Love Is Not Jealous: Letting Go of Comparison in Marriage

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Love Is Not Jealous: Letting Go of Comparison in Marriage

Jealousy can quietly creep into a marriage—especially in today’s world of blended families, social media comparisons, and unmet expectations. In this episode, Ron and Rachel share honestly and tenderly about their early struggles with jealousy, particularly navigating the complexities of a second marriage, ex-spouses, and blended family dynamics. With warmth and wisdom, they unpack what 1 Corinthians 13 really means when it says “Love is not jealous” and how God’s love helps us lay down comparison, insecurity, and old baggage so we can grow in unity and freedom. Get ready for an honest, hope-filled, and healing conversation—rooted in truth, grace, and God's goodness.

Scripture References:

• ‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭13‬:‭4‬-‭7‬ ‭“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.”
• John‬ ‭10‬:‭10‬ - “The thief’s purpose is to steal and kill and destroy. My purpose is to give them a rich and satisfying life.”
• James‬ ‭3‬:‭16‬‬‬ - “For wherever there is jealousy and selfish ambition, there you will find disorder and evil of every kind.”
• Proverbs‬ ‭14‬:‭30‬ - “A peaceful heart leads to a healthy body; jealousy is like cancer in the bones.”
• Romans‬ ‭12‬:‭2‬‬‬ - “Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.”
• Psalm‬ ‭139‬:‭23‬-‭24‬ - “Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. Point out anything in me that offends you, and lead me along the path of everlasting life.”

Remember: Marriage takes intentionality, and small actions lead to big changes! Keep God at the center, and watch your love grow deeper than ever before.

Resource List:

Here are some excellent Christian marriage books that you can recommend to your listeners, complete with links for purchase:

• Renewed Legacy: A 30-Day Journey to Save Your Marriage and Become a Spiritual Leader: By Ron Cool
  • This journal and study plan have been crafted with a deep sense of purpose, a heartfelt dedication, and a commitment to transformation. It's a journey that goes beyond the words on these pages; it's a journey to renew and reclaim your legacy.
• The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts by Gary Chapman
  • This bestseller focuses on understanding and expressing love through five key "languages" to strengthen emotional connections in marriage.
• Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy? by Gary Thomas
  • This thought-provoking book emphasizes how marriage can help individuals grow closer to God while growing together as a couple.
• Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
  • Based on biblical principles, this book explores the dynamics of love and respect in building a thriving marriage.
• For Women Only / For Men Only Series by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn
  • This series offers gender-specific insights into the needs and perspectives of spouses, helping couples understand each other better.
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