May 29, 2024 • 39 mins
What happens when an Oklahoma State Cowboys fan, deeply rooted in her hometown and fiercely loyal to her team, moves to SEC country and starts cheering for the Razorbacks? Join me, Kasie Yokley, in this heartfelt episode of The 3W Podcast as I share my journey from Bartlesville, Oklahoma, to Bentonville, Arkansas. From my beginnings at TulsaPeople Magazine to co-founding 3W Magazine with Leslie Zanoff, you'll get a behind-the-scenes look at my career, my unwavering commitment to nonprofit work, and the hilarious quirks of my small-town upbringing, including the fact that I don't own a bike in a bike-centric community.
Navigating the world of social media can be a challenge, but it's all part of my larger mission to support nonprofits like the Mercy Health Foundation and the Northwest Arkansas Children's Shelter. This episode sheds light on my passion for community involvement and the rewarding experiences that come with it. You'll hear about the ups and downs of maintaining a social media presence with the help of my colleague, Ashley, and learn why giving back to the community is so important to me. From Pilates studios to early morning nail appointments, it's all about balancing personal goals with professional commitments.
As a devoted mother, I open up about the joys and complexities of raising two boys and balancing a career. Expect candid stories about travel baseball, soccer, and the dynamics of my marriage. I also share my love for books, cocktails, and movies, along with my experiences navigating social fatigue as an extroverted introvert. Whether it's celebrating school graduations or cherishing small victories, this episode is a tribute to hardworking moms and the little moments that make life special. Join me for an authentic and engaging conversation on the Who What Where podcast.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey everybody, welcome to the 3W Podcast.
Today is a little simpler, alittle narcissistic, if I'm
being completely honest.
We are three podcast in 3W3Podcast that I would take some
time to tell you a little bitabout me if you don't know me.
Some people do, some peopledon't, and we'll just pretend
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I'm super famous.
Also, I can't see, I refuse towear anything but these little
glasses.
I have notes that I have madethat are in like the tiniest
font ever.
I should have put it in likeT-Rex font, but I didn't.
So bear with me as I look downa lot and try to figure out what
I'm trying to say.
So a little bit about me.
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My name is Casey Yokely.
I am from Oklahoma, the greatstate of Oklahoma.
I am an Oklahoma State Cowboy.
I bleed orange.
I am fiercely into the Big 12,even though we've recently had
10 teams, now we have what feelslike 400 teams.
I don't even know how manyteams we have anymore, but I'm a
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cowboy all the way.
But now that I live in SECcountry, I will be honest.
I will cheer for the Razorbacks.
It's very challenging for me tocall the Hogs.
I feel like a complete poserwhen I call the Hogs, but I will
cheer for them.
I've got a really cute Pigsbrand hat and that's probably
all I have, but I will cheer forthe Razorbacks.
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I've been to some sportingevents and fundraisers for them.
So go Hogs, but for sure goCowboys.
So, um, I moved to NorthwestArkansas back in 2006, I believe
, and started 3W Magazine in2008.
So I've been here a while,almost 20 years, which is really
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weird to me.
I moved here with no friendsand continued to drive back home
to Tulsa every weekend becauseI thought Tulsa was New York
City.
I know it's not, but it was tome back then.
So I moved here with my husband, colby.
He is an engineer withCrossland Construction, so I
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constantly joke that right nowwe live in a big, giant traffic
cone and I'm married to atraffic cone, and we live in a
traffic cone.
There are five gajilliondetours around here, and he
tells me all the time this iswhat we need for change and for
betterment for the community.
So to just shut my mouth andmove on.
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Anyways, so that's like a superquick story about me.
I got into the magazine world onaccident.
When I lived in Tulsa.
I worked for a fantasticmonthly publication called Tulsa
People Magazine.
And then when I lived in Tulsa,I worked for a fantastic
monthly publication called TulsaPeople Magazine.
And then when I moved over here, I worked for another great
monthly publication calledCityscapes Magazine, owned by
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Kim Chart, who is still a greatfriend, and that is where I met
my business partner, leslieZanoff.
So Leslie and I did 3W Magazinefor 15 years together so a
really long time and then sheexited this past September to go
live her best life and leaninto health and wellness and
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momming.
So she's just living the dreamdown in Fayetteville.
So now it's just me and Ashley.
And then we have a new designer, laura, who is taking over
Kayla's reign.
So that's kind of where mymagazine background came from.
I can't write to save my life.
I love an Oxford comma or thelack thereof, I can't remember,
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but Ashley hates them.
The lack thereof, I can'tremember, but Ashley hates them.
So that is the only time thatwe get into editing issues is
when I have to say no, there's acomment that goes there and
she's like but there's not.
Um, I have no journalismexpertise.
I do have a marketing degree,so that's kind of where my
talking and hugging and lovingon people comes from.
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I definitely get lost in theweeds of people's ads on
accident or events.
You will see me just kind oflike go off and I'm like, oh,
that's not my job, hold onrefocus.
And here we are.
So I sold ads back in Tulsa tobusinesses all around the Tulsa
metro area and then did it herewhen I moved here, made amazing
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contacts and then that's how wejumped out and started 3W
Magazine.
So that's kind of my pretendjournalism background, if you
will.
So back to Oklahoma.
So I apologize, I'm also from asmall town.
So I said I moved here fromTulsa.
I did, but I'm from a realsmall town just north of Tulsa.
I did, but I'm from a realsmall town just north of Tulsa
called Bartlesville, oklahoma,and it was home of Phillips 66
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Petroleum back in the days orback in the day, and it was a
one high school town, multiplestoplights, but a one high
school town and it was good.
I have no complaints about beingraised in that small town and
going down the road toStillwater, oklahoma, and then
to Tulsa and now to NorthwestArkansas.
So I live in Bentonville, I'm abig Benton County person.
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I don't own a bike, which isreally weird.
I think my family, or at leastmy husband and I, are probably
the last people in Bentonvilleto not own bikes, and I know
that is so bad, but it's on thelist.
So just just hang tight with me, or if somebody wants to give
me a bike, I will.
I will ride your bike, but Iprobably am not really good at
it.
But that's okay.
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But I live by the bike trails,I live off ice street near
Louise and we use Osage park allthe time and love it.
So I have no complaints aboutBentonville at all, just that we
live in a traffic cone.
Um, so I think I answered how Igot to Northwest Arkansas and
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how I got into the magazinebusiness.
Oh, here's another super funfact that I wish I didn't own,
but, um, I suck so badly atsocial media Like I have really
great intentions.
In fact, just a few weeks ago,at the Mercy Health Foundation
golf tournament, ashley and Iwent out there.
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She was covering for her partand I was like, oh, I'm going to
take a bunch of pictures of,you know, the golfers and the
food and Shiloh Technologies,who was providing the food, and
people enjoying their lunch, andAnheuser-Busch, one of our
clients, that supplied all thebeer and alcohol.
So I was going to create thisgreat reel for it.
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But you know what?
I didn't, because when I leftthe golf tournament I ended up
getting pulled over by the CaveSprings Police Department.
I was not paying any attentionI will totally throw myself
under that bus and driving toofast and I was stopped by the
nicest man and keep an eye outbecause there could be a story
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coming.
But no, but he left me off witha warning, but not because I
was potentially going to do astory on him, I just I like his
involvement in this nonprofitthat I had no idea about and so
it was really interesting.
Anyways, after I got pulledover by the policeman and then I
rushed off to school to get oneof my kids and that reel never
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got made.
So I have really greatintentions of social media and
zero follow through, zero, zero.
I need like a little person tojust walk around and like help
me with social media because I'mnot good at it.
And Ashley, she does the verybest that she can as well, but,
um, I I don't have that passion.
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I wish I did, but I don't.
So you will see me post on mystories.
I don't know once in a bluemoon.
And my Instagram is basicallyjust for my kids.
I love a good Facebook memorypop-up, love it.
I only post so that I can havememories of my kids pop up.
I should really post for mybusiness, but that's what the 3W
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accounts are for.
