
Well, you know what I want to talk about your book,
okay, cause I know it just cameout, so congratulations, it's
not a small feat.
And for those that are listening, you remember, during the intro
I mentioned the title, which Ilove, by the way, from grit to
greatness.
I mean what, dude?
That's a great title.
That's a great title, thank you.
And so give us a glimpse intothe basic, core message of this
(16:24):
book.
But also, how does it alignwith your platform, in
particular the militant grind,and the philosophy of that
platform?
So maybe I don't know which wayyou want to tackle this.
Do you want to talk aboutmilitant grind first, then talk
about the book?
Sherman Perryman (16:35):
No, no, no, it may give you the stage man, you
just take it away.
Not all plays into a park, causeI actually somewhat suggested
me to write a book about, likethe five pillars.
So the five pillars are love,strength no love, honor,
strength, discipline and wisdomright.
So just to break down likesimple vernacular is on like
okay, this is what I abide bywhen it comes to my life and the
(16:58):
militant grind philosophy.
So I break down those fivepillars and I give stories, I
get personal stories, I getbiblical stories, those stories
about celebrities et cetera,just to get people a level of
understanding on how to applythose five pillars.
But also say that you know,just, these are just, this is
just something that I abide by.
(17:19):
You can just take it and dowhatever you want with it.
But this is just kind of like abase.
So it's not like the end all beall, but I do feel like love,
honor, strength, discipline andwisdom is our core to me.
And yeah, man, I just, Ibasically just take those five,
break it down, um, and then I,at the end of the book, I have a
(17:41):
conclusion on how I likeintertwine all five of those
pillars and, yeah, it's prettysimple.
Dai Manuel (17:49):
So it's pretty simple.
Sherman Perryman (17:49):
A lot of goals , yeah.
Dai Manuel (17:51):
Well, simple doesn't mean easy, though.
Yeah.
What I mean by that is it doestake action right, like people
have to.
Yeah, they can do, wanting tofollow a roadmap, like and I
appreciate that you're giving aframework that is very much your
framework, that you've used toget from point A to point B to
point C and navigate life, andjust the fact that you're giving
(18:12):
an example of a framework butalso giving the flexibility that
, yeah, there might be somevalues that are interchangeable,
meaning that I might have adifferent value, that I want to
replace one of your five pillarswith right and but that's the
subjectivity to it, and that'sthe I think the point is is that
this idea of grit to greatness,it takes commitment right.
Sherman Perryman (18:33):
Yeah.
Dai Manuel (18:34):
I mean, if we want things to change, we got to want
things to change and we got todo something about it.
But I got to ask you though butwhy this book?
Like, why were you drawn towrite this book?
Sherman Perryman (18:46):
Well, it was a suggestion, but then I do feel
like there are principles, that,because a lot of people will
ask me like, hey, I want to pickyour brain, or hey, I want your
advice on something, right.
But I was just like, okay,first I need to put out a
foundation, you know.
So what is my foundation?
How do I operate?
So let's say, let's just gowith love, right?
(19:06):
Love is the first pillar, butlove is also very, very
important Self love, familiallove, love, just period, because
love is a very important driverwhen it comes to success, when
it comes to you wanting to bephysically fit Um, you know.
So this, whatever, for you tobe the best you could be, you
(19:27):
need love, a period.
And self love is the mostimportant to me, because if you
don't love yourself, you can'tproject love to anybody else.
So also break that down withthat pillar.
But then it's like, okay, Ineed something where it's like
what, what is militant grindabout?
What are you about?
How can I figure you out?
(19:49):
And so, right, in that book itwas supposed to be something
small, but then it just gotbigger.
It's still, it's a short read,but then it was supposed to be
like one page.
But then, after a while, Istarted thinking about it.
It's like no, I could reallybreak this down.
And so that's that's how ithappened, because I feel like if
you are out there, you'remotivating people.
(20:10):
You want people to referenceyou somehow or get to know you
or just basically like gettingyour mind.
So, instead of me talking tohundreds of people over and over
and over or repeating the samething, it's like hey well, check
out my book so you canunderstand me, I'll give them
some type of some reference.
And that was one of the bestthings I've ever done, cause,
(20:31):
you know, I've had one guy he'san author as well.
He just wrote a book and heleft me like a four minute
message saying that's one of thebest books he've ever read.
Wow.
Dai Manuel (20:40):
What a call.
Sherman Perryman (20:41):
I break down the examples.
