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Speaker 1 (00:00):
You have strategic
alignments.
You have people in your lifethat are your partners, whether
they're direct partners, yourlove partners, your life
partners, your business partners, whatever they are.
They come into your life andyou've got to navigate this
stuff together and I don't haveit figured out, michelle doesn't
have it figured out.
We still butt heads and we'vedone it so long.
We actually know when it'sgoing to happen.
You see it coming.
The rest of the week usuallypeaches and cream.
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Monday morning is the tough part, and that's what we want to
convey.
There's highs, there's lows.
This is normal for everybody.
Don't be afraid of that,embrace it, lead into it.
In fact, there's a few thingsyou can do to come along.
You mentioned trying tocommunicate that people aren't
alone.
Now, that's an understanding wehave to have.
So we realize it's not only usin that situation, or maybe made
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a mistake or did something thatperhaps merited a result we
weren't looking for.
But there's something else too,and that's partnerships, right,
and there's partners likeMichelle and I.
We're partners in our business,we're partners in our holdings
company, we're partners in ourlife right, but there's all
kinds of different partnershipsand, again, there's an emotional
attachment to partnership.
Why would you partner withsomebody, what is it about them
that you regard?
What is it about you that theyregard to the degree that they
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want to partner with you?
Whether that's a vendor, aconsultant, a lawyer, whatever,
there's an emotional drivebehind a lot of those decisions
too.
It helps, especially whenyou're new and you're thinking
I'm the only person who's everbeen through this no-transcript
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and I think soul soul betweenourselves and souls of others
plays into that idea.
The emotional drive behindpartnerships.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
Yeah, you want to
bring people together that
you're in alignment with,whether you're seeking out a
life partner, a business partneror some kind of strategic
partner, or even a communitythat you're part of.
You need to look at thealignment and are your values
and belief systems in line?
If they're not, it's probablynot a good place to go.
Not everybody is going to meshwell, but you need to align
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yourself with strategicpartnerships that really are
going to be an integral part ofyour life and they'll help you
to achieve your vision and yourgoals even faster.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
So we should give
them a human example, like a
real example, which is you and I, right, we go from the bedroom
to our desk in the house, tocoffee, to the gym.
Everything we do is inpartnership.
We have six kids.
There's a lot going on, aseverybody with children knows.
They don't always make theright decisions, so there's
constantly things coming up.
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They're wonderful kids.
I call them children, heck,half of them are in their 20s
now.
But there's always an elementof that and we constantly have
to balance our life, ourrelationship, our marriage, our
being parents in a blendedfamily, with also figuring out
how to run this business andserve the people that we want to
serve.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
I think that, again,
because I think our values and
our vision and that we'realigned on, I think, the moving
in and out of neighborhoods asfar as whether it's working or
taking care of family orwhatever else that may we do,
because we're so in alignment onhow we think our life should go
, that part's pretty easy, Ithink.
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Where it gets hard for us, theonly time that it gets hard is-.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
Guys, let her get to
the rest of the point.
Trust me, because easy does notmean it's without struggles.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
No, it's definitely
not easy, but it's easier than I
think.
Where we butt heads a lot isaround work stuff.
I think it's because we bothhave been on our own and in
control of our own businessesand now we're trying to do this
together.
I have my ideas about how Iwant things done, you have your
ideas on how you want thingsdone, and the part that's hard
sometimes is figuring out how towork together on those things.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
Yeah, if you want an
example, if you just call us at
915 on any given Monday morning,it's like clockwork.
It's probably not going verywell.
We have staff meeting at 930,preparing for that.
It seems to be routinely adisaster, without placing any
blame on anybody other than thetwo of us.
It's like we have probably somecrazy awesome weekend, get some
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crazy adventurous shit, andthen here I am, right back in
front of this computer.
These people are going to be onthat.
I love our employees.
They're literally family to us,but then we've got to get our
shit together.
We don't drink, we don't doanything crazy, so it's not like
we're hung over fighting aheadache.
It's just a matter of we wentfrom Michelle and I venturing
through.
We call them neighborhoods,right the neighborhood of
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adventure, of having fun withkids playing volleyball in the
park, riding our motorcycletogether, doing whatever, and
then having to get serious, andthat transition is a bitch.
Monday mornings suck.
So it's not all fun and gamesand great, but it's always
emotionally driven.
I'm just going to keep comingback to that throughout this
podcast and I wonder what that'slike for you and I want you to
be honest.