But I do feel passionatelyabout our clients and whatnot
when I use them for a personalsake, but I just have no follow
through.
So perhaps it will be on theto-do list this year.
So it's always a goal and maybeI'll get better at it.
So we shall see.
Speaking of another goal, I'mnot a workout person.
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I don't like strenuous activity.
My idea of being outdoorsy iswalking to a patio to have a
drink, maybe with the dog, maybewith the kids, only when it's
like 75 and up.
I love sun.
The hotter the better.
Um, yeah, that's kind of who Iam.
However, I do have two friendswho bullied me into joining a
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Pilates studio or an ex-formerstudio or whatever it's called.
It's Saan in downtownBentonville.
It's super bougie, superbeautiful, and now I am that
person that is going at 5 30 inthe morning, four days a week.
I don't know who I think I am,but I it.
It's very much not me, so maybeit's becoming the new me, so
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maybe there's hope for me andsocial media.
I also disclaimer get my nailsdone at 5 am every other Friday,
which is absurd as well, butthat's just when I can fit it in
.
And I have the most amazingnail person who owns her own
nail studio.
It is men at a loft nails.
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She is not paying me for any ofthis In fact I pay her so but
she's just that amazing.
I've been with her since 2006.
So I won't go to anyphilanthropy.
So you all know that three Wstands for the who, what, where,
and the bulk of the magazine is12 months of nonprofit events.
Right, be it runs, walks,family fun outings, golf
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tournaments, galas, luncheons,breakfast, you.
If it's tied to a 501c3, we aregoing to try and promote it.
In fact we get.
We just got a message this weekabout promoting someone's
lemonade stand, uh, that she'sgoing to have a in Bella Vista
for, uh, children's cancer.
So any events that you all cansend us, we'll gladly take them
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and push them out on our socialnot my social, because I'm not
good at it, but the 3W social onour events calendar and on our
email blast that goes out once amonth.
So anything we can get ourhands on, we will do so with
that.
So 3W is 16 years old.
I did not know when we startedthis magazine that I,
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unbeknownst to me, had a passionfor nonprofits.
I absolutely love people.
I love dot connecting, whichyou'll probably hear again, and
I love trying to solve problemsProbably not my own, but
everyone else's.
I love to try and solveproblems, for, in fact, I just
rushed over here from a meetingwith my friends at the Mercy
Health Foundation where we weretalking about the 15 year
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anniversary of Women With aMission, which is a great thing,
falls under the foundation'sumbrella and I am the chair of
the Mercy Health Foundation.
I'm about to roll off, asthey've reminded me, but that's
okay.
I love Mercy.
I will fight to the death forMercy because without high
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quality healthcare, none of usare here.
We are all six feet underwithout high quality healthcare
and I've never received any badhealthcare at Mercy.
In fact, I just had to make apit stop there last week even
though this will air later formy nine-year-old who was having
an allergic reaction tosomething he ate.
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We spent three hours in the ER.
We, right in they had amassively full waiting room.
But I will not.
I will say we didn't get inbecause I helped the foundation.
We got in because my son washaving extremely labored
breathing and the nicest nurses,the nicest doctor.
He got a cocktail in his armthat took everything away.
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We now have an allergyappointment in six weeks to
figure out what's going on.
But without mercy, without thelove and the care and at the
overall mission of Jesus in thathospital, uh, you know, I don't
know what would have happenedand I don't.
I choose not to think aboutwhat would happen.
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But that leads me to believe.
I serve on the Mercy HealthFoundation because I have a
passion for it and I know thatall my other board members that
serve with me.
We have a passion for makingthis hospital greater and bigger
and providing more servicelines.
Just, we don't want peopleleaving the community for health
care.
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So, if you ever have any issuesor need any medical advice, if
you need care, seek care.
That's what they say at Mercy.
So, yes, if you need anything,just holler at me and I will try
to put you in touch withsomebody who can help you at
Mercy.
But I love them.
I love them.
Another nonprofit I am verypassionate about it's the
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Northwest Arkansas Children'sShelter and they have a new,
newly developed philanthropycouncil where you invite people
out to tour the shelter, like Iwould invite you to come tour
the shelter, see what it's allabout.
It's not a scary place, it's anamazing place.
I toured the shelter 14 plusyears ago maybe, or 10 plus
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years ago, I'm not really sureit was the old shelter and I was
scared.
No, it had to be 14 years agobecause I was pregnant 14 years
ago, plus years ago.
So very challenging to tourthat.
I loved crying, but not becauseof the shelter, just because it
is uh, it's challenging to seechildren in those circumstances.
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But the people at the shelter,the team at the shelter, that's
where they need to be.
Those, that's where those kidsneed to be.
It's the most safe place wherethey can be assessed, medically,
taken care of, educated andsafe.
So over the years I have doveinto Mercy and I have dove into
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the children's shelter.
I also just recently joined theChildren and Family Advocacy
Center's Giving Circle as well,because they are a one-stop shop
for any child that has beensexually abused or just abused
in general.
I'm probably butchering thatbecause it's what I do.
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Regardless, I look forward tothe day that they can shut their
doors because no child will beabused in any form or fashion.
So I say all of that becauseI'm like I did not know I had a
passion for non-profits.
I had no idea I had a passionfor doing a job and baking money
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and going on, but the sideeffect has been I am very
emotionally tied to thesenonprofits that are in the
magazine.
So if you come to us and youneed something, I'm going to
attempt to try and find a way tofigure it out.
So, yeah, I love the nonprofits.
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Um, I am a mom.
I am very scatterbrained, I amself-diagnosed ADHD and I think
it's because I have two boys.
I wanted a girl so badly Icouldn't see straight, but
clearly God had different plansfor me because we can't make
girls.
But I have the two most amazingboys.
I have a 14 year old who isfinishing up junior high this
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year, which is painful to me in.
In fact, when I turned thecorner and I dropped him off
this morning, it said congrats,eighth graders.
And all of a sudden I startedcrying.
Oh, I just am a complete basketcase when it comes to my kids.
I also have a nine year old whowill be 10, probably when this
airs um, he is finishing upthird grade this year, and so
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now my baby is going into fourthgrade at a private school in
downtown Rogers.
He goes to St Vincent Catholicschool, and I just I couldn't be
more proud of him.
If you ever have any questionsabout ADHD, you can reach out to
me.
We have a new diagnosis on that.
We are now medicating for that.
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I'm kind of an open book also,which is an interesting road.
My boys are nothing alike,absolutely nothing alike.
My firstborn is more like me.
My secondborn is a lot like myhusband.
Speaking of my husband, I lovehim so much.
We do not fit at all at all.
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I cannot even express that toyou, but I would rather fight
with him any day than wake upnext to anyone else.
God has a wicked sense of humor,and opposites truly do attract.
I wanted to marry somebody muchtaller than me who wore suits
every day, and instead I marriedan engineer in construction
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with muddy boots Not what I waspicturing for my future, but I
wouldn't change any of it.
He also has a very wicked senseof humor and laughs at
everything under the sun atanyone's expense.
So, um, just buckle up.
If you're around him, he's.
He's an interesting and he'sgot very dirty sense of humor
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too.
So, um, but a very kind soul,kind soul, and I am all over the
place anyways.
So my kids, so my 14 year old,he plays travel baseball and I
think that is completelypsychotic and I guarantee you he
plays travel baseball becauseof my karma.
When I, when he was younger,like before school age or I
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don't even know if I had thesecond one or not I was in this
little tiny hotel, and I don'teven know where visiting my
husband because he was off on aproject and I was sitting
downstairs.
I don't even know if I had kids, to be honest, I can't remember
.
Anyways, I'm sitting downstairsat the continental free
breakfast and all these ballteams and people were coming
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downstairs and I'm like, oh mygod, like this is, and it was
summer, and I'm like this istheir vacation, it's this little
dinky hotel with the freebreakfast, and I'm like I'll be
damned, this will not be my life.
I am not spending my vacationsin these little hotels on the
weekends for baseballtournaments Famous.