It makes sense because Iactually, like, went through
certain things where I've reliedon these principles to survive
in the inner city or in lifeperiod or to get through some
personal triumphs, because a lotof times when I read books I
say Brian Tracy or Napoleon Hillor anything like that, they're
(21:02):
giving examples of otherpeople's lives.
But now I'm just like I cangive an example of my life
because I went through so manythings just to help them
understand.
You know why this principle isso important and so once I did
that, I thought it was.
It was.
Dai Manuel (21:17):
It's a lot more relatable for certain people to
understand, you know it's also agreat example of the power of
reflection right andintrospection, like this idea of
reflecting back on past andsometimes we might refer to them
as transgressions, right, or,but really it's just past
experiences but now being ableto see it for what it is
(21:37):
positive, can we see thepositive in that experience?
Can we come out of it with thepositives right, like learning?
Sherman Perryman (21:43):
if you will and I think it's, you've taken
this to the next level because,also, you've come out with a
learning, but you've also nowgiven examples on how we can
start to implement these changesfor ourselves, you know, oh
yeah definitely, definitely,because I do have an example
where I possibly could have diedif I didn't listen to my the
wisdom of like looking at, ofbeing in the streets and looking
(22:04):
at certain people, seeingcertain things and being like,
okay, it's time to go, I could.
I could feel it like my wisdomis telling me this is the right,
based off of the informationthat I collected in my life,
based off what I've seen, basedoff what I've heard, I need to
leave.
And as soon as I was leaving, Isaw this like police officer
(22:25):
walking up and then it just wentdown, telling you like we cross
paths like right then and there, and me and my friend talk
about it till this day.
It's like we looked at eachother.
We was like I think it's timeto leave.
Okay, come on, let's go.
And intuition, huh, yeah, theintuition, but also but that's
(22:45):
that's in my wisdom, my wisdomchapter but yeah, it's very
important because I know thatthere there were some.
Everybody has these situationsthat you know they see, where
they just like you know theyprobably just fight it with
their ego Like no, I'm a say, orno, I'm gonna take this extra
drink, or no, I'm a drink, andthen I'm a drive, I'm gonna be
okay, but something else istelling you, man, you're drunk
(23:07):
and probably need to chill out.
You know, there's some wisdomtalking to you that you tend to
ignore.
Dai Manuel (23:14):
Yes, oh my gosh, we get really good at ignoring it
too, and my interest also isbecause we normalize that right
Like it's a.
It's just a normal way to dealwith it, because we get very
good.
I mean I should actuallyreframe that and say I was
really good at that.
Okay, so I'll own it.
Sherman Perryman (23:31):
I'll own it.
Dai Manuel (23:32):
I'll own it.
So I and I know that I wish Ihad a resource like this 14
years ago when I was goingthrough my big changes, because
I really found it challenging.
I knew there was parts about methat I wanted to change certain
habits.
I wanted to change, but Istruggled with understanding how
to do it but also, moreimportantly, how to get in my
own way, cause I was my ownworst enemy, preventing me from
(23:54):
making the changes.
But a habit like drinking wasthe one that kept holding me
back and I know, once I gotthrough that it was important
for me to find support and acoach, a mentor, even a health
expert, to support me as I wasnavigating some of those peaks
of discomfort.
Let's say, oh and Right, I justhave to say thank you for for
bringing this out, but I'd beremiss if I didn't, because I
(24:17):
know people are thinking okayand I didn't want to go too much
into the stories, because it'sa reason why we want to pick up
the book is to get the goodstory.
Sherman Perryman (24:22):
But, yeah, I also people to understand how
you got here.
Dai Manuel (24:26):
I know a little bit about this story, right Like
selling cookies and churchaisles to now being extremely
well recognized and successfulentrepreneur in LA.
I mean that's, that's a prettybig juxtaposition there.
So how the heck talk about someof those key lessons you
learned during thattransformative period of going
from cookies in the church aisleto to now working as an
(24:49):
entrepreneur in LA, one of thebusiest and most?
Well, let's just say it is a.
Everybody knows LA, okay, andall you gotta do is go there.
What?
Oh, no way.
Or you don't Tell us just somecontext of this, and I know
we're getting down to the wirehere, but please take a few
minutes because I think.
But I feel, remiss if I didn'tallow you to touch you.
Sherman Perryman (25:10):
Yeah well, la is a city where it's like your
reputation is everything youknow, who you involve with, who
you are, where you're from.
It's like if you, if you comeout here, you don't know anybody
, there's always gonna be like abarrier of resistance.
So with me, knowing that I tendto always like, I'm very
protective of my name and myreputation, because that can
(25:32):
make or break you.