What is it about Mondaymornings?
Speaker 2 (05:00):
No, I think it's just
because we go from this
wonderful, fun weekend whereagain we're so aligned in our
life and how we want our life togo in most areas of life and
really in everything, so thatpart's easy.
And then when we come into theoffice and we have decisions to
make about how things need to go, we have very different ideas
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on how things should be.
It's hard sometimes to go fromeverything's wonderful and we
agree on everything and it'sthis free, easy life to okay,
now we have to get serious, makesome serious decisions.
I think it should be this way,you think it should be that way.
Now how can we decide togetherthe best path to take?
Speaker 1 (05:46):
what people want to
know is what I do.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
That pisses you off I
don't even know what it's just,
I don't have.
No, I don't know if there'sanything specific.
It's usually just like a toneof voice or something that
happens and it just makes meangry.
So I just want.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
I can't think of
anything like off the top when
michelle's angry, like pullingthat shit back around.
It takes a while.
So when we're pissed at nine,you might be cool by lunch, but
it's likely probably afternooncoffee or whatever.
If we decide to.
It takes a while to curb thatshit.
No, I don't know, it is.
It's a shift and you come backand you're like God man, 12
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hours ago Well, not 12 hours ago, 16 hours ago I was out on my
bike on a rip and you were onthe back of it in a skirt, which
I just love, and we're havingfun and having this adventure
and running into people that weknow in our little community
here, and then you're back here,and it isn't because work is
miserable.
I love this work that we'redoing.
I absolutely love it.
I love the way we do it, I loveall of that, and yet we are
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very much in alignment, but yetthere's still conflict, right?
So what we're trying to do here, guys, is there's an example,
right, you have strategicalignments.
You have people in your lifethat are your partners, whether
they're direct partners, yourlove partners, your life
partners, your business partners, whatever they are that come
into your life and you've got tonavigate this stuff together
and I don't have it figured out,michelle doesn't have it
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figured out.
We still butt heads.
The difference is we've done itso long we actually know when
it's going to happen.
You see it coming the rest ofthe week, usually peaches and
cream Monday morning.
It's a tough part, but that'spart of it.
If you're suffering that, ifyou're experiencing some version
of what we're describing,you're not indifferent, you're
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not doing anything.
The rest of us don't always do,essentially all the time, for
one reason or another and I justwant we just want so
desperately to broadcast thesekinds of messages because we
didn't have somebody to tell usthis when we were doing it.
We didn't have anybody, we hadour own, and I think a lot of
people were that way.
It's one of the things in theinformation age that has changed
that.
It was not available in thosedays.
But seriously, like there's ahuman element here and it's
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amazing how consistent the humanelement is when we introduce it
, especially intoentrepreneurship.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
And I think if you're
a couple that's working
together in business and there'susually a lot of things that do
go right, but the one thingthat doesn't go right, it just
drives you crazy sometimes.
I think understanding like weall have things that we don't
deal with the right way, and soit's understanding what those
things are and then learning thetools to be able to work
through it together I think theother part of it all have fear
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yeah, it's always driven by fear.
That's the thing that underneathevery problem, if you really go
deep enough, it's always a fear.
It's a conflict over decisionsto make.
It's the fear of if I let youdo what you want to do, then
it's going to cause things to goa direction that I'm afraid of
and vice versa.
It's just.
Everything's always driven byfear.
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So it's just normal.
It's normal part of life tohave places that things don't go
well, and it's not always goingto be perfect.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
It makes me wonder
how many more entrepreneurs we'd
have in the world.
And let's not even go that bigIn our community here in the
vacancy of fear, meaning ifpeople weren't afraid, if there
wasn't a fear of the risk, therisk is real, period, end of
story.
It happens, the grind is real,the struggle is real.
All of that is real.
It's the fear that inhibits ouractions.
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That is real.
It's the fear of it thatinhibits our actions.
It's the fear of having to gothrough that, or the doubt that
we have the wherewithal to makeit through those struggles, that
limits it.
And I just wonder how often youtalk to somebody, at least in
their 30s or older, who doesn'thave an idea for a business
somewhere?
Some people don't.
It's just not their jam and Iget that.
There's nothing wrong with thatat all.
But who doesn't?
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Yeah, and if?
Speaker 2 (09:24):
you don't take the
time and take the risk to really
go try it, then you're reallymissing out.
Being an entrepreneur is it'sfreedom being able to create
your own path and go your owndirection and allow your soul to
drive the work that you do.