Last words, because now I doand I absolutely would not
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change it.
Um, I don't need a mother's daywith all the relaxing.
I my perfect mother's day.
That just happened.
But my vision for a perfectmother's day every year is sunny
and 80 degrees and both of myboys playing whatever sport
involves a ball that they love.
If they win, even better.
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If they lose, it's fine.
Unfortunate, but it's fine.
My youngest place travel soccer.
I think that is um quite thesteal compared to travel
baseball.
You don't even have to pay towatch your kid play in a
tournament.
It's amazing, whereas atbaseball you're nickel and dimed
every time you walk in the gate.
Fine, I'll do whatever, but butit's um soccer just just
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amazingly inexpensive comparedto travel baseball.
So, anyways, those are my twoboys.
Um, they are the entireuniverse for me.
There's nothing I wouldn't dofor them.
In fact, I have this magazinebecause of them.
I choose to have an annualpublication so that I can still
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be a mom or a stay-at-home momor a free mom or whatever kind
of mom you want to call it.
It helps me be involved in thecommunity, make some money, help
some people out and still getto mom, just like I will.
I always pick my kids up fromschool 97% of the time, so
they've never ridden a schoolbus like a home bus, which is
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great too.
I tried to get my 14-year-oldon a bus earlier this year and
it didn't work out, but my goalis to always pick them up,
always be present for theparties, always get to know the
teachers which I find it a bitmore challenging in junior high
than I do for the younger onebut, um, it's, I don't know.
I am, they are my world and Ihope that I don't know, I just
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hope they're with me forever.
That's, they're just great.
I just love them.
I absolutely do not think beforeI speak.
It's just really unfortunate.
In fact, I was at this eventyesterday morning and this
person was getting up andspeaking and so well-spoken and
I'm like, oh, I wish that couldbe me.
It's not me and that's okay,I'm working on it.
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I'm working on it.
Um, but it makes me authentic.
But I am absolutely a hot messon a mic, as you can obviously
tell, and on a camera.
My friend Clark at the MercyHealth Foundation lets me have a
mic at Charity Ball, his 1500person plus event in December,
which I don't know what he'sthinking, letting me have a mic,
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or maybe I've just bulldozedhim enough, but I do love to get
the mic.
I have no confidence, but Ijust speak and it just works.
And it reminds me of being achild in my bedroom with a
mirror on the back of my doorand my parents were older
parents and so I had these big,giant, huge headphones that went
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over and a hairbrush like theround brushes today, and that
was my microphone.
And so that is where my passionfor microphones comes from.
But I am authentic.
I put my foot in my mouth allthe time, as you can obviously
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tell, but it's okay.
I am a lover of life.
I would much rather attempt tosing and dance and make a fool
of myself than listen to sadsongs and be quiet.
It's just not really 100% who Iam, especially in public.
I like to joke around.
That's probably why my husbandand I do very well together.
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I just I like real people andyou know what, in this job with
Walmart in our back door, I amalways enthralled by female
executives especially who arereal, because everyone is
walking around faking it tillthey make it.
This is my theory, and me too.
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I'm not going to lie to y'all.
I am absolutely out therepageant waving and it is what it
is.
But when I meet or I hear apanel of female executives from
wherever and they are real andthey call themselves whatever
and they're very well-spokenalso, but I, I just love real,
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it's just um, it's who I am Ifeel like it makes you
approachable.
It also makes me a hot mess anda hot button.
But I don't think before Ispeak and I am a very real human
.
But speaking of real humans onmy notes, I have no idea where
it is.
I'm also and I heard this one ofmy friend Ryan.
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I'm not going to call him outby last name, but my friend Ryan
said this when he was on apanel a couple of years ago.
He said he is the mostextroverted introvert and I'm
like, oh, it really hit, becauseas much as I love people, I
love to be at home not speakingto anyone.
My kids are either gone out ofpractice on a device, on a TV or
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whatever.
I love to just go sit on my bedand I might scroll, I might
watch something aimless on TV, Imight read a book.
I was on a big book reading kicklast year and it's fallen off.
I read like five books.
That's a lot for me.
Five books, five or six bookslast year and um, five or six
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books last year in um, what yearare we?
In?
2024 and 2023.
Sorry and um.
I ordered a bunch of new booksafter Christmas and I'm like I'm
only halfway through it withone.
I'm not going to tell you whatit is, because the author is
super famous and the book issuper famous.
I just I'm trying to getthrough it because everyone says
it's amazing and I'm just I'mstruggling with it.
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So my book reading has gone bythe wayside, but I'm hoping to
pick it up back up with summer,because I love to be tan.
Even though I'm a huge fan ofPremier Derm and all the
sunscreen, I still love to betan and I love to cook in the
sun and read a book with a drinkand a hat.
So there you go.
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Come mid-December, I'm donepeopling.
I don't mean to be donepeopling, but I'm super done
peopling and I get very smalltalked out like I'd like it's.
Uh, it's real sad.
So if you ever see me and I'mnot on, I apologize.
I do have a friend, um, and Iwill say her name because she is
adorable, and shout out to hershe's got a huge promotion.
Jacqueline House, who is now oneof the morning people on KNWA.
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She walked up to me a coupleyears ago and was like hey, I'm
doing a live video, something,something on the phone at this
event.
Can I do a quick interview?
And I was just like no, and Ihate people that say no to me
and I don't know what was goingon, but I couldn't turn it on.
So we talked about it.
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She was like I get it, I get it.
So if you ever just can'tpeople and everyone thinks
you're peopling, it's okay to tonot people and to be an
introvert, um, yes, but I wouldsay I'm an extroverted introvert
.
Maybe we'll see.
Anyways, okay, I don't know ifyou drink cocktails, but I love
cocktails.
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I don't discriminate on alcohol.
I'm not an alcoholic by anymeans and I don't even drink
that often, but I absolutelylove going out to get drinks
with people.
Huge fan of tequila Not atequila connoisseur by any means
.
Big fan of tequila, though,just really like it.
And then I love me some redwine in the winter.
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I cannot drink it in the summerunless it's sangria.
Sometimes a beer with pizza isreally great.
My friends at Anheuser-Busch andMolson Coors both have amazing
beers.
We support both of them.
They both have seltzers, theyboth have super fun things.
So we try to support both ofthem.
They both have seltzers, theyboth have super fun things, so
we try to support both of them.
And yeah, but if you see me,chances are I'm going to have a
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ranch water, so it's just a verylight and easy cocktail for me.
So, yeah, tequila and red wine.
Okay, what else?
Oh, this is probably back to mebeing authentic, but, um, I
think I'm really funny and Ihave no doubt that I'm not.
So if you've made it this far,kudos to you, because I'm not
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sure I would have, or I don'teven know if my husband would
have, but it's okay, it's okay.
This is for me, this is for themagazine.
And here we are and here we are.
I already told you I preferhumor over sentimental, because
sentimental makes me get into myfeelings and I choose to
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compartmentalize those.
So I would much rather laugh myway through everything than to
have to stop and feel, becausethen you have me crying and car
line dropping my 8th grader offthis morning, which is no one
wants to see that, and just, hequickly got out of the car.
But are we surprised?
Um, but speaking of crying, um,I don't watch animal movies.
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Um, they are.
It doesn't matter how well theyend, I don't watch them.
My nine-year-old had the one andonly Ivan on last week just on,
and I was busy moving, doingall the things in the kitchen
and dining room and wherever hewas watching in the living room,
and I still, and I had to leaveto go get the 14-year-old from
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baseball practice.
I still bawled all the way toget the 14 year old from
practice because it's a truestory about a gorilla and he
goes to live this amazing lifeafter being in a mall.
Anyways, I just couldn't handleit.
And it ends well.
Same thing with Marley and meNot the same, but same.
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I went to see that movie, didn'tread the book, probably should
have had to leave in the middleof it because they're putting
the dog down.
I'm like, no, this is likewe've grown attached to this
beautiful dog.