If you're known as a badbusinessman or someone that does
people dirty or shady, it'sover for you.
But you could be outcasted.
Yes, it's pretty and see, I waslike man.
I heard this guy then decide itjust goes around and goes
around.
If you're one of those guysthat Changes their number every
two years or something and youknow it could be bad, I you
(25:55):
might as well just move out thecity, move to Vegas or something
like that.
My goodness, I was all always aStickler on doing good business
door right by people, even if Ihad to take a loss myself, and
so that was very important to meas an entrepreneur, because we
are all for noor you're gonnatry out different businesses.
So whatever you try out, orjust make sure that you know
(26:18):
what you're doing, you you'rehaving the right prices, you're
going right by people etc.
And your crowd will alwaysfollow you with whatever you do
because they know at the coreYou're a very good person.
Because you might I say youmight I say I have my real
estate license, insurancelicense.
I did all kinds of things but Icould always go to of my crowd
(26:40):
because they know, hey, whateverthis guy touches, I know he's
serious about it and he's kindof do good business.
So it's no surprise that nowthat I came up with Melaton
grind and Inspiring people,motivating people, giving people
coming like a mental coachBecause they've seen me go
through a lot of things in myearly 20s that people my age
(27:02):
weren't doing at all I know onewas working for New York life.
No one did A commercial realestate.
You know what I mean.
So I was like, what ismotivating this guy to get into
all of these different avenues?
So now I'm like, okay, I'mgonna break down my thought
process and and I always lovehelping people too.
(27:23):
So this is kind of like a.
This is like a match made inheaven for me, because I always
like to say, when it comes tobusiness, if I know I cannot
help that person, my moralcompass will be like at the, at
an all-time low, like I hate,absolutely hate door things when
it's like I know him, but inthe back of my mind I'm taking
(27:44):
advantage of this person andthat probably was my downfall
when it came to a lot of salespositions that I would get in
because it's very Predatory, butI would just like I would feel
horrible, horrible, and they'llbe like well, see the damn, were
you who's gonna eat?
But it's like I'm eating.
But then I did a disservice tosomebody and I know that it's
(28:06):
wrong, but I'm just satisfyingyou because I'm hitting the
numbers.
Dai Manuel (28:11):
Yes, oh, man, yeah, honor that integrity, though,
like that must feel very good.
Do you know what I mean?
Like, oh, yeah, I appreciatethat you're.
You recognize that I, like you,recognize also the mental
health aspect that happens whenwe do things that's outside of
our integrity or goes againstour integrity, right, like that
(28:31):
tarnishes that integrity.
Yeah, and I think that's reallyimportant to take note here,
because your framework that youshare in the book, and obviously
the militant grind philosophy,like Clarity gives us confidence
and I know the people listen tome sick and tired of me saying
this, but it really is.
Once you have clarity, you gaina lot of confidence.
When you feel confident, youdon't procrastinate, you stop
(28:52):
doing a lot of the things thatreally aren't going to move the
needle the right direction andyou start to confidently do the
right actions.
Right, and I just do thanks,because All the tools and
resources and everything thatyou're building on your platform
, it's all about giving usclarity, man Better
understanding how to navigatecrazy thing called life, and I
think the big vision for thisokay, like a huge vision here,
and I'm gonna give you a momentto not only answer this question
(29:13):
, but I have one more questionafter this, which would be a
real fast one.
Milton grind dude, it's waymore than a brand, you know,
it's really.
You're building a movement andand I guess, what is the
long-term goal, what is thelong-term vision that you have
for a militant grind right andwhat is this legacy that you
hope to create through all thesevarious endeavors that you're
(29:35):
doing?
Sherman Perryman (29:37):
I'm big to a lot of funerals with babies past
couple years, and so the legacythat I want to leave behind is
like man, this guy really Lookedout for me.
Or he helped me become a betterperson, or he changed my life.
He changed the way I feel aboutmyself.
But then I could also referenceit by going online or looking
(29:57):
at his youtube videos, or thisis at the third.
So I want to leave like aimprint behind which pushed me
to Start a podcast.
Because it's like man, what ifyou died tomorrow and you know
your kids are hearing thesestories about you, but they have
no way to see you.
They can't hear you speak.
They can.
They don't have anything toreference and the internet is
(30:19):
perfect for that, you know.
So that's probably like thelegacy I want to leave behind,
because I know Myself Istruggled with mental health.
I was depressed for a coupleyears.
They didn't know it.