Also, I have a dog, we're dogpeople and, um, you know, I had
to leave and it's just, I had tocrawl out over people during
Marlene Meats.
So I'm like I don't watchanimal movies.
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I really try not to watchanimal movies.
Um, but speaking of leaving atheater, I've only left a
theater three times in my life.
Um, the second time my husbandwanted to go see that American
sniper movie and I'm going tobutcher his name, so I'm going
to say it's Chris Kyle, but Ican be completely making that up
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.
So I apologize for not doing myresearch first, making that up,
so I apologize for not doing myresearch first.
Really good movie, up until achild was injured and I left,
literally ran out of the theater.
I cannot handle anythinghappening to kids or to animals.
Um, thankfully, wherever I,whatever movie theater I was at,
there was a bar, a restaurantright around the corner.
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So I just went to the bar atthe restaurant, ordered a red
wine because it was winter, andtext him.
I was like I'm here, so, um,just when the movie's done, you
just come get me.
And then, because my husbandhas a very sick sense of humor,
he's obsessed with scary movies.
Um, halloween is his favorite.
Michael Myers is probably hisspirit animal or spirit,
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something anyways loves MichaelMyers.
We have a long-standing historywith Michael Myers.
He scared the absolute crap outof me.
In a store back in Oklahomabefore we moved to Arkansas, he
put a mask on.
It's like, but I don't know.
It's not even near Christmas ornear no, it's past Halloween,
it's Christmas.
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Why they have this mask?
I have no idea.
He is what feels like athousand yards away from me, but
he's not Puts the mask on.
I just happened to turn.
I see him.
I scream bloody murder in astore.
He falls down laughing.
So we just have this historywith Michael Myers.
Side note my nine-year-old wasMichael Myers for Halloween.
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So that's really good parenting.
So just follow along for moreparenting hacks, because we're
obviously extremely amazingparents.
He wanted me to go see whicheverwas the newest one at the time.
This was several years ago andI went and I'm not so sure it
wasn't my anniversary.
It must have been anout-of-body experience.
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I went to the movie with them.
I'm kind of like this the wholetime, and Michael Myers kills
people, right, we all know thatIn like a public bathroom or
something like this.
I don't remember the details,and then I'm not so sure that a
child wasn't injured a fewscenes later.
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Anyways, short story long, Ileave the theater because I
can't handle it anymore.
But I have to go to thebathroom.
And movie theater bathrooms arepretty scary.
Also, don't kid yourself, Ikicked every door open to make
sure I was alone.
Good thing no one else was inthere.
That would have been realjarring.
And I peed in that bathroomwith every stall door open
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because I was so scared of beingmurdered by Michael Myers.
I peed and ran and foundsomewhere to wash my hands in a
more public place than thebathroom.
Not a finer moment in my life,but one that had to be done.
So I've only left a theaterthree times in my life.
And scary movies.
I'm not a huge fan.
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Oh, let's talk music.
I am not a music aficionado atall.
I love music.
I am top 40, hits, one onSiriusXM just kind of became a
Taylor fan with this last album.
Also helps that she's datingTravis Kelsey, because we are
big Chiefs and Cowboys fans,like Dallas Cowboys, also OSU
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Cowboys, but we are big sportspeople and so I just like to
sing along to music.
I'm never going to find theobscure new wave, new hip songs
until they're already popularand brought to me.
So I just I want to be thosepeople that appreciate all the
things.
My girlfriend texted me ticketsto I'm not going to say who she
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is, because it was a wildlypopular concert back in the fall
and she was like, hey, I've gottwo tickets to the amp and I
was like, oh my gosh, and notonly can I, can't, I can't go
because of the boy's schedules,but I don't even know who that
is.
Oh, this person was so popular,so popular, so when I figured
out her songs I was like, oh,that's who that is.
That would have been a funconcert anyways.
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Um, I just like generic superfun music.
My first concert was New Kidson the Block and I'm not going
to lie, I'm going next monthwith my girlfriend Michelle.
We have like the fanciesttickets.
Like I don't know, we get tomeet him.
So I can't.
I.
I can tell you what I wore tothat concert.
Like this was back in the 80swhen kids wore, or girls wore,
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their dad's polo shirts andtucked them into jean skirts,
and I'm sure I had white sockson with my Cole Haan loafers.
It was a red polo, white, blueand yellow polo shirt with a
green pony.
I mean, you can't get more 80sthan that.
So the concert was in Tulsa.
I remember my mom driving herand I, my girlfriend and I, to
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Tulsa, dropping us off.
I mean we were probably 12 atthis.
It was at the University ofTulsa and it was the very best
concert.
I absolutely loved it.
I was a super fan from day oneand I'm so excited I get to go
see them in a few weeks, so it'sgoing to be so great.
My second concert more 80s, butit was really 90s because it was
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eighth grade for me Ipsy HammerI mean can't touch this right,
so great.
And in Vogue and vanilla iceopened up.
And speaking of vanilla ice,everyone has to have a karaoke
song.
Ice, ice baby's my karaoke song.
So, just um, I feel that'simportant for you to know.
So, um, stop, collaborate andlisten.
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Okay, I digress, but anyways, Ijust feel like that tells you a
little bit about me.
My husband is a big countrymusic fan.
My 14-year-old is really biginto country music.
Morgan Wallen's his favoriteright now and I do like Morgan
Wallen.
I like more rock and roll-ytype country music and in fact,
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my 14-year-old has tickets to gosee Morgan Wallen in August in
Kansas City and I'm very excitedfor him and I get to take him,
which was not the original plan.
But I'm pretty excited and I'mgoing to wear my super fun hat
that I made in Nashville.
I went to Nashville back inSeptember.
I'd never been and if you havethe chance, please go and also
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visit a hat bar.
I went to a hat bar down in theGulch I think that's what it's
called and I made a hat and myhat is awesome.
It's also I have it on in theFounders photo in 3W Magazine.
It's a great hat, but it willonly be my hat, and at a hat bar
you can do whatever you wantand customize it any way, and so
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I was able I think it's on thisside, so I point over here Um,
I got the boys initials brandedinto my hat.
So, um, I don't know.
It was kind of fun, so it wouldonly be my hat.
Very, very expensive littleventure to make your own hat,
but very worth it.
So all the cute kids will be atthe Morgan Wallen concert and I
will be there with my supercute tall 14 year old and I will
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have my super cute hat on.
Not sure about the rest of itand I'm sure him and I will get
into an argument over his attire, but, um, I don't know.
It could be fun, so we shallsee, um, and maybe I'll do this
every now and then, maybe once aquarter, I jump on here and you
all tell me what you want toknow about whatever.
I hope you know a little bitmore about me.
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I hope that you feel empowered,entitled, whatever, to just
stop into the 3w magazine officeor to let Ashley and I know if
you ever need anything.
I feel like I'm reallyapproachable.
I just met this adorable personand I can't tell you her name
because I can't remember it,because she was supposed to.
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It was really loud at the eventso I couldn't hear very well,
but she was adorable.
She had on a black and whitepolka dot dress and I invited
her to come on the podcast, butI think our communication got
lost and I haven't received amessage because I don't think
you could hear the phone numberstuff that well that night.
Anyways, she's a fan and not ofme but of the magazine, likes
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what the magazine's doing.
The magazine is the bestmagazine, like I love all the
magazines in the market.
We have our own lane and I'mvery proud of that lane, and so
I'm still navigating this wholepodcast situation.
I don't know what I'm doing.
Obviously you know that.
So I'm trying to bring peopleon that are interesting and fun,
and I would love for you anyonein Northwest Arkansas to come
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on and let's talk about it.
Let's talk about being a mom,let's talk about working, let's
talk about balance in life.
So whatever you all want toknow about me, or about 3w or
about ashley, just let me know.
So, um, I hope you feel likeyou know a bit about me.
So it's a little uncomfortable,I'm not gonna lie.
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Very narcissistic is how I feel, but that's okay.
And people tell you to celebratethe win.
So I going to celebrate the winthat I've got a camera and
you're captured audience for asmall amount of time.
So hopefully on the next one Iwill have someone else with me,
but I just thought this might bekind of fun.
If it's not just DM me and tellme that was awful, I can take
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it.
Anyways, we're heading intothis will air in a week or so,
but we're into Memorial Weekendthis weekend and last week of
school for one kid, next lastweek of school for the other kid
for me.
Um, congratulations to all thegraduates out there.
You all.
You all are awesome.
But also shout out to the moms,because this is a tough time
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and you all have done amazingwork, and just shout out to all
of you thank you.
You for joining me, thank youfor the time to let me occupy
your space.
I really appreciate it.
Thank you for joining the whowhat Word podcast.
See you next time, you, you.
Hey everybody, welcome to the 3W Podcast.
Today is a little simpler, alittle narcissistic, if I'm
being completely honest.
We are three podcast in 3W3Podcast that I would take some
time to tell you a little bitabout me if you don't know me.
Some people do, some peopledon't, and we'll just pretend
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I'm super famous.
Also, I can't see, I refuse towear anything but these little
glasses.
I have notes that I have madethat are in like the tiniest
font ever.
I should have put it in likeT-Rex font, but I didn't.
So bear with me as I look downa lot and try to figure out what
I'm trying to say.
So a little bit about me.
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My name is Casey Yokely.
I am from Oklahoma, the greatstate of Oklahoma.
I am an Oklahoma State Cowboy.
I bleed orange.
I am fiercely into the Big 12,even though we've recently had
10 teams, now we have what feelslike 400 teams.
I don't even know how manyteams we have anymore, but I'm a
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cowboy all the way.
But now that I live in SECcountry, I will be honest.
I will cheer for the Razorbacks.
It's very challenging for me tocall the Hogs.
I feel like a complete poserwhen I call the Hogs, but I will
cheer for them.
I've got a really cute Pigsbrand hat and that's probably
all I have, but I will cheer forthe Razorbacks.
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I've been to some sportingevents and fundraisers for them.
So go Hogs, but for sure goCowboys.
So, um, I moved to NorthwestArkansas back in 2006, I believe
, and started 3W Magazine in2008.
So I've been here a while,almost 20 years, which is really
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weird to me.
I moved here with no friendsand continued to drive back home
to Tulsa every weekend becauseI thought Tulsa was New York
City.
I know it's not, but it was tome back then.
So I moved here with my husband, colby.
He is an engineer withCrossland Construction, so I
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constantly joke that right nowwe live in a big, giant traffic
cone and I'm married to atraffic cone, and we live in a
traffic cone.
There are five gajilliondetours around here, and he
tells me all the time this iswhat we need for change and for
betterment for the community.
So to just shut my mouth andmove on.
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Anyways, so that's like a superquick story about me.
I got into the magazine world onaccident.
When I lived in Tulsa.
I worked for a fantasticmonthly publication called Tulsa
People Magazine.
And then when I lived in Tulsa,I worked for a fantastic
monthly publication called TulsaPeople Magazine.
And then when I moved over here, I worked for another great
monthly publication calledCityscapes Magazine, owned by
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Kim Chart, who is still a greatfriend, and that is where I met
my business partner, leslieZanoff.
So Leslie and I did 3W Magazinefor 15 years together so a
really long time and then sheexited this past September to go
live her best life and leaninto health and wellness and
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momming.
So she's just living the dreamdown in Fayetteville.
So now it's just me and Ashley.
And then we have a new designer, laura, who is taking over
Kayla's reign.
So that's kind of where mymagazine background came from.
I can't write to save my life.
I love an Oxford comma or thelack thereof, I can't remember,
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but Ashley hates them.
The lack thereof, I can'tremember, but Ashley hates them.
So that is the only time thatwe get into editing issues is
when I have to say no, there's acomment that goes there and
she's like but there's not.
Um, I have no journalismexpertise.
I do have a marketing degree,so that's kind of where my
talking and hugging and lovingon people comes from.
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I definitely get lost in theweeds of people's ads on
accident or events.
You will see me just kind oflike go off and I'm like, oh,
that's not my job, hold onrefocus.
And here we are.
So I sold ads back in Tulsa tobusinesses all around the Tulsa
metro area and then did it herewhen I moved here, made amazing
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contacts and then that's how wejumped out and started 3W
Magazine.
So that's kind of my pretendjournalism background, if you
will.
So back to Oklahoma.
So I apologize, I'm also from asmall town.
So I said I moved here fromTulsa.
I did, but I'm from a realsmall town just north of Tulsa.
I did, but I'm from a realsmall town just north of Tulsa
called Bartlesville, oklahoma,and it was home of Phillips 66
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Petroleum back in the days orback in the day, and it was a
one high school town, multiplestoplights, but a one high
school town and it was good.
I have no complaints about beingraised in that small town and
going down the road toStillwater, oklahoma, and then
to Tulsa and now to NorthwestArkansas.
So I live in Bentonville, I'm abig Benton County person.
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I don't own a bike, which isreally weird.
I think my family, or at leastmy husband and I, are probably
the last people in Bentonvilleto not own bikes, and I know
that is so bad, but it's on thelist.
So just just hang tight with me, or if somebody wants to give
me a bike, I will.
I will ride your bike, but Iprobably am not really good at
it.
But that's okay.
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But I live by the bike trails,I live off ice street near
Louise and we use Osage park allthe time and love it.
So I have no complaints aboutBentonville at all, just that we
live in a traffic cone.
Um, so I think I answered how Igot to Northwest Arkansas and
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how I got into the magazinebusiness.
Oh, here's another super funfact that I wish I didn't own,
but, um, I suck so badly atsocial media Like I have really
great intentions.
In fact, just a few weeks ago,at the Mercy Health Foundation
golf tournament, ashley and Iwent out there.
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She was covering for her partand I was like, oh, I'm going to
take a bunch of pictures of,you know, the golfers and the
food and Shiloh Technologies,who was providing the food, and
people enjoying their lunch, andAnheuser-Busch, one of our
clients, that supplied all thebeer and alcohol.
So I was going to create thisgreat reel for it.
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But you know what?
I didn't, because when I leftthe golf tournament I ended up
getting pulled over by the CaveSprings Police Department.
I was not paying any attentionI will totally throw myself
under that bus and driving toofast and I was stopped by the
nicest man and keep an eye outbecause there could be a story
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coming.
But no, but he left me off witha warning, but not because I
was potentially going to do astory on him, I just I like his
involvement in this nonprofitthat I had no idea about and so
it was really interesting.
Anyways, after I got pulledover by the policeman and then I
rushed off to school to get oneof my kids and that reel never
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got made.
So I have really greatintentions of social media and
zero follow through, zero, zero.
I need like a little person tojust walk around and like help
me with social media because I'mnot good at it.
And Ashley, she does the verybest that she can as well, but,
um, I I don't have that passion.
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I wish I did, but I don't.
So you will see me post on mystories.
I don't know once in a bluemoon.
And my Instagram is basicallyjust for my kids.
I love a good Facebook memorypop-up, love it.
I only post so that I can havememories of my kids pop up.
I should really post for mybusiness, but that's what the 3W
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accounts are for.
But I do feel passionatelyabout our clients and whatnot
when I use them for a personalsake, but I just have no follow
through.
So perhaps it will be on theto-do list this year.
So it's always a goal and maybeI'll get better at it.
So we shall see.
Speaking of another goal, I'mnot a workout person.
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I don't like strenuous activity.
My idea of being outdoorsy iswalking to a patio to have a
drink, maybe with the dog, maybewith the kids, only when it's
like 75 and up.
I love sun.
The hotter the better.
Um, yeah, that's kind of who Iam.
However, I do have two friendswho bullied me into joining a
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Pilates studio or an ex-formerstudio or whatever it's called.
It's Saan in downtownBentonville.
It's super bougie, superbeautiful, and now I am that
person that is going at 5 30 inthe morning, four days a week.
I don't know who I think I am,but I it.