So it's like if I can helpother individuals get over that
hump and be the best versions ofthemselves, that's one of the
best things I could do for theworld and for my legacy.
(30:40):
And the world does have to knowthat I did it.
God could know that I did it,oh.
And I will be perfectly fine, sowe'll find with that.
Dai Manuel (30:51):
I feel like dropping my mic, but it's a new mic and
I don't want to break it.
I would totally drop it because, I mean, I find your content
very inspiring, oh andmotivating.
But, also, at the same time, iteducates, right, like.
It just offers a shift inperspective and and I love that
everything that you create isall about this perspective that
we have Self-view, worldviewright, and how do we?
connect everything in betweenand I guess, as we sort of wrap
(31:13):
up today, is there any Lastmessage you'd like to leave for
the listeners and for theviewers, so those that are here
today Gobbling up all this greatstuff Is there something that
you'd like to leave us withtoday.
Sherman Perryman (31:27):
Well, let's just go.
I'll just share the the pillarlove again.
Make sure that you loveyourself and project love onto
others and with that Is thefoundation for a lot of change,
because a lot of times we treatpeople how we treat ourselves.
So love yourself so you cantreat other people with love.
Dai Manuel (31:48):
Oh man Love it.
Sherman Perryman (31:51):
Love it Honestly.
I do.
Dai Manuel (31:53):
And sure, man, I'm so honored to have had you here
on the show today.
Like I, I'm a big person, thatI'm sorry.
I'm a big proponent.
I'm a big guy too, but I'm abig proponent of of really
Trying to get people in front ofthe right people, if you know
what I mean because I know whenyou get around the right people.
It's amazing how things start toshift, and so getting people
(32:15):
around you and your energy andwhat you're speaking to is very
important.
And I'm curious what, whatwould be the best platform for
people to connect with you on,because obviously we have all
these different.
What's the one that you feelsbest for people to get their
first impression, to reallystart to get to know you?
Sherman Perryman (32:29):
Let's say instagram and youtube Of sort to
find those sources justmilitant grind calm.
Okay, because everybody hastheir preferred source some
people on tiktok, some people onYouTube, instagram, whatever,
but I have them all.
So if you they want to check itout, just know that's at grind
calm.
Dai Manuel (32:48):
Perfect, okay, well, that these are all being the
show notes for everybodylistening, and also we'll have
an action item, a one pager thatyou're going to have an
opportunity to do, and I thinkit's going to be really around
this idea of pillars and value,and I know that you have some
great information that we canshare with them.
Sure, man, and so don't worry,there'll be more on that in the
(33:08):
community later to come, but fornow, best thing anybody can do
is that link in the show notesthat takes you to the website,
or to go buy yourself a copy ofSherman's book.
Sherman, it's been a pleasurehaving you on the 2% solution.
Your journey and insights aretestament to what can be
achieved with resilience anddetermination.
(33:29):
Thanks for joining us today andsharing your invaluable
experience with Brother, andthat, my friends, wraps up our
fantastic conversation with theone and only Sherman Perryman.
What a journey we've been ontoday.
He deep dives into self-loveand discipline, to exploring the
(33:52):
realms of wisdom, honor andstrength.
Sherman has truly given us amasterclass in not just
entrepreneurship but life itself.
Sherman's book from Grit toGreatness isn't just a read,
it's an experience.
It's like your personal guideto becoming the best version of
yourself, one chapter at a time.
So if you're looking to get alittle grittier and a whole lot
(34:14):
greater, you know what to do.
Grab a copy of his book.
It's like a Swiss army knife ofpersonal development, handy in
every situation.
And hey, just don't stop at thebook.
Follow Sherman on social media.
His insights, stories andnuggets of wisdom are daily
doses of motivation.
Trust me, your feed will thankyou for it.
Now, if Sherman's stories strucka chord with you, if it lit a
(34:37):
fire in your heart or sparked athought in your mind, share this
episode with someone else.
Spread the inspiration likeit's a confetti at a party.
While you're at it, hit thatlike, share and subscribe button
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And speaking of love, a reviewfrom you would be the cherry on
top of our podcast someday.
(34:58):
Let us know what resonated withyou, what made you laugh or
even what made you pause andthink.
Your feedback is the GPS thatguides our journey on the 2%
solution podcast.
Thank you for tuning in.
Remember every day is a chanceto turn your grit into greatness
.
Keep pushing, keep growing andlet's keep making those small
(35:18):
steps for big, lasting changes.
I'm Diamond Well, signing off,but not saying goodbye, just
saying see you soon.
Stay gritty, my friends.
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