It's very much not me, so maybeit's becoming the new me, so
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maybe there's hope for me andsocial media.
I also disclaimer get my nailsdone at 5 am every other Friday,
which is absurd as well, butthat's just when I can fit it in
.
And I have the most amazingnail person who owns her own
nail studio.
It is men at a loft nails.
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She is not paying me for any ofthis In fact I pay her so but
she's just that amazing.
I've been with her since 2006.
So I won't go to anyphilanthropy.
So you all know that three Wstands for the who, what, where,
and the bulk of the magazine is12 months of nonprofit events.
Right, be it runs, walks,family fun outings, golf
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tournaments, galas, luncheons,breakfast, you.
If it's tied to a 501c3, we aregoing to try and promote it.
In fact we get.
We just got a message this weekabout promoting someone's
lemonade stand, uh, that she'sgoing to have a in Bella Vista
for, uh, children's cancer.
So any events that you all cansend us, we'll gladly take them
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and push them out on our socialnot my social, because I'm not
good at it, but the 3W social onour events calendar and on our
email blast that goes out once amonth.
So anything we can get ourhands on, we will do so with
that.
So 3W is 16 years old.
I did not know when we startedthis magazine that I,
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unbeknownst to me, had a passionfor nonprofits.
I absolutely love people.
I love dot connecting, whichyou'll probably hear again, and
I love trying to solve problemsProbably not my own, but
everyone else's.
I love to try and solveproblems, for, in fact, I just
rushed over here from a meetingwith my friends at the Mercy
Health Foundation where we weretalking about the 15 year
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anniversary of Women With aMission, which is a great thing,
falls under the foundation'sumbrella and I am the chair of
the Mercy Health Foundation.
I'm about to roll off, asthey've reminded me, but that's
okay.
I love Mercy.
I will fight to the death forMercy because without high
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quality healthcare, none of usare here.
We are all six feet underwithout high quality healthcare
and I've never received any badhealthcare at Mercy.
In fact, I just had to make apit stop there last week even
though this will air later formy nine-year-old who was having
an allergic reaction tosomething he ate.
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We spent three hours in the ER.
We, right in they had amassively full waiting room.
But I will not.
I will say we didn't get inbecause I helped the foundation.
We got in because my son washaving extremely labored
breathing and the nicest nurses,the nicest doctor.
He got a cocktail in his armthat took everything away.
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We now have an allergyappointment in six weeks to
figure out what's going on.
But without mercy, without thelove and the care and at the
overall mission of Jesus in thathospital, uh, you know, I don't
know what would have happenedand I don't.
I choose not to think aboutwhat would happen.
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But that leads me to believe.
I serve on the Mercy HealthFoundation because I have a
passion for it and I know thatall my other board members that
serve with me.
We have a passion for makingthis hospital greater and bigger
and providing more servicelines.
Just, we don't want peopleleaving the community for health
care.
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So, if you ever have any issuesor need any medical advice, if
you need care, seek care.
That's what they say at Mercy.
So, yes, if you need anything,just holler at me and I will try
to put you in touch withsomebody who can help you at
Mercy.
But I love them.
I love them.
Another nonprofit I am verypassionate about it's the
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Northwest Arkansas Children'sShelter and they have a new,
newly developed philanthropycouncil where you invite people
out to tour the shelter, like Iwould invite you to come tour
the shelter, see what it's allabout.
It's not a scary place, it's anamazing place.
I toured the shelter 14 plusyears ago maybe, or 10 plus
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years ago, I'm not really sureit was the old shelter and I was
scared.
No, it had to be 14 years agobecause I was pregnant 14 years
ago, plus years ago.
So very challenging to tourthat.
I loved crying, but not becauseof the shelter, just because it
is uh, it's challenging to seechildren in those circumstances.
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But the people at the shelter,the team at the shelter, that's
where they need to be.
Those, that's where those kidsneed to be.
It's the most safe place wherethey can be assessed, medically,
taken care of, educated andsafe.
So over the years I have doveinto Mercy and I have dove into
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the children's shelter.
I also just recently joined theChildren and Family Advocacy
Center's Giving Circle as well,because they are a one-stop shop
for any child that has beensexually abused or just abused
in general.
I'm probably butchering thatbecause it's what I do.
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Regardless, I look forward tothe day that they can shut their
doors because no child will beabused in any form or fashion.
So I say all of that becauseI'm like I did not know I had a
passion for non-profits.
I had no idea I had a passionfor doing a job and baking money
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and going on, but the sideeffect has been I am very
emotionally tied to thesenonprofits that are in the
magazine.
So if you come to us and youneed something, I'm going to
attempt to try and find a way tofigure it out.
So, yeah, I love the nonprofits.
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Um, I am a mom.
I am very scatterbrained, I amself-diagnosed ADHD and I think
it's because I have two boys.
I wanted a girl so badly Icouldn't see straight, but
clearly God had different plansfor me because we can't make
girls.
But I have the two most amazingboys.
I have a 14 year old who isfinishing up junior high this
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year, which is painful to me in.
In fact, when I turned thecorner and I dropped him off
this morning, it said congrats,eighth graders.
And all of a sudden I startedcrying.
Oh, I just am a complete basketcase when it comes to my kids.
I also have a nine year old whowill be 10, probably when this
airs um, he is finishing upthird grade this year, and so
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now my baby is going into fourthgrade at a private school in
downtown Rogers.
He goes to St Vincent Catholicschool, and I just I couldn't be
more proud of him.
If you ever have any questionsabout ADHD, you can reach out to
me.
We have a new diagnosis on that.
We are now medicating for that.
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I'm kind of an open book also,which is an interesting road.
My boys are nothing alike,absolutely nothing alike.
My firstborn is more like me.
My secondborn is a lot like myhusband.
Speaking of my husband, I lovehim so much.
We do not fit at all at all.
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I cannot even express that toyou, but I would rather fight
with him any day than wake upnext to anyone else.
God has a wicked sense of humor,and opposites truly do attract.
I wanted to marry somebody muchtaller than me who wore suits
every day, and instead I marriedan engineer in construction
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with muddy boots Not what I waspicturing for my future, but I
wouldn't change any of it.
He also has a very wicked senseof humor and laughs at
everything under the sun atanyone's expense.
So, um, just buckle up.
If you're around him, he's.
He's an interesting and he'sgot very dirty sense of humor
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too.
So, um, but a very kind soul,kind soul, and I am all over the
place anyways.
So my kids, so my 14 year old,he plays travel baseball and I
think that is completelypsychotic and I guarantee you he
plays travel baseball becauseof my karma.
When I, when he was younger,like before school age or I
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don't even know if I had thesecond one or not I was in this
little tiny hotel, and I don'teven know where visiting my
husband because he was off on aproject and I was sitting
downstairs.
I don't even know if I had kids, to be honest, I can't remember
.
Anyways, I'm sitting downstairsat the continental free
breakfast and all these ballteams and people were coming
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downstairs and I'm like, oh mygod, like this is, and it was
summer, and I'm like this istheir vacation, it's this little
dinky hotel with the freebreakfast, and I'm like I'll be
damned, this will not be my life.
I am not spending my vacationsin these little hotels on the
weekends for baseballtournaments Famous.
Last words, because now I doand I absolutely would not
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change it.
Um, I don't need a mother's daywith all the relaxing.
I my perfect mother's day.
That just happened.
But my vision for a perfectmother's day every year is sunny
and 80 degrees and both of myboys playing whatever sport
involves a ball that they love.
If they win, even better.
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If they lose, it's fine.
Unfortunate, but it's fine.
My youngest place travel soccer.
I think that is um quite thesteal compared to travel
baseball.
You don't even have to pay towatch your kid play in a
tournament.
It's amazing, whereas atbaseball you're nickel and dimed
every time you walk in the gate.
Fine, I'll do whatever, but butit's um soccer just just
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amazingly inexpensive comparedto travel baseball.
So, anyways, those are my twoboys.
Um, they are the entireuniverse for me.
There's nothing I wouldn't dofor them.
In fact, I have this magazinebecause of them.
I choose to have an annualpublication so that I can still
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be a mom or a stay-at-home momor a free mom or whatever kind
of mom you want to call it.
It helps me be involved in thecommunity, make some money, help
some people out and still getto mom, just like I will.
I always pick my kids up fromschool 97% of the time, so
they've never ridden a schoolbus like a home bus, which is
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great too.
I tried to get my 14-year-oldon a bus earlier this year and
it didn't work out, but my goalis to always pick them up,
always be present for theparties, always get to know the
teachers which I find it a bitmore challenging in junior high
than I do for the younger onebut, um, it's, I don't know.
I am, they are my world and Ihope that I don't know, I just
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hope they're with me forever.
That's, they're just great.
I just love them.
I absolutely do not think beforeI speak.
It's just really unfortunate.
In fact, I was at this eventyesterday morning and this
person was getting up andspeaking and so well-spoken and
I'm like, oh, I wish that couldbe me.
It's not me and that's okay,I'm working on it.
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I'm working on it.
Um, but it makes me authentic.
But I am absolutely a hot messon a mic, as you can obviously
tell, and on a camera.
My friend Clark at the MercyHealth Foundation lets me have a
mic at Charity Ball, his 1500person plus event in December,
which I don't know what he'sthinking, letting me have a mic,
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or maybe I've just bulldozedhim enough, but I do love to get
the mic.
I have no confidence, but Ijust speak and it just works.
And it reminds me of being achild in my bedroom with a
mirror on the back of my doorand my parents were older
parents and so I had these big,giant, huge headphones that went
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over and a hairbrush like theround brushes today, and that
was my microphone.
And so that is where my passionfor microphones comes from.
But I am authentic.
I put my foot in my mouth allthe time, as you can obviously
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tell, but it's okay.
I am a lover of life.
I would much rather attempt tosing and dance and make a fool
of myself than listen to sadsongs and be quiet.
It's just not really 100% who Iam, especially in public.
I like to joke around.
That's probably why my husbandand I do very well together.
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I just I like real people andyou know what, in this job with
Walmart in our back door, I amalways enthralled by female
executives especially who arereal, because everyone is
walking around faking it tillthey make it.
This is my theory, and me too.
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I'm not going to lie to y'all.
I am absolutely out therepageant waving and it is what it
is.
But when I meet or I hear apanel of female executives from
wherever and they are real andthey call themselves whatever
and they're very well-spokenalso, but I, I just love real,
(23:14):
it's just um, it's who I am Ifeel like it makes you
approachable.
It also makes me a hot mess anda hot button.
But I don't think before Ispeak and I am a very real human
.
But speaking of real humans onmy notes, I have no idea where
it is.
I'm also and I heard this one ofmy friend Ryan.
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I'm not going to call him outby last name, but my friend Ryan
said this when he was on apanel a couple of years ago.
He said he is the mostextroverted introvert and I'm
like, oh, it really hit, becauseas much as I love people, I
love to be at home not speakingto anyone.
My kids are either gone out ofpractice on a device, on a TV or
(23:58):
whatever.
I love to just go sit on my bedand I might scroll, I might
watch something aimless on TV, Imight read a book.
I was on a big book reading kicklast year and it's fallen off.
I read like five books.
That's a lot for me.
Five books, five or six bookslast year and um, five or six
(24:19):
books last year in um, what yearare we?
In?
2024 and 2023.
Sorry and um.
I ordered a bunch of new booksafter Christmas and I'm like I'm
only halfway through it withone.
I'm not going to tell you whatit is, because the author is
super famous and the book issuper famous.
I just I'm trying to getthrough it because everyone says
it's amazing and I'm just I'mstruggling with it.
(24:40):
So my book reading has gone bythe wayside, but I'm hoping to
pick it up back up with summer,because I love to be tan.
Even though I'm a huge fan ofPremier Derm and all the
sunscreen, I still love to betan and I love to cook in the
sun and read a book with a drinkand a hat.
So there you go.
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Come mid-December, I'm donepeopling.
I don't mean to be donepeopling, but I'm super done
peopling and I get very smalltalked out like I'd like it's.
Uh, it's real sad.
So if you ever see me and I'mnot on, I apologize.
I do have a friend, um, and Iwill say her name because she is
adorable, and shout out to hershe's got a huge promotion.
Jacqueline House, who is now oneof the morning people on KNWA.
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She walked up to me a coupleyears ago and was like hey, I'm
doing a live video, something,something on the phone at this
event.
Can I do a quick interview?
And I was just like no, and Ihate people that say no to me
and I don't know what was goingon, but I couldn't turn it on.
So we talked about it.
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She was like I get it, I get it.
So if you ever just can'tpeople and everyone thinks
you're peopling, it's okay to tonot people and to be an
introvert, um, yes, but I wouldsay I'm an extroverted introvert
.
Maybe we'll see.
Anyways, okay, I don't know ifyou drink cocktails, but I love
cocktails.
(26:04):
I don't discriminate on alcohol.
I'm not an alcoholic by anymeans and I don't even drink
that often, but I absolutelylove going out to get drinks
with people.
Huge fan of tequila Not atequila connoisseur by any means
.
Big fan of tequila, though,just really like it.
And then I love me some redwine in the winter.
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I cannot drink it in the summerunless it's sangria.
Sometimes a beer with pizza isreally great.
My friends at Anheuser-Busch andMolson Coors both have amazing
beers.
We support both of them.
They both have seltzers, theyboth have super fun things.
So we try to support both ofthem.
They both have seltzers, theyboth have super fun things, so
we try to support both of them.
And yeah, but if you see me,chances are I'm going to have a
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ranch water, so it's just a verylight and easy cocktail for me.
So, yeah, tequila and red wine.
Okay, what else?
Oh, this is probably back to mebeing authentic, but, um, I
think I'm really funny and Ihave no doubt that I'm not.
So if you've made it this far,kudos to you, because I'm not
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sure I would have, or I don'teven know if my husband would
have, but it's okay, it's okay.
This is for me, this is for themagazine.
And here we are and here we are.
I already told you I preferhumor over sentimental, because
sentimental makes me get into myfeelings and I choose to
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compartmentalize those.
So I would much rather laugh myway through everything than to
have to stop and feel, becausethen you have me crying and car
line dropping my 8th grader offthis morning, which is no one
wants to see that, and just, hequickly got out of the car.
But are we surprised?
Um, but speaking of crying, um,I don't watch animal movies.
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Um, they are.
It doesn't matter how well theyend, I don't watch them.
My nine-year-old had the one andonly Ivan on last week just on,
and I was busy moving, doingall the things in the kitchen
and dining room and wherever hewas watching in the living room,
and I still, and I had to leaveto go get the 14-year-old from
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baseball practice.
I still bawled all the way toget the 14 year old from
practice because it's a truestory about a gorilla and he
goes to live this amazing lifeafter being in a mall.
Anyways, I just couldn't handleit.
And it ends well.
Same thing with Marley and meNot the same, but same.
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I went to see that movie, didn'tread the book, probably should
have had to leave in the middleof it because they're putting
the dog down.
I'm like, no, this is likewe've grown attached to this
beautiful dog.
Also, I have a dog, we're dogpeople and, um, you know, I had
to leave and it's just, I had tocrawl out over people during
Marlene Meats.
So I'm like I don't watchanimal movies.
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I really try not to watchanimal movies.
Um, but speaking of leaving atheater, I've only left a
theater three times in my life.
Um, the second time my husbandwanted to go see that American
sniper movie and I'm going tobutcher his name, so I'm going
to say it's Chris Kyle, but Ican be completely making that up
(29:17):
.
So I apologize for not doing myresearch first, making that up,
so I apologize for not doing myresearch first.
Really good movie, up until achild was injured and I left,
literally ran out of the theater.
I cannot handle anythinghappening to kids or to animals.
Um, thankfully, wherever I,whatever movie theater I was at,
there was a bar, a restaurantright around the corner.
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So I just went to the bar atthe restaurant, ordered a red
wine because it was winter, andtext him.
I was like I'm here, so, um,just when the movie's done, you
just come get me.
And then, because my husbandhas a very sick sense of humor,
he's obsessed with scary movies.
Um, halloween is his favorite.
Michael Myers is probably hisspirit animal or spirit,
(30:03):
something anyways loves MichaelMyers.
We have a long-standing historywith Michael Myers.
He scared the absolute crap outof me.
In a store back in Oklahomabefore we moved to Arkansas, he
put a mask on.
It's like, but I don't know.
It's not even near Christmas ornear no, it's past Halloween,
it's Christmas.
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Why they have this mask?
I have no idea.
He is what feels like athousand yards away from me, but
he's not Puts the mask on.
I just happened to turn.
I see him.
I scream bloody murder in astore.
He falls down laughing.
So we just have this historywith Michael Myers.
Side note my nine-year-old wasMichael Myers for Halloween.
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So that's really good parenting.
So just follow along for moreparenting hacks, because we're
obviously extremely amazingparents.
He wanted me to go see whicheverwas the newest one at the time.
This was several years ago andI went and I'm not so sure it
wasn't my anniversary.
It must have been anout-of-body experience.
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I went to the movie with them.
I'm kind of like this the wholetime, and Michael Myers kills
people, right, we all know thatIn like a public bathroom or
something like this.
I don't remember the details,and then I'm not so sure that a
child wasn't injured a fewscenes later.
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Anyways, short story long, Ileave the theater because I
can't handle it anymore.
But I have to go to thebathroom.
And movie theater bathrooms arepretty scary.
Also, don't kid yourself, Ikicked every door open to make
sure I was alone.
Good thing no one else was inthere.
That would have been realjarring.
And I peed in that bathroomwith every stall door open
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because I was so scared of beingmurdered by Michael Myers.
I peed and ran and foundsomewhere to wash my hands in a
more public place than thebathroom.
Not a finer moment in my life,but one that had to be done.
So I've only left a theaterthree times in my life.
And scary movies.
I'm not a huge fan.
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Oh, let's talk music.
I am not a music aficionado atall.
I love music.
I am top 40, hits, one onSiriusXM just kind of became a
Taylor fan with this last album.
Also helps that she's datingTravis Kelsey, because we are
big Chiefs and Cowboys fans,like Dallas Cowboys, also OSU
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Cowboys, but we are big sportspeople and so I just like to
sing along to music.
I'm never going to find theobscure new wave, new hip songs
until they're already popularand brought to me.
So I just I want to be thosepeople that appreciate all the
things.
My girlfriend texted me ticketsto I'm not going to say who she
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is, because it was a wildlypopular concert back in the fall
and she was like, hey, I've gottwo tickets to the amp and I
was like, oh my gosh, and notonly can I, can't, I can't go
because of the boy's schedules,but I don't even know who that
is.
Oh, this person was so popular,so popular, so when I figured
out her songs I was like, oh,that's who that is.
That would have been a funconcert anyways.
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Um, I just like generic superfun music.
My first concert was New Kidson the Block and I'm not going
to lie, I'm going next monthwith my girlfriend Michelle.
We have like the fanciesttickets.
Like I don't know, we get tomeet him.
So I can't.
I.
I can tell you what I wore tothat concert.
Like this was back in the 80swhen kids wore, or girls wore,
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their dad's polo shirts andtucked them into jean skirts,
and I'm sure I had white sockson with my Cole Haan loafers.
It was a red polo, white, blueand yellow polo shirt with a
green pony.
I mean, you can't get more 80sthan that.
So the concert was in Tulsa.
I remember my mom driving herand I, my girlfriend and I, to
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Tulsa, dropping us off.
I mean we were probably 12 atthis.
It was at the University ofTulsa and it was the very best
concert.
I absolutely loved it.
I was a super fan from day oneand I'm so excited I get to go
see them in a few weeks, so it'sgoing to be so great.
My second concert more 80s, butit was really 90s because it was
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eighth grade for me Ipsy HammerI mean can't touch this right,
so great.
And in Vogue and vanilla iceopened up.
And speaking of vanilla ice,everyone has to have a karaoke
song.
Ice, ice baby's my karaoke song.
So, just um, I feel that'simportant for you to know.
So, um, stop, collaborate andlisten.
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Okay, I digress, but anyways, Ijust feel like that tells you a
little bit about me.
My husband is a big countrymusic fan.
My 14-year-old is really biginto country music.
Morgan Wallen's his favoriteright now and I do like Morgan
Wallen.
I like more rock and roll-ytype country music and in fact,
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my 14-year-old has tickets to gosee Morgan Wallen in August in
Kansas City and I'm very excitedfor him and I get to take him,
which was not the original plan.
But I'm pretty excited and I'mgoing to wear my super fun hat
that I made in Nashville.
I went to Nashville back inSeptember.
I'd never been and if you havethe chance, please go and also
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visit a hat bar.
I went to a hat bar down in theGulch I think that's what it's
called and I made a hat and myhat is awesome.
It's also I have it on in theFounders photo in 3W Magazine.
It's a great hat, but it willonly be my hat, and at a hat bar
you can do whatever you wantand customize it any way, and so
(35:57):
I was able I think it's on thisside, so I point over here Um,
I got the boys initials brandedinto my hat.
So, um, I don't know.
It was kind of fun, so it wouldonly be my hat.
Very, very expensive littleventure to make your own hat,
but very worth it.
So all the cute kids will be atthe Morgan Wallen concert and I
will be there with my supercute tall 14 year old and I will
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have my super cute hat on.
Not sure about the rest of itand I'm sure him and I will get
into an argument over his attire, but, um, I don't know.
It could be fun, so we shallsee, um, and maybe I'll do this
every now and then, maybe once aquarter, I jump on here and you
all tell me what you want toknow about whatever.
I hope you know a little bitmore about me.
(36:39):
I hope that you feel empowered,entitled, whatever, to just
stop into the 3w magazine officeor to let Ashley and I know if
you ever need anything.
I feel like I'm reallyapproachable.
I just met this adorable personand I can't tell you her name
because I can't remember it,because she was supposed to.
(36:59):
It was really loud at the eventso I couldn't hear very well,
but she was adorable.
She had on a black and whitepolka dot dress and I invited
her to come on the podcast, butI think our communication got
lost and I haven't received amessage because I don't think
you could hear the phone numberstuff that well that night.
Anyways, she's a fan and not ofme but of the magazine, likes
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what the magazine's doing.
The magazine is the bestmagazine, like I love all the
magazines in the market.
We have our own lane and I'mvery proud of that lane, and so
I'm still navigating this wholepodcast situation.
I don't know what I'm doing.
Obviously you know that.
So I'm trying to bring peopleon that are interesting and fun,
and I would love for you anyonein Northwest Arkansas to come
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on and let's talk about it.
Let's talk about being a mom,let's talk about working, let's
talk about balance in life.
So whatever you all want toknow about me, or about 3w or
about ashley, just let me know.
So, um, I hope you feel likeyou know a bit about me.
So it's a little uncomfortable,I'm not gonna lie.
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Very narcissistic is how I feel, but that's okay.
And people tell you to celebratethe win.
So I going to celebrate the winthat I've got a camera and
you're captured audience for asmall amount of time.
So hopefully on the next one Iwill have someone else with me,
but I just thought this might bekind of fun.
If it's not just DM me and tellme that was awful, I can take
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it.
Anyways, we're heading intothis will air in a week or so,
but we're into Memorial Weekendthis weekend and last week of
school for one kid, next lastweek of school for the other kid
for me.
Um, congratulations to all thegraduates out there.
You all.
You all are awesome.
But also shout out to the moms,because this is a tough time
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and you all have done amazingwork, and just shout out to all
of you thank you.
You for joining me, thank youfor the time to let me occupy
your space.
I really appreciate it.
Thank you for joining the whowhat Word podcast.
See you next time, you, you.
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